[00:00:00] Corinne Foxx: Welcome back to another episode of Am I Doing This Right? I'm Corinne Foxx.

[00:00:08] Natalie McMillan: And I'm Natalie McMillan.

[00:00:09] Corinne Foxx: And we are best friends, confidant, millennials, and the hosts of Am I Doing This Right? A life how to podcast from the perspective of non-experts.

[00:00:20] Natalie McMillan: And each week we cover a new topic and we pop open a new bottle of wine.

[00:00:24] Corinne Foxx: Yes, we do. And we're going to get COVID. Some wine, cause we're talking today. How to fall in love with yourself? Yes. Because guess what's coming up. Valentime's Ms. Valentime's. Yeah. We're gonna be talking about how to change your self-talk. How to quote unquote, date yourself, how to indulge. And not only that we love to treat yourself.

Treat goes

[00:00:49] Natalie McMillan: off 2020, 2010.

[00:00:54] Corinne Foxx: Have you guys know that reference?

[00:00:55] Natalie McMillan: You are our target audience. Yes. Oh my God. Let me just, can I just say to the audience going and I have been having a spilling problem? Yeah. It's not been great. It's filling things and I just moved and almost knocked my water over

[00:01:10] Corinne Foxx: it. It's one of those days now it's just happens to be one of those days.

Well, let's get into the wine that we're drinking.

[00:01:17] Natalie McMillan: Oh, I chose this one specifically. It's called a

[00:01:24] Corinne Foxx: the heart of the.

[00:01:26] Natalie McMillan: Uh, huh, it's a Malbeck and this one is actually from Mendoza in Argentina. Cause remember we had that one Malbeck that was like from France. That was

[00:01:34] Corinne Foxx: weird. I was weird. Okay. So cortisone does soul.

Yes.

[00:01:42] Natalie McMillan: Sounds very passionate.

[00:01:44] Corinne Foxx: You know, I love when I start seeing all the Valentine's day decorations going up, because I know my birthday is coming up next week. Do you associate when the Christmas decorations start going up? Like your birthday's coming up? No. Oh,

[00:01:57] Natalie McMillan: I don't know if it makes sense though.

Cause your birthday is December 20th. I know, but I, I guess I just think it's Christmas.

[00:02:06] Corinne Foxx: Oh, the second I see the heart shaped candies and CVS. I'm like my birthday is around the corner. I

[00:02:13] Natalie McMillan: love those candies. Those are so good. Yeah.

[00:02:18] Corinne Foxx: So I'm very excited. We're going to be 28, but not actually speaking of births, you actually predicted a birth.

I did. Yeah, it was pretty crazy. I just wanted to tell everyone here. I have been telling Natalie for years now, she is a psychic medium, some type of clairvoyant person. She does not believe me, but then. Predicted the birth of a human being on earth. Almost exactly. Yeah. And there's no denying it now. Well, okay.

[00:02:52] Natalie McMillan: Here's the thing. There's no denying it, but I don't know how to do that. You know what I mean? Right. So for example, with this particular baby, they weren't saying what the name was. And then like one day I just like knew the name.

[00:03:06] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. So my manager, James and his wife, Megan just had a baby girl. Yeah. And so I've been for months begging Jay and with James just told me that.

Yeah, he was very tight-lipped about it. And so we, I was guessing I sent random guesses, but then Natalie. Should we just say your name. Okay. So her name ended up being George, George Georgina. Yeah, but they call her Georgie Natalie guest. She was like, I think it's going to be a feminine name with masculine nickname.

Yeah. Like Francesca or Frankie.

[00:03:43] Natalie McMillan: So I was calling her Frankie,

[00:03:44] Corinne Foxx: her name's Georgie.

[00:03:47] Natalie McMillan: But it wasn't because it was just like, the thing is, is I have this thing where I just know things. I can't describe it. Yeah. It's like, I

[00:03:55] Corinne Foxx: hear a voice coming a psychic, I guess, but beyond just the name, if you guys are like what I wrote her name, she also predicted almost the birthday and yeah.

[00:04:04] Natalie McMillan: So basically what happened was. Meg had texted us in the group chat. And she was like, anybody. Cause Karuna is having dreams about the baby. And she's like, does anybody have any sort of any information? Celestially like anything? Cause she was so miserable. So I was like, oh. Do you want me to do a tarot reading?

And she was like, sure. So I just did one. I don't know what I'm doing when I do those,

[00:04:28] Corinne Foxx: but when you're going into the terror, are you thinking like, are you channeling, are you like sitting down or do you just literally grab cards and pull. I just

[00:04:37] Natalie McMillan: grabbed the cards, you know, I'll cleanse the energy around me and then I just start pulling the cards out.

And then what's your spread?

[00:04:45] Corinne Foxx: What are you doing? Just whatever. I feel like how many, how many cards are you pulling for? Is there a reason that you put a number of cards?

[00:04:52] Natalie McMillan: No, I just pull, so like for that one, I pulled two and then I was like, kind of getting the vibe of what was happening. And then I was like, okay, I need two more to let Clara.

And then yeah. So yeah, so then I texted her and I was like, okay, this is going to happen. This is going to happen. And I think she's going to be born within three days and that ended it. But I said, but I also have no idea.

[00:05:13] Corinne Foxx: And then she was like, spot on and then they texted us a Monroe. Your which,

[00:05:19] Natalie McMillan: yeah.

Which I just wish I knew how to like control it, but

[00:05:25] Corinne Foxx: I don't, well, you got to control your magic, but you know, you got to go to Hogwarts.

[00:05:29] Natalie McMillan: But I also, like, I want to trust myself more. Cause I do Terra ratings for myself all the fucking time. I did one this morning

[00:05:35] Corinne Foxx: for myself and like, Yeah, this wasn't it. I

[00:05:38] Natalie McMillan: never believed myself.

I'm like, Hmm, no, you know, I'm like, this is too good. There's no way.

[00:05:45] Corinne Foxx: Well, you definitely are a witch and maybe can do a little ceremony for yourself for self love on Dunkin DAS.

[00:05:54] Natalie McMillan: We for sure should do

[00:05:56] Corinne Foxx: that. Should we talk about why we pick this topic, which is how to fall in love with

[00:06:01] Natalie McMillan: yourself? Yes. As we said, Valentine's day is here.

Love is in the air. And the most important person that you should love is really

[00:06:11] Corinne Foxx: yourself. You really can't pour from

[00:06:13] Natalie McMillan: an empty glass. You can not, we wanted to focus the whole episode on how to cultivate self-love during this time, because I think everybody, this is the season of coupling and all this, but we forgot.

[00:06:26] Corinne Foxx: Ourselves. Exactly. And I thought it'd be really special to start up the episode with a couple of quotes about self love that we found. One is by Maya Angelou and it says the real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. And another quote we found. Buddha was you yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe deserves your love and affection.

[00:06:54] Natalie McMillan: Isn't that crazy? How, like, we can give so much love to other people, but then when it's ourselves, we're like, oh, we don't deserve it.

[00:07:01] Corinne Foxx: That's my problem. And like, we deserve our own shit. We deserve that from us, from

[00:07:08] Natalie McMillan: us a hundred percent. So, you know, we'd love some facts and some

[00:07:12] Corinne Foxx: statistics, we started an episode out with some facts,

[00:07:15] Natalie McMillan: so we've got some interesting ones.

So more than one thirds, a 36% of Americans say that. Always liked themselves and close to half say they like themselves. Most of the time, only 12% say they don't like themselves. Most of the time. And very few, 2% say they don't like themselves at all. There are

[00:07:35] Corinne Foxx: people out there who don't like themselves crazy.

Oh, that is crazy. It makes me sad too,

[00:07:43] Natalie McMillan: because then I also wonder like, If they can't be alone.

[00:07:48] Corinne Foxx: Right. Cause if they want to be alone with yourself.

[00:07:50] Natalie McMillan: Yeah. That's a bomber. I don't like

[00:07:53] Corinne Foxx: that. Not after this episode.

[00:07:54] Natalie McMillan: Nope. Also the first self love scientific study was conducted in November and December of 2020.

Oh. And it was a groundbreaking study. It was conducted by, I think it's YP sauce or Ipsos, which is a multinational market research com. And it was significant because of its sheer size. They surveyed over 22,000 people living across 21 different countries. And for context, most research papers, they study around eight to 25 participants at a time.

[00:08:26] Corinne Foxx: Really doesn't seem like it's very

[00:08:28] Natalie McMillan: accurate. So they surveyed 22,000 and its main aim was to explore the different dimensions of self-love including perception. Self frequency of experiencing emotions, such as nervousness or anxiety, personal confidence, resilience, and reported drivers of self esteem. Oh,

[00:08:47] Corinne Foxx: okay.

And so some of the findings from that study said that one in two women feel more self doubt than self-love with 60% wishing they had more respect for themselves. Right. Ah, yeah. It's like that self doubt. That self love really like you go back and forth between it. I mean,

[00:09:08] Natalie McMillan: even me, like, I love myself, but I do.

I wish I had more respect for myself too.

[00:09:13] Corinne Foxx: I wish I had more confidence in Mike, my decisions. I struggle with making decisions. I doubt myself a lot. I'm like, you don't know. Should I do that? I don't know. It's like, I wish I was just like, no, like, this is bright. Another finding from that study said single and minority women rank lower for.

Deem than married and non-minority women, 37% of single women and 38% of minority women suffer compared to 21% of married women and 25% of non minority women. Interesting. Yeah. Obviously you can understand the minority in living in a society that is literally does not work for you. Right. And then just like the whole, like mindset of being single and married and how that's supposed to be.

So yeah. Or

[00:09:57] Natalie McMillan: like, maybe if you, if somebody is like in love with you, then it's like, oh, I'm worthy of love. But if you're not, maybe you convince yourself out there.

[00:10:04] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. Yeah. Another interesting finding says unsurprisingly social media users, which we will get to later in word that pin in that have lower levels of self-love 72% of women in the UK wish their bodies were different.

African persons on social media. I'm not surprised that that is serious. And we have we're to talking about that later in the episode. It's not great for the, well, the crazy

[00:10:30] Natalie McMillan: thing is so 72% of women, right? So they probably surveyed like all different ages and I bet the remaining. You know, whatever that math is, not very much percent is maybe like women, like older women, women don't have social media.

Yeah.

[00:10:48] Corinne Foxx: One girl. I shouldn't say girl, woman, my coworker, Kayla. She does not have. Really early, no reason. She was like, yeah, I just don't have it at all.

[00:10:57] Natalie McMillan: She must have so much free time. And I was like, she probably gets so much done.

[00:11:01] Corinne Foxx: So like, I don't know anybody our age, it just doesn't have anything good for her.

I know, but not, should we get into one of our pillars of self-love, which is.

[00:11:12] Natalie McMillan: Yeah. So Dr. Kristin Neff, she's an associate professor of human development and culture at the university of Texas. And she's a pioneer of research on self-compassion. So she's done a lot of research and it's shown that when our self-worth depends on out competing others, we actually become more insecure and anxious.

So if we quote unquote, fail at something, although we do not believe in it, We have

[00:11:37] Corinne Foxx: a whole episode, all episode, episode

[00:11:39] Natalie McMillan: 56. But if you perceive that you have failed at something, we become highly self-critical. And interestingly enough, self-critical overachievers are not the only ones that lack self-compassion some of the kindest people do as well, which was confirmed by her work.

There is no correlation between the trait. Compassion and feelings of compassion towards

[00:12:03] Corinne Foxx: others. Yeah, those are, you're just saying. Yeah. It's like, you can give love, but can you receive it? And can you give it to yourself?

[00:12:12] Natalie McMillan: And many people, women in particular are far more compassionate and kinder towards others than to themselves, but fourth, there is an upside.

Okay. Which is that self-compassion can be learned.

[00:12:26] Corinne Foxx: Yes, I can, we can work on it. Yes we can. And first and foremost, you can write down your self talk. So if you are self criticizing because your jeans don't fit, or you said the wrong thing and a situation, write down the self-critical words that come to mind and then ask if you would ever say these words to a friend, what would a friend say and then reflect on your own?

That's a really

[00:12:50] Natalie McMillan: good

[00:12:50] Corinne Foxx: exercise. What was it the other day? I was like, I can not delegate. I said that I was so stupid. Like I was just doing all of that in my head. And I literally thought that I was like, what have your friends said, oh, I am. I said this weird thing. It'd be like, so no one's thinking about it.

Right, right. You do have to look at yourself through the eyes of somebody else. I used to have a little post-it in my bathroom. It was like, look at yourself through the eyes of someone who admires you. Wow. Another thing you can do to develop more self-compassion is to develop a self-compassion mantra. I suggest developing something that is easily memorized so that when something difficult happens, you can go to your phrases.

They are not positive affirmations, but reminder. So an example of a self-compassion mantra is this is a moment of suffering. Suffering is a part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment may give myself the compassion that I need. I love that realistic. Also. I love that because sometimes when you're like in a rut, you can't just be like, I am confident.

Yes I am. This is life. This is what happens. This is hard, but I can still love myself. Yes. And lastly, another way to practice more self compassion is meditation. You know, we love meditation here at the podcast. So when we access a meditative state through contemplation and relaxation, we can begin to loosen the grip of self-critical thoughts and emotions and rewire our brains to think more compassionately towards ourselves.

You

[00:14:24] Natalie McMillan: know what the meditation is all about. The rewire.

[00:14:27] Corinne Foxx: They also have like a self love self, what is it called? Compassion like meditation. Yeah. Even on like

[00:14:35] Natalie McMillan: the apps they have them. Yeah. They have those or just go on YouTube and look for a self-love meditation guide it. Right in another thing that would be a really fun exercise to do is to write your.

Some love letter. So write yourself some juicy, beautiful love letters, congratulate yourself on, you know, your promotion or starting your own business or whatever you've done recently. You should tell yourself how proud you are. Maybe you ended a relationship. Maybe you bought a house. You should just gush about all your incredible qualities, same sort of thing as if you're as if your friend.

I was writing it, you know? Yeah. And you can wait for a partner to come along and worship you like the goddess you are, or you can just start doing it yourself. Yeah. You know what I mean? And so if you really want to boost this one, write yourself some emails and schedule them to send later. So you can be surprised by an unexpected, probably forgotten love letter, just like a partner might do.

Can you schedule

[00:15:37] Corinne Foxx: emails? Yeah. Oh my God. Oh my gosh.

[00:15:41] Natalie McMillan: I need to do that. I know. Cause I'm definitely gonna forget.

[00:15:44] Corinne Foxx: Oh, how cute would it be? If you like six months, you had like a random email that came in from yourself and it was like, I'm so proud of you and blah, blah, blah. And like, you're beautiful. You're this?

You're that? You're this. Oh my God. That could

[00:15:55] Natalie McMillan: also be like a cool manifestation process. Cause you could be like, congratulations on,

[00:16:00] Corinne Foxx: oh my God, we can't get into it. We have to have, do an episode on it, Natalie and I have been cracking the code on the universe, literally cracked. We can't talk about it at this time, because we will get completely off topic, but just hold a pin in that.

And if you guys want us to circle back on our theories, we

[00:16:16] Natalie McMillan: should do an episode on it. And I think we should. Cause I'm sure people are, you know, I'm just

[00:16:21] Corinne Foxx: like scared to reveal. I just fear that we're going to be hospitalized because

[00:16:26] Natalie McMillan: we sound crazy. Sometimes voice notes are insane. Okay. So back to falling in

[00:16:30] Corinne Foxx: love with yourself.

A really great thing to do, which we've done a full episode on before is taking a digital detox. Social media is now an embedded part of our society. Everyone from your mom to random Instagram influencers, use it to stay connected with their friends or to get noticed. However, researchers and psychologists have noted that social media can have a corrosive effect on mental health studies show that your Facebook and Instagram scrolling is actually depressing.

It's all too common to compare ourselves to the filter. Perfect pictures. We see, we spend almost 11 hours a day staring at a screen, and it's not making us any happier. And think about your computer work computer, just all the screens, TVs, all screens, 60% of people using social media reported that it impacted their self-esteem in a negative.

[00:17:22] Natalie McMillan: I mean, make sense. Yeah. Studies have found that negative self appraisal, which is essentially poor judgment of oneself compared to others can increase when you're on social media, searching for approval from others and absorbing unrealistic imagery. And some time off may reduce that and therefore reduce symptoms of depression, which are also linked to negative self appraisal.

You know. Yeah. So getting out from behind a screen might inspire you to get out a little more, maybe out for a walk or a little exercise, which is associated with so many great things, including decreased anxiety, according to the anxiety and depression association of America. Which

[00:18:08] Corinne Foxx: we love. We love, I love a walk too.

You've been hiking recently been getting into

[00:18:13] Natalie McMillan: hikes because also it's just like getting in nature, like having like dirt around you is like, oh yeah, like this is good. Yeah. And honestly, I think you would be surprised at how different you feel at the end of the day if you're not on social media that much.

Yeah. Because sometimes I, and I learned this because I have this YouTube girl, how to ADH. She's amazing. And she was saying that a lot of us will. I have ADHD guys. A lot of us will just keep scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, because we're trying to stimulate our brains, but it's not stimulating. But we think it is.

Yeah, but it actually, like when I do that, I noticed I'm like exhausted and like, I don't feel good and

[00:18:57] Corinne Foxx: I love scrolling on tech talk, but if I do it for too long, I hit this place where I'm like, I feel drained. Yes. There's

[00:19:04] Natalie McMillan: something about it where it's like, I don't like this. So her suggestion was like, do things that, you know, will stimulate your brain.

And I think this goes for ADHD people, but also just normal people. Yeah. Like go on dual lingo, like do something that, you know, your brain is going to be like, Oh, wait, this is more interesting than just scrolling around on these random rates, you know? Yes. Another hot tip, hot with a capital H go on a date with yourself.

[00:19:34] Corinne Foxx: H a w E. You know that mental list of things you're excited to do someday with a future partner, stop waiting to check it off, doing the items on your list on your own can feel really empowering. And yes at COVID-19 may be stopping you from going on that tribute with wanting to take with a partner, but you may still be able to like hike up to that sunset lookout point that your coupled up friend told you about or picnic at.

The super scenic park nearby with your favorite cheeses and some hallmates in Korea. Like you can come up with these cute little dates, especially right now, like February. Yeah. Like take yourself out on a little date when I was doing the artist's way you had to do these dates with your creativity. Oh yeah.

And it was so fun. Like every week I would think, okay, where am I going to take my creativity? What's gonna inspire me. Where will I go? I went to the beach alone, like things like that. It's like nice. And here's

[00:20:29] Natalie McMillan: my ideas to go to the movie. Alone which have going to the movies. It sounds kind of scary, but honestly, how much talking do you do when you're at a movie you don't even talk.

So treat yourself to a little day, get a little popcorn, sit down, enjoy it, you know, get a coffee and a book and just kind of. You know, walk around a bookstore.

[00:20:49] Corinne Foxx: I love

[00:20:50] Natalie McMillan: that store. Oh my God. Do Barnes and noble still exists. They do. Okay. But they're in like, they're dying off aren't they

[00:20:56] Corinne Foxx: slowly, I was a member for a long time as one of the Grove, but yes, they are slowly dying because I feel like

[00:21:03] Natalie McMillan: that is the starting point for getting a coffee and wandering a bookstore.

It's so good. Also you can just like be a tourist in your own town. Yeah. There's so many parts of LA that I'm like. What's over here. Yeah. Drive around, put on some good music. Oh, I love a dry,

[00:21:19] Corinne Foxx: I love a dry. Also another thing you can do is just go to a museum, like go to an art museum that can be a really emotionally satisfying experience.

And you can just, before going to the museum, visit their website, choose an area of the museum that interests you the most. And once you're there, you can just like, get a little audio. Plug up and you can just be in your own little

[00:21:40] Natalie McMillan: world around learn. I love going

[00:21:43] Corinne Foxx: to museums. I know I do too. And something I thought was really, really cool.

You can do is to go on a, getting to know you date. What is that? I know. So just as one of the main purposes of going on a date with someone else is getting to know them better. You can use a solo date to get to know yourself better. So you can take like personality. You can ask yourself questions. You could take out a journal and like ask questions.

Like you would ask somebody on a date, like, what are your core values? Who is the most important person in your life? If you were told you will die in a week, what would you most regret not having done? What would the perfect day look like? Like all those first date questions. Ask yourself. Cause sometimes like, I don't, again, I'm so indecisive.

Like I don't know my preferences on

[00:22:29] Natalie McMillan: things. Yeah. I know. It's tough. It's tough. So that's kind of cool though. And you could maybe even get like designated journal for it for your old date night for your own little self discovery, date night. Another thing that leads to some self-love is to pursue a hobby that makes you feel good.

So if you're looking to increase self-confidence experts say it's important to fill your calendar with activities. A you enjoy and B that you're

[00:22:54] Corinne Foxx: good at.

[00:22:56] Natalie McMillan: So pleasure for pleasure. Sake is great, but it's unlikely to bolster your confidence. And that's a quote from a meta Kate Patel. She is a licensed clinical social worker and a psychotherapist specializing in trauma and resilience.

And as she puts it. This is the reason candy crush might feel like very good in the moment, but doesn't exactly give you a self-esteem lift when you put your phone down. So she says the key to building confidence is to engage in an activity that combines both pleasure and mastered.

[00:23:30] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. And you can even do more of like everyday things that you're good at.

So it doesn't matter what they are and it doesn't have to be in like a professional space. So if you're good at like yoga, you can pull up a flow on YouTube. If you're a good driver, then like go on more drives research shows that self efficacy, which is the belief that you are good at something and self worth are linked.

And the more you do things big or small, that you're good at the better you're going to feel about yourself. That makes sense. Even the like everyday tasks and still boost your self-confidence. I'm trying to think of like what I'm good at. That's like an everyday task. Well, not an

[00:24:06] Natalie McMillan: everyday task, but we were talking the other day about how, like, you really love dance.

And I really love going to Pilates classes cause like we're

[00:24:13] Corinne Foxx: good at, yeah. Except for, I go to a dance class with like professional dancers and I'm not as good as them, but I can pick up the choreography. Yeah. I'm better than the average person.

[00:24:23] Natalie McMillan: It's like, obviously if you're going to go to a dance class and you're not good at it.

You're not going to feel that good coming out.

[00:24:30] Corinne Foxx: You know what I mean? Yeah. That's true.

[00:24:33] Natalie McMillan: Another really fun thing you could do is to book a solo trip. It's pretty trendy right now. And for good reason, the benefits of solo travel are huge. Not only do you get to do exactly what you want to do without negotiating with the travel.

Um, but you also get to take the trip at your own pace. A solo trip may be just what you need to get outside of your comfort zone. And it also gives you a space to explore the world and your self. And you never know what you might discover, whether you can manage one night away or three months abroad by yourself.

You're definitely gonna have. An amazing

[00:25:09] Corinne Foxx: adventure. Yeah. You guys know, I talk about it all the time, but I went to Costa Rica loan and it was one of the most terrifying things ever, but also one of the best things that could have ever done. I also have traveled to Milan alone, daily, alone, a bunch of times, and just.

Eating in a foreign country by yourself in a restaurant it's like so scary, but it's so empowering, invigorating, freeing, and you really learn to trust yourself. Yeah. I can take care of myself. Yes. In a foreign country by myself.

[00:25:37] Natalie McMillan: And that creates confidence and

[00:25:40] Corinne Foxx: self efficacy. The last thing we're gonna. To help you cultivate more self-love is to splurge a little, you know, that perfect pair of jeans you've been dreaming about peace yourself, drink plenty.

Yes. Irresponsible spending won't help you love yourself, but it is okay to occasionally remind yourself that you deserve to give gifts to you. I think we've been leaning into that a little bit more.

Yes.

[00:26:12] Natalie McMillan: And it's not that you're going and just like, oh, I'm going to do a shopping spree at target to feel better.

It's like, you know, everybody has your eye on

[00:26:19] Corinne Foxx: that one thing. It's a splurge on something you really want and you really deserve. Yes.

[00:26:25] Natalie McMillan: And let me tell you, you're not going to regret it in the end. I have a wallet that I really, I was like, oh my God, I love it so much. And I splurged on it and I've had it for like four years now.

[00:26:35] Corinne Foxx: Every time I love it, I love it because it's, it's something that is really meaningful to you. And actually in a study that was published in psychological science in April, researchers found that people were happier. If they spent money on things that match their personality. The researchers looked at bank transactions of more than 600 individuals, all of whom anonymously filled out a questionnaire about their personality type and life satisfaction.

And the happiest people in the study seemed to be the ones who spent more on things or services that were in sync with their personality type. For example, an outgoing person would love to blow his cash like at a bar or. Friends, but a more introverted person is likely to be happier spending their money on like books or, you know, things where they can like cozy up your home.

So spending money is also a practice of self love. If you do it in coordinates with your. Yes.

[00:27:34] Natalie McMillan: And also I think a part of self-love is acknowledging your own needs. And I recently realized I don't like spending money on myself. I'm things that I actually need, like things that I need. And then I'm like, oh, it's because I don't think I deserve to have my needs.

[00:27:50] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. So it's like acknowledging your needs and then also fulfilling your own needs. Yes. Cause you love yourself. You love yourself. You deserve to have your needs met. Yes. And you can meet them. Yes he can. So we hope that you guys learn more about how to cultivate. Self-love how to change yourself. Talk how to date yourself.

If you guys go on a little date, let us know about it. We would love to hear about your cell phone.

[00:28:14] Natalie McMillan: Yes, take pictures and like send

[00:28:16] Corinne Foxx: them to us and how to indulge in, treat yourself, treat in alignment with your personality and what feels good to you. So net, should we circle back on this? Cornerstone,

[00:28:28] Natalie McMillan: the soul, the heart of the sun, the sun moule Baldock.

[00:28:32] Corinne Foxx: We've been drinking. Yes. Oh, we got to introduce

[00:28:34] Natalie McMillan: our Hadi. Oh yes. Okay.

[00:28:36] Corinne Foxx: We can have self-love. Do you want to introduce her? It's Ms. Lizzo? I honestly thought we had already put her on the podcast. How do we made it this far without having Lizzo episode?

[00:28:49] Natalie McMillan: That was one of the, like one of the last things that we did pre pandemic.

Oh, we saw Lizzo Lizzo at the palladium packed. That

[00:28:58] Corinne Foxx: feels like how long ago? Scary. Because that's how long the pandemics one to Lizzo. What are we reading this smell? So

[00:29:08] Natalie McMillan: I usually don't like mailbox. I like this one. I like it. Eight

[00:29:12] Corinne Foxx: and a half. I wasn't even a

[00:29:13] Natalie McMillan: 9.75 out of Ms. Lizzo.

[00:29:26] Corinne Foxx: all right. This is the part of the episode where we play a little wrap-up game and inline with our self love episode. We're doing personality. Yeah. It's like, we're on our own little self love dates have rude together, which is on brand. It's a brand that's on brand for us. I honestly not. I don't know what my personality was even really testing for.

[00:29:46] Natalie McMillan: We don't. Okay. When we do these personality tests, we never really were just like, what, what are we even searching? What are we even do? We don't know what we're doing. Send us more games, guys. Do you want to go or do you want me to now? I want you to go because I am curious, you can just take my

[00:30:00] Corinne Foxx: phone and you can just walk everyone through what the

[00:30:03] Natalie McMillan: fuck you doing.

And what's the outcome. That's what I said. I have no idea. Oh, okay. So which of these amazes you most? It's pictures. Pictures. I'm going to, that's an Aurora Borealis. Okay. Within that, how do you create fun in your life? Spontaneity or careful planning? The spontaneous is so fun. How would you make the most of a morning off?

Oh,

[00:30:25] Corinne Foxx: I guess if it's not pictures I can ask you. Oh, oh,

[00:30:28] Natalie McMillan: it's our pictures. Okay. This girl's, she's reading a book with a little cup of tea, like that. Most likely to be my desk messy or organized. I can't really go either way. Oh, Corrine. This quiz, I think might be 7,000 questions long. How do you know that?

Because every time I click one, this little yellow thing

[00:30:55] Corinne Foxx: I wrote in short quizzes. Oh

[00:30:59] Natalie McMillan: God. Okay. Okay. Should I do yours while you're finding one? Cause it's like, yeah, pretty easy. What time of the days are absolute favorite morning? Noon. That's between

[00:31:11] Corinne Foxx: noon and night. That's

[00:31:12] Natalie McMillan: actually on a scale. Oh, so perfect. Can I just,

[00:31:18] Corinne Foxx: I don't know.

[00:31:20] Natalie McMillan: You did all of them. Oh, I see.

Do you want to just read them all and do it all yourself? Oh, okay.

[00:31:27] Corinne Foxx: They're on a scale. How often do you watch TV with subtitles on absolutely. Always. Yeah, she does. I can't. Can anybody hear what's happening on television? I can't, after I turned 27, I said I can't hear anything on average. How long do you take to get ready in the morning?

Over an hour or a couple minutes? Under an hour, about 45. If you're getting a gift, what do you want it to be experiences or things? Exactly in the middle. Okay. Are you more of an outdoors person or indoors person? That's tough. I love nature, but I also love being in my house. I probably lean a little bit more outdoors.

Okay. In general, do you prefer hot or cold drinks? Colt, which of these elements do you relate to more fire water?

[00:32:19] Natalie McMillan: I a fire sign, but I feel more close to water. You're an air sign. Oh,

[00:32:24] Corinne Foxx: I have a fireman. So I'm going to say, or how do you prefer your music soft and calming or loud and angry? Ooh. I love

[00:32:30] Natalie McMillan: Bo I, I love a loud, angry moment.

I probably

[00:32:33] Corinne Foxx: am a little bit more loud and angry. I love life in the

[00:32:35] Natalie McMillan: car, mom, many as loud as it can.

[00:32:40] Corinne Foxx: I have my money. Okay. Do you prefer sweet or savory lean, little bit more savory. Uh, would you prefer a job where you work with others or independently more independently in general? Would you say you wear more bright colors or dark colors?

[00:32:56] Natalie McMillan: Now you do a lot of bright colors. I would say you're actually like dead center,

[00:33:03] Corinne Foxx: dead center. You win an all expense paid trip, but the destination is a surprise. Do you accept? Yeah, I'm sure. Okay. In general, how flexible are you when someone changes plants the last minute? Very flexible.

[00:33:18] Natalie McMillan: I don't give a shit.

Well, it's I do

[00:33:20] Corinne Foxx: like it. And then I get my dad and every single trip I go on with him and I'm like, Jesus Christ. What is the plan? Right. Do you prefer warmer, cool days in the middle, but probably more Chile. And finally, would you consider yourself a words or numbers person? A hundred percent of

[00:33:38] Natalie McMillan: words.

Don't click on gun yet. Oh, I want to see it. Okay. Okay. So based on this quiz, it was, I can sum up your whole personality in five words with only 15 random questions. So here are the words, inquisitive, honest, reserved impatient resourceful. Sure.

[00:33:58] Corinne Foxx: Honest, sure. Reserved. Sure. Impatient. Maybe, maybe resourceful.

Yeah, sure. Yeah. Sure. Okay. Okay. Okay. Let me quiz you now. Okay. Do you see yourself in a hurry more often than not? Yes. Do you grind your teeth when you're awake or asleep? Yes. Do you find it difficult to fully focus on someone when they are talking? Yes. Do you believe that people are basically untrustworthy and only out for themselves?

Do you usually read mail or sort papers while talking on the phone or read while eating. Do you normally like go through things while you're on the phone? Or do you like read while you

[00:34:42] Natalie McMillan: on the phone?

[00:34:43] Corinne Foxx: Oh, it's just a yes to, I like either of those. Oh, do you usually do that? Are you normally like, no. Okay. Do you find it difficult and frustrating to wait in line or sit in traffic?

No. Do you talk faster than most people? I don't know. No. No, you don't. Okay. Do you find your facial muscles to be tense most of the time? Yes. Do you find yourself interrupting others when they speak? Yes. Do you focus on personal achievement sometimes putting it ahead of relationships? Oh yeah.

[00:35:15] Natalie McMillan: Is this, is this, do you have ADHD?

Literally the questionnaire my psychiatrist gave me, is that okay?

[00:35:26] Corinne Foxx: Do you have a significant need for recognition from others? No. Do you find yourself in stressful high demand jobs? No. No. Do you eat faster than, than others or Allianz to this

[00:35:39] Natalie McMillan: right now? No slowest eater, literally on the planet. It's embarrassing.

[00:35:45] Corinne Foxx: Is your walking pace faster than most? People's. No. Do you lose sleep thinking about rude or frustrating things people have done during the day? No. Do you find yourself anticipating disasters often? No. Do you find yourself sweating often or do you have dark circles under your eyes? Yes. Do you find yourself being more competitive than most people know?

All right. Ooh, you are officially a type B person. Oh wait, wait. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. Oh, wait, wait. You got seriously type B and then you got type a. Hold on. Okay. So this was a, are you type a quiz and you got seriously question mark. Your type B says, did you take this quiz to gloat? Seriously? You seem to have very few type a features, so good for you.

Give yourself a pat on the back and you can still learn about how to deal with type a people from this, the rest of this article. But you're tight. You're not type a person.

[00:36:49] Natalie McMillan: So what is type B? I don't even know.

[00:36:54] Corinne Foxx: Oh, well, because the quiz was, are you type a, I don't think it has anywhere

[00:36:58] Natalie McMillan: where you just type me good to know.

Good to know.

[00:37:03] Corinne Foxx: Well, you know, like type a person. Yes. Yes. So you're like more creative and laid back and

[00:37:09] Natalie McMillan: yes. You know, I think of type a, as like my friend Alice. Who's definitely listening to this. I wonder,

[00:37:15] Corinne Foxx: I can't tell what I am, but it says type B is, uh, the socializer.

[00:37:21] Natalie McMillan: Mm. I think you're you're right in between an a and a, B

[00:37:26] Corinne Foxx: says people with type B personality are often described as easy going relaxed and highly flexible.

I would say, yeah.

[00:37:33] Natalie McMillan: Yeah. That's for sure. You I'm

[00:37:35] Corinne Foxx: like fairly flexible, relaxed, laid back patient creative.

[00:37:40] Natalie McMillan: Okay. Yeah, that's me. That's me. All right. Well, Hey, we've, we've learned a lot about ourselves and we're never doing personality quizzes again. Please send us more game is the last of the

[00:37:54] Corinne Foxx: personality quiz.

You guys, we're not doing it ever again. Don't forget guys. We have a newsletter though. If you never want to miss an episode, you can go to, am I doing this right? pod.com and sign up for our mailing list where we send you a fun email once a week. That's just to remind you, we have an episode out and some, we send some fun gifts, some little fun things, a send links to these personality

[00:38:13] Natalie McMillan: quizzes, take one for yourself.

Also, you know what? You should text a friend. This. Oh,

[00:38:18] Corinne Foxx: yeah, that'd be cute. That'd be super cutie. All right guys. Well, we'll be back next week with another episode and we love you guys. Bye.