Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

with you today. I hope you're doing well. Today I want to talk

about bad habits, and how you can learn step by step to

replace these bad habits with more beneficial habits. First of

all, what are bad habits, I believe that bad habits are just

things that we do, automatically, not consciously

at all. Things that we do to maybe numb our pain that we

don't want to address, things that we do to distract ourselves

from a boring life with no sense of purpose. Things that we do to

please others, maybe under peer pressure. It is habits that

don't serve us on a higher level. They are instant

gratification material. So you feel good in the moment, but on

the long run. If the effects of your bad habits are compounding,

you end up in a place that feels sad and depressed. Last. So it

is very good to add times, check in with yourself. And check in

what you do on a daily basis to help yourself out and to direct

yourself into the direction you want. Because a lot of times we

have dreams, we have goals, and we work so hard. But we never

really seem to be getting closer to those dreams and goals. And

sometimes it is the little things that you do on a daily

basis that make you drift away from your goals and dreams

instead of sliding towards your goals and dreams. I read the

book the compound effect from Darren Hardy, I highly recommend

that one because in this book, he describes how the daily

habits that we engage in steer your steering wheel of life. And

if you start changing your little habits and replace them

with more productive, efficient habits, if it's just one little

thing that you change at a time, let's say 1% 2%. Over time, this

new direction might be so small at the very beginning. Over

time, you will land directly where you want it to be. Look at

a plane, a pilot is flying a plane from New York to Los

Angeles, let's say. And if he has the steering wheel, just two

degrees off of the

usual

route that he's flying, he will land in a totally different

city. Do you know what I'm trying to say? No. So let's have

a look at your habits. Is there anything that you do

unconsciously? And when are you doing these little habits?

Sometimes we tend to eat a little more when we feel bored

or sad. Sometimes we drink a little more. If we want to

forget about a stressful day sometimes, and it's not for

everybody but we feel so lonely and disconnected that We think

porn is going to give us the satisfaction what we need.

Sometimes we just end up binge watching a series for three

hours at night, because it's so engaging and interesting. And we

feel like we're connecting with old friends when we watch that

series. See, and those are the little habits, for instance. Of

course, there's many more habits out there that are destructive

or non productive. But those little habits that I just

mentioned, make you feel good in the moment. But on the long run,

they will not get you to wherever you want to be. So how

do I address the change of those habits, I feel a very important

thing to note is that we don't do these habits because we're

dumb or such. We do these habits because they give us something

and we just have to replace them with something better, or even

add something to our life. So when it comes to food habits,

when it comes to the bag of chips that you crunch on at

night, or the ice cream, you have to really think and feel

into it. What is it that you're doing right now? Is it the

loneliness that you want to forget? Is it just simply

something crunchy, salty or sweet that you're craving? And

how can you replace that? Can you replace it with healthier

choices. And you will see that at the end of the night, you

will feel less guilty and might even sleep better to start by

replacing your little snacks by healthier snacks. And we don't

have to go into details there. Because most of the time, we

know what is healthier, we know that chips and ice cream and

fries are not awesome to eat. But you have to see on the long

run, you want to have a healthy body, you want to be energetic,

you want to be fit and fresh the next morning. So see that by

replacing those fries and chips and ice cream. With healthier

options, you will feel better, you will not feel like you were

taken away something but adding value to your life. When it

comes to binge watching movies or series at night, I would love

you to track the time. From now on, you track the time, every

time you sit down in front of your computer or your TV. And at

the end of the week, or maybe at the end of two weeks or three

weeks of tracking, like really running around with a little pen

and paper and writing it down. I want you to add all these

minutes all these hours together and make you aware of how much

time you're spending there. And awareness is usually the biggest

first step that opens you up to new possibilities and new

habits. So let's say you realize you're spending six hours a week

in front of your TV, in front of your phone or computer watching

series and movies. And lately, you felt very disconnected from

your friends and your family and you feel very lonely. And this

is why your Netflix in so much. Well. Now we have six hours. And

now you can decide who you want to connect with over that period

of time. So again, you see, we are not taking away your Netflix

and your time in front of the TV. We are replacing it with the

thing that you're actually craving. And over time you will

feel more fulfilled content and happy with yourself. So now you

take these six hours. And it doesn't mean that you have to

spend six hours a week with your friends now, but you can invest

that time in yourself too. You can go for a nice walk, you can

go for a swim, you can go for a hike, you can go to an art

gallery, but being aware that it was six hours of your precious

lifetime that you spent in front of a TV which didn't bring you

anything but instant gratification and as sense of

relaxation that is also not really

to, you will feel much better over time, if you start doing

that little new habit that replaces the TV watching on a

daily basis, or let's say, weekly basis. So we addressed

food habits. And with food habits, another thing I want to

add here is that you just get rid of all the junk food that

you have at home, and you replace it with yummy good

things. And at the same time, know that you are going to see

such crazy good effects when it comes to your physical health.

And that, in turn, will also affect your mental health. Then

we addressed unconsciously spending time online or in front

of the TV. And this is very precious time that you can spend

with yourself. For instance, reading, going for a walk, going

for a swim, or meeting up with friends or meeting up with new

people. Another habit, bad habit that I want to address here is

when it comes to not being honest with yourself and not

being honest with your surroundings. A lot of times we

feel shame, maybe because we are unemployed at the moment, or we

are single, and we don't really want to be single. And it is

those conclusions, let's say that we make about that

situation, that make it even worse. Because we feel we are

not good enough. We feel we're not living a life that is worth

enjoying and living to the fullest. And in not being honest

with ourselves and okay with ourselves, we tend to avoid

people, we tend to blame people and be resentful towards people,

especially towards the people that seem to have it all. And it

is that judgmental mindset that I want to address here with you.

Which is also a very bad habit. Because the judgments that you

have about yourself, will deeply affect how you feel about

yourself. And the decisions you make for yourself. And the way

you relate to other people will also be deeply affected if you

don't feel enough, if you don't feel like you have anything to

contribute to society. So the third little habit that I want

to address here is the thoughts that you have towards yourself,

the judgment you have towards yourself. Maybe you're not where

you want it to be at in your life. If you think back like

five or 10 years ago, you were dreaming or where am I going? Am

I going to be I want to have a family, I want to have a house I

wanted to travel and you haven't accomplished these goals. And

now you feel like a failure. Now you feel like you have to hide

and you cannot. Yeah, be yourself because you're going to

be judged by others. And this is complete Bs, the more you accept

yourself and the more you are okay with where you're at, and

you trust that you are on the right path and you are doing

everything possible to be on a good path. You don't need to

hide you don't need to be ashamed. And you will see that

people will accept you more, the more you accept yourself. You

see, the judgment of another person can only touch you if you

believe what they are saying. Let's say you're insecure with

your physical appearance you do you don't feel beautiful, you

don't feel okay wearing certain things. Now if a person comes

along and says while those leggings are kinda tight right?

In this into in this moment sorry, they will trigger your

discomfort they would trigger your thoughts of in adequacy.

And you will give them the power to be right and give them the

power to make you feel that way. But let's imagine if you fully

accepted your body if you fully enjoyed your body and

appreciated and appreciated your body. If a person would come

along and say, Wow, no slogans are tight, you would not even

think about taking on that comment, or believing their

comment, you would know that this comment is all about them,

and not about you, they might have a bad day, they might feel

they have to make another person feel shitty because they feel

shitty about themselves. And you would leave that shitty comment

with them. So when it comes to your thoughts, when it comes to

your beliefs about yourself that might be still holding you back

from living a fulfilled life. I want you to start notice your

thoughts, and maybe even write down your thoughts. When you

have the time when you make the time to track and to see how

destructive our thoughts can be. When I started doing that, I

realized wow, like the thoughts. The judgment that I have towards

myself is so nasty is so self destructive. And I wouldn't even

talk to a person that I don't like this way, you know, you

would never talk even to a friend, the way you think about

yourself at times, and this is something we need to address.

This is something that you can gently over time, change and

replace with positive affirmations and with positive.

Like journaling, gratitude journaling, when you write

everything down, that you like about yourself, you will start

appreciating yourself accepting yourself. And people will sense

that shift in energy and things will start flowing towards you,

instead of away from you. So make the time over the next

couple of weeks and have a look at your habits. Have a look at

what might still holding you back from getting this fulfilled

relationship from getting this dream job or from starting a

project that you wanted to start a long time ago already. And

always know that I'm super curious to know what you're

thinking about this was providing you with tools that

serve you and what are your experiences with noticing your

bad habits now? And do you feel like you need maybe a little bit

of support to help you out finding new beneficial habits?

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