It's all good to keep filling up your cup, but if you

have a source that just keeps taking from you, it's going

to end up draining completely. You've got to spend energy in

the things that are going to help you to become a better person, that are

going to help you to grow, that are helping you to achieve your goals and

push you in the direction that you want to go. How do

you ever know when your cup is empty? Welcome

to Krystal Rowe Impacts, a space dedicated to empowering

you to be the change that your bloodline has been waiting for. Join

me and together, let's inspire change. Kia

ora and welcome back to the Krystal Rowe Impact podcast.

And today I'm going to be talking about filling your cup and

the importance of it. Now, everybody knows that you

can't give from an empty cup. But how

do we actually fill our cup? How do we prioritise

it? How do you even know when your cup is empty?

For me, I never even realised I knew I had

a cup until a friend actually pointed out, how

are you even meant to keep filling your cup when

it's got a huge crack in it? And that was just like

really eye-opening for me. And then I thought to myself, I

need to fix my cup and start filling it. And

it's really, really life-changing when

you actually prioritize it. I'm going to share with you, I've had

a massive weekend, and actually a massive

month. But we'll just go from the weekend. I just

was giving, giving, giving. Giving just

time, energy, physical and mental

emotions, and everything was just exiting

me. And I'm totally happy with

that. I'm totally fine with the obligations of life and

parenting and business. It's what I've signed up

for and it's the life that I choose. But what

I realized last night was that my cup was completely

empty. And not every time your

cup is empty, you're going to be able to fill it up the same way. But

last night, I'll share with you, my poor husband had to

sing and look after me like a little baby, literally

like a little baby. I was talking and

requesting, just like a little baby. I need

this, I need that, I think I want dessert, I

think I want wontons, because they're my favourite comfort

food. And I was just like, I need,

I need, I need. And what an

amazing realization when you need something.

We're such interesting human beings, like we're made up

of so many different elements, emotions, and

reasonings. We're always looking for an answer. And

I was sitting in bed last night thinking, what's

wrong with me? Why am I doing this? Why do

I feel like this? I feel nothing. I'm empty. I'm numb. I'm

this, I'm that, like I started going down this

really dark tunnel really quickly and

then I realised I need this and I need

that so I started filling up my cup or I started requesting

my husband to fill up my cup because I just simply couldn't do that

and what that did for me was actually made

me prioritise what was important So I

had my podcast shoot today, but last night

I had nothing to give. And so instead, I

focused on filling up my cup and getting a good night's sleep.

So that today, this morning, I was able to wake up

and write down my notes for my podcast and carry

on with my life, carry on with my day and

what was important. And when I was able to fill up my

cup last night and realise that I was on empty,

it allowed me to show up today. Even though I've struggled a

little bit, and the task has

been a little bit more difficult than it would have been if I

didn't fill up my cup, I chose to focus

on my love languages and what I needed at the time. And

every day and every situation and every person is

going to be different. And the way that you need

things will be different as well. But if

you just prioritise filling up your love

tank, filling up your cup, you're going to be

more effective. I know that if I had tried to

push through last night on an empty cup, I

would have not only woken up tired and

feeling empty, I wouldn't have been able to

actually pull through today either. So you have

to really focus and ask yourself too, why

is it so important to fill my cup? Sometimes

we can have a half cup and still be good for the day, but

sometimes we need to prioritise filling up our cup. And

I experienced that last night. And I think I experienced

that last night for a reason. And that's to be here

today as living proof that if we take the

time to make sure that we fill up our cup, we can be

more effective in what we give out. It's not always easy

and life isn't always easy. But if we do

prioritize ourself, we can be more successful. We

can achieve more and we can go further. Now that I've

pointed out how important it is to fill your cup, I

want to bring your attention to what takes away

from you as well. What's draining your cup in your

life? It's all good to keep filling

up your cup, But what if there is a source that

is continually taking? Is there anything in your life right

now, situations, people, circumstances, that

just keep draining you? That just keep taking

from your cup? Because you could be on the ball all

the time and know yourself so well and be filling up your cup and

doing your morning routines and doing your exercises and, you

know, self-love and self-talk and your mindset can

be like on point. But if you have a source that

just keeps taking from you, it's going

to end up draining completely. And there's so

many different elements and aspects that I won't go

into today around how people drain you,

but it's just really important to be able to identify them

and then actually do something about it. Because

if you always have one person that's draining your energy,

or, you know, like, for example, you could have that one

person that you're around all the time and when you leave

them, you're just like, oh my gosh, that

was hard. Or they were like, negative

or you just have this sense of like tiredness when

you're around them. Sometimes I can overwhelm my

husband and he gets really like drained. But

then when we identify that, that allows me

to be like, oh, OK, I will come back because I only want to

be filling up people's cup. I don't want to take it

away. So it can go both ways too, you can identify if

that's something within you and why you do that or

you can identify in somebody and then take action around

that. It's really hard when you're trying to achieve

so much in life and and juggle children and

juggle a business and relationships and things

that you always have to continuously invest in. But

when you actually have a leak in your car, you

really, really need to prioritise fixing that because

you've got to spend energy in the things that are

going to help you to become a better person, that are going to help

you to grow and that are helping you to achieve your goals

and push you in the direction that you want to

go. It's like when you put in

Google Maps and your destination is

24 minutes away. you'll

have about four or five routes to choose. And

sometimes those distractions that take away

from you getting there or roadblocks in the way, you

need to identify before you start your journey so that

you have that clear path. And the quicker that

you can achieve that clear path in the direction, the quicker you're

going to be able to get to your end result and achieve. But just

imagine, this is just a quick side note, imagine if

we were connected to a continuous source that

filled up our cup. Now what can you do to find

that continuous source? What routine could

you potentially create for yourself to

have a continuous source that fills your cup? Whether

it's removing somebody that's draining your cup so

that you have this continuous flow, whether it's doing

a morning routine that's meditation or

breath work, or maybe you are somebody that likes to be out

in the openness and breathing in

the cold, crisp, fresh air of the early morning. Whatever

it is, try and connect and prioritize yourself

to a source that is always going to fill you. Thank you

for tuning into this podcast today. And

I want to encourage you, if you need help to learn different

ways to fill your cup, head over to Heritage Impact

or click the link below in the show notes and

check out what programs that we have and the coaching that

we have available to help you find what fills your