No and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm so

happy to be spending some time with you. And I hope I can

create a space where you can. Yeah, rest and relax, recharge

your batteries, reflect. And at times, maybe.

Yeah, change your attitude change your perspective on

situations on life, when it gets a little bit rough or

complicated. Sometimes it's a simple change of perspective

that can help you so much in the moment helps you give the power

you need the patience, you need to keep going. You are not

alone. We are all in this together. And yeah, I hope you

know that. There's always someone out there you can reach

out to

if you wish to reach out to me. Reach out to me on Facebook or

Instagram, Aurora Eggert or Aurora Eggert coaching on

Instagram the Borealis experience,

it would mean the world to me to know where you're coming from?

And yeah, what motivates motivates you or inspires you?

Or what you are struggling with?

Today, I want to talk about your self image. And how much do you

need approval from others in order to be feel content?

Or successful?

When we talk about self image? What do we mean I think self

image is simply put.

When you look into the mirror, the things you feel and see. Are

you proud of yourself? Do you fully accept yourself? Can you

look yourself into the eyes?

Or don't you really give attention

to what you see in the mirror? Or even worse? Do you look at

yourself and just feel desperate? Not good? Maybe even

hateful? Do you reject what you see in the mirror?

It tells me a lot. When I asked you how do you feel when you see

a full body picture when you look at yourself in the mirror

on how you react.

And what I find so incredibly sad is that we live in a society

here in North America, where it's socially acceptable to hate

yourself and to reject your body. And sometimes it's even

the way people bond with each other. I find that so sickening.

That's not good. And with my podcast with my coaching with

everything I do, I'm trying to change this because it's not

going to get us anywhere. As society I feel it is weakening

us.

Sometimes we experienced something in our life that

changed our perspective on ourselves that changed our self

image.

Maybe we were heartbroken. Maybe we were rejected by friends. And

now we think we're not deserving. We're not worthy.

We're not enough.

Sometimes it is our own family, our parents who make us feel as

not enough.

And a deeply influences our quality of life. If your self

image is poor, if you look down on yourself, it is very hard to

be out there shining, to be out there pursuing your purpose and

to be successful because you will feel like

a fake person you will feel inauthentic

So what's most important? When I talk to people in my coaching

sessions, and they talk to me about their dreams, and where

they want to

get to in their lives is to find out how do they look at

themselves? Do they actually like themselves?

Or do they,

I don't know, abused themselves into health and happiness, to

portray a picture to the outside world,

that everything is okay.

But from the inside, nothing is okay.

And when we have that

disbalance, I don't know, if you say that in English imbalance.

It is very exhausting. It is very tiring, and nobody can run

on that imbalance for all too long, you're gonna exhaust

yourself, you're not going to be successful in a sustainable way.

And then when it comes to self image, a lot of the times, it is

very dependent on how you grew up.

What did your parents tell you?

Was you sent messages of love and acceptance, and empowerment?

Believe in yourself. And you could really feel it, it really

felt like, yeah, my people are supporting accepting me fully,

and I can do whatever I want, and I'll be successful.

I have their support?

Or did you receive the message that

you could be different, you could do things differently, and

what you're passionate about is not really worthy to pursue.

We'd rather you pursue something else, you would be way more

successful. If you would study this, if you would do that.

Instead, what you are trying to put energy into and grow

is not really worth it.

Can you change? Can you adapt? Can you be a different person?

Sometimes we get these messages from the people that we need

support the most from the people we long to be accepted the most.

And I get it, it is so crazy difficult to liberate yourself

from that because this is where you first learned

what love is.

And this is people that you look up to this is people that you

want to feel supported from.

But you are on this planet.

To shine your own light, I get it. We are born into a family

and we want a sense of belonging. And that is very

important, very critical. But we also need you to be out there as

an individual.

And sometimes you got to be a little pioneer, you got to be

the person who does something new in their family.

And you will meet resistance, you will meet disapproval,

sometimes even rejection.

Because you're going to stretch other people's belief systems,

you're going to challenge people because you will be doing things

that they themselves would never do.

Or don't have the guts

to do

and that's the hard part. to still keep pushing for your

dreams and to still believe in yourself when other people that

you love and used to look up to

and want the approval from

don't give you the support that you need.

So I'm here to tell you that if you are the person who's

listening and

presently struggling

because you don't feel supported

this

means that you need to talk more about your desires and dreams to

people that can hear you to people who have done what you

want to do in the future, before you

people who are on a similar path.

And those people will be excited to hear about your story, they

will be excited to support you. And you will be able to acquire

the tools and the skills to get closer to your dreams to your

purpose.

And first, you will not receive the support from your parents or

from your siblings or from your friends or whoever it is who's

not supporting supporting you right now, but you desperately

want it.

But there will come a point. And sometimes it's at the very end,

sometimes it's after people pass.

But it shouldn't matter. This is what I'm here to tell you that

sometimes people will realize, oh my god, he actually is a

beautiful artist, he actually is putting his energy into

something I totally Yeah, have difficulties to align with,

identify with, but he's bringing value

to society. And now I get the message.

So sometimes people will net need time

to support you down the road, sometimes they will never really

support you. The important thing is that you free yourself from

needing that approval, that you free yourself from weird

conclusions that you've made down the road about yourself

that you're not worthy that you're not deserving, that you

are not good enough.

And then go ahead,

clear your mind

and pursue your dream. And along the way, meet the people that

are in direct alignment with your dream. Because if you're

excited, if you're passionate about something, if you express

your desires, to somebody who can relate to it,

they will open doors, they will help you, they will see that you

have something to share. And you need to find an outlet you need

to channel that energy out so that everybody can see it and

benefit from it.

If you do not pursue your dreams, if you do not get into

alignment with your purpose, because you want the approval of

people,

you will end up and suffering because you are meant to shine

your light.

And you are meant to pursue your purpose to benefit humanity.

And if you shy away, if you feel that belonging is more important

than living your authentic life.

I've learned that

I hate to use the word but you will get punished for it. You

will get punished with

feeling not enough feeling inauthentic. And sometimes when

we feel these feelings for too long, we become depressed

taking a deep breath here because this

episode is like such a sweet spot when it comes to my work

when it comes to my passion.

And I've suffered for so long.

And I'm really hoping that I can give you the tools for a little

shortcut. You know, I get it. Every person has to go through

their pain and suffering and grow at their own pace. But

there is something inside of me that really truly hopes that if

you hear that message

that you can suffer a little less long than I did.

It took me a day

Qaid if not more, and if it just takes you one year or two, to be

ready to receive this message, then I feel good about it

already. If it doesn't take you 12 years.

I hope this all makes sense to you. I hope

I can connect with you down the road and you can share your

story with me. And this is an episode that was requested.

And I hope I was able to Yeah, deliver, never hesitate to

request an episode from me and I'll do my best to serve you.

And if you feel like you need a little bit more specific

inspiration, empowerment, then book a coaching call with me.

The first 60 minutes are for free. And my clients

like can confirm that after two sessions at times, they were

able to make significant changes in their lives that will help

them

for the rest of their lives. I'm not wanting to wanting to make

you dependent on me. I'm one to truly empower you and liberate

you.

So yeah,

this was it for today. I'm very excited to publish this one and

I will be out there very soon again. take really good care of

yourself.