1 00:00:01,370 --> 00:00:05,166 Hello, and welcome to the traveling Introvert. Today I want to 2 00:00:05,188 --> 00:00:08,670 talk about communication and 3 00:00:08,740 --> 00:00:12,414 communication with confidence, but not 4 00:00:12,532 --> 00:00:16,366 necessarily what you're thinking about. You know, have 5 00:00:16,388 --> 00:00:19,502 you ever wondered like some people, when they enter the room, you kind of know 6 00:00:19,556 --> 00:00:23,406 the almost command attention and it's not they might 7 00:00:23,428 --> 00:00:27,078 not even have to speak, therefore it's not the words that captivate. But there are 8 00:00:27,164 --> 00:00:30,962 nonverbal cues. And so nonverbal communication 9 00:00:31,026 --> 00:00:34,546 is really vital in conveying your thoughts, 10 00:00:34,658 --> 00:00:38,386 emotions, intentions, just as much as your verbal 11 00:00:38,418 --> 00:00:41,338 communication. So I want to talk about two sides. I want to talk about sort 12 00:00:41,344 --> 00:00:44,730 of the body language, but I also want to talk about voice modulation. 13 00:00:45,390 --> 00:00:49,126 So with nonverbal, as far as like body language 14 00:00:49,158 --> 00:00:52,334 is concerned, it's a powerful tool, but it 15 00:00:52,372 --> 00:00:56,074 encompasses your posture, gestures, facial 16 00:00:56,122 --> 00:00:59,818 expressions and overall physical demeanor. 17 00:00:59,994 --> 00:01:03,742 And to communicate with confidence, you should pay attention to the following 18 00:01:03,806 --> 00:01:07,634 aspects of your body language. And this is something that I 19 00:01:07,672 --> 00:01:11,374 get told a lot because people assume that introvert 20 00:01:11,422 --> 00:01:14,926 are kind of hunched over and look inward 21 00:01:15,038 --> 00:01:18,598 and have a please don't talk to me vibe. And to some people 22 00:01:18,684 --> 00:01:22,374 that communicates a lack of confidence or lack of wanting to 23 00:01:22,412 --> 00:01:25,350 interact. So when you think about your posture, 24 00:01:25,850 --> 00:01:29,574 stand or sit up straight and convey a sense of openness and 25 00:01:29,612 --> 00:01:33,306 attentiveness, pull your shoulders back. It also works well 26 00:01:33,328 --> 00:01:36,858 for helping you speak better. I don't know if you've noticed that. 27 00:01:36,944 --> 00:01:40,686 So right now I'm currently hunched over and this is the way my voice sounds. 28 00:01:40,788 --> 00:01:44,586 But when I go ahead and open up and stretch, 29 00:01:44,698 --> 00:01:48,414 my voice sounds different. Don't cross your arms because 30 00:01:48,452 --> 00:01:52,282 this is something that signals disinterest or defensiveness 31 00:01:52,426 --> 00:01:56,098 and just be present of that because I know that's something that I do a 32 00:01:56,104 --> 00:01:59,630 lot. Eye contact. Eye contact is this weird thing. People assume 33 00:01:59,710 --> 00:02:03,406 that eye contact, like specific eye 34 00:02:03,438 --> 00:02:07,234 contact, shows good communication and confidence, but it can be 35 00:02:07,272 --> 00:02:11,026 unnerving. And not only that, if you're being asked a question and you're 36 00:02:11,058 --> 00:02:14,134 thinking you looking off to the side does not mean that you are not paying 37 00:02:14,172 --> 00:02:17,190 attention. So I think eye contact is overrated, 38 00:02:18,010 --> 00:02:21,718 but it is important. And then there's your facial expressions. I've 39 00:02:21,734 --> 00:02:25,034 been told personally, I have a bunch of great facial expressions, not 40 00:02:25,072 --> 00:02:28,922 intentional, it's just I don't really hide my feelings. And so your face 41 00:02:28,976 --> 00:02:32,746 is an essential tool for expressing emotions and connecting 42 00:02:32,778 --> 00:02:36,542 with others. So smiling or rolling your eyes, people 43 00:02:36,596 --> 00:02:40,410 know what you're thinking. So just smile genuinely when appropriate 44 00:02:40,490 --> 00:02:44,306 and think about your facial expressions to the tone of the conversation. You 45 00:02:44,328 --> 00:02:48,114 want to convey sincerity and authenticity and the fact 46 00:02:48,152 --> 00:02:51,794 that you're actually listening and then 47 00:02:51,832 --> 00:02:55,394 think about sort of micro expressions. So with 48 00:02:55,432 --> 00:02:58,934 facial expressions, the micro expressions are fleeting expressions that 49 00:02:58,972 --> 00:03:02,726 reveal your true emotion. Learn to recognize and control 50 00:03:02,828 --> 00:03:06,566 your microaggressions and your micro expressions to align them with 51 00:03:06,588 --> 00:03:10,150 your intended message. Hand gestures, 52 00:03:10,650 --> 00:03:14,060 the don't overdo it, but they help to sort of 53 00:03:14,430 --> 00:03:17,180 give more emphasis to things that you are saying. 54 00:03:18,110 --> 00:03:21,354 I know that some people fidget and other people can find that 55 00:03:21,392 --> 00:03:24,942 distracting, but if that what works for you to keep you 56 00:03:24,996 --> 00:03:28,510 attuned and what you're doing, do that body 57 00:03:28,580 --> 00:03:32,142 alignment. Make sure when you're speaking to a group conversing that you face 58 00:03:32,196 --> 00:03:36,018 the audience or the person that you are interacting with directly. It shows that you 59 00:03:36,024 --> 00:03:38,770 want to be actively involved in communication. 60 00:03:39,670 --> 00:03:42,770 And then there's sort of mirroring. 61 00:03:44,550 --> 00:03:48,354 You'll mirror the body language of the person you're speaking with. This can help build 62 00:03:48,392 --> 00:03:52,134 rapport and create a sense of connection. It is something that you don't realize is 63 00:03:52,172 --> 00:03:55,718 being done or the other person doesn't realize is being done. But 64 00:03:55,804 --> 00:03:59,430 we tend to really appreciate when someone is mirroring us and that 65 00:03:59,500 --> 00:04:02,586 goes for the same with your voice. If you're talking to someone who speaks really 66 00:04:02,608 --> 00:04:06,442 quickly and does things like that, then if you speak in the same way, 67 00:04:06,496 --> 00:04:10,326 for some reason our minds attune that with oh, this person is 68 00:04:10,368 --> 00:04:13,694 like me and therefore they're fine and they're safe. If you have 69 00:04:13,732 --> 00:04:17,166 someone that speaks with a 70 00:04:17,188 --> 00:04:20,862 more measured tone when you're talking 71 00:04:20,916 --> 00:04:24,586 to them, you should try and match that measured tone 72 00:04:24,778 --> 00:04:27,970 because that for them is what's easy for them to take on 73 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:31,854 information and do that sort of a thing. So there's mirroring in personal appearance 74 00:04:31,902 --> 00:04:35,010 but also sort of in your voice and your modulation 75 00:04:35,350 --> 00:04:39,078 and just being emotionally aware of what you're doing. Self awareness is mainly the 76 00:04:39,084 --> 00:04:42,886 best part of communication and communicating confidently. Be 77 00:04:42,908 --> 00:04:46,454 aware of how you're standing. Are you fidgeting what you're doing? Are you 78 00:04:46,492 --> 00:04:50,098 listening? Are you having an eye contact? Empathy? 79 00:04:50,194 --> 00:04:53,814 With a little awareness and mindfulness you can really enhance your 80 00:04:53,852 --> 00:04:57,654 nonverbal communication skills that allow you to convey confidence in any 81 00:04:57,692 --> 00:05:01,434 situation. Practice and practicing self awareness 82 00:05:01,482 --> 00:05:04,878 is essential and so you need to kind of divert these skills and it's a 83 00:05:04,884 --> 00:05:08,446 muscle that you need to practice and grow. With dedication and attention to 84 00:05:08,468 --> 00:05:12,270 detail you will build your confidence and become a better communicator because of it 85 00:05:12,340 --> 00:05:15,546 by learning about and practicing all these things with nonverbal 86 00:05:15,578 --> 00:05:17,838 communication. Thank you for listening. This is 87 00:05:17,844 --> 00:05:21,694 Janice@thecareintrovert.com helping you build your brand and get hired. Have 88 00:05:21,732 --> 00:05:22,300 a great rest of.