Today, I'm going to share with you my personal creative process. This is a process that I've developed over the course of the last decade. It's helped me transform my life from a struggling drug, alcohol and sex addict living in financial insecurity with a tremendous amount of credit card debt and absolutely no purpose in life, to living a life I absolutely love, married to the woman of my dreams, helping more people than I could ever possibly imagine and transforming the challenges of my life into something that can support others. So this process is something that I've never shared before, but I've had over 10,000 coaching conversations with entrepreneurs and high performers, helping them create extraordinary lives. And I've seen a system of how we can actually use our mind to actually transform our current reality and create a life we love, to have what I call a powerful living experience. And I'm going to break that down for you in today's episode. Welcome to a Changed Mind, a journey into the topics that matter to you most. From the neuroscience and spirituality of mindset and personal growth, to groundbreaking strategies for health, wealth and relationships, to open and honest conversations about pressing global issues such as the environment, censorship, corporate capture, and democracy. Each and every episode reminds us of the certainty of the goodness of the future and provides the teachings, tools and timeless wisdom inspiring you to create real, lasting change in your life and in the world if you've been desiring. A sanctuary for your spirit. A place to go to tune out the distraction, negativity and doom and gloom spirit so that you can tap into the deep power, the vibrancy, and the potential you have inside. You're in the right place. Welcome to A Changed Mind. Hey, it's David. Welcome to a Changed Mind. A sanctuary for your spirit. A place where each and every episode I remind you of the certainty of the goodness of the future. I'm your friend, your host, your guide, David Bayer. So, man, I'm excited for this episode. I'm going to share with you a framework for, as I look backwards, how I've been able to create radical transformation in my own life. If you know my story wasn't more than a decade ago that I was hating my life. Had a tremendous amount of credit card debt, no money in my bank account, two homes in foreclosure, very unclear on my purpose, and I had been single for more than a decade. Now, 10 years later, I'm married to the woman of my dreams. We've created an incredible business that helps a lot of people. We've generated over $40 million in revenue, over the last seven or eight years, I live in my dream home. I now have a two and a half year old son even. Even though I'm almost 50. It's quite biblical. And I want to share with you the principles that have allowed me to resculpt and restructure my life. And this is going to be a very candid conversation, nothing scripted out. When I say that I have restructured my life, what I really mean is how I've been able to co create my life with a power greater than myself. Because nothing that I've created in my life would have occurred if it weren't for the grace of God, the God of my own understanding. But there are mental principles that I've applied, psychological strategies and tactics that have allowed me to be more in alignment with the creative force of the universe and to make requests to that force or that power of what I desire and to align myself with those outcomes. And one of the things that motivated this conversation was working with the high level entrepreneurs that I work with. We predominantly work with entrepreneurs, leaders, high performers who want to learn how to create more powerfully in their lives. And the way that we are able to do that is to teach them our business tactics and strategies, but more importantly, to help them identify the resistance they have to the success they want and transform the resistance. That resistance is always childhood programs, childhood traumas, an upregulation of the nervous system that builds a momentum over time. Basically what people would call our limiting beliefs. And so we have phenomenal technologies for helping people transform their limiting beliefs. Between myself and my coaches, We've had over 10,000 coaching conversations over the last several years. And I see entrepreneurs struggle a lot with their vision in the sense that there's the business that they're operating in today and then there's the business that they envision for the future. And they're not quite sure how to navigate the two, how to close the gap between the two, how much time they should spend on new ideas that show up versus spending time on the business that's already there and really navigating that shift. And I think that's a metaphor as well. For even if you're not an entrepreneur, not the business that you have today, but the life you have today and the life that you want in the future, how do we create this transition? And so one of the things that I would suggest from the beginning is that desire is the catalyst for all change. So all change begins with a desire to want something new. And so I want you to think for a Moment about what you want. Sometimes when I ask people what they want, they have a hard time. Some people say, I want to have more money. I would say, okay, great. Well, what does that really look like? I want to have a million dollars in the bank. Okay? I want to have a career I love. I want to be well compensated for what I do. Maybe you're like me. Having been single for 10 years, I wanted to find my soulmate. So that's what I wanted. That was my desire. Maybe you want to feel healthy again because you've been experiencing chronic pain. Maybe you don't want to have anxiety, meaning you want to feel peace. See, we can use the things that we don't want as a way to actually define what we do want. Because what we do want is almost always the opposite of what we don't want. Maybe you want to discover your purpose. You don't want to feel lost in life. Maybe you want more friends. Maybe you can even be more specific. You want to have really extraordinary relationships with really amazing people. So these are our desires. And our desires come out of seeing things that we like that other people may be experiencing in their reality. Our desires also come out of, again, the opposite of experiencing what we don't like. So experiencing what we don't like, or what we would call problems is necessary because it helps to catalyze a focus on what we do want. I don't want to experience financial insecurity and be worried about my rent. Therefore, I do want financial prosperity and abundance. So desire is the catalyst for all change. Could even argue in the beginning that God wanted to know more of God's self. And out of that desire, boom, we had the big bang and the diversification of physics and chemistry and biology and all of the life forms in the world so that God could have a better knowing of himself or herself. But desire started it all. If you look at Joseph Campbell's the Hero's Journey, he builds this character archetype. He says, hey, great character in any story follows the structure of an archetype. And in the very beginning, he describes it as boredom with the status quo. We get bored with something and we have a desire, a call to adventure. And so your desires are a call to adventure. So we desire you start to have a vision. Now it's very important that you don't kill the vision. You don't get too quickly into the, how do I materialize this vision? Or you don't get too quickly into arguing with yourself around your desire. I'd like to have more Money. But, Dave, you don't understand. My family's come down from generation to generation. Nobody's ever had money. Money's always been scarce. It's always been hard to make. I'm in a situation right now where I've got months and months and months of credit card debt, and I'm never going to be able to get out from underneath it. You can argue with your desire if you want to. My suggestion is, set that aside. Plenty of episodes on this channel where I talk about the fact that you don't need to know the how. Just let the desire sit. Let the desire simmer. Let the desire germinate for a little while. That's really step one. What do you want? And I want to point out as well that a desire is very similar to a decision. So if you desire to be wealthy, you decide to be wealthy. If you desire to be healthy, you decide to be healthy. If you desire a soulmate, you've decided for a soulmate. So I think of desire and decision is almost synonymous. You make a decision and you commit to it, not needing to know the how. And as you do that, as you allow the desire or the decision to germinate, life will start to organize all the cooperative components. How does life do this? Well, number one, life starts to activate thoughts and ideas that you receive. So your brain is like a receiver. And so the desire you have or the decisions that you make, as long as you're not arguing with yourself, if you can maintain that vibration or that state of being, you create a frequency inside of you, a frequency of the desire. And you activate ideas in what you could call the field of consciousness or the quantum field, or if you want to refer to it as God or your higher power, God, starts to transmit back to you thoughts and ideas that become the bridge or the catalyst for taking some small micro actions that over time, if you're consistent with it, will lead you to the outcome that you desire. Your soulmate. More money, better health. So what do I mean by. The universe starts to organize all of the components necessary to produce the result. One way it starts to organize is by sending you ideas. The moment you make a new decision, the moment you're willing to hold a desire without getting in the way of it, without needing to know the how, without telling the story around why you can't have it or resisting it, you start to think differently. You also start to perceive life differently. So you'll start to notice things in your environment that align with the desire or the decision. People will show up. People will say things. Something will flash through your News feed on YouTube or Facebook or Instagram or TikTok and it'll be in alignment with these stepping stones that over time, as you're willing to walk across them, will produce the desired result. There are times where you'll feel inspired to take action and when you take action on that inspiration, it furthers you down your path. Now the important thing here is to stay loyal to the destination and don't check in on your path too quickly. A lot of times the path is winding, it's non linear. We think that the path is about to take us through the door to the destination that we want. But in fact it's taking us to a learning or a teaching or a skill development or a person that we need to meet along the way. And if we become impatient or we judge the path too quickly, we can move back into indecision or undesire and we can kill the formation of the end result. This happened to me early on when I was starting to date again after 10 years of not dating anyone. I would go out on a date with someone, they wouldn't be the right fit and I'd say, oh, see, there's no good ones left. I would undecide. Finally, I stuck to a decision that I made in December of 2012. I decided I was going to meet a beautiful Colombian woman and make her my wife. Two weeks later, I met my wife, Carol. Decisions are very, very powerful and it was through an organization of all of the components necessary to materialize our rendezvous. So that's the other thing that happens is you start experiencing coincidences and synchronicities. I've told the story briefly, but I had a friend who lived in Sarasota. It was his birthday, I wanted to go out that weekend and take him out on his birthday. I went down that weekend, brought another friend of mine who's a critical component to the story because when we were out at a restaurant waiting for our table, I saw these three beautiful women across the way. And my buddy who I brought with me said to me, I always feel uncomfortable in these situations. And I said, why? He said, I get nervous talking to women. Now I had always gotten really nervous talking to women too, but I use it as an opportunity to one up him and said, come on man, it's not that big a deal. Let's go say hello to those girls. And I walked over and one of those three women became my wife, Carol. If it weren't for my friend's birthday in this town and it weren't for my other friend coming with me and expressing that he was nervous talking to women, I never would have met Carol. And yet, what's the probability that I met my wife? 100%. Why? Because it happened. And it happened out of a decision and a desire. Not getting in the way or trying to figure it out, not checking in on it too quickly, why hasn't it happened yet? And creating resistance or friction, but just working with what showed up in my life and being willing to say yes to what felt right. And sometimes you'll say yes to things that don't produce the result. Don't judge those things. They're part of the process. Does that make sense now? How does this relate, for example, to when we've created something? You've created a business, you've created a life. And now your life and your business are tasking you with responsibilities. You need to maintain and nurture the responsibilities of your life or of your business. Yet you still have a vision, don't you? In other words, there's a period of time where we catch up to the vision that we have. Here we are, we're in the vision, but now the vision expands. How do we manage the relationship between the current reality and the future vision? Because a lot of times it feels like there's not enough time. All the time is being used up by my current reality. How do I have time to expand my vision? I'll give you a real life example of this. We have about a $10 million a year coaching company and it requires all of our time. Yet I have a much bigger vision. I have a vision for a multi billion dollar transformational portfolio of companies. I have a vision for a tremendous amount of philanthropy. I have a vision for some AI innovations that I believe are going to tremendously help humanity. I have a vision for a more expanded life where I have even more time with my family. I have a vision for becoming President of the United States at some point. I've shared that on other episodes. So how do I reconcile the responsibilities I have and the time requirement of my now life and continue to expand the vision? That's a good question. I'm glad you asked it. The answer is hold the vision and see what clues start to show up in the present moment. Life will start to bring you clues as to the next order of operations, the next priority. You don't need to figure it out. And this is oftentimes where people become overwhelmed. Man, I've got this big vision, but like, how do I find the time? You don't find the time. The time finds you. The opportunity finds you. The challenge is not that you don't have enough time in your current life or your current business or your current reality. The challenge is that you want more. And that's natural. You should want more. You are always expanding and evolving and growing just like the universe is. We are a part of the ever expanding nature of the universe. Your desire is what is expanding reality itself. We need you to keep desiring. It's totally normal to get to the manifestation of what you've been envisioning for a long time and then want more. That's normal. Have gratitude for where you're at and continue to be a dreamer. That's normal. That's what it means to be a human being. Just as fish were born to swim and birds were born to fly, human beings were meant to to turn nothing into something. We are dreamers that have the power to materialize. So it's built into your system. So continue to dream and notice which parts of the dream start to show up. Because the problem again is not that you don't have enough time. It's that you're worried that you're never going to accomplish the next level of the vision. Check in with yourself. Really. The stress, the anxiety, the overwhelm, the anger. It's a byproduct of thinking that life is getting in the way of life. It's thinking that the life we have is getting in the way of the life we want. It's pretty interesting when you look at it. I heard Eckhart Tolle talk about this once. He said the great kind of cosmic joke of humanity is that we're never actually present to the present moment because we're always trying to get somewhere else. But all we actually have is the present moment. So we never really live. We're always spending our time wishing we were somewhere other than where we are. Even when we are is somewhere we desperately wanted to be at some time in the past. The problem is not your kids aren't doing what you're telling them to do. That might be mildly irritating. The problem is you think it's getting in the way of your life. It's getting in the way of your time. You can't get it all done. The problem is not that the marketing campaign didn't perform. The problem is you think that the marketing campaigns may never perform and you may not therefore achieve the vision that you have for your life. So our present moment threatens the reality of our future. Well, geez, we need to reconcile this, don't we? How do we reconcile it? We reconcile it by understanding that your job is not to figure out how to get into the future. The future will find its way into your present moment. I'm going to repeat that one more time. Your job is not to figure out how to get into your future vision. Your future vision will find its way into your present moment. And you're more likely to notice it and allow it. If you're operating from a powerful state, if you're not resisting the present moment, thinking that it should be something different than what it is. And this is probably the root of the mass psychosis that we are all experiencing as human beings. Our present moment is getting in the way of where we want to go. So we're living in this contradiction. And we're living in a continual expression of the sympathetic nervous system, fight or flight. And that's not where we allow the future from, it's not where we create from. But if you get this and you just relax into knowing that you've already done your part, you have a vision for the future, you have the desire, you've decided, you've placed your request. And your job now is to enjoy the present moment as much as possible. And notice what parts of your future begin to show up in your present moment. And then play with those parts. Now you can relax. So I'm waiting, and this is what I would describe as God's will for me. I'm waiting to see what shows up from my future into my present moment. I'm not in a hurry to get out of my present moment into my future. And as something from my future begins to insert itself into my present moment, my present moment naturally and organically changes. There's a new thought, there's a new opportunity, there's a new person, there's a new conversation, there's a new business opportunity, there's a new partnership, there's new resources, it's a new team member, it's a new investor. And so we're just going through life accumulating all of these resources along the way that are intelligently architected to give you everything that you need for now. And then waiting for some aspect of your future to show up again. A thought, an idea, an inspiration. And when you start to push against it and hustle and grind, that's when you are taking on a responsibility that is not yours to take on. When you move into a primal state, stress, anxiety, overwhelm, anger, jealousy, comparison, procrastination, indecision, self sabotage, you start to Check out through drinking or drugging or pornography or social mediaing or you're raging or controlling or whatever you're coping mechanism du jour is. That's a sign that you are trying to push into a future that is not ready for you. Enjoy your present moment and allow the future to insert itself. For me, this was profound to understand. Am I perfect at this? Hell no. This is an integration. This is a practice. This is a new nervous system I'm building. I'm building David 3.0. And every time I forget, remembering is a new rep in the direction of my new nervous system and my new life. So forgetting is part of the process. I hear people often say that they're no good at meditation because they notice that they're having monkey mind. Again, I'm like, but the noticing that you're having monkey mind is success in meditation. That's the entire practice of meditation, noticing your monkey mind. Because when you're noticing your monkey mind, you're not being your monkey mind. So when you fall back into the older version of yourself and you're pushing into your future and you're stressed and you're anxious and you're overwhelmed and you notice it. Congratulations. And you can notice it within the container of the wisdom of this conversation, because this conversation is the truth. It's how it works. I wish they would have taught me this in fifth grade. One of my desires is that we will teach fifth graders this very soon. But in this way, you're in flow in life. In this way, you're part of the ever expanding organic evolution of reality. And you are playing your role. You are having desires, you are placing requests, you are facilitating part of the process in a natural way that doesn't create wear on tear on your mind, your body or your spirit. And as you're patient with this process, you can create an empire. The empire is the full expression of you. That's the kingdom. The kingdom is the full expression of you taking your rightful place on the throne or queendom. And so this is achieved again, not through manipulation, not through control, not through hustle and grind or pushing, not through manipulation, but through continuing to dream and not extinguishing the flame because it hasn't happened yet. By not needing to know the how and allowing it to unfold, by knowing that God or the universe or your higher power will put the pieces in place in you or through you or in front of you for you to work with. And as you take micro action on a one day at a time basis, you'll close the gap between where you are and where you want to be. And guess what? When you get to where you want to be, there will be another where you want to be. And you allow that future to insert itself into your present moment as well, while enjoying the present moment. And this is why I think Jesus said, my yoke is easy. Because in the sense, you get to have it all. You're like, wait a minute, Dave, you're telling me my business plan to achieve the vision I have for the future is to enjoy my life? Now, you heard it here first. One of the Davidisms that I like to try to remind myself of is like, to have a bank account you love, love the bank account, you have to have a body you love, love the body you have to have a relationship you love, love the relationship you have. And to have a life you love or a business you love, love the life and business you have. Enjoy what you have right now, knowing that it is law that more is coming. And in that relaxation, you'll notice what parts of your future insert themselves into your present moment, and you'll have the capacity to intelligently work with them. Super simple, right? But super elegant. And I'm so grateful to be able to see it. I mean, like, you're hearing this from a guy who is so screwed up. That's not the right language, right? I wasn't screwed up. I was in my own journey. But it was a far distant cry from the David I am today, 10 years ago. And I look at my life right now and I say, hey, wherever you are right now in your Life, just know 10 years from now can be radically different. And you know what? You don't even have to wait 10 years, because along the way, it's a beautiful journey, too. Yeah, I've got millions and millions and millions of dollars in my bank account. I live in my dream home, and I've got a lot of help and I'm helping a lot of people. And I've got a podcast a lot of people listen to. And it took 10 years. But you know what? One year in, things got a lot better, too. Two years in, I had money in my bank account, no credit card debt, and I started dating my now wife. So it's not as if you have to hold your breath for 10 years to change your situation. And you know what? It's not linear. As I mentioned before, the path is going to take some twists and turns. So just be patient with it and be patient with yourself. You're going to have some good days where you're playing the game really, really well and you're going to have some days where you really suck at the game. But it's like when I played basketball, it's like you have to suck at the game and then watch the tape to see what happens so that you can improve your game and run better plays. Part of the process. So I think the thing that I'm saying in all of this is like there's no problem and nothing ever goes wrong and there isn't a circumstance or situation that you could be in right now that can't be alleviated through the application of what we're talking about on this episode. So I hope you loved it. As much as I enjoyed sharing it with you, I enjoy being on this journey with you. Thank you. It gives me an opportunity to remind myself of things that I need to hear while I share it with you too. Because man, I'm ever learning and growing too. It's an honor to be on this journey with you. I love you very much. And if you're listening on the audio platforms and you haven't yet, do me a favor. Subscribe. Would you leave me a rating or review? Would you insert into my present moment a beautiful rating on itunes or Spotify that I get notified of and get to read over my morning coffee? Would you do that for me, please? That would be amazing. Let's pull that wonderful review from the future into my present moment. I love seeing those. And if you're following along on YouTube, where I know most of you are, leave me a comment. Let me know what you think. Let me know what questions you have. Let me know what resonates with you. If you haven't yet, subscribe to the channel. I love that hit the bell icon so you get the notifications and share this episode with a friend. If there's somebody who you feel like needs to hear this. So grateful for this time we're able to spend together. Love you very much and I will see you in the next episode. Hey, it's David. One more thing. 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