Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm so grateful to

be spending some time with you today. Today I want to send out

my love to Danny, Daniela in Germany with her sweet little

baby Madalena, I care about you so much, and to know that he

will be listening to me, makes me feel so good and connected to

you. And I want to send out my love to Emily, my dear friend

from France, again in Fernie British Columbia, now. You are a

gem. I love you so much. And I'm excited to see you again. In

spring, hopefully, when Corona allows us Yes, and hello to

everybody else who's listening. Thank you so much for supporting

my podcast for sharing for writing reviews rating, or just

clicking the play button. It means tons to me. Today I want

to talk about rejection. rejection is part of everybody's

life. I think there's not a single person out there who

never experienced rejection, when you have something to say,

a connection to make a gift, an offer a vulnerable statement,

and the person who's listening, the people who are listening,

reject you. Maybe even guilt trip you or shame you. And,

yeah, it's probably the most painful experience you can go

through emotionally as a human being. And when we're very

small. I remember I said that in my first couple episodes between

age zero, or let's say conception approximately till

age seven. Our brains are like sponges. And we download

everything from our surroundings without questioning. And when we

experience rejection, and that age, at that age, it is scarring

us for life and even afterwards to like when you are in primary

school, high school college and your adult life rejection is a

very, very painful experience to go through. What I've learned

from rejection is that oftentimes we miss interpret,

Miss understand the rejection, we make it about us, we make it

about the very thing that is so dear to us that we were showing,

exposing. And we feel bit bad about us. We seldomly make it

well, the other person when we feel rejection. I don't know why

that is. But what I learned is that a lot of times, it has

nothing to do with you and what you have to offer and everything

to do with the other person. It can be a job interview, or can

be a romantic relationship. It can be a friendship, it can be

your parents. If you offer them something that is challenging

their beliefs, that is triggering fear deep inside of

them, that makes them feel uncomfortable. A lot of the

times people don't communicate that they react with harsh

rejection. And that is what we receive and are left with. Take

me for example, I'm a physiotherapist in Germany. I

used to be no I'm a personal trainer but I can't work because

of Coronavirus. I'm a podcaster now, but take personal training.

You can only expect your clients to call you back if they are

really willing to get

better.

And a lot of people reach a point with me where they feel

comfortable and yeah that's good enough but i'm actually about to

leave my comfort zone there with you and i don't want to go down

that road so i'm not going to call you back this is not what

they're going to communicate to you they will just not call you

back because you challenged them and they just don't want to feel

that way so what i want to say with that is that a lot of times

we make the other person feel a certain way that we're not aware

of and this is what they're pushing away they are of course

pushing you away to because you come with that feeling that you

helped to bring out inside of them but now i lost my train of

thought all this to say when someone doesn't want to services

when someone doesn't want to be around you it has nothing to do

with you except if you are reckless so of course it has a

lot of a lot to do with them and where they are standing with

their growth with their work on their past their shadow work if

you want to call it that way and you should just keep going out

there and find people that match what you have to offer and trust

me there's even a market out there for rainbow colored toilet

paper so whatever you have to offer it can only be more

exciting than rainbow colored toilet paper and then please

don't let your anxiety and fear of rejection hold you back if

you want to become a coffee roaster and you're working as a

physiotherapist right now and have three kids at home well

thank you we need your there we need good coffee i'm a coffee

addict don't think that you can follow your dreams because your

family didn't go down that road in enterpreneurship or your

family doesn't even drink coffee there's enough people out there

who need you to be there to roast coffee opening a store

following your your career in other ways is so important that

you follow your intuition your dream and don't think of what

your dad is going to think about it or your mom because if you

have genuine intentions that come from the heart then why

should you hold back only because they have different

values and belief systems and they can only cheer you on if

you are an athlete or a veterinary or an accountant man

that's bullshit we need you out there with your passion with

your gift and recklessly re showing off what you got to

offer that topic rejection is a huge one for many many people i

know that's why this is not the last episode i want to post

about this for now my message is see where you are still scared

of being rejected is it in romantic relationships are you

still too insecure of who you are or is it your job interview

maybe you're applying for a job that you don't really want then

yeah you deserve to be nervous because you don't really want

that job you really have to go out there and pursue the stuff

that you are passionate about because life is not gonna just

offer you something half acidly you have to be vulnerable you

have to be okay with being rejected if it is the thing that

you truly want then there will come a point where people will

give you feedback and need you and want you and the other

people will either regret that they rejected you at some point

in your life or they will just say yeah that was not in

alignment with my values and that person is not

good for me because she or he is challenging me too much and

that's okay too people have the right to reject you but you have

the right to not take it personally, and to keep

searching for those people out there who need what you have to

offer. Thank you so, so much for listening. I love my listeners,

endlessly.

Your support is so wonderful and Everyday I'm excited to post

something new for you. So take really good care of yourself and

I'll be back tomorrow. Bye