Ep29
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[00:00:00] Speaker 14: Hello lovelies and welcome to this week's episode. We're going to be talking about all things Sunday Fun Day, my favorite Eurovision. It's love or hate. I'm in the love camp, obviously. Join us for some family fun. Cheers.
[00:00:13] Speaker 15: Bye.
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[00:00:41] Speaker 9: Anyway, episode 29.
[00:00:44] Speaker 2: Jeez, 29, almost at 30.
[00:00:48] Speaker 9: Yeah,
[00:00:48] Speaker 9: hopefully we work out the podcast set up by episode 30,
[00:00:53] Speaker 2: Maybe. I'm thinking Buy
[00:00:55] Speaker 2: a Hyundai. Yeah, then we'll be like, have it down. You may notice if you're watching the video, different setting, we've mixed it up for the like, fifth, sixth time now?
[00:01:06] Speaker 9: Yeah. We're now in a very boring room.
[00:01:08] Speaker 10: still
[00:01:09] Speaker 2: the same room.
[00:01:10] Speaker 9: Well, yeah, sorry. But you see more of it instead of just our face.
[00:01:13] Speaker 2: You will see this room getting a glow up throughout the episodes, because this is my
[00:01:18] Speaker 9: The episode is, I didn't realize we were doing that.
[00:01:20] Speaker 2: I'm going to be decorating. Why am I wearing this outfit? I could decorate this the whole way through.
[00:01:24] Speaker 2: No, because this room is our spare room, and it's going to become Bubba's room.
[00:01:29] Speaker 10: Yeah.
[00:01:30] Speaker 2: So, I'm going to start to do it up ready for her to move up into it. next year, but I figure wanting another Bobby, I don't want to leave all my DIY to when I'm pregnant again. Then you get annoyed that you have to do DIY.
[00:01:40] Speaker 2: So if I get it done now ahead of time, it seems really early, but it means you don't have to do it.
[00:01:44] Anyway, we're meant to be at the fish markets right now, aren't we? Yeah. The fish shop, not fish market.
[00:01:49] Speaker 2: wildlife that we lead.
[00:01:50] Speaker 2: yes, as we always do a Sunday lunch together as a fam, and this week you've requested fish.
[00:01:57] Speaker 9: Yeah, not real fish though,
[00:01:59] Speaker 2: Like shellfish.
[00:02:01] Speaker 9: I don't really count them as fish, to be honest.
[00:02:04] Speaker 2: Sea creatures.
[00:02:04] Speaker 9: I know they are, like, I think if somebody said, if somebody said to me, I'm eating fish, I would never think
[00:02:12] Speaker 5: think Lobster.
[00:02:13] Speaker 9: lobster, prawn, you know shrimp, crayfish.
[00:02:18] Speaker 9: Yeah. Yeah. I wouldn't think that. Somebody said, seafood, I might, or shellfish, I definitely would.
[00:02:24] Speaker 2: Okay, so they say we're having a seafood dinner tonight. Oh,
[00:02:27] Speaker 9: yeah.
[00:02:27] Speaker 9: Yeah,
[00:02:29] Speaker 2: they'd feel really tired.
[00:02:31] Speaker 2: We had a wild night. We still are watching Eurovision last night.
[00:02:35] Speaker 4: who's, who's
[00:02:35] Speaker 8: your faves?
[00:02:37] Speaker 2: We did really like He was
[00:02:42] Speaker: lasagna.
[00:02:44] Speaker 4: lasagna
[00:02:45] Speaker 9: good. And we had a little game, didn't we? Three outfits. The main, the main three outfits were to go to work in, to wear to a formal family event, like a wedding, christening, you know, those sorts of big
[00:03:01] Speaker 4: dog walk. lastly, dog
[00:03:04] Speaker 9: walk or DIY, you know, there's the more
[00:03:05] Speaker 4: there's more than one.
[00:03:06] Speaker 2: And I threw in one for school drop off.
[00:03:08] Speaker 9: Yeah, and school drop. So four outfits and so we had to pick which ones. So I think I went with baby lasagna for the for the, for the, for the wedding. So the family
[00:03:18] Speaker 2: Although we did also like, Yeah, I thought
[00:03:21] Speaker 4: a
[00:03:22] Speaker 9: that was a good one because you know, there's, there's lots of options there.
[00:03:25] Speaker 4: of options.
[00:03:26] Speaker 9: many options there. What was your, what
[00:03:29] Speaker 2: can't actually remember the countries they belong to often, that's the issue. So I'm sort of saying, you know, that one with that outfit.
[00:03:33] Speaker 9: Don't worry, I'll go so pro on it. I'll get them all up on the
[00:03:37] Speaker 2: As I said, there'll be a little picture that pops up.
[00:03:39] Speaker 9: Probably won't.
[00:03:40] Speaker 9: give up on that.
[00:03:41] Speaker 2: Dog Walk, I said the little, la la la la la.
[00:03:44] Speaker 10: La
[00:03:45] Speaker 9: Oh yes, Armenia.
[00:03:46] Speaker 2: Armenia.
[00:03:47] Speaker 2: that was it.
[00:03:48] Speaker 9: it. Really? I would have thought that would have been a wedding outfit. Tic
[00:03:52] Speaker 2: No, no, no. Too casual, too casual a wedding
[00:03:55] Speaker 9: I can quickly get them up.
[00:03:56] Speaker 2: Whereas was it,
[00:03:58] Speaker 2: who was it that wanted to work the goldie outfit with the knee pad heels?
[00:04:04] Speaker 2: I love Eurovision. I've got you into it ever since we've been together.
[00:04:08] Speaker 8: Yes.
[00:04:08] Speaker 2: I've always watched it. I am a lifelong fan of Eurovision. I love. How cheesy and ridiculous it is. Next year we're going to try and remember to organise a party. Because we keep saying we're going to do it every year. But next year I think we definitely should.
[00:04:23] Speaker 2: When I was younger I had a friend, and we sort of just did it every year. And as we got a bit older we'd always do like, a different drink for each country. And we'd try and do the drink of that country, and if not we'd just go with vodka. And her stepdad used to travel a lot for work, so he had loads of like weird liqueurs.
[00:04:36] Speaker 2: And it was just disgustingly messy. Because there's like 27 countries, so it's like 27 drinks you're having.
[00:04:43] Speaker 9: Yeah, what I would say about this year's one is I wasn't too happy with the amount of fucking around with the camera they
[00:04:49] Speaker 2: my God, if you, if you are like sort of light sensitive , you would been absolutely screwed. They'd occasionally do like a warning, like this one comes with strobes, but they didn't do it for every single one, and nearly every single one was like,
[00:05:04] Speaker 9: it was real intense if they gave you a warning.
[00:05:07] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[00:05:07] Speaker 9: Oh, yes. Where did, where did Ireland's Goff Barbie or Barbie, Barbie, Bambi Thug, that
[00:05:15] Speaker 2: That was it, Bambi Stalker, not Pixie Vampire, whatever my dad thought she was called.
[00:05:19] Speaker 9: Yeah, where did that fall for you? Bambi Thug's outfit.
[00:05:22] Speaker 2: I think that's probably
[00:05:24] Speaker 9: I think that's probably my school drop off. His, his, his take on it. No one's gonna, not gonna get any, PTA mums, giving me any grief there, am I?
[00:05:33] Speaker 2: that's true. Although I think those nails could be really handy for the gym.
[00:05:38] Speaker 9: gym. The gym? We've added
[00:05:40] Speaker 2: Well, you said practical. I was just thinking
[00:05:41] Speaker 9: attacking. Oh, okay. Okay. Yeah
[00:05:43] Speaker 9: let's fucking weird twin brothers, they can
[00:05:49] Speaker 2: it's exactly what you want, isn't it? Your original. I think there's a lot of good euro stuff this year.
[00:05:54] Speaker 9: going through
[00:05:54] Speaker 4: finish going
[00:05:55] Speaker 9: the fucking outfits, because otherwise it's really impossible to edit, because I have to keep jumping in and out of shit, so Let's just do the bit. There you are, you're just talking general and then we have to do the come backwards and forwards.
[00:06:08] Speaker 9: Windows 95, man. I think that's my dog walking outfit.
[00:06:12] Speaker 2: walking out there. Oh, no
[00:06:15] Speaker 9: Yeah, Mr. No rules. Those short shorts. Yeah, that's definitely mine.
[00:06:21] Speaker 2: of when we were in Bulgaria.
[00:06:23] Speaker 9: And then during the winter I can wear the other version with the denim coat.
[00:06:27] Speaker 4: It's true.
[00:06:27] Speaker 9: I'm covered all, because then I still got my short shorts on.
[00:06:30] Speaker 2: Also, what I think is really handy, it's got so many little layers on it that, that, that, I mean, if you've got a bit of baby shit, you can wipe it with that or,
[00:06:37] Speaker 9: yeah, it's basically a load of flannels in one.
[00:06:40] Speaker 2: very practical.
[00:06:40] Speaker 9: Oh, and we can't forget the Switzerland one. That one. Hmm. When am I wearing that? I feel so what? I've got my, I've got my dog walking. It's gotta be work. That's all that's left. I'm wearing, I'm wearing that to work then.
[00:06:56] Speaker 2: mean your work's not practical so you can go really out with your work, can't you? I
[00:06:59] Speaker 9: for the work.
[00:07:00] Speaker 9: I could,
[00:07:01] Speaker 2: Would you get fired for wearing a weird outfit, do you think?
[00:07:04] Speaker 9: I think I'd be more likely to get fired because people would think that it's insulting.
[00:07:10] Speaker 2: than they're taking the piss out of someone
[00:07:12] Speaker 9: did think that I'm taking the piss out of trans people if I rocked up in that, and then I'd probably get fired because of that.
[00:07:17] Speaker 2: That's true.
[00:07:18] Speaker 9: I don't, like
[00:07:20] Speaker 2: I don't know how my chefs would react if I turned up in that gold outfit.
[00:07:24] Speaker 9: Which, which gold?
[00:07:25] Speaker 3: you?
[00:07:25] Speaker 2: The one that was like the, the knee padd boots.
[00:07:29] Speaker 9: Shit, who was that again? It was a woman, wasn't
[00:07:32] Speaker 4: She wasn't, that wasn't,
[00:07:34] Speaker 9: it a woman?
[00:07:35] Speaker 4: it was a woman.
[00:07:36] Speaker 9: Was it this lady?
[00:07:38] Speaker 2: it might have been,
[00:07:40] Speaker 9: The knee pad boot. Yeah, well there's some good outfits, so let's see. So I'm going with Switzerland for my work outfit.
[00:07:48] Speaker 5: Mm-Hmm.
[00:07:49] Speaker 9: It's going to get them looks, it's going to get me promoted, definitely. Then I'm going to go with Windows 95 Man for my dog walking outfit. It's covering me summer and winter with that coat. Then I'm going with Baby Lasagna for my wedding or family event outfit. And
[00:08:10] Speaker 4: School drop off?
[00:08:10] Speaker 9: The school drop off, oh yeah, Bambi Thug. There's a
[00:08:16] Speaker 10: dog walk, be
[00:08:18] Speaker 2: la la la
[00:08:19] Speaker 2: la! Yep. Then
[00:08:23] Speaker 2: I mean, we can't forget Spain.
[00:08:25] Speaker 8: Oh yes, Fanny out Spain.
[00:08:28] Speaker 2: Oh. Spain, I might do family. That might be my family
[00:08:31] Speaker 9: Yeah, Fanny out.
[00:08:32] Speaker 2: Fanny out for
[00:08:34] Speaker 9: Fanny out for family, everyone knows that. I don't think, I don't think I'll be wearing the bloke's outfit
[00:08:39] Speaker 2: Oh, I thought that was gonna be all school drop off.
[00:08:42] Speaker 9: It could be, it could be to be fair, that's quite an outfit. Again, the PTA mums will leave me alone with that one.
[00:08:49] Speaker 9: I don't know how I'd feel with thigh high boots though.
[00:08:52] Speaker 2: Might quite like it.
[00:08:53] Speaker 9: Might do.
[00:08:54] Speaker 10: Gown.
[00:08:54] Speaker 2: the gold outfit is for my work. Because it's practical, you know. Wipe down.
[00:09:00] Speaker 4: pads. Yeah.
[00:09:02] Speaker 9: the floor, you
[00:09:03] Speaker 4: Scrubs
[00:09:04] Speaker 9: Scrub some fucking tartar sauce off the floor. Who the fuck was it? Oh oh yeah, it was, it was Nutsa Bazzalada. It was this lady, wasn't
[00:09:15] Speaker 4: Yes,
[00:09:17] Speaker: it was.
[00:09:17] Speaker 9: Yeah. Yeah. 'cause she was wearing basically marigolds but very gold marigolds as well. Yeah,
[00:09:23] Speaker 4: handy.
[00:09:24] Speaker 2: Okay, so those are my What else have I got left?
[00:09:27] Speaker 9: So you've done dog walk, you've done work.
[00:09:29] Speaker 2: family.
[00:09:30] Speaker 9: What did you do for family? You did? Spain. Spain. Oh, Spain's for family.
[00:09:34] Speaker: Yeah, funny enough, family.
[00:09:35] Speaker 4: You've
[00:09:35] Speaker 9: got, school drop off left
[00:09:37] Speaker 2: Okay, school drop off. Ooh. Maybe I'll go for one of the tuxedos with the arms out. Just look like a real power dressing for school drop off, you know. Don't fuck with me. I ripped the sleeves off my tuxes.
[00:09:48] Speaker 9: You haven't. Elbows cut out or elbows still in? I'm
[00:09:52] Speaker 2: I'm gonna go for the one arm.
[00:09:53] Speaker 4: go for
[00:09:54] Speaker 9: for the one arm.
[00:09:54] Speaker 9: You're gonna go for shorter one length on the, on the top than the other or? Yeah, yeah. It's important that. I for
[00:10:02] Speaker 2: take the instrument with me as well.
[00:10:03] Speaker 9: Oh yeah. That they definitely weren't fucking playing that. They were running up and down. There's no chance of playing some sort of weird violin.
[00:10:10] Speaker 9: Say weird, that's very insensitive. Traditional violin. While running up and down. Screaming at each other. Like a group of angry dads in the
[00:10:18] Speaker 4: it was, it was such
[00:10:19] Speaker 2: a, they said it was like a stag dude got out control, and that was absolutely what it was, did look
[00:10:23] Speaker 9: look like second wedding stag do. Out of
[00:10:27] Speaker 2: like mid,
[00:10:27] Speaker 9: Two, two, two second wedding stag do's have met each other in a bit of a, you know, an O'Neil's. Or something, you know, or a Yate.
[00:10:38] Speaker: Or Spoonz.
[00:10:38] Speaker 9: Not so much. Spoons and no music. I feel like there's got to be a little bit of music to let it go out of hand. Because, because you don't quite hear each other properly, the music cheesy up a bit. Somebody's, you know, maybe starting to dance and bumps into someone because they're too drunk. And then
[00:10:55] Speaker 9: And then you've got the Ukraine, Eurovision, that's how it was born. There are actually two competing stag do's of middle aged dads.
[00:11:03] Speaker 2: as there's
[00:11:06] Speaker 9: this, guys. Um, okay, so
[00:11:09] Speaker 2: keep fucking winning this game. Ah, yes. Uh,
[00:11:16] Speaker 9: A bit stressful, because I've had training stuff that I need to do in the evening for, a volunteer charity for a listening helpline and so there's lots of training to do in the evenings for that and then, it's been a bit of a change with her. Sleeping better now at night, which is great.
[00:11:35] Speaker 9: She now naps less in the day. And so I kind of got used to a bit of a routine of, you know, we come back from the dog walk, she sleeps for an hour to an hour and a half, if you're lucky. Then she's awake till about one o'clock, then she falls asleep, and then four o'clock she has a quick like half hour, and then she goes down to bed at seven.
[00:12:01] Speaker 9: Now, because she'll sleep from seven, then wake at like once for a feed, then go back to sleep, she's getting like eleven hours sleep. Well no, ten, because she gets up at six, so. Let's take an hour off for the feet. She's getting like 10 hours at night and so it's really hard to work out. So going back to your question you asked me this morning.
[00:12:23] Speaker 9: Oh, she's staring. You asked me this morning, is there anything that's kind of changed that's, you know, got me frustrated or whatever? I think I struggle with the fact that just as I get used to something, she then changes. And I just find it quite hard to just constantly, you know, I suddenly get into a bit of a rhythm, change.
[00:12:43] Speaker 9: Get into a bit of a rhythm, change.
[00:12:45] Speaker 9: Well, right on cue she woke up and proved our point that it's a lot more difficult now 'cause she doesn't, she doesn't need those sleeps as much, she's kind of choosing. When and how she wants to sleep. so Now I have to sit her down next to her. So we probably don't have that long to now do the rest of the episode.
[00:13:05] Speaker 9: So, start
[00:13:06] Speaker 2: Well, often actually, this is a good time of the day.
[00:13:09] Speaker 4: time
[00:13:10] Speaker 9: of the day, but she eventually gets a bit bored of being ignored.
[00:13:13] Speaker 2: true, she does. So yeah, I understand the frustration of like, It does feel like, obviously, it's always, it's going to be changing, like, these first year to two, two years, her development's so rapid.
[00:13:25] Speaker 9: Yeah, and then we're going to have another one.
[00:13:27] Speaker 9: I'm just preparing myself for four years of just not being able to have a clue what's going on.
[00:13:34] Speaker 2: I think that's basically it. I think family is a bit chaos.
[00:13:37] Speaker 4: We'll see
[00:13:38] Speaker 9: structures and it's just gone.
[00:13:43] Speaker 2: you can't just take the time you want to take to do stuff.
[00:13:45] Speaker 2: Yeah, I think family is chaos and he's kind of got to embrace that, haven't you? Really? That's kind of a lovely part of it.
[00:13:53] Speaker 9: I mean, yeah, it's the rough with the smooth as it were.
[00:13:55] Speaker 9: There are lots of lovely bits and the cost of it is the chaos that comes with it. Some of the chaos is good, some of it's bad, like the fact she's about to pull over all the washing on herself.
[00:14:06] Speaker 9: How about you? How have you found this week? Your sleep's massively improved.
[00:14:11] Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely my sleep's improved. She's been really good with her sleeping, hasn't she?
[00:14:14] Speaker 9: Yeah, how have you, have you got better at not waking even though she's not there?
[00:14:19] Speaker 2: am struggling with is once I have woken it, it's taking me a long time to get back to sleep because my brain's quite busy at the moment.
[00:14:25] Speaker 10: quite busy at
[00:14:26] Speaker 2: And so
[00:14:27] Speaker 8: What, with just work or? I don't think
[00:14:30] Speaker 10: think I've
[00:14:31] Speaker 2: work? I think I've just, just got a busy head at the moment. I think I'm trying to, we're trying to balance quite a lot of things at the moment, so it's just sort of trying to figure out how we do that best. I think that's just life. That's fine. It just, obviously preoc requires my brain.
[00:14:44] Speaker 8: Yeah.
[00:14:45] Speaker 2: You know, I think we're lucky that we have so many things we have to balance, I think that's important to remember.
[00:14:49] Speaker 8: Yeah,
[00:14:49] Speaker 2: If it was easy, it probably would be quite an empty life, in which case that's a bit shit, isn't it? I'd rather have
[00:14:55] Speaker 4: Yeah,
[00:14:56] Speaker 9: mean I think part of me I do want to start removing some of the things out hence
[00:15:03] Speaker 4: that I haven't
[00:15:04] Speaker 9: Why when you talk about like adding things, I'm very hesitant because right now I feel like things need to be removed before anything gets added
[00:15:12] Speaker 4: understand that.
[00:15:13] Speaker 9: and if anything I'd like to remove double the amount of stuff that I before I start adding anything just because I already feel like there's too much and I'd want to give more effort to fewer things rather than, you know, cut an hour out here somewhere and add an hour straight back in.
[00:15:30] Speaker 2: okay, so what do you want to cut out then?
[00:15:32] Speaker 9: do? Dunno yet. I wasn't ready
[00:15:33] Speaker 2: I was just thinking, I can't think of what, there's much that we could cut out.
[00:15:38] Speaker 8: Zelda. I mean, we
[00:15:40] Speaker 2: are looking at getting a cleaner. Very privileged thing to say, we're aware. But that will help. That's, that's, that's, that's something taken out.
[00:15:47] Speaker 9: know,
[00:15:49] Speaker 2: I know like it's not a massive thing for you, like it doesn't stress you around stuff, but obviously it's, but it's, but it's something that I ask a lot of you for, even if, whether you do it or not, it's different, but it's, you know, it's something that's on your brain.
[00:15:59] Speaker 4: on, and
[00:15:59] Speaker 2: so it's something we can go get rid of,
[00:16:02] Speaker 9: But it's not so much, that's not what I mean.
[00:16:04] Speaker 9: It's more that, that's not allotted time. Often when I clean, either try and clean around her or clean with her, or it's time that I know I've got to look after her. So she's already, you know, there's already like eight hours in a day where I'm like, okay, this is Zola time. Can I, can I get some cleaning done?
[00:16:28] Speaker 9: Whiffs all the time, you know, be it doing the dishwasher while she's in the bouncer and it takes me like 45 minutes because every Five minutes I'm dancing with her or something or is it? You know Mopping while she's in the papoose or is it you know, so that's not really not substitutable time
[00:16:50] Speaker 2: Other than that, I don't know what we can get rid of, really.
[00:16:52] Speaker 9: No, I know that's why I said I wasn't ready for the question
[00:16:55] Speaker 9: So I'll have a think on that one. I'll have a think on that one. But yeah.
[00:17:01] Speaker 4: did I say I wanted to
[00:17:02] Speaker: add in? I can't even remember now. That's what I
[00:17:04] Speaker 9: Um, therapy. A couple of therapy. do,
[00:17:09] Speaker 2: had something on this
[00:17:11] Speaker 9: an hour every two weeks.
[00:17:12] Speaker 2: I would like to do couples therapy.
[00:17:14] Speaker 9: And like, as much as I as much as I definitely value it and think it's important, I just, I think that you definitely need to remove more than the time you're going to add, because it's intense.
[00:17:30] Speaker 9: It requires, it's important and it requires focus. And so if you just layer it on top of already feeling a bit stressed, don't think it's going to go well. And so if anything, you want to take out a good chunk of time.
[00:17:44] Speaker 10: I
[00:17:44] Speaker 2: I said, you know, you already do your sort of therapy.
[00:17:47] Speaker 10: Yeah.
[00:17:48] Speaker 2: And so I said, you know, is it worth considering, you do that fortnightly and then the other other weeks we do our couples therapy.
[00:17:55] Speaker 8: Yeah.
[00:17:56] Speaker 2: Cause that way, I know it's not taking more, taking more than you're adding, but at least it's not adding more.
[00:18:02] Speaker 9: Yeah, I mean, my sessions have got a bit stagnant, and so I need to, I need to recon, I need to consider what I'm doing with them anyway.
[00:18:08] Speaker 2: Yeah. And maybe doing it fortnightly will help with that.
[00:18:11] Speaker 9: Yeah. But yeah, I think that's the hardest, the hardest
[00:18:16] Speaker 4: especially for been
[00:18:18] Speaker 9: been the fact that I firstly don't have any structure, and I don't have the ability to just kind of Adam removed things very willy nilly.
[00:18:30] Speaker 4: hear Zoe, time
[00:18:33] Speaker 9: Zoe having a good time in the
[00:18:34] Speaker 4: my car off, running the shit out,
[00:18:37] Speaker 9: throwing shit about screaming.
[00:18:39] Speaker: Yeah, just chatting away.
[00:18:40] Speaker 9: Yeah, I think for me that was the, that's the biggest challenge.
[00:18:43] Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. I think that is a struggle and I definitely struggle with that as well. I think we basically like to be productive and get things done and also just like keep like altering and honing and tuning what we do.
[00:18:56] Speaker 9: do. We're in control of time.
[00:18:58] Speaker 2: Yeah. And that, I think both of us, that's, well, at least I know definitely for me, that's the, that's the thing I found hard sort of becoming a parent. The rest of it, I, you know, not saying it's easy, but either I, you know, I kind of expected it and it hasn't massively impacted our life. Like we weren't Going out and all that stuff loads before, and so that sort of side of things, I'm not worried, it doesn't, doesn't really bother me.
[00:19:16] Speaker 10: me. Yeah. yeah,
[00:19:17] Speaker 2: Like, yeah, if we want to do things, we've just got plans that are more in advance, fine.
[00:19:21] Speaker 10: fine.
[00:19:21] Speaker 10: Yeah
[00:19:22] Speaker 2: but yeah, not being able to, like, being able to just be like, okay, today I want to get this done. And accepting that actually, it might not get done, and that is frustrating, but you've actually just got to be like, fine.
[00:19:31] Speaker 9: But the reason why I don't just say productive is because I'm aware that I waste a lot of time. But I
[00:19:37] Speaker 4: do it now. I
[00:19:38] Speaker 9: and I wanted to waste time. Now, I just don't feel like I can waste time. You know, before I might be like, you know what, fuck it. Today I'm going to spend all morning on the sofa watching X series or whatever, or, you know, I'm going to spend all of Super Saturday watching all three rugby games. It's just not going to happen. It just doesn't happen anymore.
[00:20:00] Speaker 9: And so, you know, I wouldn't, that's why I'm like, not necessarily productive, but in control of the time.
[00:20:07] Speaker 10: can
[00:20:08] Speaker 2: happen. It's just often, I guess we just have to plan our days. We just have to like, on a weekend we say we have one day where we do shit and we have one day where we do fun. One day's our doing day. The difficult thing this weekend is because you were training all day yesterday,
[00:20:23] Speaker 10: yesterday. Yeah.
[00:20:24] Speaker 2: I could get some things done with Zoe, but I couldn't do
[00:20:28] Speaker 9: I think, I think for me that's the big stressor in terms of adding stuff, like, this week I've tried to add two things. I've tried to go to the gym a lot more, so I'm going to the gym four times a week for at least an hour
[00:20:41] Speaker 4: and a
[00:20:41] Speaker: half.
[00:20:42] Speaker 9: Each time.
[00:20:43] Speaker 9: I'm trying to work out when I go today, it's gonna be an hour and a half to two hours at least. And I'm just partly a comfy fuck, because it's, it's an annoying workout, because it's just 30 seconds at home and then 90 seconds off for like two hours, which just feels like a waste of time because. And then,
[00:21:03] Speaker 4: Plus
[00:21:04] Speaker 9: the, you know, the, the list of volunteers stuff means that, it's just going to end up being like you know, I've added.
[00:21:11] Speaker 9: Every week I'm giving up four hours in the morning on the Saturdays, at least. Yesterday it was eight hours. Yeah. And then I'm also then having to do like
[00:21:24] Speaker 4: evening or
[00:21:25] Speaker 9: minutes every evening, roughly, during the weekdays. Yeah, so this
[00:21:28] Speaker 2: you know, when it comes to bed time, I've been putting you to bed every night and you've been, sort of, doing your training.
[00:21:32] Speaker 9: And then I'm also trying to go to the gym four times for an hour and a half to two hours. So that, you know, I think, you know, you said last week, why have I felt frustrated almost every day? I think that would be why I've gone from, I've gone from being able to find those pockets of time when she sleeps, which for me is really important because I like being able to just be like, okay,
[00:21:55] Speaker 4: occasionally, back to being
[00:21:57] Speaker 9: in control of time for the small little sliver that's gone.
[00:22:02] Speaker 9: And then on top of losing that, I've tried to throw loads more things in.
[00:22:06] Speaker 10: Yeah, and
[00:22:06] Speaker 2: And also you're someone who's like, when you like to be solely focused on that one
[00:22:09] Speaker 9: that one thing. Oh, completely. I want no distractions.
[00:22:12] Speaker 2: So it can't be like, you want to do that while sort of like, tending to something else. You have to be like, if I'm in, I'm all in and I'm doing this one thing.
[00:22:17] Speaker 8: Yeah.
[00:22:18] Speaker 2: And I guess you just, that's what's been taken away, the majority of the time.
[00:22:23] Speaker 10: Yeah. That
[00:22:24] Speaker 2: bother me so much. I'm kind of like, as long as I can get it done, I don't mind if I'm, I'm pulled in a few different directions. But that's because my brain works differently to your brain.
[00:22:32] Speaker 4: Yeah, I
[00:22:32] Speaker 9: mean, that was kind of my point on the cleaning,
[00:22:35] Speaker 4: I'm doing,
[00:22:36] Speaker 9: I'm doing, you know, I know, I know I'm not doing anywhere near as much cleaning as you want done or could be done if there was a cleaner. But like the things that I'm doing, I'm doing them
[00:22:46] Speaker 4: when I've got time, than
[00:22:49] Speaker 9: other than sometimes mopping once a week.
[00:22:52] Speaker 9: once every three weeks. It's you know, and I can do mopping with her. It's largely done with her as it were and therefore Just getting someone else to do it doesn't free me free my time because I'm then
[00:23:10] Speaker 2: your time for certain tasks. Do you know what I mean?
[00:23:14] Speaker 9: Well, like which tasks? Well, I mean, I think more what would happen is that it mean that you're not asking me to do it Because currently it's that I don't do it and so it doesn't free my time anyway, because I'm not doing it
[00:23:28] Speaker 2: Well, I guess then it adds all sorts of things that I've got to do.
[00:23:31] Speaker 4: Yeah,
[00:23:31] Speaker 9: you bother doing it, a lot of it just doesn't get done.
[00:23:33] Speaker 2: I mean, I still, I do do quite a lot, don't I?
[00:23:36] Speaker 4: definitely
[00:23:36] Speaker 9: do, but there are tasks, like, for example, you've been asking me to do the windows for the past four or five weeks.
[00:23:41] Speaker 2: Yeah, but I also don't want to become one of those people that asks their partner to do something and then they don't do it.
[00:23:45] Speaker 2: So they just, then they, then they just do it and it becomes this whole
[00:23:47] Speaker 10: No, I'm
[00:23:47] Speaker 9: not saying you should, but I'm saying that there's a natural prioritization that occurs. If I don't do something, you don't do it. And you don't keep asking me, and I don't remember. If those four things haven't occurred, it's obviously not that important. I
[00:24:04] Speaker 10: be
[00:24:04] Speaker 2: not to be a pest as well. I don't want to become, I don't want to be a nag.
[00:24:07] Speaker 4: Yeah, I
[00:24:07] Speaker 9: know, but, like, if you, if you're not sat there going, I don't want to be an egg, but this is really annoying me. It's obviously not important, is how I feel about it.
[00:24:17] Speaker: it. I mean I am doing that in my head.
[00:24:19] Speaker 4: okay.
[00:24:20] Speaker 9: So this comes back to our, we need to have, we have very different
[00:24:24] Speaker 2: Yeah,
[00:24:24] Speaker 9: need to get
[00:24:24] Speaker 2: do have very different prioritizations. But this is also where it's like, if it's something that I can, we can outsource and it's not, you know, we can't afford to do so. I'd rather take that stress off the table because it's never going to be something that you want to do or prioritize.
[00:24:35] Speaker 2: And that's fine. I don't expect it to be.
[00:24:38] Speaker 10: Yeah.
[00:24:38] Speaker 2: Equally, I want it to get done and I don't want to have to do all of it. I don't have time to do all the time. And so if we can outsource it, let's fucking do it.
[00:24:48] Speaker 8: Yeah.
[00:24:48] Speaker 9: let's see, what else has changed?
[00:24:51] Speaker 2: You've had a glow up.
[00:24:53] Speaker 9: Yeah, I have. Yeah, so, because I was going to this training thing, I was like, I should probably sort my fucking, my, my, my hair situation out, so I've cut my hair, quite substantially, shaved, trimmed my beard, dyed it from being ginger.
[00:25:12] Speaker 9: To just normal color and all of, I did all of that in the space of an afternoon
[00:25:17] Speaker: Oh yeah.
[00:25:19] Speaker 4: sudden
[00:25:19] Speaker 9: adjustment for Zoe. So she suddenly didn't realize that it was me and you were out at the gym and I was trying to cook dinner. So I wasn't really able to
[00:25:31] Speaker 4: to
[00:25:31] Speaker 9: tend to her that much because there was hot shit actually going on.
[00:25:36] Speaker 9: I was in the middle of it, it wasn't that I started it and then she just, Decided that it wasn't me and therefore she wouldn't be comforted by me and so it was suddenly just an absolute scream fest Wasn't it? Wasn't it you? You always want to get in on this
[00:25:52] Speaker 5: Mwah!
[00:25:54] Speaker 9: So I was cooking dinner and then you came back from the gym. You found just for me suddenly completely changed but Just trying to palm off an absolute, raw,
[00:26:05] Speaker 4: She was
[00:26:05] Speaker 2: proper
[00:26:06] Speaker 9: shrieking baby.
[00:26:10] Speaker 2: really proper crying, sobbing, just, like, when I took it, she was like
[00:26:14] Speaker 9: Yeah, and I was just, I was there, I was holding her, rocking, stroking her, like, patting her back, stroking her, trying to see, she just wasn't having any of it.
[00:26:23] Speaker 9: We went outside, we did all I think it's probably been the worst that she's kind of been with me, I've never
[00:26:30] Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that's the
[00:26:30] Speaker 2: worst she's cried, ever.
[00:26:32] Speaker 4: Yeah.
[00:26:32] So, that was, that was fun. A little, by product of trying to sort yourself out. Don't
[00:26:39] Speaker 4: yourself.
[00:26:40] Speaker 9: let yourself slip too much that your baby doesn't recognise you.
[00:26:42] Speaker 9: Otherwise you're in trouble. what else then? What's happened with you? You've had your hair henna'd.
[00:26:49] Speaker 2: So, check it
[00:26:52] Speaker 9: So, check out that 4K moustache.
[00:26:55] Speaker 2: But yeah, my week's been alright. I think it's just this week I've been more concerned about you because you've seemed quite down this week.
[00:27:02] Speaker 10: Yeah, I mean That's
[00:27:02] Speaker 2: been more of my concern. Like, I feel like, to a certain degree, I'm into the rhythm of doing this now. Like, I've Yeah, yes, it changes all the time.
[00:27:15] Speaker 2: But I've just sort of accepted that. And like, I don't accept that I can make these grand plans for my week and like, it's never going to go all the way I want it to go anymore and I have to accept like, if I get over 50%, I'm doing pretty well.
[00:27:28] Speaker 9: guess, for me, the problem is, I wasn't happy with the 100 percent before, and so to only be doing 50 percent of what you, to only be able to do 50 percent of what you are after, do you see what I
[00:27:44] Speaker 4: yeah, I mean I
[00:27:44] Speaker 2: wasn't either, but that's, that's also, you know, I could have given more time to it before, so I have to accept that that's on me.
[00:27:51] Speaker 4: yeah,
[00:27:52] Speaker 9: Yeah,
[00:27:52] Speaker 9: I'm not, I'm not blaming her, I'm not
[00:27:54] Speaker 2: No, no, you're not blaming her, I'm just saying, for me, I don't see the point in being upset and angry about it, and that's easier said than done, I have days where I do get frustrated and pissed off and I'm just like, fuck this. But ultimately, I just have to keep reminding myself.
[00:28:10] Speaker 2: My life is chaos and unorganized and, you know, less productive than I want it to be because I've got this lovely thing.
[00:28:22] Speaker 8: Yeah.
[00:28:23] Speaker 10: got us. this family.
[00:28:26] Speaker 2: which at the end of the day is amazing and that's great and lovely. And then I have, I have a life that's so full of love
[00:28:33] Speaker 10: but really
[00:28:34] Speaker 2: everything else is just icing on the cake, isn't it?
[00:28:39] Speaker 4: Yeah.
[00:28:40] Speaker 9: think I'm, you know, I'm too constantly thought, thinking of milestones and outcomes and, you know, I guess, you know, Navel Ravikant talks about it as nexting.
[00:28:55] Speaker 9: Constantly thinking about what's the next thing?
[00:28:57] Speaker 5: thing, what's the next
[00:28:58] Speaker 9: What's the next thing? What do you want to be done so you can do the next thing? Instead of just, you know, being, I guess is, is the way that, what's his name? Dead Boy. Thicknout Han, you know, he talks about the fact that everybody focuses so much on doing, but people don't really focus that much on being.
[00:29:18] Speaker 9: It takes very little to be,
[00:29:20] Speaker 5: takes
[00:29:20] Speaker 9: but everybody wants to do.
[00:29:22] Speaker 2: but to do.
[00:29:26] Speaker 10: much that is are doers.
[00:29:29] Speaker 2: we like the idea of like constantly improving and bettering and
[00:29:32] Speaker 5: if
[00:29:33] Speaker 2: we're not, we're like, well then what are we doing?
[00:29:34] Speaker 2: But I guess at the end of the day, even if we're technically not seeing much method development in us, she is developing and so we are
[00:29:42] Speaker 4: doing.
[00:29:44] Speaker 9: through you, aren't we?
[00:29:45] Speaker 9: Yeah, because I think This is that's,
[00:29:49] Speaker 2: that's what helps me sometimes to kind of get away from the have not been. Improve myself in the past however much time and then I go look at her like now she's sitting up by herself and she's eating
[00:29:59] Speaker 9: Yeah. She's gone from being an absolute fucking blob to actually being able
[00:30:03] Speaker 4: Yeah. And I'm like, that's a
[00:30:04] Speaker 9: solid. She sits up.
[00:30:06] Speaker 2: sleeps through the night almost,
[00:30:08] Speaker 9: through the night. Yeah,
[00:30:09] Speaker 2: you know, that's amazing.
[00:30:11] Speaker 10: Yeah,
[00:30:11] Speaker 2: think that's really easy to forget. But that's, that's incredibly productive.
[00:30:15] Speaker 12: Yeah.
[00:30:16] Speaker 2: We've done that with her as parents.
[00:30:20] Speaker 9: Yeah. There are a lot of triumphs in that. As she smashes the mic.
[00:30:26] Speaker 2: so, I think that's really important to focus on.
[00:30:31] Speaker 2: Maybe we need to start having, do you remember what ages ago we used to do a little thing? Was it the start of the day or the end of the day? we used to do things to each other like, was it like what we were grateful for or something along those lines. End
[00:30:43] Speaker 9: the day, before we went to bed.
[00:30:44] Speaker 2: we need to start doing that again.
[00:30:45] Speaker 9: Yeah, I've always thought about that and thought oh, but it gets in the way of me trying to snuggle you But I guess if I do it with you, it doesn't
[00:30:52] Speaker 2: No, but we can do it while snuggling. It's quite nice to do while snuggling, really, isn't it? Yeah. It's not like you're going, three things I've been really hard to do.
[00:30:58] Speaker 4: well, I
[00:30:59] Speaker 9: always just think that I'm gonna write them down I guess okay So,
[00:31:05] Speaker 2: but we have, on a positive, it may have been hard to do, we have exercised week, which has been good.
[00:31:12] Speaker 9: Yeah, we have, yeah. You're just gonna ruin the audio, baby girl. Just quickly say highs, lows,
[00:31:19] Speaker 4: and then it
[00:31:20] Speaker 9: stands out?
[00:31:21] Speaker 2: we've kind of really covered it from the highs and lows this week. Yeah,
[00:31:25] Speaker 4: we
[00:31:26] Speaker 2: haven't. It just
[00:31:28] Speaker 4: fell. yeah. Thursday, Thursday
[00:31:32] Speaker 9: Thursday I think had most of it for me. So, okay, Thursday, low.
[00:31:37] Speaker 9: So, Thursday anyway, your mum's meant to be coming over, so usually I'm like, fuck, thank you, made it most of the way through the week, now I can chill. Your mum couldn't come over, car troubles, get it. But then, we go out for the dog walk, we, fat, fat boy, had been sick and had diarrhoea, and we're like, ah, fuck, okay, fine, we gotta clean this up, let's just go out for the dog walk, we'll do it when we get back. Now, told him out. We talked previously about the fact that we outsource things because I don't do them. One of the things that I decided to outsource was vacuum cleaning, and I bought one of those little robot vacuum cleaners because I knew that I wouldn't do it as much. I forgot that that was due to go off while we're out in the dark.
[00:32:22] Speaker 9: So, Rhonda the Roborock goes round and just smears shit. All over the place.
[00:32:29] Speaker: And vomit.
[00:32:30] Speaker 9: Yeah. Shit. And vomit. So she goes from being a robot vacuum cleaner to being a, a slurry
[00:32:36] Speaker 4: A dirty protest.
[00:32:37] Speaker 9: what are those, what are those? Shit sprayers,
[00:32:39] Speaker 9: spreader. She goes from being a robot vacuum cleaner to a muck spreader.
[00:32:44] Speaker 9: So go from, so I think that's probably, and then I, I've spent a lot of time cleaning up that too. Spent a lot of time mopping the whole place after that her on me and stuff like that. So That was it was actually kind of good fun in the end doing it with her because it's dancing around just doing the mopping Putting some tunes on so I managed to make that reasonably fun I think my funny is probably, when we were trying to get her to stay awake, I think it was Wednesday night and
[00:33:16] Speaker 5: just
[00:33:18] Speaker 9: kept nodding off like wherever she was.
[00:33:20] Speaker 9: And so I was like, fine, I know what we'll do, run a cold. A cold bucket of water and just kept placing her feet in it and then she'd scream herself awake and then and you just turned to me and
[00:33:31] Speaker 4: you'd just push
[00:33:32] Speaker 9: love she can fall asleep. She needs to fall asleep. Don't torture our child. Just keep it. I just got so single minded on the fact that I was like, I will not lose.
[00:33:42] Speaker 9: She will stay awake, kept in cold water so she couldn't sleep.
[00:33:49] Speaker 4: sleep. Yeah.
[00:33:50] Speaker 9: so that was, I think that was my that was my funny. And then my high, I think we've been trying to get her to drink a lot more. And so me and her had a good fun time trying to do,
[00:34:01] Speaker 4: trying to
[00:34:01] Speaker 9: do like. It's crazy with kids, you've just gotta, you've just gotta try and muster up the energy to turn everything into a game, which is hard for me because I'm very low energy.
[00:34:11] Speaker 9: And had this new thing where we'd like, every time I gave her a water, and she'd tip her water into her mouth, when she stopped I'd go kind of, glug glug glug glug glug water and do like a, an action thing. And, you know, make a big party of it. And so that was That was quite good fun in the end, but yeah, just mustering up the energy to do that all the time.
[00:34:32] Speaker: That's my sleep parenting, isn't it?
[00:34:36] Speaker 9: So I think those are my, those are my highs, lows and funnies.
[00:34:40] Speaker 2: I think probably my low is probably coming back to her screaming her head off. That's pretty horrible.
[00:34:43] Speaker 9: that was,
[00:34:44] Speaker 2: My high would be, I like the fact that she started cuddling me back now. That's really nice. I'll go to, I'll go to pick her up or come for her rather than her sort of just like being a dead weight, kind of, she actually embraces me and hugs me. And like she'll sit, sit on me and she kind of leans her head in like this, rests on me like she kind of like, so it's nice that she's sort of like, she's more active in our hugging.
[00:35:12] Speaker 2: Which is quite, I've enjoyed that and that feels nice. What's my funny bean? I can't think of a funny one right now, so I won't spend ages thinking of one.
[00:35:19] Speaker 2: So, skiddly a pa, this week, ScatChat wise, we don't really have anything. She's still a little bit constipated. It's getting looser. Yesterday she killed a proper Mr.
[00:35:41] Speaker 2: Whippy out, which is good. I think she's just still learning to poo and that's fine. She's still got to learn to poo solos, but they definitely get not as like hard little nuggets like they were. but nothing particularly exciting above that. So we're going to move on to some Gottman stuff. So what are you wanting today?
[00:35:55] Speaker 2: Okay. Here's an open ended question from you, from the What do you want your life to be like in five years?
[00:36:02] Speaker 2: Organised.
[00:36:03] Speaker 9: yeah. The second one
[00:36:06] Speaker 4: years old, and I half
[00:36:08] Speaker 9: years old
[00:36:10] Speaker 4: And once
[00:36:11] Speaker 9: to them being at school.
[00:36:12] Speaker 4: school,
[00:36:13] Speaker 9: And then I can, once they're at school, I can have, I can have structure back. I can have structure! Precious fucking structure! ha. Let's see, wave a blanket to try and keep her entertained.
[00:36:26] Speaker 4: see.
[00:36:27] Speaker 9: Yeah, I think, I think if I, you know, As Zobey, Well, obviously not six. The other one, the other one, as you'll be called,
[00:36:39] Speaker: The other one.
[00:36:40] Speaker 9: B3. Yeah. And, you know, as though they've started school.
[00:36:46] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[00:36:47] Speaker 9: The other one being nursery, and it start being like, Okay, this is, because I think I just find this bit is just, It's just so much change so quick. I'm, you know, as we discussed, struggle with it quite a bit in terms of trying to keep myself. Yeah, and so I think, I think in five years time, hopefully they're starting to be more structured and also I've taught them to play on their own a bit more or with each other Because like there's a lot of parents who do say like that this the battle against screens is really hard To not use screens all the time.
[00:37:26] Speaker 9: If you manage it for those sort of first three years You've taught that your kid to be able to play by
[00:37:34] Speaker 4: track. So
[00:37:34] Speaker 9: like you're in forced solo Jenga time Or your grandad would go for a two hour nap and you would just be playing Jenga on your
[00:37:41] Speaker 4: normally, normally
[00:37:42] Speaker 2: I'd watch James and the Giant Peach again.
[00:37:43] Speaker 9: in a Giant Peach.
[00:37:44] Speaker 9: Okay, but fine. These things
[00:37:47] Speaker 4: are
[00:37:47] Speaker 9: are, are those moments of peace, as it were, that, that I think parents, because they're taking the easy road early, they're missing out on later on. Because they have ADHD kids. Some ADHD obviously is natural and born, but I think some ADHD is, not a scientist, I'm making this up to go along, is probably learnt through the fact that you never really had to hold your attention.
[00:38:15] Speaker 9: You've just been blasted dopamine by screens. We'll
[00:38:18] Speaker 10: home platform,
[00:38:19] Speaker 2: fine, we'll get our at home platform, our lifting platform, and then we can lift while the kids lift.
[00:38:24] Speaker 12: this
[00:38:24] Speaker 2: Tie everyone out. They won't obviously be doing proper weights, guys.
[00:38:27] Speaker 2: They'll just be doing like little plastic things. Um,
[00:38:30] Speaker 4: yeah, so find But that's
[00:38:32] Speaker 2: just sort of like one part of your life. Do you see the new that's just Is there anything for the rest of your
[00:38:36] Speaker 4: life that you see in the next five
[00:38:37] Speaker 9: think if I can get that sorted I can do the rest.
[00:38:40] Speaker 4: kind
[00:38:40] Speaker 2: of,
[00:38:41] Speaker 9: just kind of, currently it just seems to be, well, I mean, currently it is all I
[00:38:46] Speaker 4: all I focus
[00:38:47] Speaker 9: know, I'm obviously,
[00:38:48] Speaker 4: You know, I'm obviously, I'm in bed
[00:38:50] Speaker 9: dad right now. Yeah. So, I'm completely out of, Thinking of my career.
[00:38:55] Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I understand that.
[00:38:56] Speaker 9: And so for me, there's nothing, you know, there are drastic changes that I'd like to make, but I don't, I, given that it's not the priority, I don't foresee being able to do them without the structure. And so I just like to progress where I am. an alright pace and just keep things ticking over as it were,
[00:39:17] Speaker 4: Yeah.
[00:39:17] Speaker 9: and then look to make those drastic changes. You know,
[00:39:23] Speaker 4: yeah,
[00:39:23] Speaker 9: if I could make them now and managed to keep up with it while also keeping all the family going, that'd be great, but given what we've spoken about, I don't think I've got the capacity to do so especially without it, you know, maybe I could do it, but it would definitely leak over to seriously affecting family life.
[00:39:41] Speaker 9: And so in terms of the other areas of my life, yeah, I'd probably like to get a bit healthier. Career wise, if I can just keep, you know, maybe where I am, or similar, but progressing. And then family is the key thing, just in terms of getting to the point whereby it's a bit more stable, as it were.
[00:40:03] Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think I'm kind of the same as you. I sort of want to slash accept that the next five years is going to be family. Obviously, I'm not stopping our family after five years,
[00:40:15] Speaker 10: that's it.
[00:40:15] Speaker 2: but that's when
[00:40:17] Speaker 9: takes
[00:40:18] Speaker 2: and hopefully our next child are young and they're at home more and we have that time with them.
[00:40:22] Speaker 2: Once they're sort of both in school. Of course, they're still our priority, but like hours wise, we're with them a lot less and we can focus on other areas of our, of our life. And so, yeah, I think we're both set for the next few years. We'd like to keep progressing at a certain, you know, steady pace. If we're possible in our careers, but the main focus is our family and then after that we can sort of go ham again.
[00:40:45] Speaker 10: Yeah. But,
[00:40:48] Speaker 2: you know, I want us to be a step closer towards our pig farm in five years. Obviously
[00:40:51] Speaker 11: Yeah, yeah.
[00:40:53] Speaker 9: Maybe I need to start working out my mushroom empire.
[00:40:57] Speaker 2: Yeah. I start looking into how I trained to be a pig farmer.
[00:41:00] Speaker 9: pig farmer. Yeah, okay. I've already
[00:41:02] Speaker 4: got the gums. you
[00:41:03] Speaker 9: the gums. So, so is that why you want to
[00:41:06] Speaker 4: is that why you
[00:41:07] Speaker 9: be in five years, similar but close to being a pig farmer?
[00:41:10] Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I think so. I
[00:41:12] Speaker 9: feel like just looking to setting up a farm shop on one of these pig farms.
[00:41:16] Speaker 9: Because there aren't really pig farms nearby, they're just small little enterprises like our ones. Like normally,
[00:41:21] Speaker 2: to, I'd just like to have the whole
[00:41:24] Speaker 9: Yeah, but my point is that if you go work there, you'll learn it.
[00:41:26] Speaker 2: point is,
[00:41:27] Speaker 10: also I've
[00:41:28] Speaker 2: then, so I'll be looking plastic fantastic.
[00:41:31] Speaker 2: Plastic fantastic!
[00:41:31] Speaker 3: Okay, so
[00:41:32] Speaker 9: Blastic fantastic!
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[00:42:00] Speaker 9: Ooh, okay. We've got to guess each other's. What is your partner's favorite holiday? Why?
[00:42:07] Speaker 2: You like Activity.
[00:42:09] Speaker 10: Yeah.
[00:42:10] Speaker 2: Like, so, so like mountain biking or skiing or something like that?
[00:42:13] Speaker 9: that. Yeah,
[00:42:14] Speaker 2: do also like a bit of relaxing? Not much, but not much.
[00:42:17] Speaker 9: not much. Day two max.
[00:42:19] Speaker 2: Yeah. I think we'd like, say you went away for a week, like two days relaxing.
[00:42:23] Speaker 10: Yeah.
[00:42:23] Speaker 2: Five days activity.
[00:42:25] Speaker 8: Yeah.
[00:42:26] Speaker 2: You wanna make sure there's good food. You, you gent like you, you want to eat well on a holiday.
[00:42:31] Speaker 8: Yeah.
[00:42:32] Speaker 2: And ideally have a bit of drinking fun,
[00:42:35] Speaker 9: Sorry, she just, she just jumped into the doorframe.
[00:42:40] Speaker 2: hard.
[00:42:41] Speaker 9: No, not really, I just realised she was going to swing, and so she just knocked her forehead against the doorframe.
[00:42:47] Speaker 4: Now she's,
[00:42:47] Speaker 9: Now she's, now she's blowing bubbles at it. She's giving it the
[00:42:50] Speaker 2: the hack. Maybe we're really happy doing it, it was too yeah, so I think that's, that's your ideal kind of holiday.
[00:42:57] Speaker 9: Okay, for you, You're similar. You like to be active. You don't have any set like activities you really like
[00:43:05] Speaker 2: to do.
[00:43:05] Speaker 2: Skiing. Yes.
[00:43:06] Speaker 9: You do like
[00:43:07] Speaker 2: I've only done it once, but I would like to do more,
[00:43:09] Speaker 4: I'd really enjoy that.
[00:43:10] Speaker 9: and, but I think you like exploring quite a bit, especially food. So I think you're quite into like, if you could almost do like back to back city breaks as a holiday, if that makes sense, like whereby You kind of have two, three days in one city, get like an overnight train, two, three days in another city,
[00:43:33] Speaker 4: city, try
[00:43:34] Speaker 9: the local foods, go to the best restaurants in that place, go to the markets, yeah.
[00:43:38] Speaker 9: That sort of thing. I think it's probably your idea
[00:43:40] Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely like enjoy the culture more than you do generally. So like my deal, like say like your week is like five activity to relaxing. Mine's like three activity, two culture, two relaxing.
[00:43:52] Speaker 8: Yeah. That's
[00:43:54] Speaker 2: kind of my ideal split for a week,
[00:43:56] Speaker 9: Yeah, I do,
[00:43:57] Speaker 2: which I can drag you around. If, if there is food, you're more game.
[00:44:00] Speaker 2: If I was, if I was, I know you're not, but if I, if I'm just like galleries and that sort of things, you kind of like. You can do maybe half a day.
[00:44:07] Speaker 9: Oh yeah, only half a day. I assumed that there was only going to be half a day of galleries before we hit food.
[00:44:12] Speaker 4: Well yeah, I'm
[00:44:12] Speaker 10: There's got to
[00:44:13] Speaker 9: be like, it's got to be like,
[00:44:15] Speaker 2: gotta be
[00:44:16] Speaker 9: four hours of food to two hours of galleries. It's a two to one ratio of food to gallery.
[00:44:21] Speaker 2: I'm having a little trouble here. Yeah, I mean, ideally, you know, you get up, you have a nice breakfast, a leisurely breakfast, you go and you see like a gallery or something and then you have a lunch and then you do like something else in the afternoon and then you, you know.
[00:44:32] Speaker 5: Yeah.
[00:44:34] Speaker 10: can blend
[00:44:34] Speaker 2: my culture with relaxing, that's kind of ideal for me really. Like in a culture thing in the morning, a relaxing afternoon.
[00:44:42] Speaker 9: Just have people walk the paintings in front of
[00:44:45] Speaker 4: Yeah.
[00:44:46] Speaker 2: Because like a full day of,
[00:44:47] Speaker 10: pool and
[00:44:48] Speaker 2: day of like pool time. I thought I was like, it's fine, but like, I'd actually rather it be half a day.
[00:44:53] Speaker 2: I sort of like, when it's like, say if you're in a hot country in the afternoon, it's like hot. I'd rather be chilling then and
[00:44:58] Speaker 6: then in
[00:44:58] Speaker 2: the morning do something so that I could blend my two days into four days that way. but yes.
[00:45:04] Speaker 9: Anyway, looks like we're done with that one. I think we got it roughly for each other. And baby's losing it.
[00:45:09] Speaker 2: Surprisingly, we know each other quite well after 10 years.
[00:45:11] Speaker 9: to. Yeah, so, uh, off the fishmongers. Like we're meant to have been an hour and a half ago. Hopefully they haven't sold out on all their best fish. Only got the stinky stuff
[00:45:21] Speaker 4: Rotten stuff. Pew pew pew!
[00:45:23] Speaker 9: pew! Yeah, there's the smiley girl. Adios amigos. Have a good, whatever time of day it is.
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