Hello, and

welcome to the Borealis experience.

I'm your host Aurora.

And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

today. It is Friday, I don't know what Friday means to you.

Maybe it's the day before the weekend can start. And now he

can arrest and relax and recharge your batteries. Maybe

it is the busiest day of your week. Like it is for me.

I

yeah. Had a lot on my plate today. And I'm very happy that I

can make the time now and record this episode for you and at the

same time, enjoy this as a time of rest and relaxation.

This week,

I posted a video about men about what men really need in

relationships from our society. And this is why today's episode

is about men as well. What do men need? I feel that social

media media advertisement

movies, hollywood. They tried to yes sell

us a very specific image of a man. This is why I love

alternative movies so much and movies from all over the world.

Specially the ones from Denmark, very dark sense of humor. But I

feel what it does to us is that it sets weird expectations and

weird views on how a man is supposed to act and look and

behave and relate to you. This episode is not only for ladies

today, it is also for men because I want to know if I'm on

the right track here. I want to know if I'm hitting a nerve. If

I learned the right lessons if I made the right conclusions from

my experiences. What I've learned is that my men are

attracted to beauty. And what is beauty, beauty is not perfection

and makeup and nail polish and high heels. Beauty is coming

from within. It is a state of being a state of confidence and

well being a state of health. And of course this will radiate

into the outside world as well. Men are attracted to women who

take really good care of themselves. They are healthy.

They know what they want in life. They know how to set

boundaries. They have a good sense of humor, you know, they

don't take life too seriously.

They have playful they know how to listen. And they know how to

receive. I feel this is what a man seeks and a woman

and as women we focus all too often only on the exterior and

try to attract try to impress. But it's getting really

exhausting after a while when it doesn't come from the inside

when it's just trying to manage from the outside and trying to

manipulate and control how he looked like. I think a lot of

women exhaust their energies when it comes to their physical

appearance. And don't get me wrong. It's important, but

feeling and being healthy. And this is what I learned from my

dad by the way, is what makes you shine. A full shiny hair is

beautiful. But it's also a sign of health curves are a sign of

health, being too skinny is not a sign of health. And being

overweight is also not a sign of health. I think we are attracted

to health. And then the awesome thing about is at the same time,

it's not to be fanatic about it yet to not go crazy about health

to know a balance, to have your cheat days to have your

chocolate, your candy, but to work out and to enjoy healthy

foods at the same time. Everything in moderation. What a

man is attracted to is a woman who can listen, I mentioned it

at the beginning here. A woman who got her shed together, knows

how to manage her feelings and her life. And a woman who can

hold space for the men in her life, where he can express

himself and kind of be guided back to his soul and his heart.

Too often society and women are pressuring men to be a certain

way. And this in turn, doesn't allow them to feel weak at

times, and to have a shed day or a shed face. I'm working closely

with people from Kenya right now. The Suicide is just Yeah,

very common. On a daily basis, there's numbers rising, mental

health is declining, violence is skyrocketing. And all this among

men, they live under high pressure in Kenya, you only get

certain

jobs, a specific, like good position in society if you are

married, this results in Yeah, kind of loveless marriages. And

what I'm trying to do here with my podcast, my what my vision

is, is that I

kind of wake people up, but also at the same time guide them back

to their hearts. Because all too often we are too ego driven too

head driven. We tried to control and influence way too much. And

we don't listen to our heart anymore. So a woman that is

capable of listening to her heart. Her intuition is deeply

inspiring for a man. She can bring him home to his own heart.

At the same time, he is protecting her not because she's

weak, but because she's so endlessly precious. And he's

making sure that she has everything she needs in order to

be in balance. But I feel we kind of unlearned what it means

to be a woman in a relationship. There's very business driven

woman out there and it's very cool. Like it's awesome, how

much they get done and how high they climb up that ladder. But

if they are seeking a romantic relationship, where they feel

loved and appreciated and sexy, they have to learn to go back to

the soft, feminine energy. You cannot be in a relationship with

a man if you're trying to connect. Sorry, not connect if

you're trying to compete with him at all times when it comes

to conversations when it comes to politics, when it comes to

how things should be done in the household and so on. If you're

constantly an opponent to your man, you cannot expect him to be

a decent lover. You have to surrender to the masculine and

not be fearful of the masculine. We have to trust the masculine

again, we have to trust that he's not going to try to control

us to dominate us. He's not going to be jealous. He's gonna

look at you with kind eyes and wants you to be your best

version wants you to shine wants to deeply connect with you. I

want to dissolve these powers games that are happening between

men and women right now. I feel they're not serving us anymore.

And they never have, they destroy relationships. Over

time. A man wants to have a healthy woman, I decide, he

wants to know that she has a safe space where somebody is

listening to him, where he can express himself. And then he

needs a woman who is independent, but also

interdependent. It is a given take a constant given take. You

take each other as part of yourself. When the others

hurting you or hurting, when the other is thriving, you are

thriving. You support each other, but don't use each other

as crutches, you lift each other up. You call each other out on

bullshit. And you help each other to grow. You allow each

other to change. because change is a given life. It is so

important that we support men who embrace more and more their

feminine side expressing themselves and wanting to be

themselves more because under patriarchy, they suffered just

as much as the women that were suppressed. We have to be there

for our men. And we have to fear masculinity, less, we have to

trust masculinity again. And we have to allow femininity again.

This won't be the last episode that I will be talking about men

and women. Trust me, I'm passionate about this. And I

hope I was bringing you value to your life today and insights or

maybe an angle, a new angle from the bottom of my heart. Thank

you so much for listening. If you have questions if you have

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much. Until next time. Take care bye bye