1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:02,250 Speaker: Good morning Church. 2 00:00:02,255 --> 00:00:03,630 Good morning. 3 00:00:03,690 --> 00:00:05,940 Tried something different this morning. 4 00:00:05,940 --> 00:00:10,710 I decided to come from the back and come out during that last song. 5 00:00:11,100 --> 00:00:15,570 I, uh, never want to be on stage when others are singing 6 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:18,420 because I am not a singer. 7 00:00:18,630 --> 00:00:26,490 I, uh, you know, you can't have every gift and, uh, that's just one I don't have. 8 00:00:27,030 --> 00:00:32,280 And, uh, so I looked around, made sure there were no microphones close to me, and 9 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:37,500 that I got far enough away from the other singers so that I wouldn't throw 'em off. 10 00:00:37,590 --> 00:00:42,360 That's why usually I always sit on the front row so nobody had, will be in 11 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:45,300 front of me and, and, and I sing loud. 12 00:00:45,390 --> 00:00:49,170 And every once in a while, if I ever see any, any singers looking at me 13 00:00:49,170 --> 00:00:53,040 while from the stage, then I know I need to take it down a little bit. 14 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:54,990 So, 'cause I'm throwing 'em off. 15 00:00:55,995 --> 00:01:00,735 But, uh, this morning I'm talk, talking about happiness. 16 00:01:01,905 --> 00:01:04,875 Turn your Bibles over in Philippians chapter four. 17 00:01:05,745 --> 00:01:07,575 It's a great passage. 18 00:01:08,024 --> 00:01:14,414 And, uh, you know, when you're a preacher, you want to sort of be in the mood 19 00:01:14,414 --> 00:01:16,065 for whatever you're preaching about. 20 00:01:17,115 --> 00:01:20,115 And you know, when, when you're, when you're preaching about. 21 00:01:20,429 --> 00:01:23,009 The cross and suffering and that kind of thing. 22 00:01:23,310 --> 00:01:28,229 Usually there's something in your life that's tough and you, you can 23 00:01:28,229 --> 00:01:31,229 tap into suffering and you can relate. 24 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:35,190 Well, you know, I thought, this is, this weekend's my birthday on 25 00:01:35,190 --> 00:01:39,600 Friday, it was my birthday and so I'm gonna be happy, you know, and 26 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:41,640 so I'm gonna preach about happiness. 27 00:01:42,990 --> 00:01:49,950 And then yesterday happened and you know, you know the phrase Act your age. 28 00:01:51,555 --> 00:01:53,414 You know, I didn't act my age. 29 00:01:54,210 --> 00:02:01,050 I'm climbing up and down this, uh, r this dri this river, uh, marshy, uh, 30 00:02:01,110 --> 00:02:07,380 creek bed, picking up trash and taking it back up the hill and, and back down. 31 00:02:07,380 --> 00:02:11,579 And, you know, we drug up some, some old lawn furniture. 32 00:02:11,579 --> 00:02:13,320 We drug up some baby. 33 00:02:13,530 --> 00:02:14,305 Uh uh. 34 00:02:14,970 --> 00:02:18,299 You know, carriage things, I don't know what it's called. 35 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:20,220 It was so deteriorated. 36 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:22,079 It was almost unrecognizable. 37 00:02:22,290 --> 00:02:28,350 We, we, we drug up a, a tabletop and, uh, you know, I thought, you know, 38 00:02:28,350 --> 00:02:32,970 the idea was we'll drag it up to the trail and then we'll take our trash 39 00:02:32,970 --> 00:02:37,410 bags to the church and we'll get some young people to drag that stuff and 40 00:02:37,410 --> 00:02:39,269 I'll, they can throw it in my truck. 41 00:02:39,630 --> 00:02:40,320 Well. 42 00:02:40,770 --> 00:02:44,100 The, the, the sister and, and brother that were with us, Cathy 43 00:02:44,100 --> 00:02:49,680 and I and Matt, uh, Thomas and, uh, Dion Perry, they, they wanted us 44 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:51,870 to just go ahead and take it now. 45 00:02:52,290 --> 00:02:52,320 Oh. 46 00:02:53,925 --> 00:02:54,825 Okay. 47 00:02:56,265 --> 00:03:01,065 And so we put our trash bags on the chairs and we're dragging 'em. 48 00:03:01,065 --> 00:03:04,065 And you know, every once in a while I'd stop and I'd say, 49 00:03:04,095 --> 00:03:05,895 it's okay, you guys keep going. 50 00:03:06,105 --> 00:03:06,615 You know? 51 00:03:06,855 --> 00:03:10,575 And finally we got it in and we, we, we, we hauled it off. 52 00:03:10,650 --> 00:03:13,335 And, and the, and I came here to the church. 53 00:03:13,365 --> 00:03:15,405 Came to the church, and we unloaded. 54 00:03:15,405 --> 00:03:18,704 And I was so excited and I, I thought, wow. 55 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:21,734 I, I, I, I did a lot better than I thought I do. 56 00:03:21,734 --> 00:03:25,095 I, I'm not, as, you know, uh, weak as I thought. 57 00:03:25,575 --> 00:03:27,045 And then I woke up this morning. 58 00:03:31,245 --> 00:03:33,555 And my knee's killing me. 59 00:03:33,555 --> 00:03:35,385 My back's killing me. 60 00:03:35,805 --> 00:03:40,725 And my, my daughter said, dad, don't ever talk about your age when you're preaching. 61 00:03:40,725 --> 00:03:42,315 You look younger than you are. 62 00:03:42,315 --> 00:03:49,035 And I, well, thanks, babe, but this morning I don't feel as young as I look, 63 00:03:49,515 --> 00:03:52,275 and I did not act my age yesterday. 64 00:03:52,954 --> 00:03:55,985 And I should have, uh, paced myself a little bit. 65 00:03:55,985 --> 00:03:57,755 But it was worth it, wasn't it? 66 00:03:57,785 --> 00:03:57,875 Yes. 67 00:03:58,715 --> 00:04:01,955 I mean, there's something, I just walked away feeling so 68 00:04:01,955 --> 00:04:03,845 good that I cleaned up nature. 69 00:04:04,145 --> 00:04:07,505 I got that garbage out of there, you know? 70 00:04:07,505 --> 00:04:10,205 Now it's, now it's pristine again. 71 00:04:10,205 --> 00:04:13,760 At least for a mile, you know, at least for a mile. 72 00:04:14,490 --> 00:04:14,550 Yeah. 73 00:04:15,210 --> 00:04:19,709 And I, I, I, uh, I, I know that, uh, when I'm gonna preach about 74 00:04:19,709 --> 00:04:21,810 something, God puts me through things. 75 00:04:22,019 --> 00:04:24,930 So I need to really live what I'm preaching. 76 00:04:24,930 --> 00:04:29,820 So the things I'm gonna say today are the things that I've been doing to be happy. 77 00:04:30,420 --> 00:04:33,870 And God gave me a really sweet gift this morning. 78 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,500 I was up early, I was praying, I was reading my Bible, I was 79 00:04:37,500 --> 00:04:41,580 going through my notes, and then our little of 16 month old. 80 00:04:41,945 --> 00:04:46,925 Came into the living room where I was, and there's no music or anything, but 81 00:04:46,925 --> 00:04:53,615 she starts dancing and she sticked out, stuck out her little bottom and she's, 82 00:04:53,675 --> 00:04:55,534 she's just going around in a circle. 83 00:04:55,534 --> 00:04:55,985 In a circle. 84 00:04:55,985 --> 00:04:59,015 And her dad came in and he thought it was so funny, he started 85 00:04:59,015 --> 00:05:02,284 filming her and I said, you need to turn on some music for her. 86 00:05:02,284 --> 00:05:04,625 She's got the beat, but she needs a little music. 87 00:05:04,865 --> 00:05:08,945 So he turns on some music on his phone and she just went and went. 88 00:05:08,950 --> 00:05:09,150 And I thought. 89 00:05:09,765 --> 00:05:13,844 That's the happiness that I can preach about this morning. 90 00:05:14,114 --> 00:05:14,924 All right? 91 00:05:14,984 --> 00:05:18,854 But it's also the reason I don't dance much, because I don't want 92 00:05:18,854 --> 00:05:21,284 to look like that when I dance. 93 00:05:22,695 --> 00:05:27,585 It's cute on a baby, but anybody older, it's not that cute. 94 00:05:27,674 --> 00:05:28,275 All right. 95 00:05:29,385 --> 00:05:32,205 Let's talk about happiness, the secret of happiness. 96 00:05:32,235 --> 00:05:34,725 I'm telling you where I'm going before I even get there. 97 00:05:34,725 --> 00:05:35,325 Okay. 98 00:05:35,625 --> 00:05:36,735 Happiness. 99 00:05:36,735 --> 00:05:39,375 These are some of the thoughts just out of the scriptures. 100 00:05:39,375 --> 00:05:39,945 Okay. 101 00:05:40,365 --> 00:05:44,205 I'm gonna bring in a little bit of my experience as a counselor. 102 00:05:44,615 --> 00:05:48,275 Some of the things I've researched, some of the things I've studied, but 103 00:05:48,305 --> 00:05:51,034 this just comes from the word of God. 104 00:05:51,034 --> 00:05:54,575 So we know it's true and we know it's gonna be helpful for us. 105 00:05:54,635 --> 00:05:58,235 These nine things, and I picked nine 'cause there's nine 106 00:05:58,235 --> 00:06:00,215 verses, and I don't like nine. 107 00:06:00,215 --> 00:06:01,205 I want seven. 108 00:06:01,205 --> 00:06:04,265 The perfect number, I want three, I want five. 109 00:06:04,325 --> 00:06:08,225 But nine just seemed odd and I almost took a few out, but I 110 00:06:08,225 --> 00:06:10,025 decided I gotta preach the word. 111 00:06:10,025 --> 00:06:11,015 I gotta stick with it. 112 00:06:11,015 --> 00:06:11,945 So here it is. 113 00:06:11,985 --> 00:06:12,045 Wow. 114 00:06:12,645 --> 00:06:14,685 Outward concern fuels happiness. 115 00:06:14,955 --> 00:06:17,085 Happiness is learned and decided. 116 00:06:17,325 --> 00:06:18,885 It's a state of mind. 117 00:06:19,335 --> 00:06:20,565 Share your happiness. 118 00:06:20,565 --> 00:06:24,495 Create happy memories, help helping brings happiness. 119 00:06:24,495 --> 00:06:26,235 That's what we did yesterday. 120 00:06:26,235 --> 00:06:27,615 Happiness comes around. 121 00:06:28,260 --> 00:06:35,099 And background and happiness is a gift for mothers, and it's a gift from God. 122 00:06:35,099 --> 00:06:39,750 So let's dive in here in the scriptures in Philippians four and verse 10. 123 00:06:40,049 --> 00:06:42,000 Let's say a little prayer before we get going. 124 00:06:42,869 --> 00:06:47,940 God and Father, I pray that you'd bless this auditorium and not just 125 00:06:47,940 --> 00:06:51,840 us as a community of faith, but each and every individual I know every 126 00:06:51,840 --> 00:06:53,820 person goes through different things. 127 00:06:54,795 --> 00:06:58,995 Some of us may have had great weeks, some of us may have not had so great weeks. 128 00:06:59,955 --> 00:07:03,465 And so Father, I pray for your spirit to be moving in this room, 129 00:07:03,465 --> 00:07:05,835 moving among us to meet the needs. 130 00:07:06,104 --> 00:07:09,615 I pray that the spirit would meet all the needs, even if the words 131 00:07:09,615 --> 00:07:11,835 that I share aren't as helpful. 132 00:07:11,835 --> 00:07:17,625 I pray for you to work powerfully in each person so needs can be met this morning. 133 00:07:17,865 --> 00:07:21,465 We love your word and we cherish it, and we're gonna look at it this 134 00:07:21,465 --> 00:07:27,135 morning, so it has a spiritual impact upon each one of us in Jesus' name. 135 00:07:27,540 --> 00:07:28,320 We pray. 136 00:07:28,590 --> 00:07:29,100 Amen. 137 00:07:29,335 --> 00:07:29,625 Amen. 138 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:32,250 Philippians four verse 10. 139 00:07:33,330 --> 00:07:34,860 This is Paul speaking. 140 00:07:35,460 --> 00:07:40,110 He says, I rejoice greatly in the Lord that at last you 141 00:07:40,110 --> 00:07:42,360 renewed your concern for me. 142 00:07:42,659 --> 00:07:46,409 Indeed, you were concerned but you had no opportunity to show it. 143 00:07:46,409 --> 00:07:51,240 The Philippians concern for the apostle Paul comforts him. 144 00:07:51,900 --> 00:07:54,300 Now what's going on with Paul here in Philippians? 145 00:07:54,300 --> 00:07:54,990 He's in jail. 146 00:07:56,340 --> 00:07:57,510 He's older. 147 00:07:57,720 --> 00:07:59,040 He's lived a great life. 148 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:04,200 He's planted a bunch of churches, but, and he's talking about joy, 149 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:05,880 and I think he's talking about it. 150 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:10,320 He's writing about it because he wants the church to be happy, but I think 151 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:12,750 he wants to lift his own spirits. 152 00:08:12,990 --> 00:08:17,400 You know, John the Baptist, when he was in prison, he sent word to Jesus, 153 00:08:18,150 --> 00:08:19,960 tell me that my life was worth it. 154 00:08:20,205 --> 00:08:24,825 Yeah, tell me that I haven't wasted my life preparing the way 155 00:08:24,825 --> 00:08:28,395 for you, tell me some good news. 156 00:08:28,395 --> 00:08:34,544 And so Jesus sent messengers back to John and said, tell him that the, the 157 00:08:34,544 --> 00:08:43,664 sick are healed and the hungry or fed, and the good news of Jesus is true. 158 00:08:45,345 --> 00:08:48,135 Just to confirm John, while he was in prison. 159 00:08:48,540 --> 00:08:54,900 That everything his he had worked for his life had the meaning that he expected. 160 00:08:55,229 --> 00:08:58,890 And so Paul is sort of preaching to himself, I think. 161 00:08:59,655 --> 00:09:03,735 I think he's telling himself, you know, there's a lot of things 162 00:09:03,735 --> 00:09:05,595 in my life I can be happy about. 163 00:09:05,745 --> 00:09:08,265 You know that Philippian Church is an amazing church. 164 00:09:08,265 --> 00:09:11,355 It's sort of like the Orange County Church, the OC Church. 165 00:09:11,565 --> 00:09:15,645 It's a great church, and they have always shown their concern. 166 00:09:15,645 --> 00:09:20,505 He's gonna get specific and tell us how that they encouraged him. 167 00:09:20,805 --> 00:09:22,485 But the first thing. 168 00:09:23,565 --> 00:09:28,125 He says is you got to be outwardly concerned for others 169 00:09:28,125 --> 00:09:29,745 and not just look inward. 170 00:09:30,645 --> 00:09:33,705 Sometimes when we get down, we navel gaze. 171 00:09:33,795 --> 00:09:34,785 You know what I mean? 172 00:09:35,175 --> 00:09:41,385 We look inside and looking inside's, okay, but you can get stuck looking inside. 173 00:09:41,445 --> 00:09:46,245 Yeah, you gotta, you gotta look outside of yourself at times. 174 00:09:46,275 --> 00:09:51,705 And as a counselor, I want my clients to, to have what's called social concern. 175 00:09:51,705 --> 00:09:55,425 To look outward and personal concern to look inwards. 176 00:09:55,425 --> 00:09:57,015 You gotta have a balance of both. 177 00:09:57,015 --> 00:09:58,935 You can't have one or the other. 178 00:09:59,235 --> 00:10:02,145 And if you've been looking on, uh, social media today, 179 00:10:02,325 --> 00:10:06,255 there's this 5 3 1 rule, right? 180 00:10:06,825 --> 00:10:08,175 Anybody heard of it? 181 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:09,930 Huh? 182 00:10:09,959 --> 00:10:10,050 Yes. 183 00:10:10,680 --> 00:10:11,939 Raise your hand if you have. 184 00:10:13,290 --> 00:10:15,270 Oh, you guys gotta get on social media. 185 00:10:15,270 --> 00:10:17,189 You're not with it, right? 186 00:10:17,250 --> 00:10:19,860 I'm not on it that much and I found this. 187 00:10:19,860 --> 00:10:24,510 Okay, well, the 5 3 1 rule is this. 188 00:10:24,540 --> 00:10:27,780 It's saying you've gotta have social interaction. 189 00:10:28,455 --> 00:10:32,625 If you don't have social interaction, you're, it's, you're not gonna be healthy, 190 00:10:32,625 --> 00:10:37,605 you're not gonna be, well, you can have a tendency to be depressed and anxious. 191 00:10:37,665 --> 00:10:39,075 So the 5 3 1 rule. 192 00:10:40,185 --> 00:10:45,375 According to a researcher in England and also a research researcher 193 00:10:45,375 --> 00:10:49,455 here in America, confirmed it that you need to have sort of 194 00:10:49,455 --> 00:10:52,425 five meetings a week with people. 195 00:10:53,025 --> 00:10:55,575 You need to get out, you need to go to church. 196 00:10:55,695 --> 00:10:58,665 If you go to church a couple of times, there's two of them. 197 00:10:58,785 --> 00:10:59,590 You only need three more. 198 00:11:00,324 --> 00:11:05,425 You go to work and you don't just go to your cubicle and pull into yourself, 199 00:11:05,484 --> 00:11:07,015 maybe go to lunch with somebody. 200 00:11:07,045 --> 00:11:09,114 There's a third one, you know? 201 00:11:09,474 --> 00:11:13,135 And then when you come home, if you walk the neighborhood and you stop 202 00:11:13,135 --> 00:11:16,255 and start talking to some of the kids on the street or some of your 203 00:11:16,255 --> 00:11:17,755 neighbors, there's another one. 204 00:11:17,935 --> 00:11:22,824 And then on, on Friday or Saturday or you know, or Sunday, you go to 205 00:11:22,824 --> 00:11:26,694 a park and you meet some people and you hang out and you get talking. 206 00:11:27,064 --> 00:11:32,045 You gotta have five interactions every week according to research, 207 00:11:32,435 --> 00:11:35,165 or you're not gonna be well. 208 00:11:35,255 --> 00:11:40,955 And then it says you need to have three deeper conversations where you get 209 00:11:40,955 --> 00:11:44,015 real and you share what you're feeling. 210 00:11:45,215 --> 00:11:47,915 And you know, there's two things about feelings. 211 00:11:48,305 --> 00:11:51,095 Feelings is a a, uh. 212 00:11:51,615 --> 00:11:53,445 It's a right brain thing. 213 00:11:54,225 --> 00:11:56,505 You know, there's left brainers and there's right brainers. 214 00:11:56,505 --> 00:11:58,215 The left brainers are the engineers. 215 00:11:58,215 --> 00:12:00,885 The right brainers are the artists, you know. 216 00:12:01,725 --> 00:12:04,215 But the right brain is where you hold your emotion. 217 00:12:04,875 --> 00:12:09,045 And if you don't get enough sleep, the right and the left connect during 218 00:12:09,045 --> 00:12:13,545 your sleep and you process your emotions that you had during the day. 219 00:12:13,845 --> 00:12:17,055 So if you're not getting a whole lot of sleep because you're staying 220 00:12:17,055 --> 00:12:19,020 up too long, playing video games. 221 00:12:21,255 --> 00:12:25,155 You're not gonna process your emotions, you're gonna be emotionally stunted. 222 00:12:25,604 --> 00:12:26,204 All right? 223 00:12:27,165 --> 00:12:28,875 And so get that sleep. 224 00:12:29,625 --> 00:12:32,474 I sound like your your mom and dad now, don't I? 225 00:12:33,135 --> 00:12:33,704 All right. 226 00:12:33,765 --> 00:12:34,814 But it's healthy. 227 00:12:35,175 --> 00:12:37,185 It's healthy for us to get enough sleep. 228 00:12:37,185 --> 00:12:38,685 I used to not get enough sleep. 229 00:12:39,104 --> 00:12:40,365 I used to pride myself. 230 00:12:40,365 --> 00:12:42,464 I can live on four or five hours. 231 00:12:43,275 --> 00:12:44,265 That's not good. 232 00:12:44,775 --> 00:12:45,974 You need seven or eight. 233 00:12:45,974 --> 00:12:48,675 I have a friend, Jay, uh, Kelly. 234 00:12:49,140 --> 00:12:51,300 He said, Greg, I've done this study. 235 00:12:51,300 --> 00:12:54,780 You gotta get eight hours of sleep and you can, if you'll get eight hours 236 00:12:54,780 --> 00:12:59,190 of sleep every night of the of your life, then you can live to a hundred. 237 00:13:00,510 --> 00:13:02,190 Well, Jay, I don't wanna live to a hundred. 238 00:13:02,730 --> 00:13:05,070 How about 85, 7 hours of sleep? 239 00:13:05,070 --> 00:13:05,850 Will that work? 240 00:13:08,910 --> 00:13:10,080 He's gonna live to a hundred. 241 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:11,070 I know he is. 242 00:13:11,370 --> 00:13:15,780 He's done all this research and that's one of the things, sleep eight hours. 243 00:13:16,410 --> 00:13:18,570 But I am wanting you to get enough sleep. 244 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:24,330 So you can process all of your emotions because if you don't process 245 00:13:24,330 --> 00:13:28,380 those emotions at night, if you're right and your left brain aren't 246 00:13:28,380 --> 00:13:31,260 connected, and guys, guess what? 247 00:13:31,710 --> 00:13:35,430 We don't have as many circuits that are connecting our right and 248 00:13:35,430 --> 00:13:38,250 left together as much as the women. 249 00:13:39,359 --> 00:13:44,339 You ladies might not even need as much sleep as US men because you 250 00:13:44,339 --> 00:13:46,349 have better connections Right. 251 00:13:46,349 --> 00:13:46,949 And left brain. 252 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,589 And you already knew that already, right? 253 00:13:50,130 --> 00:13:50,489 Yeah. 254 00:13:51,030 --> 00:13:51,599 Yeah. 255 00:13:52,770 --> 00:13:54,540 And, and, and that's just one of those things. 256 00:13:54,540 --> 00:14:00,839 That's why men aren't as emotional, but we do need to process our emotions. 257 00:14:00,839 --> 00:14:06,780 So three conversations and then one hour a day talk to someone else. 258 00:14:07,185 --> 00:14:08,595 At least a full hour. 259 00:14:09,465 --> 00:14:12,945 You know, maybe it's over the phone, maybe it's FaceTime. 260 00:14:13,035 --> 00:14:19,725 It's better face to face, but 5, 3, 2, uh, 5, 3, 1 rule. 261 00:14:19,785 --> 00:14:22,305 All right, next verse verse 12. 262 00:14:22,995 --> 00:14:28,155 It says, I know what it is to be in need and I know what it is to be plenty. 263 00:14:28,845 --> 00:14:29,595 Have plenty. 264 00:14:30,195 --> 00:14:36,015 I have learned the secret here it is of being content in any and every 265 00:14:36,045 --> 00:14:42,675 situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 266 00:14:42,945 --> 00:14:46,005 Contentment does not come from our circumstances. 267 00:14:46,005 --> 00:14:51,105 Listen to this, but from our state of mind, contentment is the ability 268 00:14:51,105 --> 00:14:56,085 to express joy, whether hungry or well fed, solvent or insolvent. 269 00:14:56,085 --> 00:15:00,075 It, the circumstances of our lives go up and down, don't they? 270 00:15:00,075 --> 00:15:00,165 Yes. 271 00:15:01,125 --> 00:15:05,715 You can even be at a nice restaurant and not be well fed. 272 00:15:07,065 --> 00:15:08,595 We, my family took me out. 273 00:15:08,595 --> 00:15:13,365 Our tradition is to take the birthday person to whatever restaurant they want. 274 00:15:13,365 --> 00:15:19,125 I always want to go to Cheesecake Factory, you know, and you know why, right? 275 00:15:20,085 --> 00:15:20,535 Yeah. 276 00:15:20,565 --> 00:15:22,785 'cause of the cheesecake, right? 277 00:15:23,865 --> 00:15:25,575 But I always get. 278 00:15:26,505 --> 00:15:28,095 Cajun Jamal Pasta. 279 00:15:29,775 --> 00:15:35,325 You know, I, when they re recruited me to LA years ago, they took me to 280 00:15:35,325 --> 00:15:39,255 cheese cat cake, and they said, you gotta get the Cajun Jamal pasta. 281 00:15:39,255 --> 00:15:40,035 I did. 282 00:15:40,095 --> 00:15:40,965 I got hooked. 283 00:15:40,965 --> 00:15:45,555 I came to LA and I've been happier ever since, especially having 284 00:15:45,555 --> 00:15:50,235 King Cajun Jamal Pasta and here in Orange County, they don't shrimp. 285 00:15:50,745 --> 00:15:50,985 I, uh. 286 00:15:52,185 --> 00:15:53,505 Yeah, that's the right word. 287 00:15:53,594 --> 00:15:57,344 They put a lot of shrimp and chicken and, and meat in there. 288 00:15:57,704 --> 00:16:01,905 Some of the other cheesecakes factories don't put as much, so I 289 00:16:01,905 --> 00:16:03,375 like it down here in Orange County. 290 00:16:04,064 --> 00:16:04,814 Right. 291 00:16:04,875 --> 00:16:06,824 We used to meet at the one at Mission Viejo. 292 00:16:07,574 --> 00:16:11,745 My, our family would come up from San Diego and we'd come down and we'd meet 293 00:16:11,745 --> 00:16:14,415 there, and so that's a, a personal story. 294 00:16:14,415 --> 00:16:15,435 You're not interested. 295 00:16:15,435 --> 00:16:16,305 I'm moving on. 296 00:16:16,635 --> 00:16:17,505 All right. 297 00:16:19,214 --> 00:16:21,285 Happiness is a state of mind. 298 00:16:23,145 --> 00:16:29,355 You know, we waited a long time for our food, and when you have a 16 month old 299 00:16:29,415 --> 00:16:32,265 and a 4-year-old, they don't like to wait. 300 00:16:33,855 --> 00:16:37,785 And by the time the food got there, my food was great. 301 00:16:37,965 --> 00:16:42,285 Kathy's food was great, but one of the plates was cold. 302 00:16:44,085 --> 00:16:45,855 And it was really cold. 303 00:16:46,725 --> 00:16:51,255 And when you pay as much as Cheesecake Factory, pricess, you don't like cold. 304 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:54,030 And so they took it back. 305 00:16:54,030 --> 00:16:56,130 They reheated it, they apologized. 306 00:16:56,550 --> 00:17:01,410 We had a great evening, but then the kids were so restless, uh, the 307 00:17:01,410 --> 00:17:04,980 little baby needed to go out for a little while, and she fell down on 308 00:17:04,980 --> 00:17:07,079 the sidewalk and cut her little eye. 309 00:17:07,140 --> 00:17:07,170 Oh. 310 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:11,910 And I thought, oh man, they try to encourage me. 311 00:17:11,910 --> 00:17:15,270 They take me out and something bad happens. 312 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,329 But this morning she was dancing. 313 00:17:18,329 --> 00:17:19,349 She didn't care. 314 00:17:21,194 --> 00:17:26,085 I've been feeling guilty that they celebrated my birthday and baby got hurt. 315 00:17:26,895 --> 00:17:28,425 I felt really bad about that. 316 00:17:28,425 --> 00:17:30,225 I thought, oh, that we shouldn't have gone. 317 00:17:30,554 --> 00:17:34,125 Here I am being selfish and baby gets hurt, right? 318 00:17:35,325 --> 00:17:38,054 Circumstances gonna up go up and down, right? 319 00:17:38,715 --> 00:17:40,965 And you're sitting there thinking, Greg, they don't 320 00:17:40,965 --> 00:17:43,155 connect, that don't be illogical. 321 00:17:43,605 --> 00:17:45,885 All of us are illogical. 322 00:17:47,024 --> 00:17:49,665 It's called nonsensical logic. 323 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:55,920 Everybody has some nonsense in their thinking and they connect dots 324 00:17:55,920 --> 00:18:01,950 that shouldn't be connected, and that's what makes us crazy at times. 325 00:18:01,980 --> 00:18:02,730 All right? 326 00:18:03,330 --> 00:18:06,875 That's why we gotta get our stinking thinking straight. 327 00:18:07,505 --> 00:18:07,795 Amen. 328 00:18:09,180 --> 00:18:11,700 Here's a few secrets of happiness. 329 00:18:11,790 --> 00:18:13,170 Shrink the problem. 330 00:18:14,370 --> 00:18:17,130 You know, when you talk about your problem, what happens 331 00:18:17,820 --> 00:18:18,995 gets bigger and bigger. 332 00:18:20,264 --> 00:18:24,375 And we even sometimes are so dramatic and PR passionate about it. 333 00:18:24,405 --> 00:18:26,895 'cause we want people to share in our misery. 334 00:18:27,135 --> 00:18:29,415 We want 'em to join our pity party. 335 00:18:30,165 --> 00:18:31,605 I mean, feel sorry for me. 336 00:18:31,605 --> 00:18:33,105 It's tough, right? 337 00:18:33,375 --> 00:18:38,205 And so we share with all this energy and passion and we're, we're expanding 338 00:18:38,205 --> 00:18:40,600 the problem instead of shrinking it. 339 00:18:41,955 --> 00:18:45,345 And you know, as a dad, I'm always trying to help my kids and shrink 340 00:18:45,345 --> 00:18:48,105 their problem and they're like, dad. 341 00:18:48,689 --> 00:18:50,460 I didn't ask you for a solution. 342 00:18:50,610 --> 00:18:52,050 I just wanted you to listen. 343 00:18:53,699 --> 00:18:57,540 Well, I got flooded by all that emotion the first three minutes. 344 00:18:57,540 --> 00:18:59,790 I'm trying to just manage here. 345 00:18:59,790 --> 00:19:00,750 All right. 346 00:19:01,530 --> 00:19:03,629 Shrink the problem guys. 347 00:19:04,169 --> 00:19:06,780 Don't let it expand solutions. 348 00:19:07,530 --> 00:19:11,970 Listen to solutions and think about how you can fix things, 349 00:19:11,970 --> 00:19:13,649 not just let it get bigger. 350 00:19:14,220 --> 00:19:15,000 Here's a good one. 351 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:16,199 Remove the pile. 352 00:19:17,955 --> 00:19:24,075 Think about your house, your desk, your car, your garage. 353 00:19:25,095 --> 00:19:25,875 Think about it. 354 00:19:27,765 --> 00:19:29,055 Is there just clutter? 355 00:19:31,725 --> 00:19:36,885 You know, I didn't clean my garage like the first year we moved in up in Antelope 356 00:19:36,885 --> 00:19:42,765 Valley and every time I pulled my car in, I'd get this tension in my neck. 357 00:19:44,130 --> 00:19:46,425 And I'm like, I gotta clean this garage. 358 00:19:46,425 --> 00:19:47,535 This is a mess. 359 00:19:47,535 --> 00:19:49,425 I can barely get my car in here. 360 00:19:49,425 --> 00:19:50,685 I'm gonna hit something. 361 00:19:51,045 --> 00:19:51,945 Oh my goodness. 362 00:19:52,545 --> 00:19:53,955 But I just didn't do it. 363 00:19:54,765 --> 00:19:56,355 I, I was too spiritual. 364 00:19:56,355 --> 00:19:57,645 I'm doing God's work. 365 00:19:57,645 --> 00:20:02,325 I don't have time to do this, you know, but it would stress me out. 366 00:20:02,955 --> 00:20:04,785 And then one day I decided I'm doing it. 367 00:20:06,014 --> 00:20:08,625 And one of my kids helped me and we cleaned it up. 368 00:20:08,625 --> 00:20:09,855 We put up some racks. 369 00:20:09,855 --> 00:20:13,845 One of the brothers came over, we got all organized, and then every time 370 00:20:13,845 --> 00:20:18,284 I'd pull in the driveway, I'd just have this, I'd take this deep breath. 371 00:20:20,985 --> 00:20:23,084 Wow, what a great garage. 372 00:20:24,824 --> 00:20:25,695 Wow. 373 00:20:25,695 --> 00:20:27,044 This is an organized ground. 374 00:20:27,225 --> 00:20:30,885 And then I then, uh, Al Baird came over one night for dinner. 375 00:20:31,245 --> 00:20:35,595 And he saw my garage door up and he said, I've never seen such an organized garage. 376 00:20:35,595 --> 00:20:37,605 And I thought, yeah, I got a pretty organized garage. 377 00:20:41,235 --> 00:20:45,885 See, I got out from under the pile, I dealt with the stack. 378 00:20:46,665 --> 00:20:50,205 Sometimes you just gotta get rid of that clutter, get rid of that stack, 379 00:20:50,205 --> 00:20:51,705 and you're just gonna feel better. 380 00:20:52,635 --> 00:20:55,455 And sometimes it can be little stacks or sometimes they're big 381 00:20:55,455 --> 00:21:00,405 stacks of to do things, but remove the pile express to decompress. 382 00:21:01,860 --> 00:21:09,360 If you don't express, then you keep it inside and it starts overflowing. 383 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:11,310 Sleep on it. 384 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:14,610 Sleep on it. 385 00:21:15,390 --> 00:21:19,680 There's times I get all stretched out and worried and I've just 386 00:21:19,740 --> 00:21:21,750 decided, nope, I'm gonna sleep on it. 387 00:21:21,870 --> 00:21:23,010 Gonna give it over to God. 388 00:21:23,010 --> 00:21:25,080 I say a good prayer before I go to bed. 389 00:21:25,380 --> 00:21:28,530 I go to bed, I sleep, I wake up. 390 00:21:28,935 --> 00:21:33,705 And sometimes I wake up with a solution and a lot of times I 391 00:21:33,705 --> 00:21:35,265 just wake up feeling different. 392 00:21:36,195 --> 00:21:38,385 Like, this guy, you know, didn't fall. 393 00:21:38,385 --> 00:21:39,855 I thought it was gonna fall. 394 00:21:40,335 --> 00:21:41,565 It didn't fall. 395 00:21:42,315 --> 00:21:44,205 A new day makes things look different. 396 00:21:44,205 --> 00:21:45,945 Sleep on it guys. 397 00:21:46,485 --> 00:21:47,115 Eight hours. 398 00:21:47,145 --> 00:21:49,275 Okay, see how that ties together? 399 00:21:50,865 --> 00:21:51,675 Breathe in. 400 00:21:53,955 --> 00:21:54,345 Breathe out. 401 00:21:55,875 --> 00:21:56,595 Breathe in. 402 00:21:58,034 --> 00:21:58,455 Breathe out. 403 00:21:59,925 --> 00:22:06,044 I led a group, it's called the DBT Skills, dialectical Behavioral Techniques, 404 00:22:06,975 --> 00:22:08,985 and it's all about mindfulness. 405 00:22:08,985 --> 00:22:14,774 And I've learned all these type techniques from, uh, uh, professional 406 00:22:14,835 --> 00:22:20,415 wrote a book on it named Marsha Lineman, and so I got into teaching 407 00:22:20,415 --> 00:22:25,514 this and it's for folks with severe mental illness, one of the more severe. 408 00:22:25,875 --> 00:22:27,045 Uh, issues. 409 00:22:27,045 --> 00:22:30,495 And so these were some of the sickest patients I had. 410 00:22:31,305 --> 00:22:37,875 But I love some of this mindfulness stuff because I'm a wound tight guy. 411 00:22:38,475 --> 00:22:40,305 I'm a hyper on two guy. 412 00:22:40,995 --> 00:22:42,495 Some of you are like me. 413 00:22:43,245 --> 00:22:44,475 You're a little weird too. 414 00:22:46,335 --> 00:22:47,715 I wasn't talking to you, Sam. 415 00:22:47,715 --> 00:22:50,715 Don't, don't, you didn't have, I didn't mean to look at you straight. 416 00:22:50,895 --> 00:22:51,975 Alright. 417 00:22:54,255 --> 00:22:55,425 No, he's playing with me. 418 00:22:56,115 --> 00:22:59,895 Right, but guys, sleep on it. 419 00:22:59,895 --> 00:23:02,235 It does make a difference. 420 00:23:02,295 --> 00:23:03,135 Next scripture. 421 00:23:03,135 --> 00:23:03,975 Verse 11. 422 00:23:04,215 --> 00:23:06,675 I'm not saying this because I'm in need. 423 00:23:06,675 --> 00:23:09,405 No, you're saying it 'cause you'd like help. 424 00:23:10,545 --> 00:23:13,995 I'm not saying it 'cause I'm in need for, I have learned to be content, 425 00:23:13,995 --> 00:23:16,155 whatever the circumstances really. 426 00:23:16,455 --> 00:23:17,115 Okay. 427 00:23:17,625 --> 00:23:21,825 The church provided for Paul's needs and so he expressed his gratitude. 428 00:23:22,365 --> 00:23:25,665 Paul had also learned contentment. 429 00:23:26,865 --> 00:23:31,695 There's a great verse I looked up this morning, Psalms 37, verse 25. 430 00:23:32,175 --> 00:23:37,065 I've been young and I've been old and I've never seen the righteous 431 00:23:37,215 --> 00:23:40,845 abandoned, so I read the whole chapter. 432 00:23:40,875 --> 00:23:42,075 So encouraging. 433 00:23:42,705 --> 00:23:43,710 It was so encouraging. 434 00:23:43,845 --> 00:23:48,795 Read Psalm 37 to get some encouragement, but that verse. 435 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:50,760 It plays in my head. 436 00:23:50,850 --> 00:23:53,670 I've been young and I've been old, and God's always taken care of me 437 00:23:55,440 --> 00:24:00,030 and most of us that are Christians in here can say that God is good. 438 00:24:00,630 --> 00:24:01,770 God is fair. 439 00:24:02,010 --> 00:24:06,720 I haven't had an over in abundance, but I've never had too little. 440 00:24:07,530 --> 00:24:08,940 God's always been there. 441 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:10,200 He cares. 442 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:10,950 He's faithful. 443 00:24:10,950 --> 00:24:15,300 He's good, and I've learned that over the years, and I want 444 00:24:15,300 --> 00:24:16,500 to just share it this morning. 445 00:24:17,625 --> 00:24:19,845 But contentment can come in a lot of ways. 446 00:24:19,845 --> 00:24:25,275 Guys, I want you to get the attitude of, you know, this is the year of yes. 447 00:24:25,275 --> 00:24:26,985 I'm not gonna let you forget that. 448 00:24:27,045 --> 00:24:28,875 This is the year of Yes. 449 00:24:29,595 --> 00:24:33,735 And one of the things you need to say during the year of yes 450 00:24:33,735 --> 00:24:40,965 is I can, don't say, I can't, definitely don't say I won't. 451 00:24:40,965 --> 00:24:45,195 Don't be stubborn, but say you can be positive. 452 00:24:46,290 --> 00:24:52,560 Be hopeful and the way to be content, and Paul's gonna share this is simplify. 453 00:24:53,250 --> 00:24:54,570 Simplify your life. 454 00:24:55,260 --> 00:24:58,320 Whenever I'm just running too much and I'm too busy and it's just 455 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:02,760 from one thing to another, I get stressed and I'm not as happy. 456 00:25:02,910 --> 00:25:04,500 I need to realize that. 457 00:25:04,500 --> 00:25:09,090 I just need to simplify and I'm gonna simplify. 458 00:25:09,090 --> 00:25:09,480 Today. 459 00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,280 Usually I fill up Sundays. 460 00:25:11,610 --> 00:25:15,419 Because I'm gonna maybe take a little time off on Monday, which I usually 461 00:25:15,419 --> 00:25:19,800 don't get to take that much time off on Monday, but I've decided I'm gonna 462 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:23,280 watch the Rams game and I'm gonna be happy whether they win or lose. 463 00:25:24,270 --> 00:25:24,840 All right. 464 00:25:25,709 --> 00:25:29,850 I, you know, I'm just gonna be happy and I'm even gonna invite myself 465 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,070 over to someone's house to watch it. 466 00:25:34,350 --> 00:25:35,730 I live with my daughter. 467 00:25:36,045 --> 00:25:42,015 Uh, the, the, the TV in the den is always on Bluey or on something else. 468 00:25:42,015 --> 00:25:45,075 You know, it's a kid's show and I've learned a lot from Bluey. 469 00:25:45,075 --> 00:25:45,975 He's, he's funny. 470 00:25:46,035 --> 00:25:47,445 He's good, right? 471 00:25:48,855 --> 00:25:53,895 But I wanna watch the game and I can go in our room and we have a tv, 472 00:25:54,255 --> 00:25:56,535 but I'd rather be with some bros. 473 00:25:57,915 --> 00:26:00,405 And so, uh, invite me after service. 474 00:26:00,405 --> 00:26:00,975 All right? 475 00:26:01,905 --> 00:26:03,220 Because I can, I will. 476 00:26:04,695 --> 00:26:05,745 But simplify. 477 00:26:05,805 --> 00:26:06,765 I can do it. 478 00:26:06,945 --> 00:26:07,875 Diversify. 479 00:26:07,875 --> 00:26:09,525 I can do something else. 480 00:26:09,555 --> 00:26:12,315 I don't have to have it the way I think I do. 481 00:26:13,065 --> 00:26:16,485 Like this morning, we, we didn't have all the instruments and 482 00:26:16,485 --> 00:26:20,295 I walked in and I, I had this expectation of all the instruments 483 00:26:21,225 --> 00:26:22,485 and I was looking forward to it. 484 00:26:22,485 --> 00:26:23,350 And I like to rock. 485 00:26:25,485 --> 00:26:27,435 And it was a great service. 486 00:26:27,465 --> 00:26:30,015 'cause Dallas is so good, isn't he? 487 00:26:31,035 --> 00:26:33,465 I mean, if you have Dallas, you don't need anything else. 488 00:26:33,645 --> 00:26:34,905 I mean, I, excuse me. 489 00:26:34,905 --> 00:26:36,705 We need all of you worship leaders. 490 00:26:36,945 --> 00:26:37,485 Excuse me. 491 00:26:37,815 --> 00:26:38,655 We need all of you. 492 00:26:39,135 --> 00:26:40,245 All right. 493 00:26:40,725 --> 00:26:42,795 We're gonna have a boycott after I'm done. 494 00:26:45,315 --> 00:26:50,565 But we can always do something else and make it work and God can bless it. 495 00:26:50,685 --> 00:26:52,005 Diversify, modify. 496 00:26:52,860 --> 00:26:54,510 I can wait till later. 497 00:26:54,900 --> 00:26:55,530 All right. 498 00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:57,240 I don't have to have it now. 499 00:26:57,300 --> 00:26:58,140 Amplify. 500 00:26:58,140 --> 00:27:03,510 I can enjoy, uh, what I have. 501 00:27:03,780 --> 00:27:04,680 I put want there. 502 00:27:04,740 --> 00:27:05,190 What? 503 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:05,880 All right. 504 00:27:06,450 --> 00:27:06,750 It. 505 00:27:08,130 --> 00:27:09,120 Verse 14. 506 00:27:10,020 --> 00:27:10,830 Verse 14. 507 00:27:12,085 --> 00:27:17,490 Yet it was good of you to share in my troubles the church shared. 508 00:27:18,555 --> 00:27:24,045 It's, this is one place Paul felt safe, the Philippian Church, and 509 00:27:24,225 --> 00:27:26,205 so he's writing this letter to him. 510 00:27:26,865 --> 00:27:32,505 And guys, we need to get good at sharing ourselves with others first. 511 00:27:32,505 --> 00:27:35,625 Share yourself with me, myself, and I What? 512 00:27:37,245 --> 00:27:40,665 Yeah, share the honest truth with yourself. 513 00:27:40,665 --> 00:27:41,775 Don't be in denial. 514 00:27:42,495 --> 00:27:46,665 Tell yourself the truth and, and secondly, be social. 515 00:27:47,730 --> 00:27:48,810 You, me and them. 516 00:27:50,490 --> 00:27:51,870 Don't keep secrets. 517 00:27:52,020 --> 00:27:52,950 Trust somebody. 518 00:27:52,950 --> 00:27:58,170 Share what you're really feeling, and you may not think they relate. 519 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,800 I'm sure they relate more than you think, and it's just gonna relieve you. 520 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:03,300 It's gonna get it out of you. 521 00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:06,150 It's gonna help you be honest with others. 522 00:28:06,360 --> 00:28:08,730 And then be honest with God. 523 00:28:10,140 --> 00:28:11,220 Pray with somebody. 524 00:28:12,360 --> 00:28:16,080 You know, I've been, I've been asking people in the groups I'm with. 525 00:28:16,935 --> 00:28:18,345 Pray for the person next to you. 526 00:28:18,345 --> 00:28:19,635 Don't pray for yourself. 527 00:28:19,695 --> 00:28:22,335 Pray for them, and then pray for the next one. 528 00:28:22,515 --> 00:28:27,195 And, and just by us going around the circle praying for each other, 529 00:28:27,435 --> 00:28:30,315 there's a different spirit than you just praying for yourself. 530 00:28:31,275 --> 00:28:35,325 And when you hear someone praying for you, doesn't it melt your heart? 531 00:28:35,805 --> 00:28:37,485 Doesn't it fill your spirit? 532 00:28:38,595 --> 00:28:42,495 I mean, I was on a call with some people that I, that don't really 533 00:28:42,495 --> 00:28:46,965 even know me that well, and one of 'em was praying for me and I, and I, 534 00:28:47,025 --> 00:28:51,375 and I'm glad it was on Zoom 'cause I got all teared up and choked up. 535 00:28:52,425 --> 00:28:55,995 I thought, how, how do they know what to pray for? 536 00:28:56,955 --> 00:29:01,965 The Holy Spirit must be whispered to them, but that's right on. 537 00:29:02,295 --> 00:29:03,375 Thank you God. 538 00:29:05,324 --> 00:29:08,955 And so before the prayer was, before the prayer call was over, 539 00:29:09,014 --> 00:29:10,784 we had another ti time to pray. 540 00:29:10,814 --> 00:29:15,314 And I prayed for that person and I don't even know 'em they live in, in Nashville. 541 00:29:15,314 --> 00:29:17,685 But I prayed for 'em because they prayed for me. 542 00:29:18,764 --> 00:29:24,074 That makes what makes the world go round, guys, this communal prayer for others. 543 00:29:24,135 --> 00:29:24,705 Amen. 544 00:29:24,975 --> 00:29:28,665 And then he says in the next verse, and this is good stuff, verse 13, 545 00:29:28,935 --> 00:29:31,605 I can do all things through him. 546 00:29:31,995 --> 00:29:32,955 Who gives me strength? 547 00:29:32,985 --> 00:29:34,034 This is the secret. 548 00:29:34,034 --> 00:29:35,655 When he says, I've learned the secret. 549 00:29:35,895 --> 00:29:38,504 He shared it with us a couple verses later. 550 00:29:39,105 --> 00:29:42,135 I have learned the secret of being content. 551 00:29:42,135 --> 00:29:43,065 Have you learned it? 552 00:29:45,045 --> 00:29:51,254 It's earlier in this chapter when he says, rejoice always again, I'll say it. 553 00:29:51,345 --> 00:29:51,915 Rejoice. 554 00:29:51,915 --> 00:29:52,514 Be happy. 555 00:29:54,795 --> 00:30:00,105 He says Whatever you have, any anxieties, any worries. 556 00:30:00,975 --> 00:30:06,825 Take 'em to God and then in your mind only think about what is good and 557 00:30:06,855 --> 00:30:10,995 excellent and noble and pure and sacred. 558 00:30:12,915 --> 00:30:16,575 And so now he's saying, and here's the real secret, though, 559 00:30:17,985 --> 00:30:19,995 I can do all things through God. 560 00:30:19,995 --> 00:30:20,775 It gives me strength. 561 00:30:22,455 --> 00:30:29,145 I don't know about you, but there's been times in my life I've felt alone, alone. 562 00:30:30,570 --> 00:30:34,080 And some of that's my fault as a leader, I need to ask for help. 563 00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:38,250 I need to tell people and what I need, and, but I'm not good at that. 564 00:30:38,250 --> 00:30:42,390 I'm a man and I'm stupid, so I don't, I just keep it in. 565 00:30:42,390 --> 00:30:46,770 Sometimes I'm preaching to myself, this stuff about sharing with others, 566 00:30:47,730 --> 00:30:53,190 but I don't always say that I need help and I, I, I, I, I, I feel alone. 567 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:58,470 And earlier this week 'cause the OC cleanup, you know, I'm looking at the 568 00:30:58,470 --> 00:31:03,750 whole church and making sure we're organized, but then the south sector is 569 00:31:03,750 --> 00:31:07,560 my responsibility and I hadn't done a very good job getting that organized. 570 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:11,520 I, we had the whole thing organized, but I didn't have the sector organized. 571 00:31:11,790 --> 00:31:13,139 But I called a couple brothers. 572 00:31:13,139 --> 00:31:17,460 I called Matt and I said, Matt, can you help find some trash force to clean up? 573 00:31:18,345 --> 00:31:20,055 And I called Charles Perry. 574 00:31:20,355 --> 00:31:24,105 I, I need, I need a place where there's bunch of trash down here. 575 00:31:24,375 --> 00:31:29,835 And the first thing they said to me, guess there's no trash down here. 576 00:31:32,715 --> 00:31:37,335 There is where they get washed off the streets and into the stream beds. 577 00:31:37,335 --> 00:31:39,795 That's where all that trash and plastic goes. 578 00:31:40,695 --> 00:31:40,875 All right. 579 00:31:41,939 --> 00:31:46,649 But they found us some places and I've just been praising God for Matt and 580 00:31:46,649 --> 00:31:49,949 Charles all week 'cause they've helped me. 581 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:54,840 The secret is get help, share with others. 582 00:31:55,169 --> 00:31:57,840 The secret of happiness is I can. 583 00:31:58,860 --> 00:31:59,850 I can handle this. 584 00:31:59,850 --> 00:32:01,830 God wouldn't give it to me if I couldn't. 585 00:32:02,639 --> 00:32:07,139 I can through him who gives me strength, say it with me. 586 00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:11,070 I can through him who gives me strength. 587 00:32:11,399 --> 00:32:17,520 Again, I can through him who gives me strength third time say it together. 588 00:32:17,639 --> 00:32:21,419 I can through him who gives me strength. 589 00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:26,820 You know, if you have that kind of positive mentality and you 590 00:32:26,820 --> 00:32:31,710 really give it to God and ask him to help you, you can do it. 591 00:32:32,909 --> 00:32:35,220 I mean, I'm just a hick from the sticks. 592 00:32:35,970 --> 00:32:39,300 I'm from a little place called Fruita, and look at me now. 593 00:32:40,110 --> 00:32:41,129 I'm in the big city 594 00:32:44,639 --> 00:32:46,209 and and OC it is. 595 00:32:46,530 --> 00:32:47,969 I even like it better than la. 596 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:48,389 All right. 597 00:32:48,389 --> 00:32:49,830 I've been in la All right. 598 00:32:50,669 --> 00:32:51,780 Oh, don't go there. 599 00:32:52,110 --> 00:32:52,949 It's all good. 600 00:32:53,129 --> 00:32:53,909 It's all good. 601 00:32:54,479 --> 00:32:57,209 Let's finish up happiness. 602 00:32:57,780 --> 00:33:02,909 If you say, I can do everything, see here's what's wrong with it. 603 00:33:02,969 --> 00:33:07,770 I can do everything that's a humanist, a spiritualist, that sort of. 604 00:33:08,355 --> 00:33:11,325 Head in the cloud says God can do everything. 605 00:33:13,365 --> 00:33:20,355 But a good Christian says we, God and me can do everything I can 606 00:33:20,355 --> 00:33:22,065 through him who gives me strength. 607 00:33:22,815 --> 00:33:23,775 We can. 608 00:33:24,015 --> 00:33:25,845 We, me and God. 609 00:33:25,845 --> 00:33:28,425 You and God can make it happen. 610 00:33:28,575 --> 00:33:29,505 Are you with me here? 611 00:33:29,985 --> 00:33:31,965 Verse 15 more over. 612 00:33:31,965 --> 00:33:34,635 As you Philippians know, in the early days of our coined. 613 00:33:35,775 --> 00:33:37,695 With the gospel, you're acquaintance with the gospel. 614 00:33:37,695 --> 00:33:42,255 When I set out for Macedonia, not one church shared with me in the matter of 615 00:33:42,255 --> 00:33:45,855 giving and receiving, except for you. 616 00:33:46,965 --> 00:33:52,995 The Philippians always took care of Paul, and so he had happy memories yesterday. 617 00:33:53,205 --> 00:33:54,975 We made some happy memories, didn't we? 618 00:33:54,975 --> 00:33:55,485 Church? 619 00:33:56,475 --> 00:33:56,535 Yeah. 620 00:33:56,595 --> 00:34:01,335 Wearing our orange T-shirts, and at first when I was picking up trash and. 621 00:34:01,784 --> 00:34:03,345 Going down the sidewalk. 622 00:34:03,615 --> 00:34:07,065 You know, people looked at me like, oh, is he one of those? 623 00:34:10,034 --> 00:34:12,855 I mean, a lady sped up as she was walking by. 624 00:34:12,855 --> 00:34:16,029 She started jogging all the, you know, 625 00:34:18,130 --> 00:34:22,574 and, and I thought, she thinks I'm a convict, you know? 626 00:34:23,054 --> 00:34:25,245 Well, I am sort of, so that's okay. 627 00:34:25,304 --> 00:34:25,755 Alright. 628 00:34:26,355 --> 00:34:27,525 Gotta be humble about that. 629 00:34:28,050 --> 00:34:31,500 But by the end of the day, there were people that were stopped and say, 630 00:34:31,860 --> 00:34:33,120 thanks for doing what you're doing. 631 00:34:34,590 --> 00:34:36,360 Thanks for cleaning up trash. 632 00:34:37,350 --> 00:34:40,440 You know, they'd read the front of the t-shirt, OC church, 633 00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:41,940 and then they'd read the back. 634 00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:48,000 And Kathy and I, we made some great memories yesterday, and we put the 635 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,250 use of my little truck trucker. 636 00:34:50,250 --> 00:34:53,429 Greg, it's not a real truck. 637 00:34:53,429 --> 00:34:56,040 It's a car truck, but I call it my truck. 638 00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:56,850 All right. 639 00:34:57,870 --> 00:34:59,279 It doesn't have a frame. 640 00:34:59,279 --> 00:35:00,600 It's unibody. 641 00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:04,470 It's not a real truck, but it's an, it's my truck. 642 00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:05,100 All right. 643 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:07,680 And we filled it up. 644 00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,950 We got, I don't know, five or six bags of trash in there. 645 00:35:11,069 --> 00:35:16,770 And then we got three old rusted chairs that were in the stream bed and, and 646 00:35:16,770 --> 00:35:23,595 all that other junk, you know, and I, I, I'm so proud of this picture and, uh. 647 00:35:24,435 --> 00:35:27,975 And my knee wasn't hurting in this picture, so I'm smiling. 648 00:35:27,975 --> 00:35:29,415 But anyway, 649 00:35:31,785 --> 00:35:33,525 good memories yesterday, weren't they? 650 00:35:34,785 --> 00:35:36,495 Helping brings happiness. 651 00:35:36,525 --> 00:35:38,205 That's why we needed to do that. 652 00:35:38,985 --> 00:35:40,965 People are wondering why you doing this? 653 00:35:41,775 --> 00:35:46,455 Well, there's a lot of reasons we needed to raise some money, but we as a church 654 00:35:46,455 --> 00:35:51,525 needed to get out and do something together and we needed to do something. 655 00:35:51,945 --> 00:35:54,885 Not just for ourselves, but also for the community. 656 00:35:55,155 --> 00:35:59,175 So, so many, you know, things were accomplished through what we did 657 00:35:59,175 --> 00:36:03,315 yesterday, and most of all, it brings happiness for even when I 658 00:36:03,315 --> 00:36:08,205 was in Thes Sonika, you sent me aid more than once when I was in 659 00:36:08,205 --> 00:36:11,715 need, helping brings happiness. 660 00:36:12,375 --> 00:36:16,635 And now every time I look at, look at, uh, Daniel, I'm gonna think 661 00:36:16,635 --> 00:36:18,345 of the orange shirt number one. 662 00:36:18,465 --> 00:36:20,655 Alright, as he made it happen. 663 00:36:21,810 --> 00:36:25,200 And he, he really was behind the scenes on this whole thing. 664 00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:26,550 I'm so proud of Daniel. 665 00:36:26,550 --> 00:36:32,040 I'm so proud of so many people, but Daniel really made it happen, you know? 666 00:36:32,610 --> 00:36:34,200 Yeah, let's think Daniel, 667 00:36:38,580 --> 00:36:41,850 but all of us that were able, not everybody was able, and I'm not gonna 668 00:36:41,850 --> 00:36:45,720 ever try to guilt people out for when they can't do something, but 669 00:36:45,720 --> 00:36:49,500 those of us that were able to do it, didn't you have this good feeling? 670 00:36:50,430 --> 00:36:51,630 Yeah, I'm a good person. 671 00:36:53,550 --> 00:36:54,870 Yeah, you do. 672 00:36:54,870 --> 00:36:59,850 You just feel good and, and, and I, I, I would go after those 673 00:36:59,850 --> 00:37:04,410 rappers, you would see 'em among all that dead wood and stuff. 674 00:37:04,410 --> 00:37:08,430 You'd see that rapper and you're like, I can't get in there and get that. 675 00:37:08,430 --> 00:37:15,360 And I try with my little picker upper, but I've got to, that is just so wrong. 676 00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:18,000 That trash right here in nature. 677 00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:18,390 Oh my. 678 00:37:18,750 --> 00:37:19,290 Okay. 679 00:37:19,770 --> 00:37:22,500 And I just break the bushes and I get it. 680 00:37:22,710 --> 00:37:27,180 And I'd feel so good about getting this little Reese's wrapper, you know? 681 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:32,069 And I put it in the bag and thought it sure didn't fill it up much, 682 00:37:32,069 --> 00:37:33,900 but it was hard work to get it. 683 00:37:35,250 --> 00:37:36,390 And I just felt good. 684 00:37:36,390 --> 00:37:39,540 I worked for the, my trash bag, all right? 685 00:37:39,900 --> 00:37:44,640 I thought it'd be easy, but it wasn't, wasn't, but that's part of 686 00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:47,220 the blessing, doing what's good. 687 00:37:47,250 --> 00:37:47,880 Amen. 688 00:37:47,955 --> 00:37:48,105 Amen. 689 00:37:48,495 --> 00:37:50,444 Happiness comes back around. 690 00:37:50,444 --> 00:37:53,775 I don't know how that's gonna bear fruit for our lives or 691 00:37:53,775 --> 00:37:55,005 for the church, but it will. 692 00:37:55,005 --> 00:38:00,285 Not that I desire your gifts, what I desire is that more may be credited to 693 00:38:00,285 --> 00:38:02,625 your account 'cause God sees everything. 694 00:38:02,895 --> 00:38:06,375 A book I want to encourage you to read is this shape of joy. 695 00:38:06,884 --> 00:38:09,795 You know, my friend Richard Beck wrote it. 696 00:38:10,005 --> 00:38:12,045 It's about positive psychology. 697 00:38:12,045 --> 00:38:13,424 It's about being happy. 698 00:38:13,799 --> 00:38:19,379 And here's what he says in the book, just to give you a cliff, cliff notes version. 699 00:38:19,890 --> 00:38:21,299 Slow your mind down. 700 00:38:21,629 --> 00:38:25,140 Get your turn down, the volume in your head. 701 00:38:25,169 --> 00:38:26,069 Get quiet. 702 00:38:26,879 --> 00:38:28,230 Focus on other people. 703 00:38:28,230 --> 00:38:29,669 That's what we did yesterday. 704 00:38:29,910 --> 00:38:31,049 Invest socially. 705 00:38:31,049 --> 00:38:32,279 We did that yesterday. 706 00:38:32,279 --> 00:38:32,490 Today. 707 00:38:33,810 --> 00:38:35,040 Don't be reactive. 708 00:38:35,970 --> 00:38:37,410 Make figure things out. 709 00:38:37,410 --> 00:38:38,819 Be solution oriented. 710 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:40,950 Get that I can mentality. 711 00:38:41,654 --> 00:38:43,154 And then value yourself. 712 00:38:43,154 --> 00:38:43,964 You're worthy. 713 00:38:44,415 --> 00:38:47,294 I can do it through him who gives me strength. 714 00:38:47,955 --> 00:38:50,895 And then your ego will be just the right size. 715 00:38:50,895 --> 00:38:53,115 It's not just you can do everything. 716 00:38:53,234 --> 00:38:55,004 It's you and God can do it. 717 00:38:55,274 --> 00:38:58,095 And so the size of your ego will be small. 718 00:38:58,125 --> 00:38:59,714 Good stuff. 719 00:39:00,104 --> 00:39:01,095 Verse 18. 720 00:39:01,274 --> 00:39:02,205 Two more verses. 721 00:39:02,384 --> 00:39:05,564 I have received full payment and have more than enough. 722 00:39:05,924 --> 00:39:07,935 I am amply supplied. 723 00:39:08,310 --> 00:39:11,490 Now that I have received from Epaphroditus, the gifts that you 724 00:39:11,490 --> 00:39:13,410 sent, they're a fragrant offering. 725 00:39:13,650 --> 00:39:18,810 You know that trash that smelled and stunk was a fragrant offering to God. 726 00:39:18,870 --> 00:39:23,490 Accept an acceptable sacrifice, pleasing to God. 727 00:39:23,820 --> 00:39:28,080 Verse 19, and my God will meet. 728 00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:33,840 Here's my promise to you, church and my God will meet all your needs according to 729 00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:37,260 the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus. 730 00:39:38,895 --> 00:39:43,515 I'm a representative, a spokesman for God, and so I want us to claim his 731 00:39:43,515 --> 00:39:50,174 promise there that my God, your God, our God can supply all your needs 732 00:39:50,325 --> 00:39:52,544 because of the riches of his glory. 733 00:39:52,935 --> 00:39:55,064 And the church said, amen. 734 00:39:56,205 --> 00:40:00,285 All these things bring happiness in our lives, but the key 735 00:40:00,285 --> 00:40:03,105 secret to it all is right here. 736 00:40:04,095 --> 00:40:05,535 I can do all things. 737 00:40:06,225 --> 00:40:11,654 In Christ who gives me strength leave here today with the I can mentality. 738 00:40:11,685 --> 00:40:12,254 Okay? 739 00:40:13,064 --> 00:40:13,754 I can. 740 00:40:14,325 --> 00:40:19,395 I can be happy even if some things aren't what I want 'em to be. 741 00:40:19,995 --> 00:40:25,814 I'm not gonna let my circumstances dictate I can't and it's gonna get better. 742 00:40:26,265 --> 00:40:28,995 Whatever it is now, it's gonna get better. 743 00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:29,190 Amen. 744 00:40:30,630 --> 00:40:33,120 I can through Christ who gives me strength. 745 00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:34,200 God bless you, church. 746 00:40:34,380 --> 00:40:34,770 Amen.