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welcome to the Elevated Edit podcast

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I'm your host likely Ramsey

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and the goal of this podcast is to discuss all things

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personal development wellness

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and the art of editing your life in an elevated way

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from mastering morning routines

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to mastering your mindset

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we're going to sift through the noise

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and empower you to take elevated action

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make sure you catch the show notes for all the details

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enjoy the show

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from mastering morning routines

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hello and welcome back to this week's episode

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of the Elevated Edit podcast

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I'm your host Blakely Ramsey

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and today

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we are gonna talk about something that has been

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a bit of a hot topic lately

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and full disclosure

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it is something I am still working on mastering myself

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and that is rest

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and in the context of rest

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we are

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not going to just talk about taking a break from work

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or getting enough sleep

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or sitting down in front of the TV to watch a movie

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we're going to get real about what rest truly means

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and how we can incorporate

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tiny habits that actually work into our busy days

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so if you know me personally

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you know I have never been one to just

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naturally be good at resting

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I'm definitely not great at it now

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but for my whole life

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it has certainly been an area where I was not a star

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people whatsoever

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I started working when I was 12 years old

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and I've pretty much been in high gear ever since

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you know I'm someone that's always brainstorming

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I'm always coming up with ideas

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I'm always kind of trying to push myself

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and I do believe that being someone who

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is constantly pushing to be the best that they can be

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I think that is a good quality to have

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but I also think it can come with a hefty price

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if you're not self aware and you know

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for a long time I was not self aware whatsoever

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and for many of us high achievers

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life does feel like a racing

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it's the clock because life really is so short

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and there is no guarantee

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of how much time we really have left

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and for me

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I want to accomplish as much as I can while I'm here

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uh but there is one thing that I'm starting to realize

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and this this took me a long time to become aware of

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but even if you are doing something

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that you're really passionate about

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you can still end up burnout um

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just because you're doing something

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that you love

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and you feel like it's your life's mission

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that doesn't mean that

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you can't still experience burnout

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from whatever it is and sometimes

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I think even more so

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when you are so passionate about something

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or like your judgment can completely be clouded because

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you know you're like well

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this is something that I love doing

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this is something that I really enjoy

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and it brings me joy but like I said

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I think that that can sometimes cloud our judgment

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and we push even harder

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when we're doing something like that

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and that burnout it

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it does not discriminate I mean

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it will come no matter what we're doing

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and burnout hit me pretty hard in 2022

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I was dealing with a personal situation that kind of

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shook the foundation of my life

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and it fundamentally changed how I saw

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the entire world um

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this situation was very isolating

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it was very unique and so

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it was something that I didn't really feel like

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I could talk to a lot of people about

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and so instead of you know

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facing the problem head on and tackling it

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like I should have

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I'm pretty much just buried myself in work

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and commitments I said yes to everything that I could

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I kept myself super busy

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and I did it at the expense of my health

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and you know

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I thought if I just kept going

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if I kept achieving

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I'd find happiness somewhere along the way

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and I think another issue that I've struggled with

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when it comes to rest is that my job is very high pace

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you know with real estate

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it is hard to turn it off

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because it can

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sometimes be an industry that glamorizes the hustle

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you know if you're an agent that works until midnight

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and you're up again working at 5 a

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m you know

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people are you know

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complimenting you and they're praising you

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and I think that's especially toxic

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if you are looking for validation outside of yourself

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you know hearing people say those words

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it can become really addictive and

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and it was for me

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I kind of fed off of it and

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you know I was the busy girl

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and it gave me a rush that people complimented that

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and I used to joke that my Google calendar

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looks like a box of crayons

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because it was just so all over the place

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so hectic I had my hand in so many things

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and so many different commitments

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and it was honestly to the point

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where I did not even have time to slow down and like

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actually evaluate where my priorities were

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where they should even be

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you know

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I was just scrambling from the time that I woke up

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until the time I went to sleep

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and I was never ever getting caught up on anything

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and so at the end of: 2022

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I completely hit a wall you know

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I had all of these big goals these big dreams

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but I wasn't making any real progress

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and I wasn't actually moving the needle

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towards anything everything I was doing was

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at least it felt like busy work

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you know I was doing a lot of work

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that was just me procrastinating

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so I had an excuse

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not to execute on the big things that I wanted to do

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and then I was also doing a lot of work

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a lot of busy work for other people

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because I didn't have great boundaries

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and I like I said

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I just said yes to everything and when I look back

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I am kind of shocked at some of the things that I said

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yes to and how much I had on my plate

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but you know it

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it was my fault

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because I did have a lack of boundaries

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and it took a toll you know physically

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mentally and emotionally for me

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and that was around the time when I knew

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something had to change you know

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I couldn't continue down this road of burnout

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I started studying the people that I truly admired

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like genuinely looked up to

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and those who had achieved all these great things

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but they still maintained a good

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solid core and they had like a good balance

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and I really don't love the word balance

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because I think that word is sometimes misused

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everybody is gonna have a different balance

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depending on their season

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of life but that that word works here

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um and so I did

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you know look up to people who had this balance

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you know they were high achievers yes

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they were the best in their field

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the best in their craft they put a lot of focus

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time and energy into their life's mission

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their families and their careers

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and you know they were excellent at all these things

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but they were also very self aware

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and they knew when they needed to slow down

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and I think that was a great lesson that I Learned

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when I was studying all of these high achievers

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was that slowing down really is the key to speeding up

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and I know that that sounds very counterintuitive

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especially if you're coming from a background

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where slowing down

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does feel like you're actually losing ground

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and I completely understand that because

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I came from the restaurant industry and if you are slow

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you're not making money and same with real estate

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you know especially if you're brand new

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and you're trying to get your feet off the ground

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if you're slow you're not making money

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and so I came from these super high pace environments

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it was really important for me to learn that

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there is gonna be a season to hustle

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but you also have to

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be aware of when that season changes

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and it might be a season of rest

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you know I feel like this

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year has been a perfect example of that

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the beginning of the year I

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I did have a lot easier time resting

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because I was doing a lot of self work

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I was doing a lot of travel

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um I was brainstorming

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all of the things that I'm now executing on

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this last couple of months has not been as

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as easy to rest and so

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I've really had to lean on those habits

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to make sure that I am staying self aware

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and that I continue to do the habits that

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you know really have moved the needle for me this year

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and like I said in all of that

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I just think that self awareness is like

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it's so important and it's so crucial and understanding

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you know

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when it's time to push and when it's time to pause

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I think those seasons of life can be very cyclical

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you know you can push for a while

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and really make progress towards your goals

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or you can push through and get through a difficult

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emotional season of life but eventually

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there's going to come a time

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where you're pushing against a brick wall

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and in order to get to that next level

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when it comes to your goals

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whether you know

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it's starting a new career

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or you're just

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trying to implement a new routine with your kids

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or whatever it is that's on your goals list

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you're going to have to rest in order

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to get there

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and I feel confident saying what I'm about to say

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because I know that I have never been good at rest

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but I really have tried hard to make it a priority

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this year and I feel like the more that I rest

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the bigger progress I make towards my goals

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you know

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they say that you can't pour from an empty cup and

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you know I heard that for years

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but this year I'm really seeing how true that is

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uh because you know

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the more you study it

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it really is those micro decisions

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and those micro habits in your everyday life

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that actually move the needle forward

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and make the biggest difference

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you know it's not the big

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giant thing that you do a couple of times a year

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it's the little teeny

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tiny things that you do every day

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that at the end of the year

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you look back and go wow

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like that really made a huge difference

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and I think if you're in a place of burnout

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and you are not well rested

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you're not making a

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you're not an effective decision maker

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and so

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it's almost impossible for you to implement those good

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tiny micro habits

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and I have found that when I prioritize rest

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I just show up as my best self

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I am more creative I'm calmer

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I'm a better problem solver

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and I can create quickly and easily

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I can problem solve faster

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more efficiently and overall

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my life is just a lot easier

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and my goal was to get to a place where

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I was aware that it wasn't always going to be easy

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but rest constantly had to be a priority

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and I want this show to be all about tiny

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micro habits that we can implement

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so let's discuss a few and

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I brought these micro

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habits down into four pillars of rest

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and you've probably heard of these four pillars before

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but I kind of just wanted to break them down today

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because

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I do think looking at rest in such a holistic way

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is super helpful because like I said

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sometimes you don't even know if you're at the root

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and so kind of looking at it in

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in all of the different ways where you can rest

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I think can be super helpful for a lot of us

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and I have actually created a handy checklist

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uh to accompany this episode

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and at the end of the episode

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I will tell you where you can find the checklist

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and it's gonna be for free

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so make sure you listen until the end

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so many of us are familiar with physical rest

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and when I say physical rest

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we are prioritizing sleep

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exercise hydration and nutrition where and how we can

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and for me this

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this one has been super difficult

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because there are many aspects

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and sometimes like I said

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it is hard to get to the rate of the issue

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and for me it has just been kind of um

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implementing and adjusting as I go

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and experimenting and see what works best

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and for me the three biggest

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impacts on my physical rest

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have been limiting caffeine

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this was a hard one for me at first

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because I was a loaded tea girl

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I was a bang energy drink

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I was drinking caffeine all day long

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all the caffeine give me espresso

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give me you know all the diet sodas

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I love caffeine

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and for a couple of months

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I pretty much cut it out cold Turkey

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and I

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not only saw a huge difference in my anxiety levels

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but my sleep changed drastically

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and I have started incorporating some caffeine back in

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but if I drink caffeine afternoon

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I know my sleep is gonna be disrupted

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so I really try to keep it very limited

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and then I try to keep it to the morning uh

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and this next one is not gonna be feasible

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for everyone every day

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but for me it has been huge

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and that is taking a morning walk every day

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uh it energizes my body

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and I feel like

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it just kind of like detoxes everything

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and mornings

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when I take a walk first thing in the morning

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or days when I take a walk first thing in the morning

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I sleep so well at night

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and that's the same for this next um physical rest

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micro habit as well

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is taking a cold shower every morning

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this was something I despised

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the first month that I did it

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like I was like this is miserable

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this is awful now take my regular shower

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turn the cold on I'll stand there for like 5

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7 minutes um

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there's a

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couple of podcasts that are five to seven minutes long

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and so I'll just turn one of those on

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and still don't love it

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but I love the way that I feel afterwards

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and on days when I take a cold shower in the morning

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I sleep way better at night

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um the next form of rest is mental rest

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and this is a big one

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and I think with the increase in technology

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in our everyday lives

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it has made it so much harder for us to get mental rest

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so mental fatigue comes from constant overthinking

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constant problem solving and constant mental clutter

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which you know

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aside from just having a busy life

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I feel like social media does

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you know contribute to that so much

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and for me once again

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mental rest has involved a ton of self awareness

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because I do think it takes a while

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for you to be able to tell yourself like

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oh I need a break

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especially when your whole life

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you've been living in fight or flight mode

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I think it's difficult to have the awareness

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of telling yourself okay

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I need to take a break

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even if it's a few minutes and so for me

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the three you know

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habits that I

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kind of instilled to try to prevent mental fatigue

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have been limiting my social media

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this one is hard because I

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I do have so many things

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positive things to say about social media

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and our next

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episode is actually gonna be all about social media um

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and so I don't ever wanna say well

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I'm just gonna get off of social media

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I'm gonna eliminate it but

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limiting my social media intake has been huge for me um

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I have also unfollowed a lot of people

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I have curated my feeds

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I try not to get on first thing in the morning

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and an hour before sleep and then

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I really try during the day

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to just make sure that I'm not mindlessly scrolling

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um like

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I like to get on and be intentional

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and either communicate with someone

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or network or learn something

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or be entertained

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and if I'm not doing one of those things

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if I'm just doomsday scrolling

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I need to get off and like go read a book or something

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as something else that has helped me a lot

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is taking frequent breaks

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I used to just sit at my computer for hours and like

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I would just be so stressed out

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and I would feel like I was hitting a wall

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and now I'm like okay

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it's been 45 minutes of deep work

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I need to stand up and walk around for three minutes um

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or I'll walk outside and take

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a loop around the building or

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you know whatever it is

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wherever I'm at

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I try to take a break every 45 minutes to an hour

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and I come back and I promise like

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I'm so much sharper than it was

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and my third habit has been engaging in

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creative hobbies

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so my current creative hobby is obviously this podcast

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um it has caused me to

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change and grow in ways that I was not expecting

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and it has been kind of a nice release

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to have such a creative outlet

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and something that I am enjoying so much

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um so yeah

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the podcast has been just working on it for so long

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and all the things I've Learned

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it really has been

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like such a great thing for my mental health

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so emotional rest is one that I never realized

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was such a huge problem that I dealt with

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but I was carrying around some crazy emotions

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that were a heavy burden to carry

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and working on my emotional fatigue took a lot of time

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and a lot of energy but it was honestly

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one of those things that was so worth it

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and I would say

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the top things that helps me rest emotionally would be

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boundaries

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I am have gotten pretty good at implementing boundaries

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it has been to the avail of some people

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but

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I have Learned that I would rather disappoint someone

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else than disappoint myself

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and that has been pivotal for me uh

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disconnecting from toxic relationships

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so I feel like that kind of went hand in hand with

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implementing boundaries and fortunately for me it

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it happened organically I didn't have to

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you know have a falling out with anyone or I'm not

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you know not friends with anybody anymore

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anything like that

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but implementing boundaries did kind of

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you know disconnect me from

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some relationships that were a little toxic

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and so I that has been huge for me

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and then the last one when it comes to emotional rest

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has been giving myself Grace

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um I have always been the hardest person on myself and

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you know just a couple of times a day telling myself

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hey like

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you know you didn't do as well as you wanted

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but you did a pretty good job

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that's been huge for me like I'm like

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thank you so

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thank you so much um

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and last but not least um

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spiritual rest is so important

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and I feel like this is one

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that hardly ever gets discussed

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and I am almost okay with that because for me

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personally my

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faith is something that I am very private about

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um it's not something that I openly discuss

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but I do think it's important for people to remember

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that you know

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being connected to something greater than yourself

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like the faith that it can give you is so powerful

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some of the things that I've been doing

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this year to kind of give myself spiritual rest is

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I have done a lot of reading and research

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and it has been a joy um

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it's truly been wonderful to kind of have those gentle

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soft

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amazing discussions and second

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I've been doing a lot of journaling

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so I've always been one to journal

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but here recently I have tried to make sure that

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my journaling is more about gratitude

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like what I have and what I'm grateful for

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versus using it as a time to complain

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I'm kind of

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shifting my mindset to more of a gratitude journal

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versus like a lack journal

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that's been huge for me and I think the last thing

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as far as spiritual rest for me

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has been spending time outside

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so I am not inherently like an outside girl

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I don't really love dirt and bugs and things like that

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but I have really enjoyed

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I've done a lot of hiking lately

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um I've done a lot of grounding

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like I'll just go outside and lay in the yard

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um I am a little worried about snakes

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but you know

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priorities okay um

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but for me just like

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getting outside and seeing how beautiful the world is

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it's just kind of a reminder

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cause I feel like you know

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it is so easy to get kind of

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caught in that negativity loop

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where everything on social media is on fire

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and everything at work is on fire and

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you know everything at home is on fire and like

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everything just seems so bad and so negative

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and like

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I think sometimes just like going outside and like wow

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it's a pretty cloud or wow that's a really pretty tree

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I think it can just kind of remind us that there

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really is so much beauty out there

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and we have to go out and look for it

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um we can't just stay in that negativity loop

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we kind of have to search for the positive

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and really hold on to that as much as we can

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looking at rest holistically

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has been life changing for me

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and it's not just one thing

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it is a combination of practices that nurture your

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entire being when you allow yourself to rest

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in all these different ways

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you come back stronger more focused

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and ready to tackle whatever it is that comes next

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so you know

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I'm gonna leave you with three action items

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and these are pretty good ones

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so No. 1 you're gonna download

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the checklist that I mentioned earlier in the episode

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it can be found in the show notes

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and there will also be a link in

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our bio on all the social media platforms

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so all of the elevated edit

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social media platforms will have a link that

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you can download the checklist

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okay number two

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I want you to find

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one thing you can implement this week

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that will really move the needle

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when it comes to your rest

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not five things not eight things

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not 12 things one thing

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and I want you to try to implement that

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you may only do it twice this week

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and that's okay but if you like build up those teeny

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tiny micro habits and you just stay consistent

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you know at the end of six months or the end of a year

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you'll look back and go oh wow

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like I really accomplished that

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instead of trying to do 75 things at once

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and then you get overwhelmed

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I have found for me that like

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implementing one little micro habit

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every once in a while has made such a huge difference

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and the final action

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step is to journal and reflect on your progress

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so this can be something that you spend

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five minutes doing on a Saturday morning

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you know you keep

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like I said keep a journal right by your bed

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and first thing in the morning you go okay

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I will kind of want to reflect on

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how my rest was this week

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you know in the all the areas

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did I hit the goals that I set for myself

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in those areas and I think sometimes

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reflecting and just being honest with yourself

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with Grace um

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that can really move the needle

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because then you're not going

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you know a whole year without looking back and

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and kind of evaluating where you're at

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and

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my final note is to remember that rest is not a luxury

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it is a necessity it's the fuel that will

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that will take you to the next level of yourself

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and trust me when you rest well

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you'll perform even better

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thanks for listening

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and I will see you in the next episode

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thank you for tuning in to the Elevated Edit podcast

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and full of actionable tips

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