Oh, my goodness. We're back. And today is a really fun topic. It's kind of a, almost, it's like a taboo topic, I guess, in my eyes, because I think so many people complicate this, but I also think it's kind of shoved down our throats on like, be vulnerable, be vulnerable, be vulnerable, be vulnerable. But like What does vulnerability actually mean? And how can we do this in the most real and authentic way? And like, what does vulnerability actually mean? Like, I feel like this episode is like tea time when it comes to the topic of vulnerability, I'm picturing Kermit the frog with his little tea mug in his mouth, and he's like, Ooh, I've got some tea to spill on vulnerability because I have some tea. to spill on vulnerability and what I believe vulnerability means and like how to actually implement this into your business in The right way, because personally, I'm not shitting on anyone. You guys know this, I'm not putting anybody down, but I see it all the time, like vulnerability being done in the wrong way, you know, being done in a F in a way that people think that they have to do it in order to share and be vulnerable, but it really gets to be unique to you. As you guys know, like we are here to do business run business. show up In a way that is so unique to us. That's real, that's authentic. That feels so good. And I think a lot of the time when it comes to being vulnerable, online we do it in a way that doesn't always feel good. We do it in a way that, in which that we think that we have to do it based on what we've one either been taught or two what we see other people doing, and what's working for them, we then think, oh, she's vulnerable this way. I have to do it in this way. And that doesn't work literally when you're just emulating things that other people are doing, because you think that that's what you have to do and it doesn't feel good to you. And it doesn't feel true. to you It doesn't work. And like there's no point in being vulnerable and being real. If it's, if it's not working for you and if it's not something that you actually want to share and feel any real, genuine emotion, passion, and purpose behind. So let's talk about this. So let's just have a real deal, heart to heart conversation about this today, because I hear this often from clients, and I know that if my clients struggle with this chances are you struggle with this? And I myself have struggled. First and foremost, disclaimer, I, myself, I'm not the most vulnerable person. I don't really cry too often if I do, it's kind of a big deal. Um, and I don't really talk about my emotions a ton. I try, I'm getting better, but I also am just not the most emotionally full word person and that's okay. And I don't have to change that about me and. To be vulnerable online or in order to be real and authentic and myself and have people see me, hear me, but also them feel seen and heard by me again, this is where vulnerability and realness, realness, and authenticity is going to look different for every single one of us and like right here. And right now, like it gets to, okay, like this gets to look different for me and it gets to look different for you. Okay. Capiche, Capiche. If you're struggling with being vulnerable and sharing more, I need you to know this Okay. If you're feeling like, oh, Michelle, I do not want to be vulnerable. I do not want to cry online. I do not want to share my deepest, darkest dirtiest secrets. My fears. I don't want to share it. Here's the deal. You don't have to. Okay You don't have to, unless you want to, unless you want to, here's the thing we, if you haven't gathered already, we're not here to do things that we don't want to do. There's going to be resistance around Certain things, maybe fear or doubt or whatever. This is not what we're talking about. It's like a different topic, but like when it comes to genuinely not wanting to share things online or to share more. Or to cry online, whatever it might be that like, you're thinking you have to do you, you don't have to do that. Like, I just need you to know that, okay, if you want to go for it, you could be maybe a really expressive person and like sharing in that way, crying, opening up your heart, sharing your deepest, darkest secrets. Like there's no right or wrong answer. I need you to know that there's no right or wrong way to be. vulnerable There just isn't. But again, it has to be true to you and it has to be real because that's the key fake vulnerability doesn't work, but here's what does work real ness real ness. Okay. Because your people, your dream clients want connection Us human beings, we crave Connection. We crave humanness and more than ever having come out of like a pandemic, obviously it's not over, I'm using that sentence lightly the world, especially I'm in the U S for those that don't know, we are now mask lists on many people are vaccinated and things are kind of open up to full capacity. Right. Especially after you're In a pandemic we're craving like real connection and humanness than, than ever. Like we're create craving that. And when you can be so real with your people on your live trainings, on your stories, in your content, that realness, whatever it is, you have to say. That's going to create the real connection, but if you're creating like fake phone durability, meaning like searching for something heart-wrenching to share and like, it just doesn't feel good or true to you. That's not real. Maybe it's vulnerable, but it's not fucking real. And so people are going to feel that literally people can feel your energy. And emotions and truth behind everything that you put out. Like your people are not stupid. Okay. People are not stupid. And like, that's why think about the people that you are so attracted to in the online space, the people that you invest in it's because they make you feel a certain way because you trust them without even knowing why you trust them so much. And it's because of this Realness and this connection. And when you can master this, you're like a force to be reckoned with. People are like, oh shit. It's like, I just feel like you see me. You get me. I vibe with you. I can't, I can't explain it. They're like, I just want to give you my money. This is where people will pay you more money because of your authenticity, your realness. You're not trying to be somebody else. You're not trying to be something that you're not, you're not forcing something. You're not making yourself do something in a way that doesn't feel good to you because here's the thing. If it doesn't feel good to you, it's not going to feel good to the person. watching Like that's just the truest of the truest statements. If It doesn't feel good to you. It's not going to feel good to the person watching it, the person. reading And that's not connection. It's defeating the whole purpose of even being vulnerability, being vulnerability, being vulnerable and being real because it's not, it's like the opposite of that. And that's when people are like, Ooh, like I see what she's putting out, but like, it just is making me feel off and it's because it is off. But here's the thing, the realness, you, your vulnerability, your humanness is your super power. Literally. I feel like it's like you put on your wonder woman Cape and you're like, To go make all of my dreams and all of my goals come true from this place. It is literally your superpower. I kid you, not, all of, all of my clients have come to me, all of them because they they're like you're so real. You're so human. Like you just get me, like, it's just no fluff And here's the thing, guys. I don't cry online. And as I mentioned earlier, like I'm just not the most emotionally forward person. I don't cry a ton. So like for me to cry online, it's just probably, I'm not going to say never, but it's probably something you're not really ever going to get from me because it's just not me again. there's no right or wrong answer, but if I forced myself to cry online, you would feel forced Content, you would feel that and you would be like, whoa, Michelle, like, I don't know what changed, but like, I'm not really vibing with this, but my realness, my humanness, the quirkiness like me showing me dancing with Apollo there's food in my teeth. Sometimes on stories. I mess up. You guys hear it on my podcast? I don't edit when I choke on my words because I'm human I'm real. I share my struggles. I, the other day I shared on my story, like I was in an ebb in my business, like feeling just off, there were moments of ebb and flow. I don't like feeling, feeling off, getting into your mind, limiting beliefs. I share all of that stuff. That's the realness, but I share it from a place that feels good for me to share. And that is your super power. And literally, what will have people paying you? Thousands of dollars you being you wholeheartedly. You allowing yourself to mess up on stories and not rerecording. It is also a form of vulnerability. Do you get that? You not being perfect is also a form of vulnerability You putting yourself out there every single day for people to judge you because they will, we don't care that people judge us, let them, it doesn't fuck with you no matter what, right? Like you're unfuckwithable But people. Watching us every day, us putting ourselves out there, creating new things, showing up is a part of being vulnerable. Like it's real, it's human it's sometimes it's scary. Right? And so I want to give you guys a couple tangible things to move away from, with. This episode and being vulnerable and being real. And like, how can you bring this to life in your own messaging, in your own content when you show up and like, have it connect on such a deep level. Because again, when you can connect with your people, they, they are your die hard people. They will buy all of the things. They will be in every, a single one of your programs. And I kid you not like my clients, if you're listening, you guys know this, but if you've never been a client of mine, like I am the most real. With my clients, like, of course I shared this on social media and you hear a lot of it here in this podcast, of course. But like my clients know, like they know the ins and the outs and like the struggles and the realness, because that realness, especially as a mentor, as a business coach is so important for my clients to see and to witness because I'm so human, but it also doesn't mean that I'm not going to hit my goals because I'm human and have tough times because the same applies for them. And the same applies for you. right But I share it in a way that feels good for me. Again, you get to share it in a way that feels good for you because when it feels good for you it'll feel good for your people. Now, some tangible things feel free to get your notebooks out. Or again, come back to this episode, look at the timestamp and just get your notebook out and write this stuff down. When it comes to your content stories, anything. That you're sharing on and you, you want to bring more vulnerability and you want to bring more realness. You like want your people to understand you more. You want them to feel like you see them and you hear them and you get where they're at. First question you have to ask yourself, is, does this actually feel good to share? Does it okay if it doesn't feel good, don't share. Okay. I know that that like should probably reverse if anything that you've ever been taught before, but if it doesn't feel good, don't share it. Like we're not here to just post to post. We're not here to force things. We're not here to just like create things because somebody told you that you had to share it. If it doesn't feel good, you don't share it. Okay. Capiche next question is, does this serve me? Does it serve you first? And does it serve my dream client when I share this? Does it. And if it doesn't, you don't have to share it. Okay. Next question. How do I want to share this? How do you want to bring this vulnerable message? This realness, who you are, whatever it is you want to share in that moment, how do you want to share it? And I don't mean logistics of like, do I want to record a story or a live or a training? That's not what I mean when I say, how do I want to share this? I mean, like, how do you want to talk about it? How do I, you want to present. this What's the message behind it. What's the takeaway. How do you, how do you want to bring this to life? Like how, how do you want to convey this? And like ultimately, what do you want people to feel when you put this out there? And that really goes into my next question. These two are kind of intertwined is how do I want my people to feel when I share this? Because here's the thing we're not creating vulnerable content for people to feel bad for us. Like I'm chances. are You're not crazy. You never go into like creating a piece of vulnerable content with like the hope that someone's gonna be like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. You're going through this. Like, chances are that's you the creators and that's not why you're sharing it. You're probably sharing it with the feeling of like, I know that when I share this, this will help somebody. Right. Because ultimately that's, but we do as service providers, we want to help people. We're here to impact And so asking yourself this question of how do I want my people to feel when I share this, but you don't want them to feel bad for you, right? So we're not going to come across in like a woe is me kind of way. When we're sharing vulnerability, vulnerably, we're sharing from a place of like, Hey, this is what I just went through. And like, here's what I did to get out of it. And I'm like, if you're going through this, I see you. I hear you. I've got you. Like, you are not alone. We want to share vulnerably from a place of like a leadership style way, because that's the most empowering type of vulnerability is like, when you can come from this place of like, I get it, like I'm in the shit. Maybe you're sitting in it or you just went through it. Cause we're human. We all go through shit and then your people know like you can guide them through it. That's like incredible. And that's when vulnerability and realness and humanness really works because also like we're here to make money. Like you're not just here to like, have a dear diary, Instagram and like share every struggle you've gone through. If you want to share every struggle, go for it. But you're also here to make money. And so it's also looking at when I share this, how is this going to help my people? How is this going to help the collective and ultimately What's the, what's the end result of this when I'm sharing this, it's not always selling something, but like, ultimately what's the end result when I'm sharing this piece of vulnerable content and it's not the likes, it's not the comments. That's not what I mean when I say that, but it's like, what is your purpose behind you sharing it? And when you can have clarity behind that, it's so much more powerful. Because the work that we do as entrepreneurs, the businesses that we own, there's purpose and there's passion behind it. And so that also has to come into effect in everything that you put out is like, does this feel good for me to share? Am I 100% behind, this is this from my heart. Is this what's on my mind? And is this helping the collective that's something I want you to think about when it comes to being vulnerable, real human in any piece of content that you create. Because again, that connection piece. When your content, when your vulnerable pieces of content and everything that you put out is so you, and it sounds like you, and it feels like you, we connect with you on just such a deeper level. And again, that connection piece doesn't always have to be vulnerable content, but it has to be, you Has to be the way in which you want to say things, how you want to convey them. And that that's the most powerful part, but I think we miss this so much when we think about vulnerability and realness and authenticity is we think that we have to do it the way in which that we see other people doing it. And there's nothing wrong with the way people do it. But again, it has to be true to you because that's the only way that it works. And that's the only way that you actually make people feel, Ooh, you've got some homework. You got some homework, if you didn't jot down those questions that I asked just a moment ago, definitely come back to this podcast or pause me and rewind me and write those questions down any time. Really you're creating content, but especially your vulnerability and your realness and your authentic pieces content. Just get clear on your intention behind it, how you want to share things, how you want to make people feel, but also what feels true and real to you to share because that I can't like, I can't emphasize this enough. Like that is the turning point with your community. That is the turning point with people paying you hundreds of dollars versus thousands of dollars. And I wish, I wish somebody said this to me earlier, honestly, like this is why I created this episode. This was like, this was a planned episode because I was like, oh, I got to talk about this and spill some tea. This is, this is the realness You guys know it's the hart to heart podcast Like this is real deal. conversation So now go do it again, as you're coming up with this, if you're like, Michelle, thank you so much for sharing this. Like the biggest aha moments ever on this. Let me know on the Instagram, feel free to tag me as you're listening to the episode you guys know. I love, love, love, love hearing from you like this community is unlike anything else. I love you so so much. And lastly, if you haven't already, you guys know this means the world. 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