Ada 0:00

Welcome to All things Health and Abundance podcast. This is a podcast where we discuss different health and abundance related issues and come with real tips and advice. Today we're going to talk about healthy habits. What are healthy habits? Why are they sometimes difficult to implement? What are the main principles of healthy habits and how can we go around implementing them in our everyday life? This and much more is what will be discussed today.

And today with me is Heather Beebe. Heather is a certified holistic health coach who specializes in mindset shifts that lead to lasting change. She helps individuals create personalized health plans that integrate nutrition, lifestyle changes, stress management, and mindfulness practices. Her goal is to empower her clients to take control of their health and find balance in their lives. I'm really happy to have you here with us today also, because I myself have noticed that even though I feel so good when I'm implementing healthy habits in my life, I still slip up and make unhealthy choices from time to time. So can you maybe start by telling us a bit about what you work with? U1

Heather 1:45

My business is Revelstoke Wellness that. It's the words rebel and holistic together, because I believe that when we choose to take a holistic approach to our health and wellness requires a certain amount of courage, we're a lot of times go against what we're taught from childhood on up, or going against what society the majority of society is doing. We're not, you know, taking a pill for everything. We're choosing to get to the root of the issue. And essentially that leads us to living a much healthier, happier, more balanced life for actually taking care of the root problem. Right? Instead of just putting a Band-Aid on it. And when we choose to live that way, and I'm talking physically, I'm talking mentally, emotionally, spiritually, all of the aspects of our lives come together in a really beautiful way. But you do have to you set yourself up, possibly come up against some rejection or some judgment because not everybody understands. You know, a lot of people aren't making those same holistic choices. And so that's where the rebel part comes in, right? You're channeling your inner rebel, and you're choosing to do what you know is best for you regardless.

Ada 2:57

That's powerful thank you. U2

Heather 3:11

Yeah. I believe so strongly in living according to our values. Living according to what lights us up like we're given this life to to shine and do big things. And how can we do big things if we're not even caring for our body and our soul and our spirit? And then that starts with us taking care of ourselves. And saying, and we show up better for everybody else when we are taking care of ourselves. And that's a mindset shift too, because especially as women, it's ingrained in us to care for everyone else. You know, we take care of our kids, we take care of our families, we work, we do all these things, and we make sure everyone and everything else is taken care of a lot of times before we're really making sure that we're taking care of. And I love to work with women around this because seeing self-care and self-love as a priority and as a requirement. Can make that mindset shift. We end up showing up better for ourselves first, and therefore we're going to show up better and stronger for our families, for our work, for the people that we are, you know, so love so much. Just kind of sharing that message is what I'm really, really passionate about doing.

Ada 4:30

What would you say to someone, to a mom, for example, who says, oh yeah, I hear you, but I don't have time for that because who will do everything else? Who will do all the chores, taking care of the kids and everything that has to be done at the end of the day. Don't have time to care for myself? Yeah. What would you tell them? U2

Heather 5:03

That's an excellent question. I'm glad you asked that, because I get asked that a lot by the clients and the people that I work with. So what I do is we take a deep look at their life. What's going on in your life? What do you do as a parent? What do you do for work? You know, are you a working parent that works outside the home? Are you solely in the home, which is a job in itself? We all know that. And it's really a matter of priorities. But sometimes when we're in the moment and we are living that life of being that parent or being that housewife or being whatever our roles are, we hard to see when you're on the inside living it. It's easier to have somebody come from an outside perspective, give you, you know, some different perspectives that you might not see, some some ways that you can shift and space and shift some priorities around. So it's not saying your family is no longer your priority. Your work is no longer your priorities. But how can I shift some things and make some space? You know, it's like when you're filling a jar with, let's just say rock, okay? You're putting some rocks in a jar and you put some in and you think you filled it up and you don't think you have space for any more. You shake it a little, they rearrange, they adjust, and it's like, oh, I have some more space. That's not home, Balaji. But that's kind of the idea. It's like, okay, I don't have any more hours in the day, but how can I shift and rearrange? And sometimes when we start to look at it that way, we see things that are taking time and taking up energy in our lives that actually don't mean that much to us. And it's not our family and it's not, you know, the things that are nearest and dearest to our heart. But sometimes there are things, little things that are taking up space. And we realize, okay, so if I'm going to eliminate something from my life, if I really care about living a life that allows me time and space for for me and for things that I'm passionate about, sometimes we have to let some things go, and when we look on the surface, we don't always see where that is. We think, well, there's nothing I can let go, but when we start digging in, we realize, oh man, I spend a lot of time doing this, or I spend a lot of time, you know, I can shift my day. I can shift my energy in this way to create 15 minutes here, 20 minutes there, an hour there. And it does start to come together. Does that make sense?

Ada 7:45

Yeah, it's very much sense. Yeah. So it's about awareness actually.

Heather 7:49

Yeah. Very much about awareness and self worth. Valuing yourself, valuing who you are and speaking to to moms especially, you know, it can be really easy when we have our children to almost let a part of ourself go, like almost lose our identity in a way. And and sanity can quickly shift to, well, I'm a mom. That's who I am, when in fact that is a part of who we are. Yes, it's a very big part, but we are still so with so many other parts, and it can be a juggling act of how do I hold on to these parts of me that are really special and really light me up while still being the best mom that I can? And that's why I am passionate working with women, specifically because I want to help women hold on to that. I want to help women prioritize their health and wellness, and show them that it's possible to do that without letting go of their children, without being less of a mom. It's still possible to do that.

Ada 9:09

That's so nice to hear this. I remember when I became a mom, I remember actually thinking then sometimes even saying out loud that I had lost myself. Yeah, it took a while to find again myself, if I can explain it like that. It took a while. Like starting slowly, implementing different things, different things that I used to do before I became a mom. Different practices. But it wasn't an easy job.

Heather 9:13

No, no. And it sounds like that was something that you had to consciously make a decision to do, right,

U2

Ada 9:20

It wouldn't have been done otherwise. It is just easier to to forget yourself and just do everything else. What is needed to be done.

Yeah. So what? I'm curious, how did you do that for yourself? Like what were some things that you did to kind of bring yourself back to you? U1

It was about making a conscious choice, even when I didn't want to do that. For example, I let go of my yoga practice when my son was just born because I just didn't have the time for that, I thought, or the energy because I didn't care about what I was eating. I would eat easiest things which are not the healthiest. And then I started becoming aware of that, becoming aware of actually not buying certain things at all in order to remove that temptation. And then I just started practicing ten minutes of yoga, just ten minutes here and there and sometimes even in front of my son. And it's funny because now he practices to like I see him doing downward dog and other yoga postures. It's a it's a lot of fun. And I assume it's because he has seen me once in a while doing these things. And then I started thinking, okay, what if I made this into fun? Because I realized that I was so stressed about having to manage everything, and that was so unhealthy for me and for him, actually. But it took a while. U2

I love the wildlife to say it does. I love that we're talking about habits and you're sharing this story because that's exactly your perfect example of. Someone building healthy habits. It starts with that consciousness and that awareness. And if you don't have the awareness that something needs to change or something can change, that, there is the possibility of change, then you won't. You won't take the steps to make it. So you wanted to get back to your yoga practice. You wanted to bring back in these elements that make add so much to your life and start. That's where it starts. That's where anything starts. And you talked about your food choices and, you know, choosing to eliminate the foods that you didn't want in your life anymore. Like it's it all starts with those little choices. And and then it can if we can make that shift from this is something that I have to do to. This is something that can be fun. And how can I include my son in this and how can I, you know, bring this into my life in a fun way? It doesn't have to be a drudgery and think that sometimes where we go wrong to. But it's okay to take and this is something I encourage. It's okay to make those really small changes. We can go wrong really early on when we are creating new, healthy habits because we take on too much too soon.

So we we are very eager and we want to do everything. And then what happens then?

U2

We will likely end up failing. That might last for a short period of time, but it's not sustainable if somebody wants to become a runner. Okay, I'll just use that as an example. If somebody wants to become a runner and maybe their ultimate goal is to run A5K, it's like, I've never run A5K, I want to be I want to, you know, be able to run the whole thing and not have to walk any part of it. You don't just go out tomorrow and run that five K, you have to take steps to build up your strength. If you've never been a runner, maybe your first step is literally buying the right shoes. Yeah, sometimes it's making sure that you're setting yourself up for success. Do you have the proper tools and equipment? And it doesn't have to cost a lot of money. That can be another hang up to you as well. I can't do it until I have this and this and this and this. No, it's like, have the basics, have what you need to get started right now, and then the rest will come with time. But sure, you have the basics. What you need right now. Make sure your environment. Serve to this new healthy habit that you're wanting. So back to your story. You wanted to change the way you ate, so you started by getting rid of the foods that no longer served you. That's preparing your environment.

Right? So. Oh yeah. Yeah, I hadn't thought about it in this terms. I just knew I didn't want sugar. Yep. So I made it difficult for myself to find sugar around the house.

And that's exactly that's that's one of the most important steps is, is removing the things that are going to be your biggest temptation or the biggest obstacle, and not thinking of it because they are bad necessarily, but rather that they don't serve your highest purpose. They don't serve your end goal and make it harder or difficult for them to find their way to you. And and this is something that I tell my coaching clients all the time, is you have to make difficult to obtain that thing, and you have to make it somewhat inconvenient if you make the things you want to let go of, if you make them inconvenient and the things you want more of, you make them more attractive then you're going to. It's going to draw you in that direction of that better thing. So it's a lot of mindset games, if you will, but you tend to think of habits. Something we have to do. And actually it's something we become. It's taking on an identity. We are changing identity, and we have the power to do that and that. Back to what you said earlier when you said it's about awareness 100%, right. It's about awareness because it is. I am aware that I am this right now. I have been this person that may be more sugar than I want, or I am this person who is not as active as I want to be or whatever it is, and I am going to become the person who eats like this. And so you have to think about, okay, if I want to eat better and I want to be active and I want to have a mindfulness practice or whatever it is you want to do, really have to start thinking like that person. And so for that, you might feel like you're pretending you won't feel like you are that person. Yet, but you have to go through that process of taking on that identity. So back to the person that wants to become a runner. They have to start thinking like a runner. Well, what would a runner do? Well, they would probably run every day. And so where can you start? Get the equipment and run even if it's half a mile, even if wherever you have to start, that is where you start. But you don't become the best by not starting at all.

Yeah. And fake it till you make it right.

You do. And as you do that, as you, as you start running, that, you know, half a mile or whatever, it gradually becomes more and more and you are gradually becoming that identity. You are becoming that person who does that thing. Your identity is shifting. So I like to use the example of some of a smoker who wants to smoke. You know that because that's such a that's a very distinct. Example. So if you want to quit smoking. You have to think, well, what are those times that I crave that cigarette? What are those times that I really want that thing? And would the person what would the non-smoker do at those times? Okay. And replacing those times when that trigger or that, you know, craving is so strong, what is something healthier that I can put in its place? So it's like with a child, if a, if a child is playing with something that they shouldn't play with, that's dangerous for them. We don't just rip it out of their hands and say, that's bad for you. You can't have it going to gently take it, and we're going to replace it with something that's safe for them. So yeah, habits. It's about removing the triggers or actually it's changing the triggers. Instead of just ripping something away from yourself like, okay, I can no longer have this, what can I have instead? And someone again who is trying to give up smoking. And maybe I really look forward to that early morning smoke. What is something I can do in that place that can help me, you know, have something a better hat, a better activity in that time to replace what I'm trying to get rid of. Um, so, yeah, instead of just some shifts in perspective and shifts in mindset that can help us make those initial steps and again, keeping them small, we start with one. So I always recommend I always recommend having three goals. And I recommend having a goal around nutrition, a goal around movement, and a goal around mindfulness. And what is your end goal that you want to achieve. And that can be something like, well, I want to cooking more at home or one want to tone up my body. I want to build more muscle, you know, or I want to have a mindfulness practice every, every day. So those might be your end goal, but you're not going to get up tomorrow and start implementing those every day and be successful. Right? So it's like, how do we take that end goal and break it down into baby steps? And this is something that I help people do because ultimately we don't want to just create habit that happens once in a while. We want to create a lifestyle. Right. So yeah, it is setting those end goals and then breaking them down into, like I said, baby steps and. Thinking about it in. What's one thing I can do today to start reaching that end goal? And again, nothing is too small. Okay. Every any change we make towards that end goal is the right move. It is the right change. And if we look at it big picture. We're going to we're going to stop. We're going to get discouraged. We're going to oh my gosh. But I want to be here and I'm only right here. That's okay. It's one step closer than you were yesterday. So if your end goal in nutrition is to cook more healthy meals at home instead of eating out as much, then it might be for this week. I'm just going to buy more fresh fruits and veggies and cut them up and have them ready. That might be the step that I take this week. That might be the step that I need to take for the next three weeks, because maybe that's all I can take on right now. And then pretty soon, that one step is begun is going to become a habit in itself. So now I am someone who buys my fruits and veggies and I cut them up each week. Okay. So then okay, what's something I can add on to that. And okay, so maybe this week I'm going to start now making my dinner three nights you know. And yeah. So you start there. And then pretty soon that becomes a habit okay I am now somebody who cooks dinner three nights a week when before I didn't cook at all, you know. So you slowly start becoming this person who does these things. And you don't do it overnight, but it happens in baby steps. Before you know it, you have transformed who you are.

And we can do that in any area of our life that we choose to. So starting small, is there anything else we can do to avoid fallbacks? Because that's I think, the main issue. I was listening to this video from Joe dispenza saying that after the age of 35, your ways are pretty much set. It becomes more difficult. Yeah, it becomes more difficult to change any type of habits. So is there something which we can do to avoid fallbacks? U1

First of all, it's important when we're going into any kind of habit forming to give ourselves some grace and some space for some slip ups.

Yeah. Okay. So it's normal. U1

So it is normal and matters is that when we slip up okay. So let's use your example of when you were trying to cut out sugar. Did you ever have a time when you had sugar when you, when you removed it from your house? Was there ever a time when you had it? I'm curious, first of all, if you did and then when you did, what was your response to yourself?

Yeah, of course I did. I mean, it's. Sometimes you just feel like it. I've bought something with sugar. Yes, like an ice cream or something. But to be honest, I didn't think a lot about it because it was one thing, right? That I just bought on the way when I was going for a walk, for example, with my son. So I just got an ice cream, but that's it. It's not like I had six ice creams waiting for me in the freezer, right? Yeah. U1

So that's that's a good example. And I love the way you did respond. I was curious because some people it can be common to, to kind of beat ourselves up or, you know, be like, oh my gosh, why did I do that? You know, I'm so good. So I love that you didn't go that way. Love that. It's like, no, I made a conscious choice to have this treat and enjoy it. Like enjoy it. It's a treat. It's not something that I have all the time now. Right. And that's okay. That's actually a really healthy way. So when you look at slip ups, you look at them as well. Okay. Well now I slipped up and I had this thing or I did this thing and so screw it, I might as well just not. I'm just going to stop because I've already failed. You know, if we look at it as a failure, then we're probably not going to get back on track. So we have to look at it as, okay, I, I did this thing, I made this choice, and now I'm going to get back on top. So we have to just remind ourselves that that we can we can get back on and that it's also okay to sometimes not. Yeah. So just be kind to ourselves. We forget that we are trying to everyone else, but we forget to be kind to ourselves. it's like if a kid is learning to ride a bike and they are falling off over and over and over and over again, we don't tell them, you stupid idiot, what are you doing? You know you're never going to learn to ride this bike. We don't talk like that to to a child. That's learning. And they're falling and they're falling and they're falling. We tell them it's okay. Get back up. Try again. It's okay. You've got this. And then guess what? One day they do, and one day they do. Got it. And it becomes such a part of them that they never forget how to do it again. Same thing with habits. You know we are going to fall off. We are going to and if we go into it knowing that and not using that as an excuse, but understanding that falling off is a part of building that habit. Then we are going to be more likely to get back on track, and eventually falling off becomes less and less. And we are conscious about how and when we fall up. So, you know, use the example of going to the gym. You know, the gym is something that lights me up. It gives me so much joy, something I do early in the morning. I love it, I love it, I love it. I wasn't always that way. There was a time when you talk myself out of going. There was really easy to do. Like, I don't want to go today and I'll go tomorrow or I'll pick it up next week. There is a time where you have to be really consistent, consistent, consistent, consistent, and the more consistent you are, you get to a point where that just becomes so much who you are that you then can miss a day, and it's not changing your commitment to it, if that makes sense. You're able to go on vacation and have those treats. You're able to go to an event and, you know, have these things, do these things that aren't normally right in line with that habit, but it doesn't throw you off for good. And. Yeah, yeah. So it's it's all about grace and space to ebb and flow with life as it happens, and allowing that and consciously choosing how those things fit in, consciously choosing when you when you deviate with you will understand.

Because after all, a habit is something we have done so many times that we have gotten used to, that that becomes natural to us. So basically, if we do something a good habit, many times it will become natural. Like your gym example. Yeah it will okay. What are some health, some healthy habits to implement and how can they affect our lives. U2

So I will kind of go back to what I said earlier. I always advise choosing those three goals and those three areas. So a habit is a habit that you want to build around. Mindfulness. Choose the habit you want to build around nutrition and choose the habit that you want to build around movement and. You can. If you start with those three areas you're touching on, there's a lot included in that. Right? So and then when we are breaking those down into those smaller steps, you might literally be doing something like drinking more water every day. You might be doing something where you get up in the morning, and instead of scrolling on social media or scrolling on your phone, you're spending the first 15 minutes of your day reading, or in meditation or writing in a gratitude journal. And you might spend, you know, the first 15 minutes of your day walking or getting fresh air in sunlight, opening your windows and welcoming in the day. So again, mindfulness, nutrition and movement those three components starting setting a goal for those three things. And then starting every day with one small step for each of those areas. And that's ultimately what I recommend to all of my clients to start establishing that healthier lifestyle that you want to establish. You know, it's and it's important to look at all three of those areas, not as not as an overwhelming, you know, feeling of, oh my gosh, this is so much to do. But like they all go hand in hand, right? So if we are taking care of our minds and we're taking care of our bodies, they are connected and to feel, to really improve our health and our our wellbeing through healthy habits, it's important to look at all of the the different components and the building them simultaneously. And it doesn't have to be a lot of work. You really use these steps like I've already laid out, but just those conscious choices is what it comes down to. Does that answer your question?

Yeah. Like when someone has started on that road of implementing healthy habits on the level of the mind, body, soul, how does it heal their life and heal their body? Have you seen any kind of transformation?

Yes. I would say the biggest transformation that somebody comes away with as they implement these things. They gain a sense of empowerment. So we tend to play victim, not on purpose. We don't we don't wake up and go, I'm going to be a victim to life today. But it happens. You know, we we like to blame life. We like to blame other people. We like to blame our circumstances for why we are the way we are, when in fact we hold all of the power. We hold all of the power. We do not have to remain in any state that we are in. So if we are someone too much sugar, that's our choice. If we are someone who doesn't move our body and we stay on the couch and we don't do a whole lot, that's our choice. Everything is our choice. And yes, there are circumstances that are we have no control of. There are things that people do to us or say to us that we have no control of, but we do have control of how we show up and how we perform. So. When somebody makes a choice to implement healthy habits and they go through the steps of creating those habits, becoming the person that is, that thing that does that thing, when they change their identity and they become that thing that healthier being, they are taking their power back. They are saying, care that I once was, I once was somebody who has too much sugar. I no longer am. I am making a different choice. I don't care that I once was, or that this person that my mom fed me fast food my whole life. I don't have to be that anymore. I don't get to make a choice. Letting go of something and taking on something else. And as you take your power back in the way you live your life, in the habits that you choose, you will heal, your body will heal, your mind will heal. And it's a ripple effect as we. So let's say somebody starts implementing a mindfulness practice. Let's say somebody starts with 15 minutes of meditation a day, okay. And then you start to see the effects of that in their life. They start to feel calmer. They start to feel more centered. They start to respond differently to situations. They start to think differently about themselves. It just happens. You start to think differently about yourself. This is where it makes that shift into self-care. Then it becomes okay, I feel better. I'm thinking better. I'm thinking clearer. I'm feeling, you know, more alive. I think I'm gonna change up the way I eat. Think I'm going to start eating more fresh. Fruits and veggies. Think I'm going to start, you know, going to farmer's market and start making that connection into your nutrition and your diet starts to change. And then it's like, now I'm feeling good in my gut. My gut is feeling healthier. I'm feeling better. I think I'm going to start walking every day. I think I'm going to start stretching, think I'm going to start a yoga practice, and then you are even in movement so you don't have to start with it doesn't matter which one you start with, but it is all connected. It doesn't matter where you start. If you start feeling and improving one part of your body, the benefits will have a ripple effect in every area of your life, and your mind will heal, and your body will heal, and your soul and your spirit will heal. And you start to get a heightened sense of self-worth and deserving. And that's a big part of it too, is feeling. Just knowing that you deserve, that you deserve the best health in the best, strongest body and spirit that you can have. Like you deserve it. You end up living a conscious life instead of just fall into illness. It's like, okay, I'm eating this way and it's making me sick. And then I'm going to, you know, do what I can to get better and just. Just becomes this. Like you're coasting through life without any conscious awareness. Your choices and what you're doing and what's going on in your body and what's going on in your mind. And we're sick and we don't know that we can do anything about it. And it's like, no, I don't want to live on autopilot. I want to be consciously healthy and feel myself and think a big thing to do is back to that power thing. You have more power than you realize. You. Something is wrong in your body. Start seeking answers. If something is wrong in your mind, start seeking answers like they're what should I be eating for this? What herbs or plants can benefit this? You know, how can I tap into my body's ability to heal? My mind's ability to heal? We have the power, the body and the mind are very, very wise, and they have the ability to heal themselves. But we have to know what tools to tap into to do that. And it starts there. You don't have to know how. Just know that it's possible. If you know and you believe that it's possible to heal, then you will start to seek.

How does one do that?

Right? Seeking is always first that awareness and then seeking. And the answers will come. And you start with one small step because everything is connected. Yes, everything is connected and it doesn't matter. There's no right answer to what that one small step is, that one small step can be whatever feels right for you today. So that one small step literally can be drinking more water, getting up earlier, and giving yourself 15 minutes for reading. You know, it can be literally one small step. And that leads to many more small steps and all of those small steps together. Create the lasting habit. Create that new identity that you have consciously decided you want to take on. Wow. And it makes sense, because if you take that one small step and you made it into a habit, then it means that you are conscious about it and that will spread.

Yes. It's amazing. Yes, I was listening to this book from Tony Robbins. Yeah, Who Eats Planes? How he used to work with smokers. He would basically make them smoke so much in such a short period of time that they would get disgusted by it to the point that they were like, no, please don't make me smoke. And he's like, okay, you don't want to sweat. Okay, fine. Don't sweat now light four cigarettes, now light six cigarettes. And then when they were totally disgusted by it, he would bring them out in fresh air. And he was saying that this would work because they would then substitute. Yeah, the bad behavior of smoking with the good behavior of getting fresh air. For me, this is really bringing it to the edge. But yeah, Tony Robbins is like in my opinion, it's not someone that. Place in the middle ground. Yeah. So what do you think of this method? U2

So my personal opinion is that that could work. I think there's multiple ways to to work with habits you can get. It's very individual. So there are people who would probably really thrive on that approach and do really well on that approach. So think it's all about, you know, who is the person that is guiding you. So your mentor, your coach or whoever and your personality to like, is that something that will work for you? Because again, we're all individuals. So I can think of people that I would hesitate to tell them to do that because I don't see it working so well. And I also think depends on the habit, you know, what is the habit that you're trying to break? So certain habits could fall really well into that method. It's like I'm not sure if I would do that for a binge eating or something. And if somebody is trying to, you know. Make them sick by eating so much, I, I like that method. That's really interesting. I think what it comes down to is the mentor that's guiding you through it, your personality and your ability to. To benefit from that particular method and then the habit that you're trying to break. So it all depends. Yeah, that's my personal opinion. I think it all depends. And because that's not going to be my approach to coaching somebody, not because I think it's bad. I think it's brilliant actually. But it's just okay style. It's not my style to work. And so Tony Robbins is going to attract people. Those clients. He's going to attract. And that's the beautiful thing about coaches and mentors and therapists and doctors and all these different people, is everybody has a different approach and a different way of working with people, and that kind of establishes your level of magnetism, and you attract in the people that will work best with you is what I believe.

I am a therapist, and when I would work with clients because I wanted to give them as much as possible in the shortest amount of time, I remember giving them this huge list of things that they had to implement in their life. They would start with everything, and then after a while, when I would check up on them, they were kind of not doing anything anymore. So now I understand, because maybe I was too eager to give a lot of tips 1s and they would implement everything instead of just having one thing right and then another one like really slowly. So now I can I can see the perspective.

Yeah. And you know, I think even with that, like some people do. Well taking it all on at once. So yeah, you probably had some people that you worked with that really thrived though on, on that method.

I think I like that myself. Like maybe starting slowly and then I just take everything in and then continue. So maybe I just mirror that to my clients. You know, there's nothing wrong with that. I think that we, we tend to coach or help in a way, in the ways that have worked for us. And that's okay. Like, that's what we're here for is to it's our largely our personal experiences that form the guide that we are.

Right. Yeah. Yeah. Makes sense. So I don't think that's a bad thing at all. How do we recognize the triggers that lead us to bad habits and what can we do about that? I love that you ask that that part. I have a whole module in one of my programs on habit building, and part of what we dig into is. So why write the why behind why we do the things that we do? How? Where do these habits come from? We didn't just wake up one day and say, I want to have a really bad habit of eating too much sugar or whatever. Yeah, bad habit of whatever it is we have to. And this is work that is very individual to every person, but a lot of it comes from the stories that told ourselves over the years, or the experiences that we had early on as children, or the things we saw our parents do, or the things we saw our caregivers do, we are a product of our environment, essentially, and so a lot of our habits come from the different people and the different circumstances that have come into our life over time. Because when you think about it, we're not living consciously, normally as children or often in our, you know, teen years, in our early adult years, we have to develop an awareness and a decision to live consciously and start consciously making our choices and living our life in that place. And if you look back until you make that decision, you're just living according to the circumstances, according to what's there. So. In those times in that unconscious living, your habits are formed. Okay, so with somebody, if I'm working with client, we're going to go back and we're going to look at where did that come from. So I'll give an example. Somebody that I was working with recently who was working on overcoming binge eating disorder that she had had her whole life. And as you dug into it, you know, I asked her, or how long have you had this struggle with binge eating? And she said, my whole life. And I said, do you know of age where it really became an issue? And in your mind this is when it started happening for you? And she said, 13 my grandmother and my aunt died in a car accident, and my mom was no longer there for me emotionally. She was so emotionally distraught that she I was basically an abandoned teen. And so at the age of 13, she started turning to food for comfort and emotional healing and, you know, stability because she didn't have that from her mom anymore. And so then, so then with this particular client, we are able to see how this has progressed in her life and the role that food has played in her life. And essentially, we start looking at her relationship with food and seeing food as a negative thing, and we start to be able to take steps to transform that perspective of food as a healthy, nourishing, wonderful, beautiful thing to be enjoyed.

And how can we do that? You know, so it's all connected, but we have to really get to the root of our habits.

It's looking we have to go back and connect the dots. And that's where the mental, emotional, physical, spiritual all comes together. There's always a deeper root behind a habit than just, well, I'm a binge eater or I met this or I do this, you know, there's always something bigger. And that's where. It's helpful to work with a guide of some kind. So yeah, to help you figure it out, the traumas and deal with that. And the bigger the trauma, bigger the help that you need. So I'll just be clear. I am not a therapist. So this client that I'm using as the example with the binge eating, I'm helping her to an extent that I am certified and qualified to do. But she's also working with a therapist, right. Who's okay helping her as well. So I just want to make that clarification to like, make sure that you're getting the help that you need for the level of trauma that you have.

Yeah, I understand. Yeah. Wow. This is really deep. It's. It's really a huge subject, but I like I myself. I feel very inspired right now to implement even more healthy habits before.

Yeah. And it's fun, right? It's. Yeah it is. It doesn't have to be daunting. It can be exciting, I guess, you know. Yeah,

it's it's very inspiring. Thank you so much. How can people come in contact with you and how can you help them?

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Yeah. The best way is go to my website,rebolisticwellness.com. You can also find me on social like on Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram. I'm on all of the things, but it's all. If you go to my website, you can find your way to all of my different social media accounts through there. So that's the best way.

Amazing you can help them with establishing healthy habits. Absolutely. I am a certified holistic health coach, and so I work with people around creating a healthy lifestyle, specifically through all the things that we talked about today, not making surface changes. So we're not just going to, you know, go on some fad diet and make a surface change. We're going to dig in, we're going to get to the root, and we're going to change the story from the beginning so that we can create a sustainable, healthy lifestyle that's going to last.

Amazing work remotely as well, right?

Yes. Most of my clients I see remotely, I have clients, I'm based in Saint Augustine, Florida, so if somebody happens to be local, then we can work face to face. But most of my clients live elsewhere. I've worked with people all over the world. I've had clients in Ireland, I've had clients, you know, all over different places. So yep.

Amazing. Thank you so much, Heather, for being here with us and for this very inspiring conversation.

Thank you. This is fun.

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