Are you in

the right room?

Not the room where everyone

knows your name, although

how lovely is that?

But the room that stretches

you, scares you a little

and makes you think bigger.

When I first started my

business, I was making a

grand total of, yep, $0.

Yet I walked into a business

school where the people around

me were making half a million.

I mean, even a

million dollars.

Did I feel out of my depth?

Abso fricking lly.

Were there tears?

Yes.

Lots of them, I'm ashamed

to say, but that room,

that room changed me.

It stretched me.

It made.

So incredibly uncomfortable,

and it showed me what was

possible if I kept going.

If I kept sticking to

the process, if I kept

connected to my why, did

I feel out of my depth?

Yes, yes, I did.

In today's episode of Tea

with the Queen, I wanna

share why it matters to be

the small fish in the big

pond and what I've learned

from deliberately putting

myself in the bigger rooms.

And most importantly, I'm

going to give you three

points and three super

practical tips that you can

put into action straight away.

As usual, grab your

cup and let's dive in.

Hey, firstly little story.

My daughter, the beautiful

Evie, has been playing

basketball for a number

of years now and she loves

playing with her buddies.

The whole point was to

play with her friends,

and a couple of weekends

ago, she shot seven goals.

Now, this is a child

who we had to bribe and

pay a dollar a goal.

At the beginning of

her basketball career,

she shot seven goals.

They won by eight goals.

In In total.

So she shot seven of them.

Now, I'm not being a

proud mom when I say this,

although slightly am might

be biased, who knows?

But she has improved a lot.

She has filled in the high

in, in the higher grades,

and she's held her own.

But what happened next

stunned me a little bit.

We had a grading game the

very next day after this day

that she had played incredibly

well and on the grading.

Games she was playing

with younger kids and

kids in grades below her.

There was no stretch, there

was no one competing with her.

and she was being graded

for where she was not where

she has aspired to be.

You see, and this is

my first point, growth

lives in bigger rooms.

If you are the smartest

person in the room, you

are in the wrong room.

Being the small fish

forces you to grow.

In that very first

room I joined, I knew

nothing compared to

the people around me.

I had no runs on the board,

no income, no business track

record, and yet I stayed.

And sometimes cried.

My impatience was palpable

in that room, and I wanted

to be off racing, but I

had to remind myself, baby

steps, Emma, baby steps.

It was hard.

It stretched me.

But being in that

room gave me ideas.

It gave me accountability,

and it gave me a glimpse

of what success could

look like for me.

And once you see what's

possible, you can't unsee it.

Right.

In our thriving women

community, we have

small group coaching.

It's based on revenue

streams, so we have revenue

streams, zero to a hundred,

a hundred to 2 50, 2 50

to 500 and 500 and above.

A few of our ladies are ready

to move up to the next group.

Which is amazing for

them, sensational.

And when I told them that,

they asked if they could

stay in the group or they

told me that they still had

stuff to learn at that level.

You see, my second point is

that comfort keeps us small.

I like comfort as much

as the next person.

I like a nice warm

bed, don't you?

But staying warm and

comfortable doesn't get

you out on the pavement.

And here's the thing about.

Being comfortable.

Comfort is seductive.

Don't you think?

it feels good to be in a

room where people nod at

your ideas, where you are

the one who gets to answer

all the questions, where

people see you as the leader.

But let me tell you, when

you are the biggest fish,

you are not learning.

You are not stretching,

you are not growing, and

you're certainly not being

pushed to think bigger.

Growth happens at the

edge of discomfort.

Lemme say that again.

Growth happens

at the edge of discomfort.

It happens when you walk

into a room and you think, oh

gosh, do I even belong here?

It happens when you walk

into a networking function

and you feel so nervous

that these people may

be out of your league.

That's when you know

you're on the right track.

It also might mean that

you've got a little bit

of vomit in your mouth

and you do it anyway.

We love that we have all

been to those events or

been in those courses or

those memberships where the

people are awesome but not

big enough to stretch you.

Maybe they were once and

you've evolved or you've

grown, or you're on a

different trajectory.

I very proudly don't work

with hobby businesses.

They kind of drive me a

little bit mad because

people don't have time to

invest in hobby businesses,

and some of my clients have

had beautiful side hustles,

but they have been hungry

to make it a full-time job.

They've been hungry to make

it a full-time business,

but we don't work with hobby

businesses because they don't

have enough time to invest.

And my third point is bigger

rooms bring bigger ideas.

They stretch you.

As I started to make

money, those first rooms

started to feel smaller,

and it wasn't that I had

fundamentally changed.

I loved the people in those

rooms, so don't get me

wrong, it's not about the

people in the room, it's just

about the next level, right?

And so I had to go

looking for bigger rooms.

Rooms where I was not the

leader room where I knew the

very least, and that was hard.

And while I have zero

need to run a $10 million

business, that is not my goal.

The ideas that come from

those types of achievers

are absolute gold,

sometimes overwhelming.

Yes, but gold nonetheless.

And here's the magic.

You don't have to adopt

everything you hear.

You take what serves you

and you park the rest.

But even being exposed to

that level of thinking.

Changes the way you see what's

possible, don't you reckon?

I've got three practical

actions for you to do today.

You might be wondering,

how does this apply to me?

Here are three things

you can do this week.

Number one, audit your rooms.

Write down the communities

you are in, the Mastermind

you might be a part of, or

groups that you are within.

Then ask yourself, honestly,

honestly, am I the big fish

or am I the small fish here?

Number two, you need to

choose stretch over comfort.

Pick one, just one new,

bigger room to explore

in the next 90 days.

Maybe it's a networking group,

maybe it's a mastermind.

Maybe it's an event or a

networking thing, or maybe

it's a mentor who feels

a little intimidating.

And number three, stay

grounded in your goals.

Bigger rooms can feel

overwhelming, so when you

step into one, just choose

one idea you'll try in your

business, write it down, test

it out, and see what happens.

So often I see people go into

bigger rooms and then they

wanna do all the things at

once and then end up in a

little messy piece of chaos.

Please don't do that.

Please don't do that.

Just pick one thing.

Here's what I know to be true.

Growth never happens when

you are the biggest fish.

It happens when you choose

the pond that stretches

you, challenges you and

shows you what's possible.

Your challenge this

week, audit your rooms.

Find the one that feels just

a little bit too big and

commit to stepping in simple.

Not easy.

I get it.

But that's where the magic is.

And if you're looking for

a bigger room that's warm

and supportive and full

of women who get it, Hmm.

That's exactly why I

created Thriving Women.

It's a space to stretch,

to be challenged, and to

grow alongside other women

who are doing the same.

If you want results, check

us out at Thriving Women.

Thanks for joining me today

on Tea with the Queen.

Remember, small

fish, big pond.

That's where your next

breakthrough is waiting.