1 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:05,280 Karen Kenney: Hi, welcome to the Karen Kenney show. I'm so happy 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:09,360 that you're here, and thank you for being here and spending a 3 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:12,780 little time with me. So I think I'm going to call this sucka. 4 00:00:12,780 --> 00:00:17,160 Don't be a parrot. Like, don't be a parrot. Like, first of all, 5 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:20,480 I love parrots. I love the birds, right? But we're gonna 6 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:23,900 dive into what I mean when I say, don't be a parrot. And like 7 00:00:23,900 --> 00:00:27,620 so many of my other shows, these ideas that I get like or when 8 00:00:27,620 --> 00:00:30,140 something pops up into my consciousness, or it's on my 9 00:00:30,140 --> 00:00:33,080 mind and in my heart, and I want to talk about it a lot of times, 10 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:36,620 it's inspiration from a couple of different places. As you all 11 00:00:36,620 --> 00:00:40,960 know, I'm a wicked, big animal lover, and throughout my life, I 12 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:46,360 have had exposure to actually, different kinds of parrots, like 13 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:49,780 actual physical parrots. You know, I had parakeets when I was 14 00:00:49,780 --> 00:00:52,660 a little kid, my aunt and uncle, who my sister and I went to go 15 00:00:52,660 --> 00:00:56,020 live with after my mother was killed. They had a cockatiel 16 00:00:56,020 --> 00:01:01,680 named Bird. Bird, so original, right? So and bird would like, 17 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:06,600 sing and cat call and whistle at you and repeat little things. My 18 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:10,440 best friend KT, has two beautiful little parrots, and my 19 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:14,160 sweeties, um, stepdad, who he kind of considers his dad, also 20 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:17,100 has a beautiful parrot. And those parrots, like, can last 21 00:01:17,100 --> 00:01:20,660 for like you can live for like up to like 70 years. It's 22 00:01:20,660 --> 00:01:24,680 incredible. And one of the things I noticed, though about 23 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:28,580 birds and parrots, that while they do make their own unique 24 00:01:28,580 --> 00:01:32,660 sounds, they have their own unique voice. When it comes to 25 00:01:32,660 --> 00:01:36,620 like speaking or saying phrases or whatever, what they're really 26 00:01:36,620 --> 00:01:41,500 just doing is they're parroting. They're repeating, right? 27 00:01:41,500 --> 00:01:44,800 They're just repeating things that they heard in their 28 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:49,420 environment, or they're repeating phrases and and songs 29 00:01:49,420 --> 00:01:53,140 or whatever sounds that people in their environment are 30 00:01:53,140 --> 00:01:57,820 teaching them. So it's not like it's a unique thing. They're 31 00:01:57,820 --> 00:02:02,040 just kind of, again, using that phrase, parroting back what has 32 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:05,400 been told to them. And the reason why this is on my mind, 33 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:08,220 I'm going to come at this from a couple of different angles, but 34 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:15,960 so often what I see is that people will people will just 35 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:21,320 regurgitate and repeat shit that they hear in their environment, 36 00:02:21,860 --> 00:02:26,600 rather than finding their own voice. Now, one of the things 37 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:29,900 where this can get a little tricky, and I see it a lot, and 38 00:02:29,900 --> 00:02:33,800 I've experienced this throughout my lifetime, is dealing with or 39 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,040 talking with or trying to have relationships with, people who 40 00:02:37,100 --> 00:02:40,040 all they're doing is regurgitating from their own 41 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,660 childhood. They're regurgitating what their parents told them, 42 00:02:43,900 --> 00:02:47,080 what school told them, what the teachers told them, what the 43 00:02:47,140 --> 00:02:50,920 priest told them, what whatever told them. And they never got 44 00:02:50,920 --> 00:02:56,140 curious enough to find out for themselves what they think about 45 00:02:56,140 --> 00:02:59,920 what they were told, what they believe about the things they 46 00:02:59,920 --> 00:03:04,020 were told how they feel about the things they were told. A lot 47 00:03:04,020 --> 00:03:09,360 of times we just end up taking on, you know, the the stories, 48 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:14,400 the beliefs, the identities, the whatever from our childhood, and 49 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:18,420 then you don't question it. And I see so many people, you know, 50 00:03:18,420 --> 00:03:20,720 I've, I've had these conversations, you know, one in 51 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,240 one in particular, with a with a guy I dated. I remember the 52 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:27,140 story, and I'm like, you don't even know what you believe faith 53 00:03:27,140 --> 00:03:30,440 wise and religion wise. You just basically drank the Kool Aid of 54 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:33,380 your parents, and now you're just regurgitating it. But if I 55 00:03:33,380 --> 00:03:37,940 ask you to explain to me what that even means, you can't tell 56 00:03:37,940 --> 00:03:44,020 me. And so often people are just parroting, like I said, Back 57 00:03:44,140 --> 00:03:47,260 shit that's on the news, shit that's on, you know, something 58 00:03:47,260 --> 00:03:51,160 that they saw online, saw on social media, some quote or 59 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:56,260 whatever, and they haven't found out for themselves what they 60 00:03:56,260 --> 00:03:59,980 think about it, what they feel about it, what their unique 61 00:03:59,980 --> 00:04:04,740 perspective or spin might be on that thing because they've spent 62 00:04:04,740 --> 00:04:07,920 a little time thinking about it, right, and being with it and 63 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,280 sitting with it and going like, hey, yeah. Like, I know. I know 64 00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:14,700 my grandparents always said this money doesn't grow on trees, 65 00:04:14,700 --> 00:04:19,020 right? But how do I feel about these things? And we have to be 66 00:04:19,140 --> 00:04:24,080 paying close enough attention to catch ourselves when we're just 67 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:27,860 kind of regurgitating and parroting shit from again, 68 00:04:27,860 --> 00:04:31,160 whether it's our childhood, our parents, our churches, our 69 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:36,080 school teachers, right, our siblings, whatever, it's really 70 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,380 important that we take time in this lifetime to figure out what 71 00:04:39,380 --> 00:04:44,020 the Fuck we think, what we feel, what we believe, what we know to 72 00:04:44,020 --> 00:04:49,240 be true, right for us. And I want to talk about this in a 73 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:52,720 particular way too, because when we end up just kind of 74 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:58,060 parroting, the world misses out. And I've told this story before, 75 00:04:58,060 --> 00:05:00,480 but I'm just going to tell it really quick. I'm. There was a 76 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:03,000 period of time you all know, well, you all know, I don't 77 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,580 know. Some of you might not know, but if you've been around 78 00:05:05,580 --> 00:05:08,760 for a while, you know that I lived and worked with Marianne 79 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:11,460 Williamson. You know, the writer the spiritual right. She wrote a 80 00:05:11,460 --> 00:05:14,040 return to love, 1000 other you know, she was written so many 81 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:16,860 books, New York Times, best selling books. She's a spiritual 82 00:05:16,860 --> 00:05:19,140 thought leader. She's a teacher. She's a lecturer. She ran for 83 00:05:19,140 --> 00:05:22,340 president a couple of times. Okay, so I used to live and work 84 00:05:22,340 --> 00:05:27,020 with Mary Ann in California. And at the time, like I was in my 85 00:05:27,020 --> 00:05:31,520 20s, I was so impressionable. I was so like, oh my god, like she 86 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:34,460 was, she was a mentor of mine. She was a teacher of mine. She 87 00:05:34,460 --> 00:05:37,340 was a woman, you know, an older woman that I, that I looked up 88 00:05:37,340 --> 00:05:44,380 to, and, you know, read all her books, etc, and during my time 89 00:05:44,380 --> 00:05:48,340 of working with her, I went to go see, you know, a woman who 90 00:05:48,340 --> 00:05:51,460 did, she was an intuitive. She did readings, tarot readings. 91 00:05:51,460 --> 00:05:53,980 She like, you know, would basically just, you know, do it 92 00:05:53,980 --> 00:05:57,880 like a reading for you. And I remember going in, and I sat 93 00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:00,780 down, and I was all like, you know, just like, if you can't 94 00:06:00,780 --> 00:06:03,120 see me, I have my hands in my face now. I'm all just, like, 95 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:05,700 wide eyed, and I was just like, Oh, I was so excited to be 96 00:06:05,820 --> 00:06:08,700 there. I had heard wonderful things about this woman, just 97 00:06:08,700 --> 00:06:11,760 how like, spot on she was, and just how caring and kind she 98 00:06:11,820 --> 00:06:14,460 was. So I was kind of like an open book, you know, like, I 99 00:06:14,460 --> 00:06:18,720 just, like, sat down in her room at her house, and so she 100 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:22,340 obviously knew my name, and she's like, so, you know, tell 101 00:06:22,340 --> 00:06:25,520 me about yourself. And I'm like, I'm Karen Kenney and blah, blah, 102 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:29,000 blah, blah. And she's like, so tell me. She's like, you know, 103 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,840 who are you? Like, what do you want to do? And, you know, to 104 00:06:32,840 --> 00:06:36,020 kind of, like, kick off the session. And I said to her, I 105 00:06:36,020 --> 00:06:40,040 want to be the next Marianne Williamson. And I was so 106 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:46,120 sincere, I was so earnest, like I really meant it, and not that 107 00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:50,260 I wanted to be Marianne. Like, looking back, I can look and see 108 00:06:50,380 --> 00:06:53,800 I understood now, like what I really meant. But she said the 109 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,920 most profound and powerful thing to me and I and she looked me 110 00:06:56,920 --> 00:07:00,240 right in the eyes, and she said to me, why don't you try being 111 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:05,280 the first. Karen Kenney, and she knew something then that my 112 00:07:05,280 --> 00:07:09,000 brain had not like realized yet, right? Like my lived experience 113 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:13,080 had not caught up to yet, which is this, like I needed to be the 114 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:18,000 first. KK, because the world doesn't need another copy of 115 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:23,240 somebody else. What the world needs is you, and the world 116 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:27,980 needs your particular take, your particular voice, your 117 00:07:27,980 --> 00:07:31,700 particular point of view, your lived experience, your own 118 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:36,500 unique and creative and brilliant and wonderful and 119 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:41,260 whatever you know point of view. The world just doesn't need us. 120 00:07:41,260 --> 00:07:43,420 You know, remember how, like, when you would like, I don't 121 00:07:43,420 --> 00:07:45,640 know if you ever worked at a place where there was a copy 122 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:48,760 machines, like nowadays we all have, a lot of us have copies at 123 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:51,520 home built into our printers. But back in the day, when you 124 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:54,040 worked at a place and there was, like, a Xerox machine, right? 125 00:07:54,280 --> 00:08:01,080 And you would just get up to all kinds of shenanigans, as you can 126 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,600 imagine, right? I'm just having some memories flash through my 127 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:04,200 head here. 128 00:08:05,339 --> 00:08:08,519 But if you take a carbon copy, if you take a copy of something, 129 00:08:08,519 --> 00:08:11,279 even if you did carbon copies, remember back in the days with 130 00:08:11,279 --> 00:08:13,679 the credit card things, and you'd have to go, chunk chunk, 131 00:08:13,679 --> 00:08:16,319 right? I'm just sliding my hand back and forth like chunk chunk, 132 00:08:16,319 --> 00:08:19,439 to get an impression. This is the thing. When we're making a 133 00:08:19,439 --> 00:08:21,979 copy, we're only getting an impression of something, but 134 00:08:21,979 --> 00:08:25,939 we're not getting to the root source of where that impulse, 135 00:08:25,939 --> 00:08:28,759 that creative energy, and that creative impulse, comes from. 136 00:08:28,819 --> 00:08:32,359 And if you just make a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy, it 137 00:08:32,359 --> 00:08:36,319 gets it gets weaker, it gets lighter, it gets blander, you 138 00:08:36,319 --> 00:08:39,619 can't even read it. It's like, where did this even come from? 139 00:08:40,159 --> 00:08:46,419 And so I'm really a champion of people owning their own unique 140 00:08:46,419 --> 00:08:49,779 experience and their perspectives and their stories 141 00:08:49,779 --> 00:08:53,379 and their special, you know, characteristics that that, 142 00:08:54,279 --> 00:08:57,579 because when you show up in the world and you're like, hey, 143 00:08:57,579 --> 00:09:02,219 here's what I think about this, you now give all of us a new, 144 00:09:02,219 --> 00:09:05,879 unique point of view, and it might be a way of looking at a 145 00:09:05,879 --> 00:09:09,539 thing, or thinking about a thing or experiencing a thing that 146 00:09:09,539 --> 00:09:14,699 we've never had before. And so if we're just so concerned about 147 00:09:14,699 --> 00:09:17,459 sounding like everybody else, looking like everybody else, 148 00:09:17,459 --> 00:09:20,719 being like everybody else, regurgitating what's already out 149 00:09:20,719 --> 00:09:24,619 there, then we kind of like Rob ourselves, the experience of 150 00:09:24,619 --> 00:09:28,219 really coming to know ourselves. And I think of it like the 151 00:09:28,219 --> 00:09:31,939 Divine is expressing itself through us. We've all been given 152 00:09:31,939 --> 00:09:34,579 in A Course in Miracles. It says like our own individual 153 00:09:34,579 --> 00:09:38,239 assignment. You have your own individual curriculum, your own 154 00:09:38,239 --> 00:09:42,999 divine assignment, and so only you came here to express through 155 00:09:42,999 --> 00:09:46,959 you in your own unique way. So why do we want to just repeat 156 00:09:46,959 --> 00:09:53,019 what we hear other people saying and doing and being like the joy 157 00:09:53,019 --> 00:09:56,619 and the thrill of this is figuring out, what do I think? 158 00:09:56,619 --> 00:10:01,199 What do I believe? Or why do I think that? Do I believe it? And 159 00:10:01,199 --> 00:10:05,099 a lot of times, we can trace the breadcrumbs right back. We can 160 00:10:05,099 --> 00:10:08,459 trace that thread back to something from our past, 161 00:10:08,459 --> 00:10:11,759 something that was said to us in childhood, and in the work that 162 00:10:11,759 --> 00:10:15,179 I do as a spiritual mentor and a coach, and, you know, as a 163 00:10:15,179 --> 00:10:18,839 hypnotist, and all the ways that you know, you know that I work 164 00:10:18,839 --> 00:10:23,659 with people, one of the things that I often see is that people 165 00:10:23,659 --> 00:10:28,519 are repeating stories. That's why, you know my work, I talk 166 00:10:28,519 --> 00:10:32,419 about your story to your glory. And so often I'm tracing this 167 00:10:32,419 --> 00:10:35,299 thread, this belief that people have this thing where they're 168 00:10:35,299 --> 00:10:38,359 getting in their own way of not believing that they're lovable, 169 00:10:38,419 --> 00:10:41,019 or not believing that they're good enough or smart enough, or 170 00:10:41,019 --> 00:10:44,319 they're too much, or whatever the thing is, I'm too dumb, I'm 171 00:10:44,319 --> 00:10:48,099 too lazy, I'm too this, I'm not good with money. A lot of times, 172 00:10:48,099 --> 00:10:51,459 there are these beliefs that are like, put in place. And when we 173 00:10:51,459 --> 00:10:54,579 trace the thread back, when we trace the trail of bread crumbs 174 00:10:54,579 --> 00:10:57,219 back, it's something that was said when they were a little 175 00:10:57,219 --> 00:11:00,099 kid, you know, they had a teacher that, with their red 176 00:11:00,099 --> 00:11:02,279 pen, like, you know, mark their paper, and they thought they 177 00:11:02,279 --> 00:11:06,359 were stupid, because maybe their spelling wasn't that great, you 178 00:11:06,359 --> 00:11:09,419 know. And there's a great thing that I, you know, I was just 179 00:11:09,419 --> 00:11:12,119 listening on the radio the other day, and somebody used this 180 00:11:12,119 --> 00:11:16,079 phrase, and I wish I could remember what it was, but it was 181 00:11:16,079 --> 00:11:20,099 something about, like, the way that I reiterated it in my head 182 00:11:20,099 --> 00:11:24,319 is that story of, like, don't judge a fish by its ability to 183 00:11:24,319 --> 00:11:29,479 climb a tree. We all have our own unique gifts and talents, 184 00:11:29,839 --> 00:11:33,859 and I'm not going to expect a fish to be able to climb a tree, 185 00:11:33,859 --> 00:11:37,639 right, but that fish can swim like a mofo, like in the ocean, 186 00:11:37,699 --> 00:11:41,739 like, you know what I'm saying. So it's like, I want to, I want 187 00:11:41,739 --> 00:11:47,079 to, like, hear and see where people are shining a light on 188 00:11:47,079 --> 00:11:50,739 their own brilliance. And that's another thing. Like, we're often 189 00:11:50,739 --> 00:11:55,359 really willing to talk about our traumas, our dramas, our 190 00:11:55,359 --> 00:11:58,359 bullshit, the places where, like, Oh, you don't know how 191 00:11:58,359 --> 00:12:02,039 bad, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, Yeah, okay, we gotta own 192 00:12:02,039 --> 00:12:05,279 that stuff too. But let, like, let's also own our brilliance in 193 00:12:05,279 --> 00:12:08,879 the places where you're wicked smart, or you get you're really 194 00:12:08,879 --> 00:12:13,319 creative, or you have a really unique perspective in your art 195 00:12:13,319 --> 00:12:17,279 or your podcast, or the way that you create meals, or, like, 196 00:12:17,279 --> 00:12:21,919 whatever the thing is, and I don't want to get robbed of not 197 00:12:21,919 --> 00:12:25,759 seeing your beauty and your creativity in your genius 198 00:12:26,479 --> 00:12:30,559 because you're so worried about looking or sounding like 199 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:34,999 everybody else and just wanting to fit in. And I understand that 200 00:12:34,999 --> 00:12:39,499 we are pack creatures, you know? I understand that we feel safety 201 00:12:39,499 --> 00:12:43,539 in groups because it's easier to survive when we're like, pad up 202 00:12:43,539 --> 00:12:47,979 and stuff like that, you know. But the people who have really 203 00:12:47,979 --> 00:12:50,859 changed the world are the ones who are willing to, like, go 204 00:12:50,859 --> 00:12:54,999 outside the framework and do something totally new, and not 205 00:12:54,999 --> 00:12:58,959 just take the well worn path, right? It's to do something 206 00:12:58,959 --> 00:13:02,759 different. So I just want to encourage you, like, if you find 207 00:13:02,759 --> 00:13:06,419 yourself, like, just kind of, you know, repeating shit that 208 00:13:06,419 --> 00:13:09,419 other people have already done or already said, or, like, 209 00:13:09,419 --> 00:13:13,739 whatever, like, you know, some people will say there's no 210 00:13:13,739 --> 00:13:16,859 unique ideas out there. Like, all the songs are just kind of 211 00:13:16,859 --> 00:13:19,499 using the same chords. All the stories have been told, all the 212 00:13:19,499 --> 00:13:22,339 songs have been written, and it's like, I understand where 213 00:13:22,339 --> 00:13:27,139 they're coming from, but nobody is you, even if you're an 214 00:13:27,139 --> 00:13:30,259 identical twin, your identical twin is not having the same 215 00:13:30,259 --> 00:13:34,759 exact experience as you are. And there is something right. I 216 00:13:34,759 --> 00:13:38,119 believe, again, I believe that it. Call it. You can call it 217 00:13:38,119 --> 00:13:40,939 whatever word you want to call it. You can call it God, you can 218 00:13:40,939 --> 00:13:43,719 call it source. You can call it creative intelligence. You can 219 00:13:43,719 --> 00:13:46,419 call it the universe. You can call whatever you want to call 220 00:13:46,419 --> 00:13:50,739 it. But I believe that there is something really, really 221 00:13:50,739 --> 00:13:54,219 powerful, call it love, that is trying to move through you and 222 00:13:54,219 --> 00:13:58,839 express itself in its own way. And this is another reason why, 223 00:13:58,839 --> 00:14:03,479 like, I think like, I'm going to shift gears now a little bit 224 00:14:03,479 --> 00:14:07,139 like about not just parroting what you hear out there what you 225 00:14:07,139 --> 00:14:11,579 see out there. Right now. It's a very, very, very, very dangerous 226 00:14:11,579 --> 00:14:18,239 time to just be repeating stuff and not getting your sources in 227 00:14:18,239 --> 00:14:21,799 check, not knowing what the true meaning of a thing is not 228 00:14:21,799 --> 00:14:25,519 knowing if it's actually true what you're sharing or saying. 229 00:14:26,119 --> 00:14:29,539 So you know how I told you I worked with Mary Ann when I 230 00:14:29,539 --> 00:14:32,479 worked in live with her, one of the things that I did, because 231 00:14:32,479 --> 00:14:35,239 she has this famous quote, right? Most people know it. A 232 00:14:35,239 --> 00:14:38,899 lot of people know it. You know it's, it's, in her book, a 233 00:14:38,899 --> 00:14:42,039 return to love. I you know, it begins like, Our deepest fear is 234 00:14:42,039 --> 00:14:44,379 not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are 235 00:14:44,379 --> 00:14:47,919 powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, like, who am I to be? 236 00:14:48,039 --> 00:14:51,879 Brilliant, talented, gorgeous, blah, blah, okay, that quote 237 00:14:51,879 --> 00:14:55,479 back in the day, right? So this, this was in, let's see, this is 238 00:14:55,479 --> 00:14:57,579 in the 90s, so, like, probably, like, around 9697 239 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:02,280 and the. That quote was getting attributed to, like a Fauci 240 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:06,780 like, mostly Nelson Mandela, also to coach kada in the movie. 241 00:15:07,260 --> 00:15:10,920 But then people were also like sharing it and not giving credit 242 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:14,040 or attribution. So one of the things that I did in my work and 243 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:18,180 my job is I would find this, I would find where it was being 244 00:15:18,180 --> 00:15:20,900 misattributed or whatever, and then I would send an email or 245 00:15:20,900 --> 00:15:23,480 write a note, or I'd make a correction, and I'd say, Hey, 246 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:26,480 this is actually from, you know, Marion Williamson's book, a 247 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:29,420 return to love, like on page 90 and 91 whatever. And I would 248 00:15:29,420 --> 00:15:32,420 like tell people, and I'd make the correction. And that that 249 00:15:32,420 --> 00:15:36,020 doing that again and again and again is probably also part of 250 00:15:36,020 --> 00:15:39,920 what, why giving credit is, like, so important to me, like, 251 00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:43,120 why I'm like, please don't steal other people's shit. Please 252 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:46,180 don't plagiarize. Please have a fucking original thought in your 253 00:15:46,180 --> 00:15:49,720 own head and and if you are going to take take something 254 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:52,600 that somebody else taught you, or that you read or you heard or 255 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:56,860 you learned right like, Please give credit or attribution, but 256 00:15:56,860 --> 00:16:01,140 even take it one step father, one step further, because 257 00:16:01,140 --> 00:16:05,640 there's another thing that I see happening a lot, and it happens 258 00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:10,680 like, again, I tend to catch it with things that I have spent a 259 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,440 lot of time with, right? Like, there's a quote from A Course in 260 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:15,960 Miracles that basically says, Your task is not to seek for 261 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:18,780 love. Your task is to seek and to find the barriers that you 262 00:16:18,780 --> 00:16:21,320 have built against your own awareness of love's presence or 263 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:24,740 whatever, right? I cannot tell you how many people attribute 264 00:16:24,740 --> 00:16:28,040 that to Rumi, and I just like want to bang my face off the 265 00:16:28,040 --> 00:16:31,400 desk, and I'm not being mean about those people, but what it 266 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:34,760 tells me is they saw it somewhere else, and then they 267 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:37,580 just attributed it to Rumi, but they didn't do their homework. 268 00:16:37,580 --> 00:16:42,220 They didn't bother to see if it was true. And in this day and 269 00:16:42,220 --> 00:16:46,000 age of everybody screaming like fake news and, oh, you're just 270 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:50,620 saying that. And this one's that I'm always like, hey, check your 271 00:16:50,620 --> 00:16:54,460 facts, check your sources, check your resources, check the 272 00:16:54,460 --> 00:16:57,400 studies, check the science, check where you're getting this 273 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:01,980 thing from. If you're please don't be lazy. Please don't be a 274 00:17:01,980 --> 00:17:05,520 lazy parrot and just regurgitate something when you don't know if 275 00:17:05,520 --> 00:17:09,300 it's true at all. I see people, especially as a vegan, too. 276 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:13,020 Again, I can only speak on the areas that I've spent a lot of 277 00:17:13,020 --> 00:17:16,680 time in, right learning, studying, living in my own 278 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:21,080 evidence, living it. And people just say the most ridiculous 279 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:25,100 shit, the most ridiculous propaganda about like, Oh, it's 280 00:17:25,100 --> 00:17:28,880 so hard to grow muscles on a vegan diet. Oh, being plant 281 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:32,780 based, you need to eat animals. No, you don't. No, you don't. 282 00:17:32,780 --> 00:17:37,220 No, you don't. I cannot stress this enough. Read some fucking 283 00:17:37,220 --> 00:17:42,100 books. Do some do just do the math. Read some books, find some 284 00:17:42,100 --> 00:17:46,600 studies, you will find out it's all a lie. It's all propaganda. 285 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:50,500 Oh, my God, but we see this happening a lot, especially in 286 00:17:50,500 --> 00:17:54,220 politics, and it's so dangerous and so like, if you're going to, 287 00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:57,580 like, please just don't regurgitate shit you hear on Fox 288 00:17:57,580 --> 00:18:01,500 News or, like, any news outlet, like, do your homework. You 289 00:18:01,500 --> 00:18:05,400 know, there's a woman named Heather, Heather Richardson Cox, 290 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:09,660 and why I like to read what she has to say. First of all, she's 291 00:18:09,660 --> 00:18:12,840 a historian. She's a professor. I don't care what kind of like, 292 00:18:13,140 --> 00:18:16,560 I mean, whatever side of the aisle, you know, but she kind of 293 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,900 looks at things from a historical perspective. But you 294 00:18:18,900 --> 00:18:22,940 know what she does when she writes a piece at the bottom. 295 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:27,320 She cites like any, like everything that she talks about, 296 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:29,900 whether she's mentioning a social media post, whether she's 297 00:18:29,900 --> 00:18:36,200 mentioning like something from history, she will cite exactly 298 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:39,440 where the with a link, where you can see it for yourself, where 299 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:42,220 you can go read it and think for yourself where you can go find 300 00:18:42,220 --> 00:18:44,860 out for yourself, like blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So she's 301 00:18:44,860 --> 00:18:48,820 not just regurgitating stuff. She's basically taking these 302 00:18:48,820 --> 00:18:51,400 things in watching what's going on in the world, talking about 303 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:53,860 it from her perspective, and then backing it up with like 304 00:18:53,860 --> 00:18:57,880 facts and science and like links and stuff like that. And these 305 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:01,620 days, you just have so many people who were just chugging 306 00:19:01,620 --> 00:19:05,040 the Kool Aid and regurgitating stuff and parroting stuff, and 307 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:09,300 they're not checking things out. So I'm looking at this from two 308 00:19:09,300 --> 00:19:12,900 perspectives. I'm looking at it from what you're putting out 309 00:19:12,900 --> 00:19:16,620 into the world, right? Do your homework if you're going to 310 00:19:16,620 --> 00:19:19,320 quote something, do a little digging before you give 311 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:22,280 attribution to somebody, because it's probably it might not be 312 00:19:22,280 --> 00:19:25,340 them, because the frigging internet is like the wild wild 313 00:19:25,340 --> 00:19:28,040 west, and nobody's really checking. You know what I'm 314 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:31,040 saying, any idiot can say anything at any time, and people 315 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:37,100 just go like, Oh, well, so and so said it on his blog, and 316 00:19:37,100 --> 00:19:43,720 we're back. I'm just taking him. I'm rubbing my eyes like, Holy 317 00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:47,740 Jesus on a crack up. Okay? But mostly, what I wanted to say is 318 00:19:47,740 --> 00:19:51,100 this, I'm not trying to, like, wag my finger at you, like, 319 00:19:51,100 --> 00:19:54,940 don't be a parrot. Because, like, I'm saying it because the 320 00:19:54,940 --> 00:20:00,180 world needs you. It doesn't need you being a cat, like a. Cheap 321 00:20:00,180 --> 00:20:05,820 copy of somebody else, right? So again, find out for yourself, do 322 00:20:05,820 --> 00:20:10,200 your research. Read, gather your own experience, gather your own 323 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:13,980 empirical evidence, and then make your report to the world, 324 00:20:13,980 --> 00:20:17,280 right? Then go out and make your report. And you know, I read 325 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:20,780 this book once. It was called stay and fight by Madeline 326 00:20:20,780 --> 00:20:25,040 Fitch. It's a fantastic book. Book. It was a novel. And there 327 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:27,680 was a character in this book named Pearlie, and he was the 328 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:31,040 son of these two women who lived in the Appalachians and life was 329 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,740 hard. They had to stay and fight right? They had to stay and 330 00:20:33,740 --> 00:20:38,120 fight for their life. And I, I'm paraphrasing, but the kid was 331 00:20:38,120 --> 00:20:42,040 taught by his mothers, and he would say, like, to be 332 00:20:42,100 --> 00:20:46,480 steadfast, to be resolute, and to make his report right. And so 333 00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:49,060 I started saying that like to my friends, like, Hey, be 334 00:20:49,060 --> 00:20:52,240 steadfast, be resolute. And then then go out, go out and 335 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:55,060 experience things, and then come back and make your full report. 336 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,700 And I'd be like, come tell me your stories. Come tell me what 337 00:20:57,700 --> 00:21:01,140 you learned. Come like, using your own voice, break it down 338 00:21:01,140 --> 00:21:04,620 for me, so I can see how you process things, so I can see the 339 00:21:04,620 --> 00:21:07,980 world through your eyes. Because that's what makes it all a 340 00:21:07,980 --> 00:21:11,760 kaleidoscope, having all these kind of different voices and 341 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:15,060 points of view. And, you know, I remember there was a period of 342 00:21:15,060 --> 00:21:19,920 time like in the in the 90s, maybe the early 2000s and it 343 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:23,120 just sounded like there were all these bands. They weren't really 344 00:21:23,120 --> 00:21:26,060 rock bands. They were weren't really grungy, they were like, 345 00:21:26,060 --> 00:21:30,320 whatever this new kind of like thing was. And I remember I 346 00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:33,440 would flip through the stations on the radio and I'd be like, I 347 00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:37,040 can't fucking tell these guys, one from another, they all sound 348 00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:39,920 the same. And I'm like, I don't know if they're trying to sound 349 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:43,540 the same. I don't know if one just thought, Oh, this is how 350 00:21:43,540 --> 00:21:48,580 you like, you know, sell records is like, you copy the other guy. 351 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:52,240 And there was also this thing that was happening in country 352 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:57,040 music where they had basically gotten this formula. And, I 353 00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:59,620 mean, you can look it up, you can Google it, right. There was 354 00:21:59,620 --> 00:22:03,060 like, this formula where it was like, insert this here. Insert 355 00:22:03,060 --> 00:22:06,780 this here. Do this, do this. And all the country songs. And I'm 356 00:22:06,780 --> 00:22:11,580 not a country fan, in fairness, in fairness, not a fan. But a 357 00:22:11,580 --> 00:22:15,420 lot of, a lot of the songs were just like, red truck, red solo 358 00:22:15,420 --> 00:22:19,680 cup, Red Dog, red something, right? I was just like, what? 359 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:23,420 Like, what is happening right now? And I was like, please, for 360 00:22:23,420 --> 00:22:27,140 the love of God, can people get original? Can you stop going for 361 00:22:27,140 --> 00:22:29,960 the cheap and the easy sell? Can you stop going for the click 362 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:32,840 bait? Can you stop trying to just like, repeat and 363 00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:36,680 regurgitate and parrot the crap that's already out there? And I 364 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:41,080 think this is part of the assignment right for us to go 365 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:46,300 out there and for us to not be parrots, to not be parakeets, 366 00:22:46,360 --> 00:22:52,180 right to be persons, to be people with your your own unique 367 00:22:52,180 --> 00:22:54,940 voice, your own unique point of view, your own unique 368 00:22:54,940 --> 00:22:59,680 experience, and your own unique stories, and to question the 369 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,700 ones that were given to you, those identities, those stories, 370 00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,820 all those things that you were told about yourself as a kid. 371 00:23:06,060 --> 00:23:09,360 Keep the ones that are good and loving. Keep the ones that are 372 00:23:09,360 --> 00:23:13,980 good and true. Question all the other shit question, don't 373 00:23:13,980 --> 00:23:17,340 parrot. Don't parrot these stories. You know, from what 374 00:23:17,340 --> 00:23:22,340 your, what your, your your maybe your emotionally unintelligent 375 00:23:22,340 --> 00:23:27,440 parents may be said to you right their own scarcity and fear and 376 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:30,320 lack of knowing that generational trauma that just 377 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,800 kind of like rolled downhill and like landed on you. We gotta, we 378 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:36,320 gotta. We gotta, like, I'm brushing my body right now. We 379 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:39,260 gotta, like, dust ourselves off and brush ourselves off and 380 00:23:39,260 --> 00:23:42,340 shake off the cobwebs and shake off the dust and shake off those 381 00:23:42,340 --> 00:23:46,180 old stories and really step into the glory of who you really are, 382 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:51,640 because the world doesn't need another watered down version of 383 00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,880 a bunch of other people. What the world needs is you. 384 00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:00,040 Okay, that's what I had to say. That was what was on my heart, 385 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,780 in my mind. I hope it was helpful to you in some way, and 386 00:24:03,900 --> 00:24:07,440 just know that I celebrate you. I can't always see you right, 387 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,160 because I you know I'm the one on the video, but when I say I 388 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:14,940 see you and I hear you, what I mean is like I understand, 389 00:24:14,940 --> 00:24:18,960 right? I my compassion and my empathy, like I understand that 390 00:24:19,140 --> 00:24:21,680 we're all out here, and we're we're hopefully doing our best, 391 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:24,140 and we're trying to learn, and we're trying to grow, and we're 392 00:24:24,140 --> 00:24:27,440 trying to, you know, just kind of shed, shed the old skins, 393 00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:30,380 shed the old shed, the old feathers, the things that you 394 00:24:30,380 --> 00:24:33,860 know aren't helping us to fly anymore. And just know that I 395 00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:36,800 that I do see you, I do hear you, especially when you write 396 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:39,620 to me. And I appreciate you, and I have a lot of gratitude for 397 00:24:39,620 --> 00:24:42,700 you for being here in my world, listening to the show. So just 398 00:24:42,700 --> 00:24:45,640 thank you so so so much. You know the drill. If you ever want 399 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,160 to work with me, if you ever want to join the nest or do one 400 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:51,160 to one mentoring, join a yoga class, whatever, you can just 401 00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,700 find me. I'm easy to find online. Just spell my last name 402 00:24:54,700 --> 00:24:59,140 right, and I'm pretty easy to find. It's k, e, n, n, e, y. 403 00:24:59,140 --> 00:25:03,000 Karen Kenney. Kenney, go to Karen. Kenney.com, Vaness, the 404 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:07,380 quest all that stuff is there. Thank you so much wherever you 405 00:25:07,380 --> 00:25:12,960 go. May you leave yourself and leave the animals and leave the 406 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:16,380 environment and the other people in the planet better than how 407 00:25:16,380 --> 00:25:20,420 you first found it. Wherever you go, may you and your love and 408 00:25:20,420 --> 00:25:24,080 your presence and your energy and your unique point of view 409 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:29,480 your Eunice, right? May your Eunice be a blessing. Bye. You.