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Hello loves. my goodness. As I record this, are in December of 2024. And so almost at the end of the year. And I want to just name right off the bat though, if you're listening to this at any time of year, at any time that this topic is incredibly relevant and incredibly important. If you're ever in a moment where it feels that you are experiencing expectations of

yourself, expectations of perceived visions you had for where you'd be right now, perceived ideas of relationships you'd be in or relationship desires you thought would be met by now, business goals, wealth goals, health goals, anything in your life that you feel like you've had as expectations that in all honesty have not been met. They are not your current reality. Then this episode will be deeply supportive for you in allowing yourself

There's nothing in this podcast that I will ever be doing to fix anything. We are not here in the name of fixing. We are in the name of honoring that you are a whole and beautiful being. No matter what you're navigating in this lifetime right now, no matter who you are in this moment, I see you always as a beautiful vessel of divine love, period. What I am bringing forward is I find that

In our lives, we beautifully, you know something I'm all about is consistently connecting to our highest vision and always being those who are open to seeing what we desire, owning what we desire and really taking aligned action towards it. And something that life presents often on the journey is moments where old visions we had, expectations that we had set are not what is of truest service now in this present moment.

And what I find is if we're not willing to truly allow ourselves to grieve these expectations, it doesn't actually allow space for the new vision, the truest vision, the highest vision to be fully received for where you're truly guided to move now. And I know for myself, ooh, this is a big one for me. This year in particular has really given me a lot of opportunity to have to grieve consciously.

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a of expectations because this year was one that gave me lot of initiations and a lot of moments of like, if I had to tell myself a year ago, what my reality would be a year later, I am so excited and the next episode that I'm going to be releasing, we actually go through the process of celebrating what has come to life in this year and really set you up with an intentional simple

plan for 2025. And I'm so in deep celebration of what has come to life in this year, but it is so different than what I had visioned in certain ways. So I'm going to take you actually behind the scenes and share a story that I haven't spoken about publicly at this time. And my intention is that through this episode, not only am going to share with you my personal story, but I'm also going to actually guide you through a specific process that can actually help you.

honor where you've been, notice the weight that you're carrying and gently and lovingly explore what it is truly trying to show you that you care about and create a way to actually release any of the weight, any of the tension so you can actually move with a lot more spaciousness and energy towards creating what you are truly aligned to be creating in your highest vision now.

I think from just because I am a tangible girl in this way, I always think of it this way, like why this energetic work and emotional and spiritual work is so important is the same way I think about it. So I love going and finding a beautiful, exquisite new piece to add to my wardrobe. I love fashion. It's something that has been like a huge reclamation for me in my adult years is realizing how much I love to express myself on the inside, on the outside through

clothes and sustainable fashion and intentional choices and all of that. Yet I think about it, if I go and I find a piece that I am so enthused about, if I go and hang it up in my closet and there are just so many hangers and so much stuff in my closet, it is really hard to fully see this beautiful new piece, right? Because it's like, have to look through all of this mess and chaos and clutter to try to see it. Whereas if I have ensured that my closet,

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only has what is of highest quality and truth, all items that I'm truly gonna wear in this embodiment of myself, every piece brings me delight. Every piece gets to be really seen and I can actually honor that this new piece is fully appreciated. And so when I think about what we're going through today, I really want you to think of it as like, this is our energetic decluttering. We're gonna really, something I know anyone,

in my world craves something I have so many conversations about because I care about it so much is I am all for us living, feeling spacious. I feel our world is constantly telling us that we're behind, that we need to rush, that there's so much we have to strive for. And I always wanna be that walking permission slip for you and anyone in my life for let's honor this present moment. Let's trust our divine timing and let's honor that.

Yes, sometimes we're going to be asked to make a pivot, but the thing that makes the pivot more painful than even oftentimes the pivot itself is all of the stories we put on ourselves, all of the ways we overthink and judge ourselves and hold on to limiting ways we relate to the pivot. And so, yeah, that feels like a great segue into for myself. So when I looked back a year ago,

I was stepping into 2024 with a lot of exciting visions. I was devoted and very focused on a specific project, the Modern Empress, and was working on that project with a business partner. And so she and I had visions, so many ideas of programs, offerings, just so much we were going to do and create together. And we had vision so much of what we would be celebrating at this time of year now. And long story short is,

That is not how my year played out. And I am being very mindful about how I share this story because I truly wanna name more than anything that something I, honestly when I look at something from this year I'm most proud of in many ways is I am so proud and who I didn't expect it but it makes me a little teary-eyed. I am so proud of

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The way that me and my business partner on this project navigated what I'm about to share with you. have so much gratitude. Like I have had the biggest leadership growth because of this experience and it has given me so much faith in the power when women in particular can speak with truth and speak with honest hearts and to really see each other in their light what is possible. Because my gosh.

This was not an easy experience, but it was so, I just can really honor the way we held ourselves and saw each other with so much grace through the process. And so I want to start with that. Wow. I did not expect the emotion, but here we are. so basically to bring you a bit behind the scenes, midway through this year, I started receiving these whispers because I had created more spaciousness in quarter two to really just ensure I was having enough

time with myself. And it was through that process. It was through support she and I had invested in that I got a lot of I received insights as I was tuning into my highest vision that the chapter of the modern Empress and what we had been focusing on was no longer aligned. And a big part of what helped me also get there that I wanted to share with you was a very key question because I knew going into

quarter two that something was off and I couldn't quite, you know, there was moments where it's a bit hard to really get to the bottom of something. It's like, you know, it's right there, but you can't quite see it. And it was hard to think, especially where it can be extra challenging, at least for myself was when you're in an experience, like this was my first time in a very specific configuration business partnership style working experience. So it was so hard in some ways to get to that truth because it was just the truth. really.

in a way didn't wanna see and didn't wanna believe because again, I had all these expectations and in some way, and I just had so much respect for this person. So I just wanted to like keep it going even though my highest self was trying to say, hey, it's run its time. There's a new path that is being asked of for all in this experience. And the question that helped me was where in my life do I not feel free? Thanks to the beloved Gene Keys that I talk about all the time.

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I threw my own contemplation on my gene keys. That question was shared with me and it really started to get me to see the truth. It really got started to get me to see that like I shared that this chapter I had been in was asking for a pivot, asking for a shift and to trust that by honoring what my truth is, it actually is of highest truth for all. And I say that because

I think these moments can bring up so much challenge because they ask us to re-envision, they ask us to adapt, they ask us to feel a lot of grief. And I will say that in the journey, there was a lot of grief that came up. There was a lot of grief in terms of, again, all of these expectations I had of myself where I felt like I was letting myself down by making the pivot, know, ways in which I had all these stories that came up about like, my goodness, but we've spent so much time and resources on this. now it's just a waste or we're behind or...

relate to, I don't know, there was all these just mental stories that came up in my head that could have kept me just sticking into something, you know? And I think this can happen so often. I've watched it a lot with clients where, you know, you can stay in a relationship for too long because it just feels like, well, I've just been in it so long. It's what I know. It's what I'm comfortable with. I just should stick to it because I've created all of these visions of

and all of these expectations of where I would be on some specific timeline that I created in a past version of myself. So let me stick to it. Anyone feel me on this one? And it was just this moment of I had to trust. And I think this is why these moments get really tricky is you have to trust that through allowing yourself to grieve what is no longer aligned and make those choices.

that what is on the other side is truly of highest service for yourself and for all involved. Like to really honor that sometimes life is going to ask you to step through short-term discomfort for the highest service and freedom long-term. And so I just really feel this is important. And I really felt called to share this story because what I most importantly have experienced is that through my own experience walking through this, not only did I come to find, wow, I got handed so many

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deeply important learnings. my gosh, did I grow in the process? my gosh, am I just proud of so many things that came to life through that experience? And can I actually also honor that through being willing to pivot, through being willing to adapt and make the change and honor my truest highest path and timeline that was being called forward? Things can be even better on the other side and they have.

Like since those choices came to life, my gosh, so many things have opened up for me. So many things. This podcast came to life on the other side of that big shift. know, speaking gigs came to life on the other end of that beyond and just so many other creations and experiences and opportunities and things that my highest self really feel are now where I'm meant to walk and to move with.

And so, yeah, I just really first off want to name that. And so I'd love to just invite after I've just now shared this a moment for you in your own way to just take a moment as I can imagine, even as I share my story, that why I always have come to love the power of sharing stories is as I share my story that likely in some way it brings up some version for you, some experience, some moment this year, some expectation this year that you feel like didn't get met and maybe ways in which you are holding on to any disappointment.

this feeling of being disappointed in yourself for any particular reason, disappointment in others, disappointment in the world. And so I just want to take a moment together before I actually, I'm going to welcome us into a process of inviting you just to take a deep breath in.

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And just to exhale, just honoring this present moment, honoring what's come through for you, and honoring the spaciousness that is in the in-between.

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Yeah. And now I'm going to actually, make this, as you know, I love nothing more than to make something feel like you not only receive insights and information, but I love to make things experiences in my world. So I do a lot of visualization work with my clients and with myself, most importantly, as I am my number one first client always is to live and breathe what I share with you as a constant experiment. And so if you are in a moment right now where you can actually

Create space to be by yourself. If you could ideally find a quiet place, a comfortable way you can sit or lay down, I would highly recommend and love to invite you to do so. If you're on a walk with me, washing some dishes, taking me on a drive, I'd love to invite you. You can still enjoy what I'm about to share and really allow yourself to be a part of it. Of course, while focusing on what you need to with your eyes if necessary, but to just invite yourself to go through this process I'm gonna share and...

Ideally, maybe again, relisten at another time and really give yourself the space to also do it from that intentional closed eyes perspective. So I want to invite you to take a moment to again, just find a way to feel comfortable. And if you need to pause this episode, go create your space, light a candle, do whatever makes you feel really held in a beautiful way. And then when you feel ready, I want to invite you to take a deep breath in.

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and exhale out, like really just allowing yourself first and foremost to notice how you feel breathing, being intentional with your breath, being intentional with your body.

And this time I wanna invite you to take a deep breath in and as you inhale to very intentionally fill your belly with air and your lungs.

And then on the exhale to really invite yourself to release your shoulders.

to shake off anything you feel called to move or to shake off in your body.

and just to give yourself a moment to allow your body to settle into this present moment.

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I want to invite us to really go into taking another deep breath in, like really allowing yourself to breathe in deeply, the deepest breath you've taken thus far today.

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And then to exhale out, really inviting yourself to soften, to soften into this moment, soften into your space, to soften into being here right now.

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And then I'm going to invite you now on this next breath, take a deep breath in and this time to really get intentional about connecting to your heart space and to set the intention with your heart space, to connect with your body, to be open to receiving the wisdom of your body and to notice with just love, with intention, what you've been carrying and to just invite yourself to gently create space for what's next, what's true, what's of highest service.

in this next chapter, this next era, this next season of your life.

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And then with your attention still in your heart space, I want to invite you to take a moment to imagine a bit of light in your chest space, to imagine just a sparkle of light. Maybe it just starts off looking like glitter. Maybe for you, it's bit of a white speck, but just to like imagine pink, green, blue, any color, but to imagine that there's just a bit of light in your way that sparks in your heart space.

and then to imagine that it spreads across your whole body. And as you do so, take a moment to notice as you go up through your neck, through your shoulders, to your head, if there's any tension in your body that you're specifically noticing that you're walking with, you're carrying any weight, any constriction in your body.

And then to imagine again, the light spreading across your arms to your beautiful hands. Imagine the light spreading down your spine.

down your legs to your beautiful divine feet. And again, just let this be a scam. Take a moment to just be open and curious to scan your body, to scan your being, and to get curious about any areas of tension, any areas of heaviness or tightness that you've been walking with, and to just observe, to know that there's nothing to fix, nothing to change. We're just allowing your body to be witnessed.

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And then I'm gonna invite you to take a deep breath in. Just like really honoring this space of body scanning, of noticing, of being present with your beautiful body. And again, just exhale. And as you exhale, set that intention just to soften even more.

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And then I want to invite you to notice one particular error in your body that feels particularly heavy or contracted in any way. And just to take a moment to breathe into that part of your body, to just be curious again, to just notice it.

So maybe even imagine a little extra sparkle of light in that part of you.

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And just to allow yourself to notice without judging.

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Where in your body are you carrying the weight of this year's expectations and disappointments?

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really allowing that part of your body to be present in this moment now.

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And as you connect with this part of your body, I really want to invite you to ask this part of your body, what expectation did I hold for myself, for my relationships, for my career, for my growth? What expectation in particular am I holding on to tightly here? And I want to have us just name one for now.

You can always come back to this practice at any time and process multiple, but I really want to invite you just to get really clear on one that's standing out now.

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And to take a moment with this expectation to allow yourself to picture and to get really honest about what was the expectation. To maybe even visualize when you first visioned it, when it first came to life for you, just take a moment to let it feel real, to just take a moment to honor the expectation, to where it came to life in your body, in your being.

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What felt most important to you then when you were crafting and cultivating this expectation? Why did it matter to you?

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And just taking a moment to breathe in, really giving yourself a moment just to be present with this, to see it, to feel it for simply what it is as beautiful data.

Nothing that defines you.

Simply data. And now I want to invite you to connect with what disappointment are you feeling about this particular expectation? Where are you feeling let down by yourself, by others?

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by the world, any stories that come up about how things should have been.

And as we go through this process, I just always want to invite you to consistently come back to this knowing of gentleness, of holding yourself in gentleness, to honoring your boundaries, to going as deep as feels aligned for you in this moment today, and to taking beautiful, loving care of yourself.

And so now as you connect with this part of your body, I'm going to invite you to ask, what is this disappointment showing me that I care about?

What is this disappointment showing me that I care about and really giving a moment?

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For example, if you are releasing a relationship dynamic that is not aligned any further, really honoring what does it show you you value, what you need, what you desire to feel in relationship.

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If a health goal didn't come to fruition the way you want, what is it showing you that you care about?

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If a wealth goal, a business project didn't come to fruition the way you had expected, what is the disappointment you're feeling? Where are you feeling let down? What is something that you are really receiving as wisdom from this experience?

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And then as you come into really deep connection with what that simple piece of truth is from your body.

So take a moment with yourself, maybe even silently say, thank you for showing me that I care about. Insert whatever is your particular wisdom and insight.

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And as you do this, I'd love to invite you to maybe take a moment to put your hand on that part of your body.

to take a moment to give that part of your body some extra care, some extra loving, some extra reverence.

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And then I want to imagine that you feel light begin to sparkle extra brightly in that part of your body. And as you inhale to really feel yourself and imagine that you're spreading that light in that area, that you're amplifying it, that you're expanding it. And again, with the exhale to imagine that you're just releasing, exhaling, dissolving any of the tension, any of the heaviness, any of the weight.

that you've been carrying with it.

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And if it feels aligned for you, might even imagine that you might be someone who's quite visual and imagine that this disappointment, this expectation is almost like a physical expression, has a texture, has a size and imagine it actually comes onto your hand.

and to take a deep breath in, really just taking a moment to honor however your imagination sees this disappointment. And as you exhale, imagine gently setting it down in front of you and to start picturing that it starts to dissolve, starts to soften, starts to melt. Or maybe it's just simply carried away by a stream of light.

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And I want to invite you to take a deep breath in, just really taking a moment to honor this space, to honor yourself, to honor the beauty of you trusting every present moment in your life, trusting that every moment you've been guided to on your journey has lessons, has truths, has wisdom that you were meant to walk with, that you are here to be a being of divine timing, that your greatest commitment is simply to be in highest integrity with your highest vision.

and that your highest vision will evolve as you evolve. It will shift as you shift. It will ask you to make choices. It will ask you to show up in ways that even if we tried right now to plan it all out, life has its own way of guiding. And to see if you can just inhale and honor this and also exhale any ways you're really hard on yourself, you hold any tension.

of mistakes you've made or any stories you have about how or what these expectations or disappointments mean about you. And just to lovingly exhale them off simply with intention. Again, no pushing, no striving, no need to fix anything, just allowing with every inhale to receive more light, to receive more life, to receive the breath of your life in your body. And with every exhale, to receive more softness, to melt off, to release any heaviness, distraction.

that sits and lives within you, that you just know it's of highest service and time to release.

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And we're just going to take one final deep breath in together. And as you do so, I just want to take a moment for you to feel a sense of gratitude for yourself, showing up, for being present, for honoring this process to allowing yourself to be openhearted and curious about what wants to come through for you, for honoring your courage, for honoring your gorgeous, loving heart, for honoring your powerful, unique vision, and to really honor the insight.

that this expectation and disappointment you're grieving has brought into your life and to trust.

that it will be something that supports where you're headed to next.

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As you take your final exhale, want you to really feel yourself, feel the space that going through this process leaves within you.

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to simply honor it, to simply be with it, to notice if any tension lives in allowing the space to simply be space without immediately filling it up with something.

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And I want to take a moment as we close this particular process to just honor you.

to honor your highest vision and to honor all that you're opening yourself up for thanks to you simply showing up for this today. And then in your own time, your own space, your own way, I'll gently invite you to open your eyes if you did have them closed and just invite you if you do have a journal nearby or something you can take notes on. I'm gonna give some fun, of course, a good ritual and a good takeaway.

to really let you ground this on a deeper level practically. So I wanna invite you to connect with what is the one expectation that I am releasing today?

And how will I honor the space I've created?

and letting go.

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to really give a moment to let yourself journal on this, to be with this.

And then the other practical prompt I want to give you is I want to invite you to give yourself what I like to call a permission statement. If there's anything again, I love to be an invitation for it's just a walking permission slip to honor your highest vision, your elevated self and who you're here to be daily. And so I want to invite you to write out this prompt and then to just flow, right. And see what comes through and to really make it be one sentence, a paragraph, do it your way.

But here's the prompt. In this next season, I give myself permission to.

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In this next season, I give myself permission to.

Some of the examples that I have found super valuable for me are in this next season, I give myself permission to allocate double the amount of time I think I need for any given project, task, or activity.

In this next season, I give myself permission to spend spacious amounts of time alone, taking beautiful care of myself. In this next season, I give myself permission to allow myself to simply be misunderstood and not feel like I have to over explain myself. In this next season, I give myself permission to show up as my bravest.

unapologetic version. Right? It can be so many different ways. In this next season, I give myself permission to take up more space and to say what truly and vulnerability, vulnerability is on my heart, right? Like really take a moment to honor what is at least one permission statement you really want to hone. And then I, course, because I love a good daily ritual and that's what we're so about here on the pod, I'd love to invite you to repeat the statement day in, day out.

and really see and notice what comes to life for you as you do so.

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And I'm just tuning in to feel like if there's any other last words I have for today, I just want to take a moment to honor you and to celebrate you for showing up today for being present for this. And like I said, this is something, this is an episode you can come back to any time you notice you're out of space where if you're really honest, it feels like you have this cluttered, energetic, emotional, spiritual closet within you that just needs to feel like there's more space to feel free within yourself. And naturally, the more we free ourselves inside, the more free we feel on the outside.

And so I really celebrate you in that. And I'm excited to share that the next episode is actually going to be so complimentary to this one and that it's going to support you with really celebrating this past year and getting really clear on your greatest learnings and lessons from this year, the things that you truly are so proud of and who you've become this past year and really set you up with a very simple and intentional way to set yourself up for a

beautiful 2025, a 2025 that is full of what you truly desire. And so with that, if you have deeply valued this episode, I would be so grateful as always, if you would share a rating and review or share it with a dear friend, it means the world to me. I deeply am committed to us creating this powerful community together. And I know the more that we commit to elevating ourselves,

the more we have a huge ripple. And I also know that it is even better when we're doing it together. So thank you so much for being you. Thank you so much for being here. I am so grateful and I'm sending you the biggest heart hugs.