Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host over what it is Sunday morning. And I

decided to record an episode today for men only. Of course,

I'm gonna see in my

analytics of my episodes here, how many women actually

listened. But yeah, let's see what we have to say what I have

to say here on my little podcast show about self care for men.

Why do I feel like we have to separate self care between

masculine and feminine energy?

I believe in polarity, I believe that opposites attract.

And this is why

I can see that self care for men can look very differently than

self care for women.

Maybe I'm totally screwing this up, and men will be approaching

me and telling you this is absolute bullshit. But I'll just

give it a try.

And we see what comes out. I'm also excited if there is

a feminist approaching me soon, because I will be posting more

and more about this topic. Because I feel there is a need

for it. And my puppy on the background is crying here right

now because he wants the attention.

But it will all be fine. I'm very open for discussions.

So let's dive in.

Self care for the masculine. First off, if you know who Joe

Rogan is, then I don't have to talk about it any further if you

don't check out his podcast, because I feel during COVID

especially.

So when we can't get together and mingle with our friends with

our sisters and brothers out there. Joe Rogan's podcast is

really awesome to listen to, and you feel kind of part of a cool

masculine conversation. They're

very engaging and very interesting topics they talk

about their. And another person I'm highly, highly fond of, is

Jordan Peterson. He was gone from social media for quite some

time, had really deep struggles and suffered a lot. And now he's

back on stage. He's back out there. And helping especially

men with mental health problems and standing up for

for men.

And it's very interesting how He sees things. And the work he

does is extremely valuable and important for our society.

So what do guys do when they want to take care of themselves?

I would say

drinking, partying, video games, Netflix thing, maybe porn,

hooking up with random girls.

Fast food. That's kind of the image I have. And please know

again, if that's the first time you're listening to me, I'm just

talking about my thoughts, my experiences. And if you think

it's different than please message me and we can talk about

it.

So that is I think, what people mainstream Lee think that guys

do when they take care of themselves.

But today, I want to talk about the really deep nourishing

practices that you can do as a man when you're by yourself

instead of indulging in ice cream and fast food or

10 hours of video gaming. So a bath is really awesome. If you

have a bathtub then please use it once a week or once every two

weeks. Because it really feels so awesome to have your skin

completely soaked, and covered and warmth. And showers, of

course, are good too. But Roth is a little different.

And then what's your food?

That's a no brainer, I would say, talking to a friend on the

phone, some guys, I think have to overcome the fear of

coming across as too feminine. And if you have friends who

would look down on you, then maybe it's time to find new

friends, who you really can talk to on the phone, especially now,

when we can meet up with each other.

And it has to be a person that really makes you feel good too.

And it doesn't matter if it's an acquaintance or

family member or a friend.

It's really important that you choose a person that inspires

you that you look up to and who truly cares about you. Because

that make you feel that can make you feel so good. It can

literally make your day and then exercising, how do you approach

exercising? I know a lot of guys out there, girls too. But guys

just as much feel very uncomfortable in their skin, and

they exercise and do all these heavy lifting stuff, because

they want to change, they want to be someone different. And so

they approach exercising with kind of a punishment mentality.

Instead of making it a joy as experience. So if you go and do

sports, maybe observe yourself what your main motivation is. Is

it weight loss? Is it?

Yeah, wanting to build up muscles because you feel

insecure? Or is it?

Like those hormones that come out? The oxytocin and just

taking good care of yourself that is motivating you to

exercise?

And then

when we think about

now COVID How does it feel for you?

I don't know in which situation you are. Maybe you live with

roommates, maybe you live

back home now you had to move back to your parents, or maybe a

sibling? How do you feel about your living situation? Because

that too, highly affects how you feel about yourself? Do you feel

isolated? They feel lonely? Do you feel frustrated?

Do you feel scared? Regarding the future? Or jobs? Maybe you

lost your job? Or maybe you are

at a cross section? Where do you where you have to make a

decision? And do you have people around you who can support you?

Or who can leave you alone with with Yeah, asking questions

about what you're going to do in the future.

And then in general, are you okay being alone? Or does that

feel uncomfortable? Like when you look at yourself now when

you're by yourself?

You engaging in

distractions or even destructive, self destructive

behavior?

Do you feel like you have to fill up your time with Netflix

and video games or drinking or porn?

To feel okay about yourself? Or can you imagine?

Just yeah, spending time with yourself quality time, like you

would with a dear friend.

Can you imagine reading a book or going for a walk or doing

something that really deeply connects you back to yourself

again, or you go and get a recipe from from Google and

really cook something nice and nourishing for yourself.

So those are things that we can do that are truly good for

ourselves. Instead of engaging and

yeah, binging binging things that are not good for your

mental health and your physical body.

Then do you feel understood by your family and friends

In general, and

do you feel that they get you that they are good with who you

are, and they don't want to change you. Another thing I want

to talk about today is crippling expectations.

Maybe you have a girlfriend or

parents who you feel have expectations from you and you

feel you have to fulfill them, otherwise, they will react

dramatically and put you in, in a really uncomfortable position.

I fear expectations are the number one thing that can

destroy relationships. And

sometimes most of the times also makes a family member feel like

the black sheep and the person who doesn't want to belong to

the family.

Because it

gives you that deep feeling of not being enough

not being okay with who you are. And no one wants to feel that

everybody wants to feel acknowledged and seen and

appreciated for who they are. And if someone comes along, that

you truly care about, but they have those expectations from

you, that you can fulfill, then it just makes you feel so so

shitty about yourself. And it's very hard to get out of a

situation like that.

So

this is just a quick intro into men's health into mental health

for men. And again, I want to separate it from women because I

would approach

mental health for women very differently.

If this is the right approach, give me feedback. If this is the

wrong approach, give me feedback. It'd be awesome.

Otherwise, I'm just going to continue like I did right now

today.

I hope I was not talking too fast.

Take good care he warriors out there.

Because we need you. We truly need you every woman who says

that she doesn't need a man in her life.

didn't get the memo. Like

I think I said it in previous episodes to hear it is not about

if you have a penis or not. It's all about if you feel you're

living in your masculine energy, or if you're living in your

feminine energy, and we need each other, like a woman

could never convince me to say that we don't need men and we

can do everything on our own. And that equality is the key.

Because I don't believe that equality exists. Polarity

exists, where opposites attract and opposites support each

other, we complement each other. And if we are

completely

like clones, if we are exactly the same, then it won't

function. There's there has to be

some

polarity in order for us to function as a beautiful, strong,

resilient society. So this was the first episode about man

self. I truly hope that you find peace today that you feel

understood and seen. And that you know that you're a badass

person because your energy is unique and no one can replace

you. You are one of a kind. And we need you out there shining

brightly. Until next time. Take good care. Bye bye, Aurora.

Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your

host Aurora and I'm very excited for today's episode number 31.

Thank you so much for yes

supporting my podcasts listening to my meditations and my

inspirational talks on a regular downloading, subscribing,

sharing, liking all means so much to me and I feel highly

motivated to continue and to bring your peace and love and

reconnection with yourself really, I feel that's the most

important thing we can work on.

When we live in confinement, COVID isolation, or when we have

time for ourselves. yesterday's episode was for men only I

talked about, yes, self care for men and mental health. And

if you're curious enough, then please go ahead and listen to

it. Of course, it's open for everybody. And today's episode

is for the ladies out there.

Yeah, let's get started. I hope you feel beautiful. I hope you

feel good in your skin, I hope you enjoy your body and

are at peace with what you have, or what you might not have, that

you focus on the things that you have in your life, instead of

what could be should be.

So if we come talking about the body,

how's your relationship to food? Do you restrict? Do you punish

yourself? Do you feel shame? Or do you have a very natural

approach to food intake, I think Food and Tech is one of the most

important things

in life that can keep us sane and healthy. But as ladies, we

have that

deep connection with food and beauty and maybe anxiety to

lose the beauty of our body at some point. So aging.

And this podcast here is for you to be at peace with yourself

finally, and to let go of expectations and to let go of

pressure and self hate and self destruction and just enjoying

your body. pleasuring yourself,

being there for you when you really need it, instead of

seeking it from outside sources.

When it comes to mental health, I could ramble around for hours.

But when it comes to mental health, I want to focus with you

ladies on the self talk. So when you are in a group of people,

which hahaha it's probably not possible at the moment with

COVID, but will be possible again in the future. But what

are your thoughts when you are among girls? Or with guys in a

group of people? Do you feel jealous? Do you compare

yourself? How do you feel in your skin?

Then, when you are with yourself? And when you're trying

to get things done? Or when you're trying to take good care

of yourself? Where is your mind then? Is your self talk very

positive and warm and soothing? Or is it very harsh and? And

critical?

Then we have the soul?

The soul? Have you found your purpose yet? Do you know what

you are here for on planet Earth?

How about having children?

Did you

think about it recently? Is it a thought that crosses you on a

regular or do you not waste any time when it comes to

being pregnant? And having a child?

In a very interesting question someone asked me before was do

you see yourself as a child avoider to avoid any kind of

contact with children? Do you see yourself as an aunt? Or do

you see yourself as a mother and just know that there's so many

roles that you can fulfill on this planet earth that are so

needed out there? And it doesn't have to be motherhood? Right?

Like

I don't want to see or hear

Are you suffering from

society expectations and expectations from your family

that you have to have a child or, or any expectation really,

but especially when it comes to having children because you are

so much more than just a baby bear and machine. And if you are

the plain mother, and this is your goal, then please stick to

it and blossom and cherish and relish everything about it. This

is just for the girls who maybe don't know yet, or maybe don't

want to have children, just know that you are deeply needed in

society, even if you don't choose to have children.

So let's go back to the physical. How have you been

feeling physically lately? I know. January can be a very

tough month

physically because of Christmas, and we may be over indulged in

food. But it's also a few Christmas was not really present

this year, because of COVID. It is a very dark month, it is a

month of

Yeah, coming to an end with last year and new beginnings, and

uncertainty and even the light, I really call it the dark month.

The light of the sun is still very low and doesn't really

give us much energy. So we have to give these things to

ourselves.

I don't know much about you. And as I said previously, in my last

episode, I'm working on a website, because I'm burning to

know who you are and what you're struggling with to make this

podcast more of an experience for yourself.

So I don't know where you're at when it comes to the physical

body.

One thing I want to mention is, I had a friend back then, in

high school, and after she showered, she always took the

time to put lotion on her skin. And I was always the kind of

girl who all had to go fast and I wanted to be ready as fast as

possible, I used makeup, but I don't know, I didn't really

cherish those moments. So maybe next time you have a shower, you

can

take an oil or body lotion, and just massage your wrists and

your four arms and maybe your upper arm, and then your thighs

and your calves and your feet.

And

just take a moment and appreciate your healthy body. If

you have a healthy body, then know that you're blessed and

that we should be thanking our bodies every day for the service

they

provide us

if you say that in English,

you know what I mean?

If you're struggling with health issues, then

maybe you can focus on the body parts that are not aching that

are healthy and and focus on those parts and encourage your

body to be healthy again and help him out. Because your body

always wants to fight and does everything for you to be in a

healthy state. So if you support it from

like the outside with your hands and massaging it then you can do

a lot of good.

And another thing is meditation when you sit in meditation and

find that peace,

that stillness,

then

a lot of the times we can reconnect with ourselves and

send gratefulness into our heart. And

that feeling that we then carry out into the world. That deep

feeling of calm,

soothing, healing life carries out

to other people. And that is what people perceive as beauty.

And you being at peace with yourself will also help you to

let go of it.

habits, like smoking, like binge eating, emotional eating.

Or if you're on the other side of the spectrum, like, not

eating enough punishing yourself, it can bring you back

to your initial like to your core.

And this is why those meditations here are so critical

for me to post because this is how I learned to be at peace

with my body. And I'm 35 years old, and

I think I've never been happier in my skin that I am now.

I don't weigh myself, I don't.

Yeah, I was gonna say I don't judge myself anymore. I think

that's the hardest thing to do when you look at yourself in the

mirror. But I really came to peace with what I have, and

enjoy my body way more than I used to. So meditation just

connects you back to yourself and makes you appreciate the

healthy body that you possess, and makes you want to take care

of it. Like when you can imagine a mother,

a young mother or a pregnant woman, how she kind of rubs her

belly and feels good in her body and knows that there's something

growing inside of her eye. Think I strongly believe that we as

woman, we don't need to be pregnant.

To send that deep appreciation and happiness into our body

cells. We can do that right now. In the moment.

So as you can hear maybe in my voice I get really emotional.

And this is so dear to my soul to get this message out there

because so many women out there are so beautiful and they can

see it themselves. And through this podcast, I want to

remember you of who you were and of how beautiful you are and of

how much we need you out there to shine your light. All right,

this was the first episode for you ladies out there. I hug you

so much.

And maybe spoil yourself to a little meditation here or have a

good warm shower and

put some oil onto your skin afterwards. Until next time,

this was me Aurora that I