1 00:00:00,049 --> 00:00:03,325 Speaker: Alright, well, well, tonight, um, so we've been going 2 00:00:03,325 --> 00:00:04,525 through the book of Romans, right? 3 00:00:04,795 --> 00:00:09,475 Romans and Romans chapter one talks about a really, really important. 4 00:00:09,835 --> 00:00:12,775 Issue something really important that, so important that I thought 5 00:00:12,775 --> 00:00:16,795 it would be best if we just took a night to talk about this topic. 6 00:00:16,795 --> 00:00:22,195 So tonight we are going to talk about homosexuality and LGBTQ 7 00:00:22,225 --> 00:00:29,665 plus all of that because in Romans one, verses 26 and 27 talked about 8 00:00:29,665 --> 00:00:32,575 how the, some people who had, um. 9 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:37,810 What's called, what they said were unnatural desires, desires for, uh, men, 10 00:00:37,810 --> 00:00:39,460 desiring men and women desiring women. 11 00:00:39,460 --> 00:00:40,510 And so that's what we're gonna talk about. 12 00:00:40,510 --> 00:00:42,820 We're gonna talk about all of that. 13 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:48,220 And so, um, it's gonna be, uh, hopefully really helpful for you to 14 00:00:48,220 --> 00:00:53,110 see what God says, why he says it, um, why certain things that the, the 15 00:00:53,110 --> 00:00:59,470 Bible says about what we would call sin and how to talk to people about. 16 00:01:00,025 --> 00:01:02,815 This topic, because I'm sure this is not your favorite thing to 17 00:01:02,815 --> 00:01:04,194 talk about with people at school. 18 00:01:04,224 --> 00:01:06,325 So, um, that's what we're gonna talk about. 19 00:01:06,325 --> 00:01:07,465 So this is what we're gonna do. 20 00:01:07,645 --> 00:01:15,775 We're gonna be looking at what the Bible says about LGBTQ plus ideas and 21 00:01:15,775 --> 00:01:17,785 thoughts and desires and all that. 22 00:01:17,815 --> 00:01:18,115 Okay? 23 00:01:18,295 --> 00:01:22,345 So what I want for you tonight, this is my goal for you, is I want 24 00:01:22,345 --> 00:01:25,825 you to be clear and confident. 25 00:01:26,230 --> 00:01:31,240 About God's design, God's design for marriage, God's design for gender, God's 26 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:36,369 design for attraction, God's design for romance, for all those things. 27 00:01:36,369 --> 00:01:38,050 I want you to be clear. 28 00:01:38,289 --> 00:01:39,580 This is what God says. 29 00:01:40,119 --> 00:01:44,469 This is how God made people to live and to interact with each other. 30 00:01:44,860 --> 00:01:46,149 I want you to have clarity about that. 31 00:01:46,149 --> 00:01:47,170 I want that to make sense. 32 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:50,110 I want you to understand what God says, and I want you to be confident. 33 00:01:50,110 --> 00:01:51,344 I want you to be like, that's a good thing. 34 00:01:51,970 --> 00:01:54,490 I'm so glad God says what he says. 35 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:58,630 I'm so glad God made people the way he made people. 36 00:01:58,780 --> 00:01:59,860 I want you to be clear about it. 37 00:01:59,860 --> 00:02:02,020 I want you to understand it, and I want you to be confident. 38 00:02:02,020 --> 00:02:03,070 I want you to feel really good about it. 39 00:02:03,220 --> 00:02:07,540 I want you to, to affirm it, and I want you to not be embarrassed about it. 40 00:02:07,839 --> 00:02:12,220 Especially in today's culture, it's, it's easy for someone to make you 41 00:02:12,220 --> 00:02:14,230 feel embarrassed about what God says. 42 00:02:14,724 --> 00:02:19,164 I'm gonna make you feel like a bad person for believing what the 43 00:02:19,164 --> 00:02:20,815 Bible says about these things. 44 00:02:20,935 --> 00:02:21,894 So I want you to be confident. 45 00:02:21,894 --> 00:02:22,795 I don't want you to be embarrassed. 46 00:02:22,795 --> 00:02:25,885 I don't want you to be ashamed, and I don't want you to, to feel 47 00:02:25,885 --> 00:02:28,795 like this is a bad thing, that God says these things, okay? 48 00:02:29,154 --> 00:02:30,474 That's what I want for you. 49 00:02:30,565 --> 00:02:34,075 So here's our starting point, okay? 50 00:02:34,103 --> 00:02:36,774 Our, our number one starting point when we're thinking 51 00:02:36,774 --> 00:02:38,065 about all of this stuff, right? 52 00:02:38,065 --> 00:02:39,300 When you think about, um. 53 00:02:40,599 --> 00:02:45,789 All the different, all the different aspects of, of gender and sexuality 54 00:02:45,820 --> 00:02:47,829 and identity and all of these things. 55 00:02:48,039 --> 00:02:51,849 The number one thing I want you to start with is that God is love. 56 00:02:52,599 --> 00:02:53,649 That's where I want you to start. 57 00:02:53,920 --> 00:02:57,070 God loves you more than you love yourself. 58 00:02:58,810 --> 00:03:01,029 God loves you more than you love yourself. 59 00:03:01,029 --> 00:03:05,079 That's not our first point, but that is where I want you to start, that God 60 00:03:05,079 --> 00:03:08,349 loves you more than you love yourself. 61 00:03:09,310 --> 00:03:15,490 In fact, God loves people so much that one John four says that he 62 00:03:15,490 --> 00:03:18,700 sent his son to die for people. 63 00:03:19,630 --> 00:03:23,680 He God took on flesh and died for people. 64 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:26,200 That's how much God loves you. 65 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,350 He was willing to do that for you. 66 00:03:29,470 --> 00:03:33,730 God loves you more than you love you, and so because of that, God wants 67 00:03:33,730 --> 00:03:35,980 what's best for you, more than you want. 68 00:03:35,980 --> 00:03:37,630 What's best for you, right? 69 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:41,289 God wants you to be happy more than you want you to be happy. 70 00:03:41,799 --> 00:03:44,469 Maybe you've never thought about that before, but this is our, our starting 71 00:03:44,469 --> 00:03:47,709 place because a lot of people will tell you, well, it's unloving for 72 00:03:47,709 --> 00:03:49,359 God to say these things about me. 73 00:03:50,049 --> 00:03:54,820 It's unloving for you to tell me X, y, and Z about my gender or 74 00:03:54,820 --> 00:04:00,640 who I'm allowed to marry or what I'm allowed to say about myself. 75 00:04:02,589 --> 00:04:04,419 So our starting point is that, that God loves you. 76 00:04:05,169 --> 00:04:06,664 God loves people so much. 77 00:04:07,765 --> 00:04:10,555 So that, that's our starting point, and we even see that here, right? 78 00:04:10,555 --> 00:04:13,555 In one John four, beloved let us love one another. 79 00:04:13,555 --> 00:04:15,353 For love is from God. 80 00:04:15,445 --> 00:04:18,565 So love is God's idea, right? 81 00:04:18,565 --> 00:04:19,224 In our title. 82 00:04:19,344 --> 00:04:21,925 There's that, that phrase that you hear thrown out a lot. 83 00:04:21,925 --> 00:04:23,484 That love is love, right? 84 00:04:23,484 --> 00:04:25,045 Don't let anyone tell you who you can love. 85 00:04:26,005 --> 00:04:29,034 Well, actually, love is God's idea. 86 00:04:29,215 --> 00:04:30,265 God invented love. 87 00:04:31,015 --> 00:04:34,555 Love actually existed before the world existed because God, 88 00:04:34,585 --> 00:04:35,979 the Father loved God the son. 89 00:04:37,045 --> 00:04:44,005 Before he made anyone so love actually has existed before the 90 00:04:44,005 --> 00:04:48,594 world existed before Adam and Eve were created before Sin entered 91 00:04:48,594 --> 00:04:54,265 the world, God made us out of love. 92 00:04:54,594 --> 00:04:55,075 Actually. 93 00:04:55,555 --> 00:04:57,985 God made people so he could love them. 94 00:04:59,065 --> 00:05:00,414 So love is God's idea. 95 00:05:01,495 --> 00:05:04,315 Whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 96 00:05:04,435 --> 00:05:10,555 So the only way you can love truly is if you have a relationship with God. 97 00:05:11,605 --> 00:05:17,815 You see that the only way that you can actually love someone has to do with God. 98 00:05:18,415 --> 00:05:20,215 You cannot love apart from God. 99 00:05:21,145 --> 00:05:22,405 It's, it's really not love. 100 00:05:22,405 --> 00:05:24,745 It's just a fake imitation of love. 101 00:05:25,645 --> 00:05:27,835 Whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 102 00:05:27,985 --> 00:05:29,455 Anyone who does not. 103 00:05:30,159 --> 00:05:33,130 Love does not know God because God is love. 104 00:05:33,280 --> 00:05:36,310 Now, these three words are three of the, this is one of the most 105 00:05:36,310 --> 00:05:38,109 important phrases in the Bible. 106 00:05:38,109 --> 00:05:39,010 God is love. 107 00:05:39,219 --> 00:05:41,679 It's not saying that God is loving, it's saying that God is love. 108 00:05:43,210 --> 00:05:44,049 What's the difference there? 109 00:05:44,890 --> 00:05:51,070 Well, the difference is that, God, this is, this is a definition, right? 110 00:05:51,460 --> 00:05:53,229 Who God is is love. 111 00:05:53,830 --> 00:05:57,700 So whatever love is has to be. 112 00:05:58,315 --> 00:05:59,844 Consistent with who God is. 113 00:06:01,344 --> 00:06:07,075 You can't make love something that's not consistent with who God is. 114 00:06:09,354 --> 00:06:12,414 I heard one theologian put it this way, he said that, that Jesus 115 00:06:12,534 --> 00:06:15,655 is love covered over in flesh. 116 00:06:16,375 --> 00:06:20,635 Jesus is love in a human body because God is love. 117 00:06:21,294 --> 00:06:24,984 So the way we define love is by God. 118 00:06:25,375 --> 00:06:25,734 So. 119 00:06:26,260 --> 00:06:27,219 Well, how? 120 00:06:27,219 --> 00:06:28,510 What does it look like to love someone? 121 00:06:29,349 --> 00:06:30,580 Well, what's God like? 122 00:06:30,700 --> 00:06:31,510 That's where we start. 123 00:06:31,719 --> 00:06:32,679 We start with God. 124 00:06:32,830 --> 00:06:34,239 That's how we learn what love is. 125 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,020 You can't learn what love is unless you know God. 126 00:06:39,489 --> 00:06:40,690 So that has to be our starting point. 127 00:06:41,679 --> 00:06:43,419 God is loving God. 128 00:06:44,020 --> 00:06:45,070 In fact is love. 129 00:06:45,070 --> 00:06:46,000 God invented love. 130 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:47,289 Love is God's idea. 131 00:06:47,679 --> 00:06:50,140 So that's the first thing I want you to start with it. 132 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:51,820 That love has to be. 133 00:06:52,765 --> 00:06:54,745 From God has to be in relationship to God. 134 00:06:54,895 --> 00:06:59,155 The second thing I want you to start with is that your identity, who you are 135 00:06:59,755 --> 00:07:06,955 is defined by God, not your body, not your emotions, and not your experiences. 136 00:07:10,284 --> 00:07:15,805 Who you are is not dependent on your physical body. 137 00:07:19,075 --> 00:07:21,715 If that, which that has to be true. 138 00:07:22,375 --> 00:07:29,305 Because if, if you believe in life after death, well your body's dead, 139 00:07:30,385 --> 00:07:31,645 but you're still alive, right? 140 00:07:31,735 --> 00:07:36,385 So who you are has to be more than just what your body says, right? 141 00:07:37,675 --> 00:07:41,425 Your emotions don't define who you are, how you feel doesn't define who you are 142 00:07:42,385 --> 00:07:44,605 and what you go through in life, right? 143 00:07:44,605 --> 00:07:45,565 The things that happen to you. 144 00:07:45,565 --> 00:07:46,614 Don't define who you are. 145 00:07:47,185 --> 00:07:48,445 God determines who you are. 146 00:07:50,004 --> 00:07:51,144 God made you right? 147 00:07:51,144 --> 00:07:52,374 God made people. 148 00:07:52,524 --> 00:07:54,534 People are God's idea, right? 149 00:07:55,974 --> 00:07:59,034 No one thought of people until God did. 150 00:08:01,224 --> 00:08:02,184 God made people. 151 00:08:02,335 --> 00:08:05,004 People like a human being is God's idea. 152 00:08:06,804 --> 00:08:11,094 So you can't just be like, well, I know you made humans God, but actually this 153 00:08:11,094 --> 00:08:12,384 is what I think humans should be like. 154 00:08:13,164 --> 00:08:15,205 'cause it doesn't make any sense, right? 155 00:08:15,205 --> 00:08:17,830 That's like telling the person who. 156 00:08:19,690 --> 00:08:26,680 Made a piano to be like, well, actually I think a piano should have symbols and 157 00:08:26,739 --> 00:08:31,330 should have a, you know, have, like, you should actually play it with a bow. 158 00:08:31,450 --> 00:08:34,030 Or you should actually, it should, you know, I, I think a piano 159 00:08:34,030 --> 00:08:38,950 should actually be, um, I think it should actually have a screen. 160 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:42,100 Like, and, and like, that's not a, that's not a piano. 161 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:42,640 Right. 162 00:08:43,179 --> 00:08:44,560 You, you've changed it into something. 163 00:08:44,560 --> 00:08:47,545 It's not because whoever came up with the piano. 164 00:08:48,595 --> 00:08:51,115 What they made, they made this thing, and if you change it, it's 165 00:08:51,115 --> 00:08:52,435 not what it is anymore, right? 166 00:08:52,735 --> 00:08:55,405 Your identity is defined by God, not your, your body, your 167 00:08:55,405 --> 00:08:56,245 emotions or your experiences. 168 00:08:56,245 --> 00:08:58,255 So, so people are, are God's creation. 169 00:08:58,255 --> 00:08:59,425 People are God's idea. 170 00:08:59,575 --> 00:09:02,935 And so God gets to tell us who we are and God gets to tell 171 00:09:02,935 --> 00:09:03,685 us how we're supposed to live. 172 00:09:04,675 --> 00:09:06,655 But that's why this is so important too, right? 173 00:09:06,715 --> 00:09:08,995 Because it's a loving God who's telling us all these things. 174 00:09:09,115 --> 00:09:10,285 It's a loving God who made us. 175 00:09:11,035 --> 00:09:15,205 It's, it's a God who, who wants your joy, who made you, and who 176 00:09:15,205 --> 00:09:17,245 made you to, to be a very specific. 177 00:09:17,830 --> 00:09:20,020 Person and to live a very specific way. 178 00:09:20,560 --> 00:09:23,410 It's not just like he God's like, oh well you know, you better do what 179 00:09:23,410 --> 00:09:24,700 I say just 'cause I told you to. 180 00:09:25,090 --> 00:09:25,300 Right? 181 00:09:25,300 --> 00:09:27,280 Like when you were a kid, the worst answer from your parent 182 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:28,510 was always, 'cause I said so, 183 00:09:30,910 --> 00:09:35,440 which is true 'cause there's authority there, but also it's because I love you. 184 00:09:36,370 --> 00:09:38,980 Whenever God tells you to do something, it's not just 'cause I said so. 185 00:09:39,190 --> 00:09:40,030 It's because I love. 186 00:09:41,065 --> 00:09:44,695 I want what's best for you, and I have something good for you in mind 187 00:09:44,785 --> 00:09:46,195 that's supposed to come from all this. 188 00:09:46,195 --> 00:09:48,715 So God loves you and God gets to tell you who you are. 189 00:09:48,865 --> 00:09:49,885 Those are the two foundations. 190 00:09:49,885 --> 00:09:53,635 Now there's gonna be three things, three terms that you might run into, 191 00:09:53,665 --> 00:09:56,155 you may have already encountered them, that I just wanna briefly define for 192 00:09:56,155 --> 00:09:57,535 you to get us all on the same page. 193 00:09:57,565 --> 00:09:57,835 Okay? 194 00:09:58,015 --> 00:10:01,495 There's three things that I think you need to know when we talk about 195 00:10:01,495 --> 00:10:04,855 homosexuality and L-G-B-T-Q and transgender and all this stuff. 196 00:10:04,885 --> 00:10:05,245 Okay? 197 00:10:06,295 --> 00:10:07,165 This sounds like health class. 198 00:10:08,125 --> 00:10:10,585 I don't like health class, so let's pretend it's not health class. 199 00:10:10,615 --> 00:10:10,885 Okay. 200 00:10:11,275 --> 00:10:12,025 Orientation. 201 00:10:12,445 --> 00:10:15,055 Your orientation is who or what you're attracted to, right? 202 00:10:15,055 --> 00:10:18,625 So, um, that includes romantic and emotional attraction, 203 00:10:18,625 --> 00:10:19,525 not just physical attraction. 204 00:10:19,525 --> 00:10:22,975 So if you hear about someone's like, oh, they're their orientation, right? 205 00:10:23,035 --> 00:10:24,445 That's who or what you're attracted to. 206 00:10:26,575 --> 00:10:26,905 We good? 207 00:10:26,905 --> 00:10:28,315 All right, sweet. 208 00:10:28,675 --> 00:10:31,975 Your gender identity is a subjective. 209 00:10:32,365 --> 00:10:32,905 Subjective. 210 00:10:32,905 --> 00:10:33,515 What does subjective mean? 211 00:10:34,375 --> 00:10:34,855 Objective. 212 00:10:34,855 --> 00:10:35,125 Right? 213 00:10:35,185 --> 00:10:35,755 Subjective. 214 00:10:35,755 --> 00:10:36,955 That means it's biased. 215 00:10:36,955 --> 00:10:39,445 That means it's not necessarily true, it's just how I feel. 216 00:10:40,165 --> 00:10:44,515 Gender identity, our subjective understanding of ourselves as male, 217 00:10:44,515 --> 00:10:45,805 female, both new, et cetera, right? 218 00:10:46,045 --> 00:10:46,405 Whatever. 219 00:10:46,555 --> 00:10:48,805 It's, you can be wrong essentially. 220 00:10:48,805 --> 00:10:50,005 That's what subjective means, right? 221 00:10:50,545 --> 00:10:51,115 It's an opinion. 222 00:10:51,355 --> 00:10:56,215 So it identity, your gender identity is your pers your idea, your own 223 00:10:56,215 --> 00:10:57,595 understanding of, of who you are. 224 00:10:59,065 --> 00:11:02,845 And then your expression is how you present that identity to other people. 225 00:11:03,415 --> 00:11:07,675 By the clothes you wear, the, the way your voice sounds, the way 226 00:11:07,675 --> 00:11:13,435 you look, that's how you express your perceived identity, right? 227 00:11:14,665 --> 00:11:16,315 So for example, right? 228 00:11:17,185 --> 00:11:23,155 I perceive myself to be male, so I present myself as a male. 229 00:11:23,695 --> 00:11:27,445 I wear boy clothes, I try to look like a boy, et cetera. 230 00:11:28,255 --> 00:11:30,265 Now, those are just some terms that. 231 00:11:31,045 --> 00:11:32,125 We all need to be on the same page. 232 00:11:32,125 --> 00:11:32,755 Gonna be using them. 233 00:11:32,845 --> 00:11:39,145 Okay, so the first thing I want you to see is that, like we talked 234 00:11:39,145 --> 00:11:41,065 about, God's design is a good thing. 235 00:11:41,665 --> 00:11:44,785 God made us the way. 236 00:11:44,785 --> 00:11:49,675 He made us for good, for for a good purpose because he loves us. 237 00:11:50,185 --> 00:11:54,295 And the way the Bible talks about humans and how humans are supposed 238 00:11:54,295 --> 00:11:57,775 to live and interact, the way God made humans is a really good thing. 239 00:11:57,865 --> 00:11:58,960 So for our first point tonight. 240 00:11:59,575 --> 00:12:04,165 I want you to defend the goodness of God's design. 241 00:12:05,755 --> 00:12:10,525 Defend the goodness of God's design. 242 00:12:13,915 --> 00:12:17,005 Turn to Mark chapter 10 in your Bibles. 243 00:12:17,035 --> 00:12:20,695 Defend the goodness of God's Designs, our first point, and when you're writing 244 00:12:20,695 --> 00:12:23,005 that down, turn to Mark, chapter 10. 245 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:29,560 Mark chapter 10. 246 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:35,980 So remember, I want you to be confident, right? 247 00:12:35,980 --> 00:12:39,430 That the way God made people and the way God made relationships, the way 248 00:12:39,430 --> 00:12:41,440 God made marriage is a good thing. 249 00:12:42,220 --> 00:12:44,500 And I want you to be confident enough where you can defend it. 250 00:12:44,500 --> 00:12:47,590 I want you to be clear about it so you know what God says, and I want you to 251 00:12:47,590 --> 00:12:51,040 be confident you're not embarrassed, that when someone disagrees, that you're 252 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:52,750 not like, oh, sorry about that, my bad. 253 00:12:53,830 --> 00:12:54,820 I want you to be able to defend. 254 00:12:54,820 --> 00:12:56,590 So Mark 10 is where we're going. 255 00:12:56,590 --> 00:12:58,870 We're gonna be listening at verses six through nine. 256 00:13:01,570 --> 00:13:04,090 Now, if you're in a conversation with someone about what God says about 257 00:13:04,090 --> 00:13:07,360 marriage, this is a great place to go because one, it's Jesus talking. 258 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:10,630 And a lot of people, even if they don't necessarily believe the Bible, they'll 259 00:13:10,630 --> 00:13:12,250 at least respect something Jesus said. 260 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:18,250 And two, Jesus quotes Genesis, which is a big deal because he's tying 261 00:13:18,250 --> 00:13:20,800 what he says into God's creation. 262 00:13:21,835 --> 00:13:24,655 He's tying what he says about marriage to God's creation. 263 00:13:24,655 --> 00:13:28,405 He's affirming what God did in Genesis one and two. 264 00:13:28,405 --> 00:13:32,155 So Mark chapter 10 verses six through nine. 265 00:13:32,155 --> 00:13:36,625 Okay, so some, we're gonna make some quick observations here about 266 00:13:36,625 --> 00:13:38,185 this chapter about God's design. 267 00:13:38,245 --> 00:13:38,635 Okay? 268 00:13:39,325 --> 00:13:44,005 So, but from the beginning of creation. 269 00:13:46,075 --> 00:13:48,025 God made them male and female. 270 00:13:48,025 --> 00:13:50,185 So see the quotes, that's a quote from Genesis. 271 00:13:50,185 --> 00:13:52,585 I think that's Genesis 2 24, if I remember correctly. 272 00:13:52,855 --> 00:13:56,935 So there's a couple observations here right off the bat, from the 273 00:13:56,935 --> 00:14:01,285 beginning of creation, this was always God's intended design. 274 00:14:01,945 --> 00:14:06,235 God always had an intended set design for how humans are supposed to be. 275 00:14:07,075 --> 00:14:08,125 Here's how he made them. 276 00:14:08,485 --> 00:14:12,235 God made them male and female, right, and again. 277 00:14:13,195 --> 00:14:15,475 Your parents probably never would've thought this was a controversial 278 00:14:15,475 --> 00:14:20,155 statement, but today in 2025, this is a controversial statement, God made 279 00:14:20,155 --> 00:14:22,705 people to either be male or be female. 280 00:14:23,995 --> 00:14:26,455 That is a controversial statement today, right? 281 00:14:28,015 --> 00:14:28,465 So 282 00:14:30,985 --> 00:14:34,405 the implication here, what Jesus is saying there, the Pharisees are asking 283 00:14:34,405 --> 00:14:39,385 about marriage, is that this is God's design from the beginning of time. 284 00:14:39,865 --> 00:14:44,155 When God created people, he designed them with gender. 285 00:14:44,395 --> 00:14:46,885 He designed them with marriage in mind. 286 00:14:47,965 --> 00:14:51,445 And after this, you'll see he designed them with attraction, 287 00:14:51,475 --> 00:14:52,765 with a right orientation. 288 00:14:53,005 --> 00:14:58,705 So God designed people to have a, a, a correct gender identity, to have a 289 00:14:58,705 --> 00:15:02,845 correct gender expression of that identity and to have a correct orientation. 290 00:15:04,375 --> 00:15:05,755 That's God's idea, right? 291 00:15:05,755 --> 00:15:08,875 That's not just someone's opinion or someone's subjective. 292 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:11,140 Understanding of how they feel. 293 00:15:11,680 --> 00:15:11,890 Right? 294 00:15:11,890 --> 00:15:15,790 God has a design for your orientation, for what you're attracted to. 295 00:15:16,120 --> 00:15:20,920 God has a design for your identity, what gender you are, and God has a 296 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:23,500 design for how you express that gender. 297 00:15:24,130 --> 00:15:27,370 So the first thing God designed, love, marriage and attraction 298 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:28,930 as a gift to point back to him. 299 00:15:29,500 --> 00:15:31,060 And we can see more of that in Ephesians five. 300 00:15:31,060 --> 00:15:34,060 We're not gonna go there, but what Ephesians five says is 301 00:15:34,060 --> 00:15:36,370 that marriage is about Jesus. 302 00:15:36,610 --> 00:15:37,450 Marriage is about God. 303 00:15:38,410 --> 00:15:38,800 So. 304 00:15:39,190 --> 00:15:39,880 That's the first thing. 305 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:40,840 God design. 306 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:41,650 It's God's idea. 307 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:44,320 Love is God's idea. 308 00:15:44,380 --> 00:15:45,370 Marriage is God's idea. 309 00:15:45,460 --> 00:15:46,690 Attraction is God's idea. 310 00:15:46,780 --> 00:15:47,680 Gender is God's idea. 311 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:50,920 He made all of these things, so he owns them. 312 00:15:50,920 --> 00:15:54,190 They're his idea as a gift to point back to him. 313 00:15:54,460 --> 00:15:55,570 That's the first thing I want you to see. 314 00:15:56,950 --> 00:16:03,040 Now, second thing that I want you to see here, which we already talked about, God 315 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:04,990 made them male and female, and now notice. 316 00:16:05,770 --> 00:16:08,890 The, the very specific language he uses in this passage. 317 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:11,620 Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother. 318 00:16:11,620 --> 00:16:12,310 He doesn't say parents. 319 00:16:12,310 --> 00:16:14,860 He says, father and mother, and a man shall leave his father and 320 00:16:14,860 --> 00:16:19,180 mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 321 00:16:19,210 --> 00:16:24,130 So what Jesus is saying very clearly is not in marriage. 322 00:16:24,250 --> 00:16:26,980 Marriage is between a man and a woman. 323 00:16:28,060 --> 00:16:31,630 It's very clear this is what God's design is from the beginning of creation. 324 00:16:31,900 --> 00:16:32,590 God designed. 325 00:16:33,595 --> 00:16:37,944 People to be male or female and to stay that way. 326 00:16:38,845 --> 00:16:43,615 And he designed marriage to be between one man and one woman. 327 00:16:45,595 --> 00:16:47,995 That's what, that's what God says about marriage. 328 00:16:47,995 --> 00:16:49,165 Now, that's probably not news to you. 329 00:16:49,165 --> 00:16:52,435 I hope that's not news to you, but I want you to be absolutely clear about that. 330 00:16:52,435 --> 00:16:53,605 That is God's design for marriage. 331 00:16:53,605 --> 00:16:55,015 One man, one woman. 332 00:16:56,665 --> 00:17:01,585 So he also expects people to express themselves that way. 333 00:17:02,409 --> 00:17:05,290 Not just to say, oh yeah, I'm a man, but to consistently 334 00:17:05,290 --> 00:17:06,940 express themselves as that. 335 00:17:06,940 --> 00:17:10,000 So the second thing about God's design that I want you to see here is that God 336 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:15,128 created people to express themselves as male or female from conception, right? 337 00:17:15,368 --> 00:17:22,990 Not to confuse people about their gender or not to pretend that 338 00:17:22,990 --> 00:17:24,159 they are something they're not. 339 00:17:26,138 --> 00:17:27,970 That's how God designed people to live. 340 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,820 God designed people to express themselves. 341 00:17:31,645 --> 00:17:37,465 As their designed gender and to not confuse people with how they 342 00:17:37,465 --> 00:17:39,205 present that gender to others. 343 00:17:39,385 --> 00:17:42,355 And you can see that in the Old Testament law when, when God makes the 344 00:17:42,355 --> 00:17:45,355 Old Testament law, he tell he cares about the clothes that people wear. 345 00:17:45,865 --> 00:17:47,695 He says, if you're a guy, don't dress like a girl. 346 00:17:48,475 --> 00:17:52,825 And he says, you shouldn't have relationships that are outside 347 00:17:52,825 --> 00:17:54,895 of this design for marriage. 348 00:17:55,795 --> 00:17:59,635 So that's the second thing I want you to see about God's design. 349 00:17:59,890 --> 00:18:01,960 So God designed love and marriage and attraction. 350 00:18:02,380 --> 00:18:03,160 It's his idea. 351 00:18:04,150 --> 00:18:07,510 He created people to express themselves as male or female from 352 00:18:07,510 --> 00:18:08,770 the time that they were born, right? 353 00:18:08,770 --> 00:18:09,670 From the time that they exist. 354 00:18:09,700 --> 00:18:10,990 It could actually in conception. 355 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:12,850 What else? 356 00:18:13,570 --> 00:18:16,360 Well, we already covered this. 357 00:18:16,480 --> 00:18:19,930 He, you see there's, there's one man and there's one woman, right? 358 00:18:19,930 --> 00:18:21,190 There's, there's only two, right? 359 00:18:21,190 --> 00:18:24,610 There's, there's, God did not design there to be more than two people 360 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:27,520 in a romantic relationship, right? 361 00:18:27,520 --> 00:18:28,540 So maybe you've heard. 362 00:18:29,695 --> 00:18:31,975 Someone at school who says something about a throuple 363 00:18:32,665 --> 00:18:34,045 that's not part of God's design. 364 00:18:35,815 --> 00:18:38,785 God designed romantic relationships between one person and one 365 00:18:38,785 --> 00:18:40,915 person, one male and one female. 366 00:18:41,365 --> 00:18:46,885 So again, God designed marriage between one man, one woman, right? 367 00:18:46,885 --> 00:18:50,305 Two people, which again, hopefully this is not news to you, but this 368 00:18:50,305 --> 00:18:52,645 is very clear about what God says. 369 00:18:52,645 --> 00:18:57,085 So this probably isn't new to you, and this probably isn't shocking to you. 370 00:18:57,385 --> 00:18:57,865 Hopefully. 371 00:18:59,185 --> 00:19:02,005 But this has to be our starting place. 372 00:19:02,275 --> 00:19:03,385 What does God say? 373 00:19:04,075 --> 00:19:04,345 Right? 374 00:19:04,345 --> 00:19:07,165 Because we have to start with what does God say about this? 375 00:19:07,645 --> 00:19:11,035 And then when, when we see an idea right in the culture that's presented 376 00:19:11,035 --> 00:19:15,835 to us that well, you know, why can't one man and one man get married? 377 00:19:16,435 --> 00:19:19,645 Or why can't a woman try to express herself as a man? 378 00:19:20,185 --> 00:19:25,225 Or why can't a woman be oriented towards another woman in her attractions? 379 00:19:26,425 --> 00:19:27,925 Then we say, well, what does God say? 380 00:19:27,985 --> 00:19:31,135 This is what God's design for marriage is, and his design for 381 00:19:31,135 --> 00:19:33,625 attraction follows suit, right? 382 00:19:34,435 --> 00:19:37,975 So I want you to be able to clearly defend what God's design 383 00:19:38,425 --> 00:19:41,365 for marriage, for marriage is. 384 00:19:41,395 --> 00:19:41,695 Okay? 385 00:19:41,695 --> 00:19:44,455 I want you to be able to be able to articulate these things, to explain 386 00:19:44,455 --> 00:19:46,015 these things to someone, okay? 387 00:19:46,555 --> 00:19:51,265 But when you encounter an idea right at school, when, when your teacher 388 00:19:51,265 --> 00:19:54,355 or the book you're reading, or you're a friend or your teammate. 389 00:19:54,955 --> 00:19:59,095 Or that person you see on social media presents an idea 390 00:20:00,085 --> 00:20:01,855 that is against God's design. 391 00:20:02,425 --> 00:20:04,405 I want you to be able to see why it's wrong. 392 00:20:04,435 --> 00:20:05,395 Okay, so that's our second point. 393 00:20:05,755 --> 00:20:10,405 Address the sinfulness of lgbtq plus thinking. 394 00:20:11,965 --> 00:20:13,735 Address the sinfulness of it. 395 00:20:14,850 --> 00:20:20,215 It's not just incorrect, it's sinful, right? 396 00:20:20,215 --> 00:20:23,275 It's not just misguided, it's sinful. 397 00:20:25,870 --> 00:20:30,490 And this comes back to what we define sin as, right? 398 00:20:31,090 --> 00:20:33,760 What makes something sinful. 399 00:20:34,690 --> 00:20:37,000 Now hopefully you know how to get here. 400 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:38,350 We're gonna go to Romans chapter one. 401 00:20:38,380 --> 00:20:38,620 Okay. 402 00:20:38,620 --> 00:20:42,460 Romans chapter one, and this is where it's gonna be really helpful to 403 00:20:42,460 --> 00:20:44,770 remember the stuff that we've talked about for the past couple weeks. 404 00:20:44,770 --> 00:20:45,040 Okay. 405 00:20:45,730 --> 00:20:48,580 Romans chapter one is where. 406 00:20:50,620 --> 00:20:52,149 Uh, we're gonna look. 407 00:20:52,210 --> 00:20:52,570 Okay. 408 00:20:53,020 --> 00:20:53,919 Romans chapter one. 409 00:20:53,919 --> 00:20:57,460 So what makes something sinful? 410 00:20:58,540 --> 00:20:59,950 What makes something sinful? 411 00:21:00,490 --> 00:21:02,020 We talked about this the past couple weeks. 412 00:21:02,020 --> 00:21:03,129 What makes something sinful? 413 00:21:03,310 --> 00:21:06,940 Well, what makes something sinful is what it says about God, right? 414 00:21:06,940 --> 00:21:08,080 That's what we learned from Romans one. 415 00:21:08,260 --> 00:21:11,379 What makes something sinful is what it says about God. 416 00:21:11,590 --> 00:21:15,399 Romans one talks about how people exchange God's glory for created things. 417 00:21:15,550 --> 00:21:18,490 Romans one talks about how people exchange the truth about God for a lie. 418 00:21:19,420 --> 00:21:21,850 What makes something sinful is what it says about God. 419 00:21:22,750 --> 00:21:28,660 So the first reason that we're gonna see that LGBTQ plus thinking is 420 00:21:28,660 --> 00:21:34,420 sinful is because it's a rejection of God and his good design. 421 00:21:35,740 --> 00:21:38,350 It's a rejection of God and his good design. 422 00:21:38,380 --> 00:21:40,690 That's what the Bible says. 423 00:21:44,410 --> 00:21:45,550 So look with me at the first. 424 00:21:46,450 --> 00:21:48,970 We're gonna look at Romans 1 21 to 23. 425 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:49,360 Okay? 426 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:53,200 Romans 1, 21 to 23. 427 00:21:56,350 --> 00:22:01,690 So like we talked about, we see these people, right? 428 00:22:01,690 --> 00:22:04,990 Romans one is talking about, about people, and it says they knew God. 429 00:22:04,990 --> 00:22:05,920 They didn't honor God. 430 00:22:06,340 --> 00:22:07,390 They didn't honor him as God. 431 00:22:07,390 --> 00:22:11,020 They didn't thank him, but instead they, so they knew about 432 00:22:11,020 --> 00:22:12,130 him, but they rejected him. 433 00:22:12,460 --> 00:22:14,710 And so they started to, to think a different way. 434 00:22:14,770 --> 00:22:15,310 They started to. 435 00:22:15,715 --> 00:22:20,425 To think, well, God's not worth honoring, God's not worth glorifying, 436 00:22:20,425 --> 00:22:21,655 God's not worth living for. 437 00:22:24,085 --> 00:22:27,595 And they thought they were really smart about it, but instead they became foolish. 438 00:22:27,595 --> 00:22:29,365 'cause they, like we said, they fell for the trap. 439 00:22:29,365 --> 00:22:29,545 Right? 440 00:22:29,545 --> 00:22:31,615 They fell for the trap of sin is better than God. 441 00:22:31,915 --> 00:22:32,575 So they're foolish. 442 00:22:32,575 --> 00:22:35,004 They, they made a bad trade, right? 443 00:22:35,305 --> 00:22:36,595 They, they made a bad trade. 444 00:22:36,595 --> 00:22:41,815 They fell for it and they, they traded God and all the joy that he gives them. 445 00:22:42,175 --> 00:22:43,715 And they said, we want this. 446 00:22:44,335 --> 00:22:45,475 Worst thing instead. 447 00:22:45,955 --> 00:22:46,795 And that's foolish, right? 448 00:22:46,795 --> 00:22:51,265 That's, that's dumb to do that to, to give up God for sin as foolish. 449 00:22:51,835 --> 00:22:52,945 You're making a bad trade. 450 00:22:53,065 --> 00:22:54,085 So what do they do? 451 00:22:54,175 --> 00:22:55,075 Why was that foolish? 452 00:22:55,135 --> 00:22:58,195 They exchanged the glory of the immoral God for images resembling. 453 00:22:59,485 --> 00:23:02,095 All of these created things that aren't as good as God. 454 00:23:03,025 --> 00:23:04,585 That's what these three verses are saying. 455 00:23:04,825 --> 00:23:07,975 So we know where this is gonna go, right? 456 00:23:07,975 --> 00:23:11,905 We know that the next word is therefore, and then it starts talking about 457 00:23:11,905 --> 00:23:13,040 this spiral, and that's where we. 458 00:23:13,975 --> 00:23:15,985 Ran into the topic of homosexuality. 459 00:23:16,315 --> 00:23:27,895 So the, the core issue with L-G-B-T-Q thinking or desires is not that it's bad. 460 00:23:28,855 --> 00:23:34,855 The core issue is not that, well, it used to be wrong in the 1920s and now it's not. 461 00:23:36,445 --> 00:23:40,165 The core issue is not that the Republican party votes against it. 462 00:23:40,375 --> 00:23:42,355 That's not the, that's not what's wrong with it. 463 00:23:43,525 --> 00:23:47,365 What's wrong with it is it's a rejection of God. 464 00:23:47,635 --> 00:23:51,415 Because what you're doing, if you, if you follow these sinful desires, you're 465 00:23:51,415 --> 00:23:53,425 saying, God, I know you made me this way. 466 00:23:53,545 --> 00:23:56,365 I know you made me to be a man, and I don't want that. 467 00:23:56,515 --> 00:23:57,505 That's not good for me. 468 00:23:57,535 --> 00:23:58,585 I know better. 469 00:23:59,215 --> 00:23:59,875 You see that? 470 00:24:01,105 --> 00:24:03,505 See how it's, it's saying, God, I'm smarter than you. 471 00:24:04,045 --> 00:24:05,485 God, I know better than you. 472 00:24:05,665 --> 00:24:08,215 God, I can make me happier than you can. 473 00:24:08,635 --> 00:24:09,775 That's what you're saying to God. 474 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:12,879 What all sin is, 475 00:24:14,889 --> 00:24:19,149 but especially this sin, these type of desires and thinking, it's saying, 476 00:24:19,149 --> 00:24:20,470 God, I know you made me this way. 477 00:24:20,620 --> 00:24:22,570 I know you made people to work this way. 478 00:24:22,659 --> 00:24:27,100 I know you made marriage to be this way, but I think this way is better. 479 00:24:27,340 --> 00:24:28,659 It's a rejection of God. 480 00:24:28,780 --> 00:24:30,610 It's an it's lack of trust in God. 481 00:24:30,639 --> 00:24:32,860 It's saying, God, I don't trust you to make me happy. 482 00:24:32,860 --> 00:24:34,840 I'm gonna go my own way because my way is better. 483 00:24:35,169 --> 00:24:39,520 It's rebellion against God, it's rejection of God just like every other sin. 484 00:24:40,195 --> 00:24:41,035 You understand that, right? 485 00:24:41,155 --> 00:24:42,745 This is not really that different. 486 00:24:45,685 --> 00:24:51,235 Your, your friends at school or your classmates who believe these 487 00:24:51,235 --> 00:24:58,465 things, it's really just a more obvious rebellion against God, right? 488 00:24:59,065 --> 00:25:02,125 It's, it's the same root cause as your sin and as my sin. 489 00:25:02,575 --> 00:25:04,525 And that's what's so cool about Romans one, right? 490 00:25:04,525 --> 00:25:06,145 Is it, it puts all of us in the same bucket. 491 00:25:07,389 --> 00:25:08,500 We all reject God. 492 00:25:08,530 --> 00:25:10,450 All sin is a rejection of God. 493 00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:14,290 All sin is a rebellion against God and saying, God, you're not good enough. 494 00:25:14,290 --> 00:25:15,220 I want something else. 495 00:25:15,879 --> 00:25:17,170 And that's the core issue. 496 00:25:17,170 --> 00:25:24,040 So if you have a friend, right, who, who says that, that they're gay, this, this 497 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,129 is their biggest problem, they reject God. 498 00:25:27,190 --> 00:25:29,260 Their biggest problem is not who they're attracted to. 499 00:25:30,910 --> 00:25:34,150 Their biggest problem is not that they think they're a girl 500 00:25:34,150 --> 00:25:35,050 when they're actually a boy. 501 00:25:36,460 --> 00:25:37,390 That's not their biggest problem. 502 00:25:37,390 --> 00:25:39,400 Their biggest problem is they don't love Jesus. 503 00:25:40,330 --> 00:25:46,060 They think Jesus is boring, lame, unhelpful, useless, 504 00:25:48,100 --> 00:25:49,090 not glorious. 505 00:25:49,420 --> 00:25:49,780 Right. 506 00:25:50,500 --> 00:25:53,590 Not worth their time, not worth following, not worth living for. 507 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:54,820 That's their biggest problem. 508 00:25:54,940 --> 00:25:56,740 And that's everyone's biggest problem, right? 509 00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:57,700 That's my biggest problem. 510 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,700 That's your biggest problem, is we, we think. 511 00:26:01,090 --> 00:26:02,050 We think God is lame. 512 00:26:03,430 --> 00:26:05,830 We go worship other things and ask other things to make us happy. 513 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:08,620 So that's the biggest problem. 514 00:26:08,620 --> 00:26:10,900 So if you're ever talking about this someone, or thinking through 515 00:26:10,900 --> 00:26:13,570 issues like this, remember that that's the biggest problem. 516 00:26:14,260 --> 00:26:16,810 That's what's, what makes it sinful, is what it says about God. 517 00:26:18,550 --> 00:26:20,410 So the second thing. 518 00:26:21,310 --> 00:26:22,420 That makes this sinful. 519 00:26:22,660 --> 00:26:24,850 Is it redefines goodness and love, right? 520 00:26:24,850 --> 00:26:28,360 We saw that in one John that God is love, but, but with these people who 521 00:26:28,360 --> 00:26:31,480 believe these things or, or maybe some of your classmates or maybe even some 522 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:36,400 of you who, who believe these things say, well actually this is what's good. 523 00:26:36,730 --> 00:26:37,630 This is what's love. 524 00:26:37,630 --> 00:26:39,220 I know God said this is good. 525 00:26:39,460 --> 00:26:43,750 I know God said this is how love works, but actually I 526 00:26:43,750 --> 00:26:44,800 think this is how it should go, 527 00:26:48,910 --> 00:26:49,750 and we see that. 528 00:26:50,380 --> 00:26:53,110 And we keep going in our passage in Romans verse 24. 529 00:26:53,110 --> 00:26:57,250 Now, therefore, God gave them up in the lust of their hearts to impurity, to 530 00:26:57,250 --> 00:26:58,930 dishonoring their bodies among themselves. 531 00:26:58,930 --> 00:27:03,460 He's talking about, oh, immorality here, because they exchange 532 00:27:03,460 --> 00:27:05,170 the truth about God for a lie. 533 00:27:06,130 --> 00:27:08,170 You see that they redefine something. 534 00:27:08,170 --> 00:27:11,230 They say, I know this is true, but actually I'm gonna believe this Instead. 535 00:27:12,970 --> 00:27:16,570 There's a, there's an exchange there of, well, I, God said this is loving, 536 00:27:16,570 --> 00:27:17,980 but actually I think this is loving. 537 00:27:20,245 --> 00:27:24,835 I know God said this is good, but actually I think this is good and it's 538 00:27:24,835 --> 00:27:26,485 the same root cause for all of us, right? 539 00:27:26,485 --> 00:27:28,255 All of our sin starts that way too. 540 00:27:29,065 --> 00:27:31,465 Proverbs talks about there's, it says, there's a proverb that says 541 00:27:31,465 --> 00:27:35,575 there's a way that seems right to a man, but at its end it leads to death. 542 00:27:36,775 --> 00:27:37,495 That's all of us. 543 00:27:37,525 --> 00:27:37,765 Right? 544 00:27:37,795 --> 00:27:40,315 Last week we talked about the illustration of the wolf licking 545 00:27:40,315 --> 00:27:42,955 the knife until it dies and chokes on its own blood and bleeds out 546 00:27:44,455 --> 00:27:46,165 'cause it thinks it's eating food. 547 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,785 It, it thinks it's living and it's really dying. 548 00:27:52,585 --> 00:27:58,975 That's the same sinful thinking that our sin is caused by, and 549 00:27:58,975 --> 00:28:00,325 that this sin is caused by. 550 00:28:01,225 --> 00:28:03,265 It's, I think this is good for me, and it's really not. 551 00:28:03,265 --> 00:28:04,105 It's really gonna kill you. 552 00:28:04,795 --> 00:28:08,305 So that's the second reason that it's sinful. 553 00:28:08,725 --> 00:28:11,395 The third reason is it redefines our identity by our 554 00:28:11,395 --> 00:28:13,105 feelings and not by God's word. 555 00:28:14,095 --> 00:28:19,105 It says, I am who I am because of how I feel, not because of who God says I am. 556 00:28:20,515 --> 00:28:23,155 I heard one person this week, this is really helpful. 557 00:28:23,155 --> 00:28:27,565 They said that, um, LGBTQ plus, right? 558 00:28:27,565 --> 00:28:31,885 Whether you say you're bisexual or you say you're asexual or queer or whatever, 559 00:28:32,635 --> 00:28:34,165 that doesn't describe who you are. 560 00:28:34,165 --> 00:28:35,275 It describes how you feel. 561 00:28:36,685 --> 00:28:37,525 You see the difference there. 562 00:28:37,525 --> 00:28:38,305 It's not who you are. 563 00:28:38,305 --> 00:28:39,085 That's how you feel. 564 00:28:40,345 --> 00:28:41,155 That's not your identity. 565 00:28:41,155 --> 00:28:41,875 That's how you feel. 566 00:28:41,905 --> 00:28:42,475 Just like. 567 00:28:43,315 --> 00:28:44,575 Any other sin, right? 568 00:28:46,465 --> 00:28:48,535 Just because you feel that way doesn't mean that's who you are. 569 00:28:48,715 --> 00:28:49,045 So 570 00:28:51,475 --> 00:28:54,895 it redefines our identity by our feelings and not by God's word. 571 00:28:54,895 --> 00:28:58,405 And that's what we see here, right? 572 00:28:58,435 --> 00:28:59,185 I see. 573 00:28:59,185 --> 00:29:03,205 See this word passions here, passion, passions, that's 574 00:29:03,205 --> 00:29:04,315 desires, that's things you want. 575 00:29:04,615 --> 00:29:07,795 So these people, they say, well, this is what I want, so this must be who I am. 576 00:29:09,325 --> 00:29:12,565 You see how that that logic goes, this is how I feel, so this must be who I am. 577 00:29:12,715 --> 00:29:14,695 This is what I want, so this must be how I am. 578 00:29:15,145 --> 00:29:16,555 Now, what we don't realize is that we're all sinful. 579 00:29:16,555 --> 00:29:20,275 We all want bad things, and so we all want bad things. 580 00:29:20,275 --> 00:29:24,205 And so we, if we define ourselves by those bad desires, then obviously 581 00:29:24,445 --> 00:29:26,005 we're gonna follow a really bad path. 582 00:29:26,185 --> 00:29:29,425 So we can't define ourselves by our feelings. 583 00:29:29,425 --> 00:29:31,225 We have to define ourselves by what God says. 584 00:29:33,625 --> 00:29:35,935 And now the last thing. 585 00:29:37,044 --> 00:29:40,284 Is that these desires are inherently sinful. 586 00:29:41,514 --> 00:29:43,375 The desire itself is sinful, 587 00:29:45,415 --> 00:29:53,245 so to be attracted to someone of the same biological sex is sinful. 588 00:29:53,695 --> 00:30:00,985 That desire is a bad desire, and so there is no God glorifying way to express. 589 00:30:02,635 --> 00:30:05,605 That's the fourth thing that's that's wrong with this is there's 590 00:30:05,605 --> 00:30:09,115 no God glorifying way to express a desire that's inherently sinful. 591 00:30:10,915 --> 00:30:17,905 Just like if someone had a desire to murder someone, 592 00:30:18,535 --> 00:30:19,915 there's no good way to do that. 593 00:30:22,165 --> 00:30:25,045 You could say the same thing about if someone had a desire to cheat on their 594 00:30:25,045 --> 00:30:27,655 wife, there's no good way to do that. 595 00:30:28,435 --> 00:30:30,985 There's no God-honoring way to express that desire. 596 00:30:32,110 --> 00:30:33,940 Same thing with these type of desires. 597 00:30:33,940 --> 00:30:40,090 If, if you, if someone has that desire to a, maybe it's just a romantic attraction. 598 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,360 Maybe it's not physical attraction, maybe it's just romantic attraction. 599 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,240 For, for if you're a girl, you have a romantic attraction to another girl, 600 00:30:46,420 --> 00:30:50,140 that's a sinful desire and there's no God honoring way to express that. 601 00:30:50,140 --> 00:30:52,720 You can't feel that for the goalie of God. 602 00:30:54,070 --> 00:30:55,990 That's not something, that's not something you can feel and, 603 00:30:55,990 --> 00:30:57,460 and honor God while doing so. 604 00:30:59,260 --> 00:31:01,450 The desire itself is a sinful desire. 605 00:31:01,450 --> 00:31:01,870 Why? 606 00:31:02,110 --> 00:31:04,810 Well, because all these things, it, it goes against God's design, right? 607 00:31:04,810 --> 00:31:07,720 It's saying, God, I know you made me to be oriented this way, but actually 608 00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,070 I'm gonna be oriented this way. 609 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:12,910 You're saying, God, the, the orientation that you say in 610 00:31:12,910 --> 00:31:14,470 your word is actually not good. 611 00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:16,270 That's why it's a sinful desire. 612 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:17,620 It redefines goodness. 613 00:31:17,620 --> 00:31:20,320 It says, well, I, I know you define this to be good for me, 614 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:22,450 this orientation or this identity. 615 00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:24,010 I actually don't want that. 616 00:31:24,010 --> 00:31:26,710 I want this identity or this orientation instead. 617 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:28,000 So it's a rejection of God. 618 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:33,520 It's redefining what love is and it's saying, it's, it's, again, these two 619 00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:34,960 things kind of bleed into this, right? 620 00:31:35,470 --> 00:31:40,900 So that's what's wrong with it, right? 621 00:31:40,900 --> 00:31:43,450 That's what's sinful about these desires. 622 00:31:43,630 --> 00:31:50,680 That's what's sinful about, um, redefining what love for someone looks like. 623 00:31:51,475 --> 00:31:55,405 Because you can't love someone in a sinful way because again, love is from God. 624 00:31:55,825 --> 00:31:56,814 Love is God's idea. 625 00:31:57,774 --> 00:31:59,514 God can't love you in a sinful way. 626 00:32:00,385 --> 00:32:03,595 Love can't be like real love can't be expressed in a sinful way 627 00:32:04,195 --> 00:32:05,875 because it's, it's God's thing. 628 00:32:06,774 --> 00:32:08,935 So it's really not love if it's sinful. 629 00:32:09,895 --> 00:32:13,705 So if two people are loving each other in a sinful way, they're not 630 00:32:13,705 --> 00:32:15,054 really loving each other, right? 631 00:32:16,195 --> 00:32:18,564 They are actually being bad for each other. 632 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:19,930 Which then isn't loving. 633 00:32:19,990 --> 00:32:21,430 'cause if I'm being bad for you, I'm not loving you. 634 00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:25,540 If, if I'm being bad for you, that's not love. 635 00:32:26,020 --> 00:32:26,980 I should stop love. 636 00:32:27,010 --> 00:32:30,850 I should stop loving you in that way and actually love you by being good for you. 637 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:32,410 So 638 00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:39,940 I want you to be clear about what God says right in his word. 639 00:32:39,940 --> 00:32:42,730 And I want you to be confident that it's a good thing. 640 00:32:43,420 --> 00:32:46,870 That it's actually this being, like feeling this way is 641 00:32:46,870 --> 00:32:47,960 actually really bad for someone. 642 00:32:48,955 --> 00:32:51,655 Just like being anxious is really bad for someone, right? 643 00:32:51,685 --> 00:32:53,305 It, it, it stinks. 644 00:32:53,725 --> 00:32:54,625 It's not good for you 645 00:32:56,845 --> 00:32:59,395 or having impure thoughts isn't good for you. 646 00:33:00,625 --> 00:33:05,035 In the same way these kind of desires and this I try to identify yourself by 647 00:33:06,145 --> 00:33:08,065 these type of ideas is not good for you. 648 00:33:08,215 --> 00:33:09,175 It's, it's sinful. 649 00:33:09,955 --> 00:33:13,495 Um, and so I want you to, to love people enough to be clear about that 650 00:33:13,855 --> 00:33:15,055 and to not be embarrassed, right? 651 00:33:15,055 --> 00:33:16,105 You wouldn't be embarrassed. 652 00:33:17,755 --> 00:33:22,794 So people a lot of times worry about my health because I love Mountain Dew. 653 00:33:23,485 --> 00:33:24,415 I love Mountain Dew. 654 00:33:24,475 --> 00:33:26,065 I think Mountain Dew is like the greatest thing ever. 655 00:33:26,695 --> 00:33:28,435 And so a lot of people will tell me, Hey, you shouldn't drink that. 656 00:33:28,435 --> 00:33:29,365 You know, that's banned in Europe. 657 00:33:29,365 --> 00:33:30,475 Like, you shouldn't do that, right? 658 00:33:30,865 --> 00:33:31,675 You shouldn't drink that. 659 00:33:31,675 --> 00:33:33,985 There's no way that's good for you because they love me, right? 660 00:33:33,985 --> 00:33:35,965 They season, they see me drinking something bad for me and 661 00:33:35,965 --> 00:33:36,835 they're like, Hey, I love you. 662 00:33:36,835 --> 00:33:37,705 So don't do that. 663 00:33:37,735 --> 00:33:38,155 Right? 664 00:33:39,955 --> 00:33:44,845 I hope, I hope that, that if, if you have maybe friends. 665 00:33:45,205 --> 00:33:51,325 Who believe these things are good for them, that you're loving enough to 666 00:33:51,325 --> 00:33:54,595 be able to tell them, you know what, that's really not gonna make you happy. 667 00:33:55,825 --> 00:33:57,625 That's really not good for you. 668 00:33:59,995 --> 00:34:04,195 'cause if you really love someone, you are going to be clear about that 669 00:34:04,195 --> 00:34:07,015 and you're gonna be confident that you know what, this really is good for you. 670 00:34:07,555 --> 00:34:08,875 So I wanna tell you what is good for you. 671 00:34:08,964 --> 00:34:11,514 That's following God's design, right? 672 00:34:11,543 --> 00:34:13,134 Having an orientation that God gave you. 673 00:34:13,554 --> 00:34:17,873 Rather than the orientation that you feel or having the, or embracing the, 674 00:34:17,873 --> 00:34:22,074 the gender that God made you as not the one that you feel like you should be. 675 00:34:23,364 --> 00:34:25,194 That's what's best for someone. 676 00:34:26,664 --> 00:34:31,224 So this last few minutes here, I want to prepare you for 677 00:34:31,254 --> 00:34:33,054 loving and wise conversations. 678 00:34:33,324 --> 00:34:34,373 Okay. 679 00:34:36,534 --> 00:34:39,264 I want to give you just, we're gonna walk through some, like a few 680 00:34:39,264 --> 00:34:40,614 common questions that people have. 681 00:34:41,754 --> 00:34:43,674 About this that you might have about this. 682 00:34:44,393 --> 00:34:49,373 Um, and hopefully this will help you engage in conversations. 683 00:34:49,373 --> 00:34:54,384 Now remember, these conversations need to be loving and they need to be wise. 684 00:34:55,373 --> 00:34:57,294 So if you're just gonna walk around telling people that 685 00:34:57,294 --> 00:35:02,515 they're terrible people, that's not loving and that's not wise. 686 00:35:03,084 --> 00:35:05,874 If you're just gonna argue with people that's not loving 687 00:35:05,874 --> 00:35:07,225 and that's not wise, right? 688 00:35:07,225 --> 00:35:07,625 We want to. 689 00:35:08,484 --> 00:35:09,414 Be loving about this. 690 00:35:09,444 --> 00:35:11,035 We want to actually care about the people. 691 00:35:11,064 --> 00:35:11,934 We don't just wanna be right. 692 00:35:12,595 --> 00:35:17,814 We want to be thoughtful and and compassionate with how we talk about 693 00:35:17,814 --> 00:35:22,584 what God says, because Christians have a very bad reputation for how they talk 694 00:35:22,584 --> 00:35:26,664 about this topic, because a lot of times Christians don't do this very well. 695 00:35:26,785 --> 00:35:29,154 So I want you, I want you to help you do this well, but I 696 00:35:29,154 --> 00:35:30,174 also want you to be clear, right? 697 00:35:30,174 --> 00:35:32,455 And sometimes when you're clear, people are gonna take that 698 00:35:32,455 --> 00:35:33,984 as unloving, and that's okay. 699 00:35:35,634 --> 00:35:35,964 Right? 700 00:35:36,205 --> 00:35:36,535 They're. 701 00:35:37,134 --> 00:35:42,595 As you know, someone recently in part got shot because of this believing stuff 702 00:35:42,595 --> 00:35:44,004 like this and saying stuff like this. 703 00:35:45,325 --> 00:35:48,024 And so some people will just not want to hear it, and that's okay. 704 00:35:49,645 --> 00:35:54,415 But some common questions that you might have or you might run into first 705 00:35:54,415 --> 00:35:58,089 one, isn't outta my control, right? 706 00:35:58,129 --> 00:35:59,185 It's not my fault. 707 00:35:59,185 --> 00:36:01,169 I, I'm, I'm the way that I am, it's not my fault. 708 00:36:02,214 --> 00:36:03,774 How can God tell me to be someone I'm not? 709 00:36:03,805 --> 00:36:05,394 How can God tell me to feel a certain way? 710 00:36:05,634 --> 00:36:07,495 How come this is the way I am? 711 00:36:07,584 --> 00:36:17,874 Well, the first thing I want you to think about is that all sinful desires come to 712 00:36:17,874 --> 00:36:25,314 us naturally because we're all born and sinners, all of our hearts are sinful. 713 00:36:25,345 --> 00:36:29,064 Jeremiah 17 says that your heart is deceitful and desperately sick. 714 00:36:30,325 --> 00:36:36,415 James four says that your desires are at war within you, and all your 715 00:36:36,415 --> 00:36:38,875 sins come from your bad desires. 716 00:36:39,505 --> 00:36:44,395 So every sinful desire comes from our hearts because of who we are. 717 00:36:44,425 --> 00:36:46,015 We are sinful people. 718 00:36:46,255 --> 00:36:47,695 Our hearts are very bad. 719 00:36:47,905 --> 00:36:49,165 They are very sinful. 720 00:36:49,195 --> 00:36:54,745 They are inherently opposed to God, opposed to to what God says, and we 721 00:36:54,745 --> 00:36:57,115 don't want to love God initially. 722 00:36:58,165 --> 00:36:58,615 So. 723 00:37:00,910 --> 00:37:05,200 In a sense, every sinful desire is 724 00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,540 natural to you because you're born in sin. 725 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:14,589 You're born with a sinful heart, so you are wired to want sinful things. 726 00:37:15,790 --> 00:37:21,730 So it shouldn't be surprising when you, when someone who's not 727 00:37:21,730 --> 00:37:26,140 a Christian wants sinful things, because that's how their heart is. 728 00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:26,890 Their heart is. 729 00:37:27,714 --> 00:37:29,154 Wired to want sin. 730 00:37:29,785 --> 00:37:30,504 Does that make sense? 731 00:37:31,825 --> 00:37:33,624 If it doesn't make sense, you can shake your head and I can 732 00:37:33,624 --> 00:37:34,345 explain it a different way. 733 00:37:34,435 --> 00:37:34,944 That's okay. 734 00:37:35,634 --> 00:37:35,874 Right? 735 00:37:35,874 --> 00:37:43,015 But you're so, however, scripture is clear that we are responsible for those sinful 736 00:37:43,015 --> 00:37:44,935 desires because we really want them. 737 00:37:44,935 --> 00:37:52,104 Because like you're responsible for, for your anger because you really 738 00:37:52,104 --> 00:37:54,144 did hate that person in the moment. 739 00:37:55,314 --> 00:37:56,484 Like you really wanted that. 740 00:37:58,254 --> 00:38:00,924 You really wanted bad things to happen to them and you really did 741 00:38:00,924 --> 00:38:04,975 hate them, and that's, that's sinful because you actually wanted it. 742 00:38:05,694 --> 00:38:06,354 So yes. 743 00:38:06,354 --> 00:38:10,314 In a sense that, did you, did you like intentionally think, you know 744 00:38:10,314 --> 00:38:14,634 what, I'm gonna be born in sin and I'm gonna want sinful things and whatever. 745 00:38:14,634 --> 00:38:18,564 No, but you really did want those things and so Yes. 746 00:38:18,564 --> 00:38:21,684 Maybe it's not something that you asked for, right? 747 00:38:21,684 --> 00:38:22,374 Maybe someone's. 748 00:38:24,700 --> 00:38:30,549 Someone's attraction to the wrong, the wrong gender that God didn't 749 00:38:30,549 --> 00:38:34,869 design them to be attracted to could be something they didn't ask for. 750 00:38:35,109 --> 00:38:35,559 They didn't wake. 751 00:38:35,559 --> 00:38:37,209 Maybe they didn't wake up one day and say, you know what? 752 00:38:37,209 --> 00:38:41,979 I'm gonna reject God's design and I'm going to be attracted to the same gender. 753 00:38:42,189 --> 00:38:48,519 Maybe they didn't ask for that and decide that, but if they really want it, then 754 00:38:48,549 --> 00:38:51,549 that's them having a sinful desire. 755 00:38:53,004 --> 00:38:56,395 Just like if, if you compare it to impure thoughts, right? 756 00:38:57,384 --> 00:39:00,265 You don't necessarily say, you know what? 757 00:39:01,464 --> 00:39:06,984 I really want to have these impure thoughts, but you really do want them, or 758 00:39:06,984 --> 00:39:08,964 coveting, or anxiety or whatever, right? 759 00:39:09,234 --> 00:39:11,785 You don't necessarily say, oh, I really want these impure thoughts or 760 00:39:11,785 --> 00:39:15,444 these anxious thoughts, but you really do feel them and they really are 761 00:39:15,535 --> 00:39:17,064 something that comes from your heart. 762 00:39:17,365 --> 00:39:17,725 So. 763 00:39:18,984 --> 00:39:20,305 We are responsible for those desires. 764 00:39:20,305 --> 00:39:23,424 We might not always know why we feel the way we do, but we are responsible for 765 00:39:23,424 --> 00:39:25,495 our response to those desires, right? 766 00:39:25,495 --> 00:39:28,075 What you do with what you feel is your responsibility. 767 00:39:29,004 --> 00:39:32,995 If you have a sinful feeling, you're, you're accountable for 768 00:39:32,995 --> 00:39:33,924 what you do with that feeling. 769 00:39:33,955 --> 00:39:38,785 Do you feed it and embrace it, or do you take it to the Lord 770 00:39:39,924 --> 00:39:41,095 and ask him to help you kill it? 771 00:39:43,194 --> 00:39:47,484 So that's the first thing, is you're responsible for your. 772 00:39:48,084 --> 00:39:49,734 Response to your sinful desires. 773 00:39:50,784 --> 00:39:51,534 But then, right. 774 00:39:51,534 --> 00:39:52,284 You might have heard this one. 775 00:39:52,434 --> 00:39:55,584 What if my desires or my orientation isn't hurting anyone else? 776 00:39:56,305 --> 00:39:56,514 Right? 777 00:39:56,514 --> 00:39:57,084 Maybe you heard this one. 778 00:39:57,084 --> 00:40:00,414 Why can't those two people just love each other the way they want to and move on? 779 00:40:01,494 --> 00:40:03,115 Well, first of all, right, what makes sin a sin? 780 00:40:04,314 --> 00:40:05,154 What it says about God? 781 00:40:06,204 --> 00:40:08,904 So does sin have to hurt anyone else for it to be a sin? 782 00:40:09,894 --> 00:40:10,345 No. 783 00:40:11,604 --> 00:40:16,584 Right if, if you decide to, to go be Hindu and live in a monastery 784 00:40:16,584 --> 00:40:17,274 for the rest of your life. 785 00:40:18,370 --> 00:40:19,120 By yourself? 786 00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:20,350 Are you hurting anyone? 787 00:40:21,370 --> 00:40:22,180 Not necessarily. 788 00:40:22,330 --> 00:40:22,960 Are you sinning? 789 00:40:23,350 --> 00:40:28,150 Yes, you're worshiping a false God, you are rejecting God. 790 00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:31,810 So just because it doesn't hurt anyone else, doesn't mean it's not sinful 791 00:40:31,810 --> 00:40:33,009 because it's a rejection of God. 792 00:40:33,009 --> 00:40:36,670 It's a rejection of his goodness, his design and all that. 793 00:40:38,110 --> 00:40:39,400 Now, what about this one, right? 794 00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:40,600 This is probably the most common one you've heard. 795 00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:42,610 What if two people really love each other? 796 00:40:42,610 --> 00:40:43,420 Why can't they be together? 797 00:40:44,859 --> 00:40:45,309 Two people. 798 00:40:45,309 --> 00:40:46,269 They really love each other. 799 00:40:47,019 --> 00:40:48,069 What if they're really nice to each other? 800 00:40:48,069 --> 00:40:49,390 They're really kind to each other. 801 00:40:49,629 --> 00:40:51,430 Maybe they're really good for each other, all that stuff. 802 00:40:52,629 --> 00:40:57,759 Well, first of all, like we talk about what is love right now you're 803 00:40:57,759 --> 00:40:58,689 all singing the song in your head. 804 00:41:01,930 --> 00:41:03,729 Do these people really love each other? 805 00:41:03,729 --> 00:41:05,379 If they're loving each other in a sinful way? 806 00:41:06,999 --> 00:41:09,549 No, they don't. 807 00:41:09,580 --> 00:41:12,794 They don't really love each other according to God's definition of love. 808 00:41:13,899 --> 00:41:15,850 They're affirming someone's sin, right? 809 00:41:15,850 --> 00:41:17,079 They're saying, oh yeah, you're sinning. 810 00:41:17,079 --> 00:41:17,559 That's great. 811 00:41:17,559 --> 00:41:18,279 Let's do that together. 812 00:41:19,629 --> 00:41:23,259 That's not loving, that's actually hating someone because you're 813 00:41:23,259 --> 00:41:25,539 saying, you know that thing that's gonna kill you and send you to hell. 814 00:41:25,870 --> 00:41:26,740 Let's keep doing that. 815 00:41:30,009 --> 00:41:31,839 That's not a good, that's not a way to love someone. 816 00:41:32,769 --> 00:41:34,779 So just because two people really like each other and want to be 817 00:41:34,779 --> 00:41:36,459 together doesn't mean they should. 818 00:41:38,049 --> 00:41:42,729 And, and you can say the same thing about God's design for marriage, right? 819 00:41:43,884 --> 00:41:46,645 God designed two people to stay married, right? 820 00:41:46,645 --> 00:41:47,605 To not get divorced. 821 00:41:49,044 --> 00:41:50,064 That was God's intended design. 822 00:41:50,064 --> 00:41:53,665 So that's why if, if you get married, you can't just be like, oh, well I don't 823 00:41:53,665 --> 00:41:54,564 feel like loving this person anymore. 824 00:41:54,564 --> 00:41:56,004 I'm just gonna leave and start loving someone else. 825 00:41:56,904 --> 00:41:58,105 Well, what if we really love each other? 826 00:41:58,645 --> 00:42:01,134 Well, that's a bad feeling. 827 00:42:01,194 --> 00:42:02,814 That's a sinful feeling, right? 828 00:42:03,415 --> 00:42:05,904 You wouldn't want your parents to do that, or if your parents have, 829 00:42:05,904 --> 00:42:06,685 it's been really hard for you. 830 00:42:08,904 --> 00:42:11,604 That's why you just 'cause you feel something doesn't mean 831 00:42:11,604 --> 00:42:12,685 it's a good feeling, right? 832 00:42:12,685 --> 00:42:14,785 You have to evaluate your feelings by what God says. 833 00:42:16,194 --> 00:42:19,345 Now this one can be really fun. 834 00:42:19,884 --> 00:42:23,935 Can I be LGBTQ plus and still be a Christian? 835 00:42:26,814 --> 00:42:27,325 So 836 00:42:30,415 --> 00:42:33,535 the question I would ask then is. 837 00:42:35,095 --> 00:42:38,874 Can you embrace your sinful identity and embrace Jesus as 838 00:42:38,874 --> 00:42:40,134 your treasure and your Lord? 839 00:42:43,254 --> 00:42:43,524 No. 840 00:42:45,924 --> 00:42:46,194 Right? 841 00:42:46,194 --> 00:42:51,024 Just like there's no adulterous Christians, there's no murdering 842 00:42:51,024 --> 00:42:53,424 Christians, there's no coveting Christian. 843 00:42:55,015 --> 00:42:59,814 You can't identify yourself by your sin and say, oh yeah, I'm with Jesus. 844 00:43:00,504 --> 00:43:00,595 Right? 845 00:43:00,595 --> 00:43:03,265 You can't love your sin and say, I follow God. 846 00:43:09,459 --> 00:43:11,499 Scripture is is clear, right? 847 00:43:11,499 --> 00:43:12,189 Like we talked about. 848 00:43:12,189 --> 00:43:16,689 God has a good design and any desires outside of that design are sinful 849 00:43:16,689 --> 00:43:17,919 because they're bad for you, right? 850 00:43:17,919 --> 00:43:18,459 They'll kill you. 851 00:43:19,479 --> 00:43:21,669 They don't make you happy, and so 852 00:43:26,535 --> 00:43:31,689 you can't embrace Jesus and embrace your sin, right? 853 00:43:31,689 --> 00:43:32,674 Jesus says you can't serve two masters. 854 00:43:34,750 --> 00:43:40,360 So that's, there's a very clear answer to that. 855 00:43:40,779 --> 00:43:42,640 But what about this one? 856 00:43:43,630 --> 00:43:46,360 I'm a Christian, but I struggle with these desires. 857 00:43:47,170 --> 00:43:50,350 Am I just always displeasing God right now? 858 00:43:50,410 --> 00:43:51,250 Maybe you've heard that before. 859 00:43:51,279 --> 00:43:53,980 It's like, well, can this person ever become a Christian if they 860 00:43:53,980 --> 00:43:54,880 just, this is just the way they are. 861 00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:55,630 They have these desires. 862 00:43:55,779 --> 00:43:58,865 Well, I would ask you the same question. 863 00:44:00,490 --> 00:44:03,370 When you became a Christian, did all your sinful desires go away? 864 00:44:04,990 --> 00:44:05,500 No. 865 00:44:07,870 --> 00:44:11,290 So what does this mean then? 866 00:44:11,500 --> 00:44:11,770 Right? 867 00:44:11,770 --> 00:44:12,790 What does struggle mean? 868 00:44:13,030 --> 00:44:13,480 Right. 869 00:44:13,990 --> 00:44:15,730 Because a lot of times we say, I'm struggling with something, 870 00:44:15,730 --> 00:44:16,330 and what does that mean? 871 00:44:16,900 --> 00:44:19,030 It means I'm getting beat up by it and I'm just giving into my sin. 872 00:44:19,810 --> 00:44:20,800 That's not struggling. 873 00:44:20,890 --> 00:44:22,090 There's no struggling going on. 874 00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,640 You're getting, you're getting beat up, right? 875 00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:27,370 It's kinda like, you know, in sports when they say there's a rivalry game. 876 00:44:28,255 --> 00:44:30,654 It's really just like one team always beating the other team. 877 00:44:30,895 --> 00:44:31,675 That's not a rivalry. 878 00:44:31,735 --> 00:44:32,634 There's no rivalry there. 879 00:44:33,325 --> 00:44:33,685 Right. 880 00:44:34,345 --> 00:44:38,725 There's like recently, right, there's been some, some rivalry games. 881 00:44:38,725 --> 00:44:41,515 Like the, the Ravens were playing the Browns, right, and it's a rivalry 882 00:44:41,515 --> 00:44:43,435 game, and it was like 41 to 17. 883 00:44:43,585 --> 00:44:44,455 That's not a rivalry. 884 00:44:44,455 --> 00:44:44,815 I'm sorry. 885 00:44:44,815 --> 00:44:46,404 Like when was the last time the Browns beat the Ravens? 886 00:44:46,435 --> 00:44:47,005 I have no idea. 887 00:44:48,265 --> 00:44:48,565 Right. 888 00:44:48,595 --> 00:44:51,805 Not, or like remember the, the Dolphins and the Patriots, or, no, not Dolphins. 889 00:44:51,805 --> 00:44:52,015 Actually. 890 00:44:52,015 --> 00:44:52,675 Dolphins beat the Patriots. 891 00:44:52,855 --> 00:44:54,475 But like the, the Bills and the Patriots, right? 892 00:44:54,475 --> 00:44:55,975 The Patriots won that game for like. 893 00:44:56,185 --> 00:44:57,475 13 years in a row. 894 00:44:57,505 --> 00:44:58,315 That's not a rivalry. 895 00:45:00,265 --> 00:45:01,795 I'm not, no, we're not going there. 896 00:45:02,245 --> 00:45:02,694 Um, 897 00:45:04,975 --> 00:45:10,525 so again, if, if you're a professing Christian, or you know, someone 898 00:45:10,674 --> 00:45:14,424 who's a professing Christian and they struggle with these desires, are they 899 00:45:14,424 --> 00:45:16,765 struggling or are they embracing them? 900 00:45:16,975 --> 00:45:18,835 'cause here's what we remember we talked about with this question. 901 00:45:19,705 --> 00:45:24,085 Are they embracing those desires and saying, oh, I, I wanna keep these? 902 00:45:24,235 --> 00:45:25,464 Or are they saying I hate these? 903 00:45:25,780 --> 00:45:27,340 And I'm asking God to help me kill them. 904 00:45:28,090 --> 00:45:29,890 Those are two very different things, right? 905 00:45:29,890 --> 00:45:33,550 Are you at war with those desires or are you feeding those desires? 906 00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:34,540 Are you at peace with those? 907 00:45:34,570 --> 00:45:41,830 Just like as a regular Christian, you have sinful desires, but 908 00:45:41,830 --> 00:45:43,150 what you do with them matters. 909 00:45:43,510 --> 00:45:45,370 Are you killing them or are you giving into them? 910 00:45:47,500 --> 00:45:48,670 Same thing here, right? 911 00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:53,200 Am I stuck constantly, displeasing God because I have a, a wrong orientation? 912 00:45:54,144 --> 00:45:58,734 Maybe someone who feels these things is asking, well, are you Christian? 913 00:45:58,734 --> 00:46:03,115 Constantly displeasing God because you still covet, or you're still 914 00:46:03,115 --> 00:46:04,674 anxious, or you still lust? 915 00:46:06,475 --> 00:46:08,124 This is where the gospel comes in, right? 916 00:46:09,325 --> 00:46:15,115 The gospel is also for gay people, for lesbian people, for bisexual 917 00:46:15,115 --> 00:46:18,954 people, for transgender people, for queer people, for asexual people, for 918 00:46:18,954 --> 00:46:20,424 pansexual people, for whatever, right? 919 00:46:20,604 --> 00:46:21,414 The gospel. 920 00:46:22,015 --> 00:46:30,444 For those people because just like any other Christian, if, if having sinful 921 00:46:30,444 --> 00:46:35,154 desires made you displeasing to God, would anyone ever be pleasing to God? 922 00:46:36,295 --> 00:46:36,745 No. 923 00:46:38,335 --> 00:46:41,035 Jesus righteousness makes you pleasing to God. 924 00:46:41,605 --> 00:46:46,615 So if, if someone who struggles with these desires says, I repent of these things, 925 00:46:46,615 --> 00:46:47,725 I'm not the way I'm supposed to be. 926 00:46:48,025 --> 00:46:50,095 I'm I, I don't feel the things I'm supposed to feel. 927 00:46:51,580 --> 00:46:52,630 I'm messed up. 928 00:46:53,710 --> 00:46:56,860 I need, I, I, I'm guilty of my sin. 929 00:46:57,190 --> 00:46:58,390 I need a savior. 930 00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:02,110 I need Jesus to give me his righteousness 'cause I'm not good enough and I need 931 00:47:02,110 --> 00:47:06,190 Jesus to pay for my debt because I do terrible things and I feel the wrong 932 00:47:06,190 --> 00:47:07,420 things and I think the wrong things. 933 00:47:07,900 --> 00:47:09,505 I need Jesus to pay for those sins. 934 00:47:09,505 --> 00:47:11,860 And they put their trust in Jesus to do that. 935 00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:14,800 And they turn from they sin and they say, that's not who I want to be anymore. 936 00:47:15,010 --> 00:47:16,300 I wanna live God's way. 937 00:47:16,330 --> 00:47:17,200 God's design is better. 938 00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:17,890 I trust him. 939 00:47:18,265 --> 00:47:19,165 He's my king. 940 00:47:19,345 --> 00:47:20,185 He's my shepherd. 941 00:47:20,185 --> 00:47:21,025 I wanna follow him. 942 00:47:22,315 --> 00:47:27,025 And they go to war with these desires every day and say, I love 943 00:47:27,025 --> 00:47:29,545 Jesus more than I love my sin. 944 00:47:31,375 --> 00:47:32,575 That's what every Christian does. 945 00:47:33,745 --> 00:47:34,975 That's how every Christian lives. 946 00:47:35,845 --> 00:47:37,465 I hope that's, if you're a professing Christian, I hope 947 00:47:37,465 --> 00:47:38,125 that's how you're living. 948 00:47:40,225 --> 00:47:40,495 So 949 00:47:43,105 --> 00:47:47,245 just because you have sinful desires doesn't mean you can never be a Christian. 950 00:47:49,134 --> 00:47:53,154 But if you are just following your sinful desires everywhere they take you, 951 00:47:53,634 --> 00:47:56,694 you're probably not a Christian, just like we'd say for any sinful desire. 952 00:47:56,694 --> 00:47:57,025 Right? 953 00:47:57,835 --> 00:47:58,285 Same thing. 954 00:47:58,345 --> 00:47:58,734 So 955 00:48:01,795 --> 00:48:03,924 I hope this was helpful for you asking these questions. 956 00:48:04,555 --> 00:48:09,325 Um, if you're talking with someone at school about this or whatever, right? 957 00:48:09,325 --> 00:48:11,995 And you don't have to like go looking for people to talk to. 958 00:48:12,145 --> 00:48:13,075 I'm not asking you to do that. 959 00:48:13,674 --> 00:48:16,525 Um, but if this comes up in a conversation and someone asks you a question. 960 00:48:17,470 --> 00:48:19,600 And you're not sure how to answer it, guess what? 961 00:48:20,500 --> 00:48:21,250 It's okay to say. 962 00:48:21,250 --> 00:48:22,000 I don't know. 963 00:48:22,390 --> 00:48:23,470 Let me get back to you. 964 00:48:24,310 --> 00:48:26,890 Just like with any question, if someone asks you some random apologetics question 965 00:48:26,890 --> 00:48:28,630 you don't know about, I don't know. 966 00:48:28,990 --> 00:48:29,710 Let me get back to you. 967 00:48:29,710 --> 00:48:30,850 Let me, and talk to your leader about it. 968 00:48:30,850 --> 00:48:31,660 Talk to your parents about it. 969 00:48:31,660 --> 00:48:32,410 Talk to me about it. 970 00:48:33,790 --> 00:48:36,400 But this hopefully was a, it was helpful for you to see, 971 00:48:36,430 --> 00:48:37,540 okay, here's what God says. 972 00:48:38,230 --> 00:48:42,700 Here's why this is wrong, and here are maybe some things that 973 00:48:42,700 --> 00:48:43,570 can help you think through it. 974 00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:43,870 Okay. 975 00:48:45,490 --> 00:48:48,189 What I want you to see with all of this is that our goal is 976 00:48:48,189 --> 00:48:50,439 to, to see people love Jesus. 977 00:48:51,069 --> 00:48:53,020 To see people trust him, right? 978 00:48:53,020 --> 00:48:54,970 Our goal is not to just tell people that they're sinners. 979 00:48:55,870 --> 00:48:59,560 The reason we tell people that they're, they're, they're sinners is because we 980 00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:03,325 love them and we want them to turn from their sin and trust in Jesus because Jesus 981 00:49:03,325 --> 00:49:06,850 is amazing, and having a relationship with Jesus is the, the best thing ever. 982 00:49:07,930 --> 00:49:08,379 So 983 00:49:10,779 --> 00:49:13,334 I hope that this wasn't just you hearing, okay, this is bad. 984 00:49:14,215 --> 00:49:14,995 Don't worry about it. 985 00:49:16,045 --> 00:49:16,285 Right. 986 00:49:16,285 --> 00:49:18,805 That's not, I'm not in those shoes, so forget about it. 987 00:49:19,884 --> 00:49:20,215 Right. 988 00:49:21,565 --> 00:49:23,755 I hope for you, this is okay. 989 00:49:23,755 --> 00:49:25,525 This is, this is why God's design is good. 990 00:49:26,725 --> 00:49:27,895 I'm not embarrassed about it. 991 00:49:28,045 --> 00:49:32,275 I'm, I'm not ashamed to, to talk about it if it comes up, but I hope also you 992 00:49:32,275 --> 00:49:37,525 see that this is, this is really a, just like any sin, it's a gospel issue. 993 00:49:40,255 --> 00:49:42,775 The, the gospel is. 994 00:49:43,930 --> 00:49:45,910 For all types of sinners, 995 00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:50,380 no matter what those sins are. 996 00:49:51,759 --> 00:49:55,360 And Jesus' righteousness is necessary for every sinner. 997 00:49:56,290 --> 00:49:58,540 And Jesus' death pays for every sin. 998 00:49:59,529 --> 00:50:07,240 And so, um, our goal is to see people trust Jesus and to turn from their sin 999 00:50:07,750 --> 00:50:11,230 and love him and live his way because his way is the best way to live. 1000 00:50:11,980 --> 00:50:12,310 So. 1001 00:50:12,759 --> 00:50:14,470 We're gonna go talk about this in small groups, so let's pray 1002 00:50:15,220 --> 00:50:17,109 and we'll head over there. 1003 00:50:20,529 --> 00:50:25,389 God, we are grateful that you love us enough to tell us what's wrong with us. 1004 00:50:25,930 --> 00:50:31,660 Um, we don't often appreciate that about you, but we're grateful that you show 1005 00:50:31,660 --> 00:50:34,149 us, um, what's good and what's not good. 1006 00:50:34,720 --> 00:50:38,410 And so I pray that you help us to love the right things. 1007 00:50:39,025 --> 00:50:42,444 Help us to feel the right way about who you are and what you say. 1008 00:50:42,835 --> 00:50:49,134 I pray that we wouldn't be embarrassed about, um, how you made people and 1009 00:50:49,134 --> 00:50:53,275 how you made things to, how you made your, your people to interact 1010 00:50:53,275 --> 00:50:54,265 and to relate to each other. 1011 00:50:54,325 --> 00:50:57,715 I pray that you help us to be loving towards people who might, 1012 00:50:58,105 --> 00:51:01,375 um, struggle with these desires or might embrace this type of thinking. 1013 00:51:01,465 --> 00:51:04,315 And I pray that we would love them enough to. 1014 00:51:06,535 --> 00:51:07,495 Tell them about you. 1015 00:51:07,525 --> 00:51:11,905 And I pray for anyone here who maybe does struggle with these types 1016 00:51:11,905 --> 00:51:15,925 of desires and, and thinking that I pray that you help them to see 1017 00:51:15,925 --> 00:51:18,145 that you have a good plan for them. 1018 00:51:18,355 --> 00:51:23,575 That you don't, that you love them enough to offer them salvation. 1019 00:51:23,725 --> 00:51:26,245 And you care so much about their joy and their happiness even more 1020 00:51:26,245 --> 00:51:31,765 than they do, and that they would put their trust in you to, um, to 1021 00:51:31,765 --> 00:51:32,870 have eternal life with you forever. 1022 00:51:33,519 --> 00:51:34,450 We pray this in Jesus name. 1023 00:51:34,689 --> 00:51:34,959 Amen.