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when you make the switch from a constant launch mode cycle to an evergreen

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cycle, that does have its challenges.

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Find the time to pull out of your business, and actually foc focus on your

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business and on your quality of life.

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when humans have a constrained window in which they need to

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get shit done, they get it done.

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All of us have so much fire inside of us, so much fire, light, brilliance

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inside of us that we all have to be realistic, um, with ourselves

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because fire, energy, anything like that, like, it's like nuclear energy,

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fire energy,

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any kind of energy

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is powerful if it's harnessed in the right way.

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And it's deadly if it's not harnessed in the right way.

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Joy Houston, we are back for numeral dose with you.

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How you doing this?

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Fine morning here.

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I'm doing good.

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I'm, I'm happy to be back with you.

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I hope you got your, uh, peptide stack in order last time we chatted.

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Right.

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Yeah, I know I do.

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How about you listening?

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Watching, um, my hand's always feeling slightly better.

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You know, bait in this.

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And again, if you haven't listened to the episode that we dropped with Joy

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about peptides and, or if you don't even know what we're talking about

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right now and you're like, what the hell are peptides after this episode,

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since you're already moving on this one?

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Go bookmark that one.

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It probably came out right before this or whenever, but just look for Joy's name and

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peptides and you'll see why we love those.

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But we're not talking about peptides this time.

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We're talking about, uh.

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today.

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We're gonna talk quality of life today.

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Damn right.

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So that's, I mean, I love that this is, I mean, you live it.

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I know it, you and Travis, your husband, and you know, I mean, you

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guys are always doing really fun stuff.

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You're just fun people in general, but you're also doing

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really big shit with business and exponential growth all around.

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But you have a great quality of life.

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Um, that's like the essence of why I even have this show.

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It's evolved over the years.

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But the big thing is like, how do we, how, how can we be great entrepreneurs,

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leaders in life, and do really cool stuff in business, if that's what

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you wanna do, but also have a great life and not burn out in the process.

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'cause that sucks been there.

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I'm gonna give you my favorite secret on how we do that today.

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I am totally gonna open it up and like, I'll tell you what I did.

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Um, I think if there's anything that you need to know is a little bit fair warning,

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you're gonna think I'm fucking crazy.

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Like you'll be literally like, there's no way that I can do that.

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Um, and I know that from experience because when I first heard it, I

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was like, you're fucking crazy.

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All your clients will quit.

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You.

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Everybody will hate you.

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It's not gonna work.

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Your business will fall apart.

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I had so much resistance.

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So

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I am

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I'll start by admitting that.

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Yeah.

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I'll start by admitting that.

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Y yeah.

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I love it.

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Y you probably, you probably got some of the attention of a few

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people here just now, so I mean, like, I don't know where we start

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here because I don't know anything about this concept of Thrive Week.

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You've kind of told me a little bit about it, but I, we purposely

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kept it a mystery until we chatted.

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So

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All right,

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I guess gimme the, yeah, like what's the, what's the big idea

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here first and like what was the big problem you were trying to solve?

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Yeah,

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Okay.

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So the big problem that I was trying to solve is we have an ongoing mastermind

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and we have rolling Evergreen.

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Programs.

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Okay, so you know how it is when you're like, you either pick, you

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have a diff a difficult decision.

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If you're making scalable online offers, you're either stuck in launch mode, right?

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Where you're like, John Walker style.

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I'm gonna like love you John Walker, by the way.

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Okay.

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What?

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Where you're like, I'm gonna launch and then I'm gonna rinse and repeat

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and I'm gonna rinse and repeat.

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I'm gonna rinse and repeat.

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Right?

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And it kind of puts you on this cycle of like, okay, I'm gonna fill.

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All my offers and then I'm gonna fulfill on all my offers.

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I'm gonna fill 'em up again, and then I'm gonna fill, it's a very like wave.

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Okay, so my first sort of, let's level out the quality of life was

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let's go for rolling Evergreen.

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And, and then we just get our, yeah.

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Then we get our conversion mechanisms firing on all cylinders and

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everybody starts when they start.

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And at first that was intimidating.

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If you've never made that jump before, that's intimidating

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when you first make that jump.

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Because it feels like if everybody's gonna start together and in together,

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that they're a community's not gonna build, there's not gonna be camaraderie.

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Um, and that would be saying like, oh, only kindergarten should hang

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out together, and then only middle schoolers should hang out together.

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And then only college people, and then only elderly people.

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That's not really the way that society works.

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Right.

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Like we have our elders to look up to.

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We have our newbies to bring in new ideas and question our

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thinking and our paradigms, right?

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So when you make the switch from a constant launch mode cycle to an evergreen

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cycle, that does have its challenges.

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But I found that, wow, when newbies ask a question.

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It reminds the elders of the basics that they've probably

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forgotten or taken advantage of.

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And then when elders ask questions that stump the newbies and make them feel like,

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oh shit, I don't even know what they're talking about, um, it actually has the

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newbies get excited about the levels that they're about to achieve in the community.

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So I'll say that first.

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Okay?

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Mm-hmm.

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So the first wave of Let's calm the stress down, let's make life a little

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more, bit more manageable, is um, you know, this was back when we were

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following the rule of five ones, right?

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Like one audience, one offer, one conversion mechanism on one platform,

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Intel, 1 million or one year.

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So if you haven't read Red Ready, fire, aim, I'm talking about when

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you're first trying to get your business to that 1 million mark.

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So when we were trying to do that, we made the switch from constant

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live launching to rolling evergreen cycles, and then just focused on the

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conversion mechanisms that worked best.

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And then you hit another problem, right?

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So new level, new devil, right?

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Like then now you've got rolling evergreen.

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So then the question becomes.

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When, when am I off, right?

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I have to be on all the time, like week, over week, over week, over week.

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And if you don't plan it carefully before you know it, your

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husband's forgotten your name.

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Your kids don't remember you.

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They think you don't love them 'cause you're not at their

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baseball game or ballet virtual or whatever they need to do, right?

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And so that right about the time we are at a peak level of like, oh my God,

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like we love delivering, but we also need a little bit of time to breathe.

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We all, we can only inhale so much before we have to exhale.

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Okay?

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And so I was listening to Laurel Portier because I love her information

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and we're in her group to just stay on the forefront of Facebook

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ads and meta and what's changing.

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And I think she's amazingly got her pulse on that.

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I absolutely love it.

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Um, I would say between her and Kurt Molly, like they keep me, you know,

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rollerskating on the front line of meta.

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I just follow both of them and listen really well.

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I love, absolutely love both of them.

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But Laura was actually having one of her brilliant little side conversations

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and she was talking about Nick Peterson.

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I know you've had him as a guest here on the show.

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So if you guys haven't listened to Nick, like go back, rewind the, the, um,

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he is in the archives.

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He is.

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He is like a few

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he's old school.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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honestly, you guys, he is like such a brilliant dude that sometimes

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I get a piece from him and I can feel the brilliance in the Nugget.

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Um, but it's definitely still like a raw gem.

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It's not like shiny and polished and carved because what he can give you

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can be so almost like esoteric, like big thinking that sometimes it takes

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me a little bit of time to like land the plane and see like, how am I gonna

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actually implement that in my life?

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And this was one of those things.

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Okay.

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So she told me that, Laurel mentioned that her and her wife were using, um,

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they, they were, they didn't call it what we call it, we call it a Thrive Week.

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Okay.

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So I can't remember what she was calling it.

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I'm sorry.

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I should remember, but I don't.

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And I was like, wait, that's really interesting.

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Say that again.

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And she's like, yeah, I deliver.

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So she looks at the monthly calendar and she was delivering week one, week

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two, week three, and then in week four, and of course sometimes there's

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those rando months where there's five weeks in a month, first three weeks

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of the month delivering hardcore for her people, private clients groups,

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rolling mastermind, just delivering.

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Okay.

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And then the last week, that was both her time to exhale and focus

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on what the business needed.

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So sort of like work on the business instead of in the business.

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It was also the time that then she would schedule.

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Like they're longer vacations.

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Like, oh, we wanna get away to Rome for a while or whatever.

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Like that kind of thing.

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And immediately I had this tightness in my chest when I heard her say

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that at the thought of it, because I'm thinking, I think I call all of

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the practitioners that we serve in, in our world of Little Birds, right?

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So we talk about that they're a little birds and they're all in the nest.

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And I'm thinking, oh my God, how the little birds would chirp or

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fall out of the nest or something.

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Yeah, exactly.

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Like if we just didn't show up for them like the last week,

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are you fucking kidding me?

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You know what I mean?

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And um, and it was a real, like, it was one of those things I really

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had to think on it, you know?

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Um, and so she said, yeah, yeah.

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Joy, if you're curious, if you're curious, go read bumpers.

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Okay.

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So I don't wanna get the title of this book wrong because it, like

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the name of the book says it all.

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And if you could put this in the chat for your people, or in the link

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description below, that'd be great.

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Okay.

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Check out the title of this book.

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Okay.

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It's called Bumpers.

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It came out in two versions.

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The first version, the subtitle, as a copywriter, I'm fascinated

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by V one and V two titles, right?

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The first one was the Framework for Finding Your Personal Abundance,

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maximum Productivity, um, greatest Profits and Highest Quality of Life.

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Okay.

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Now obviously someone told him that subtitle was too long.

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Um, and then the new subtitle is Bumpers Maximum Productivity, profit

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and Quality of Life, the Framework for Finding Your Personal Abundance.

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So he slimmed it down a little bit.

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Okay.

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I remember this book because he, yeah, I, I read the very

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first unpublished version of it

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Yeah, the unpublished one, it's just black and white, like it

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has just a black and white cover.

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And then later they did the one with the fancy cover.

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If you get the first one or second one, honestly, you

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guys, it really doesn't matter.

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The first one was like a, almost like a gun.

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The way I heard the story, it was almost like a gun to his

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head, like publish it because.

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He shared the concept with his mastermind.

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This is the story that I got from just like listening to

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him talk about on YouTube.

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The story that I got was, um, it was so powerful for the people

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in his mastermind that they were like, you gotta publish this dude.

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And it just sort of went out the door as a book with typos.

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Like, yeah, shit.

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Tons of typos and problems, you know what I mean?

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Totally the best.

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But in a way, I kind of loved reading that grungy version before I reread

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the second one, because it was like, wow, he was just showing up to serve

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and he didn't give a flying fuck how it looked to put a book out with errors.

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He was like, Hey, if this served my people and my people are saying everybody

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needs this, let's get access to this.

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And how genuine is that?

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And ego free just to be like, Hey, they said it.

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I'm gonna do it.

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I'm gonna pull the trigger.

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I don't care how unpolished it is.

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Here you go.

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You know what I mean?

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I love that.

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I love that.

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super fast read.

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It's like a hundred pages, like literally one

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fast read.

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Super fast read.

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Okay.

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And on, and like a few spoiler alerts here, but just to

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motivate you to read the book.

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The concept of bumpers is like if you take your kids bowling, that's just not

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gonna be very fun because they're just gonna hit gutter balls all the time.

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Right?

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But if you put the bumpers up right, then all of a sudden they're having

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a good time because at least they're knocking down a pin or two because

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the chances of this completely going out of the rails has been eliminated.

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They're just kind of like protecting

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You're having more fun.

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There's more joy, no

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Yeah, exactly.

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Exactly.

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So you're, you're putting guard rails for like, the things that matter to you

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in life to make sure that you don't, you know, land a gutter ball week over

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week, over week and fail to partake in the things that light you up, that

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you're not living your values, you know?

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Okay.

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So the basic concept, again, a little bit of a spoiler alert her, but the

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basic concept is find the time to pull out of your bus, like out of your

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business, and actually foc focus on your business and on your quality of life.

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And so I decided to look at, okay, is it possible that Travis and I could do this?

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You know, th like three weeks on deliver hardcore, and then actually give them

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the last week and sometimes two off.

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Okay.

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And I started slowly.

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So at first I was like, the last Friday of the month, I'm not gonna work.

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We're not gonna work, we're just gonna work on the business, or we're

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gonna take it off and do three days in Palm Springs together, reignite it

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one day.

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is all Okay.

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Got

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That's all I did.

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Okay.

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One day, and then as I saw, okay, well the earth didn't end.

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The little birds didn't fall out of the nest, right?

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My cl our clients didn't quit on us.

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Nobody had a panic attack.

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Then I was like Thursday and then Wednesday, and then introduced the concept

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before I took the whole last week of the month off, I introduced the concept

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that like, listen, you guys are only in our mastermind, or even if they were in

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a enrolling evergreen program, you're only here because you wanna get results.

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Okay.

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My guess is you wanna get results in a way that sustains your quality of life.

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In other words, you wanna make more money and you wanna have more

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fulfillment for helping more people.

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Yay and yay.

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But my guess is you would also like to do that in a way that protects your quality

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of life, and it keeps your ax sharp.

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So in our community, sometimes we'll talk about, it's like a Tony Robbins

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story, but like if you, if you listen to the old school, Tony Robbins, where

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he would talk about like the lumberjack who gets the job because he came in

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with his sharp ax and this and that, and then three months in he's gonna lose his

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job because what did he forget to do?

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Sharpen his freaking ax, right?

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So like.

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So if we could start protecting time in a way that you come in

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and you get everything you need.

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So there's no loss of reaching our objectives together, but we are gonna

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compress that and do that more effectively in the first three weeks of the month.

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And then we're gonna give you a month to implement catch up, breathe, right?

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Make sure that you're actually living your values, actually enjoying your life.

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I thought for sure clients would quit.

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Like I thought my private clients would freak out.

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I thought that's where my members would leave.

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I thought people wouldn't enroll in a 12 week program that was then stretched.

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Because you gotta think about if you wanna do four weeks in a row, that's 12 weeks.

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It turns a three month program into a four month program because you're taking

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that final week off every month, right?

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So you're now distributing that 12 week delivery time over four

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months instead of three months.

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Okay.

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I thought everybody would freak out.

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The complete fucking opposite happened.

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What happened was I got all of these messenger messages, all of these emails

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of gratitude from people saying, you know, I come to you because I wanna

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be at the bleeding edge of marketing, and I wanna scale my business in a

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way that makes sense, and I trust you to do that while I stay in the

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forefront of what I'm really good at.

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But now that you've done this, you are forcing me to a, make sure I never

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have a reason for not implementing everything you tell me because I have

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a, a break and two, to protect my own quality of life by emulating this.

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And what happened was all of them that were, what happened was, do you know Kurt?

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Molly always says when he is telling a story, what happened was.

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Love you, Kurt.

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Um, so what happened was they all implemented their

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own programs the same way.

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They all started immediately going, oh my God, wait, this is so smart.

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And so they pulled out time from their own, even their

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clinic hours, even the ones.

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So in case the, in case any of you didn't hear the last podcast, my, my audience

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is all health entrepreneurs, right?

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So these are not your MDs working at Kaiser.

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These are people who wanna own their own business online.

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They want scalable offers.

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So what all of them did, even the ones who had clinic hours and they also had

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online offers, they just kept pulling back Friday, Thursday, Wednesday.

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And then some of them will keep their like clinic hours on

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Monday, Tuesday, one day a week.

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But almost all of them dropped entirely the last week, sometimes two,

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and there's five weeks in a month.

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And they all started following suit.

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And that, and you can see how, what I was saying, right?

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Like you could see how, like, you would be like, no way.

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There's no way I could do that because I feel so busy right

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now.

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you could see it, but I forget.

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There's a name of the law, there's a name of a behavioral law or

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principle that I can't remember.

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I'm, I'm gonna fuck up exactly how you say it.

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But what it's basically trying to say is people will finish

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what needs to be finished in the space of time that you give them.

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So if you give them every week of every month,

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keep expanding.

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Yeah.

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exactly.

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But if you compress it and it needs to be done by this time, you know,

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look how quickly things can get done.

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You know what I mean?

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Look.

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Look how quickly Gavin Newsom just had one thing put on one piece of paper in

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a bazillion envelopes that sent it out to California in like less than 90 days.

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Like people would've told him that was impossible, right?

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And it was like, we're gonna shrink it right on down.

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And like when humans have a constrained window in which they need

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to get shit done, they get it done.

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And so now, you know, we look at the calendar at the beginning.

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So we, we put out our calendar in um, November for all of our audience, and

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they can see in advance, they can see.

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Work, work, work break.

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They plan their vacations around it.

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They model their delivery around it.

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Like we plan our, like there's, I think it works out you guys that

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there's like three times in the year, at least some years there's four,

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but there's three times a year at least where there's two week breaks.

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So we can instantly look at that.

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Like Travis and I have our, um, 20 year anniversary brush

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our shoulder off, um, next week actually.

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And so we can look at the counter and we can see, oh, let's plan our 20 year

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on one of our two week breaks and let's go, you know, somewhere we've really

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been wanting to go, you know, and, and Maverick can look at that and he can,

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he knows when, like our son is Maverick.

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He can look at that and he can know when we have big gaps of time and we can make

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a cool, interesting travel request, right?

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Um, and when we have shorter weeks, you know, and it lets us

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plan our vacations, our travel, or our curriculum revamp, right?

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Because in your curriculum things change, especially for all of us, right?

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If we're in marketing, like AI's coming into play now, super agents are coming

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into play and fuck SEO, now we have to get a chat bt to find our brand

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instead of just Google search, right?

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Like things are constantly changing, right?

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So we can look at the weeks that we wanna do content updates and content refresh,

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and we just know what that's gonna look like at the beginning of the year.

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I think the big thing that I didn't know going into this conversation is I

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thought this Thrive Week was literally just for you and Travis, you know, your

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spouse and, and family, you know, you mentioned Maverick, but No, like, you're

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literally instituting this for everybody.

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It's anyone that you're working with.

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You were saying, this is the way we do things, and if you're joining us,

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like if you're working closely with us, our close high-end mastermind group,

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you know, what is it, annual contract, it sounds like an engagement, right?

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It's every time.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Mm-hmm.

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They, they join annually.

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Exactly.

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Yeah.

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They join annually.

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So you're like creating this expectation of this is how we do

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things that just, I mean, it, it literally is a benefit to everyone.

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So not only are they gonna keep exponentially growing in the business

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together with you, with them, with their own business, and they can

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actually apply things, but you're forcing them to take time off.

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And I think the thing I remember hearing about this from, uh, Tim Ferris years and

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years ago is like when you have something to look forward to, even if it's a day

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off and like a, a mini trip or just even if you're staying in town, you know,

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you, you have something on the calendar.

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That you get to look forward to your brain, you know, for all

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of us procrastinators, which I think all of us kind of are, when

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all have a little bit.

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yeah.

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I mean like we all are, that we, that's why we need to condense our time or

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put those bumpers back to the book.

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Like that's the idea is like, how do we put bumpers around our lives

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that we know the most important shit needs to get done within that, those

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bumpers that we set for ourselves.

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But then you have this like whole layer of accountability that you guys

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bring to the group, and it's mapped out for a whole year in advance.

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Like, I'd be stu Yeah, like you're like thriving all year because you know,

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all this stuff's coming and ideally you're planning some cool stuff.

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You're not just like grinding out work the entire time you're off in your Thrive

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exactly.

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Or, and if you know that you're gonna grind on something, so like last week,

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this is the first week of November.

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Mm-hmm.

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last week we actually had a Thrive Week last week, and as I, as I shared with

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you and Heather, um, my son Maverick had to have his deviated septum corrected.

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Well, if you've never heard of that surgery, like they're basically rota

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rooting your whole face and it just, it's a whole big, messy, scary thing.

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And so we could plan that when we knew we had a Thrive Week

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and we could be there for him.

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Support and, you know, lounge on the couch and just be with him

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or whatever he needed, you know?

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But because he is, he is also like, he's gonna be 17 in December,

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so he is like, okay, get away from me, mom enough cuddles.

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You know what I mean?

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I mean, I'm lucky he's still color right.

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But, um, but I also planned the filming of the, um, I have a, I

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had a book that just came out.

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So obviously in the book funnel, I have an implementation toolkit,

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like a little member portal with videos of me kicking their ass into

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actually implementing the book.

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And so I knew, okay, the days before his surgery, I'm gonna be filming the days

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after, I'm gonna be taking care of him.

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And then when he's sleeping, I'll be filming then.

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Right?

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So I knew it.

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And because Travis and I wanna protect our, our spark, our fire, our passion, we

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know, okay, well if we're gonna be filming on those days, which days can we do a

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half day and we go out to dinner, or we catch sunset at the beach, we live, right?

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We live at the beach.

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Like, when can we do the little things where.

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Stealing away a three or four hour block here, or, you know, meeting

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for that little sexy lunch date.

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You know, like something like that.

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How do we pin all of those things and make sure every Thrive Week always has

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at least some of those moments that we know we're gonna bank on, though,

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like, those are our, our memories.

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You know, like the photo memories you take when you're like, I

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just wanna remember this minute

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forever.

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Like, Like, we make sure that those Thrive weeks, even if we decide to film

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a new course or, you know, write a, you know, we're gonna power through three

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chapters of our next book or something like that, then let's go ahead and

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make sure that we at least do time blocks where, you know, the passion

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stays alive and the business is running well and family feels prioritized.

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All those good things, you know.

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That's what I was gonna ask is, um, you know, in these Thrive Weeks,

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'cause I think the way that maybe on surface level, it seems like,

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all right, these are Thrive weeks.

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I could just like take time off and screw off and, you know, and

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if that's what you need, like, I'm sure that's a big portion of it.

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Maybe that's even possibly the most important thing to do to rest, recharge,

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and, and you know, your brain just like works differently when it's not

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staring at a computer on constant calls or whatever it might be.

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But at the same time, like you said, you can have time blocks built into

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this Thrive Week where you can still, you can work on the business, not in

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it, kind of like a whole Michael Gerber approach, E-Myth, you know, so you're

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working on the business, these things that, which again, takes a different

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wire, you know, focus of your brain.

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It just, it's different than when you're like doing this kind of thing.

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And also Joe, just think about it, right?

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Like if you're looking at the year, like when Travis had his big, he had a

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big birthday, you know, like he wanted to go and stay a month in Barcelona.

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So we rented a pimp like penthouse with extra room so friends could

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rotate through and come visit.

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And we did a month in Barcelona, like little day trips here and there.

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And so we knew like, okay, the first three weeks of those, of

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that month, um, it happened to be like a five week month, right?

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So we had two weeks where we just like, whatever, let's go close to Bravo, let's

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go to Che, let's go on little day trips.

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And like we just had a good time and we didn't think about work at all

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for the last two weeks of that month.

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But even like the first three weeks were like, well, we just did the time

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calculation difference and we showed up for our calls and you know, did a

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couple of private client sessions and our mastermind groups and like, but

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other than that we were, you know, checking out Picasso museums and eating

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tapas and having a good time, you know, so because you can see it in the

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year out, like you can see the whole year out, which weeks have five weeks.

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You can plan on, okay, we're gonna just play hooky and we're just gonna

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completely refresh and cut loose and let our brain relax and not do work.

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And then for those of us who love our jobs, like I think a lot

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of people who are, who are, are attracted to you and your content.

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We do love what we do, and so it is easy for us to be those people

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that like, well, balance is just me being able to fit business in, in

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a life that I truly love every day.

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Like that's what balance looks like for some of us, you know?

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So I think it gives you that freedom to choose which ones are we gonna

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be working vacations, which ones are gonna be pure play like, and

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you can plan around it, you know?

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Yeah, and I think that's an important note because when we're so ingrained in our

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business, and especially like my wife, Heather and I, and you and Travis spouses

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who work together, you know, and it might not be on the everyday working on every.

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There's that layer that's different than a lot of other spouses out there.

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People, you know, like those of you watching listening, your spouse

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or your partner might not be into business and they might not even

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want to hear you talk about it.

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So, joy, my question is, how the hell do you turn it off?

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Like, is it, I don't know if this is a struggle that you or Travis had,

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but maybe if it's from other people in your community, like how, not only for

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our partner's sake, but for our sake.

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'cause sometimes I'll just say, you know, like leaving the business mode

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and then I go into family kid mode.

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I do, there's, there's a buffer that gets to happen there.

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And I'm not always perfect with it.

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And this is on the everyday as well.

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But it's like, and even Heather will remind me, she's like, all

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right, take the, the work brain off.

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Or you know, like, I'm just taking on my habit.

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It's like, you

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Yeah, yeah.

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business because now it's different.

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It's like lead with your heart more so rather than get shit done

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mode kind of thing, if that makes

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Okay, I'm gonna totally tell you that, um, first of all, total transparency.

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Anyone who knows us know that, like Travis and I went through a rough patch.

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We went through a like, are we even gonna do this anymore?

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I wanna fucking kill you.

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You know what I mean?

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Which I do think that in a 20 year marriage, it's normal to have those like,

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ah, like, can we even do this moments?

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And the real test is not whether or not you have those moments.

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It's whether or not when you have those moments, you assume

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the best about the other person.

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So you start, no matter how pissed off you are, you assume

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there's no mal-intent, right?

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And then you support the other person through getting to where you wanna go.

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So the reason that I share that in advance is I can be, it's funny

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because sometimes it'll be him who does it, and sometimes it'll be me.

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But that experience that you were just sharing of like, oh,

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you're winding down the day.

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But maybe she was working, Heather's working in her silo in

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the business and, and you're working in your silo in the business.

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And Travis and I definitely have very clear silos.

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We would've killed each other a long time ago if we didn't

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have your side of the line.

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My side of the line, right?

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Like, so first of all, we have very clear boundaries and

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this is your side of the line.

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This is my side of the line.

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I will take your advice from your side of the line about my side

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of the line, but I make my final decisions because of a big ass fucking

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girl and I can make my decisions.

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And conversely, him being the tech and the AI and traffic side, I might

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have my thoughts about his side of the line and I get to express them.

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But I also have to respect that ultimately those decisions are his.

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So I would say it all starts from, if you're gonna be brave enough to be

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a couple that works together, those divisions need to be clearly aligned.

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But in answer to your question about how do I solve the problem of my head

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is still in business mode and he's like, where's my super sweet, sexy,

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hot wife who I wanna twirl around and dance and cuddle up with, right?

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Like.

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If he catches me in that mode, then it's his responsibility

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to a assume the best about me.

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Right?

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So that looks like, oh, she's being a mama lion for all of our baby birds.

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Okay?

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So if she's being a mama lion for all of our baby birds, and there's things

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on her blonde brain that she can't put down, I need to assume the best

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about her and say she's really just looking out for our people, right?

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Or our bottom line, or, or protecting our family financially.

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Okay?

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So it starts with him having a good assumption about me, or

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conversely, if he's chatting about business and it's state night, I

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have to assume the best about him.

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And then we have to recognize that and ask what it's gonna take to take that hat off.

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So if I was Heather and you were doing that, then I would have to make the

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assumption that like, all right, Joe's trying to provide for the family.

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He's being super, super driven about the success of his clients, the success of his

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business, all the things she has to make, all the positive assumptions about you.

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And then she has to recognize, okay, he is still stuck in business mode.

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and then she has to take upon herself.

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I have to take upon my self.

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When I do it is like, okay, baby, you're still, your business hat is still on.

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Like there are things that are still brewing, um, that are

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in the way of us hanging out.

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And I want you, I want your big strong arms around me.

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I just want your grounding presence.

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Like for me as a woman in business, and you can ask Heather

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if this is her perception.

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I could be a whirling durvis of energy.

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And then when I am, when I get to switch gears and be feminine and soft, that's a

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very driven masculine energy to get shit done all day, make money, hit numbers.

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That's a very masculine part of my personality.

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So when I get to be with him, then I feel grounded, like less whirling

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rocket ship and more like, oh my gosh, like I can actually be soft

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and you know, like a bird flew by.

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How pretty, like I don't even notice that shit when I'm working.

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You know what I mean?

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So.

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I have to look at him and I have to recognize, okay, he's, he is

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in business mode because he has the best intentions possible.

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And look at him and say, okay, you're still in business mode and I

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need my grounding, big strong man.

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What do we need to like, go through really quickly so that we can transition into

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hangout time and just be together and not talk about work, and not talk about

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our kids or our planning and, you know, paperwork and shit that needs to be done.

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Like how do we get there?

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And then it usually is, oh, okay, well there's a new ad

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campaign going out tomorrow.

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I just need to make sure you are understanding this.

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Like, you me, this done.

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Like, and then once he barfs it out, then he can put it down.

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But there's like literally something like almost tangibly in the way if, if he's

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still spinning and talking about work.

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If I am still spinning and talking about work, it's because there's a few

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things that have not been communicated between the silos and once the messages

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have been communicated to both silos.

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So both silos come home.

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One of us is communi is still in business mode.

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What communications need to happen between the silos?

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We send those messages, we get clarity on ownership, responsibility,

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accountability for handling those within a specific timeline.

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Then the silos can go back and to being individual and they can shut down

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for the night and we can be together.

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That's my thing for it, is assume the best about the other person.

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They're not doing it to be an asshole.

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They're not doing it because they don't think you're important

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because they don't value family.

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That's a bunch of stories that our ego will tell us because deep down,

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a lot of us struggle to believe that we're, we're worth having the love

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that we have in our life, right?

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So that's just a bunch of garbage.

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So if we can put all of that aside and assume the best about the person,

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and then make a way for them to download out of that mode, that's it.

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I love that.

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And that's, that's a, it's a healthy process.

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I think assumptions are a big thing.

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It's like we gotta assume.

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Albeit, you know, we're in a relationship for a reason.

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Like I'm 16 years with, uh, Heather this year, so I'm

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Congratulations.

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but we're, we're

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That's great.

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But like, you know, you know, when we, when you're with someone,

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you, you gotta assume the best, you know, in relationship.

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But that goes with your team at work too, and all these other things.

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So it's a similar mode.

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And I like what you said is almost like you have that core of assumption

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that we're all in this together.

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Like we're, we have a shared mission vision that we're all striving for, but at

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the same time, our brains are squirrely.

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They're crazy little things and we need to unload that.

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Like, so it reminds me of, uh, that book Getting things done, you know, GTD, like

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the GTD method where the first thing is basically get it outta your brain, right?

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It's like brain dump wherever you gotta do it on, on, you know, I'm

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using this app called Reflect lately.

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It's really cool.

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Um,

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Ooh, I haven't tried that one.

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Reflect,

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Reflect app.

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Yeah,

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okay.

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Okay.

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I'm gonna put that in my phone right now.

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Great way to sync up all your ideas.

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It's daily remind, you know, you can sync up calendars, all that fun stuff.

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And you know, it's that I do voice notes all the time too.

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But anything to just unload that shit, that might not make perfect sense,

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but it's just like a bunch of to-dos.

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'cause yeah, it could spin all, all of us out and that's

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what Heather will remind me.

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She's like, write it down.

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And so I did the same thing for her.

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It's interesting how it's flipped kind of sometimes over the years in a relationship

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too, but, uh, but you're right.

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Like once you do that, assume the best for yourself and others

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and then just unload your mind.

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Then I just feel like everything just gets a little freer,

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And you use reflect, I'll be honest, like if you don't have a fancy app,

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like sometimes I'll just open my phone.

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Pull up the next day's Google Calendar.

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Everybody has Google at calendar, right?

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So like pull up the next day's Google Calendar, find an itty bitty block, right?

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Like, and I'll write all the things that are tripping me out.

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And even if I don't solve them in that span of time, at least there's

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a breather space in my day to schedule them or have them delegated

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or whatever, and then I'm done.

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Then I can like let my hair down and be feminine and be soft and not be driven and

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like goal oriented and in business mode.

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So Yeah.

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that's my

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that leads to another, a con I was just thinking about was like, what are

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your daily bumpers or like, how do you make every day kind of thrive for you?

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Uh, Travis, maybe your, your whole group that you're chatting.

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Like, are there like certain bumpers that you would put on, you know,

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time-wise, are there certain activities throughout the day that you always,

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or at least you roughly have a structure for that you could share?

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Yeah, I always have a structure.

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First of all, I have to say I'm, I'm spoiled fucking rotten because

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not only do I get my Thrive Weeks, at the end of the year, I go up.

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Um, so we live at the beach and there's a beautiful like vista up at

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Cape Sessions Park near our house, and it's like a mile and it's a

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mile and a half up and back, right?

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So I take my little puff, his name is Ace, and I get to hike up there

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and I get to hike home in the morning, and then I end my day in

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time to make my favorite yoga class.

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So I have to say at, for a long time, I thought that was really selfish.

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Like, oh, I should pick one.

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Like, I should do this or I should do that.

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I shouldn't be guarding so much time for like my physical

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fitness, but I'm fucking wired.

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Like I'm wired to move fast, go hard, strong, like.

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I, uh, and maybe that's a, a rare thing for, for women, you know, or

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people might perceive that it is.

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But the more I meet people like, you know, Emma and Deb, and you

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know, I know like I'm not alone.

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There's a fucking lot of us out there that are wired to move really fast.

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And the way that I keep that on the rail.

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I think of it like this, Joe.

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I feel like all of us have so much fire inside of us, so much fire, light,

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brilliance inside of us that we all have to be realistic, um, with ourselves

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because fire, energy, anything like that, like, it's like nuclear energy, fire,

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energy, any kind of energy is powerful if it's harnessed in the right way.

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And it's deadly if it's not harnessed in the right way.

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And I notice that like I can get short with other people,

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I can bowl other people over.

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I can like, you know, I can accidentally use that fire in detrimental ways rather

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than it's a light that everyone can see their own way to their brilliant marketing

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and, and business strategy through, right.

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So my, uh, when I did journaling meditation, like honest assessments

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of my life, I was like, when I do my morning and at my evening and

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I sandwich my time between there.

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My morning gives my blood pumping.

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It lets me think out loud.

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It lets me like go, go, go.

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So that some of that fire is a little bit released physically.

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And then I can actually maintain a nice slow burn throughout the day of service.

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Like it never gets edgy or gr grungy.

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And then before I can be great mom to maverick, great wife to Travis, I

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find I need to shut everything down.

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I give my ea everything that needs to be set up for the next day, drop

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it, walk to yoga, and my walk there is where I'm shifting gears from work

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to like, okay, now I'm gonna go be in my body and then my walk from.

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It's, yeah, that's the bumper piece.

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And then walking back from yoga again, I'm blessed that I, I have a yoga

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studio, like we live in Pacific Beach.

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It has like one of the highest walkability life scores in the nation, right?

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So, um, the walk home from yoga is okay, now I took care of my

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body, my mind, I'm gonna go and I'm gonna be present with my family.

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So for me, that's what boundary my time is.

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I mean, there's other things too.

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You know, you know, I'm committed to my peptide stack, you know,

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I'm committed to healthy eating.

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You know, I'm committed to making sure there's always a social, like,

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I need my friends, I need my people.

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Like I, I'm over the, we have to do everything alone.

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It's not fucking COVID anymore.

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We need each other.

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Let's get back in harmony.

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You know?

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Um, so as long as I have my physical routine, my healthy food, my connected

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time with friends, those I would say are my like daily bumpers.

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Yeah.

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That's beautiful.

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Thanks for breaking it out because it's, I think, uh, I don't know, we

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all live differently, but when we're in our bubble work bubble, especially

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like you said, a lot of us are working at home now because of maybe COVID or

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whatever else happened in our lives.

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I mean, I know that affected, I mean, I have two little, little, little ones, and

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they popped around COVID time, so it did put a little damper on the social life,

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but at the same time, it's getting better.

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It's getting better.

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Thank God.

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it is getting better.

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It is getting better.

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And for all the, you know, political temperature and as volatile as that is.

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I'm really finding that there's a silver lining there that like people on the

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extremes are finally going, wait a minute, red, blue, we're all red, white, and blue.

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We all want like, ample money and love and community and freedoms.

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You know, like we all kind of want the same thing.

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So I do think that even that is like, we're all just humans and

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we all just want a decent life.

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Like knock it off on both ends, like let's come together.

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So I do feel like that community piece is, is I'm seeing it resurge everywhere.

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I don't know what your experience is, but I think the divisiveness has

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finally started to hit a tipping point where they're like, wait a minute, we

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all kind of care about the same thing.

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So I'm personally an optimist and a patriot, so I believe we will find

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a way, um, to come back to a healthy middle where we all love each other.

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I'm with you.

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And you know, you have AI as another, you know, uh, something thrown into the

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MI mix there too, that, you know, it's, I guess on the service level, people can

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connect with AI and, but at the same time, what my thought is humans get even more

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important in the whole mix is community.

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That's gonna be the thing that will have a lot more value I think, over time,

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whereas tech will have a layer to it all.

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But you're right, like we need to connect with people, get in groups.

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The masterminds we're a part of together, the groups.

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I mean, like there's trust there that you can't make without

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seeing people and without spending time, you know, legitimately like

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years of time with people too,

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Yeah.

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I think so too.

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Well, joy, let's wrap up on your book, because it's not on the surface level.

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It might not hit everybody here and, and be like, oh, this is for me.

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But on a conceptual level, I think it's really brilliant.

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So tell me what it is and, uh, you know, concept and how it applies

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Yeah.

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Um, the book is called Get Cash Pay Clients.

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Um, I think everybody would like their clients that are ready to fork over money.

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So in that way it sort of could apply to your audience.

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It's written specifically.

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So the subtitle is How Upfront Labs Create a Wildly Profitable

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Health Business With Less Work.

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Okay.

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So the takeaway for health practitioners is, you know, they've been doing

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marketing and then nurturing and sales, and then finally enrollment

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and then they would do a lab test.

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And a lab test isn't a really effective tool of showing people something's

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wrong and something needs to be done.

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Right.

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So my.

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Yeah, blood work, a hormone test, a stool test, a SIBO test.

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It's confirmation that people are like, I'm not crazy.

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There's actually something going on in my body.

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And so obviously that makes the sales conversation for

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practitioners to have people enroll into working them much easier.

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So I was like, knock that shit off.

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Pull it from the bottom of the funnel, put it at the top of the funnel.

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Now there's legal things that need to happen so that tests can be ordered to

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prospects, not patients in a legal way.

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So the book kind of covers all of that.

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Um, but how that is applicable to your audience, a much wider audience is this,

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the fundamental concept of the book is, uh, it presumes that you are no longer

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interested in growing an audience of.

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Freebie seekers, tire kickers, people who will bleed you dry for information,

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never having any intention of actually investing and taking action and being

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responsible for their own results.

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Okay?

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So it starts from that premise.

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And if that premise is true for you, then it shares a lot of

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digging and research that I did.

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Kurt, Molly included, to kind of investigate a little bit what

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happened, like what happened to the effective lure opt-in lead magnet?

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What happened to the effective webinar, right?

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So in, in our world, okay, we were seeing it tank and tank

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and tank and tank and tank.

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So ad costs going up, conversions going down, which means cost of client

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acquisition goes through the roof and you start to wonder, what the hell am I doing?

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Like what?

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I have this audience and this email list full of people that I'm

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lucky if I can get, you know, a, a halfway decent open rate compared

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to what I got three years ago.

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And God forbid, I actually wanted a click through rate and sales.

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Okay.

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So it was really starting to look depressing and depressing and

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downright like morbid, right?

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And so in poking around all of my marketing friends, everyone I knew,

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I was like, Hey, it's appearing to me that the algorithms, if we think

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about the algorithms as the minions that do the work for all of these

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free platforms that we're, we're all consuming content on, okay, if it's

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free, then we are paying with ourselves.

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We are the product, okay?

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So if the algorithms are serving that whole, you know, beehive, then the

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algorithms we know are tracking all of the things that we as advertisers can pay for.

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Okay?

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So if you guys haven't run ads with me, just bear with me, okay?

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But if you were running ads, and if you already run them, you know this, okay?

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You can pay for video views, right?

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You can just pay for something to be seen.

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You can pay for a view, you can pay for an opt-in, right?

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You can pay for just a conversion or you can pay for a sale.

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Okay, so if we start from the premise that these algorithms that are checking

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us out and measuring our behaviors, it completely makes sense that those

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algorithms know, okay, well, Joe is a, uh, he's a content consumer.

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He'll watch videos and he'll opt into ship, but he's not the

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type to buy from this platform.

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He's gonna maybe go to Google, find it later, but Joy, she is happy to like,

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oh, she saw something that was cute from ri, she's gonna see that ad, she's gonna

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click it, she's gonna buy it today.

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Okay.

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Then it makes sense that that algorithm is like, oh, well Joy would be a good

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person to serve up for people who actually run a, run a sales conversion.

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And Joe would be the perfect person for it to put in front of that

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opt-in for someone who just wants someone to opt into something.

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So the algorithm is probably trying to satisfy its advertisers.

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Does that make sense what

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I'm

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right.

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Absolutely.

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And they're getting smarter all the time with AI too.

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All the

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yes.

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Yeah.

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Exactly, exactly.

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I remember when Cambridge Analytica was, was, um, early

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involved with the Trump campaign.

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They were sharing that like, oh, if you had made five moves in

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the online space, they'll you more about you than your family.

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And that was decades ago.

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So can you imagine now it's probably like, oh yeah, you do two or three things.

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It knows your first born child, you

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know?

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Okay.

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Exactly.

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Okay.

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So assuming that we're believing the algorithms are now, we're being

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watched, our behaviors being tracked, I make the argument in the book

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that we should all now move people from these free platforms over here.

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TikTok, Instagram, meta to YouTube, whatever.

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Okay.

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We should go from putting out our content on these platforms.

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We have to do that to be perceived as experts.

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And then when we move them over to our online ecosphere, and when

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I say our online ecosphere, I'm talking about our CRM, right?

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This is where we take people's money, their name, their

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information, all that, right?

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So when we move people from the free world over here to our world.

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I am much more focused about having quality over here than quantity over here.

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And the filtration system that the book promotes you using is let's

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go from free content, not free webinar over here anymore, because

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that's quality but not quantity.

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Why don't we go, uh, let's say a book.

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This book is like 9 95, right?

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So for me to have from free content over here and I share a concept from

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the book and they want it, then they can go into my world in a 9 95 offer.

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What does that do?

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That gives me a whole community list world in my online ecosphere.

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Of more quality leads that are known to be buyers.

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Okay?

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Now, my favorite three ways of doing that, our number one is a book,

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because the cost is so low, right?

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You're going to get someone's attention for under, let's call it under 15 bucks.

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Okay?

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Great way to do that.

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If they're not gonna spend 15, they're not gonna spend 15 grand if that's

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what you backend offer is, right?

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And then that, and that's number one, is the book because of price point.

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Number two, if you're a practitioner, is a lab test funnel number

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three is a paid workshop, okay?

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Paid workshops can be tricky because you act, you actually have to solve

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one specific problem that your avatar has on that workshop to prove

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that your value and get shit done.

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But all of those will give you an environment of people that are buyers.

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Now that gets you money.

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Yes.

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It's more, it's more effective, right?

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Because you're actually making money faster.

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But here's the thing I'm really trying to do.

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I'm really trying to train the algorithm that your online content for free

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over here is trying to find buyers.

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It's trying to find the people who bust out their credit card.

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It's not trying to find your freebie seeker, tire kickers people

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who will never actually get off their ass and fucking do anything.

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And the reason that I want that is twofold.

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One, the money, right?

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I like the money track to be faster obvious.

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Okay?

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The second thing is, I want clients who are actually gonna be implementers.

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They're actually gonna do what we teach them to do because if they

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don't, we never get the testimonial, they never get the result.

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It's not good for anybody really.

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And so

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you're

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start, from like ground level Right.

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Indoctrinating them to your process so it's, you're not trying to recreate shit

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when they're way over here and they're

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probably resisting it.

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And then it covers like, the obvious pushback to that is,

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yeah, Joy, but there's always a place for free content valid.

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So fucking valid.

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Um, if I, if I'm gonna be on someone else's podcast, if I'm gonna be on

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a collab with someone who has a big audience, if I'm gonna be on any sort

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of summit or stage, is that a perfect environment for me to say, Hey, here's

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an opt-in and we pull 'em into the list and those people are tagged?

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One could argue, yes.

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Okay.

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Um, and, and I think that that is perfectly valid.

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Okay.

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But I will be completely transparent that I'm way more elitist and

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like superior than that I'll even do on a podcast or on a CoLab.

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And I'll say, Hey, if you want this free thing.

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DM me, right?

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Go to Instagram dm me, and then I can still auto deliver that

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free thing through the dm, right?

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I can use Manny chatter if you, you go high level, you just use

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the in-house system there, right?

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So I still like the filtration.

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So me personally, my business is over the million mark.

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Like I'm not worried about it, right?

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So I would rather focus on quality.

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So even in those environments like I do, I think that's the right environment for

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people who are still growing their brand.

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For people who haven't hit their initial numbers.

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For people who are still really revenue focused, I mean, I'm still

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revenue focused, don't get me wrong.

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Like that's still a benchmark that I measure my success by.

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But even when I do that now, I would way rather be like, Hey, come

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see me over at Real Joy Houston on Instagram and DM me the word book.

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If you wanna know how to write your book, we'll pull it outta you in five

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days in Vegas and you'll get the shit done instead of waiting for a year.

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Right?

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So I would do that rather than we'll go opt in over here for this webinar and

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then they're gonna think about it and then they're gonna nurture for six months.

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I'm actually conditioning those people to be the kind of person

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that drags ass on making decisions.

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And in case you can't tell, like, I'm not a really great leader for

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someone who wants to drag ass.

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I'm making decisions like

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I'm a good

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up with you then.

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Yeah.

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They're not

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keep up.

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Exactly.

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Exactly.

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And you know what?

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There'll be another train that will come by the station that

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goes slower if you don't like that bullet train, you know what I

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mean?

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Like it's totally fine, totally fine.

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So the book basically addresses, Hey, here's what's happening.

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Here's how the algorithm we're working.

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It's breaks down.

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Here's the argument for leading with, if you wanna give away

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something free, do it in a messenger.

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It gives you, it opens up the sale by chat door.

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Right now you can actually see, is this person a good person?

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But when you bring them into your world, take a little bit of money.

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Like if you used to give away a book charge $5, if you used to host a webinar,

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that's actually fucking powerful.

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It has to be powerful.

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It can't be some cheesy, shitty webinar, right?

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But like if they come to a webinar that you could turn into a workshop where they

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finish one piece of it, charge $95 for that, you know, charge 45, I don't care.

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But like put a little, when people pay, they pay attention.

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Enough said.

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That's it.

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Yeah.

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And it always has been.

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So definitely.

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I love your call to action, by the way, to Instagram.

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So say that one more time, because

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I'll say

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is something

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time.

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to mention about you.

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Actually, you and Travis help pull out a book from someone, and I

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don't know, does it matter which industry they're in or, or what,

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It doesn't matter.

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The industry, what matters is, um, that you can clearly articulate the

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problem for your current audience.

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mm-hmm.

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have a proven solution.

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In other words, you have a process, a method, a protocol away, right, to

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solve that problem and that you're willing to break that down and share

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that process in the book in ways that it's a client acquisition book.

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Joe, it's not a, I was born, you know, it is not your life story.

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It's not your magnum opus.

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That's not what it's for.

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It's literally a client acquisition book.

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Okay?

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So if you, if you know what the problem is and you can solve the problem, and

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you have a backend offer that's ready to sell, meaning you already have your

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program, your process, your method, your pill, your magic bean, your super

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cool machine, whatever you have, if you have that offer on the backend ready to

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sell, um, and you can tell the success stories and how your process works in

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a book, then we pull it out of you.

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We basically force you to give little mini TED talks about each step in your

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process, and then we help you compile it.

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That way you're not actually typing.

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We find that something happens between the brain and the fingers.

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That slows down Authors, leaders really, you know, bright luminaries

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get slowed down by that process.

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And so if we can let luminaries just go ahead and speak about it, like talk,

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they can talk about it, no problem.

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Right?

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And they can share success stories, no problem.

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And then with the power of ai, we can take what they said not to be confused

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with all these fly by night people helping like write a book with ai.

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Like fuck that noise.

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Okay.

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This is taking your itty bitty TED talks about the processes of what you do and

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then compiling that your own words.

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From ai, and then the cool thing is we pull it all out of you in a five

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day sprint in Vegas, you're literally sequestered in Vegas at the Aria.

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It's beautiful.

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And then on day five, Travis has this legit gangster GPT that he runs to find

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the appropriate categories in Amazon.

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So before you turn your book funnel on, you can have a soft launch on Amazon.

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You can get to number one in your category proven you pick.

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If you pick a small enough pond, you could just be a goldfish in that pond

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and you could still be number one, right?

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So he's gained that system with A GPT.

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And so we all put our information, the topic of the book, our avatar,

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all into that GBT, and it's like, it like lets us all know, here's the

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categories you're most likely to rank number one in with the fewest sales.

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It does the calculations for us.

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And so we all leave the five days with our book completed, our categories

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selected, our covers off to the designer, and we're off to the races.

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And it's happening in February.

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We do it twice a year.

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The next one is February 22nd.

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So if you want details on that, go to Instagram.

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I am Real Joy Houston.

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So at Real Joy Houston.

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And just DM me the word book and you'll see the whole details.

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It's just a private Google document because it, you know, it, it like,

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we put our heart and soul into it.

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So we only let 12, um, you know, we want 12 authors in with us at a time.

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Um, and, and we do it twice a year, so if this one's already sold

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out, there were two spots as, as of this morning that were left.

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If it sells out, we'll tell you about the next one.

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Sweet.

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No, that's, uh, I've, I've heard about the model, uh, a lot more even right

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before this, and it's, it is gangsta.

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And when it's backed by not only you but Travis, and if y'all

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don't know Travis Houston well,

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hopefully you meet him soon.

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Yeah.

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How that guy can like, stay at the bleeding edge of like AI marketing.

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Like, I'm constantly impressed by, I mean, obviously he's my husband, so I'm partial,

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but like, just on an intellectual level, I'm like, damn, dude, you're a gangster.

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yeah, yeah, yeah.

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So do it.

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Go, go.

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Hit up Joy, because that is, if there's a book in you, which everybody has, I mean,

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you need someone to rip it on outta you in it with a good format and get it done

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and it's not for everybody.

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You have to have a offer because it's literally a client acquisition book, so

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you have to have an offer ready to sell on the back end or it's a waste of time.

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But everybody who's done it with us has a finished their book, and everyone

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who put the book out on Amazon has hit number one in their category.

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So that's a pretty impressive track record.

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That's pretty damn good.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I love

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Well, um, yeah, definitely go there.

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We'll put stuff in the show notes so it's easy to find you and your book as well.

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Get cash paid clients.

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Um, what's, uh, I'm, I'm curious, uh, what's like something on Thrive Week

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or, or what's something that you're looking forward in the next, I don't

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know, few months or so that you're gonna do that's, uh, yeah, like a Thrive Week

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I'm totally

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excited to this.

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Okay, well, first of all, uh, my 20 year anniversary is coming up, so I'm

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super, super looking forward to that.

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But what we're wanting to do around our anniversary is explore a place

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that we heard of through Nuno.

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Do you know Nuno?

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He's like a go high level genius.

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Oh my God.

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If you, if you just go to YouTube and search Nuno, go high level and you

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will find him, and I promise it will be your new Netflix of knowledge.

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I swear to God, he is like, so, he's so smart.

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Okay.

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Um, but also a fucking amazing human, just a kind, amazing, just

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salt of the earth kind of person.

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And we were, he found out that we were looking at Portugal as in as

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a purchasing a second home kind of place, and he told us, oh yeah, yeah.

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All those places you're looking at are fine and dandy and everything, but how

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would you like to move to the island that is known as the Hawaii of Europe?

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And it's also the place where fiber enters Europe, so you're

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never gonna have internet problems.

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I was like.

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Sold.

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What's the, I, I feel like I was, I've

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not gonna tell you now.

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Everybody's gonna move there,

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all right.

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So offline,

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you in private.

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So, so we are gonna be doing some island exploring and, um, and we're

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gonna go there and check it out.

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So that's the thing that's like on the horizon that I'm like, you know, when

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you, when you have something coming up and, and like every dog walk or whatever,

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you're like googling it or watching YouTube videos on it, and you just get

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goosebumps when you think about it.

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That's, that's

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the thing That's

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on the horizon for me that I'm so excited about.

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Yeah.

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All right.

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Well I like the, um, I like people could do their own research, but

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I'm gonna get the intel right now.

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Yeah.

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I will, I'll tell you and Heather.

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Awesome.

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Well, hey, let's, um, this is great.

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Thank you Joy.

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And yeah, this whole Thrive Week, I mean we covered so much and here and

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also in that peptide episode from before whenever we, it was probably before this.

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Go check it out.

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Joy.

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You rock hu Uh, I was gonna try, I call Travis Houston.

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Travis, you rock too.

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You're not even here, but you totally rock.

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God damn.

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Yeah, so love you too.

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And uh, we'll keep it going.

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So

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thank you.

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Give Heather a hug for me.

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I will.

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I will.

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All right.

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Bye.

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hun.