when you make the switch from a constant launch mode cycle to an evergreen
Speaker:cycle, that does have its challenges.
Speaker:Find the time to pull out of your business, and actually foc focus on your
Speaker:business and on your quality of life.
Speaker:when humans have a constrained window in which they need to
Speaker:get shit done, they get it done.
Speaker:All of us have so much fire inside of us, so much fire, light, brilliance
Speaker:inside of us that we all have to be realistic, um, with ourselves
Speaker:because fire, energy, anything like that, like, it's like nuclear energy,
Speaker:fire energy,
Speaker:any kind of energy
Speaker:is powerful if it's harnessed in the right way.
Speaker:And it's deadly if it's not harnessed in the right way.
Speaker:Joy Houston, we are back for numeral dose with you.
Speaker:How you doing this?
Speaker:Fine morning here.
Speaker:I'm doing good.
Speaker:I'm, I'm happy to be back with you.
Speaker:I hope you got your, uh, peptide stack in order last time we chatted.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:Yeah, I know I do.
Speaker:How about you listening?
Speaker:Watching, um, my hand's always feeling slightly better.
Speaker:You know, bait in this.
Speaker:And again, if you haven't listened to the episode that we dropped with Joy
Speaker:about peptides and, or if you don't even know what we're talking about
Speaker:right now and you're like, what the hell are peptides after this episode,
Speaker:since you're already moving on this one?
Speaker:Go bookmark that one.
Speaker:It probably came out right before this or whenever, but just look for Joy's name and
Speaker:peptides and you'll see why we love those.
Speaker:But we're not talking about peptides this time.
Speaker:We're talking about, uh.
Speaker:today.
Speaker:We're gonna talk quality of life today.
Speaker:Damn right.
Speaker:So that's, I mean, I love that this is, I mean, you live it.
Speaker:I know it, you and Travis, your husband, and you know, I mean, you
Speaker:guys are always doing really fun stuff.
Speaker:You're just fun people in general, but you're also doing
Speaker:really big shit with business and exponential growth all around.
Speaker:But you have a great quality of life.
Speaker:Um, that's like the essence of why I even have this show.
Speaker:It's evolved over the years.
Speaker:But the big thing is like, how do we, how, how can we be great entrepreneurs,
Speaker:leaders in life, and do really cool stuff in business, if that's what
Speaker:you wanna do, but also have a great life and not burn out in the process.
Speaker:'cause that sucks been there.
Speaker:I'm gonna give you my favorite secret on how we do that today.
Speaker:I am totally gonna open it up and like, I'll tell you what I did.
Speaker:Um, I think if there's anything that you need to know is a little bit fair warning,
Speaker:you're gonna think I'm fucking crazy.
Speaker:Like you'll be literally like, there's no way that I can do that.
Speaker:Um, and I know that from experience because when I first heard it, I
Speaker:was like, you're fucking crazy.
Speaker:All your clients will quit.
Speaker:You.
Speaker:Everybody will hate you.
Speaker:It's not gonna work.
Speaker:Your business will fall apart.
Speaker:I had so much resistance.
Speaker:So
Speaker:I am
Speaker:I'll start by admitting that.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I'll start by admitting that.
Speaker:Y yeah.
Speaker:I love it.
Speaker:Y you probably, you probably got some of the attention of a few
Speaker:people here just now, so I mean, like, I don't know where we start
Speaker:here because I don't know anything about this concept of Thrive Week.
Speaker:You've kind of told me a little bit about it, but I, we purposely
Speaker:kept it a mystery until we chatted.
Speaker:So
Speaker:All right,
Speaker:I guess gimme the, yeah, like what's the, what's the big idea
Speaker:here first and like what was the big problem you were trying to solve?
Speaker:Yeah,
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So the big problem that I was trying to solve is we have an ongoing mastermind
Speaker:and we have rolling Evergreen.
Speaker:Programs.
Speaker:Okay, so you know how it is when you're like, you either pick, you
Speaker:have a diff a difficult decision.
Speaker:If you're making scalable online offers, you're either stuck in launch mode, right?
Speaker:Where you're like, John Walker style.
Speaker:I'm gonna like love you John Walker, by the way.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:What?
Speaker:Where you're like, I'm gonna launch and then I'm gonna rinse and repeat
Speaker:and I'm gonna rinse and repeat.
Speaker:I'm gonna rinse and repeat.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:And it kind of puts you on this cycle of like, okay, I'm gonna fill.
Speaker:All my offers and then I'm gonna fulfill on all my offers.
Speaker:I'm gonna fill 'em up again, and then I'm gonna fill, it's a very like wave.
Speaker:Okay, so my first sort of, let's level out the quality of life was
Speaker:let's go for rolling Evergreen.
Speaker:And, and then we just get our, yeah.
Speaker:Then we get our conversion mechanisms firing on all cylinders and
Speaker:everybody starts when they start.
Speaker:And at first that was intimidating.
Speaker:If you've never made that jump before, that's intimidating
Speaker:when you first make that jump.
Speaker:Because it feels like if everybody's gonna start together and in together,
Speaker:that they're a community's not gonna build, there's not gonna be camaraderie.
Speaker:Um, and that would be saying like, oh, only kindergarten should hang
Speaker:out together, and then only middle schoolers should hang out together.
Speaker:And then only college people, and then only elderly people.
Speaker:That's not really the way that society works.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:Like we have our elders to look up to.
Speaker:We have our newbies to bring in new ideas and question our
Speaker:thinking and our paradigms, right?
Speaker:So when you make the switch from a constant launch mode cycle to an evergreen
Speaker:cycle, that does have its challenges.
Speaker:But I found that, wow, when newbies ask a question.
Speaker:It reminds the elders of the basics that they've probably
Speaker:forgotten or taken advantage of.
Speaker:And then when elders ask questions that stump the newbies and make them feel like,
Speaker:oh shit, I don't even know what they're talking about, um, it actually has the
Speaker:newbies get excited about the levels that they're about to achieve in the community.
Speaker:So I'll say that first.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:Mm-hmm.
Speaker:So the first wave of Let's calm the stress down, let's make life a little
Speaker:more, bit more manageable, is um, you know, this was back when we were
Speaker:following the rule of five ones, right?
Speaker:Like one audience, one offer, one conversion mechanism on one platform,
Speaker:Intel, 1 million or one year.
Speaker:So if you haven't read Red Ready, fire, aim, I'm talking about when
Speaker:you're first trying to get your business to that 1 million mark.
Speaker:So when we were trying to do that, we made the switch from constant
Speaker:live launching to rolling evergreen cycles, and then just focused on the
Speaker:conversion mechanisms that worked best.
Speaker:And then you hit another problem, right?
Speaker:So new level, new devil, right?
Speaker:Like then now you've got rolling evergreen.
Speaker:So then the question becomes.
Speaker:When, when am I off, right?
Speaker:I have to be on all the time, like week, over week, over week, over week.
Speaker:And if you don't plan it carefully before you know it, your
Speaker:husband's forgotten your name.
Speaker:Your kids don't remember you.
Speaker:They think you don't love them 'cause you're not at their
Speaker:baseball game or ballet virtual or whatever they need to do, right?
Speaker:And so that right about the time we are at a peak level of like, oh my God,
Speaker:like we love delivering, but we also need a little bit of time to breathe.
Speaker:We all, we can only inhale so much before we have to exhale.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:And so I was listening to Laurel Portier because I love her information
Speaker:and we're in her group to just stay on the forefront of Facebook
Speaker:ads and meta and what's changing.
Speaker:And I think she's amazingly got her pulse on that.
Speaker:I absolutely love it.
Speaker:Um, I would say between her and Kurt Molly, like they keep me, you know,
Speaker:rollerskating on the front line of meta.
Speaker:I just follow both of them and listen really well.
Speaker:I love, absolutely love both of them.
Speaker:But Laura was actually having one of her brilliant little side conversations
Speaker:and she was talking about Nick Peterson.
Speaker:I know you've had him as a guest here on the show.
Speaker:So if you guys haven't listened to Nick, like go back, rewind the, the, um,
Speaker:he is in the archives.
Speaker:He is.
Speaker:He is like a few
Speaker:he's old school.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:honestly, you guys, he is like such a brilliant dude that sometimes
Speaker:I get a piece from him and I can feel the brilliance in the Nugget.
Speaker:Um, but it's definitely still like a raw gem.
Speaker:It's not like shiny and polished and carved because what he can give you
Speaker:can be so almost like esoteric, like big thinking that sometimes it takes
Speaker:me a little bit of time to like land the plane and see like, how am I gonna
Speaker:actually implement that in my life?
Speaker:And this was one of those things.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So she told me that, Laurel mentioned that her and her wife were using, um,
Speaker:they, they were, they didn't call it what we call it, we call it a Thrive Week.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So I can't remember what she was calling it.
Speaker:I'm sorry.
Speaker:I should remember, but I don't.
Speaker:And I was like, wait, that's really interesting.
Speaker:Say that again.
Speaker:And she's like, yeah, I deliver.
Speaker:So she looks at the monthly calendar and she was delivering week one, week
Speaker:two, week three, and then in week four, and of course sometimes there's
Speaker:those rando months where there's five weeks in a month, first three weeks
Speaker:of the month delivering hardcore for her people, private clients groups,
Speaker:rolling mastermind, just delivering.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:And then the last week, that was both her time to exhale and focus
Speaker:on what the business needed.
Speaker:So sort of like work on the business instead of in the business.
Speaker:It was also the time that then she would schedule.
Speaker:Like they're longer vacations.
Speaker:Like, oh, we wanna get away to Rome for a while or whatever.
Speaker:Like that kind of thing.
Speaker:And immediately I had this tightness in my chest when I heard her say
Speaker:that at the thought of it, because I'm thinking, I think I call all of
Speaker:the practitioners that we serve in, in our world of Little Birds, right?
Speaker:So we talk about that they're a little birds and they're all in the nest.
Speaker:And I'm thinking, oh my God, how the little birds would chirp or
Speaker:fall out of the nest or something.
Speaker:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker:Like if we just didn't show up for them like the last week,
Speaker:are you fucking kidding me?
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:And um, and it was a real, like, it was one of those things I really
Speaker:had to think on it, you know?
Speaker:Um, and so she said, yeah, yeah.
Speaker:Joy, if you're curious, if you're curious, go read bumpers.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So I don't wanna get the title of this book wrong because it, like
Speaker:the name of the book says it all.
Speaker:And if you could put this in the chat for your people, or in the link
Speaker:description below, that'd be great.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Check out the title of this book.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:It's called Bumpers.
Speaker:It came out in two versions.
Speaker:The first version, the subtitle, as a copywriter, I'm fascinated
Speaker:by V one and V two titles, right?
Speaker:The first one was the Framework for Finding Your Personal Abundance,
Speaker:maximum Productivity, um, greatest Profits and Highest Quality of Life.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Now obviously someone told him that subtitle was too long.
Speaker:Um, and then the new subtitle is Bumpers Maximum Productivity, profit
Speaker:and Quality of Life, the Framework for Finding Your Personal Abundance.
Speaker:So he slimmed it down a little bit.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:I remember this book because he, yeah, I, I read the very
Speaker:first unpublished version of it
Speaker:Yeah, the unpublished one, it's just black and white, like it
Speaker:has just a black and white cover.
Speaker:And then later they did the one with the fancy cover.
Speaker:If you get the first one or second one, honestly, you
Speaker:guys, it really doesn't matter.
Speaker:The first one was like a, almost like a gun.
Speaker:The way I heard the story, it was almost like a gun to his
Speaker:head, like publish it because.
Speaker:He shared the concept with his mastermind.
Speaker:This is the story that I got from just like listening to
Speaker:him talk about on YouTube.
Speaker:The story that I got was, um, it was so powerful for the people
Speaker:in his mastermind that they were like, you gotta publish this dude.
Speaker:And it just sort of went out the door as a book with typos.
Speaker:Like, yeah, shit.
Speaker:Tons of typos and problems, you know what I mean?
Speaker:Totally the best.
Speaker:But in a way, I kind of loved reading that grungy version before I reread
Speaker:the second one, because it was like, wow, he was just showing up to serve
Speaker:and he didn't give a flying fuck how it looked to put a book out with errors.
Speaker:He was like, Hey, if this served my people and my people are saying everybody
Speaker:needs this, let's get access to this.
Speaker:And how genuine is that?
Speaker:And ego free just to be like, Hey, they said it.
Speaker:I'm gonna do it.
Speaker:I'm gonna pull the trigger.
Speaker:I don't care how unpolished it is.
Speaker:Here you go.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:I love that.
Speaker:I love that.
Speaker:super fast read.
Speaker:It's like a hundred pages, like literally one
Speaker:fast read.
Speaker:Super fast read.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:And on, and like a few spoiler alerts here, but just to
Speaker:motivate you to read the book.
Speaker:The concept of bumpers is like if you take your kids bowling, that's just not
Speaker:gonna be very fun because they're just gonna hit gutter balls all the time.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:But if you put the bumpers up right, then all of a sudden they're having
Speaker:a good time because at least they're knocking down a pin or two because
Speaker:the chances of this completely going out of the rails has been eliminated.
Speaker:They're just kind of like protecting
Speaker:You're having more fun.
Speaker:There's more joy, no
Speaker:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:So you're, you're putting guard rails for like, the things that matter to you
Speaker:in life to make sure that you don't, you know, land a gutter ball week over
Speaker:week, over week and fail to partake in the things that light you up, that
Speaker:you're not living your values, you know?
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So the basic concept, again, a little bit of a spoiler alert her, but the
Speaker:basic concept is find the time to pull out of your bus, like out of your
Speaker:business, and actually foc focus on your business and on your quality of life.
Speaker:And so I decided to look at, okay, is it possible that Travis and I could do this?
Speaker:You know, th like three weeks on deliver hardcore, and then actually give them
Speaker:the last week and sometimes two off.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:And I started slowly.
Speaker:So at first I was like, the last Friday of the month, I'm not gonna work.
Speaker:We're not gonna work, we're just gonna work on the business, or we're
Speaker:gonna take it off and do three days in Palm Springs together, reignite it
Speaker:one day.
Speaker:is all Okay.
Speaker:Got
Speaker:That's all I did.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:One day, and then as I saw, okay, well the earth didn't end.
Speaker:The little birds didn't fall out of the nest, right?
Speaker:My cl our clients didn't quit on us.
Speaker:Nobody had a panic attack.
Speaker:Then I was like Thursday and then Wednesday, and then introduced the concept
Speaker:before I took the whole last week of the month off, I introduced the concept
Speaker:that like, listen, you guys are only in our mastermind, or even if they were in
Speaker:a enrolling evergreen program, you're only here because you wanna get results.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:My guess is you wanna get results in a way that sustains your quality of life.
Speaker:In other words, you wanna make more money and you wanna have more
Speaker:fulfillment for helping more people.
Speaker:Yay and yay.
Speaker:But my guess is you would also like to do that in a way that protects your quality
Speaker:of life, and it keeps your ax sharp.
Speaker:So in our community, sometimes we'll talk about, it's like a Tony Robbins
Speaker:story, but like if you, if you listen to the old school, Tony Robbins, where
Speaker:he would talk about like the lumberjack who gets the job because he came in
Speaker:with his sharp ax and this and that, and then three months in he's gonna lose his
Speaker:job because what did he forget to do?
Speaker:Sharpen his freaking ax, right?
Speaker:So like.
Speaker:So if we could start protecting time in a way that you come in
Speaker:and you get everything you need.
Speaker:So there's no loss of reaching our objectives together, but we are gonna
Speaker:compress that and do that more effectively in the first three weeks of the month.
Speaker:And then we're gonna give you a month to implement catch up, breathe, right?
Speaker:Make sure that you're actually living your values, actually enjoying your life.
Speaker:I thought for sure clients would quit.
Speaker:Like I thought my private clients would freak out.
Speaker:I thought that's where my members would leave.
Speaker:I thought people wouldn't enroll in a 12 week program that was then stretched.
Speaker:Because you gotta think about if you wanna do four weeks in a row, that's 12 weeks.
Speaker:It turns a three month program into a four month program because you're taking
Speaker:that final week off every month, right?
Speaker:So you're now distributing that 12 week delivery time over four
Speaker:months instead of three months.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:I thought everybody would freak out.
Speaker:The complete fucking opposite happened.
Speaker:What happened was I got all of these messenger messages, all of these emails
Speaker:of gratitude from people saying, you know, I come to you because I wanna
Speaker:be at the bleeding edge of marketing, and I wanna scale my business in a
Speaker:way that makes sense, and I trust you to do that while I stay in the
Speaker:forefront of what I'm really good at.
Speaker:But now that you've done this, you are forcing me to a, make sure I never
Speaker:have a reason for not implementing everything you tell me because I have
Speaker:a, a break and two, to protect my own quality of life by emulating this.
Speaker:And what happened was all of them that were, what happened was, do you know Kurt?
Speaker:Molly always says when he is telling a story, what happened was.
Speaker:Love you, Kurt.
Speaker:Um, so what happened was they all implemented their
Speaker:own programs the same way.
Speaker:They all started immediately going, oh my God, wait, this is so smart.
Speaker:And so they pulled out time from their own, even their
Speaker:clinic hours, even the ones.
Speaker:So in case the, in case any of you didn't hear the last podcast, my, my audience
Speaker:is all health entrepreneurs, right?
Speaker:So these are not your MDs working at Kaiser.
Speaker:These are people who wanna own their own business online.
Speaker:They want scalable offers.
Speaker:So what all of them did, even the ones who had clinic hours and they also had
Speaker:online offers, they just kept pulling back Friday, Thursday, Wednesday.
Speaker:And then some of them will keep their like clinic hours on
Speaker:Monday, Tuesday, one day a week.
Speaker:But almost all of them dropped entirely the last week, sometimes two,
Speaker:and there's five weeks in a month.
Speaker:And they all started following suit.
Speaker:And that, and you can see how, what I was saying, right?
Speaker:Like you could see how, like, you would be like, no way.
Speaker:There's no way I could do that because I feel so busy right
Speaker:now.
Speaker:you could see it, but I forget.
Speaker:There's a name of the law, there's a name of a behavioral law or
Speaker:principle that I can't remember.
Speaker:I'm, I'm gonna fuck up exactly how you say it.
Speaker:But what it's basically trying to say is people will finish
Speaker:what needs to be finished in the space of time that you give them.
Speaker:So if you give them every week of every month,
Speaker:keep expanding.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:exactly.
Speaker:But if you compress it and it needs to be done by this time, you know,
Speaker:look how quickly things can get done.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:Look.
Speaker:Look how quickly Gavin Newsom just had one thing put on one piece of paper in
Speaker:a bazillion envelopes that sent it out to California in like less than 90 days.
Speaker:Like people would've told him that was impossible, right?
Speaker:And it was like, we're gonna shrink it right on down.
Speaker:And like when humans have a constrained window in which they need
Speaker:to get shit done, they get it done.
Speaker:And so now, you know, we look at the calendar at the beginning.
Speaker:So we, we put out our calendar in um, November for all of our audience, and
Speaker:they can see in advance, they can see.
Speaker:Work, work, work break.
Speaker:They plan their vacations around it.
Speaker:They model their delivery around it.
Speaker:Like we plan our, like there's, I think it works out you guys that
Speaker:there's like three times in the year, at least some years there's four,
Speaker:but there's three times a year at least where there's two week breaks.
Speaker:So we can instantly look at that.
Speaker:Like Travis and I have our, um, 20 year anniversary brush
Speaker:our shoulder off, um, next week actually.
Speaker:And so we can look at the counter and we can see, oh, let's plan our 20 year
Speaker:on one of our two week breaks and let's go, you know, somewhere we've really
Speaker:been wanting to go, you know, and, and Maverick can look at that and he can,
Speaker:he knows when, like our son is Maverick.
Speaker:He can look at that and he can know when we have big gaps of time and we can make
Speaker:a cool, interesting travel request, right?
Speaker:Um, and when we have shorter weeks, you know, and it lets us
Speaker:plan our vacations, our travel, or our curriculum revamp, right?
Speaker:Because in your curriculum things change, especially for all of us, right?
Speaker:If we're in marketing, like AI's coming into play now, super agents are coming
Speaker:into play and fuck SEO, now we have to get a chat bt to find our brand
Speaker:instead of just Google search, right?
Speaker:Like things are constantly changing, right?
Speaker:So we can look at the weeks that we wanna do content updates and content refresh,
Speaker:and we just know what that's gonna look like at the beginning of the year.
Speaker:I think the big thing that I didn't know going into this conversation is I
Speaker:thought this Thrive Week was literally just for you and Travis, you know, your
Speaker:spouse and, and family, you know, you mentioned Maverick, but No, like, you're
Speaker:literally instituting this for everybody.
Speaker:It's anyone that you're working with.
Speaker:You were saying, this is the way we do things, and if you're joining us,
Speaker:like if you're working closely with us, our close high-end mastermind group,
Speaker:you know, what is it, annual contract, it sounds like an engagement, right?
Speaker:It's every time.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Mm-hmm.
Speaker:They, they join annually.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:They join annually.
Speaker:So you're like creating this expectation of this is how we do
Speaker:things that just, I mean, it, it literally is a benefit to everyone.
Speaker:So not only are they gonna keep exponentially growing in the business
Speaker:together with you, with them, with their own business, and they can
Speaker:actually apply things, but you're forcing them to take time off.
Speaker:And I think the thing I remember hearing about this from, uh, Tim Ferris years and
Speaker:years ago is like when you have something to look forward to, even if it's a day
Speaker:off and like a, a mini trip or just even if you're staying in town, you know,
Speaker:you, you have something on the calendar.
Speaker:That you get to look forward to your brain, you know, for all
Speaker:of us procrastinators, which I think all of us kind of are, when
Speaker:all have a little bit.
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:I mean like we all are, that we, that's why we need to condense our time or
Speaker:put those bumpers back to the book.
Speaker:Like that's the idea is like, how do we put bumpers around our lives
Speaker:that we know the most important shit needs to get done within that, those
Speaker:bumpers that we set for ourselves.
Speaker:But then you have this like whole layer of accountability that you guys
Speaker:bring to the group, and it's mapped out for a whole year in advance.
Speaker:Like, I'd be stu Yeah, like you're like thriving all year because you know,
Speaker:all this stuff's coming and ideally you're planning some cool stuff.
Speaker:You're not just like grinding out work the entire time you're off in your Thrive
Speaker:exactly.
Speaker:Or, and if you know that you're gonna grind on something, so like last week,
Speaker:this is the first week of November.
Speaker:Mm-hmm.
Speaker:last week we actually had a Thrive Week last week, and as I, as I shared with
Speaker:you and Heather, um, my son Maverick had to have his deviated septum corrected.
Speaker:Well, if you've never heard of that surgery, like they're basically rota
Speaker:rooting your whole face and it just, it's a whole big, messy, scary thing.
Speaker:And so we could plan that when we knew we had a Thrive Week
Speaker:and we could be there for him.
Speaker:Support and, you know, lounge on the couch and just be with him
Speaker:or whatever he needed, you know?
Speaker:But because he is, he is also like, he's gonna be 17 in December,
Speaker:so he is like, okay, get away from me, mom enough cuddles.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:I mean, I'm lucky he's still color right.
Speaker:But, um, but I also planned the filming of the, um, I have a, I
Speaker:had a book that just came out.
Speaker:So obviously in the book funnel, I have an implementation toolkit,
Speaker:like a little member portal with videos of me kicking their ass into
Speaker:actually implementing the book.
Speaker:And so I knew, okay, the days before his surgery, I'm gonna be filming the days
Speaker:after, I'm gonna be taking care of him.
Speaker:And then when he's sleeping, I'll be filming then.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:So I knew it.
Speaker:And because Travis and I wanna protect our, our spark, our fire, our passion, we
Speaker:know, okay, well if we're gonna be filming on those days, which days can we do a
Speaker:half day and we go out to dinner, or we catch sunset at the beach, we live, right?
Speaker:We live at the beach.
Speaker:Like, when can we do the little things where.
Speaker:Stealing away a three or four hour block here, or, you know, meeting
Speaker:for that little sexy lunch date.
Speaker:You know, like something like that.
Speaker:How do we pin all of those things and make sure every Thrive Week always has
Speaker:at least some of those moments that we know we're gonna bank on, though,
Speaker:like, those are our, our memories.
Speaker:You know, like the photo memories you take when you're like, I
Speaker:just wanna remember this minute
Speaker:forever.
Speaker:Like, Like, we make sure that those Thrive weeks, even if we decide to film
Speaker:a new course or, you know, write a, you know, we're gonna power through three
Speaker:chapters of our next book or something like that, then let's go ahead and
Speaker:make sure that we at least do time blocks where, you know, the passion
Speaker:stays alive and the business is running well and family feels prioritized.
Speaker:All those good things, you know.
Speaker:That's what I was gonna ask is, um, you know, in these Thrive Weeks,
Speaker:'cause I think the way that maybe on surface level, it seems like,
Speaker:all right, these are Thrive weeks.
Speaker:I could just like take time off and screw off and, you know, and
Speaker:if that's what you need, like, I'm sure that's a big portion of it.
Speaker:Maybe that's even possibly the most important thing to do to rest, recharge,
Speaker:and, and you know, your brain just like works differently when it's not
Speaker:staring at a computer on constant calls or whatever it might be.
Speaker:But at the same time, like you said, you can have time blocks built into
Speaker:this Thrive Week where you can still, you can work on the business, not in
Speaker:it, kind of like a whole Michael Gerber approach, E-Myth, you know, so you're
Speaker:working on the business, these things that, which again, takes a different
Speaker:wire, you know, focus of your brain.
Speaker:It just, it's different than when you're like doing this kind of thing.
Speaker:And also Joe, just think about it, right?
Speaker:Like if you're looking at the year, like when Travis had his big, he had a
Speaker:big birthday, you know, like he wanted to go and stay a month in Barcelona.
Speaker:So we rented a pimp like penthouse with extra room so friends could
Speaker:rotate through and come visit.
Speaker:And we did a month in Barcelona, like little day trips here and there.
Speaker:And so we knew like, okay, the first three weeks of those, of
Speaker:that month, um, it happened to be like a five week month, right?
Speaker:So we had two weeks where we just like, whatever, let's go close to Bravo, let's
Speaker:go to Che, let's go on little day trips.
Speaker:And like we just had a good time and we didn't think about work at all
Speaker:for the last two weeks of that month.
Speaker:But even like the first three weeks were like, well, we just did the time
Speaker:calculation difference and we showed up for our calls and you know, did a
Speaker:couple of private client sessions and our mastermind groups and like, but
Speaker:other than that we were, you know, checking out Picasso museums and eating
Speaker:tapas and having a good time, you know, so because you can see it in the
Speaker:year out, like you can see the whole year out, which weeks have five weeks.
Speaker:You can plan on, okay, we're gonna just play hooky and we're just gonna
Speaker:completely refresh and cut loose and let our brain relax and not do work.
Speaker:And then for those of us who love our jobs, like I think a lot
Speaker:of people who are, who are, are attracted to you and your content.
Speaker:We do love what we do, and so it is easy for us to be those people
Speaker:that like, well, balance is just me being able to fit business in, in
Speaker:a life that I truly love every day.
Speaker:Like that's what balance looks like for some of us, you know?
Speaker:So I think it gives you that freedom to choose which ones are we gonna
Speaker:be working vacations, which ones are gonna be pure play like, and
Speaker:you can plan around it, you know?
Speaker:Yeah, and I think that's an important note because when we're so ingrained in our
Speaker:business, and especially like my wife, Heather and I, and you and Travis spouses
Speaker:who work together, you know, and it might not be on the everyday working on every.
Speaker:There's that layer that's different than a lot of other spouses out there.
Speaker:People, you know, like those of you watching listening, your spouse
Speaker:or your partner might not be into business and they might not even
Speaker:want to hear you talk about it.
Speaker:So, joy, my question is, how the hell do you turn it off?
Speaker:Like, is it, I don't know if this is a struggle that you or Travis had,
Speaker:but maybe if it's from other people in your community, like how, not only for
Speaker:our partner's sake, but for our sake.
Speaker:'cause sometimes I'll just say, you know, like leaving the business mode
Speaker:and then I go into family kid mode.
Speaker:I do, there's, there's a buffer that gets to happen there.
Speaker:And I'm not always perfect with it.
Speaker:And this is on the everyday as well.
Speaker:But it's like, and even Heather will remind me, she's like, all
Speaker:right, take the, the work brain off.
Speaker:Or you know, like, I'm just taking on my habit.
Speaker:It's like, you
Speaker:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker:business because now it's different.
Speaker:It's like lead with your heart more so rather than get shit done
Speaker:mode kind of thing, if that makes
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Okay, I'm gonna totally tell you that, um, first of all, total transparency.
Speaker:Anyone who knows us know that, like Travis and I went through a rough patch.
Speaker:We went through a like, are we even gonna do this anymore?
Speaker:I wanna fucking kill you.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:Which I do think that in a 20 year marriage, it's normal to have those like,
Speaker:ah, like, can we even do this moments?
Speaker:And the real test is not whether or not you have those moments.
Speaker:It's whether or not when you have those moments, you assume
Speaker:the best about the other person.
Speaker:So you start, no matter how pissed off you are, you assume
Speaker:there's no mal-intent, right?
Speaker:And then you support the other person through getting to where you wanna go.
Speaker:So the reason that I share that in advance is I can be, it's funny
Speaker:because sometimes it'll be him who does it, and sometimes it'll be me.
Speaker:But that experience that you were just sharing of like, oh,
Speaker:you're winding down the day.
Speaker:But maybe she was working, Heather's working in her silo in
Speaker:the business and, and you're working in your silo in the business.
Speaker:And Travis and I definitely have very clear silos.
Speaker:We would've killed each other a long time ago if we didn't
Speaker:have your side of the line.
Speaker:My side of the line, right?
Speaker:Like, so first of all, we have very clear boundaries and
Speaker:this is your side of the line.
Speaker:This is my side of the line.
Speaker:I will take your advice from your side of the line about my side
Speaker:of the line, but I make my final decisions because of a big ass fucking
Speaker:girl and I can make my decisions.
Speaker:And conversely, him being the tech and the AI and traffic side, I might
Speaker:have my thoughts about his side of the line and I get to express them.
Speaker:But I also have to respect that ultimately those decisions are his.
Speaker:So I would say it all starts from, if you're gonna be brave enough to be
Speaker:a couple that works together, those divisions need to be clearly aligned.
Speaker:But in answer to your question about how do I solve the problem of my head
Speaker:is still in business mode and he's like, where's my super sweet, sexy,
Speaker:hot wife who I wanna twirl around and dance and cuddle up with, right?
Speaker:Like.
Speaker:If he catches me in that mode, then it's his responsibility
Speaker:to a assume the best about me.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:So that looks like, oh, she's being a mama lion for all of our baby birds.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:So if she's being a mama lion for all of our baby birds, and there's things
Speaker:on her blonde brain that she can't put down, I need to assume the best
Speaker:about her and say she's really just looking out for our people, right?
Speaker:Or our bottom line, or, or protecting our family financially.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:So it starts with him having a good assumption about me, or
Speaker:conversely, if he's chatting about business and it's state night, I
Speaker:have to assume the best about him.
Speaker:And then we have to recognize that and ask what it's gonna take to take that hat off.
Speaker:So if I was Heather and you were doing that, then I would have to make the
Speaker:assumption that like, all right, Joe's trying to provide for the family.
Speaker:He's being super, super driven about the success of his clients, the success of his
Speaker:business, all the things she has to make, all the positive assumptions about you.
Speaker:And then she has to recognize, okay, he is still stuck in business mode.
Speaker:and then she has to take upon herself.
Speaker:I have to take upon my self.
Speaker:When I do it is like, okay, baby, you're still, your business hat is still on.
Speaker:Like there are things that are still brewing, um, that are
Speaker:in the way of us hanging out.
Speaker:And I want you, I want your big strong arms around me.
Speaker:I just want your grounding presence.
Speaker:Like for me as a woman in business, and you can ask Heather
Speaker:if this is her perception.
Speaker:I could be a whirling durvis of energy.
Speaker:And then when I am, when I get to switch gears and be feminine and soft, that's a
Speaker:very driven masculine energy to get shit done all day, make money, hit numbers.
Speaker:That's a very masculine part of my personality.
Speaker:So when I get to be with him, then I feel grounded, like less whirling
Speaker:rocket ship and more like, oh my gosh, like I can actually be soft
Speaker:and you know, like a bird flew by.
Speaker:How pretty, like I don't even notice that shit when I'm working.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:So.
Speaker:I have to look at him and I have to recognize, okay, he's, he is
Speaker:in business mode because he has the best intentions possible.
Speaker:And look at him and say, okay, you're still in business mode and I
Speaker:need my grounding, big strong man.
Speaker:What do we need to like, go through really quickly so that we can transition into
Speaker:hangout time and just be together and not talk about work, and not talk about
Speaker:our kids or our planning and, you know, paperwork and shit that needs to be done.
Speaker:Like how do we get there?
Speaker:And then it usually is, oh, okay, well there's a new ad
Speaker:campaign going out tomorrow.
Speaker:I just need to make sure you are understanding this.
Speaker:Like, you me, this done.
Speaker:Like, and then once he barfs it out, then he can put it down.
Speaker:But there's like literally something like almost tangibly in the way if, if he's
Speaker:still spinning and talking about work.
Speaker:If I am still spinning and talking about work, it's because there's a few
Speaker:things that have not been communicated between the silos and once the messages
Speaker:have been communicated to both silos.
Speaker:So both silos come home.
Speaker:One of us is communi is still in business mode.
Speaker:What communications need to happen between the silos?
Speaker:We send those messages, we get clarity on ownership, responsibility,
Speaker:accountability for handling those within a specific timeline.
Speaker:Then the silos can go back and to being individual and they can shut down
Speaker:for the night and we can be together.
Speaker:That's my thing for it, is assume the best about the other person.
Speaker:They're not doing it to be an asshole.
Speaker:They're not doing it because they don't think you're important
Speaker:because they don't value family.
Speaker:That's a bunch of stories that our ego will tell us because deep down,
Speaker:a lot of us struggle to believe that we're, we're worth having the love
Speaker:that we have in our life, right?
Speaker:So that's just a bunch of garbage.
Speaker:So if we can put all of that aside and assume the best about the person,
Speaker:and then make a way for them to download out of that mode, that's it.
Speaker:I love that.
Speaker:And that's, that's a, it's a healthy process.
Speaker:I think assumptions are a big thing.
Speaker:It's like we gotta assume.
Speaker:Albeit, you know, we're in a relationship for a reason.
Speaker:Like I'm 16 years with, uh, Heather this year, so I'm
Speaker:Congratulations.
Speaker:but we're, we're
Speaker:That's great.
Speaker:But like, you know, you know, when we, when you're with someone,
Speaker:you, you gotta assume the best, you know, in relationship.
Speaker:But that goes with your team at work too, and all these other things.
Speaker:So it's a similar mode.
Speaker:And I like what you said is almost like you have that core of assumption
Speaker:that we're all in this together.
Speaker:Like we're, we have a shared mission vision that we're all striving for, but at
Speaker:the same time, our brains are squirrely.
Speaker:They're crazy little things and we need to unload that.
Speaker:Like, so it reminds me of, uh, that book Getting things done, you know, GTD, like
Speaker:the GTD method where the first thing is basically get it outta your brain, right?
Speaker:It's like brain dump wherever you gotta do it on, on, you know, I'm
Speaker:using this app called Reflect lately.
Speaker:It's really cool.
Speaker:Um,
Speaker:Ooh, I haven't tried that one.
Speaker:Reflect,
Speaker:Reflect app.
Speaker:Yeah,
Speaker:okay.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:I'm gonna put that in my phone right now.
Speaker:Great way to sync up all your ideas.
Speaker:It's daily remind, you know, you can sync up calendars, all that fun stuff.
Speaker:And you know, it's that I do voice notes all the time too.
Speaker:But anything to just unload that shit, that might not make perfect sense,
Speaker:but it's just like a bunch of to-dos.
Speaker:'cause yeah, it could spin all, all of us out and that's
Speaker:what Heather will remind me.
Speaker:She's like, write it down.
Speaker:And so I did the same thing for her.
Speaker:It's interesting how it's flipped kind of sometimes over the years in a relationship
Speaker:too, but, uh, but you're right.
Speaker:Like once you do that, assume the best for yourself and others
Speaker:and then just unload your mind.
Speaker:Then I just feel like everything just gets a little freer,
Speaker:And you use reflect, I'll be honest, like if you don't have a fancy app,
Speaker:like sometimes I'll just open my phone.
Speaker:Pull up the next day's Google Calendar.
Speaker:Everybody has Google at calendar, right?
Speaker:So like pull up the next day's Google Calendar, find an itty bitty block, right?
Speaker:Like, and I'll write all the things that are tripping me out.
Speaker:And even if I don't solve them in that span of time, at least there's
Speaker:a breather space in my day to schedule them or have them delegated
Speaker:or whatever, and then I'm done.
Speaker:Then I can like let my hair down and be feminine and be soft and not be driven and
Speaker:like goal oriented and in business mode.
Speaker:So Yeah.
Speaker:that's my
Speaker:Well that,
Speaker:that leads to another, a con I was just thinking about was like, what are
Speaker:your daily bumpers or like, how do you make every day kind of thrive for you?
Speaker:Uh, Travis, maybe your, your whole group that you're chatting.
Speaker:Like, are there like certain bumpers that you would put on, you know,
Speaker:time-wise, are there certain activities throughout the day that you always,
Speaker:or at least you roughly have a structure for that you could share?
Speaker:Yeah, I always have a structure.
Speaker:First of all, I have to say I'm, I'm spoiled fucking rotten because
Speaker:not only do I get my Thrive Weeks, at the end of the year, I go up.
Speaker:Um, so we live at the beach and there's a beautiful like vista up at
Speaker:Cape Sessions Park near our house, and it's like a mile and it's a
Speaker:mile and a half up and back, right?
Speaker:So I take my little puff, his name is Ace, and I get to hike up there
Speaker:and I get to hike home in the morning, and then I end my day in
Speaker:time to make my favorite yoga class.
Speaker:So I have to say at, for a long time, I thought that was really selfish.
Speaker:Like, oh, I should pick one.
Speaker:Like, I should do this or I should do that.
Speaker:I shouldn't be guarding so much time for like my physical
Speaker:fitness, but I'm fucking wired.
Speaker:Like I'm wired to move fast, go hard, strong, like.
Speaker:I, uh, and maybe that's a, a rare thing for, for women, you know, or
Speaker:people might perceive that it is.
Speaker:But the more I meet people like, you know, Emma and Deb, and you
Speaker:know, I know like I'm not alone.
Speaker:There's a fucking lot of us out there that are wired to move really fast.
Speaker:And the way that I keep that on the rail.
Speaker:I think of it like this, Joe.
Speaker:I feel like all of us have so much fire inside of us, so much fire, light,
Speaker:brilliance inside of us that we all have to be realistic, um, with ourselves
Speaker:because fire, energy, anything like that, like, it's like nuclear energy, fire,
Speaker:energy, any kind of energy is powerful if it's harnessed in the right way.
Speaker:And it's deadly if it's not harnessed in the right way.
Speaker:And I notice that like I can get short with other people,
Speaker:I can bowl other people over.
Speaker:I can like, you know, I can accidentally use that fire in detrimental ways rather
Speaker:than it's a light that everyone can see their own way to their brilliant marketing
Speaker:and, and business strategy through, right.
Speaker:So my, uh, when I did journaling meditation, like honest assessments
Speaker:of my life, I was like, when I do my morning and at my evening and
Speaker:I sandwich my time between there.
Speaker:My morning gives my blood pumping.
Speaker:It lets me think out loud.
Speaker:It lets me like go, go, go.
Speaker:So that some of that fire is a little bit released physically.
Speaker:And then I can actually maintain a nice slow burn throughout the day of service.
Speaker:Like it never gets edgy or gr grungy.
Speaker:And then before I can be great mom to maverick, great wife to Travis, I
Speaker:find I need to shut everything down.
Speaker:I give my ea everything that needs to be set up for the next day, drop
Speaker:it, walk to yoga, and my walk there is where I'm shifting gears from work
Speaker:to like, okay, now I'm gonna go be in my body and then my walk from.
Speaker:It's, yeah, that's the bumper piece.
Speaker:And then walking back from yoga again, I'm blessed that I, I have a yoga
Speaker:studio, like we live in Pacific Beach.
Speaker:It has like one of the highest walkability life scores in the nation, right?
Speaker:So, um, the walk home from yoga is okay, now I took care of my
Speaker:body, my mind, I'm gonna go and I'm gonna be present with my family.
Speaker:So for me, that's what boundary my time is.
Speaker:I mean, there's other things too.
Speaker:You know, you know, I'm committed to my peptide stack, you know,
Speaker:I'm committed to healthy eating.
Speaker:You know, I'm committed to making sure there's always a social, like,
Speaker:I need my friends, I need my people.
Speaker:Like I, I'm over the, we have to do everything alone.
Speaker:It's not fucking COVID anymore.
Speaker:We need each other.
Speaker:Let's get back in harmony.
Speaker:You know?
Speaker:Um, so as long as I have my physical routine, my healthy food, my connected
Speaker:time with friends, those I would say are my like daily bumpers.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:That's beautiful.
Speaker:Thanks for breaking it out because it's, I think, uh, I don't know, we
Speaker:all live differently, but when we're in our bubble work bubble, especially
Speaker:like you said, a lot of us are working at home now because of maybe COVID or
Speaker:whatever else happened in our lives.
Speaker:I mean, I know that affected, I mean, I have two little, little, little ones, and
Speaker:they popped around COVID time, so it did put a little damper on the social life,
Speaker:but at the same time, it's getting better.
Speaker:It's getting better.
Speaker:Thank God.
Speaker:it is getting better.
Speaker:It is getting better.
Speaker:And for all the, you know, political temperature and as volatile as that is.
Speaker:I'm really finding that there's a silver lining there that like people on the
Speaker:extremes are finally going, wait a minute, red, blue, we're all red, white, and blue.
Speaker:We all want like, ample money and love and community and freedoms.
Speaker:You know, like we all kind of want the same thing.
Speaker:So I do think that even that is like, we're all just humans and
Speaker:we all just want a decent life.
Speaker:Like knock it off on both ends, like let's come together.
Speaker:So I do feel like that community piece is, is I'm seeing it resurge everywhere.
Speaker:I don't know what your experience is, but I think the divisiveness has
Speaker:finally started to hit a tipping point where they're like, wait a minute, we
Speaker:all kind of care about the same thing.
Speaker:So I'm personally an optimist and a patriot, so I believe we will find
Speaker:a way, um, to come back to a healthy middle where we all love each other.
Speaker:I'm with you.
Speaker:And you know, you have AI as another, you know, uh, something thrown into the
Speaker:MI mix there too, that, you know, it's, I guess on the service level, people can
Speaker:connect with AI and, but at the same time, what my thought is humans get even more
Speaker:important in the whole mix is community.
Speaker:That's gonna be the thing that will have a lot more value I think, over time,
Speaker:whereas tech will have a layer to it all.
Speaker:But you're right, like we need to connect with people, get in groups.
Speaker:The masterminds we're a part of together, the groups.
Speaker:I mean, like there's trust there that you can't make without
Speaker:seeing people and without spending time, you know, legitimately like
Speaker:years of time with people too,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I think so too.
Speaker:Well, joy, let's wrap up on your book, because it's not on the surface level.
Speaker:It might not hit everybody here and, and be like, oh, this is for me.
Speaker:But on a conceptual level, I think it's really brilliant.
Speaker:So tell me what it is and, uh, you know, concept and how it applies
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Um, the book is called Get Cash Pay Clients.
Speaker:Um, I think everybody would like their clients that are ready to fork over money.
Speaker:So in that way it sort of could apply to your audience.
Speaker:It's written specifically.
Speaker:So the subtitle is How Upfront Labs Create a Wildly Profitable
Speaker:Health Business With Less Work.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So the takeaway for health practitioners is, you know, they've been doing
Speaker:marketing and then nurturing and sales, and then finally enrollment
Speaker:and then they would do a lab test.
Speaker:And a lab test isn't a really effective tool of showing people something's
Speaker:wrong and something needs to be done.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:So my.
Speaker:Yeah, blood work, a hormone test, a stool test, a SIBO test.
Speaker:It's confirmation that people are like, I'm not crazy.
Speaker:There's actually something going on in my body.
Speaker:And so obviously that makes the sales conversation for
Speaker:practitioners to have people enroll into working them much easier.
Speaker:So I was like, knock that shit off.
Speaker:Pull it from the bottom of the funnel, put it at the top of the funnel.
Speaker:Now there's legal things that need to happen so that tests can be ordered to
Speaker:prospects, not patients in a legal way.
Speaker:So the book kind of covers all of that.
Speaker:Um, but how that is applicable to your audience, a much wider audience is this,
Speaker:the fundamental concept of the book is, uh, it presumes that you are no longer
Speaker:interested in growing an audience of.
Speaker:Freebie seekers, tire kickers, people who will bleed you dry for information,
Speaker:never having any intention of actually investing and taking action and being
Speaker:responsible for their own results.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:So it starts from that premise.
Speaker:And if that premise is true for you, then it shares a lot of
Speaker:digging and research that I did.
Speaker:Kurt, Molly included, to kind of investigate a little bit what
Speaker:happened, like what happened to the effective lure opt-in lead magnet?
Speaker:What happened to the effective webinar, right?
Speaker:So in, in our world, okay, we were seeing it tank and tank
Speaker:and tank and tank and tank.
Speaker:So ad costs going up, conversions going down, which means cost of client
Speaker:acquisition goes through the roof and you start to wonder, what the hell am I doing?
Speaker:Like what?
Speaker:I have this audience and this email list full of people that I'm
Speaker:lucky if I can get, you know, a, a halfway decent open rate compared
Speaker:to what I got three years ago.
Speaker:And God forbid, I actually wanted a click through rate and sales.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So it was really starting to look depressing and depressing and
Speaker:downright like morbid, right?
Speaker:And so in poking around all of my marketing friends, everyone I knew,
Speaker:I was like, Hey, it's appearing to me that the algorithms, if we think
Speaker:about the algorithms as the minions that do the work for all of these
Speaker:free platforms that we're, we're all consuming content on, okay, if it's
Speaker:free, then we are paying with ourselves.
Speaker:We are the product, okay?
Speaker:So if the algorithms are serving that whole, you know, beehive, then the
Speaker:algorithms we know are tracking all of the things that we as advertisers can pay for.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:So if you guys haven't run ads with me, just bear with me, okay?
Speaker:But if you were running ads, and if you already run them, you know this, okay?
Speaker:You can pay for video views, right?
Speaker:You can just pay for something to be seen.
Speaker:You can pay for a view, you can pay for an opt-in, right?
Speaker:You can pay for just a conversion or you can pay for a sale.
Speaker:Okay, so if we start from the premise that these algorithms that are checking
Speaker:us out and measuring our behaviors, it completely makes sense that those
Speaker:algorithms know, okay, well, Joe is a, uh, he's a content consumer.
Speaker:He'll watch videos and he'll opt into ship, but he's not the
Speaker:type to buy from this platform.
Speaker:He's gonna maybe go to Google, find it later, but Joy, she is happy to like,
Speaker:oh, she saw something that was cute from ri, she's gonna see that ad, she's gonna
Speaker:click it, she's gonna buy it today.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Then it makes sense that that algorithm is like, oh, well Joy would be a good
Speaker:person to serve up for people who actually run a, run a sales conversion.
Speaker:And Joe would be the perfect person for it to put in front of that
Speaker:opt-in for someone who just wants someone to opt into something.
Speaker:So the algorithm is probably trying to satisfy its advertisers.
Speaker:Does that make sense what
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:right.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:And they're getting smarter all the time with AI too.
Speaker:All the
Speaker:yes.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Exactly, exactly.
Speaker:I remember when Cambridge Analytica was, was, um, early
Speaker:involved with the Trump campaign.
Speaker:They were sharing that like, oh, if you had made five moves in
Speaker:the online space, they'll you more about you than your family.
Speaker:And that was decades ago.
Speaker:So can you imagine now it's probably like, oh yeah, you do two or three things.
Speaker:It knows your first born child, you
Speaker:know?
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:So assuming that we're believing the algorithms are now, we're being
Speaker:watched, our behaviors being tracked, I make the argument in the book
Speaker:that we should all now move people from these free platforms over here.
Speaker:TikTok, Instagram, meta to YouTube, whatever.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:We should go from putting out our content on these platforms.
Speaker:We have to do that to be perceived as experts.
Speaker:And then when we move them over to our online ecosphere, and when
Speaker:I say our online ecosphere, I'm talking about our CRM, right?
Speaker:This is where we take people's money, their name, their
Speaker:information, all that, right?
Speaker:So when we move people from the free world over here to our world.
Speaker:I am much more focused about having quality over here than quantity over here.
Speaker:And the filtration system that the book promotes you using is let's
Speaker:go from free content, not free webinar over here anymore, because
Speaker:that's quality but not quantity.
Speaker:Why don't we go, uh, let's say a book.
Speaker:This book is like 9 95, right?
Speaker:So for me to have from free content over here and I share a concept from
Speaker:the book and they want it, then they can go into my world in a 9 95 offer.
Speaker:What does that do?
Speaker:That gives me a whole community list world in my online ecosphere.
Speaker:Of more quality leads that are known to be buyers.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:Now, my favorite three ways of doing that, our number one is a book,
Speaker:because the cost is so low, right?
Speaker:You're going to get someone's attention for under, let's call it under 15 bucks.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:Great way to do that.
Speaker:If they're not gonna spend 15, they're not gonna spend 15 grand if that's
Speaker:what you backend offer is, right?
Speaker:And then that, and that's number one, is the book because of price point.
Speaker:Number two, if you're a practitioner, is a lab test funnel number
Speaker:three is a paid workshop, okay?
Speaker:Paid workshops can be tricky because you act, you actually have to solve
Speaker:one specific problem that your avatar has on that workshop to prove
Speaker:that your value and get shit done.
Speaker:But all of those will give you an environment of people that are buyers.
Speaker:Now that gets you money.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:It's more, it's more effective, right?
Speaker:Because you're actually making money faster.
Speaker:But here's the thing I'm really trying to do.
Speaker:I'm really trying to train the algorithm that your online content for free
Speaker:over here is trying to find buyers.
Speaker:It's trying to find the people who bust out their credit card.
Speaker:It's not trying to find your freebie seeker, tire kickers people
Speaker:who will never actually get off their ass and fucking do anything.
Speaker:And the reason that I want that is twofold.
Speaker:One, the money, right?
Speaker:I like the money track to be faster obvious.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:The second thing is, I want clients who are actually gonna be implementers.
Speaker:They're actually gonna do what we teach them to do because if they
Speaker:don't, we never get the testimonial, they never get the result.
Speaker:It's not good for anybody really.
Speaker:And so
Speaker:you're
Speaker:start, from like ground level Right.
Speaker:Indoctrinating them to your process so it's, you're not trying to recreate shit
Speaker:when they're way over here and they're
Speaker:probably resisting it.
Speaker:And then it covers like, the obvious pushback to that is,
Speaker:yeah, Joy, but there's always a place for free content valid.
Speaker:So fucking valid.
Speaker:Um, if I, if I'm gonna be on someone else's podcast, if I'm gonna be on
Speaker:a collab with someone who has a big audience, if I'm gonna be on any sort
Speaker:of summit or stage, is that a perfect environment for me to say, Hey, here's
Speaker:an opt-in and we pull 'em into the list and those people are tagged?
Speaker:One could argue, yes.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Um, and, and I think that that is perfectly valid.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:But I will be completely transparent that I'm way more elitist and
Speaker:like superior than that I'll even do on a podcast or on a CoLab.
Speaker:And I'll say, Hey, if you want this free thing.
Speaker:DM me, right?
Speaker:Go to Instagram dm me, and then I can still auto deliver that
Speaker:free thing through the dm, right?
Speaker:I can use Manny chatter if you, you go high level, you just use
Speaker:the in-house system there, right?
Speaker:So I still like the filtration.
Speaker:So me personally, my business is over the million mark.
Speaker:Like I'm not worried about it, right?
Speaker:So I would rather focus on quality.
Speaker:So even in those environments like I do, I think that's the right environment for
Speaker:people who are still growing their brand.
Speaker:For people who haven't hit their initial numbers.
Speaker:For people who are still really revenue focused, I mean, I'm still
Speaker:revenue focused, don't get me wrong.
Speaker:Like that's still a benchmark that I measure my success by.
Speaker:But even when I do that now, I would way rather be like, Hey, come
Speaker:see me over at Real Joy Houston on Instagram and DM me the word book.
Speaker:If you wanna know how to write your book, we'll pull it outta you in five
Speaker:days in Vegas and you'll get the shit done instead of waiting for a year.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:So I would do that rather than we'll go opt in over here for this webinar and
Speaker:then they're gonna think about it and then they're gonna nurture for six months.
Speaker:I'm actually conditioning those people to be the kind of person
Speaker:that drags ass on making decisions.
Speaker:And in case you can't tell, like, I'm not a really great leader for
Speaker:someone who wants to drag ass.
Speaker:I'm making decisions like
Speaker:I'm a good
Speaker:up with you then.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:They're not
Speaker:keep up.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:And you know what?
Speaker:There'll be another train that will come by the station that
Speaker:goes slower if you don't like that bullet train, you know what I
Speaker:mean?
Speaker:Like it's totally fine, totally fine.
Speaker:So the book basically addresses, Hey, here's what's happening.
Speaker:Here's how the algorithm we're working.
Speaker:It's breaks down.
Speaker:Here's the argument for leading with, if you wanna give away
Speaker:something free, do it in a messenger.
Speaker:It gives you, it opens up the sale by chat door.
Speaker:Right now you can actually see, is this person a good person?
Speaker:But when you bring them into your world, take a little bit of money.
Speaker:Like if you used to give away a book charge $5, if you used to host a webinar,
Speaker:that's actually fucking powerful.
Speaker:It has to be powerful.
Speaker:It can't be some cheesy, shitty webinar, right?
Speaker:But like if they come to a webinar that you could turn into a workshop where they
Speaker:finish one piece of it, charge $95 for that, you know, charge 45, I don't care.
Speaker:But like put a little, when people pay, they pay attention.
Speaker:Enough said.
Speaker:That's it.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And it always has been.
Speaker:So definitely.
Speaker:I love your call to action, by the way, to Instagram.
Speaker:So say that one more time, because
Speaker:I'll say
Speaker:is something
Speaker:time.
Speaker:to mention about you.
Speaker:Actually, you and Travis help pull out a book from someone, and I
Speaker:don't know, does it matter which industry they're in or, or what,
Speaker:It doesn't matter.
Speaker:The industry, what matters is, um, that you can clearly articulate the
Speaker:problem for your current audience.
Speaker:mm-hmm.
Speaker:have a proven solution.
Speaker:In other words, you have a process, a method, a protocol away, right, to
Speaker:solve that problem and that you're willing to break that down and share
Speaker:that process in the book in ways that it's a client acquisition book.
Speaker:Joe, it's not a, I was born, you know, it is not your life story.
Speaker:It's not your magnum opus.
Speaker:That's not what it's for.
Speaker:It's literally a client acquisition book.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:So if you, if you know what the problem is and you can solve the problem, and
Speaker:you have a backend offer that's ready to sell, meaning you already have your
Speaker:program, your process, your method, your pill, your magic bean, your super
Speaker:cool machine, whatever you have, if you have that offer on the backend ready to
Speaker:sell, um, and you can tell the success stories and how your process works in
Speaker:a book, then we pull it out of you.
Speaker:We basically force you to give little mini TED talks about each step in your
Speaker:process, and then we help you compile it.
Speaker:That way you're not actually typing.
Speaker:We find that something happens between the brain and the fingers.
Speaker:That slows down Authors, leaders really, you know, bright luminaries
Speaker:get slowed down by that process.
Speaker:And so if we can let luminaries just go ahead and speak about it, like talk,
Speaker:they can talk about it, no problem.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:And they can share success stories, no problem.
Speaker:And then with the power of ai, we can take what they said not to be confused
Speaker:with all these fly by night people helping like write a book with ai.
Speaker:Like fuck that noise.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:This is taking your itty bitty TED talks about the processes of what you do and
Speaker:then compiling that your own words.
Speaker:From ai, and then the cool thing is we pull it all out of you in a five
Speaker:day sprint in Vegas, you're literally sequestered in Vegas at the Aria.
Speaker:It's beautiful.
Speaker:And then on day five, Travis has this legit gangster GPT that he runs to find
Speaker:the appropriate categories in Amazon.
Speaker:So before you turn your book funnel on, you can have a soft launch on Amazon.
Speaker:You can get to number one in your category proven you pick.
Speaker:If you pick a small enough pond, you could just be a goldfish in that pond
Speaker:and you could still be number one, right?
Speaker:So he's gained that system with A GPT.
Speaker:And so we all put our information, the topic of the book, our avatar,
Speaker:all into that GBT, and it's like, it like lets us all know, here's the
Speaker:categories you're most likely to rank number one in with the fewest sales.
Speaker:It does the calculations for us.
Speaker:And so we all leave the five days with our book completed, our categories
Speaker:selected, our covers off to the designer, and we're off to the races.
Speaker:And it's happening in February.
Speaker:We do it twice a year.
Speaker:The next one is February 22nd.
Speaker:So if you want details on that, go to Instagram.
Speaker:I am Real Joy Houston.
Speaker:So at Real Joy Houston.
Speaker:And just DM me the word book and you'll see the whole details.
Speaker:It's just a private Google document because it, you know, it, it like,
Speaker:we put our heart and soul into it.
Speaker:So we only let 12, um, you know, we want 12 authors in with us at a time.
Speaker:Um, and, and we do it twice a year, so if this one's already sold
Speaker:out, there were two spots as, as of this morning that were left.
Speaker:If it sells out, we'll tell you about the next one.
Speaker:Sweet.
Speaker:No, that's, uh, I've, I've heard about the model, uh, a lot more even right
Speaker:before this, and it's, it is gangsta.
Speaker:And when it's backed by not only you but Travis, and if y'all
Speaker:don't know Travis Houston well,
Speaker:hopefully you meet him soon.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:How that guy can like, stay at the bleeding edge of like AI marketing.
Speaker:Like, I'm constantly impressed by, I mean, obviously he's my husband, so I'm partial,
Speaker:but like, just on an intellectual level, I'm like, damn, dude, you're a gangster.
Speaker:yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker:So do it.
Speaker:Go, go.
Speaker:Hit up Joy, because that is, if there's a book in you, which everybody has, I mean,
Speaker:you need someone to rip it on outta you in it with a good format and get it done
Speaker:and it's not for everybody.
Speaker:You have to have a offer because it's literally a client acquisition book, so
Speaker:you have to have an offer ready to sell on the back end or it's a waste of time.
Speaker:But everybody who's done it with us has a finished their book, and everyone
Speaker:who put the book out on Amazon has hit number one in their category.
Speaker:So that's a pretty impressive track record.
Speaker:That's pretty damn good.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I love
Speaker:Well, um, yeah, definitely go there.
Speaker:We'll put stuff in the show notes so it's easy to find you and your book as well.
Speaker:Get cash paid clients.
Speaker:Um, what's, uh, I'm, I'm curious, uh, what's like something on Thrive Week
Speaker:or, or what's something that you're looking forward in the next, I don't
Speaker:know, few months or so that you're gonna do that's, uh, yeah, like a Thrive Week
Speaker:I'm totally
Speaker:excited to this.
Speaker:Okay, well, first of all, uh, my 20 year anniversary is coming up, so I'm
Speaker:super, super looking forward to that.
Speaker:But what we're wanting to do around our anniversary is explore a place
Speaker:that we heard of through Nuno.
Speaker:Do you know Nuno?
Speaker:He's like a go high level genius.
Speaker:Oh my God.
Speaker:If you, if you just go to YouTube and search Nuno, go high level and you
Speaker:will find him, and I promise it will be your new Netflix of knowledge.
Speaker:I swear to God, he is like, so, he's so smart.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Um, but also a fucking amazing human, just a kind, amazing, just
Speaker:salt of the earth kind of person.
Speaker:And we were, he found out that we were looking at Portugal as in as
Speaker:a purchasing a second home kind of place, and he told us, oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker:All those places you're looking at are fine and dandy and everything, but how
Speaker:would you like to move to the island that is known as the Hawaii of Europe?
Speaker:And it's also the place where fiber enters Europe, so you're
Speaker:never gonna have internet problems.
Speaker:I was like.
Speaker:Sold.
Speaker:What's the, I, I feel like I was, I've
Speaker:not gonna tell you now.
Speaker:Everybody's gonna move there,
Speaker:all right.
Speaker:So offline,
Speaker:you in private.
Speaker:So, so we are gonna be doing some island exploring and, um, and we're
Speaker:gonna go there and check it out.
Speaker:So that's the thing that's like on the horizon that I'm like, you know, when
Speaker:you, when you have something coming up and, and like every dog walk or whatever,
Speaker:you're like googling it or watching YouTube videos on it, and you just get
Speaker:goosebumps when you think about it.
Speaker:That's, that's
Speaker:the thing That's
Speaker:on the horizon for me that I'm so excited about.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:Well I like the, um, I like people could do their own research, but
Speaker:I'm gonna get the intel right now.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I will, I'll tell you and Heather.
Speaker:Awesome.
Speaker:Well, hey, let's, um, this is great.
Speaker:Thank you Joy.
Speaker:And yeah, this whole Thrive Week, I mean we covered so much and here and
Speaker:also in that peptide episode from before whenever we, it was probably before this.
Speaker:Go check it out.
Speaker:Joy.
Speaker:You rock hu Uh, I was gonna try, I call Travis Houston.
Speaker:Travis, you rock too.
Speaker:You're not even here, but you totally rock.
Speaker:God damn.
Speaker:Yeah, so love you too.
Speaker:And uh, we'll keep it going.
Speaker:So
Speaker:thank you.
Speaker:Give Heather a hug for me.
Speaker:I will.
Speaker:I will.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:Bye.
Speaker:hun.