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 Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Wedding Lounge podcast.

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 Now this week we're going to talk about something that I think is quite important,

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 but is really important. All right, it is very important, but very often overlooked,

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 and that is preparing yourself for marriage. It's not just about the wedding day,

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 it's about everything else that follows afterwards, like you're spending the rest of your life

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 at this person. The whole episode is about how important the marriage is. The dash is going to

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 think it's been overlooked. I didn't mean about the episode. I meant like in general,

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 like it, you're preparing for a marriage is the wedding is the wedding start of the marriage.

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 Exactly, like it's your opening. You're not getting wedding, you're having a party.

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 No, you're having the wedding is to celebrate your marriage, and I think you know,

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 I for one definitely ever looked out when I was reading that. As soon as you get that ring on your

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 finger, you're focused on the day, aren't you? Yeah, necessarily. And I think that's just something

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 in life. I remember when I did in CT when we had Savannah, and the lady was like, so you know,

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 what are you looking forward to? And everyone was saying about having the baby those first few

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 weeks and stuff, and I said, well, that's small bit. Yeah, I said, I'm actually looking forward to

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 bringing up my children with Jamie and taking them on holidays and doing things.

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 Yeah, like throughout life. And I think that's similar. So, you know, when you find it pregnant,

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 or you're getting married, you focus on like birth, the baby, the child and bringing it to an

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 up and with them, we're getting you focused on the wedding, not the actual marriage.

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 Well, I think it can all get really lost as well. Like something can change if you let it get

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 overwhelming in the process of planning your wedding. Yeah. It can get overwhelming and you can

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 forget what your conversation really are and what you're there for, you know, you could have been

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 together for 10 years, then decide to get married and within the space of that year, everything's

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 topsy-turvy, you're arguing more, you're fighting more, you're not actually communicating with each other

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 anymore. All for this one singular day. Yeah. What about the past 10 years and how you've been as

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 a couple leader after that? And what about the next 50 years it's going to follow? That's what this

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 is just in the grand scheme of things, the day of the wedding is like the pincest percentage of

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 your relationship and your life is one day. It's one day. It's one day. It's one day, celebrate,

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 do not get me wrong, but you need to think about everything else that comes around it. And I think

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 they're quite important conversations to have when you're in debt. Yeah. And I think when we had

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 Helen Nobelon, the celebration, really, I think struck a chord of both of us when she was talking

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 about this, about, you know, she likes to talk to her couples about the marriage, you know, it's not

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 just a wedding, like great she wants to hear about their love story and make sure that's, you know,

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 portrayed in a beautiful way to their guests on the day, but it's about the couple preparing for

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 marriage. Now, we both got marriage in churches and quite often the church will hold some kind of

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 marriage prep. I don't know about you, but we had Jamie and I actually had just drinks at the

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 Vickers house one evening and I mean, we knew the Vickers sort of through my mum and it was very

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 low key and he was sort of giving us marriage advice and love me wishes now, like when you're stuck

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 in marriage with young children, but I sort of either had a bit more formal marriage, like um

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 counselling, but like just guidance. Yeah. All that I remembered what he said to her kids. Yeah.

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 He gets very large gin and tonics. And I remember the Vickers saying about like three C's

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 and marriage, I compromised communication and I still can't remember the third one, but

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 it's just having someone, you know, because how many people sit down with their parents and talk

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 about it? They don't and I think the sad reality is there's lots of our generation where it's been

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 devolved. Yes, yeah. I think we are a lot come from a lot of broken homes. And hopefully that's not

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 going to happen to all of us as well. Like I like to think about my best friend. Yeah, and we've

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 grown together and our relationship has changed so much past 12 years, but we are a team, we are a unit

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 and we do things together. Yes, we argue. Don't do me wrong, but you know, at the end of the day we've

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 always got each other's back. Yeah. And I think that is a huge part of what marriage is. And it's

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 you're right, it's a conversation you need to sit down and even if your parents are separated, maybe

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 they will still look back on the time they had together fondly and what went wrong. Yeah, I

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 see my parents separated when I was 11 and they don't say much, they were very amicable to be

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 fair and they still are, to this day, but sort of growing up, I've just picked up on things,

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 you know, they are very good at not like flagging each other up and things, but you know, and I've had

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 conversations with them about it like openly. And so I've sort of seen what went wrong for them

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 and then I'm trying to make sure that that doesn't go wrong for Jamie and I like and it comes down to

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 communicating, it came down to communicate to my parents and I think that is so key. I think I'm

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 then like gone slightly the other way and I'm like, you're over, sure. I'm like, communicate Jamie,

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 communicating my stuff. I'm like, you know, trying to get me out of the day and I'm like, we're not

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 going to leave things up to the rug like I've got to have things up and feeling. Yeah. We were given

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 some advice to never go to bed in an argument. I would love to say that Jamie agrees with that,

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 I strongly agree with that and it really bothers me because he can just fall asleep. I'm tired

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 and then that's like red flag for a bull. I'm like, well, I'm just like, this isn't important.

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 Yeah, I agree. You shouldn't go sleep on an argument. There's quite a lot of things to come back to

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 something and say, like, I don't want to fall out of you. We'll come back to this another day. Yeah,

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 exactly. Just go to bed on an argument, definitely. I think as well, there's a lot of conversations that

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 people maybe don't have until you're too far down the line. Children. Yeah. Huge one.

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 How you want to raise those children as well. Rose kind of things are quite important because

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 you need to be on the same team and on the same page schools. Yes. You know, life where you see yourself

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 spending your life, how you want to spend your money, where you want to share your money or keep

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 it separate. Yeah. There's so many conversations like that that I think they're all good ones to have.

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 fun. And then realistically, as you said, they should be dealt with before you even at the marriage.

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 Yeah, hundred. Yeah. You know, before you even get to the wedding, I remember one of the things I

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 liked about Jamie was that we've sort of been dating two months. And he was sort of asked whether I

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 wanted to have children. And I was like, well, yeah, I do. And he did. And he said, because if I

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 didn't, he would probably like ship send. You know, and that was enough for me that I knew he

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 wanted to, you know, we had that constantly been in things that we did to really, really early on.

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 And I mean, when Chris and I met, I was 19. Yeah. And we were having those conversations then,

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 because there was, because there's an eight year age gap between us. That was quite important.

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 And he said exactly the same thing. He's just like, if you weren't in a position where you wanted

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 to settle down. Yeah. Quickly and have a family soon. Yeah. It wouldn't have ever worked. Yeah.

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 Which is honest. Yeah. And there's been conversations that Jamie and I have had over the years where,

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 you know, before we got engaged and said, if that's what you want to do, then I said, like,

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 that's not what I want out of my life. So it may be with, you know, not misaligned, but, you know,

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 isn't going to match up. Yeah. Um, you know, just about, maybe one of them or not.

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 But if he wants to do that, that's, if he wanted to do that, that's fine. But I said, that's not what I've

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 You know, I don't know how farmers were. I thought, you know, the countryside, but I don't want to be tied

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 down to the animals and timing that, you know, I think I'd never kind of people have the

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 conversations farmers because if you are brought up in a farming farm, which Jamie was and you are

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 the next generation. Yeah. Like we've got to marry someone who's willing to commit to that. And

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 that's a conversation you need to have. You can't expect them to go into it. And it's like

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 thrown in at the deep edge. You're not going to see your partner for six months.

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 like with his brother and then I said, no, that's not what I want. And he's telling me this was

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 before you got. Oh, yes. He's been years and years and years. It's compromised as far. I'm like,

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 yeah, he's obviously put the question out there. He's willing to not do it because he wants to

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 be with you instead. Yeah. And we didn't want to run a farm. I think, you know, in hindsight,

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 I was definitely on the money back then. Yeah. I think when things start to get tough in your

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 wedding planning, they're the kind of things and preparing yourself for what comes afterwards.

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 Bring yourself back to that. Yeah. Because those things and talking about how exciting

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 your life is going to be after the wedding and going into the future and, yeah, you know,

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 huge Georgian's names. Yeah. It's like that. Like, oh, I want to have a boy and a girl. I want to have

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 a garden like this and XYZ. Yeah. Those aspirations, those dreams that you want to share with this person.

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 That's what all this is for. Yeah. It was about having the same sort of end goals. And I know you said,

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 you know, take a wrong week. That I argue with Jamie. It's all you argue with Chris. You know,

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 it's a great on things. We're not the same person. We don't share the exact same thoughts. But I think

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 having those fundamental things that you were talking about, like, what is important

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 But, you know, that's them. But Jamie and I in line on what is important, you know, a nice home and

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 holidays and sort of experiences of things that we value. And, you know, we both wanted to have

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 children. We both knew that we weren't going to be like living in city chasing top-end sort of

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 grid in the city. Yeah. We both knew that that wasn't a priority. We wanted to live as

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 rural as we could afford and things like that. And just, you know, things do change. Obviously,

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 people row job opportunities happen. But it's just having that basic, you're on the same

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 case. I think back to, oh boy friends, it's not, and oh my gosh, if I was still with the person I was

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 with when I left school and went to uni, I was like, don't know what he does. I was like, I can imagine

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 he lived in like, Leicestershire or something. I'm working the suit job, like, yeah. And I'm just like,

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 that's just not me. Like, I wouldn't have the bug or wouldn't have land Rover, you know, like, things

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 like that. And it's just like, you, you do change, but it's finding that person that you grow with.

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 Yes, exactly. And I think those, those conversations are so important.

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 Yeah, I have. Because it's not, it's not a short-term thing, is it? Like, you know, you can,

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 do your life in prison for murder for less? Oh, I see if you are.

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 Did you increase, have the conversation about, I mean, obviously you both met in Kent.

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 Family, Christmas family, we know, you know, people listen to the podcast before. No,

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 Christmas family Yorkshire. Your client. Did you ever have conversations about where you might

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 settle and have children? Ah, yes. And those conversations still still change, like,

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 so that's custom and things like that now. But essentially, he was willing to stay down here.

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 He had, he had the job. He had the career here. Yeah. And he had a good base of friends.

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 So he'd already in his head made the move. Yeah. And was based down here. So it wasn't everybody.

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 And I think he'd been down here. So he'd been down here six years before we'd met. Yeah. So he's very

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 established. He had like a real solid foundation. I mean, we still talk about it now. We still talk

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 about, you know, would we ever move up to Yorkshire and things like that? Like, we do still have that

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 conversation. But it's more of a case of if the time was right. Yeah. And rather than, but,

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 and there was a moment where we could have moved. And we had those discussions. And he was very

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 much like, no, I'm not. I don't want to move. Yeah. So we have them. We talk about it. Yeah.

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 question of taking me back up to Yorkshire. Yeah. Um, I have got, I mean, we've got friends who they met.

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 They met at Henley Regatta. And he's from Peterborough. So South. He called Peterborough South.

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 Wow. It's Midlands. He's now crying. Anything above the M4 is North for me. Yeah. All right. Yeah.

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 She's from Peterborough. Um, she was at Union, Canterbury. He was from the Scottish borders. Yeah.

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 Farmer. So it's kind of like, you know, that from the off, they kind of have those discussions.

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 quite early on. Yeah, definitely. And I think certain, you like to hope the people have had

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 these conversations before they get engaged. Well, yeah, this is, this is the point. We're talking about

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 marriage prep for couples who are engaged. But yeah, these sorts of things should have been

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 on the radar from the very beginning. And if they're not on the radar, then maybe they're the

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 conversations you should be having just now before you pay deposits. Exactly. Check you are alive.

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 Yeah. And also to bring it back to what this is really about at the end of the day. Like, you

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 know, you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. You love them dearly. Yeah.

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 You're going to love them for forever. Yeah. Yeah. And I think having those key things aligned,

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 and you know, we keep saying people change, people grow. Yeah. But it's making sure you're aligned.

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 If you're not aligned to start with, you're hardly likely to suddenly change, grow and

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 no, align. But like, if you're growing, growing together. I think for a lot of couples that get married,

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 that growing necessarily get married in a church. I'm not sure about other religious buildings,

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 another religious ceremonies, but we're registry office. They just check your free and willing. Yes.

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 Like, there's no, no support, no, nothing around it. And actually, maybe it's something that needs to

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 be there for more couples when they're going through this journey. Like, they're going to get some

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 counseling and marriage. And oh, no, don't. What are you going to say? I had an email from like,

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 not a boss lawyer or someone. It was someone like that. And I think they emailed a few other

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 planets because it came up on one of our Facebook groups about some of approaching people saying

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 about offering marriage counseling before. And it got quite a negative review from response. Sorry.

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 Actually, I think why not have the tools in your toolkit to sort out any problems before the

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 problems come? Yeah. You know, why not have those conversations with the professional work out how,

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 you know, because we're all different. We all have different love languages, different ways

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 of communicating. Yeah. My services do not a lot. No, we don't either. We don't either. And I just think

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 having someone externally just give you some tips on me how to sort of just Jamie,

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 Jamie's up to just me. So that we're and how to focus things. Yeah. Real, real concerns in your life.

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 Yeah. If you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, you've got to work out how to work.

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 It's good work. And you've got to put work. It doesn't just happen like it's not, it's not an easy ride.

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 It's a bloody roller coaster. Like, no, you have problems, but you've got to work through them.

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 talent because they've got one small hard part where it's actually you can work through it together

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 and grow from that experience. Yeah. And definitely. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Everyone was all the other

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 planners with all that's negative. But I think it's realistic. I'm very much a realist. And I think

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 that actually, I think in hindsight, it would be nice to have because once you're in the marriage,

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 you're in the thick of it. Young children. Yeah. But I think, you know, just to have a little bit more

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 sort of in your tool kit to work together through things. Yes. Why not do it? So if you, you know,

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