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welcome to the Elevated Edit podcast

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I'm your host Blakely Ramsey

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and the goal of this podcast is to discuss all things

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personal development wellness

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and the art of editing your life in an elevated way

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from mastering morning routines

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to mastering your mindset

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we're going to sift through the noise

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and empower you to take elevated action

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make sure you catch the show notes for all the details

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enjoy the show

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hello everyone

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and welcome back to another episode of the Elevated

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so I was brainstorming topics the other night

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and with fall officially here

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so as of this recording it is officially Fall 2024

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and the cozy season being right around the corner

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I knew I had to talk about

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something that I have been leaning into

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a lot lately

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and that is Jomo or the joy of missing out

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now I know we've all heard of FOMO

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the fear of missing out but today

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we're flipping that on its head

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and for me I am someone personally

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who has never really experienced FOMO

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in the traditional sense

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I have always loved being at home

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but one thing I Learned about myself is

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even when I'm at home I am still going 90 to nothing

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and so

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trying to slow myself down

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and actually enjoy missing out

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and actually be at peace about missing out

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and actually be in my home

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and do things that are calming and relaxing

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as crazy as that sounds that is something that is very

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very difficult for me and so

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I don't feel the need to be everywhere

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or do everything I know

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that is a big pressure that a lot of people carry

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especially in 2024 with all of the

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all of the social media channels we have

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everyone is always posting about all of the fun and

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exciting things that they're doing

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I will say I do sometimes um

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get a little FOMO when I see people have these like

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amazing dinners um

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I do miss out on things that people eat

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but other than that I love being at the house

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um but yes

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we're gonna talk about drama today

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we're gonna talk about the joy of missing out

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and we're gonna talk about being able to actually like

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slow down enough and be present in the moment that okay

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you've set your boundaries

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and you now have some free time

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but now

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we're gonna lean into actually enjoying that free time

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and actually you know

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experiencing that Jomo or the joy of missing out

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and like I said for me

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Jomo has become almost second nature

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okay I've got a pause really quick

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because Jomo just doesn't roll off the tongue

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like FOMO does so I'm sorry if it gives you all the ick

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like it gives me

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I didn't really realize it until just now

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when I'm recording this episode

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but Jomo

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it just doesn't sound great

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I'm gonna say The Joy of Missing

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Out and then

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we'll rethink the title of the episode later on

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huh I told you all that

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this was not going to be a perfect podcast

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and certainly a chant uh

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but anywho

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I genuinely love waking up on a Sunday morning

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and seeing what everyone else

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the night before

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and feeling zero desire to have been a part of it

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it's never been about avoiding people to me

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it's just truly been about like

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enjoying the space I've created for myself

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and a couple of months ago

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you know when I started really implementing boundaries

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well I guess it's been about a year now

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when I started implementing boundaries

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and saying no to a lot of things

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I took a lot of things off of my plate

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I did have more time at home

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but what I realized was I replaced all of

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the activities

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and events that I was doing out of the house

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with things that I was doing in the house

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so I was constantly staying busy at home

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I was constantly working on projects

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I still was not allowing myself to rest

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that is something that I've really kind of honed in on

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the last couple of months especially

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and something that I really wanna focus on

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in this fall season coming up

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is really having that joy of missing out

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and just being at home being gentle with myself

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and enjoying doing nothing or doing

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you know the fun goofy

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silly things that I like that aren't productive

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which scientifically can be argued

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because technically

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doing fun and creative things is productive

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because it sparks your creativity

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but we're not gonna go down that road today

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we're gonna stay very

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very in line with the podcast outline

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which is y'all know

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not my strong suit

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but for me there is something incredibly

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comforting about having a quiet evening

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with a good book and my husband and my cats

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like that is my version of happiness

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and right now in the season

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I am relishing that stillness and that calm

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in a world where I do feel like

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we're constantly being pushed to be busy

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I found that moments where I'm doing literally nothing

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or actually where I am most at peace

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and I think so often we think that missing out

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means we're not living life to the fullest

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but I see it differently you know

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for me

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missing out means I'm choosing the present moment

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the one I'm actually in

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over any external pressures to be somewhere else

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and in that present moment

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I have found a lot of joy

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whether it's setting in my recliner on a Saturday night

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or going for a walk in the morning

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which are two things I absolutely love doing

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two things a couple of years ago

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I probably would not have done

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because I thought they were a waste of time

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but now I've Learned to enjoy the space

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I'm in without needing to fill it up

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it's been about being content with where I am

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where I am instead of constantly wondering

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if I'm missing out on something

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if there is something better that I need to be doing

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or my biggest advice

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if there is something more productive

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that I need to be doing in that time

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and when I think of Jomo

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it's not just about saying no to events

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or social outings

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it's about fully leaning into whatever makes me feel

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grounded and happy and fulfilled in the moment

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and for me

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that is a lot of quiet time and a lot of alone time

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and I know the thought of that

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like freak some people out

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because we don't wanna set along with our thoughts

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often

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but that is something I've been doing a lot of in 2024

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is sending along with my thoughts

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and it has not been fun but it has been really pivotal

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and I think that it's been huge

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that is something that I would encourage you to do

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if it's something that freaks you out and terrifies you

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that's probably a sign that you really need to do it

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cause I was in the same boat

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um I needed noise all the time

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like if I wasn't busy or if I wasn't working

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I had to have a TV on

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I had to have music on like loud music

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loud TV and the past couple of months

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I've set in a lot of silence and like I said

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it has not been fun but it has been very grounding

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it has kind of

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opened my eyes to some things that I needed to work on

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something that I would definitely recommend

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um but all that aside

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here's the thing

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I have come to realize that having space in my life is

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not something that I need to apologize for

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or feel guilty about you know

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like I said I was someone who if I had downtime

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I felt like

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I needed to be filling it with something productive

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so if I had down time

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I needed to be reading a enlightening book

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I needed to be watching a TikTok

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I needed to be taking a class

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you know I was very like okay yes

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I'm home and it's Saturday night and have nothing to do

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so that means I need to do these 20 things

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versus just letting myself set and be still

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and actually rest um

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and so that is something that I have started

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actively enjoying

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I have given myself space and room to think and create

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and rest and just be

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and I found that when I have that space

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I'm actually more energized

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I'm more creative and I'm more present

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when I actually do choose to engage with others

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and the joy that comes from knowing

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I'm not missing out on anything

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I'm actually gaining something incredibly valuable

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and that is peace and presence

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and I have noticed that like

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ever since I've started leaning into

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enjoying missing out when I do go out with friends

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when I am with other people

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I can be a lot more present

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I can enjoy it a lot more

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because I'm showing up as my best self

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I'm not showing up as

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this is one more thing I have to do

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you know like

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you get to the end of the week

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and you're so burned out

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and you haven't been at home the last four weekends

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and all you wanna do is lay down the couch

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and do nothing

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but instead you have to go out and make social

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you're not showing up as your best self

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and you're probably not gonna

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like have the highest energy that you can

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versus when I actually allow myself to really rest

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really do nothing then when I go do the social things

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I'm enjoying talking to people

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I am having enlightening conversations

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I have things to talk about

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like I'm actually an interesting person

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because I have hobbies I've

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I'm listening to new music

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I'm doing you know

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things that really light me up

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and I'm giving myself a chance to slow down

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and be creative and get that rest

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so that when I do go back out into the world

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I am showing up as a better person

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and one of the greatest joys of missing out is that you

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get to experience life on your own terms

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you get to slow down breathe

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and soak in the little moments that

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I think are often overlooked

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when we're rushing from one event to the next

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now I know for some people

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the idea of missing out can come with a bit of guilt

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I think we've been conditioned to think that

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we always need to be busy

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we always need to be on the go

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we always need to be saying yes to everything

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but what I found is that the more I embrace jumbo

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the less I feel guilt

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and the space I've created in my life is where I find

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joy I don't feel pressure to fill it

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just for the sake of being busy

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instead I look forward to quiet moments

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I have really looked forward to my restful weekends

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and I look forward this is probably my favorite thing

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I look forward to mornings where I don't feel rushed

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I don't have to pee anywhere

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I don't have to do anything

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nobody needs anything for me other than

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you know my family that's right in front of me

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that needs things for me

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but nobody outside of the house needs anything for me

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and for me that is such a good feeling

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I try to stay away from my phone

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I don't look at my email first thing in the morning

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on the weekends

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and I really just give myself the chance to actually

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rest and I think that that's key

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you know recognizing that

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the space isn't something that I need to justify

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like it's something that I need to savor it

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something that I need to you know

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really enjoy and it's something that I think before

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I always was like okay

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well I'll rest tonight

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but I've got to get these 20 things done

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at the house first and then I can rest

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and now it's like no

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you can just

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you can rest just because you're a human being

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and that's naturally what you're supposed to do

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and that kind of mindset shift has really been

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it's been huge for me um

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but what is interesting is that

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in these moments of missing out

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I have actually found some of my greatest growth

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and the time that I spend in stillness

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is when my best ideas come to life

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um when I am not bogged down with plans

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or when I'm not bogged down with

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overwhelming situations or social commitments or

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you know whatever it is

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I have the mental clarity and the freedom to create

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and think deeply and to plan for the future

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and so for me

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the joy of missing out isn't just about resting

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it's about using space to nurture myself and

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you know whatever that looks like

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if I'm nurturing myself creatively

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or emotionally or mentally or

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you know

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the abundance of things that I could be nurturing

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um but I found that my best

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my best self

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shows up

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when I have the time to recharge and reconnect

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with what truly matters to me

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and I think the beauty of Jomo as well

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is that it allows you to find joy in the simple

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everyday moments it's a

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you know quiet cup of tea in the morning

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it's a slow walk it's

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you know an evening spin and silence with a good book

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it's in those moments that I feel the most present

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and the most at peace and I found for me

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um I used to always make myself feel like

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I needed to be busy all the time

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and so in turn

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I looked for ways to be busy all the time

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and so I would be

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say it was 7:00

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and me and will were about to

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sit down and watch a movie

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a year ago I would have been like

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oh no I have to

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I can't spend

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cause we go to bed at 9:00 most of the time

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I would be like I can't

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I can't do nothing for two hours

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it's the middle of my work week

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and so I would open my email

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well of course

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if I open my email

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I'm gonna find something that needs to be done

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cause typically if I'm checking my email at 7:00

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something has come in since 4 or 5:00

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when I last checked it

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and so then I would go down a spiral of oh

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I've gotta take care of this I gotta work on this

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I gotta do that now I just let myself enjoy that space

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there's a high likelihood that

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whatever was in that email

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could have waited until the next day

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I mean nobody is needing me at 7

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8:00 o'clock at night if they do

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they're texting me they're calling me

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but I was self sabotaging

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because I

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didn't think I deserve to enjoy

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that two hours of nothingness

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and so

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I would open my email and I would create a catastrophe

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a catastrophe for myself that I then had to go

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quote unquote solve

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and I could enjoy that two hours with my husband

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and so now

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I am trying to just soak in the joy of missing out

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and missing out on the noise in the hustle

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this has been a hard lesson

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but I've Learned that

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that doesn't mean missing out on life

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it can mean embracing life just in a different way

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and I have found that

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it means embracing life on my own terms

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and for me that is where the true joy lies

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you know it's in the quiet moments

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where I feel connected to myself

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and I feel connected to my purpose

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and what I'm actually supposed to be doing

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and working on um

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prime example is the podcast

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you know the podcast grew from a place of rest

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the podcast actually

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I came up with the idea for the podcast

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when we were in Colorado this last year

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and I will say

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that was one of the best trips I've ever been on

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because it was truly so relaxing

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we did nothing um

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you know the first day was kind of busy

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we went to you know

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we went sightseeing but after that

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I'm not joking we were so lazy for the whole week

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we would sleep in we would get up

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well sleeping for me was 6:00

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I'd sleep in then we would go get breakfast

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and we'd usually come back and take a nap

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and then we'd wake up from our nap

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and we'd go into town and like

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do a little shopping or whatever it was

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and then we'd eat lunch

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and then we go back and we go for a walk or we

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you know drive to a park and go for a hike

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and then we eat dinner and then we would get dessert

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and then we go back and go to bed early

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I mean I'm not joking

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we did nothing but a week of doing absolutely nothing

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it did I think personally

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that it gave my mind a chance to like

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completely slow down and kind of let some of the ideas

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and some of the thoughts that I had been thinking

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really kind of bubble to the surface

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and transform into actual

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tangible ideas that I could create an action list for

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and use elevated action to

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don't use elevated action to actually bring to life

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and like I said

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that is literally where the podcast came from

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we came back from vacation the beginning of June

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and by the beginning of July

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I kind of had that outline for the podcast ready to go

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um so it happened that quickly

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and I feel like

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this podcast is something that I've been sitting on for

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probably a couple of years

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I knew I wanted to be doing something

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but I had been so busy saying yes to all these things

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and yes many of them I wanted to do

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but I was saying yes to a lot of things

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too that I felt obligated to say yes to

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and so that is what I've been working on

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you know is just kind of letting go of the guilt

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so it comes in phases initially

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I had to let go of the guilt

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of letting other people down

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and now

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I'm having to let go of the guilt of having time off

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and resting and doing nothing

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um it's definitely a work in progress

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but we are trucking right along

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and I'm hoping

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and I'm betting that many of you can relate to that

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because I think that is kind of

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mindset that so many people are in right now is

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you know

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we had the pandemic and we were forced to stay at home

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and then and I didn't enjoy that at all

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there was no joy of missing out for me in 2020

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and then we came out of the pandemic

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and thanks for checking back up

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and it was like

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of course you said yes to absolutely everything

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and so my calendar was I'm not joking

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you so packed to now

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I feel like everybody's kind of feeling that burnout

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like we're collectively burnout um

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we're also mentally burnout because of social media

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and the media

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and all the things that are happening right now

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and so it is hard to lean into the joy of stillness

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and the joy of missing out

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and the joy of doing nothing

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so I hope that this episode has inspired you to

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start small you know

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maybe spend 30 minutes this weekend doing nothing

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but let yourself really enjoy it

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and like

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if you catch yourself having that thought of like

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oh no I need to get up and I need to be busy

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and I need to do something

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maybe just set it for a minute and go

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do I actually need to be doing something right now

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or can I just take a 15

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30 minute break and do nothing for myself

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um and I

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hopefully you will give yourself some Grace

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and you will allow yourself to enjoy that

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um so that's that's it

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that's it for today's episode on Jomo

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The Joy of Missing Out like I said

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um today's episode

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sorry I just completely broke um

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I hope this encourages you not to just set boundaries

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but to truly enjoy the space you create in your life

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don't know what just happened

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it's like my voice just kind of ran for

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on its own for a second um

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it really is

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I said this to someone the other day and like

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it's amazing to me that I'm allowed to have a podcast

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like first off the fact that I'm allowed to be an adult

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um I have a lot of personal freedom

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and the majority of the time

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I don't really think about it

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but occasionally I will think about it and I'm like wow

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I can literally do whatever I wanna do

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but I'm also fully responsible for myself

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um and then there's people out there that have children

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I mean

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y'all are responsible for keeping other people alive

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you need a huge pat on the back for that

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um I'm barely making it over here with these cats

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not kidding y'all know they run the house

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they are definitely well taken care of

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okay we're getting back on track

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like I said I hope this episode encourages you to

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not just set boundaries

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but to truly enjoy the space you create in your life

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don't feel pressure to fill it with more business

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or more noise instead

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just savor the quiet savor the calm

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and enjoy the joy

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that comes from missing

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out on the things that don't serve you

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and remember you deserve to enjoy life at your own pace

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so take time to be present

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take time to rest and take

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time to soak in the moments that bring you peace

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and bring you happiness and as usual

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thank you so much

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for tuning into this episode of The Elevated Edit

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if this episode resonated with you

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I would love for you to share it with a friend

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or leave a review and as always

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let me know how you are embracing Jomo in your own life

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I would love to hear all of your stories

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until next time

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take care and I'll see you in the next episode

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thank you for tuning in to the Elevated Edit podcast

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I hope you found today's episode inspiring

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and full of actionable tips

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don't forget to check out the show notes

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for all the resources and links mentioned

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if you enjoyed the show please subscribe

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leave a review and share it with your friends

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and inspiration until next time

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keep growing glowing and elevating your life

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see you soon.