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Hey everyone.

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Welcome to the As Graph Show.

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Today we're tack on a topic that's close to all of our hearts, and that's money.

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Now, I've heard a lot of things about what the Bible says about money.

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You know, stuff like money's the root of all evil.

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Or maybe if you're wealthy, God must be blessing you.

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But honestly, those are some.

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Pretty simplistic takes on a complex subject.

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So today we're gonna dig deep and look at some surprising truths that might just

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change the way you think about wealth.

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Specifically, we're gonna explore 11 surprising things.

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The Bible actually says about wealth.

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I recently put together a blog post and I thought it was so

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important to share this with you.

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Also, buckle up because we're about to explore some powerful scriptures that go

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way beyond those common misconceptions.

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And here's a spoiler alert.

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I'm also gonna tell you about some exciting changes coming to the Daily Show.

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Well, Craig, let me start by welcoming everyone to the show.

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And Craig, thank you for joining me today.

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I really appreciate you joining me.

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It's great to be here, Ralph.

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let me share some information about Craig, 'cause sometimes I forget to do this.

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Craig is actually a professor.

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He also has two excellent podcasts, one of which is AI goes to College, and the

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other is Live Well and flourish.com.

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I would highly recommend that you check out both of those

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because they are very insightful and great pieces of information.

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So I wanted to start by talking.

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I'm sorry, Craig, did you have something to say?

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I apologize.

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I was just saying thank you, that's all.

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Oh, no, you're very welcome.

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And I wanted to start by telling everybody where this show's going.

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Now, it's not really gonna impact the, the live show, but what I've decided

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to do on the Daily Show is I decided that it's gotten too long and that

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was never my intention to talk for an hour or, or even a half an hour.

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So I've been working on kind of refining the message a little bit.

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So I wanna let everybody know that starting this coming Monday, you're

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gonna see shorter daily shows.

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I'm gonna really try to drill down on.

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One specific topic, and I'm gonna provide you with an achievable goal.

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I thought like, have I, as I looked at the show, it was just to be too much.

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It's really gotten to be too much.

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So I wanted to just let everybody know that that's the plan.

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So I'm gonna give you one achievable goal, and then I'm gonna give you a practical

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tip each day to achieve that goal.

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Now, one of the other things I'm looking to do is I'm looking to

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launch another weekly podcast.

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Yeah.

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Like I don't have enough on my plate already, but I'm thinking about doing

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another weekly show because I have a lot of clients that are small business people.

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So I'm toying with the name.

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Ask Ralph your Christian accountant, but.

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Be on the lookout for that because I'm gonna be making some

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announcements about that soon.

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But it's going to be a weekly show or maybe go into it a little

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deeper into the area of accounting and finance, that sort of thing.

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So, and, and like I said, I'm even looking at maybe, and just this is just a, maybe,

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maybe doing a live show for small business owners as well, but I would really love to

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hear your feedback and your ideas on that.

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The easiest way to do that is to just go to, just ask ralph.com.

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Let me know your thoughts.

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Well, now let's get to today's topic.

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I'm sorry, Ralph, I'm guessing that's coming after tax season?

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Yes, that's definitely gonna come after tax season because right now it's insane.

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Craig, I, I don't know what happened, but like I, I guess April 1st came around

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and everybody decided, you know what?

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I guess it's time to do my taxes.

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And unfortunately, or fortunately, I guess you can look at it both ways.

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My calendar has been booked up solid for a month now and you know, we've been

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telling the clients, listen, if you want to get on Ralph's book, it is really

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important that you get on there soon.

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So, um, I think that's really just an important thing, but it's

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definitely one of those things that we've had to, had to work on.

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So the big question today is what are these 11 surprising things

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the Bible reveals about wealth?

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So that's gonna be my aim today.

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It's gonna be, our aim today is to look to give some financial tips.

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Now it's, it's to reinforce how our faith and finances are completely intertwined.

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See, the Bible offers profound wisdom that should really shape not only

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our spiritual lives, but also how we think about how we handle our money.

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We wanna see financial freedom that is rooted in our faith, and that's

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really the point of why I do this show.

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And so I wanna start off with the first thing and this one.

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Might seem, they might like sting a little bit, and that's the first surprising

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thing, and that is wealth can actually be dangerous to your spiritual health.

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Remember what Mark 10 25 says, it's easier for a camel to go through the

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eye of the needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God.

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And see, at that point, Jesus was talking to the rich, young ruler, right?

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A guy who had it all but couldn't let go.

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It's not that money is evil.

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But the pursuit of it can distract us from what truly matters.

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So I gotta ask this question, Craig, and you know, we can have this discussion

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right now, is how often do we find ourselves chasing more and more and

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more and forgetting about chasing God?

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What are your thoughts on that, Craig?

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Yeah, it, uh, I think you're spot on there.

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Our wealth becomes part of our view of self-worth.

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Um, you know, we, we count, um.

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Are worth by our bank accounts, which is not a good way to live.

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And I think we just get way too attached to wealth as well.

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And I know you're gonna get into that more here in a little bit, but, um,

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but it's that, that's, that's a verse that's always confused me a little bit.

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Uh, when I was a kid, I was picturing the eye of a literal needle, and

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I guess that's not what it is.

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It was a gate in Jerusalem.

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Exactly.

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But, but still it's, um, that's a confusing one for me.

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So is it bad to be wealthy?

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I don't think that's what the Bible's saying there.

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You know, and I think that that's the way you have to look at money

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is not necessarily good nor bad.

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It's a tool.

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And I think that, I talk about that on the show all the time.

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It's really a question of how do you use that tool.

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You know, I, I've used this analogy before, if you are a carpenter,

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you're gonna use a hammer.

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And if you use the hammer correctly.

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You can build beautiful things.

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You can make beautiful homes and businesses and all that sort of thing.

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Now, if you take a hammer and start bashing stuff with it, well

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obviously that's not its intended use.

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And I think that's the way we have to look at money as well.

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Craig.

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So I, I agree with you.

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That is a contradictory thing and, and I think it's really

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hard to, to measure that.

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And if anybody's in the chat, if they wanna chime in any comments,

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we'd be happy to take them.

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So lemme move on to 0.2, which kind of goes along lines of what

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Craig was talking about that, and it's basically the, the idea here

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is God may bless you with wealth.

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See, on the flip side of what we just talked about, the Bible also says

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that God may bless you with wealth.

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Look at Proverbs 10 22.

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It tells us this.

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It says, the blessing of the Lord brings wealth without pain,

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without painful toil for it.

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So it's not that wealth is inherently bad.

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Again, you hear these contradictory type things in the scripture.

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You hear about, you know, the pursuit of evil and all this kind of stuff.

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But it can be a blessing.

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But I think here's the key you have to take into consideration.

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We gotta recognize that God is the source of that.

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It's not about our own hustles alone.

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I, I say this on the show all the time.

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It's about his provision.

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It's his, you know, I, I get some hate mail sometimes when I say

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this on the show, Craig, but I say.

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It's not yours to begin with.

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And that really is a stumbling block for people.

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And you know, that's one of the things that we have to

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really take into consideration.

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It's, it's the provision he's given us.

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And when you finally come to a point where you can accept that, the thing

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I think is awesome about that is it.

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Actually allows you to live more fully because then you're not so worried

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about, you know, what you're pursuing.

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Because listen, and I've, I've found this in my own life, as I've gotten

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older, the things that really were interesting to me when I was younger

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just aren't quite as interesting now.

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And you know, not, not that I don't like nice stuff, and I'm

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by no means saying to anyone.

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Don't have nice stuff, but I think you have to recognize how you manage it.

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And what I, what I put here to talk about today is it should

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lead to gratitude and stewardship.

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That's really what it comes down to.

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What do you think, Craig?

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you, you should own your things, your things shouldn't own you is, I think

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another way to say what you just said.

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Uh, you know, it also gets down to attachment.

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I think that's a theme that I hear running through a lot of this is

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we get so attached to our stuff, so attached to our, our money, our,

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the numbers in our bank account.

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And, and that's just a recipe for disappointment ultimately.

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It really, it really is.

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And I, and I think that's the sad part.

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I think we live in a society where people are so measured and by what

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they have and you know, the problem is all, you know, I say this to my wife

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all the time, we've been very blessed.

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Something could happen tomorrow that we lose everything.

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And if your self-worth and everything you have is tied up into that belief

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that, well, it's about how much is in my bank account, or it's about how

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much is in my investment portfolio, or this big house, well, guess what?

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You know, I know Mark's in the, in the, in the chat today, mark.

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Mark talks about practical prepping.

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And guess what?

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There are scenarios where your house gets rolled over by a hurricane or a tornado.

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Well, if that was what was.

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Your, if that's what was your measurement.

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Now all of a sudden your house is gone.

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Like, are, are you worthless now?

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And I think that's what you're getting at Craig, is that we, we

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tie so much up into what I call the, you know, the highlight reel.

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You know, what do you have, you know, let's, let's put

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these pictures on Facebook.

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Let's, let's put these pictures on Instagram and all the other social

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media things that we, we fail to think about it sometimes at the real core

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of that is what are you doing with

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those things?

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Well, and there's a, there's a thing I think I might've mentioned

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before called hedonic adaptation.

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I know that's a big fancy PhD word, but basically it means that I, if

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you want to satisfy yourself through pleasure, like through owning things,

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it lasts a very short period of time.

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And then you, that shiny new thing isn't shiny anymore.

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And it's not new anymore.

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And then you want the next shiny new thing and they call it the hedonic treadmill.

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You're just constantly trying to keep up with that little dopamine

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rush when you get, you know, a new vehicle or, or a new whatever, a new

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pair of shoes, whatever it might be.

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And that's, it really is just a treadmill.

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You never get anywhere.

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And I think wealth can be the same way.

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You know, that you, you get that raise and you feel really good

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about that for a little while.

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And then that wears off and you need that next thing and that

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next thing and that next thing.

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And if, if that's what you're feeling, you're thinking

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about wealth in the wrong way.

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Absolutely.

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It's Craig, and you just set me up for the number three point.

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Fantastic job.

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And the third point is this.

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Here's a sobering thought.

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That's right.

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Here's a sobering thought.

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Wealth is temporary and Proverbs 23, 5 says Cast, but a glance at

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riches and they are gone for they were surely sprout wings and fly off.

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The sky like an eagle.

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Well, think about that.

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You know, we really, we under, we need to think about that.

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Material possessions vanish.

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The market crashes, things break and circumstances change.

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I. And I think that's why.

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And what does that mean from a financial perspective?

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I think that means we need to think about how these things are influencing

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our long-term planning and we need to start to prioritize eternal

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investments over those temporary ones.

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And that's really where you were going with that, Craig.

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I, I think about so many people that invest in those things that

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they could go away tomorrow.

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You know that car.

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It's great when you go, you know, I just bought a H three Hummer ev, I

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said, I'd never own a ev but I saw this thing and I said, I gotta have

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this, this thing is cool, right?

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But you know, when you drive it off the lot, it's new.

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It's, it doesn't have any dings in it.

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There's no, there's no bumps.

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There's no bruises.

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And, and you think about, oh, this thing is fantastic, but.

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If you're gonna put it on the road, guess what's gonna happen like on

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the way home from the car dealership?

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Here's a great example.

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You know, down here where we live at night, now the bugs

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are starting to come out.

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So we we're at the dealership and this thing is all shined up.

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I mean, this thing looked fantastic.

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S sparkling.

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Why?

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As I'm driving home, I'm here, boom, boom, and I get to the house

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and man, the whole front windshield is covered with bug juice Now.

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If I had measured my value on how beautiful this vehicle is or, or

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how clean it was, right, just the natural driving from point A to point

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B just totally destroyed that view.

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And I think you have to look at your wealth the same way you have to look at

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it, that what's important in eternal, you know, in eternality as as a big word

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to use, but eternally what's valuable.

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It's so easy to put our value in those temporary ones.

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Yeah, ab absolutely.

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Um, and I was wondering how many, uh, Teslas you can put

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in the back of that Hummer.

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It's pretty big.

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I think,

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you know, it's funny, Craig, 'cause I had a H two back in the day

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and those were like the big, you know, the hogs on the, on the gas.

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Well, so when I went to, like I said, I've never been a big EV person,

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so I'm learning all about this.

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It's really kind of cool.

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But here's the cool thing about this, right?

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I'm, I'm not a car guy, so I'm gonna be on, it has 835 horsepower.

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So it, which is just amazing, insane.

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So then I, it has this mode called launch mode.

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Okay?

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So you sit down in the car and you push a couple buttons, and this

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is, this is cool, I think, right?

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So you put it in this launch mode and it goes zero to 90 in five seconds.

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Goodnight.

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Yes.

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And you know, and, and from what I understand now, it's all

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about these batteries because it doesn't have a combustion engine.

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And so it has three motors in it and this thing just takes off.

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But here's the problem.

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It all runs on electricity, so you can watch that meter of electric

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go woo as it just drops out.

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And I'm, yeah, so I'm learning all about that, but it's been an interesting thing.

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But, uh, you know, it just, it doesn't have that same flash, you know, a

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year from now or two years from now.

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And if, and if that's what we're defining our success in, boy

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we are really gonna be in for a disappointment in the future, aren't we?

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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Yep.

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Which gets me to point number four, and this is kind of what

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we started to talk about and this is kind of what the teaser is.

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I brought the show in and that is the love of money.

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And you know, the love of money is the root of evil.

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I've heard this so many times, Craig, I'm sure you've heard it too.

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And this is one that is often misquoted.

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And this is what it says.

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It says, and this comes directly from first Timothy chapter six, verse 10.

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It says this, for the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.

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And if you read it, you're like, okay, well money is bad, money is evil.

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But the thing you've gotta do is look at the context of

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that, what it's really saying.

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It's not money itself.

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Money itself, like I've said at the beginning of the show, is a tool.

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It's nothing more than a carpenter's hammer or a plumber's wrench,

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but the love of it, that's where it becomes that problem.

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That's the unhealthy attachment.

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That's where the problem is.

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So we have to ask ourselves, you know, how can we guard our

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hearts from that cur, you know?

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Uh, Craig, have you ever felt that yourself?

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Like, and what have you put into practice, sort of guard your heart from that?

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Well, I, I try to remember that money is only one form of wealth.

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You know, there, there's a lot of other more enduring forms of wealth

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that are more worth pursuing.

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I mean, I, I like money, I like having nice things like most people

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do, but, um, it's when money makes you stray from the right path.

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That that's when I think that's the point of that verse.

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So it's not, it's the love of money and the fact that it makes

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you stray from, from the path that God intends you to be taking.

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And so I, I try to just always circle back to, is this

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something a good person would do?

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You know, if it's, whether you find a $5 bill on the floor or whatever it is,

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you know, you're, you're doing some kind of a business deal, you know, is this

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something I could, could I use my mother?

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Could I lick my mother in the eye and explain?

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What I, what my action was in this particular circumstance.

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And she was about as good as they get, and so if she approved it was

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probably the right thing, but, but you always have to ask yourself, am

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I, is this pursuit of material wealth?

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I. Pushing me down a bad path.

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And it's interesting you say that, Craig.

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'cause one of the things I say to my clients, they come

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in to get their taxes done.

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A lot of times they'll say, they'll send me, well, what do you think

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about this deduction, Ralph?

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I said, well, here's the thing.

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Would you be able to prove it to your grandmother?

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And, and as I say to 'em, I said, really?

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I said, you know, if your grandmother was sitting here next to us and you

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said, grandma, here's what I'm thinking about doing as far as a, a tax deduction.

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It's a silly example, but.

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Could you prove it to your grandmother?

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Because my experience is most people don't lie to grandma.

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And, and I think what you're really getting at Craig is

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a deeper, more seated issue.

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And that is what are your motives?

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You know, check your motives.

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And I think that's really what this Bible verse is really talking about is

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that, you know, if, if, if love of money becomes your mean motive, it becomes your

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first love, and now you have a problem.

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'em.

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And I think that's an easy place to get to.

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I look all around us and I see people who have empty lives

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and, and lives that just there.

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There's nothing that fills 'em up anymore, and I know why that is.

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Or at least I should say, I think I know why that is, because

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they've lost their first love.

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And you know, once you've lost that first love, it's so hard to get back

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to where you were before and, and I think you nailed it, like you said.

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I mean, you know, you know, try to be a good person.

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Try to try to guard your heart against that and always check your motives.

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I think that's really the key to the whole thing.

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Well, and if I could add one more thing, um, there's a

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slippery slope problem here too.

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So the, the, the analogy I've heard is that it's really hard to cheat

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on your spouse the first time.

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It's a lot easier the second time and easier still the third

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time, and so on and so forth.

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And so when you're facing a financial decision that might be

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kind of a little bit on the edge, if you take the wrong path once.

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You've kind of broken that seal and it makes it easier to do it the next time

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and the next time and the next time, and then you become a dishonest person

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who's living for the, the love of money, the love of wealth, and not the love

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of what you ought to be living for.

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If that makes any sense.

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No, I think that's a very valid point, Craig.

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And know, and it's funny, you kind of see this glamorized sort in the gangster

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movies, for lack of a better explanation of, they say once you have your first

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murder, the second one's so much easier.

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I have no idea what that feels like, 'cause I've never murdered anybody.

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But I think I, you know, that's kind of what you're saying is

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that once you make that decision, you use the example of, you know.

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Being immoral with your spouse, right?

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I mean you, or stepping out on your spouse.

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And I think you're right.

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I think once you've crossed that bridge and maybe your conscience spoke

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to you, maybe that, you know, that discernment we talk about as Christians

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was speaking to you, you know, it's like, don't do this, don't do this.

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And you just wonder like that next time, does that discernment not speak as loudly?

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And I think that's what we have to guard ourselves in.

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And I, and I think that's where you always have to be checking your motives

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and asking yourself, okay, why am I finding myself in this position?

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Which leads me to point number five, and that is wealth can

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be, I'm sorry, go ahead, Craig.

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Sorry.

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Can I, can I, for the record, I got that

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example out of an article that is not from my personal life about stepping out.

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Oh, gotcha.

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No, we, we wanna make sure we can.

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Yeah, we

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don't wanna get you in trouble.

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Absolutely not.

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I agree with you because Tracy watches a replay.

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I don't, don't want that out there.

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No, no, I agree.

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Which actually though like, but like I said, let me lead on to

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PA point number five, which is wealth can be a test from God.

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Now, hey, wealth can even be a test from God.

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That's just the truth.

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Exodus, the book of Exodus, chapter 16, verse four, talking about manna.

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I'm talking about manna, which was what fed people in the wilderness.

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And it said this.

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It said, I will test them in this way to see whether or not

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they will follow my instructions, whether we have a little or a lot.

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God is watching how we handle it.

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That's just the truth.

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And so these things that we're talking about right now actually perfectly led me

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right to number five, Craig, and that is.

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It's all about our obedience and our trust, and are we

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generous when we have plenty?

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Because that's, a lot of times people don't realize that is, you know, I've

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heard it said, and I don't know if it's biblical or not, to whom much

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is much is given, much is expected.

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But the question is, you know, are we generous when we have plenty?

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Are we faithful?

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Even when we don't have much.

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I've done a few shows on that.

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You know, I, I kind of picked Sundays to do sort of my more deep spiritual

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dive, and I've said, you know, how do you maintain your giving?

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How do you maintain charity when you feel like the walls are closing in around you?

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And that's really a tough situation.

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So, you know, and it, and you know.

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Craig, I, I'm not, I'm not a believer.

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You know, there's this belief, the Calvinistic belief, you know, and you

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probably know what I'm talking about here.

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You know that God somehow sits on the class and he's pointing with

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his finger down and you know, this fire and brimstone approach.

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I honestly don't believe we have a God like that.

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But you know, does God give us that free will?

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Does he give us that ability to test?

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Because, see, my personal belief here is that God wants us to

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love him because we choose to.

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So is he giving us the opportunities to find wealth and to find success

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in, in worldly ways as a test?

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What, what's your thought, Craig?

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Well, that makes sense to me.

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I, I'm, I'm with you.

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I don't believe in the angry God, um, version.

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Um, but you know, our parents tested us.

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You know, they give you a little bit of freedom.

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And if they were good parents, they give you a little bit of

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freedom and see how you do.

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And if you don't do well, they correct you.

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And if you do, they give you a little more and they give you a little more.

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And I think there's a bit of an analogy here.

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If we, if we look at kind of a benevolent God that's like our,

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you know, overarching parent, uh, that makes a lot of sense to me.

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I think we do get tests every day.

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Um, and, and this idea of pursuit of wealth is one of them.

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Absolutely.

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I remember when I first got my first car, I was 16 years old and my dad bought

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me this, used, it was a Chrysler Baron.

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It was like a K car, but it was fancy 'cause it was the Chrysler

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one and it had the, it had the fake rag top, you know, like that.

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I don't know what it was, a pleather or something like this.

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So my dad gives me this car for my 16th birthday.

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Man.

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I was living, it was fantastic.

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It was a four cylinder, so I had to like use my Fred

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Flintstone feet to get anywhere.

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But I remember the first weekend I took it out.

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And the next morning I got up and I was getting up in the morning.

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My dad, he's banging on the door.

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He's like, we need to talk right now.

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And I said, what's going on?

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Right?

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He says, you come down here right now.

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And he walks down.

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We go out to the garage and my car's sitting out there.

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Well, Sundays around our house was clean.

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The cars day, I think it was my dad's way of teaching us the,

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the, the, the, the, the, the value of taking care of your stuff.

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So he says, I am so angry with you right now.

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I'm like, dad, what's going on?

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Right?

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He goes, look in your backseat.

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And unbeknownst to me, one of my knucklehead friends had decided he was

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gonna put his foot up in the back window.

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Okay?

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So we had gone somewhere to a football game or something and his foot was covered

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with grass or dirt or something like this.

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So in the back window is this smudge of just dirt and mud running down the thing.

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And my dad's like, why do I give you nice stuff if you're not gonna take care of it?

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And you know, it's, I remember that to this day, and that

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was so many years ago, but.

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He was, he was, he was saying kind of what God is saying to

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us and like, I'm gonna test you.

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I'm gonna give you a little bit more.

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I'm gonna give you a little bit more.

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How are you gonna honor that?

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And like, I remember Craig, like at first I was mad.

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I was like, dad, what's the big deal?

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It's just a little mud.

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But then I realized where he was really going with that.

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He's thinking, well, if you can't even take care of your own car that you

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don't even own, 'cause it was like dad's car, you know, but you can use it.

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Then how are you gonna take care of more stuff?

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And, and I think that's just something we have to be cognizant of is, you

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know, I hear a lot of people say, you know, God's not blessing me.

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God's not giving me things.

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Like, I had a client in, it's probably been a year ago, Craig, and he said to me,

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he says, Ralph, I just don't understand why my business isn't getting anywhere.

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And I said to him, well, tell me what you think's going on.

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He goes, Ralph, you know, I'm really making, I was really making good money.

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He says, man, I was, I was throwing invoices out there, man.

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I was so, I was sticking it to people, man.

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I, I was overpricing stuff and all stuff.

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I said, dude, well think about what you just said.

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I said, you want God to reward you for what you're doing, but you're scamming.

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He wasn't scamming people, but he was not being as transparent as

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he could have been, is probably the best way to say it, Craig.

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But he looks at me like I'm crazy and I'm like, dude, like you are.

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You are intentionally like, you know, given the double barrel middle finger

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to God and saying, look, in spite of you, here's what I'm gonna do.

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And you wonder why God's not blessing you.

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And I think it's part of the test as well.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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That, that sort of short term thinking is usually a bad idea period.

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Regardless of whether it's money or something else.

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You know, I'm gonna, I'm gonna get this while I can, is not a good way to live.

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Yeah.

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And so many people fall into that trap and then they wonder why they're stuck

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in this position where the short, and you think about it in your own life, how

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many times have you made a short-term decision that had lasting consequences?

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Mm-hmm.

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Well, your money's the same way.

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You know, I recorded a show this morning talking about that.

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You know, you decide, I don't wanna pick on, I don't drink coffee, but I'll pick on

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the people who go buy these $10 coffees.

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Well, that might seem like a short term decision.

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Like it's just a small thing.

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But do that every day for a month.

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That's $150.

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Yeah.

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And then you say, I don't have an emergency fund.

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Well, guess why not?

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Because you're making a decision every day to go buy a $10 coffee or a five do.

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Like I said, I don't buy coffee, so I have no idea, but I'm just saying.

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But I think you, I think it's goes along with what you're saying there.

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It's those little decisions that add up to something much bigger.

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Right?

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Absolutely.

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Which leads me to, and this isn't a good segue, but we're

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gonna go to the next point.

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That's point number six, and that is the wealthy should be generous.

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And you know what's interesting about this, Craig?

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I, I got some real life, like real scenarios here.

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It's funny, I'll have a client come in and see me, you know, and I get

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to the point of the conversation.

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I'll say, Hey, let's talk about charitable contributions.

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And I'll say, you know, did you give anything?

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Oh yeah, Ralph, I'll tell you what, man, I gave a ton this past year.

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And I'm like, that's fantastic.

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You know, that's great.

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And I, and I'm looking, okay, well how much did you give?

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And they'll say, you know what, Ralph?

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We gave 300 bucks.

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And I'm not judging them, but I'm looking at their tax return.

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They just made 300 grand.

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And they thought $300 was a lot, which this is biblical.

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The wealthy have a responsibility to be generous.

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Look at one Timothy chapter six, verses 17 and 18.

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It commands us.

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Now, there are many places in the scripture where it

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commands, which is what it says.

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It says, command those who are rich, to be rich in good deeds and to

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be generous and willing to share.

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So my big takeaway from this is generosity isn't optional.

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It's a command.

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And it reflects our understanding that everything we have, it goes back

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to what I said the beginning, Craig.

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Everything we have belongs to God.

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And you know, it's funny because I, you know, it, it says, you know, as you get

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more generous, if you, as you and the thing that I have learned in my own life.

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Is those times, and I had clients say this to me as well, those times when

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they were struggling, they pushed and they gave a little bit more, and

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all of a sudden they were blessed.

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Now, I'm not one of these prosperity people, you know, give, and it'll

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be, I, I'm not, I don't believe that.

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But the Bible's commanding us to be generous and listen, here's the

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thing a lot of people get hung up on.

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They get has to be money.

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Doesn't have to be money.

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It can be your time, it can be your, your experiences, it can be your talents.

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So Craig, what, what's your thoughts on that?

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No, I, I was gonna make the same point.

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Money is one way to give, but it's not the only way to give, as, as you were

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talking about that I, I got to thinking, you know, maybe when you are generous

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with your money, you're trading one form of wealth for another form of wealth.

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And I know I'm sounding like a broken record here, that there are lots of

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different kinds of wealth and, and financial wealth is only one of them.

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But it could be a good feeling, it could be, you know, honoring

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God, it could be honoring your family, it could be whatever.

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But I, but I think it's a, it's a little bit of a transaction where you're

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giving up a little bit of your financial wealth for another form of wealth.

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So what, what do you think about that?

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I absolutely agree with you, and I think it's just because.

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People view wealth in like the balance sheet, you know how much is in my account.

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But you and I, Craig, I think we're on the same page here.

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We, we started to realize as we get older is that wealth is not necessarily,

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man, it's not how much money you have.

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It could be the relationships.

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Like you and I have developed a really good friendship and we've

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just, we've known each other through podcasting, but we've relationship,

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I've got the same relationship with Marcus in the, in the chat room.

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You can't value those money wise.

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You know, it's not, it's not a give or take thing, but it's a relationship.

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And I think you're right.

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You trade that.

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You trade this.

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You know, one of the things you said a long time ago is you either pay

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with money or pay with time, and I think this is right in that same

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realm of what we're talking about here, investing in other people.

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It do, like I said, it doesn't have to be money, but you're

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building that relationship.

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Well, guess what?

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You know, he that dies with the most friends wins.

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Maybe that's what we're really talking about here, because I

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think there's wealth in that.

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Well, and, and there's also, uh, a ripple effect that we often

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discount when we're charitable.

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You know, you, you give to some charity, you give to some,

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cause they help some people.

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That enables those people to help people.

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And there really is that ripple effect.

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A lot of times when you're generous.

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Yeah.

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And, and sometimes you don't see it.

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Like I had a, a, a lady, she was a, an older client.

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She's passed away a couple years ago and she was one of these

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people that in her church supported missionaries and she would come in

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every year to get her work done.

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And I never really understood the whole missionary thing.

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I'm like, well, why don't you support your church here?

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And she said to me one time, she goes, Ralph, you don't understand

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this dollar reverberates.

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And she goes, there will be people touched by this, who I

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will never meet my entire life.

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Well, when I will never forget when the lady passed away.

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They had a service for her, Craig, there was more people than they could

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fit in a church, and 98% of the people didn't even know who she was, but

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she, they knew what she had done.

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She had set up these missionary things and, and that's, you're right.

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I mean, and that's what it comes down to is the ripple effect of that.

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Well, let's move on to point number seven, and we kind of talked about this.

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We kind of danced around this one, but this is dishonest.

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Wealth is cursed.

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Hey look, the Bible is clear that dishonest wealth is cursed.

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Look at Proverbs 1311.

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It says this wealth gained by dishonesty will be diminished.

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I think that's a nice way of saying don't be dishonest.

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If you, and we talked about this with my client, the other, you know, a few

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minutes ago, shortcuts and shady deals.

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They might seem tempting, but they never lead to lasting blessings.

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And see, one of the things, one other, one of the things I wanted

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you to take away today is our.

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Faith should inform our ethical practice in business and finance.

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You know, I wrote a book about this.

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It's called the, the Gospel of Entrepreneurship, and you can catch

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that on my website@asgraph.com.

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But I'm not trying to sell the book today, but I talk about this and that

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is, you don't check your Christianity at the door when you have a business.

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A lot of people don't understand it.

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They say, well, you know, I don't wanna talk about, I don't

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wanna talk about my faith.

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But what you don't understand is a lot of people will come and do business with you.

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Because of your faith.

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I don't know how many times I'll get a new client, Craig, and they'll say to

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me, because I always ask them, I say, you know, where did you learn about me?

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Well, I, I saw you on Facebook.

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So I, I did some investigation and I like to press him.

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I like, okay, well what does your investigation look like?

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Well, you know, I checked to see if you had a license.

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I'll be, well, that's a good check.

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I meant it's a good thing to look into.

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And I said, but then I, you know, I looked at your website and I noticed

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you had a scripture at the bottom.

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And I, and they said, you know, you're the only accountant we found that

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had a scripture on their website.

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And you know, we weren't sure what to think about that, but we're like, well,

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if anything else, we might not agree with him, but at least he has character.

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And, and I think that's part of this.

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And you know, and, and the thing is, if you are going to put

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yourself out there and listen, you can choose to be a Christian.

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You can choose to be whatever you want to be.

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It's not my place to judge you.

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But what I do say is if you think you're going to get by swindling

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people and taking advantage of people, it's not gonna work.

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No.

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It's just not gonna work

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well.

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And even if you don't want to put your Christian faith forward, your

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business practices still ought to align with your Christian faith.

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Absolutely.

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If you feel like it's not appropriate to be that upfront about it, people

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should still know you by your witness.

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Absolutely.

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And that's what I'm saying, like I'll never forget, it was about, I think

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it was about 15 years ago, I was working with a, a local fire company

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and on the bottom of all my emails, I have a scripture and I sometimes

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I'll change it around or something.

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Well, one of the fire people, they sent me this blasted email.

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They said, how dare you send us a Christian based.

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Message at the bottom of your email.

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We're, we're a fire company.

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We don't need to hear about that stuff.

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And you know, I said, Craig, it was funny because this was a

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main client of mine at the time.

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I mean, this was the major, like, you know, for an accountant it was a big,

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what we'll call a big account for me.

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And it was a, it was a, it was a spiritual crossroad for me because the, the panther

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least resistance would've been, you know what, let me email this guy back

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and say, you know what, you're right.

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Let me take that, take that the Bible message off my emails.

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But I really thought about it.

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I prayed about it and I said, you know what, here's what I say to the guy.

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I apologize if I offended you.

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And that's all I said.

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It didn't, it didn't change the dynamic because what you just said is pointed

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Craig, and that is, you don't have to wear it per se, but the ethical

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practices of your business should be.

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Part of that.

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And, and you know, like I said, I, I think you can go overboard with it and maybe

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at times I've been overboard with it.

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I, you know, as I get older, I guess I just don't care as much,

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you know, you know, when I was young and, and trying to find that next

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client and, and all that was like, you know, that was important to me.

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Like, I didn't wanna offend anybody.

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And, and we, and, and this is gonna get a little bit controversial, but

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I think we live in this time of like, everybody's so afraid of offending

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people and I just don't know how effect.

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That is to be human.

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You know, I, I had a client in the other day, I used the word,

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you're gonna love this one as being an educator, a human beingness.

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I, I think I made that word up, but you know what, it's okay to be human,

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you know, it's okay to have character.

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It's okay to do.

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And I think that.

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And like I said, I don't wanna go down a whole rabbit hole of, you know, political

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beliefs and all that kind of stuff.

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But you know what, if you believe in something, as long as it's not something

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that is directly offensive, like if you say to me like, Hey, I'm, I'm a believer

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in the church of cut people's throats.

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I mean, that's ridiculous, but I'm just saying like, that would be an issue.

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But if your basic tenets of your faith, or I treat people with respect, I, I give

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unto others, I, you know, I do all those things and I say, wear that proudly.

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I What, what do you think

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Greg?

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Absolutely.

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Uh, although I would temper it with a little bit of humility as well.

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I mean, there are basic things that are part of your character that, that you

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just, you know, they just are who you are.

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But there's a lot of stuff around the edges that are really not core

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beliefs that we sometimes get stuck in and think our way of viewing

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it is the only way to view it.

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And, and that's really not the case.

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We always need to, you know, Jesus was very, very humble.

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Especially given who he was, I, I would've been very arrogant if I was a son of God.

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I'm just putting that out there.

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But you know, we need to have a little bit of that humility as well, and, and

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be accepting that there are people that have different views that we are than we

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have, and that's okay, but that doesn't mean you should change who you are.

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No, absolutely agree with that.

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You know, and it's funny because I don't know how many churches I've

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been in where they had a church split because of the choice of carpet.

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You know, literally the church broke up because they were building a new,

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uh, uh, uh, you know, a building for the church and oh man, they wanted

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to put red carpet in, but this group over here wanted green carpet.

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And you know, this group, you can't have a drum set in front of church.

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And like I said, we're, we're crossing, we're, we're, we're doing all the

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things we shouldn't talk about Craig.

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But I'm just saying, it's just funny though, but like, I, I love what you

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said there, Craig, and it's have some humility and I think that it's, it's

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easy to not be humble these days.

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And I, and I think you, you really nailed that, which

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leads me to point number eight.

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And that is contentment is better than wealth.

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And I think that's something we really need to key on.

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In Proverbs 1516 says, better is a little with the fear of the Lord

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than great treasure with trouble.

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And I read that when I was preparing for the show and I thought, you know what?

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That is a very, very good verse to sort of internalize.

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I'm a, I'm a believer in memorizing scripture and it's not something

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I've really done a lot till the last, like six months or so, but

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I thought this was a great one.

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Better is a little with fear of the Lord than great treasure in trouble, you know?

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And, and it goes along the lines, kind of what you said Craig, and that is

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peace and of relationship with God are worth more than any amount of money.

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That's not exactly what you were saying, but you were saying, look, be, you

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know, stand for what you believe in.

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Right,

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but have humility around it and, you know, we can, we can, we can

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see the same thing about our wealth.

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You know, are we content with what we have or are we, are we always

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chasing that next big thing?

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I don't know about you, Craig, but I've met people, especially

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in the business world.

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I mean, they just never is enough of, there's never enough for them.

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They get this and they want this, they get this and they want this, and it, and it.

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I actually feel sad for them.

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Because it's like there is never going to be anything that's going to truly fill

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that tank, and that's just a tragedy.

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They don't understand what contentment is and you know, go through something like I

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said this to my younger son the other day.

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He was bellyaching, he's 23 years old, he's got everything going for him.

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And he goes, dad, I, I just feel so depressed and an anxious all the time.

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And I said, son, I said, you don't realize how good you have it.

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And it's easy for me to say that right.

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But, but, but, but he, but I, I said, son, you don't have to struggle

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to get outta bed in the morning.

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You have, you have arms and legs at work.

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And I said, you know, I think that's one of our problems as

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human beings is we don't realize what other people go through.

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And, and we, you know, it's the woe is me mentality of like, oh, things are so bad.

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But how many times do we get up in the morning and just have contentment?

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One of the things I talk about on my show all the time is

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keep a contentment journal.

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You know, journal what the things you should be, connect God has given us.

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Look, if you live in the United States of America, for the most

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part, you're in pretty good shape.

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Yeah.

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When you go to the sink to turn the water on in most places, and I'm

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not speaking for everybody because there are tough places in the United

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States, I'm not saying the water works.

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You know, the electric, you turn a light switch on the electric works,

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you go to third world countries.

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My aunt was a missionary in, in some of the third world countries

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and like clean drinking water.

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That's

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a premium.

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Well, a, a place to sleep.

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I, I spent a month in India.

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Oh wow.

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And, uh, you know, that's poverty.

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Uh, I remember I left my flight out of, uh, Mumbai left very early in the

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morning, and so we were driving to the airport at probably three in the morning.

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Whole families sleeping in doorways if they were lucky, you know, at least

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they weren't sleeping on the sidewalk.

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And so, yeah, if you, if you're watching this or listening to

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this, you're at the upper end of, of the wealth curve globally.

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So yeah, we, we should not forget that.

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Can I quote Cheryl Crow here?

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Go right for it, man.

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So it's, uh, she's got a line in one of her songs that says

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it's not having what you want.

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It's wanting what you've got.

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And I think that's a good way to look at it, is just be, be

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content with what you have.

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Um.

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Because you're probably a lot better off than the vast majority of the

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people on the face of the Earth.

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I I have a question for you though, Ralph.

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Yeah, go ahead.

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So that verse, uh, uses the word fear.

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Mm-hmm.

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I, I don't think that means exactly.

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I. What we normally mean by fear, does it?

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No, I don't think so.

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I, I think, and that gets back to that whole Calvinistic discussion, right?

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And, and I think, and, and look, I, I am not a Bible scholar by

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any stretch, but my, my belief in that fear means, you know, I.

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Have some understanding, have some appreciation.

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I think that's better.

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The, the word to use, you know, I, I, you know, it is funny we talked about,

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you know, when our parents, when we were young, they gave us a little rope, right?

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A little bit of rope, you know, and, and for me, like my dad was one of

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these domineering guys, and it was fear.

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But when I looked at it as I got older.

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It was a false fear.

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It was just respect.

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Yeah.

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You know, and it was, and I think that's probably the word you were going for.

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I don't wanna speak for you, but

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No.

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That, that's, you know, that's exactly where I was going.

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A, a combination of love and respect Yeah.

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Is the way I read that word.

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So I just wanted to see what you thought about that.

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'cause I, I think that confuses a lot of people because that fear concept

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pops up again and again and again.

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And I remember when I was reading it as a little kid, it was like.

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I'm supposed to be afraid of God, which just didn't make sense in

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my little brain, so I just wanted to make sure we brought that up.

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And Craig, listen, I'm gonna take a sidetrack here because I think that,

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and I'm going through this metaphors, metamorphosis in my own life.

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I think your view of God has a lot to do with your relationship

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with your father here on earth.

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I just really believe it does because I think as a young, I'll speak

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for myself As a young boy, I think your first relationship with a man

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is your father for the most part.

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If you're fortunate to have mom and dad at home, and I think that you are

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going to view that relationship, I. With your dad, you're, you're gonna, you're

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gonna put that onto God, I think, you know, and, and so I gotta be honest

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with you, when, when I was young, my dad was this like, domineering dude.

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Like, you know, that pointing the finger down at you.

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And, and to be honest with you, Craig, I did think God was like that.

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I'm gonna be very candid with you.

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I thought God was this guy.

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Man, if you step outta line, he's gonna reign down.

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Hell fire on you.

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That, that was my belief.

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I'm just being honest with you.

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And it, and it took me a long time as I got older to really understand.

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What was wrong with that?

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Because you have this preconceived notion of what, you know, what

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God looks like based on that father relationship here on earth.

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And, and I think you're right.

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It's like, I think we have to be careful of that because we don't

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wanna put out the, the belief structure that it's nothing more.

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Because like Mark said in the chat, and he's absolutely right, it's respect.

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Right.

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It's love and respect and, and it's, it is like, kind of like the respect you have

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for your wife if you're married, right?

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The Bible says that as men, we should love our wives as Christ loved the church.

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Well, that's a respect thing.

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And and it's not, it's not the fear of like, the fear of like, he's gonna

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take you out because listen, if God wanted to take us out, he could.

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Right.

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Let's just be honest.

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You know, like, I think most people believe that, right.

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But it's that respect.

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So I don't wanna dwell on it too much, but, but I think

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it, we are, we really have to.

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So if you're struggling with this right now, if you're listening to

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this, you're watching this right now and you're thinking, yeah,

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but I've never thought about God.

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Anything but fear.

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I'm gonna challenge you to think about that.

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I'm gonna challenge you to pray about that, because that was, that was something

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I had to go through and, and it was hard for me 'cause like, when I was

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raising my two boys and, and I gotta give my wife a lot of credit because I

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was not the greatest father when it came to that because I was a tape player.

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I, I had this prerecorded of what I had learned, right?

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As a, as a child, right?

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Mm-hmm.

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So when my kids were young, I didn't understand grace.

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I didn't understand those things that.

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Truly the definition of God is.

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So if you're in that right now, that's one of the things I, I counsel young

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people, I wanna say young people who are just having kids right now.

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I'm like, think about this.

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Like your sons or your daughters are gonna look to you with like,

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what does God look like to me?

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And I think there's such, we have such, you know, there's so much value in

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that, but there's also, we need to be aware of that because we are going to

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put that on that child or that teenage kid for the rest of their lives.

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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Well, let's move on to point number nine, and this one's gonna get controversial

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again, and that is wealth can't save you.

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And I'm just gonna repeat that.

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Ultimately, wealth can't save you.

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The book of Proverbs 11, four says this, wealth is worthless in the day of wrath,

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but righteousness delivers from death.

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And I think we need to realize that, you know, I, I, I remember growing up,

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you know, you always thought, oh, you know, send all your money to this church.

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You know, money can't buy eternal life.

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It just doesn't, um, you know what, what, what has eternal value?

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Well, ultimately it's our relationship with Jesus.

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I mean, that's what it comes down to.

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I. You know, if you think you're going to as, uh, to get this layer of wealth and

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it's going to, you know, you know, I I pictured almost like you get to the Pearl

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League gate, you know, kind of a silly thing to talk about, but like, you know,

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you got suitcases full of money and, and you, you, you get to the Pearl League

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gates and you're like, oh, let me in.

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I got cash.

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Guess what?

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You're gonna be outta luck.

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'cause they don't take that currency there.

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They do, they take Apple Pay?

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Well, you know what?

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They might, I don't know.

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I, I think gap, I gotta be careful what I say here.

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Apple might think they're God, but anyway, we'll, we'll leave

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that one for where it is.

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But, but no, I think it's important to understand that because I think

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there's so many people out there to think, you know, they're going

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to get wealth and they're going to find this salvation because of it.

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And let me just tell you, and I've said this on the show before, some of

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the most wealthy people I know are the most miserable people I've ever met.

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And some of the most, some of the lowest, lowest is the wrong word to use, but

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some of the people who struggle the most are some of the most kind, some

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of the most compassionate, some of the most beautiful people I've ever met.

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And they don't have two nickels to rub together.

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But like, guess what, Craig?

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They respect everything they have, they respect the provision

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that God has given them.

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And I just think we need to be careful of that.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Although I, I will, will say that having a certain amount of wealth, I.

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Can protect you from certain things.

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I know, uh, you know, you and Mark talked about that on his podcast,

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and so, you know, having a little bit of wealth can cushion you.

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But I, I can speak from experience.

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If someone that you love has terminal cancer, it doesn't

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matter how much money you've got, you can fly all over the world.

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You know, if it's time, it's time.

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That's just the way it is.

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And so all that wealth that I'm talking about, you know, physical life here, sure.

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But it's just more so with eternal life.

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Absolutely true.

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Yeah.

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And you know, I hear that from clients all the time.

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I've got a client she was in yesterday, she's, she's battling,

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this is her second round of cancer.

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She had breast cancer 15 years ago and now she has ovarian cancer.

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And, um, but you talk about somebody who is just happy to be alive, Craig,

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she came in, she had no hair left.

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She looks like a stiff breeze, a blow over.

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And she had a smile from ear to ear.

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And I said to her, I said, you know, what's going on?

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She goes, Ralph, I got diagnosed with cancer again.

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She goes, but guess what?

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The Lord's gonna see me through in this.

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And I'm thinking she has every reason to be upset.

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She has every reason to be angry.

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She has every reason to be sad, but she knows the truth that most people

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don't get, and that is that she's gonna get through this one way or another.

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You know, it might not be the way that everybody thinks.

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Oh, well, she's gonna be cured.

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Well, maybe that, maybe that's, she even said that to me.

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I remember, I just remembered that she said this.

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She goes, Ralph, she said, when I, when I got diagnosed this time,

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the doctor said something to me.

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She said, he said that, he said this.

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He said, uh.

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I can't cure you of this cancer.

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He says, but I can put you in remission and that might live you 10 years,

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15 years, whatever that looks like.

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And I remember her saying, she said, Ralph, she says, that was

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the best thing I ever heard.

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And I'm thinking to myself, Craig, I'm examining my own and saying, if a doctor

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told me I had cancer, he couldn't cure me.

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I don't think I'd be feeling very happy about that.

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No, but, but it spoke to something deeper.

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Well, that's right.

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And if you're a Christian, you know the, the.

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Grief should be for the ones you've left behind, not for where you're going,

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but that's easy to say in the abstract.

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Not so easy to live in the moment, but absolutely.

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Which leads me right to point number 10, and that is God cares

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more about your heart than your wallet, and that's just the truth.

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Look at First Samuel chapter 16, verse seven.

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It reminds us this, the Lord does not look at.

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The things people look at, people look at the outward appearance,

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but the Lord looks at the heart.

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And for God, our net worth doesn't define our worth in his eyes.

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And I think so many times people get hung up on that as well.

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I've heard stories about, you know, you go to one of these old backwood,

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uh, C Christian churches and you know, everybody's all dressed

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up to the nines on a Sunday and.

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In walks this guy that looks like he just fell off the, the bum bus.

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You know what I mean?

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He's disheveled and he comes walking in and everybody turns

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their head and they kind of look like, where's this guy coming from?

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And you know, it's so easy for us to get judgmental about that, but

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we gotta remember, God doesn't care what it's look like on the outside.

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It, it's what's on the inside that matters.

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Right.

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Right.

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They, they need, those people need to come to the Cowboy Church, you know, the.

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We'll set 'em straight on how to dress for church.

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Oh, you

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gotta tell me about the Cowboy Church now.

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You dropped that one.

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So let's talk about it.

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It's

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a literally, this, I'm not making this up.

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It's the, the Cowboy church at the OK Corral.

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So it literally has a, um, rodeo arena, the whole nine yards in the middle of

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the woods, middle of nowhere, dogs in the sanctuary, but nobody's worried

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about how you're dressed there.

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That's very cool.

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You know, I used to ride motorcycles.

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Craig, I'll tell you a funny story about, you talk about the type of church,

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and I had a big old Harley, right?

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And, and, and this one day we were out doing one of these charity rides, and this

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guy, this pastor comes up to me, he goes, Hey man, you gotta come to our church.

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I'm like, well tell you about, tell me about your church.

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He goes, Ralph, it's the biker church.

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And I'm thinking, oh, I gotta see this.

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Right?

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So you talk about a fun loving bunch of Christian people, man, they were decked

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out with tattoos and, and you know, they had the Harley stuff on, but you to love

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the Lord, man, I'm telling you what.

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I mean, you couldn't touch that.

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They all pulled up with their motorcycles.

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I mean, it looked like a rally at Sturgis, but it was their, it was their church man.

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So I totally get what you're going where you're saying.

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And Craig, before we close out, I wanna leave us with this last one.

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And I think this is my, I've said takeaway a couple times, but this

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is my big takeaway for today.

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If you don't hear anything else I talked about that Craig and I

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talked about today, and that's this number one, number of point 11.

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And that is you can't serve both God and money.

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And this is a challenging truth.

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You can't serve both God and money.

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Matthew 6 24 is crystal clear about this.

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We have to choose, you know, who are you or what are you

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truly having your allegiance to?

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And Craig, I think, you know, as, as humans, as a human beingness that I talked

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about, this is a constant battle and it's something we need to be aware of because,

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you know, and I've, I've learned this in my own life, you can't serve two masters.

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You just can't.

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And, and that's why, that's why one of the reasons I launched this show back

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in November, 2023, I was just doing a business show and I said, you know what?

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There's something bigger to this.

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And I said, you know, what can I bring to?

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And a lot of people are, they're still kind of confounded by it.

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Like Ralph, when you talk about faith and you talk about finances,

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but we were always taught to not bring the two together.

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But guess what?

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At their core, they are the same.

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And it's a question of, you know, are you serving God?

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Are you serving man?

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Are you serving your money?

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And that's why I do this show because I think there's so much value in that.

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Greg, what are your thoughts?

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Well, throughout this whole live stream, I keep thinking money is a means to an end.

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It's not the end in and of itself.

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And so if you can use your money, your financial wealth to make the world a

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better place to better serve God, then you bring those two things together.

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So it's, it's not money or God, it's how you think about and how you use money that

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either honors God or does not honor God.

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And that's kind of my view of

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it.

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And that you nailed it.

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And that's the whole point.

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And, and that's the whole point of the whole thing because, you know,

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one of the things when I thought about, you know, how do I, how do I

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get people to get to the next level?

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You know, one, one, the things I've been embracing in my show lately is this

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thought that a lot of us are stuck in this, I call it cycle of financial shame.

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You know, we've made decisions, we made bad decisions.

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Listen, I've made bad decisions, Craig, I don't wanna speak for you, but I bet

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you've made bad financial decisions.

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But you don't have to stay stuck in that cycle, that, that, that

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cycle of just feeling trapped.

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I call it the paycheck to paycheck cycle, whatever that is.

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Because if you, if you get what we're talking about today, there

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is a path forward and it's not the path that everybody expects.

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You know?

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It's not that path of well just go work more.

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Yeah, you might have to do that.

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Or just go save more.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, you're gonna do that, but it's why you're doing it.

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And I think that's the key takeaway, you know?

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So the key takeaways for today, stewardship.

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We talked about that.

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We talked about the dangers of the love of money.

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We talked about the importance of generosity, the priority of

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spiritual risk, of riches, and we talked about the sovereignty of God.

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And listen, these principles, he have to guide our everyday financial decisions.

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And remember, as I said at the beginning, I'm gonna close out with

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this as we get ready to close out today.

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God owns it all.

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And our role, guess what?

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We're managers.

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We're managers.

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We're managing what God has given us.

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Some of us, he's given more to some of us.

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He, he gives less.

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So we ask the question, where do we go from here?

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And that's really the question I answer on the show every day.

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So I'm gonna encourage you to join our community.

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You can do that by going to, let me put up this slide so I don't forget.

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You can go to you go to ask ralph podcast.com/newsletter.

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We've got a community there if you join us.

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You will find I shared daily information about how to grow in your faith and

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how to grow your finances at the same time, because that's really

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where the rubber meets the road.

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So Craig, again, thank you for joining me today.

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I really appreciate you being here with me, Craig.

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We had a great discussion today and you know, I, I really do appreciate

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you taking time to join us.

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All right.

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Thanks Ralph.

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I appreciate it.

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And each of you, I want to thank you for joining me, and as I close

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remember this, remember the truths we discussed today and put them into

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practice, put them into practice in your everyday life, and you'll be amazed

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at just how impactful they will be.

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So as I always close the show, I always say this every day.

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Craig, stay financially savvy out there.

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And may God bless you abundantly.