Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And I'm so grateful to have you here. Yeah,

spending some time with you today. I hope you enjoyed my

interview with Sean. The other day, and yeah, today I'm very

happy to be posting another episode, I had a day of working

on my website and slightly severe meltdown, because of my

phone working something with the software and yeah.

Having to address it tomorrow again, but very annoying as you

can imagine.

We're also dependent on these devices. It's incredible. But

yeah, when they function, they're awesome. Today, I want

to talk about resilience. In season number one, I had one

episode about resilience already. So if you're really

interested about that topic, feel free to go back and listen

to that episode too. And today, I want to talk about how

important it is to have a support net. And what do I mean

by support net?

It's not necessarily people, yet, it can be people.

But if you think about

my example, today, being super annoyed and upset with my phone,

I had to keep focus on what is functioning in my life, and what

can I do?

If my phone is not working? What can I do in Wi Fi zone?

How can I not make this issue with my phone effect my whole

life, my whole mood, maybe you're very good at it, maybe

something like that wouldn't majorly push you out of balance.

But I think there's a lot of people out there just like me,

who

maybe even overreact or are too focused on problem solving mode

and being annoyed and upset and disappointed mode.

So if you can identify if you can relate, then this episode is

exactly for you, dear person out there.

Thank you for being there and making me feel less alone. So it

is very, very important that in these moments where our brain

is kind of taking over a whole life. And we want to get rid of

that nuisance

that we learn to have moments, minutes, maybe hours in between

where we can focus on something else. Because if you bite onto

that problem like a pitbull, yeah, you can get to your goal.

But But at what expense?

Are you going to be nasty with people like you going to be that

total elbow person? Or are you going to neglect other things in

the meantime that are important to

have in mind, just because you want to solve that one problem.

So coming back to my example today, I just took my dogs at

some point and went for a little walk. And it really helped me to

free my mind and to go into birds perspective. And to be

more okay with the fucked up situation I was in.

And we all have to do that at times.

I talked about death a couple of weeks ago. And there it is the

same thing.

Totally sad and depressed for a couple of hours. And then I

thought, Ah, no, I have to

show action. I have to be there for the people who suffer more

than me in that moment who suffer from that loss in a very

direct way. Because for me it's just indirectly because a person

is in France and I love that person so much but for the

person who spent their entire life with him. It must have been

so terrifying. So

Instead of indulging in my sadness, I decided to be

proactive.

And this is what we can do. When we are in a shitty situation,

like, zoom out for a moment, of course, unless you're there and

bleeding out.

But if it is a minor issue like I had with my phone or with my

laptop, or whatever,

put it aside for a moment and focus on something that is more

important, or from a different nature. And that can kind of

calm you down again.

Take a deep breath in between as well. At this point, I want to

thank you guys and girls to be out there.

Yesterday,

as I said, I focused on my website,

wanting to provide you with more content, more videos.

And I really missed record in an episode here. So I'm so grateful

that you receive my message and that you digested well, and

maybe yeah, reflect about it and can use the couple of tools here

that I provide for you, here and there to make your life easier,

more flowing, and to

have more enjoyable relationships, in depth

relationships.

And there are two when it comes to resilience, you will see as

soon as you learn

to

not throw the towel in as we say in German.

But to see as the problem as it is.

And then see the people around around you again, and being able

to listening to them again and be there for them again. Because

that might be way more important than that little issue that you

might have with your devices or with something else that is

super, super annoying. To take out that intensity of having to

solve something is also very, very healthy. Because some

people react with headaches. I for instance, react with stomach

pains and gut inflammation. And if we learn to be more smooth,

more, I don't want to say less say fair, but more okay with

shed going sideways at times, it also benefits your health, if

you are able to go to bed at night. And

to

just see the problem as it is, but know that sleep is so

critical. Drinking water, eating good food, having a one bed to

go to at night, and to being able to fall asleep and to have

a deep restful sleep is so so much more important than when

you are going to solve that problem. We all have those

problems at times, and people will understand how annoying it

is. And they will not judge you if it took you a day longer or

10 minutes longer if it was for your health sake.

So

take a moment now and be grateful for this little moment

of peace here because maybe you had a shitty experience just now

and decided to tune into my episode. And afterwards, you

will look at it maybe with different eyes, maybe you're

more relaxed. Maybe you came back to your breath. Maybe that

problem is solved.

Maybe your heart rate is lower and more constant and calm.

Maybe you're thirsty and you're just gonna drink a big cup of

water afterwards. And know that with a fresh mind. You can

address a problem from a different angle. Maybe you need

to ask for help. Maybe you can solve that problem by yourself

and you really shouldn't.

Maybe this problem is gonna

make sense at some point and then you look back in a couple

of weeks and think oh my god

Ah, this is when I met my best friend, or this is how I

discovered another thing that is very precious in my life. Now,

of course, the best friend is not a thing, but you know what I

mean? So, too bad situation as shitty and cliche, it's sounds,

there is always a good

side to it too.

And maybe in those moments where we come become most irritated,

we can just, I don't know, just dragged our monkey mind into

that position like, oh, yeah, I just broke my leg. But what if

it is something good? And yeah, it is stupid in that moment, if

you imagine a person breaking their leg now and thinking about

the good thing.

But try it out. It is fun. Now the brain then can neutralize a

situation and you can react more rationally instead of

emotionally and from a very annoyed, irritated space.

So this won't be the last episode about resilience. I will

post way more because I know I still have to learn to be more

resilient to have a more peaceful state of mind and

joyous life. But for now, that said, Have a good rest of your

day. Take good care of yourself. And I will drink a huge glass of

water now because I'm super thirsty.

Until next time, bye bye