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Your host, Sam Wakefield.

Well, all right.

Welcome back to Close It Now.

Sam Wakefield here.

I am so excited and honored to have this guest on the show today as we go along.

If you've listened to this To Close it now for very, very long or very many episodes, you know that sales is more than just a script that you learn.

There are no magic bullets in cells.

You can hand the same script to two different people and one person, they both maybe know the script perfectly.

One person gets mediocre results in the gets incredible results.

But on face value, when you ride with them or you, you know, you role play with them, they're just as equally good.

What's the difference?

There are so many underlying things that determine where you when someone's successful and someone isn't.

One of the things that I love to say so much, everybody listening is sales is not the performance of an hour.

It's the overflow of a life.

And so that is exactly why I have this guest on the show today.

This is Stephanie Kwong.

I'm so excited to introduce her.

She is definitely a highly sought after expert in subconscious transformation, known as the secret weapon to the top 1% of high performers, which I know everyone on the show, you are that top 1% or you're striving to be that top 1%.

So with over 14 years of experience, she has helped thousands of individuals dismantle deep seated mental and emotional barriers, unlocking profound levels of peace, joy, power and freedom.

She's the co founder of the rapid rewire method, which I know all of you are into fast transformation.

We don't want it to take forever, just like in cells.

And a groundbreaking system that blends advanced scientific and spiritual methodologies to create rapid, lasting transformation.

There's a lot here through her extensive work spanning high level retreats, online training programs, and immense workshop, immersive workshops.

She's impacted thousands worldwide, providing tools that rewire the mind and body for accelerated personal and professional growth.

And I'm going to let you talk about your mission as well.

So welcome to the show, Stephanie.

So happy to have you here.

Oh, thanks for having me, Sam.

Yeah, absolutely.

Conversation.

Yeah, totally.

So, as we do with all of our.

The guests on our guest episodes, we'd love for you to take a couple minutes and give everybody your highlight reel.

How in the world did you end up in this place that you are right now where you're able to affect transformation in so many people?

What got you started on this journey?

And a little bit of your highlight reel of how you got here.

And then definitely would love for you to intertwine.

What's your, like, really your main calling point?

What.

What is the.

Your driving force that your.

Your true inspiration behind what you do?

How much time do we have?

As long as you need.

I'll try to keep it as short as possible.

But look, my true mission is to liberate humanity.

And what do I mean by that?

I think a lot of us are in these invisible cages that either someone has placed us in or.

Or we have chosen to step into that we don't even see are not truly who we are.

It's holding us back from really living our lives in the way that we're meant to, to achieving, to experiencing what life really has to offer because we are in, you know, limitations in some way.

And so when I talk about liberation, it's unlocking that and having people rewrite, rewire, transform those limitations into, you know, expansion and abundance and growth, which I think we're really here to live into.

And I actually fell into coaching.

I was working in entertainment and realized that where I felt most fulfilled was when I was in service, when I was giving back.

And I had a.

Some trauma in my childhood.

And so I had.

Don't we all?

Yeah.

My gosh.

I dove deep into my own inner landscape to heal, to transform, and really to elevate myself in my life in, you know, how I wanted to be in the world and also what I wanted to achieve.

I come from a Chinese culture.

We're really indoctrinated into hard work.

But hard work doesn't always equal success.

True.

Because we can only play at the level of our identity, to what we believe about who we are, what we're capable of, and what we feel we're worthy or deserving of having.

That.

That's really the ceiling, the invisible ceiling, the Limit that we.

That we have been, you know, indoctrinated into or are living into.

So that's why coming to.

And I know you've probably talked about this on your show, if two people have the same exact sales script, why does one kick butt with it and the other feel like they're struggling and not getting the results?

Well, it's not just a matter of strategy.

It's really about the psychology piece.

And that's why I love Sam, that you dive so deeply into the psychological piece as well when you train in sales and not just about the strategy of how to win the sale.

Right.

And so I really look at the inner game for people, and I had to look at the inner game for myself first again, you know, observing my own interior landscape, pulling up the roots of the things that were not serving me, the beliefs, the identities, and then being willing to overcome and transcend them.

And so I realized pretty early on in my career, which started, you know, I started coaching back in 2007, that the subconscious is really where it's at.

And so I dove into learning all these different tools and modalities like nlp, Somatic Experiencing, breath work, hypnosis, Tre Havening, you name it, a lot of different modalities.

If I wasn't trained in them, I've experienced them as a client first.

And I really wanted to sharpen my skills as well as someone who could create rapid and lasting change.

And so I worked in a clinical setting where I really, really honed my skills was inside of a treatment center for women with borderline personality disorder, bipolar mood disorders, because people said, well, they can't change.

They only can cope and manage.

And throughout the five years of being there, it was a difficult population to work with, but it really had me cultivate skill to go, no, I actually think that they can change.

And when I took on that paradigm, it helped me to accelerate my skill level and to figure out how can I actually support these people in doing that.

And I got so good at creating rapid and lasting change that I was starting to work with someone who was a pretty high level in the entertainment field.

And then she introduced me to somebody who was really high up at Facebook.

And then that person at Facebook introduced me to her friend who was one of the first 20 employees at Facebook.

I helped that person, and the next thing you know, that person filled up my calendar with their friends.

Now I'm going to.

I know this person by first name.

Oh, I use this product this person created.

And so that's really how I became you know, the secret weapon to these top 1%, these really high performing people.

But because I'd honed my skills to really achieve rapid and lasting change.

Because when you're performing at a high level, you don't have time to sit and talk about your problems and almost re traumatize yourself by telling the story of what you're stuck or struggling with.

I really wanted to help people transcend it, and I was able to achieve that.

However, when back in February 2021, I had a miscarriage.

And even with all the tools I'd been trained in, even with an amazing community of coaches, therapists, healers, shamans that I accumulated since 2007, I was stuck in grief.

Mm.

And I know how grief moves.

But this time nothing was helping it.

And I was becoming more debilitated in my ability to function.

And being an entrepreneur, taking five months off was really difficult.

On the pocketbook, right?

Yeah.

Also, it was just hard being in such a dark space.

I was, you know, entertaining suicidal ideation where I'm just stuck in deep depression and it wasn't a way I wanted to live.

And yet I couldn't find the key out.

And then I got processed with what we work called the rapid rebar tools.

And literally, in one trauma integration process, I was able to experience the full processing of that moment and then release it.

And by the end of that 60 minute session, I couldn't even feel or find sadness or grief in my body anymore.

Wow.

Gone.

It's never come back.

I've never had to reprocess or journal or breathe or tap or meditate about it.

It was like once integration occurred, it was done.

And I was so floored because again, where I came from, I'm like, I know what I can do.

But this was something so different than I had ever experienced.

And it felt easy and it was so fast.

And I felt the immediate shift at the end.

And the change occurred to the point where my behavior shifted on the spot.

And so I was like, what is this?

And I want more.

So I continued to work with my co founder, Wesley.

We started clearing more things at rapid speed.

He started showing me the tools, which are actually not difficult to learn and to facilitate.

And then the next thing you know, I got a download that I heard.

You're meant to bring these tools into the world.

Yeah.

And so that's how the rapid rewire method was born.

And I'm really committed to liberating humanity, that people can do it swiftly and sustain.

Because if you haven't noticed, the world is on fire.

I think at this point, it's more than the dumpster fire.

It feels like the entire landfill is on fire.

Oh, my God.

So for everybody listening, date of recording is June 18, 2025.

For some reference point right now.

Yeah.

And people are struggling, and they need help, and they need it now.

Yeah.

And also, you know, I wanted.

Because think part of the people you're speaking to, Sam, they're also humans.

Yes, they have a job.

Yes, they're doing the sales, but they also have something outside of their work, which is their, you know, life, where they might also be struggling in other ways.

And it all intertwines.

And so we dive in and do the deep work and.

And clear out the traumas and heal the parts of ourselves that felt unloved, unworthy, not enough, etc.

We can then perform better in our lives, you know, and in our business.

And that.

That's what most people want is to, you know, accelerate their own personal growth so that they can also, you know, achieve greater things in life and business.

Oh, no doubt.

I love that.

Love your story so much as well, you know, it's.

It.

It reminds me, you know, there's so many things that we go through in life, and, you know, I've lived through a lot of things and currently am.

You know, we all think we have these really strong opinions about things until it comes to live in your own house.

And then when it shows up in your own space, all of a sudden it just.

It's like a bucket of cold water on you, and it forces you to rethink if you're open to it.

And thankfully, I know this and I know my community is open to.

It forces you to really rethink the way that we were taught about our belief systems.

Is this truly the right way to think, or is it something I was taught?

Is this what I believe?

Or it's something that I was told I should believe about internal and external circumstances.

So I'm 100% understand where you're.

I don't understand.

I never say I understand someone else, but I can see your perspective and where you're coming from, and I completely resonate with that.

So I love that you talked about the quick transformation for everybody on the show.

You know, I love brain science.

We talk about brain science here all the time.

So everything from NLP to hypnosis to.

I think I'm the only person in all of home services that's ever recorded a guided meditation for top performers.

But I'd love for you to dive A little deeper into this.

Because when we talk about these tools and the things that to.

For transformation, you know, fast transformation is incredible when it happens.

And so many times that I know a lot of people that.

So this is going to be a heavy episode.

Everybody, I can already tell, I'm feeling the weight, I feel the gravity on my shoulders right now.

You know, there's so many things.

In fact, I was talking to my wife about this last night.

You know, growing up in all these different, everything from religious atmospheres to, you know, all the different types of pseudo or quote unquote, transformational type of miracle moments and just there's a myriad of things.

And then so many of us have looked around and watched, you know, these, you know, so called miracles and true transformations that people have had all around us.

And then it never happened for me.

And then we have this feeling of, did I not pray hard enough?

Did I not think hard enough?

Did I not do this hard enough?

What's wrong with me?

And so it's almost like this guilt and shame rests on you.

And it's like, what am I not doing right?

Because we've studied 8,000 different modalities and it never seems to quite get there.

And so what we're talking about today is so insanely intriguing to me because I know that there's solutions for these things.

Why has it never happened?

And I know I'm not the only one.

I know there's plenty of people on the show that are listening and thinking, oh my gosh, this is me too.

So what is some of the difference here?

Because I'm insanely intrigued by this.

But how is it different than all of these other things?

You know, if we.

Everything from praying and believing to the right meditations to, you know, whatever, all the different, everybody from Joe Dispenza to Tony Robbins, you name it.

What's different?

Yeah, that's a good question, Sam.

You know, I think a lot of we don't like to say anything negative about other modalities.

However, not every modality is created the same.

Sure, right.

And there's a lot of tools, practices, modalities that only touch the conscious level of the mind.

And so that's why it can take a long time or you don't see change.

Conscious level podcasts, reading books, talking about your problems.

Right.

It doesn't actually hit the subconscious, where your blueprint is, where these beliefs are stored, whether they're empowering beliefs or limiting beliefs, disempowering beliefs.

And so it really requires going deeper into the subconscious.

And there are tools that help with that.

And even some of the subconscious rewiring tools like when I use hypnosis, doesn't always address every way that a memory or an experience is stored.

So when we look at our tools, it's like, okay, we have to look at mental, emotional and somatic.

So all of our processes work through the images, thoughts, emotions and body sensations, which is how a memory or an experience is stored, the mind and the body.

And that's why we're able to get changed so quickly, because we're actually working and clearing whatever has been stuck or you've been struggling with.

Right.

These coping identities, these limiting beliefs that you might have, but in a ways that they're stored in the unconscious mind.

And that's how you can get faster and better results versus feeling like, why am I trying so hard?

How come I keep doing the same thing over and over again and I'm not seeing the result yet?

And prayer is so powerful.

But most people when they pray, it's praying because something feels like it's missing or it's lacking and you want something versus to me, really effective prayer.

Prayer is giving thanks for what you want before it's already shown up.

Right?

Because now you're affirming that in your system and going, yes, it's, it's mine.

Because if something's been placed on your heart, I believe that it's for, it is for you.

Then your work is to realign yourself, to be able to receive the very gift that you've been praying for.

And by doing that, it's, you know, giving thanks instead of feeling frustrated or stuck or asking why not me or why don't I have it?

That's coming from a place of lack of limitation.

So for me, I would say that that's why maybe that doesn't work.

But also a lot of tools, same thing.

Are we just focusing on what's not working?

Are we looking at transcending it truly?

Sure, yeah.

The wish fulfilled is very much a feel it real.

All of these things that I totally resonate with.

Let's get a little bit granular here because I know a lot of the.

This is a definitely a newer concept for a lot of the community and maybe a little bit further out than everybody listen or a lot of people listening may have ever reached, especially in the communities we're in.

So for everybody listening, first of all, I would implore you remember, your mind is like a parachute.

It only works if it's open.

So intentionally be open minded about this episode.

Because there are so many things that, you know, growing up, we're just told, we'll deal with it, get over it, but we don't realize that they're affecting us in ways that we don't even perceive.

So, Stephanie, I'd love to.

You know, we're talking about limiting beliefs.

We're talking about the things that hold us back.

When you work with these 1 percenters and the top, you know, say, the people in Facebook and all of the founders and different people that you've worked with, or really anybody that you've worked with, what are some of.

Can you give us maybe a short list of some of the things that maybe have affected people in life that hold them back to get us down this path of starting to think along the lines of, what are we really looking for?

What is it that holds us back in life?

What are these identity stealers, these thieves of identity and of our belief systems.

Yeah.

So when I've worked with a lot of these, what are perceived to be very successful people.

Right.

I think in our society, we look at success as, what have you achieved?

How much money do you have?

What status do you have?

To me, that's not always success, but when I'm working with these particular folks, that's how they're perceived.

And yet when you get under the hood, you realize what's been driving them, a lot of them, is that something occurred to them in their past that was highly undesirable, AKA traumatic, and they might have formed a belief or created some sort of coping mechanism to then avoid the pain that they experienced from that trauma.

As an example, I had a client who was very, very, very successful.

He sold a company for $60 million.

And he said, in the end, why did feeling good last for five minutes?

And now I feel like crap, like it didn't mean anything.

And then he's on to the next thing that he needs to achieve.

Now.

It's like, whoa, can't you just relax for a second?

Just, you know, sold your company for $60 million.

But, yeah, it's not enough.

It's not, what's the next?

What's the next?

Yes.

And when we were able to pull back the layers, there was a session we had where he was sharing about his childhood and how highly traumatized he was by both of his parents and then was bullied and it slipped out of his mouth.

But he goes, yeah, and my mantra is, prove them wrong.

And did it.

And he kept talking.

I'm like, whoa, let's rewind.

Prove them wrong.

That's what was driving him to build this company to prove people wrong.

Not because it was something he was excited about, not something that he felt was going to be deeply fulfilling.

It was as a reaction to not feel the pain of the people who bullied him, said he was never going to amount to anything.

And it was like, prove them wrong.

So he like drove himself into the ground to build an incredible organization that he was able to for a lot of money.

But in the end, it was not fulfilling because what it was being fueled by was to avoid pain versus he was doing it out of a place of pleasure.

Like, I want to create this more of I want to stop feeling like an idiot, or that people don't like me, or that I'm never going to amount to anything, or people can make fun of me.

And this is going to be the reason why they can't do that anymore because I built something great, right?

Oh, you know what?

We see this so often, man, especially in, in the, in home services and in trades.

I mean, we've all seen those memes fly around with grind, grind culture.

And it's like, what is it?

Work hard, grow, you know, grind until your haters bring you their job application.

See, so it's as a way to prove something, whether to prove you're enough to prove that you're worth something to prove.

And that's what I actually really found with a lot of those clients or as a child they were indoctrinated into working hard.

And that means you'll be successful.

And yet if you work till you.

Park your Lamborghini on their lawn.

Yeah, but if you don't feel worthy of having what it is you desire, you can work in circles and still never achieve that.

Right.

As an example, when we talk about how we play to our beliefs, there was a study that was done that I found really fascinating.

It was this tennis coach, and he would run this tennis camp every summer for kids.

And he said day one, first thing he would say is, all right, all the slow kids come to the left, all the fast kids go to the right.

Oh, God, I'm banging my head against the wall right now thinking about that statement, right?

And these kids would self select.

The ones who actually saw themselves as fast, they went to the right side and the ones who saw themselves as slow went to the left.

He didn't tell you which one who's slow and who's fast.

He just said, there's where you go if that's what you believe about yourself.

Right?

So then he tested their Speed.

At the start of the camp, the kids who had decided that they were slower were actually on average faster than the kids who thought they were fast.

Oh, wow.

But by the end of the camp, when he tested their speed again, the kids who decided that they were slow actually started to lower in their performance.

And the kids who believe that they were fast started to increase.

And so they actually became the very thing they believed.

Wow.

Incredible.

And achieved that, right?

Yeah.

No one told it.

There was this invisible force that was happening which is your belief.

And so it's, you know, if you're on these call sales calls and you don't believe you're worthy of the sale, or hitting, you know, hitting your numbers that you set out for, or achieving X amount of dollars in your bank account, you can be sitting there dialing all day long, having tons and like doing well on your sales calls, or you might unconsciously sabotage the call.

Right.

And it could be very nuanced, very subtle, but that's what's occurring.

It's just like these kids who decided they were slow, they believed they were slow, they went to the slow side, they became slow or over time, wow.

You know, I've seen that happen.

One of the things I do when I train is I do ride alongs with technicians and salespeople in the field.

And I see it happen in real time.

You know, things will be going incredible and they're, you know, implementing what we've been training.

And sure enough, the buying signs start to happen from the homeowners and all of a sudden their, their whole demeanor changes and they start talking way out of turn or over talking or over explaining and the nerves hit and they, they talk right past the cell and end up with a, oh, well, we've got to think about it.

And then they wonder why.

And so I see this in real time.

So, man, I would love for you to help spark some thought process for the listeners.

Could you give us a few other examples of what some of those limiting beliefs could be that maybe that they've developed along the way and then we can shift into some more of what do we do about it.

That's what everybody's wanting to know.

It's like, okay, I know I've got problems.

How do I fix them?

Yeah, so I know a lot of like core wound beliefs are simply, I'm unlovable, I don't belong, I'm unworthy, I'm not enough.

And so then the behaviors become trying to prove that they're not that.

But if you believe that, you're going to become that or keep getting results in those ways.

There's a lot of folks that I would say, like even, I'm sure most of your salespeople are men.

Is that correct?

That listen a good amount.

Yeah.

I'm a huge advocate for, we need more women in the trades and of course I do everything that I possibly can to support that.

However, right.

Right now we're sitting at probably 90, 92% are men in the, in sales and home services.

Yeah.

Great.

So I, I only say that because I, I mean I know both men and women, but like a lot of women really struggle with receiving.

There's actually a lot of men that are that way too.

And I can tell simply when I encounter somebody and I compliment them or acknowledge them, their whole demeanor gets contracted or they'll deflect or they'll give me a compliment back right after I gave it to them.

They can't just let it land and receive it.

There's this awkwardness that occurs and I'm like, oh, they struggle with receiving.

Well, if that's a big thing, a limitation, a block that you, you know, have, it's going to be difficult to receive more clients, more money, more, which obviously is driven through more sales.

Right.

And so again you just keep playing at the level of what you believe.

You hit that set point and then once you hit that set point, you start to sabotage like you mentioned during your ride alongs of what you witnessed.

And so I would say that like that is a huge one if we're really just staying in the line of like sales right now.

If people struggle, struggle with I, I'm not worthy or I'm not deserving of what I want or it's not possible to have X.

That's going to be the core beliefs that have people struggle to achieve what they want when it comes on to the business side.

Right, Absolutely.

And then of course by extension this goes into, you know, people that have struggled with their fitness and nutrition.

They'll make progress, progress and then go back or they will keep wondering why they end up with that same person in their lives that they can't make relationships work.

Or my mind just is spinning in all the different elements of our lives that you know, are so important but also so related how we self sabotage those things and don't even realize it sometimes.

Yeah.

And it's very subtle and it's unconscious and that's why it's so important to really begin looking at your life, at yourself, at what you consistently think, which will then Tell you to what you believe, right?

A belief is just a thought that's thought over and over and over again until it's really rooted in.

Or if you were in a, you know, open receptive state, like when you were a kid, you were essentially in a hypnotic state, meaning you were ready to accept and believe and adopt whatever you were told.

Right.

If you were a baby, and I don't know if people can see this right now, I'm holding up my phone, but if someone said to you, this is a cup, you're not going to go, oh, it's not.

That's a problem.

You have nothing to go off of.

If your parents said, you're stupid, you're never going to amount to anything.

The way to create success is through hard work.

Money doesn't grow on trees.

Rich people are evil.

There's so much that you might hear that then when you start to believe it because you're in that open receptive state, you're like, oh, this is how the world is.

This is how I am.

And a lot of times people don't take the time to challenge those beliefs.

Is this really mine?

So I'm going to start moving into the what you can do about it part.

And it's like, number one, start paying attention to your reactions.

Notice moments when you feel triggered or you're defensive, or when you're avoiding taking action even when you want to, or you dismiss possibilities with thoughts like, that's not for me.

I can never do that.

These emotional reactions, they often reveal the subconscious beliefs at play.

If you want to know what you believe too, look at your life.

It's a reflection of it.

Look inside of your bank account.

Look at the quality of your relationships.

Look at how your health is, right?

Pay attention to your home environment.

What does that say about you?

These are all going to reveal things about your unconscious.

And another way is listen to your dialogue, right?

Start writing down reoccurring thoughts, especially the ones that start with like, I can't or I'm not the kind of person who can, or that's just how I am right now.

You're co signing on your limitations.

Yeah, no joke that there's a way out.

These statements, you know, they're often beliefs, they're not actually facts about you, which is a good thing because you can shift them.

And I want to go back, and I have a few more things I want to share, but I want to go back to that, that receiving piece.

You know, it's interesting because I, my, my husband's mother And Father, they're.

They're very Christian.

And I was.

I went to a Christian school when I was a child.

And I remember in the Bible, it was like, it's better to give than it is to receive.

Even from religion, you're being indoctrinated.

Oh, give, but don't receive.

So that's why people might struggle with that.

But when I actually reframe that in a way that was much more empowering, it's like, oh, it's better to be in the position to be able to give than it is to need to receive.

Much better.

Wow.

What does that mean?

That means, oh, it's better to be able to give because you're an overflow.

You're in a position to help others more.

To me, that is a better interpretation of that versus an oh, it's better just to give than don't receive me to be in a position where you can give than to have to receive.

Oh, my gosh.

That's.

This is something that I actually train about a lot during my sessions is, you know, because there's a handful of sections in any appointment, we have to take a minute to introduce ourselves and give some accolades.

So people need to know who they're talking to and set some credibility flags.

And this comes up almost every single time, especially when I train across the South.

That whole concept, of course, this would be a whole nother episode, but it creates this unnatural, very gross sense of false humility that we feel like we have to have to push.

Because I grew up very, very, very similar.

It sounds like.

And I remember so often, and for everybody listening, if you've ever said something like, when someone gives you a compliment, oh, it wasn't me.

It was all God.

Well, okay, but you did the work.

Take credit and receive the compliment.

For faith without works is dead.

That you did the work part of it.

And so I feel like there's this.

This underlying thing that just says, that was my limiting belief for a long time.

Was that me, too?

And it was really hard because when people would try to offer me things, give me things, I was like, no, I have to work for it.

Instead of being open and receptive, why can't building businesses, selling things be easy and fun versus this hard work?

But we've been indoctrinating to believing.

And so, you know, moving along the thread too, of, like, how do I uncover this?

In addition to what I shared with you earlier, start to also examine areas where you feel stuck.

Ask yourself, where do I keep hitting the same wall?

You know, what Goals have I been avoiding or have I been unconsciously sabotaging?

What do I secretly believe about success or money or love or myself?

Right.

Stuckness often points to an inner belief creating resistance.

And then you can also use reflective prompts.

So try journaling on prompts like, if I were a hundred percent honest, what do I believe is not possible for me?

Yeah.

What do I fear would happen if I fully succeeded?

What belief might be keeping me safe, small or hidden?

And then really just start to pay attention and notice those patterns across time.

Look at, as I mentioned before, look at your relationship patterns.

Look at your career ceilings.

Look at the emotional cycles that you're stuck in.

So a lot of this is really just about starting to pay attention to yourself instead of trying to do and get to the next thing, which I think is part of the indoctrination of our culture as well.

Right.

Earlier, we value hustle culture, yet hustle culture never feels fulfilling.

No way.

And a lot of times hustle culture is built on trauma.

Right?

It's like, if I don't achieve something, then I'm not worth anything, and then what?

Right?

So I'm just keep achieving, achieving, achieving.

What's the next thing?

I got to keep going on this hamster wheel and never stop.

And I.

That occurred for me a lot of times when I would slow down and just relax.

It felt so uncomfortable in my nervous system because I'm like, oh, I'm not going to be worth anything anymore.

Now, of course, I'm not thinking that consciously, but there's some unconscious discomfort because the belief that I had to unearth was my achievement equals my success.

Success equals who I am, which equals, you know, my worth.

Oh, gosh.

Well, now I gotta just keep doing the dang thing in order to keep achieving, achieving in order to be worthy, in order to have happiness.

And it was exhausting.

Oh, my gosh.

No doubt.

I. I went through this recently.

In fact, it's.

This is a constant struggle of mine.

I.

Everybody, everyone that I know that knows me and what I'm.

Everything I'm doing in business.

Somebody, the other day, he was, we were just catching up and I listed.

He was like, oh, what all you got going right now?

And I listed everything.

He's like, holy crap, man.

You've got six different businesses running.

Yep.

And I was like, oh, well, because if I feel like if I'm not constantly creating something new, then I'm not succeeding.

And I know that's not healthy.

And so, I mean, sounds like you've got a new client here.

But this is truly the struggle, especially for top performers and achievers and, you know, people who are so.

Everyone in this community that listens, they are, you know, we're all striving to be that 1% better today than we were yesterday.

You know, and if we can constantly grow and become better people, become someone worth buying from is the slogan of the show.

That means constantly improving these things in our life, which is sometimes counterintuitive, sometimes it doesn't mean doing more.

Sometimes it means resting and really sinking into exactly what we're talking about.

Yeah, no, I think that's really important to one, examine yourself, examine your thoughts, your beliefs, examine your behaviors and go, is this who I really want to be?

This is how I want to live my life.

Because we do have.

I know it sounds cliche, but it is one precious life that we've been blessed with.

What are we going to do with it?

Are we going to do it life where at the end of the day when we take our last breath, like, gosh, I'm so glad I worked so hard.

I'm so glad she's so much.

No one cares.

Why do you so much care about that versus at the end of the day like one.

A beautiful practice that it's quite scary for some people to do, but I highly recommend is to write your own eulogy now.

Right.

I'm sure you've heard of that practice, Sam, because I know you've done so much deep work.

But if you write that it's, it's then going to really put into perspective what's important for you.

What do you want people to be saying about you at the end of the day?

And what do you want your life to be reflected to be in the time that you were alive in this meat suit of a physical body.

Right.

And then work it backwards because I think right now we're like chasing for something that we don't even know if we want or if that's how we want to live in this lifetime.

Right.

But eulogy will kind of have.

It's a really beautiful self reflective exercise to go is the way that I'm living right now is what I'm believing, is what I'm thinking, is what I'm, what's, you know, I'm achieving or again, how I'm acting in alignment with who I actually want to be or the impact that I really want to make on this world.

And if it's not aligned, then there's some beautiful inner work to do to get realigned to Start shooting certain behaviors to start doing in a life by design that's intentional instead of reactive from.

Again, the beliefs that we've adopted as a child, that's still running us right now.

Wow.

That is incredible.

It's funny that you mentioned that, because when I have a business partner, Tim, when we work at the company level, we always meet with the owners ahead of time.

And in order to really help them get clarity around the core beliefs and the values for the company, we ask them this question.

We're like, okay, and we list six different people.

Okay, six different people are going to speak at your funeral.

What is one word that they would say about you?

And then, of course, the different people are a family member, an employee, maybe a subcontractor.

You know, just several different people.

And I love this exercise so much because it gives us clarity of who we want to.

Who.

Who we think we are and who we want to be.

And what's the distance between those two things?

Oh, yeah.

I love that so much.

Thank you.

I'm going to do a whole episode on that.

I'm going to take people through that exercise.

We'll just workshop it, but carry on.

This is such a good conversation.

I feel like we could do a whole miniseries on this.

Yeah.

I mean, look, I just think it's important if you feel like you're stuck, you're struggling, you're not fulfilled, build.

It's time to really look internally.

I mean, that's my big message here.

I, for a long time avoided it because it feels scary.

It feels like hard work.

It feels like, oof.

If I dig back in there, I don't know if I'm gonna like what I see.

Yeah.

And yet, ultimately, I think what we're here to do is to grow and evolve.

And we're provided people experiences and things in life to show us where we're not free inside and where we can grow and evolve into.

It's just a matter of will you answer the call, yeah, yeah.

Or will you keep your.

Yeah.

Keep your head in the sand and go, ah.

Or work yourself into the ground going.

I don't know why it's not working, why I'm not making the sales.

Why am I getting more no's and yeses?

Why am I not hitting my numbers?

Why am I?

I could tell you why.

This whole episode has been telling you why.

Right.

You gotta look internally and literally rewire those beliefs that are limiting you, that are holding you back, that are not allowing you to be fully free, to be truly liberated, to make the Choices, the decisions, the actions, the behaviors that you actually want in this lifetime.

I see so many people held back or making up stories for why they can't or why I don't have X, Y, Z.

And it's like you're actually a limitless being who can create and have and be whatever you want, but it's going to require something of you.

Right.

That's the initiation is it's not going to be the easiest path, but it will be the most rewarding and fulfilling path.

So good.

So good.

So for, for everyone who's listening that, that this has really resonated with and really struck a chord, what are maybe a couple steps they can take?

You know, start with writing their own eulogy, but then what are some actual steps to take after that?

Yeah.

So as I mentioned, are all those ways to begin really observing how you're being held back?

Right, yeah.

Noticing those statements and the limiting beliefs.

Dialogue, examine where you feel stuck, use those reflective prompts, notice the patterns etc because for a long time, just pulling my example, I, I wouldn't do it until I burnt out twice.

Those are moments to go, hello, pay attention.

The way you're going about it is not sustainable.

Oh okay.

Because if you don't actually start doing the work too, I feel like you're going to get hit with circumstances or experiences that force you to look words and so instead of hitting that point, just start doing those more self awareness pieces to pay attention and then there's many paths of how do I start to rewire and clean this up?

You know I'm going to talk about rapid rewrite just because that's my deep.

Absolutely.

Give us, give us everything about it.

Love to hear more about it and of course definitely want to give you opportunity to let everybody know where they can get more of your content and how, how to get in touch with you and, and, and that as well.

Yeah.

And and so you know, with our tools that we use is really starting to find out, well, what's the problem?

What's the limitation?

Once you start becoming aware and paying attention to yourself, your thoughts, your behaviors, your beliefs.

Right.

Mm.

And then going, hmm, what can I do to really begin reworking, working and rewiring this before I talk about rapid Ur, there's again a lot of modalities out there, but find the ones that really work with the subconscious because as I mentioned, the conscious level work just keeps you spinning all the time or just takes a really long time because you're not actually getting to where the root cause is.

And you're just like surface level trimming the weeds instead of pulling the root out.

Got it?

Yes.

Yeah.

And with our tools, what I love about it is they're simple, they're in a proven framework, and you can just follow steps to begin clearing.

We don't normally give stuff away, but I will give you two, two resources for now.

The first is if you want to experience one of our tools and be guided through it, you can go to our website, Rapid Rewire method dot com.

Sam.

I can also give you a link where people just go directly to.

Absolutely.

And get it in the show notes.

Yeah.

They can download a free experience demo where you'll be guided through one of our tools to literally work through something that you're stuck or struggling with.

Okay.

And then the other piece, I'm going to literally give you a tool right now that you can use.

This is more of a shallow protocol, meaning it's going to clean up some stuff, but it's not always going to get to root cause.

However, I've seen some pretty incredible results from people using this tool to overcome something that they've been stuck or struggling with.

But what this tool does is it really starts to integrate the emotional charge that you have around something.

So as an example, let's say if you're a new salesperson, you're, like, afraid to ask for the sale.

Right.

Every time you go, there's some emotional reaction that comes up and is almost this invisible force going, no.

And it pulls you back down.

It's funny you mentioned this so super quick.

My backstory is, for the first two years, two solid years of my sales career, I could not force myself to ask for the sell.

It was like a gut punch, butterflies.

It would get to that place, I would set the paper down and go.

And I couldn't get the words out.

Two solid years.

And so I deeply resonate with that example.

For sure.

Yeah, there you go.

So.

So let's say that might be you.

Right.

All you have to do is we always start our processes collecting four bits of information.

So what's the problem?

You just named it.

Right.

Every time I go to ask for the sale, I clam up, I close down.

Great.

Put your attention to that problem.

What's the emotional reaction that comes up?

It could be insecure, worry, anxiousness.

Make sure it's an actual emotion.

So if you need to go on to the interwebs and go tell, give me an emotion wheel, it'll pop up and you can start to look and see what are literal emotions.

Because you don't want to say something like oh, whenever I try to go for this sale, you know, and I, I, my body shuts down, literally.

And then when you put your attention to that problem, what's the emotion?

You can't say or how does that have you feel?

Bad.

Good.

Okay, fine, those are not emotion.

So make sure it's an actual emotion.

Correct label.

Correct label.

Yeah.

Once you have that, then just kind of close your eyes, let it come up, the emotion go.

How intense is do I feel this?

Let's say anxiousness.

Right.

Scale of 1 to 10.

One is, doesn't bother me at all.

10 is, it's debilitating, cannot function, full shut down abortion.

Right, Exactly.

Hopefully that's not you, but maybe you toggle like the 6, 7 range.

It could be 4, but you just need to know that intensity number to see if you're making progress with the process.

And then in the end, how do you actually want to feel instead?

So when I go to ask for the sale, instead of feeling anxiousness, how do I want to feel instead?

Could be confident, calm, self assured, whatever that might be.

Great.

Notate that down and then just close your eyes.

Maybe think of the last time that problem arose.

So maybe the last time you had to go ask for the sale and you clammed up and couldn't do it.

Let that emotion of anxiousness come up and as you're experiencing that anxiousness, you're going to toggle between two prompts.

That's it.

Until both discharge out.

The first prompt is tell yourself something bad about the anxiousness.

So not about the problem, not about asking for the sale, because you can go on and on and on about stories about that, but it's like feeling that anxiousness, you want to experience it.

Tell yourself something negative or bad about the anxiousness and it could be, it just, it stops me from being as successful as I want in my career.

Great.

Feeling that anxiousness.

Tell yourself something good or positive about the anxiousness.

Again, about the emotion.

It's trying to protect me from saying something dumb.

Thank you.

Okay, still feeling the anxiousness.

Tell yourself something bad or negative about the anxiousness.

It's feels really weird in my body.

It has me feel like I don't have control over my, you know, limbs or my nervous system.

You then feeling the anxiousness.

Tell your something self something good or positive about the anxiousness.

And all you do is you toggle back and forth, giving yourself quick responses.

Don't overthink it.

It's just the first comes to Mind, say it.

And be as radically honest with yourself when you're asking yourself these prompts.

So it's like, what's bad about the anxiousness?

What's good?

What's bad?

What's good about the emotion?

Usually one of them will dump out first.

So it's usually the positive.

If it's a negative emotion.

So you might say, okay, you've gone back and forth several times and you're like, okay, what?

Tell yourself something else that's negative or positive or good about the anxiousness.

Nothing left.

Okay, well, what's negative in about the anxiousness?

What's left?

Things.

Then go back to the positive.

Still nothing.

Go back to the negative.

Now it's nothing.

Oh, when you've dumped out where there's literally no more responses on both, check back in.

Where's that anxiousness?

That's weird.

I don't feel it anymore.

Ah, go ask for the sale.

That's.

I can ask for the sale.

And I don't feel this weird emotion coming up.

Ask for it.

And I feel calm.

In fact, I might feel confident to ask for it.

That's weird.

But, yes, you're now free.

You're no longer held back by that.

You are now able to go do the thing that you wanted to do with confidence, with ease, with freedom, with joy even.

And that's how you start to liberate yourself from.

My gosh, that was incredible for everybody listening.

And thank you so much for that, Stephanie.

That was for everybody listening.

That was a masterclass in clearing those things that are holding you back.

And clearly that's just scratching the surface.

But I can think of a hundred different ways right now on the top of my head that that could apply and things like I will immediately be using it for.

So clarifying question around that.

Is it better to, you know, when you're doing that, are we saying these things out loud?

Are these just thoughts in our head?

What.

What does that look like?

That's actually a really good question.

I should have said that because that's part of the instructions is, yes, you want to vocalize this out loud to yourself.

So when you're in the emotion you don't have, you know, you can say, okay, I'm going to tell myself some.

Or like, what's.

Tell myself something negative about it.

You could just go, what's negative is this.

But you want to vocalize your responses enough so you can hear it.

You don't have to shout it.

If there's someone else in the room, you could say it quietly.

But it's so good to do that, to vocalize it, because it helps to actually duplicate the content, to release it and let it go, which is what you're wanting to do.

Once you get good at this, friends, it's so fun.

You could be in your car.

You could be about to hop onto a sales call.

Just do it right before you could be at a party, I had a friend.

I was at a party.

I was sitting on the couch.

He plops down next to me, and he goes, I'm effing angry right now.

Can you help me?

And I was like, yep.

And all I did was this process on his anger.

And the next thing you know, it only took seven minutes.

He was really fast to process.

Don't give up on yourself.

If you've got a lot of content to dump, just keep going.

Don't go.

It's been 15.

Just keep going.

Trust me, it will work.

But by the end, he.

It only took him seven minutes.

And then he ran out of content on both sides.

And I said, where's the anger?

And he says, clear.

And he bolted back into the party, and he was fine.

And it never came back for him to have that level of anger around the circumstance that initially triggered that.

And so know that this just works on emotional charge.

So if you're feeling, you know, fear or doubt or insecurity or judgmentalness or worthlessness, powerless, worry, shame, what.

You can use this to actually just diminish the emotional charge so that you can get back to functioning.

That's the goal of this particular tool that I just gave you.

But, yeah, saying it, vocalizing it out loud, you could do it anytime, anywhere.

It'll.

The more you do it too, the more you be like, oh, wow, I just dumped that out quick.

I don't.

It'll work faster and faster, but that's the process.

Beautiful.

Beautiful.

Thank you for that.

So much.

So for everybody listening, make sure you do that.

I'll get this into the show notes too.

I'll line it out for everybody because most people are in Drive Time University right now, so don't be doing that.

You can absolutely do this.

Driving down the road.

Don't stop to write it down, though.

Be safe.

Keep your hands on the wheel.

It'll be in the show notes.

People want to get in contact with you, want to learn more, want to deep dive a lot deeper.

Where.

Where can we find your content?

How can we get in touch to go through some of this with you?

You can find us on our website.

Rapid rewire method dot Com.

I said that slow because it's such a tongue twister that I screw it up when I say it fast.

If you have questions about anything, you can always email our support email.

We have somebody there to respond back to be able to map be matched up with one of our certified coaches if you want to learn.

They're simple tools so we train people on them.

Like right now I literally just trained you on how to use a tool that now you can use anytime, anywhere with yourself or anyone.

Right.

I feel like that's really where the power lies.

You don't need to rely on someone externally to help you because you're panicking at 2 in the morning.

Who are you gonna call?

You're there with yourself though.

And now you have tools to, to be able to help yourself whenever you need to.

So that's what we're about is true empowerment.

So we train people on these tools.

But if you wanted to work with an actual practitioner, shoot us an email@supportapidrewiremethod.com and we'll pair you up with one of our, our coaches and you can also find us on, you know, social media.

Rapid rewire method.

Rapid rewire method.

This has been such a great conversation.

It's sadly time to land this plane.

I wish that we could go on for a lot longer but man, this has been awesome.

I appreciate you being on the show today and thanks for the tools.

I know a lot of people will really get some big benefit anytime I have an episode that's a little bit more out of the box like this one is that, man, the feedback that we get is always really incredible.

So super appreciate it and anything I can do to help you along the way, help grow your business, help, help spread the word.

I am here for you.

This is work that absolutely needs to be done globally.

And so I'm.

You've got a supporter in this corner, that's for sure.

And you've got a supporter over here too.

I think that's how we met.

It is, it is, yeah.

Well, so for everybody out there, find yourself a mastermind to get into.

If you don't know what a mastermind is, message me, me.

I'm happy to walk you through what that is and help you find one that may be a good fit for you.

But when the power of like, like minded people that are focused on positivity come together, so incredible things happen.

So any last words or parting remarks that you'd like to leave everyone with before we sign off here?

Yeah, you're already enough you're okay.

You got this.

Like, literally, I think everything that we desire to be, be, come and to have is already within us.

It's just a matter of being able to unlock it.

And that's what doing that interior work is about.

So, Sam, I really love your show.

I love what you're about.

I love the generosity that you have to really help people to become better humans and to, you know, be more ser.

Like, heart led, service oriented.

Because I feel like that's what the world world needs.

Not more slick sales people or sales tactics, but people who genuinely have a heart to serve and know that the sale is service, that they're really helping somebody by asking for the sale and converting it.

So bravo to you.

Thank you very much.

I appreciate that.

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