Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

with you today. I want to create a space where you can just

deeply exhale, and inhale fresh air, where you can recharge your

batteries, where you can feel safe, where you can be

authentic, where you can be true to yourself. Today, I want to

talk about crippling self doubt, and the ongoing negative chatter

in our minds. Have you ever tried something new? Have you

ever had a goal, a dream. And just like back then, when you

had a dream, and you were expressing this to your parents,

maybe or some Guardian, and your dreams were met with harsh

judgment, criticism, questioning you questioning your dream, when

you just feel discouraged and even regret, expressing your

dreams and your goals. But have you ever noticed that it happens

inside of us and some of us that we dream something up that we

have a goal that we maybe want to stop and engage in an

addiction, or change something in our lives? And then we start

watching videos, we start talking to people maybe who've

done in the past and conquered and achieved their goals? You

kind of uh, yeah. happy, excited human now on this new path. But

then a couple of days later, a couple moments later, all of a

sudden, all these questions come up. Why me? Why do I think I

deserve that change? Why do I think Can I have this in my

life? What am I thinking to believe that this person would

ever talk to me? You see, and those thoughts are so incredibly

destructive. And we don't even know it. Because most of the

time we believe them. Just like back then with the adults, we

believe them? And we think yeah, my dream was stupid and silly.

And what am I even thinking? Let's go back, sorry. And to the

little box into who I think I have to be and who I think I am.

And let's not explore who we could be what we could achieve,

because this is challenging our old belief system. And the

reason I am talking about this today is because I was on a call

with my coach. And we are a group of very powerful ladies.

They're growing together, meeting once a week, doing our

homework during the week. And today, we all felt like our self

doubt or self criticism was taking the better of us except

one, one lady, one lady was above it all and was just flying

and very inspiring. But the rest of us we were frustrated. We

kept thinking about the tools that we are given we have

provided and to put them at work. One of the ladies

expressed that to live up to her own power now is intimidating

for her because she would have to leave old belief systems she

would have to take responsibility. She would be

very very terrified of failing. She doesn't want to fail. So she

doesn't want to get out of a box from the start. From the get go.

This is All super logic, when you observe all this, from your

mind's perspective, your mind that is being threatened right

now, you threatened your mind to think differently, to act

differently to live your life differently. And of course, this

is going to be met with resistance. Of course, this is

not going to be a piece of cheesecake. Like I love to say,

there is some work to put into it, but you have that energy,

you have that willingness. Don't say it is hard work, and it will

take you so much effort, because then at the same time, you make

it sound impossible again. And what I've learned today, from my

coach and from the other ladies is that we have to trick that

mind that old mind of ours that we want to overcome that we want

to put into a corner and turn up the volume of what we want. You

see, when we have doubts, when we criticize ourselves, we only

see the negative we only see the worse outcome. We only see the

dark and the what ifs. And we have to slowly stretch away into

the Yeah, but what if it is possible? Yeah. And what if I

reached my goal? Yeah. And what if I overcome my addiction?

Yeah. What if I learn to set boundaries and only surround

myself with people that do me good. Observe your mind. Over

the next couple of hours best would be the next couple of

days, on how you think about yourself, when you approach a

task. When you approach a group setting, when you approach, a

situation that is maybe new to you see what thinking pattern is

cascading down the drain. What is automatically happening in

your brain, when you start something new, you know,

sometimes it goes so far, that when you start a new sport or a

new activity, that you are being reminded of grade three, when

that one guy in your class threw the ball at you and you didn't

catch it fast enough, and your team lost and you were the loser

of the class. Those little experiences from way back can

still influence you on how you approach new activities today,

it is incredible. It is so awesome. Because that system is

trying to protect you from more failure from more pain. But what

is it doing also, it is preventing you to grow, to have

awesome experiences. And to let go of that old belief of

yourself that you suck at exercising. We have to actively

notice what is going on in our mind and then start to counter

it and let go of what is holding us back. I talked to a friend

today and he said he felt very nostalgic. I know his story a

little bit and I can't imagine why he's feeling nostalgic. And

maybe he feels that he has lost something in the past that he

will never be able to recreate again in the future. But he has

to believe that it is possible he has to focus on what he

wants. I want brotherhood. I want a strong circle of men

around me that make me feel supported. He cannot keep

running around and say I have no friends. I feel so lonely. All

men are selfish. All men are aggressive. All men are ego

driven. Do You see the difference do you hear when I

say those two different, like when I speak out those two

different perspectives, how it even feels in your body. I want

a life where I choose my path, where I feel empowered, where I

reach my goals, where I connect deeply with people. Instead of

saying, I feel lonely, I don't have this in my life, I don't

have that in my life. And my bank account is empty as well.

Now, we have to train a monkey mind and it is, it is doable,

you can override those negative thinking patterns and re wire

your brain. It is training, it will take time. But you will do

it so well and so gracefully. And you will, in doing so

inspire people to do the same. We need more of those people out

there right now, because humanity is facing a huge

darkness right now. Fear driven media, fear driven, driven

social media, we're being bombarded with advertisements

that make us feel inadequate, Instagram, showing us that we're

not enough and others have at all easy and always better than

us. We have to be aware of what we consume, what we allow our

system to believe. And then we have to be very aware about our

self talk. This is what I'm learning right now. And this is

what I need you to know, as well, because we're all together

in this. And I know I share very valuable tools with you to grow

and to UNdeC yourself and to break free. At the same time, I

want you to know that it is perfectly normal, to be met with

your own anxiety, your own self doubt that it is trying to

convince you to hold back and to stay in the quicksand that you

found yourself here recently. And it is perfectly normal to

sometimes believe those thoughts. But what I'm here for

you to say today is that you are so much more than those negative

thoughts. You are so much more than your old beliefs. And trust

me, if you start using these new tools, the self care tools, the

self empowerment tools, the undid yourself tools, to set

boundaries with people and be radical with your precious

quality time with people you love. Then I lost my train of

thought. No, I think you know what I mean? And it is very

important to not believe those thoughts, you are not your

thoughts. You are the entity that is observing those

thoughts. And that can control. No, I want to believe that I'm

gonna have a big fat bank account one day, and I'm gonna

attract possibilities to make it happen. I believe and I know

that the partner that is meant for me will enter my life soon

and I will make space for them. I will be the loving, caring,

exciting person that I can be to attract that wonderful important

partner into my life. It is so possible and there is no magic

to it. It is just aligning your stars in aligning your thoughts.

Thank you so much for listening. This episode was very dear to

me. Very passionate about this topic, because this is what I'm

struggling with as well. And at the same time I'm learning to

overcome self doubt and stuff like that. I want you to have

access to those same tools and to grow with me if You haven't

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hold back. I'm a coach, and I'm here to support you and to lift

you up to your potential. Thank you and bye