Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. And with my podcast here,

I'm hoping to bring your piece and insights about yourself that

you haven't known about yourself yet. Today, I want to talk about

productivity, how to be super productive, less burned out,

more kind to yourself and others. In my coaching, I offer

one on one sessions, to people that are entrepreneurs, young

mothers, young dads, young individuals who want to tap into

their true potential. And oftentimes we talk about

productivity because we want to accomplish more, but feel less

stressed, less scattered, more focused. So that's what I

noticed in my coaching is that everybody benefits from talking

and learning about productivity, no matter where you come from,

no matter what you're struggling with, or no matter what your

superpower is, productivity is key. This is why we're also

going to talk about quit shooting on your self shooting

like in should. What I noticed, not only in men, but also in

women is that we put extra pressure onto ourselves. And we

don't do that because we want to harm ourselves, we want to do

that, because we feel that is going to make us more

productive. So we add that little bit of extra pressure, a

little bit of extra guilt. And then we think we can fully

function and be productive and accomplish things and be the

awesome vibrant person that we want to be in our community. But

what does that do to your self esteem to your over all, mental

and physical and emotional? Let's call it environment, it

creates tension. And tension to some degree is awesome. Tension

is what pushes us forward is what brings us closer to a goal

gets us out of bed in the morning. But if there's too much

tension, we are blocking ourselves off and restricting

ourselves. So let me give you an example. Let's take woman 35

years old, she is running a successful business. And

whenever she gets home, she feels like she has to do more.

She cannot relax. She has to think about the next day she has

to think about her employees how to make make them work harder

and smarter and be careful that they don't burn out. She also

wants to be a good wife and she also wants to be a fun friend to

be around. Doesn't that sound very exhausting already? And

does it really make her more productive that when she gets

home and could be relaxing and taking real good care of

herself? She keeps brainstorming about stuff that she could do

better?

I don't think so. I think that this woman is going to sooner or

later burn out because she is punishing herself into success

in stead of thriving and relaxing into her success and

appreciating every baby step that she's making towards a set

goal. She is pushing further and further and further. And chances

are that she is struggling with insomnia that she has no time

for her husband and his life and his roblems to listen him out.

And she has a hard time to relax when she is with her friends,

because she never relaxes. And when she is with her friends,

she is expected to be fun and light. So she kind of puts on a

show to be that persona. So that sounds very exhausting to me

already. And the thing is that if she was to come home and

just, you know, lay down on the couch, read a book that is non

related to her job and give herself a break. She could not

only be a better partner, but a friend, she could also be way

more productive, because it is not sustainable. For anybody to

push through and to overwork and to be stressed out all the time.

And your body is so intelligent and so awesome, it's going to

adjust to the stress, and we're going to make you more

resilient. But if you keep burning your candle from both

sides, you are going to pay the bill at some point. And if not,

in your youngster years, you're going to pay a heavy bill in the

years to come when you are in your 60s 70s 80s maybe even

earlier already in your 50s with heart attack with Bernard with

depression with what ever you can invent whatever your body is

going to do to force you to stop to finally have a break. So what

I love to do is to help people prevent these states to help

people relax before it is too late. And to make people realize

that they are way more valuable to society, when they are

productive and relaxed. At the same time. It is really, really

important to take breaks to be in silence to reflect to look

back. And there's this famous man, he's a multimillionaire,

I'm not going to drop his name here. But I've learned a couple

months ago that he takes a week of holiday each month, sometimes

every two months. And during that week, he has no contact

with anybody. He has no cell phone, he has no laptop, he has

nothing except a pen and a piece of paper. And he says he needs

that break, he needs to turn off the volume around him like the

noise, the volume of the noise around him. To be clear in his

mind to find out, hey, is my company and I still on the right

path is my employee, my assistant doing the right thing

for us to be most productive. So he goes through his life

reflects about everything, his personal relationships, his

friendships. And after he comes back, he's extremely clear and

what he wants. And this is helping him to be super

successful and productive, also relaxed, and clarity. And my

mind is relaxation. And when you have clarity, your mind can

relax because your mind is not going into survival mode and

trying to problem solve. Right, left and center. It can relax

because there's structure and clarity and you can not

underestimate the value. Another thing I want to talk about that

I think it was in the 70s or even earlier that it was

glorified to not sleep. Read people would say oh yeah, last

night i i worked until 2am. And this morning, I got up at 5am

and started working out and started brainstorming and people

would just be like, Holy shit, that person is serious with

their business and the swell they are successful. And those

exact people now are struggling with hard to you know arrhythmia

with heart attacks with severe health problems and the research

is being done right now. And it's all coming out, that you

cannot underestimate the importance of sleep. I'd rather

you take a nap 20 to 30 minutes in the afternoon, instead of

cramming in another coffee, I'd rather have you sleep nine

hours, right seven or six to nine hours, instead of telling

me that you had another sleepless nights of being

productive, because that's going to cost you severely. And,

again, those studies are only coming out. Now. There's a lot

of research being done around sleeping patterns, and how

important it is not only for your body to recuperate, but

especially for your brain, your brain needs to detox needs to be

in a state of full relaxation. And, yeah, I find that very

beautiful and so awesome that people are coming out now and

talking about their sleep patterns and their insomnia

problems, and it's not stigmatized anymore, but we're

finding solutions to that problem that is affecting us

severely. So stop shooting on yourself, stop telling your self

that you should be doing the next thing and you should be and

you should be achieving this by age 35. Or you should be this

specific person at 65. That's not gonna, it's not going to

make the journey better. And it's not going to make you

achieve your goals faster. If you achieve your goals, you'll

be exhausted, resentful. And what's the point if we can relax

a little more and be just as productive and I feel a lot of

people in their 30s 40s, especially men, but also women

now more and more women, we have to learn to step back to trust

that everything will fall into place, and to take a break to

allow playfulness and love. Because without that we're just

going to be bitter. And people How do I want to say that? I

don't want to swear too much here on my pockets. But people

are not fun to be around. And what's the point then of being

successful? If nobody wants to hang out with you? All right, my

dear. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you so much for

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And I will be out there very soon again. Bye.