Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today. I have the window open,

and it's very windy outside. So if you hear the wind, know that

it's helping to melt the snow, and I'm very, very happy about

it. Today I want to talk about expressing yourself versus

talking. I don't know if you really pay attention to people

when they talk to you. And if you can feel and see the

difference when they express themselves. I didn't look up any

definitions now. But I know for me, it's a huge difference. When

a person talks, it can be either entertaining, or boring, self

centered, opinionated, judgmental. When a person

expresses him or herself, it comes from the heart. It comes

from a deeper place. And usually people listen more to people who

express themselves than people who just talk. You see, a person

who talks can have Valley very sorry, valuable information for

you to learn about new things that you can discover, like on

an intellectual level. But when it comes to a feeling level, and

I think I repeat myself often enough, we're all animals. And

we all care crazily much about how we feel in a sentence

situation. When someone expresses true interest, when

someone expresses true feelings, that is when they touch your

heart. That is when you know, they want you over as a

listener. So I'm going to give you a little example here. Let's

say I talked to you about the weather. weather. It's pretty

nice today. It's been snowing, now it's sunny. And I'm going to

go for a walk today. And then afterwards. Yeah, cook a meal.

Maybe watch a movie, read a book. And that's it. That's my

day. So give you a bunch of facts, so to say about myself

things that I'm going to do things that I'm observing, and

maybe you're interested in that, but maybe at the same time you

thought that's when I asked you how your day is going? How you

are. That's not really the response that I wanted. But you

see, oftentimes we give people that response. Instead of

saying, Oh, yeah, we're fine, which is the ultimate slap in

the face as an answer. We give them a little rundown of what

we've done, we're gonna do in the day. And it's maybe

interesting to some degree, but not really doesn't create

connection doesn't create any depth. And it sure doesn't let

the person know how you feel in the moment doesn't always have

to be about them. Right? You don't have to completely open up

and tell them how much Yeah, they mean to you and everything.

But when you are in a race relationship, or it's a

friendship or acquaintance or just someone who's genuinely

interested in you, watch what you're doing. Are you talking or

are you expressing yourself? If you want to keep that person at

a distance, keep talking honey, because that's for sure how

you're going to keep them on a distance. If you go deeper and

share how you feel. How you Yeah,

the phone is ringing but I'm gonna ignore it. How the things

that you've experienced today, made you feel you know, I am

repeating myself a lot here, but I will keep doing it. Then

people will feel like you want to connect with them. You want

to be vulnerable with them, you share something with them, that

you wouldn't share with a complete stranger. And this is

what creates depth. This is what creates genuine relationships.

So next time you talk, observe yourself if you're just talking,

expressing yourself instead. And you will see it makes a huge

difference in your relationships, be it with your

siblings, your parents, your friends. And even with a

stranger, sometimes when you tell a stranger, instead of just

saying fine. Hey, no, I had a tough day, I'm going through a

divorce. No, I'm actually really hungry right now. And I don't

feel well, they will show compassion, they will, like be

curious about you, if they are open to it, if they don't have

too much on their own plate. But usually when you are open and

vulnerable, and express yourself authentically, you create

something and the other person you want to be as honest as

possible, as authentic as possible. And it will open up

doors and other people, it will make them see you, it will make

them feel compassion, and empathy. And they will be able

to relate to you. Talking can go deep to when you tell a story

about your painful past or something. But there again, when

you go into details and how you felt in a situation, it will

touch the person way more than if you just throw a story to

their feet. So to say. So this is just a short little episode

for you. I feel I could say much more about this topic expressing

versus talking. But I will leave it at that short and sweet

because now it is up to you to observe yourself on how shallow

you are, or on how deep you are. It is very scary to go deep at

times. But the fruits that you will reap from that behavior are

incredibly precious. You not only create a relationship with

another person, but you also feel yourself on a deeper level.

And this is what the Borealis bot podcast is all about. I want

to connect you back to yourself. Know yourself. And I know you

can be such a strong and beautiful person out there in

the community in life and enrich people and enrich yourself.

express yourself. Never hold back on how you feel. And I will

leave you with that. I will be out there tomorrow. Again. Thank

you so much for listening to the Borealis experience.