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and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora, and I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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you can contact me over my Patreon page where I'm offering

all kinds of services to support you. If you struggle at the

moment, I'm not a professional, I'm not a doctor. I'm not a

licensed therapist. I am a regular woman who went through

some stuff. And as ready to help people and relate with people

and make people feel better throughout this tough time. It

is very hard for me at the moment to not get affected by

the news. I have contacts all over the world and people ask

for help and tell me their stories and tell me what the

things are they want to change in their life and their

community. And even in my country here in Canada, things

are, yeah, very weird at the moment. And I keep reminding

myself of the nurse and the doctor. Because this is the

position in society that I can most relate to being a nurse,

some kind of a healer. And if you look at nurses and doctors,

for instance, who go to war and help soldiers, they don't follow

the news. They see people coming in with injuries and they have

their brain totally focused on the task at hand on what has to

be done. And what I want to say by that is, in my case, if I was

to get too involved with watching the news right now, and

to agitate it to anxious to angry to upset, I couldn't do my

job. Well, I couldn't be here for you the way I am. I'm

trusting people out there in leadership to make the right

decisions for all of us. And I'm here for people who are

struggling anyways, and who need help and support who have lost

their sense of self and maybe happiness and help them back on

tracks. But if I don't protect myself from all this horrible

stuff that's going on out there, I would not be able to sustain

my little podcast and mission here. So all this to say is that

sometimes we need to switch off the news. Sometimes we just have

to focus on the people that are around us, immediately around

us, your family, your extended family, your friends, your co

workers, and your neighbors are the most important people that

influenced your life. And make sure that you're there for them.

Make sure that you give them a lesson. Make sure that you open

up to them and are vulnerable because that's the support net

you really have to be able to count.

So today's episode is about your self worth and consistency. And

everything I share here is my experience is how I learned

things along my journey, and I'm sharing this with you, in order

to help you understand yourself better. And then for you to, in

the future, make better decisions for yourself and your

community. I'm by no means and professional counsellor, or

doctor, or whatever you can think of. I'm just someone who

likes to share, and care. So to say. And today, I want to talk

about consistency and self worth, because this is what I've

learned to focus on when I wanted to get out of addiction.

Some of you might know that I was anorexic. So I was battling

with an eating disorder for a couple years in my teens, and

was able to pull myself out there. And it was self worth.

That healed me, I had to start focusing on myself again and

work on my issues of not feeling enough, not feeling good enough,

not feeling as if I belong. And not feeling understood, I had to

work on that in order to let go of my addiction to having to

control food and wanting to be super skinny. Today, I can say

I'm healed. But that illness will always be a part of my

life. And I want to help people out, who are maybe struggling

with that kind of illness or addiction, to things that are

very, very close together. And I want to support people who are

maybe ready to start a business and ready to be successful in

life, but they don't know how to stay on track, stay motivated.

So maybe you can relate to this, maybe you have started something

in the past and you were very excited, you got all the

equipment that it needs. And then a couple weeks in a couple

months in maybe you start feeling unmotivated, and doubt

are starting to creep in. And one step leads to the other and

you start losing interest, and then all that beautiful

equipment lands in the corner. Why does that happen? I feel

that happens. Sometimes when we make too radical of a change, it

can also be when it comes to weight loss, and you radically

change your food habits, your exercising habits, and not in a

way that is sustainable. And then you start making little,

you know, mistakes, you start being weak a little bit at some

point. And then from there, the guilt kicks in and self doubt,

and your self worth issues. Totally take over. So the most

important thing when you want to start something new, or when you

want to get out of an addiction is that you learn to focus in on

yourself with again, there's lots of really good meditations

out there. And I want to provide you with more meditations of

that kind here in the future. And they can help you to watch

your thoughts and to recognize maybe how destructive even your

thoughts are to awards yourself. And once you notice the thoughts

and feelings that come up when you sit in meditation with

yourself, you couldn't work on changing it and kind of building

new neural pathways. You know, your brain, your mind are two

different things. And your mind can be trained and reshaped. at

any age, age is really no excuse. And after how many years

of struggling with an addiction. You can slowly

slowly

learn to replace destructive thoughts with constructive

thoughts and maneuver yourself in very small baby steps into

the direction that you want. So when it comes to consistency and

You start something out, you need to make little steps that

are sometimes maybe even laughable. So if you want to

start a business, maybe you start talking to people first

who've done it before you start reading books, you start

collecting information about what you want to do. And at

every end of the week, you sit down for 15 minutes, and you

write down everything that you've done, to get closer to

your goal. And then, the most important thing is that you

reward yourself with something healthy, of course, not with

alcohol, or sweets, or porn, or anything of that sort.

But you

maybe call up a friend, who you have a very good connection

with. And you share those news with that person, and you tell

them that you're proud of yourself, or you sit down with

yourself, and really, tap yourself emotionally and

mentally on the shoulder and celebrate yourself a little bit.

I feel in my society I live in here, in the Western society, in

Europe, even it's the same thing. We tend to relate to

people on a very negative self image, like, Oh, I'm so fed up.

And so damn, I've done this mistake again. And then you

laugh. And then the other person tells their story of how stupid

and ugly and unsuccessful they are. And we do that in order to

not intimidate the other person. We do that because we want to

relate with the other person has something in common. But you

have to have these people in your life where you can

celebrate yourself and you celebrate them and you boost

each other to how do you say that you boost each other to

levels that you would never have dreamt off? To reach. So I've

mentioned that in my last episode, it is so important to

keep track of your limited steps that you make during a week or

two. And then to keep in contact with people who cheer for you.

And if you have nobody who cheers for you. And this is how

most people start, you have to be your own biggest cheerleader,

you have to know that you're either losing weight, to feel

better not to look better, to feel better, or you're trying to

get rid of your disc addiction, because you want to feel better

about yourself. Or you start a new business because you want to

have a purpose and society, you found your purpose, and you want

to act upon it. And you're proud of it. And no one can hold you

back. Because you know for certain that you bring value to

people's life with your passion. Another thing that is extremely

important is that you are aware of into what kind of family

dynamic Are you born into, because as some people I keep

repeating myself, are born into families that are not

necessarily in alignment with the individual's value. Now what

do you do if you are born an artist and you are born into a

family of intellectual and bankers. This is awesome

opportunity for evolution and for growth. Because you can

learn so much from your family when it comes to intellectual

stuff and banking stuff. So numbers and stuff. At the same

time, fiercely go for your mission, to be an artist out

here in this world and cheer for yourself first. And once you're

out there and people can see that you're being authentic, and

that you have your own back. You will gain followers. I promise

you. This is a natural thing that happens if you are brave

enough to step up to your needs and your purpose and your

potential. And you go out there and share yourself with the

world. So this is the self worth part. your self worth your doubt

on the other side Will extremely test you on every level once you

start doing something outside of your comfort zone. And I'm

telling you this today, because I wanted to be able to take

shortcuts, I want you to not waste time just like I did it,

and continue living a life that you don't really want to be

living and working a job that you don't really want to be

working. Believe in yourself, believe in your potential to

touch people's hearts, and to positively influence this

beautiful planet. And remind yourself, every time rich self

doubts are creeping in, that I am here for you, to help you

along your way. And to encourage you to remind you of who you

are. And to keep you on track, whenever you want to jump off

because the path is getting a little bit too rough. Every path

is getting rough, if you're deciding to leave your comfort

zone is perfectly normal, is just all about how you react to

it. If you throw the towel in and think that you're not made

for it, I'm telling you today, you are wrong, you have to keep

pushing,

you have to

keep protecting your dreams and fighting for them, if not on an

hourly basis, self worth and consistency. Consistency is

being created. When you organize yourself, when you know that in

the morning, you get up. And the first thing that you do is not

jump on your phone and scroll through Facebook. But sit with

yourself and think about or write out what you want to

achieve this day. And be as precise as you want to be it

doesn't matter. It is all about having a routine in the morning,

and being straight up with yourself of where you want to

go. And then at the end of the day, the most important thing,

again, is that you don't beat yourself up if you haven't

accomplished every single thing on your little morning list. But

you see what you have done. And I'm sure you have done more to

reach your goal. Then, if you had not written out those couple

to do things in the morning, I hope you getting my point here.

It is about setting a certain tone for yourself in the

morning, to get yourself ready to get yourself focused. And

then at the end of the day to see Okay, I got some things of

the list done. And it is way more as if I didn't write things

out in the morning. And you will see over time, healthy

nutrition, good sleeping habits, perfect social interactions. And

they don't always have to be perfect, of course. But you want

to aim for the people that are doing good in your life, and

that are inspiring to you. Keeping your goal in your mind

and being focused and not being distracted by social media or

Netflix. Or like some sort of you know recreational drugs that

help you when you feel depressed. When you keep those

little steps those advices that I'm providing you here close to

your heart. I'm promise you, you can make changes, you can get

closer to your goal. And people are We are all animals, you

know, we sense people's vibes. And when a person is glowing for

something, then they gain momentum. They gain followers,

they gain success, not overnight, but over time. It is

a process that takes time. But once the ball is rolling, the

ball is rolling. I hope I was able to provide you with

valuable tools here. I would love to hear your thoughts. I

would love to have you reached out to me and start a discussion

about things that might not resonate with you or resonate

with you. And I'd love to get to know my listeners and know how I

can serve you Even more in depth. I want you to feel free.

I want you to feel authentic. I want you to make decisions in

the future that serve your highest self that helps you to

reach your dreams and goals. Thank you for being here with me

and sending my love out to you. And I will be back there very