Welcome to the Faith Based Business Podcast with your host, Pastor Bob Thibodeau.
Speaker AOn this podcast, we interview fellow entrepreneurs who are willing to share their stories, their trials, and their triumphs in business, all in an effort to help you avoid the same obstacles and to achieve success faster.
Speaker ABut at all times, continue to rely on our faith to see us through to victory.
Speaker ANow with today's guest, here is your host, Pastor Bob Thibodeau.
Speaker BHello, everyone, everywhere.
Speaker BPastor Robert Thibodeau here.
Speaker BWelcome to the Faith Based Business Podcast.
Speaker BWe are so blessed that you are joining us today.
Speaker BAmen.
Speaker BNow, what if I were to ask you if the path you're walking on today isn't actually the one Jesus meant for you to be walking?
Speaker CHmm?
Speaker BWell, what if discovering your true identity starts by taking a different path altogether?
Speaker BI'm excited for you to hear today's conversation because we are about to dive into this idea with Benjamin Crawshaw, author of the Path.
Speaker BAnd trust me, it's going to challenge the way you think about following Jesus.
Speaker BAmen.
Speaker BBenjamin Crawshaw is part of an incredible team over@Trueface.org and is helping people just like you and me to stop pretending and stop striving and start living.
Speaker BAmen from who we really are in Christ.
Speaker BNow, his new book is honest, it's practical.
Speaker BIt's filled with the kind of grace we all need a little bit more of right now.
Speaker BPraise God.
Speaker BAnd with that being said, help me welcome the program Benjamin Croshaw.
Speaker BBenjamin, it is a blessing to have you join us today, brother.
Speaker BI'm so glad you made it today, Bob.
Speaker CThank you for having me.
Speaker CPeople just call you Bob.
Speaker CThey call you Pastor Bob.
Speaker BBob's fine.
Speaker CI'm going to call you Pastor Bob.
Speaker CI appreciate you having me on.
Speaker CI love your, you know, your enthusiasm and your passion.
Speaker CIt's contagious.
Speaker CSo I appreciate it.
Speaker BOh, praise God.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BAppreciate that.
Speaker BWell, the first question I always start with is this.
Speaker BOther than that brief information I just shared, can you tell us in your own words, who is Benjamin Crawshaw?
Speaker COoh, I wasn't ready for that question.
Speaker CYeah, I am a son of King Jesus, who's a good father, and I have three daughters.
Speaker CI've been working with True Face for the last couple of years.
Speaker CAnd when I started with True Face Bob, I just was doing a little work for them as an editor.
Speaker CAnd in a time in my life where, you know, God and I were good, but it was other people that I was struggling with, you know, because I had.
Speaker CI had trusted you.
Speaker CAnd you had hurt me.
Speaker CAnd so I said, you know, God and I are good.
Speaker CMy kids and I are good.
Speaker CBut kind of had my arms crossed when it came to engaging in community.
Speaker CSo I start editing for this ministry, True Face, and they're all about your true Face.
Speaker COkay?
Speaker CYou know, they're all about being authentic.
Speaker CAnd part of being authentic means showing up in high trust community as your true self.
Speaker CAnd I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, wait a minute.
Speaker CThis is some interesting stuff that I'm editing.
Speaker CSo I called Robbie, who's the president and CEO, and I said, hey, just who.
Speaker CWho is True Face for?
Speaker CLike, you know, when you guys sit and think about your target market, who do you.
Speaker CWho do you talk about?
Speaker CAnd he said, well, we really.
Speaker CWe really target stuck Christians, and we really want to help them, you know, experience more peace and freedom in their walk with Jesus.
Speaker CSo he started talking about this stuck Christian a little bit.
Speaker CAnd at one point I was like, I think that's me.
Speaker CI think you're talking about me.
Speaker CI'm editing.
Speaker CI'm editing these materials that are targeted at me.
Speaker CAnd so God had orchestrated that in a way that only God can to bring me to a ministry that was providing the resources that I myself needed.
Speaker CAnd so, you know, I was a part of the True Face team.
Speaker CAnd they modeled that, Bob.
Speaker CThey.
Speaker CThey really are high trust, authentic community.
Speaker CAnd so they were patient and gracious with me as I, you know, slowly uncrossed my arms and said, hey, you know, part of loving God is loving others and trusting God is trusting others.
Speaker CAnd they really helped re.
Speaker CEngage me into authentic community.
Speaker CSo I'm super grateful for them.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BSo what is trueface.org what's it all about?
Speaker BI mean, is it just book publishing or is it other stuff, too?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CTrue Face has been around for 30 years and started helping leadership.
Speaker CI think, in the business realm, they helped high trust leadership.
Speaker CThey talked a lot about, you know, leading from a place of humility, leading from a place of trust and authenticity.
Speaker CAnd then they released a book called the Cure.
Speaker CAnd this is kind of what got them on the map.
Speaker CPeople began to realize them.
Speaker CPeople who had.
Speaker CWho had lived in the room of good intentions as opposed to the room of grace.
Speaker CAnd it was really this parable slash teaching book that really kind of put them on the map.
Speaker CAnd then they really just.
Speaker CThey went where God was opening doors, which was just in communities of people who were struggling, who were stuck, who.
Speaker CIn creating these high trust communities where people could walk in the freedom of the original good news.
Speaker CSo they really help stuck Christians get unstuck.
Speaker CSo been doing it for 30 years in a number of different ways.
Speaker CA little bit in the business realm, some in churches, but a lot to just individuals.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BThat's awesome.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BPraise God.
Speaker BI want to jump right into the book, the path, because like I said before we started the recording, I've watched several of the videos you guys have on YouTube, and they are amazing.
Speaker BI love it.
Speaker CThank you.
Speaker BAnd for some of, though, the idea that the way of Jesus is different than we thought, that can be a little unsettling, I guess you could say.
Speaker BIn your book, you reference keys, keys of life and all that share about this type of story that you're sharing about, Right?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CIt's set up in this allegory.
Speaker CAnd I don't compare it to Pilgrim's Progress.
Speaker CPilgrim's Progress is a great classic, but that was one of the thoughts we had in mind is can we tell this fable, so to speak, and weave these truths into it?
Speaker CAnd it tells the story of a young architect named Tao who's searching for these keys.
Speaker CAnd these keys are just representative of, I don't know, social status, accomplishments, these things we're looking for, for fulfillment and purpose, and finds it within architecture and begins to rise in that.
Speaker CAnd then it starts to feel a little bit disillusioned, then goes to these other different booths that offer these different keys.
Speaker CSome are.
Speaker CSome are really good things, some are really awesome, but ultimately they come down to us.
Speaker CIt's about us having to figure it out on our own.
Speaker CAt the end, it's the city of I can, which is really about me.
Speaker CI have to do it.
Speaker CAnd then Tao's introduced to a booth where Jesus offers a different way, which is, what if it's not all on you?
Speaker CWhat if it's not?
Speaker CWhat if it's not?
Speaker CI can.
Speaker CWhat if it's.
Speaker CI can't.
Speaker CAnd so that's really where it begins to change a little bit.
Speaker BYeah, yeah.
Speaker BThe subject, Tao finds Jesus at a booth in the forest.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker BExplain that.
Speaker BExplain that.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CSurrounded by other booths, which, again, Bob, some of them are great.
Speaker CJesus.
Speaker BLet's hold it.
Speaker BHold that thought.
Speaker BLet's reference what these booths are like, because you briefly.
Speaker BYou went over that.
Speaker BWhere the keys, you know, we all want the approval of our parents, and then we want the approval of, you know, the.
Speaker BThe teachers at school, and then we want the approval of, you know, the players, our friends on the football team or whatever like that.
Speaker BAnd each one of these are like keys to your self worth.
Speaker BRight, Right.
Speaker BIt was like, oh look, my friends on the team love me, but my parents think it's just a waste of time type thing.
Speaker BRight, so you're trying to win the.
Speaker CApproval of your parents.
Speaker BThat's what he's talking about with these keys.
Speaker CAm I right?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CUltimately, it's the search that Solomon went on.
Speaker CIf you read Ecclesiastes, Solomon had everything.
Speaker CAnd so Solomon went to wisdom, Solomon went to pleasure, Solomon went to nature.
Speaker CSolomon went to expansion and growth.
Speaker CAnd at the end, Solomon's like, yeah, it's meaningless, chasing after the wind.
Speaker CNow if you flip that and you look at the woman at the well, the Samaritan woman who met Jesus, well, she showed up with nothing and found everything in Jesus.
Speaker CJesus, like, I'll bring living water.
Speaker CSolomon had everything.
Speaker CAnd Solomon in the end kind of died with nothing.
Speaker CAnd so it's this search that we're all on and these.
Speaker CThere's more options today, Bob, than ever before.
Speaker CBecause it could be fitness, it could be self love, it could be travel, it could be adventure, it could be, you know, standing up for justice.
Speaker CIt could be doing something important, being something important, all of these things, you know, money, success, fame, all of that.
Speaker CEven religion, right?
Speaker CEven religion is a booth that sometimes put it puts it all on us, where the booth of Jesus is like, no, it's.
Speaker CJesus says, it's all on me.
Speaker CI did for you what you can't do for yourself.
Speaker CAnd so the way to Jesus is not striving and earning, it's trusting and receiving.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BSo that's the.
Speaker BWhat he's talking about with the booths right now.
Speaker BHow did she find Jesus in the forest?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CSo the exit from I can getting the next level of keys, realizing there's more keys.
Speaker CIt's this search for accomplishment again.
Speaker CBack to Solomon.
Speaker CSolomon kept gaining, gaining, earning, earning, learning, and still felt this sense of unfulfillment.
Speaker CSo Tal goes to the forest and sees a bazaar of these booths and encounters Jesus in a long journey of walking with Jesus, asking questions, wrestling, being frustrated, walking away mad, not sure, you know, feeling like it's too good to be true, feeling like, you know, it's too.
Speaker CIt's too risky to just trust somebody.
Speaker CWe want to control, we want to hold on.
Speaker CAnd then we realize, you know, that's not working for us.
Speaker CAnd eventually it's just this beautiful moving scene, decides to take the leap with Jesus.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BAnd there's a lot of assumptions that we have about what it means to follow Jesus.
Speaker BWhat are some of the biggest misconceptions that, that you have seen believers hold about the path that they're currently walking?
Speaker CYeah, I think that for me, when I started trusting Jesus and walking with Jesus, then the immediate idea, and again, I'm not saying this was taught to me.
Speaker CThis could have just been what I acquired was, okay, now I'm walking with Jesus, so now I trust and obey for there's no other way.
Speaker CAnd then for me to start doing stuff, right, I mean, God had saved me, so now I needed to tell him, thank you by doing all this stuff where what we do on the path is we start with identity.
Speaker CSo we start with this understanding of who you are in Christ and then who God is.
Speaker CGod is a good, loving father who has given you this new identity as a son or a daughter of King Jesus.
Speaker CAnd so understanding.
Speaker CUnderstanding that.
Speaker CSo for the students that I lead, for me to talk to them about just trusting Jesus, I first have to understand, like, you know, how do you see God?
Speaker CHow do you see God?
Speaker CHow do you think God sees you?
Speaker CWho.
Speaker CWho are you as a new creation in Christ?
Speaker CSo we start there and then we talk about the idea of trusting.
Speaker CWell, so trusting for some people, Bob, is I'm going to scale.
Speaker CYou know, this was me when I first started walking.
Speaker CI'm going to have more quiet times earlier.
Speaker CYou know, I'm going to go to more chapel services, serve in more, you know, I'm going to white knuckle it and do all this stuff.
Speaker CAnd then some people take the opposite approach, which is, hey, I'm saved.
Speaker CIt's on my Instagram bio.
Speaker CAnd so now we're good.
Speaker CWhere the, the middle part is the difference, which ironically Solomon taught us, which is trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not in all in your own understanding, in all your ways, acknowledge him and he will direct your path.
Speaker CAnd sometimes he'll direct your path a long way, and sometimes he'll direct your path just a little bit at a time.
Speaker CSo it's more freeing to just trust Jesus, but it's also more frightening, right?
Speaker CIt's simple, but it's not easy.
Speaker CSo therefore, we like to take it back into our own hands and say, hey, I'll strive, earn, I'll do it all, I'll control all this.
Speaker COr we just say, you know what, I'll just, I'm good.
Speaker CI trusted Jesus, I'm a Christian, I don't need to do anything else.
Speaker CAnd.
Speaker CAnd so we go to one extreme or the other.
Speaker DYeah.
Speaker CAnd that.
Speaker CAnd that going into the cave is what we talk about, is that.
Speaker CThat trusting Jesus, lighting up your life.
Speaker CSometimes a lot of steps in advance, sometimes just a few steps in advance.
Speaker CBut again, all of this starts with you understanding who you are, which is why we start with identity first.
Speaker DYeah.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BAnd, you know, the identity isn't something we earn, as you said, it's something that we are being given.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker BAnd how do you guide someone to shift that mindset, to fully receive that identity instead of just constantly trying to prove themselves over and over and over to different groups of people?
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CYeah, I have it up there.
Speaker CChosen, holy, dearly loved saint.
Speaker CThat's in Colossians.
Speaker CSo, yeah, just reminding myself of who I am in Jesus.
Speaker CThe apostle Paul writes all of these letters to these churches, some of who are doing awesome, like Philippi, some of whom are doing awful, which is like Corinth.
Speaker CAnd he's just reminding them who you are.
Speaker CEos is the Greek word.
Speaker CIt's saints, God's holy ones.
Speaker CAnd so I talk to students about this idea that every other identity in your life has to be earned.
Speaker CEvery other identity in your life can be taken away.
Speaker CEven a driver's license, you know, you think of that as an identity.
Speaker CIt'll expire.
Speaker CYou have to go get it renewed.
Speaker CAnd so talking to students about what I would call your secondary identity, which would be, hey, I'm a basketball player or I'm a musician, or I am a, you know, a very good student.
Speaker CAnd, well, what happens when you no longer play basketball?
Speaker CWhat happens when school is, you know, learning and getting another degree is no longer a part of your experience.
Speaker CYour identity as a.
Speaker CAs a love son or daughter of King Jesus cannot be earned, cannot be taken away.
Speaker CIt can't be stripped away.
Speaker CIt can't be lost.
Speaker CIt is who you are forever.
Speaker CIt's forever fused in you.
Speaker CAnd so then out of that identity, then you can go, use the gifts that he's given you.
Speaker CYou can go, you know, use the artistic gifts, the creative gifts, your humor, your relationships, your unique story.
Speaker CBut starting with, understand what's the core of who you are.
Speaker CYou are a love son or daughter of King Jesus.
Speaker CHe is the good Father.
Speaker CYour view of the Creator is always connected to your view of the created.
Speaker CAnd so we start there, understanding that's primary.
Speaker COther identities are secondary, and they can be taken law, stripped away.
Speaker COr you may just say, hey, I don't want to be a guitar player anymore.
Speaker CI want to come over here and do something different.
Speaker CSo now you don't lose your identity.
Speaker CYou're just being directed in a different way.
Speaker DYeah.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BAnd you talk about, you know, how trying harder and doing more isn't usually the answer.
Speaker BAnd, you know, I mean, again, you go back to the sports analogy and, you know, they concentrate so much on sports.
Speaker BOr if, you know, if I just, you know, I got my associates, I got to get my bachelor's now I got to get my master's now I get a PhD now I got to do an internship over here.
Speaker BBecause if I go to another place that isn't as prestigious speeches, it's not going to work as well.
Speaker BAnd when they get all that done, well, they got pieces of paper, you know.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker BAnd that letdown happens.
Speaker BAnd, you know, how.
Speaker BHow do we break free from that performance mentality?
Speaker BBecause even in Christian circles, I mean, you know, we talked before the.
Speaker BThe recording started about, you know, me being a Bible school, and one of the requirements is you got to go witness to people.
Speaker BAnd I was an introvert.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker CBut what.
Speaker BWhat was the thing they wanted me to turn in?
Speaker BHow many people did you talk to this week?
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CPerformance.
Speaker DRight.
Speaker BHow do we break that performance mentality that so easily?
Speaker BI mean, just what we just talked about, you know, turn in how many people you talk to this week that is so easy to just institute.
Speaker BAnd it just creeps into the Christian lifestyle, I guess you could say.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CI mean, a lot of people our age, Bob, we, you know, how do we break it?
Speaker CIt broke us, right?
Speaker CIs we.
Speaker CWe got to a point where we were like, oh, man, I keep.
Speaker CI'm getting all the gold stars, right.
Speaker CI'm on the outside.
Speaker CI'm doing all the things I'm supposed to do.
Speaker CAnd then why.
Speaker CWhy does it still not.
Speaker CWhy does I still feel like I'm never doing enough and I'm not measuring up and I'm not good enough?
Speaker CAnd why does this feel so exhausting?
Speaker CSo, you know, for people our age, a lot, you know, been walking with Jesus for a while, who have done the performance, the behavior management, the performance Christianity for a while, it's just exhausting, I think, for the next generation and trying to set them on a place where it's different than that.
Speaker CI think, again, which is why it's so key for us to talk about identity first is to understand, like, who you are doesn't change.
Speaker CYou don't go and earn more of your title as the son of King Jesus, who's a good father.
Speaker CWhen you put the belief of your heart and the trust of your life.
Speaker CIn the person of Jesus Christ, you are fully fused with all of who he is.
Speaker CThe Bible says you are sealed with the Holy Spirit until the day of redemption.
Speaker CLike, you have access to everything.
Speaker CAnd to start from there and then to let your walk with Jesus be an overflow of that.
Speaker CI mean, I'm all for knowing more.
Speaker CI'm all for, like, doing better when it comes to, you know, living into the life that Jesus has for me.
Speaker CBut am I doing it in order to earn something, or am I doing it out of a connection with him?
Speaker CAm I doing it out of an overflow of who he is?
Speaker CAnd that's why Jesus said, hey, remain in me, abide.
Speaker CYou know, that's a, That's a different way of doing things.
Speaker CAnd so this is, this is our goal, is to help people early on in their journey to understand that it comes out of a.
Speaker COut of a place where you're fully fused with who Jesus says you are.
Speaker CBut we're.
Speaker CWe also address all, all the pitfalls, you know, the striving and earning the passive.
Speaker CAnd then we get into shame.
Speaker CThen we get into, hey, community.
Speaker CWhat happens when community hurts you?
Speaker CSo by no means do we paint it out like, hey, once you get your identity set, it's.
Speaker CIt's smooth sailing from there.
Speaker CBut it certainly is a different way to start than I.
Speaker CAnd maybe you started in.
Speaker DYeah.
Speaker BAnd if you just to go back to the analogy on the book with, you know, you accomplish this, there's always something else now that you find in front of you.
Speaker BAnd I, I loved how, you know, in the, in the book, how Tao finally made that level three.
Speaker BYou know, her dad had made level two.
Speaker BShe, you know, oh, he's got to be so happy.
Speaker BI'm going to be level three now.
Speaker BAnd at her party they threw for level three.
Speaker BShe found out there's a door for level four.
Speaker BThat only that level four key.
Speaker BAnd that I was like, ooh, there's always something else.
Speaker BWell, now that you got this, here's what you need to do, you know?
Speaker BYeah, they try, you know, we all.
Speaker CKnow people like this, Bob.
Speaker CI, I remember early in my career, I, I, My boss knew a guy who had just written a New York Times bestseller.
Speaker CAnd so I was in the room they were having a conversation with.
Speaker CI was just kind of there in the room and heard them having a conversation.
Speaker CAnd this guy said, you know, you would think writing a New York Times bestseller, Then it's like, who?
Speaker CI can exhale, right?
Speaker CBut now with his publisher now the pressure's on for the next book.
Speaker CIf he's got a three book deal, they're like, hey, just do that again.
Speaker CRight?
Speaker CAnd so he actually felt more pressure.
Speaker CI remember a guy, he was a starting outfielder for the Detroit Tigers.
Speaker CNot in the minors.
Speaker CHe's on the mate.
Speaker CAnd we sat down and he's like, I'm struggling with approval.
Speaker CIt's like, now you got the media coming after you, got all these guys trying to take your position, and then you still have the voice of your dad in the back of your head.
Speaker CSo I've seen it.
Speaker CI'm sure you've seen it.
Speaker CThese people who have experienced this incredible success and it's just not what they thought or hoped it would be.
Speaker CAnd that's right, you know, we.
Speaker COver some time, you and I, we've met enough people and seen enough life to know that.
Speaker CBut when you're young, you.
Speaker CIt's easy to just think, once I get there, then I'm gonna be okay.
Speaker CAnd that's what Solomon thought.
Speaker CIt just doesn't work like that.
Speaker BYeah, I. I had a friend, he was a professional pitcher for the Seattle Mariners, right.
Speaker BAnd.
Speaker BAnd he was telling.
Speaker BWe were sitting.
Speaker BHave we both cops at the same time?
Speaker DRight?
Speaker BSo after his days up there, and we were just sitting, talking one night, and I said, so why did you give all that up?
Speaker BHe said, throw out my shoulder.
Speaker CRight?
Speaker BAnd when you're a pitcher and you know, that's your.
Speaker BIt's like having a flat tire on a race car.
Speaker CYeah, right, exactly.
Speaker BAnd so you could have surgery and all that stuff, but it's never the same.
Speaker CRight?
Speaker BAnd he said, out of the 100 pitchers, if 10 get hurt, maybe one makes a comeback.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker BYou know, and he said, once you got her, you're like on your own.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker BYou know, see, you know, thing.
Speaker CAnd that's what I got to do now.
Speaker CI know.
Speaker CAnd that's what we're saying, Bob.
Speaker CThat's, that's what we're saying is your identity then gone because you've been a baseball player your whole life.
Speaker CAnd so this is what the student ministry I lead is called Sons and Daughters.
Speaker CThis is what I want them to understand.
Speaker CSome of them are great athletes, Some of them are great students.
Speaker CSome of them is to understand that's not who you are.
Speaker CEven my students who are depressed, if you find your identity in being depressed, what happens when you're no longer depressed?
Speaker CYou lose your identity.
Speaker CSo it's not just positive things.
Speaker CWe can wrap up our Identity in these, you know, not negative things, I'm saying, but struggles.
Speaker CWe can wrap them up in these labels that we've been handed, all kinds of things.
Speaker CWe can go to, good or bad, to find our identity.
Speaker CAnd so your friend who played baseball, it was like, all right, is your identity gone, or do you have an identity that's rooted in something deeper than being a major league pitcher?
Speaker BRight, exactly, exactly.
Speaker BYou know, I know.
Speaker BNo doubt you've heard stories from your readers already.
Speaker BCan you share one that really captures that transformational power of stepping into a true identity in Christ?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CI think the thing that we've heard, first of all, people are like, hey, the COVID is beautiful.
Speaker CSo they like.
Speaker CThey like the way, you know, it draws them in.
Speaker CI think, you know, making the decision to go with an allegory to a parable, it was a decision that we were glad that we made.
Speaker CI think the feedback we're hearing is people are like, oh, I found myself in Tao's story.
Speaker CI found myself.
Speaker CWhen you're saying to get to third key and realize, oh, there's a fourth key, Is there a fifth key in that?
Speaker COh, man, that's that disappointment.
Speaker CPeople are like, yeah, I've experienced that.
Speaker CAnd one guy out of Tennessee over in the Memphis area, he works with students who.
Speaker CThey go to high pressure, high performance educational schools.
Speaker CAnd so there's a lot of pressure from their parents.
Speaker CThat's why they went to these schools.
Speaker CAnd so he was like, oh, wow.
Speaker CThis idea of Tao, they.
Speaker CThey are a bunch of towels, right?
Speaker CThey are a bunch of, like, the grades, the achievements and all of that.
Speaker CAnd so being able to give them an allegory that they could understand, to realize, hey, all these things that you're working toward, they're not bad.
Speaker CIt's not like education is bad.
Speaker CIt's not like, you know, growing and expanding and all that is bad.
Speaker CAll that is great.
Speaker CThat's part of how God made you.
Speaker CBut is it ever going to be good enough?
Speaker CAnd what happens when you place all of your identity on it?
Speaker CSo I think that the feedback we've gotten not just on the identity piece, but overall, has just been people connecting to the story.
Speaker CAnd that's the power of a story.
Speaker CThat's why Jesus told parables a lot, right?
Speaker DYeah.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BAnd I related so much to Tao as far as my military is.
Speaker BMy background is military.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker BAnd, you know, that's all I ever wanted to do.
Speaker BI wanted to go in the military from time I was a freshman in high school.
Speaker BI Knew where I was going, right?
Speaker BAnd, you know, I. I went to basic training eight days after graduating from high school.
Speaker BBoom, here we go.
Speaker BNow my life begins, you know, And.
Speaker BAnd what's in the military?
Speaker BWell, you start off as an E1.
Speaker BWell, I. I need E2.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker BGot that.
Speaker BNow I can be a PFC.
Speaker BYeah, yeah.
Speaker BE4.
Speaker BNow I want to be a sergeant.
Speaker BE5.
Speaker BNow I want to be a staff sergeant.
Speaker BI want to run this whole crew here, you know?
Speaker BNow you're a step.
Speaker BNow I want to be a platoon sergeant.
Speaker CAnd it's.
Speaker BIt's always that next.
Speaker BThe next rung, the next rung, the next one.
Speaker BAnd when I got out, it took me a good 10 years to figure out, what do I do next?
Speaker BI mean, I just kind of existed.
Speaker BFinancial problems and, you know, I mean, all this stuff was going on because I no longer had my identity, Right.
Speaker BWhen I was wearing the uniform and doing.
Speaker BOh, yeah.
Speaker BI mean, I was the guy, you know, if there was an issue, take it to Tibbs, you know, because he's.
Speaker BBecause my whole existence was in that.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BWe used to joke around, but it's so true that a sergeant major, when they retire, they'll be dead in three years, Right?
Speaker BBecause their whole existence was as a sergeant major.
Speaker BNow nobody even cares who they are anymore.
Speaker BYou know, it used to be he'd walk in and even the officers, as a sergeant major, how you doing?
Speaker BWhat can I do for you?
Speaker BType.
Speaker CRight?
Speaker BAnd all of a sudden, who's he?
Speaker BOh, he's a retire.
Speaker DOkay.
Speaker BNobody even cares.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd so they die quick.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CSo did you find yourself struggling not to connect that idea to your walk with Jesus, where it was like, hey, let me achieve this next thing.
Speaker CLet me.
Speaker CLet me.
Speaker CYou know, the striving and earning.
Speaker CDid you find that mindset kind of connected over to your walk with God for a while?
Speaker BWell, I did not know the Lord during that time.
Speaker CRight, Right.
Speaker BAnd my lifestyle was one.
Speaker BWell, think of your typical soldier, right?
Speaker BMe, Right.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd it wasn't until a good five, six years after I got out where we finally hit rock bottom, I guess you could say.
Speaker BAnd I was on the verge of suicide and all that, and that's when Jesus miraculously intervened.
Speaker BAnd boom, you know, I mean, everything shifted just like that.
Speaker BBut it was still another three or four years after that, you know, when I started following Jesus and doing right.
Speaker BGoing to church, you know, wow, that's new, you know?
Speaker BAnd then all of a sudden, one morning, I'm reading the Bible and I'M called into ministry.
Speaker BOh, boy.
Speaker BOh, boy.
Speaker BYou know, because you know what?
Speaker BWhat?
Speaker BWhen the typical.
Speaker BWhen someone says, I've been called into ministry, what's the first thing that comes to mind?
Speaker BOh, I have to be a pastor.
Speaker BYou know, that's just, you know, oh, okay.
Speaker BIf I'm in the ministry, I gotta have a church because I gotta be a pastor.
Speaker BAnd we follow that route.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker BI was assistant pastor for four or five years in different churches.
Speaker BFinally had my own church.
Speaker BAnd I realized about a year into that I was not called to be a pastor.
Speaker BYeah, but.
Speaker BBut, you know, that teach.
Speaker BI can teach in depth studies.
Speaker BThat's my gift, you know, to simplify complex biblical topics.
Speaker CRight, right.
Speaker BBut.
Speaker BBut, you know, that key was always, you know, I made it.
Speaker BOh, what's next?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd that's why I say, when I was reading about Tao and all that, I was like, oh, yeah, yeah, I made it.
Speaker BOh, now I have to get through that door.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BWhen I make that door, I got it.
Speaker BI got it.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd, you know, I became a commissioned officer, man.
Speaker BI'm set now realize, nope.
Speaker BNow another hurdle.
Speaker BSo, yeah.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BAmen.
Speaker BSo that's why I think this book is so powerful.
Speaker BYou know, at the end of the day, what's the lasting message you hope your readers of the Path will carry with them not just for a season, but for the rest of their journey with Jesus?
Speaker CYeah, that's tough because there's a lot of.
Speaker CThere's a lot of good ones in there.
Speaker CI. I sit and think a little bit about.
Speaker CBecause, you know, my first instinct, as you asked that question, is to talk about identity that we've talked about here is understanding who they are.
Speaker CBut I think there comes a point where you understand, you're understanding your identity is part of a greater story.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CWe get to be a part in the.
Speaker CYou know, get to play a seen role in the unseen kingdom of God.
Speaker CThe timeless kingdom of God.
Speaker CAnd so I have a limited time.
Speaker CYou have a limited time here in this timeless kingdom.
Speaker CAnd it's just these.
Speaker CThis story that God is writing in our lives.
Speaker CWell, you know, sometimes the stories, the chapters feel slow.
Speaker CSometimes the chapters feel painful, and they feel difficult.
Speaker CAnd so I think what I want readers to understand is that God's not done writing your story.
Speaker CAnd God is so big that God can use this chapter, even if this chapter is slow, even if this chapter is painful, and God can work all of that as part of a redemptive part of your story.
Speaker CYou go through something and it's difficult.
Speaker CWell, then we look back and the times in our lives where we've grown the most have come through difficulty, right?
Speaker CNot only that, now we are positioned to connect with and minister to people who are going through what we went through at that time in the moment.
Speaker CWe just think this is tough and I want this to be over with.
Speaker CBut then if we look back, we're saying, aha, this, God.
Speaker CGod was working this as part of my story in his bigger story.
Speaker CSo I think I want people to understand that our story is part of the bigger story and we have a great, the greatest writer of them all.
Speaker CAnd he can use each chapter.
Speaker CSo for, for your, you know, viewers and watchers, Bob, who are watching this right now and are like, man, this chapter feels slow.
Speaker COr my daughter, my oldest just had ACL surgery and so she's on crutches, can't move a lot.
Speaker CThis chapter feels achingly slow.
Speaker CRight?
Speaker CI mean, literally slow.
Speaker CHey, God can use all of that.
Speaker CGod can use all that.
Speaker CGod can use this chapter as a part of your story.
Speaker CBut even bigger than that, his story.
Speaker CHis story, which is the greatest story of all time.
Speaker DYeah.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BBenjamin, this has been so interesting.
Speaker BHow can our listeners obtain a copy of your book, the Path?
Speaker BI take it it's on Amazon.
Speaker BCorrect?
Speaker CIt is on Amazon.
Speaker CYou can search Benjamin the Path or if you want to get a little more info, you can go to trueface.org t r u e f a c e dot org the path and you could see some of the animation videos that you're talking about and read a sample chapter if you want to check that out first.
Speaker CSo either way, yeah, you go to Amazon or you can go to treeface.org the path.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BSomeone has a question for you or would like more information or maybe they'd like you to come on and do an interview such as this.
Speaker BHow can they do that?
Speaker BHow can someone get in touch with you?
Speaker CYeah, just benjaminrufface.org so just my first name, benjaminrufface.
Speaker CT R U E F A C E dot org reach out to me.
Speaker CI would love, love to hear from you.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BI'll put links all this in the show notes down below, folks.
Speaker BYou were never meant to live feeling stuck or striving or pretending to be someone or something else.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BDon't shut Pastor Bob down when I'm preaching.
Speaker CGood.
Speaker BNow you just heard Benjamin Crawshaw reveal how this book the Path leads to the true identity that you were always meant to live from.
Speaker BAmen not by trying harder, but by trusting deeper.
Speaker BAmen.
Speaker BDrop down below in the show notes.
Speaker BClick the links right there.
Speaker BReach out to Benjamin and team over@Trueface.org and also be sure to order your copy of this great book, the Path.
Speaker BDon't wait.
Speaker BDo it right now while you're thinking about it.
Speaker BYou know how the devil operates.
Speaker BHe's going to try and distract you and then you're going to forget all about it.
Speaker BRight now while you're thinking about listening to us right now, drop down below in the show notes.
Speaker BClick that link.
Speaker BOrder this copy of your book right now.
Speaker BBenjamin, I want to thank you again for taking the time to come on the program today and tell us all about this great book, the Path.
Speaker BMan, I just so enjoyed this conversation.
Speaker CThank you, Bob.
Speaker CThanks for having me.
Speaker CThanks for doing what doing.
Speaker CYou're awesome.
Speaker DAmen.
Speaker BThank you folks.
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