1 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:11,000 Okay, so we're talking about covenant right now. 2 00:00:11,120 --> 00:00:14,648 And I'm going to start with Ephesians, chapter 5, verse 25 through 3 00:00:14,704 --> 00:00:15,576 27. 4 00:00:15,728 --> 00:00:20,648 It says, Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church 5 00:00:20,744 --> 00:00:23,048 and gave himself up for her. 6 00:00:23,184 --> 00:00:27,272 That he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing 7 00:00:27,336 --> 00:00:29,272 of water with the Word. 8 00:00:29,416 --> 00:00:34,660 So that he might present the church to him in splendor, without 9 00:00:34,780 --> 00:00:37,860 spot or wrinkle or any such thing. 10 00:00:37,980 --> 00:00:39,044 That he might be. 11 00:00:39,132 --> 00:00:43,796 That she might be holy and without blemish. 12 00:00:43,988 --> 00:00:48,660 So marriage reflects a covenant, not a commitment. 13 00:00:48,820 --> 00:00:54,708 And that covenant is the bride being washed by the groom. 14 00:00:54,884 --> 00:01:00,436 And he actually washes her and presents her to himself without spot 15 00:01:00,468 --> 00:01:01,332 or blemish. 16 00:01:01,476 --> 00:01:04,592 I want to start by saying, I got good news for you. 17 00:01:04,696 --> 00:01:07,260 The Lord has made a commitment to wash you. 18 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:12,336 The Lord has made a commitment to present you to himself without 19 00:01:12,408 --> 00:01:13,312 spot or blemish. 20 00:01:13,376 --> 00:01:15,136 And I want to give you good news. 21 00:01:15,288 --> 00:01:17,536 The bride doesn't wash herself. 22 00:01:17,728 --> 00:01:19,540 The groom washes the bride. 23 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:24,032 So for those of you who are trapped in legalism, for those of 24 00:01:24,056 --> 00:01:27,184 you are trapped in condemnation and guilt and shame, 25 00:01:27,312 --> 00:01:28,784 you don't wash yourself. 26 00:01:28,912 --> 00:01:30,380 He washes you. 27 00:01:30,790 --> 00:01:33,822 So get over this idea that you can make yourself pure. 28 00:01:33,886 --> 00:01:35,694 No, he makes you pure. 29 00:01:35,742 --> 00:01:37,370 Can I get an amen on that? 30 00:01:37,910 --> 00:01:43,086 In the same way, husbands, if you don't like your marriage, wash 31 00:01:43,118 --> 00:01:43,970 your wife. 32 00:01:44,790 --> 00:01:48,670 Wash her with the word, encourage your wife, prophesy over 33 00:01:48,710 --> 00:01:52,174 your wife, read the word to your wife, because your wife is a 34 00:01:52,182 --> 00:01:54,814 reflection of how you love your wife. 35 00:01:54,942 --> 00:01:58,170 And I think, for me, that's what I've learned over all the years. 36 00:01:58,940 --> 00:01:59,860 Like, I'm gonna. 37 00:01:59,940 --> 00:02:00,852 This is really scary. 38 00:02:00,916 --> 00:02:05,188 Cause I didn't prepare you for all this stuff, but what is it like 39 00:02:05,244 --> 00:02:06,548 to be a wife? 40 00:02:06,724 --> 00:02:09,764 And I know I've gotten it wrong and I've hurt you many times, 41 00:02:09,852 --> 00:02:13,268 but there's, like, I've tried to get it right. 42 00:02:13,404 --> 00:02:15,332 And, you know, what is it like? 43 00:02:15,436 --> 00:02:18,388 Cause I feel like you've had two different husbands in two different 44 00:02:18,444 --> 00:02:19,124 eras. 45 00:02:19,252 --> 00:02:21,700 Can you maybe talk about, like, what is it? 46 00:02:21,740 --> 00:02:24,952 Cause there's even words I've given you, radical words about things 47 00:02:24,976 --> 00:02:27,000 that I won't even say that have come to pass. 48 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:30,232 But I feel like I've hurt you with my words, and I've healed you 49 00:02:30,256 --> 00:02:33,384 with my words, because I didn't understand the revelation 50 00:02:33,432 --> 00:02:35,300 of Ephesians, chapter 5. 51 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:40,980 So if you were to speak from a woman's perspective, what is it like 52 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:43,160 to be on both sides? 53 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:43,960 What is it like? 54 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:48,140 You know, to be subjected to hurtful words, but healing words? 55 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:50,660 I mean, I. 56 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:53,936 We've been married almost 20 years. 57 00:02:54,008 --> 00:02:57,260 We're celebrating 20 years next January. 58 00:02:57,800 --> 00:02:58,700 I know. 59 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:02,672 And we always joke. 60 00:03:02,736 --> 00:03:04,928 We are always like, we've been married 20 years. 61 00:03:04,984 --> 00:03:05,584 We've had. 62 00:03:05,672 --> 00:03:06,672 Well, it's more now. 63 00:03:06,696 --> 00:03:11,136 We've had 10 good ones or eight good ones, you know, and we've 64 00:03:11,168 --> 00:03:12,624 been on both sides. 65 00:03:12,752 --> 00:03:14,540 I think you've also. 66 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,656 You've been the recipient of the best parts of me and the worst 67 00:03:18,688 --> 00:03:21,160 parts of me, and. 68 00:03:21,620 --> 00:03:22,680 Watch it. 69 00:03:26,020 --> 00:03:31,180 And so, yeah, I've been hurt by your words and healed by your 70 00:03:31,220 --> 00:03:31,916 words. 71 00:03:32,108 --> 00:03:37,420 And I will say that, you know, gentlemen, the hurt, it takes a lot 72 00:03:37,460 --> 00:03:38,960 longer to heal. 73 00:03:39,940 --> 00:03:42,668 You know, you can give a compliment, and that'll send her 74 00:03:42,724 --> 00:03:46,780 soaring, like, all day, but you say one hurtful thing, and she 75 00:03:46,820 --> 00:03:49,400 could hold onto that for a long, long time. 76 00:03:51,190 --> 00:03:55,006 You know, I had one time I had somebody, you know, make a comment 77 00:03:55,078 --> 00:03:56,494 about the way I looked. 78 00:03:56,542 --> 00:03:59,342 And, I mean, this was, like, years ago, right after, you know, 79 00:03:59,366 --> 00:04:01,170 right after I probably had Bella. 80 00:04:01,510 --> 00:04:07,582 And that to this day, when I try on something in the fitting room, 81 00:04:07,766 --> 00:04:10,570 that comment comes in my head. 82 00:04:12,070 --> 00:04:15,416 I'm just, you know, exactly how it was said. 83 00:04:15,598 --> 00:04:17,060 So I've had to learn. 84 00:04:17,140 --> 00:04:18,436 Can you tell me who said it? 85 00:04:18,508 --> 00:04:21,748 No, because I'm getting angry right now. 86 00:04:21,884 --> 00:04:24,420 Old Mike is coming out right now on stage. 87 00:04:24,500 --> 00:04:25,480 Old Mike? 88 00:04:25,820 --> 00:04:26,600 Yeah. 89 00:04:27,260 --> 00:04:28,308 Text it to me later. 90 00:04:28,364 --> 00:04:29,440 I'll text you. 91 00:04:30,860 --> 00:04:35,108 But it just goes to show you, like, that was 20 years ago, that 92 00:04:35,164 --> 00:04:38,052 somebody probably didn't even give two thoughts behind what they 93 00:04:38,076 --> 00:04:38,880 were saying. 94 00:04:39,260 --> 00:04:42,570 And yet that stayed with me 20 years. 95 00:04:42,950 --> 00:04:44,170 18 years. 96 00:04:44,550 --> 00:04:46,830 And so you have to. 97 00:04:46,870 --> 00:04:47,422 Your words. 98 00:04:47,486 --> 00:04:50,462 I always tell my kids this, and I don't get it right, either. 99 00:04:50,526 --> 00:04:51,358 I yell at them. 100 00:04:51,414 --> 00:04:52,622 I say dumb things. 101 00:04:52,726 --> 00:04:55,326 I, you know, have said hurtful things. 102 00:04:55,398 --> 00:04:58,766 So I'm not trying to pretend like I've, like, got this figured 103 00:04:58,798 --> 00:05:04,606 out, but I try to tell them, like, your words are like, crystal. 104 00:05:04,798 --> 00:05:05,742 Like, crystal. 105 00:05:05,806 --> 00:05:08,014 Like, you know, we don't use it anymore. 106 00:05:08,062 --> 00:05:09,502 Our dishes are from Amazon. 107 00:05:09,566 --> 00:05:12,696 But let's pretend like we have crystal dishes. 108 00:05:12,838 --> 00:05:15,892 You know how the dishes in your grandma's, like, curio cabinet, 109 00:05:16,036 --> 00:05:19,520 your mom's curio cabinet, and you're not allowed to eat on them? 110 00:05:20,220 --> 00:05:21,480 That's your words. 111 00:05:22,220 --> 00:05:26,372 We treat our dishes with more care and concern than we treat the 112 00:05:26,396 --> 00:05:28,440 way that we talk to our spouses. 113 00:05:29,020 --> 00:05:33,284 We think more about the soap that will clean those dishes and 114 00:05:33,372 --> 00:05:37,428 what needs to be hand washed, what needs to be thrown in the dishwasher, 115 00:05:37,524 --> 00:05:40,600 and yet we just, like, casually just smell, say what we 116 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:42,740 think with our words all the time. 117 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:45,240 And I Can tell. 118 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:48,340 Like just seeing the growth in you over years. 119 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:50,760 I mean, listen, we're human. 120 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:52,936 We wanna say mean things to each other. 121 00:05:53,008 --> 00:05:55,640 I don't think anybody graduates if you're just waiting, 122 00:05:55,720 --> 00:06:00,136 like, to not have that really snide comment, like, in your head. 123 00:06:00,288 --> 00:06:02,420 You know, you're gonna die with that. 124 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:06,856 It's about your getting control of your flesh and this lie 125 00:06:06,888 --> 00:06:09,980 that you can't control what comes out of your mouth. 126 00:06:10,310 --> 00:06:14,606 You know, like, oh, I'm, you know, I grew up Irish. 127 00:06:14,718 --> 00:06:15,838 That's the way we talk. 128 00:06:15,894 --> 00:06:16,910 I grew up this way. 129 00:06:16,950 --> 00:06:17,886 That's the way we talk. 130 00:06:17,958 --> 00:06:19,918 It's like, no, that isn't the way you talk. 131 00:06:19,974 --> 00:06:21,822 That's a demonic kingdom. 132 00:06:21,886 --> 00:06:23,278 That's a demonic language. 133 00:06:23,374 --> 00:06:25,246 That is not the way that we talk. 134 00:06:25,398 --> 00:06:29,550 And us having to, you know, you inherit the worst parts of how 135 00:06:29,590 --> 00:06:30,650 you grew up. 136 00:06:31,270 --> 00:06:34,702 And when you put those two toxic, real, and everybody's got 137 00:06:34,726 --> 00:06:35,006 it. 138 00:06:35,078 --> 00:06:38,470 I grew up in a Christian spirit filled household. 139 00:06:38,550 --> 00:06:39,446 It doesn't matter. 140 00:06:39,518 --> 00:06:41,798 We all have the worst parts of us. 141 00:06:41,934 --> 00:06:44,918 When you get married, you take the worst parts of who you've seen 142 00:06:44,974 --> 00:06:48,310 growing up and the worst parts of who he's seen growing up and you 143 00:06:48,350 --> 00:06:53,894 put them together and now you have a toxic, you know, demonic birthday 144 00:06:53,942 --> 00:06:54,530 party. 145 00:06:58,350 --> 00:07:00,710 And you gotta navigate life through that. 146 00:07:00,750 --> 00:07:02,702 That is the, that is your. 147 00:07:02,846 --> 00:07:04,382 That is our Adamic nature. 148 00:07:04,446 --> 00:07:07,518 That's what a theologian would call it, our sinful nature that we're 149 00:07:07,534 --> 00:07:07,998 born into. 150 00:07:08,054 --> 00:07:14,846 But here's the hope is that if you submit yourself to the Lord and 151 00:07:14,918 --> 00:07:19,950 you submit yourself to each other and you say, I'm gonna talk 152 00:07:19,990 --> 00:07:24,510 to her the way that I wish you would talk to me, baby, you just 153 00:07:24,550 --> 00:07:25,690 changed the game. 154 00:07:26,550 --> 00:07:29,790 And I began talking to you the way I wanted you to talk to me. 155 00:07:29,830 --> 00:07:31,570 And you started talking to me the way. 156 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:34,190 The way that you wanted to hear me talk to you. 157 00:07:34,310 --> 00:07:38,974 And all of a sudden it's like that demonic stronghold of toxic 158 00:07:39,022 --> 00:07:40,770 communication was broken. 159 00:07:42,950 --> 00:07:43,886 That's it. 160 00:07:44,038 --> 00:07:47,278 It's so weird because, like, no, while you were talking, I felt 161 00:07:47,294 --> 00:07:48,478 like you were reading my mind. 162 00:07:48,534 --> 00:07:49,662 It was very weird. 163 00:07:49,726 --> 00:07:51,598 I was like, I just put the mic down. 164 00:07:51,654 --> 00:07:54,366 I was like, I'm not even needed right now because we're flowing 165 00:07:54,398 --> 00:07:55,726 in, like oneness. 166 00:07:55,918 --> 00:08:00,648 Because what I was going to say is, you speak what you want to 167 00:08:00,704 --> 00:08:03,620 see, not what you currently see. 168 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:06,600 This is what everybody gets wrong. 169 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:11,784 Like, a fool can speak what they see, but a wise person can speak 170 00:08:11,832 --> 00:08:13,460 what they want to see. 171 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:18,168 This is like, call a man a good man and he will act like a good 172 00:08:18,224 --> 00:08:18,680 man. 173 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:22,620 Call a man a bad man while he's being bad, and he'll be worse. 174 00:08:23,450 --> 00:08:25,634 I'm speaking in wisdom right now. 175 00:08:25,802 --> 00:08:29,746 Like, you tell a good man who's doing something bad that he's 176 00:08:29,778 --> 00:08:32,178 a bad man, he'll do something worse. 177 00:08:32,354 --> 00:08:35,522 But you tell a good man who's doing something bad that he's good 178 00:08:35,546 --> 00:08:37,950 and you'll remind him who he really is. 179 00:08:38,810 --> 00:08:40,870 See, I'm speaking in wisdom. 180 00:08:41,530 --> 00:08:43,442 A fool can just say, so. 181 00:08:43,466 --> 00:08:48,178 What happened was I was a good man wrestling with the evil parts 182 00:08:48,194 --> 00:08:49,000 of me. 183 00:08:49,170 --> 00:08:53,160 And what she had to do is keep reminding me of who I really was. 184 00:08:55,220 --> 00:08:59,480 Well, all I'm saying is, is that not how God treated you? 185 00:09:00,820 --> 00:09:04,812 It's like she's standing before the group of men who want 186 00:09:04,836 --> 00:09:06,236 to stone her to death. 187 00:09:06,308 --> 00:09:09,440 Literally throw rocks at her head till she dies. 188 00:09:10,100 --> 00:09:13,692 And Lord's like, he without sin cast the first stone. 189 00:09:13,836 --> 00:09:17,548 They all drop their stones and Jesus looks at the woman and says, 190 00:09:17,604 --> 00:09:19,048 go and sin no more. 191 00:09:19,204 --> 00:09:25,700 It's crazy how we marry people but never learn how to drop stones. 192 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:27,872 It's crazy to me. 193 00:09:27,976 --> 00:09:31,900 And we show more grace to Kanye west. 194 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:34,384 For real. 195 00:09:34,472 --> 00:09:38,368 Like, when our favorite celebrity messes up, we show them 196 00:09:38,424 --> 00:09:40,928 more grace than the person we walk down the aisle with. 197 00:09:40,984 --> 00:09:42,100 It's crazy. 198 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:47,510 And so like a Kanye fan's like, yes, he needs so much help. 199 00:09:48,050 --> 00:09:49,498 He needs, so he does. 200 00:09:49,554 --> 00:09:50,410 We pray for him. 201 00:09:50,450 --> 00:09:51,738 That anti Semitic. 202 00:09:51,834 --> 00:09:55,162 I started going viral posting about Israel lately, and I was like, 203 00:09:55,186 --> 00:09:56,910 right on time, Holy Ghost. 204 00:09:57,410 --> 00:10:03,194 But what I think we learned is like, I started speaking and prophesying 205 00:10:03,242 --> 00:10:06,470 over you the opposite of what you think in your own head. 206 00:10:06,850 --> 00:10:09,738 You know, because the thing is, most people struggle with low 207 00:10:09,794 --> 00:10:13,770 self esteem, condemnation, feelings of inadequacy. 208 00:10:13,930 --> 00:10:17,046 So when you say mean things to them, all you're doing is confirming 209 00:10:17,078 --> 00:10:19,250 the voice of doubt in their own head. 210 00:10:20,030 --> 00:10:23,286 So I believe what spouses should be doing is speaking the opposite 211 00:10:23,318 --> 00:10:27,478 of what they think, the opposite of what they feel, the opposite. 212 00:10:27,574 --> 00:10:29,830 Like, you guys, many of you met me. 213 00:10:29,950 --> 00:10:31,730 Cause we're all best friends now. 214 00:10:32,030 --> 00:10:36,038 You met me in this season of my life where it's normal to be having 215 00:10:36,094 --> 00:10:40,182 churches all over the US this is not normal to me. 216 00:10:40,206 --> 00:10:44,006 In a previous season, I mean, I remember Julie literally yelling 217 00:10:44,038 --> 00:10:47,848 at me, but yelling at me, saying, you are gonna plant churches, 218 00:10:47,944 --> 00:10:48,744 many churches. 219 00:10:48,792 --> 00:10:50,872 Like, she had to literally yell it to me. 220 00:10:50,976 --> 00:10:52,584 Cause I didn't believe it. 221 00:10:52,752 --> 00:10:57,448 And that story I just told you, I was drunk out of my mind and 222 00:10:57,504 --> 00:10:58,360 I'm being really real. 223 00:10:58,400 --> 00:10:59,912 This wasn't last weekend. 224 00:11:00,056 --> 00:11:06,024 Everyone's like, this was like 15 years ago. 225 00:11:06,192 --> 00:11:09,240 Like 15 years ago, almost 20 years ago. 226 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:10,440 I'm drunk out of my mind. 227 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:11,880 I have no vision for this. 228 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:12,424 I lost. 229 00:11:12,512 --> 00:11:15,260 The reason why I drank is because I was hopeless. 230 00:11:15,660 --> 00:11:18,596 And I was like, if I'm not gonna kill myself instantly, I'll 231 00:11:18,628 --> 00:11:19,880 do it progressively. 232 00:11:20,220 --> 00:11:21,920 That's what addiction is. 233 00:11:22,220 --> 00:11:25,188 And so I'm drunk out of my mind, can't see. 234 00:11:25,244 --> 00:11:28,100 And it was because my pastor fell into sin. 235 00:11:28,260 --> 00:11:30,548 All the pastors around him fell into sin. 236 00:11:30,644 --> 00:11:31,652 My dad died. 237 00:11:31,716 --> 00:11:34,916 My whole world collapsed within two year span. 238 00:11:35,108 --> 00:11:38,180 Everything that I had built my life on all collapsed. 239 00:11:38,260 --> 00:11:42,836 So I became so hopeless that I just embraced alcoholism. 240 00:11:43,028 --> 00:11:47,016 But what I'm saying is, so I wasn't this man of God anymore. 241 00:11:47,048 --> 00:11:51,032 I was in my lowest of low, completely drunk out of my mind. 242 00:11:51,216 --> 00:11:56,072 And my wife's yelling at me, you are gonna plant many churches 243 00:11:56,216 --> 00:11:56,888 that story. 244 00:11:56,944 --> 00:12:00,232 The older we get, the crazier that story is to me. 245 00:12:00,336 --> 00:12:01,048 Cause it's the. 246 00:12:01,104 --> 00:12:02,296 Who does that? 247 00:12:02,448 --> 00:12:05,128 But I believe the Holy Spirit in Julie. 248 00:12:05,224 --> 00:12:05,976 It was almost. 249 00:12:06,048 --> 00:12:07,944 I'm getting a revelation on stage. 250 00:12:08,072 --> 00:12:12,380 It was almost like Noah getting drunk on the boat, where 251 00:12:12,420 --> 00:12:13,852 it's like, you are. 252 00:12:13,956 --> 00:12:18,236 God did call you to get our family to somewhere else. 253 00:12:18,268 --> 00:12:20,972 And you're not going to keep getting drunk on this boat. 254 00:12:21,036 --> 00:12:23,260 And you are going to fulfill your destiny. 255 00:12:23,340 --> 00:12:26,828 And she covered my nakedness. 256 00:12:27,004 --> 00:12:28,204 That's what happened. 257 00:12:28,252 --> 00:12:30,204 She covered my nakedness. 258 00:12:30,332 --> 00:12:33,612 It was like, my husband is drunk out of his mind naked. 259 00:12:33,676 --> 00:12:36,080 But he's also Noah Devil. 260 00:12:36,420 --> 00:12:38,242 He's also Noah. 261 00:12:38,436 --> 00:12:41,110 And I feel like there's something powerful and I'm trying 262 00:12:41,150 --> 00:12:41,942 to get this to you. 263 00:12:41,966 --> 00:12:43,830 Cause this is what I hate. 264 00:12:43,990 --> 00:12:44,966 The biggest thing. 265 00:12:45,038 --> 00:12:45,782 I'm just gonna. 266 00:12:45,846 --> 00:12:47,090 I don't even care. 267 00:12:50,030 --> 00:12:54,422 The reason why I gained like 30 pounds in the last year is because 268 00:12:54,606 --> 00:12:58,822 I have never been lied about and lied on as much as I have in 269 00:12:58,846 --> 00:12:59,910 the last year. 270 00:13:00,030 --> 00:13:04,062 And it's crazy to me how much Christians just fabricate lies. 271 00:13:04,246 --> 00:13:07,570 And I wanted to fight for myself, defend myself. 272 00:13:08,310 --> 00:13:11,838 And it literally made me think I was gonna break this year. 273 00:13:11,894 --> 00:13:15,998 Like, I think I quit ministry in my mind like 50 times this year 274 00:13:16,134 --> 00:13:20,170 because I didn't realize how toxic the world is. 275 00:13:20,550 --> 00:13:24,862 I mean, it was levels of depravity that I didn't even think 276 00:13:24,886 --> 00:13:28,030 were possible by people claiming to be Christians on YouTube, 277 00:13:28,110 --> 00:13:30,254 Facebook, Instagram, the local church. 278 00:13:30,302 --> 00:13:34,730 And I did not realize how unhinged and crazy people could be. 279 00:13:35,250 --> 00:13:37,930 So for this last year, I have been dealing with. 280 00:13:38,050 --> 00:13:41,642 I did not know that Christians lied on that level and still think 281 00:13:41,666 --> 00:13:42,830 they're going to heaven. 282 00:13:46,370 --> 00:13:50,426 And there's been a lot of warfare over who is the true Mike. 283 00:13:50,538 --> 00:13:53,866 And I've wanted to defend myself, being like, man, if you only 284 00:13:53,938 --> 00:13:54,330 knew. 285 00:13:54,410 --> 00:13:55,710 It's vindicating. 286 00:13:56,210 --> 00:13:57,434 You know what I mean? 287 00:13:57,602 --> 00:14:01,488 And I'm not trying to make it awkward right now, but the reason 288 00:14:01,544 --> 00:14:05,520 why it's important for me to even say this stuff is because the 289 00:14:05,560 --> 00:14:09,140 world sees, like, oh, Mike wants more campuses. 290 00:14:09,560 --> 00:14:11,780 No, I wanted to die. 291 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:15,680 It's like, the truth of the story is even crazier than what you 292 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:17,008 think is the truth. 293 00:14:17,184 --> 00:14:20,704 It's not like I'm going around triumphantly planting all these churches. 294 00:14:20,752 --> 00:14:24,704 I was in the fetal position in our little apartment, completely 295 00:14:24,752 --> 00:14:26,048 wasted out of my mind. 296 00:14:26,104 --> 00:14:30,288 And my wife is screaming at me, no, you're gonna plant many churches. 297 00:14:30,384 --> 00:14:32,388 Like, this is not the destiny that. 298 00:14:32,584 --> 00:14:35,200 Because in my flesh, I just wanted to die. 299 00:14:35,860 --> 00:14:39,960 So I think that the reason why truth is so important is because 300 00:14:40,260 --> 00:14:41,372 what Julie was doing. 301 00:14:41,396 --> 00:14:44,908 And I want you to go deeper on this, babe, because you're not even 302 00:14:44,964 --> 00:14:46,240 really a prophet. 303 00:14:47,700 --> 00:14:49,484 So, like, this story is crazy. 304 00:14:49,532 --> 00:14:52,892 Like, I've been on stage with my wife all around the world, and 305 00:14:52,996 --> 00:14:56,492 50 million times I've said, did God give you a word? 306 00:14:56,556 --> 00:14:57,836 And this is what she does. 307 00:14:57,908 --> 00:14:59,480 Every time, the same thing. 308 00:15:00,830 --> 00:15:02,930 Then she goes, no. 309 00:15:04,110 --> 00:15:07,570 I said this morning I wasn't gonna bust you out. 310 00:15:08,830 --> 00:15:10,182 He looked at me and said, do. 311 00:15:10,206 --> 00:15:10,726 You have a word? 312 00:15:10,758 --> 00:15:11,174 And I'm. 313 00:15:11,222 --> 00:15:13,782 I always pause because I'm like, hey, if God's gonna give me 314 00:15:13,806 --> 00:15:15,014 one, I'll take it. 315 00:15:15,182 --> 00:15:17,814 You see me close, you could roll it back in the live stream. 316 00:15:17,862 --> 00:15:21,130 I looked at him, I said, no, bro, I ain't got nothing. 317 00:15:21,470 --> 00:15:22,630 But you do it like this. 318 00:15:22,670 --> 00:15:23,398 She tries. 319 00:15:23,494 --> 00:15:24,150 She tries. 320 00:15:24,230 --> 00:15:24,774 I do. 321 00:15:24,862 --> 00:15:25,650 I'm like. 322 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:28,952 And then she goes, no, no. 323 00:15:29,136 --> 00:15:30,632 And she goes back. 324 00:15:30,816 --> 00:15:35,432 So no one sees her go, no, because I'm not a lid. 325 00:15:35,496 --> 00:15:38,216 I love putting people into their gifting or whatever. 326 00:15:38,328 --> 00:15:40,600 So my point is, this is why I've said all that. 327 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:42,020 This is why I said all that. 328 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:45,704 I think the farther we get on this journey, like, you're seeing 329 00:15:45,752 --> 00:15:48,408 my highlights, but you're not seeing my low lights. 330 00:15:48,504 --> 00:15:50,536 You're not seeing the cutting room floor. 331 00:15:50,648 --> 00:15:51,608 You're not seeing the. 332 00:15:51,664 --> 00:15:52,504 You see the stage. 333 00:15:52,552 --> 00:15:53,976 You need to see the backstage. 334 00:15:54,088 --> 00:15:58,728 Cause it was crazy for someone who's not a prophet to prophesy. 335 00:15:58,904 --> 00:16:04,280 It was crazy for a drunk guy to receive a word about planting 336 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:05,496 multiple churches. 337 00:16:05,608 --> 00:16:08,424 Everything that you've experienced in my life in this season 338 00:16:08,512 --> 00:16:10,380 is a legit miracle. 339 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:14,040 So it's like when some of you guys are like, oh, you don't know 340 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:14,920 my husband, bro. 341 00:16:14,960 --> 00:16:17,096 You don't know who I used to be. 342 00:16:17,248 --> 00:16:20,104 Your husband is double the man I used to be. 343 00:16:20,192 --> 00:16:21,048 Are you kidding me? 344 00:16:21,104 --> 00:16:23,992 The raw material of your husband is two times greater than 345 00:16:24,016 --> 00:16:25,620 the raw material of me. 346 00:16:26,230 --> 00:16:27,390 It's like Paul says. 347 00:16:27,430 --> 00:16:28,814 I'm the chief among sinners. 348 00:16:28,862 --> 00:16:29,982 Are you kidding me? 349 00:16:30,086 --> 00:16:31,598 I used to kill Christians. 350 00:16:31,694 --> 00:16:34,366 You're telling me you can't do what God called you to do? 351 00:16:34,438 --> 00:16:35,934 I was worse than your husband. 352 00:16:35,982 --> 00:16:38,606 Some people are like, oh, I wish I had Mike as my husband. 353 00:16:38,638 --> 00:16:39,930 You better wish again. 354 00:16:41,750 --> 00:16:48,158 Feel sorry for this woman, but you don't know that version of me. 355 00:16:48,294 --> 00:16:49,730 But her words. 356 00:16:51,030 --> 00:16:52,290 Her words. 357 00:16:53,190 --> 00:16:55,470 She didn't say, you're drunk. 358 00:16:55,630 --> 00:16:58,210 She said, you're a church planter. 359 00:16:58,950 --> 00:17:03,550 A fool can say what they see, but the wise will prophesy what they 360 00:17:03,590 --> 00:17:04,650 want to see. 361 00:17:05,830 --> 00:17:06,974 This is why the. 362 00:17:07,062 --> 00:17:07,934 This is the true. 363 00:17:07,982 --> 00:17:09,070 You want the true story? 364 00:17:09,110 --> 00:17:13,070 I was worse than what you said about me, but my future is better 365 00:17:13,110 --> 00:17:14,650 than what you said, too. 366 00:17:15,190 --> 00:17:16,542 You feel that? 367 00:17:16,726 --> 00:17:17,566 So this is why. 368 00:17:17,638 --> 00:17:18,030 Come on. 369 00:17:18,070 --> 00:17:19,770 Somebody in the back felt that. 370 00:17:20,140 --> 00:17:21,508 Let me read you a verse. 371 00:17:21,604 --> 00:17:25,348 Joshua, chapter 24 and 14 and 15. 372 00:17:25,484 --> 00:17:28,996 Joshua, chapter 24, verses 14 and 15. 373 00:17:29,148 --> 00:17:33,684 Joshua is calling the people of God to renew their commitment 374 00:17:33,732 --> 00:17:34,836 and covenant. 375 00:17:35,028 --> 00:17:36,180 It's like, renew. 376 00:17:36,260 --> 00:17:37,668 It's their covenant with God. 377 00:17:37,764 --> 00:17:42,228 And this parallels our marriage, our ministry, our calling. 378 00:17:42,404 --> 00:17:46,870 There's intervals where we have to renew our covenant now. 379 00:17:47,250 --> 00:17:50,426 And that's what Julie was doing when I got drunk in that story. 380 00:17:50,578 --> 00:17:56,010 I was basically trespassing on that covenant. 381 00:17:56,170 --> 00:17:59,418 And it was like Julie was calling me into a point of renew. 382 00:17:59,594 --> 00:18:01,210 Renew the covenant. 383 00:18:01,370 --> 00:18:05,002 So earlier in this service, I did something very intentional to 384 00:18:05,026 --> 00:18:07,226 make this sermon like an illustrated sermon. 385 00:18:07,338 --> 00:18:10,682 When I said, hey, if V1 Church is not your church, stop complaining 386 00:18:10,746 --> 00:18:12,746 about it and just go find another church. 387 00:18:12,858 --> 00:18:14,794 Because we need to renew our covenant. 388 00:18:14,842 --> 00:18:16,426 That's a biblical mandate. 389 00:18:16,538 --> 00:18:18,902 But we also need to do this in our marriage. 390 00:18:19,046 --> 00:18:21,770 Have you ever heard of a vow renewal? 391 00:18:22,430 --> 00:18:24,246 It's a very similar situation. 392 00:18:24,358 --> 00:18:29,318 Like, the man that made my vows to her is not the man that's 393 00:18:29,334 --> 00:18:30,534 sitting on this stage. 394 00:18:30,662 --> 00:18:34,726 So I have to renew my vows in every season of my life. 395 00:18:34,878 --> 00:18:37,078 And so that you have to do that with the church. 396 00:18:37,174 --> 00:18:38,630 You might have come into V1. 397 00:18:38,670 --> 00:18:43,062 Being like, this church is amazing, but over time, you're lacking 398 00:18:43,126 --> 00:18:43,796 covenant. 399 00:18:43,918 --> 00:18:47,576 You become intoxicated like I was, and you need somebody to yell 400 00:18:47,608 --> 00:18:49,576 at you and prophesy, this is where we're going. 401 00:18:49,648 --> 00:18:51,064 Renew your covenant. 402 00:18:51,192 --> 00:18:53,800 And so this is, I think, something, Julie, that me and you 403 00:18:53,840 --> 00:18:57,624 have learned over the years is to renew our covenant. 404 00:18:57,672 --> 00:19:00,792 So can you maybe speak about what it means, because I feel like 405 00:19:00,816 --> 00:19:05,560 for you, you're good at renewing that covenant. 406 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:07,740 And I look at it like a baptism. 407 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:10,872 Like, let me ask you, the audience, before I kick it back to 408 00:19:10,896 --> 00:19:11,500 Jules. 409 00:19:12,430 --> 00:19:16,998 When you go down into the water, what is that a symbol of dying? 410 00:19:17,094 --> 00:19:17,494 Death. 411 00:19:17,582 --> 00:19:18,166 Right. 412 00:19:18,318 --> 00:19:21,222 So when you're up here, it's commitment. 413 00:19:21,286 --> 00:19:22,598 I'm committed to Christ. 414 00:19:22,734 --> 00:19:26,854 But it doesn't become covenant until you go into the water and die 415 00:19:26,902 --> 00:19:30,534 to self, and then you join with his resurrection. 416 00:19:30,662 --> 00:19:35,334 So death to self going into that water, sharing in the death 417 00:19:35,422 --> 00:19:38,340 is how you go from commitment above the water to. 418 00:19:38,390 --> 00:19:39,928 To covenant below the water. 419 00:19:39,984 --> 00:19:41,160 And then you come back up. 420 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:42,460 Is that a revelation? 421 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:43,928 Because why? 422 00:19:43,984 --> 00:19:45,112 And let me ask you this. 423 00:19:45,216 --> 00:19:45,944 Don't be offended. 424 00:19:45,992 --> 00:19:48,472 I come from Sicilian Catholic family. 425 00:19:48,656 --> 00:19:51,180 But sprinkling is nowhere in Scripture. 426 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:53,304 Sprinkling is commitment. 427 00:19:53,432 --> 00:19:55,340 Submersion is covenant. 428 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:59,752 That's only in the Bible do you find full submersion. 429 00:19:59,816 --> 00:20:00,472 Why? 430 00:20:00,656 --> 00:20:01,608 Well, you're gonna. 431 00:20:01,704 --> 00:20:02,104 Your. 432 00:20:02,192 --> 00:20:06,080 Your whole wig, your makeup, everything's going in the water. 433 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:09,376 Your underwear, everything's going in that water. 434 00:20:09,448 --> 00:20:10,688 It's nasty. 435 00:20:10,864 --> 00:20:12,620 It's going to reveal you. 436 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:14,448 You know what I'm saying? 437 00:20:14,584 --> 00:20:19,648 Like, there's something about full submersion that is necessary 438 00:20:19,744 --> 00:20:22,464 because you can't halfway covenant. 439 00:20:22,592 --> 00:20:23,840 Does that make sense? 440 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:27,856 So some of you want to sprinkle your covenant to V1, sprinkle 441 00:20:27,888 --> 00:20:29,296 your covenant to marriage. 442 00:20:29,408 --> 00:20:30,336 Sprinkle your covenant. 443 00:20:30,368 --> 00:20:32,760 It's like, no, the word of God is very clear. 444 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,008 It's all or nothing. 445 00:20:34,184 --> 00:20:35,400 And I believe that that's what. 446 00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:38,392 So can you speak maybe a little bit about how you've been 447 00:20:38,416 --> 00:20:42,680 able to go through seasons of renewal, which is like a re. 448 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:44,780 Baptism or resubmersion? 449 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:50,072 I mean, conflict will test your covenant for sure. 450 00:20:50,176 --> 00:20:53,496 Like, your wedding is a sprinkle. 451 00:20:53,688 --> 00:20:56,930 Your first crisis is the test of your covenant. 452 00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:57,930 Come on. 453 00:20:59,110 --> 00:21:04,382 I remember we went to, you know, like, a baby baptism, and one 454 00:21:04,406 --> 00:21:07,598 of the guys, you know how they're, like, wheeling out the keg 455 00:21:07,694 --> 00:21:08,414 into the. 456 00:21:08,502 --> 00:21:09,758 I'm like, what are we doing here? 457 00:21:09,814 --> 00:21:11,854 This is a church. 458 00:21:11,902 --> 00:21:13,170 I'm so confused. 459 00:21:13,750 --> 00:21:17,486 But right before, you know, this was like, someone we loosely 460 00:21:17,518 --> 00:21:21,070 knew and we were just going to support, and they said little Emily 461 00:21:21,150 --> 00:21:22,832 just got her ticket to heaven. 462 00:21:22,966 --> 00:21:25,160 And I'm like, who's going to tell him? 463 00:21:27,380 --> 00:21:28,364 You know? 464 00:21:28,532 --> 00:21:32,188 And I think sometimes we have our wedding, and we're like, that's 465 00:21:32,204 --> 00:21:32,428 it. 466 00:21:32,484 --> 00:21:33,452 We're in covenant. 467 00:21:33,516 --> 00:21:37,880 It's like, no, you have not hit a crisis yet. 468 00:21:38,260 --> 00:21:40,524 Your crisis will test your covenant. 469 00:21:40,572 --> 00:21:44,156 That's why in church life it's not about when things are good, it's 470 00:21:44,188 --> 00:21:45,676 about when things aren't good. 471 00:21:45,748 --> 00:21:46,172 Where's. 472 00:21:46,236 --> 00:21:47,804 Where's the test of your covenant? 473 00:21:47,852 --> 00:21:49,260 What's the depth of it? 474 00:21:49,300 --> 00:21:51,720 And some of you are covenanted to be right. 475 00:21:52,580 --> 00:21:54,364 You made a covenant to be right. 476 00:21:54,452 --> 00:21:56,268 You made a covenant to wear the pants. 477 00:21:56,364 --> 00:21:58,012 You made a covenant to have control. 478 00:21:58,116 --> 00:22:01,324 You made a covenant to be intimate, but you didn't make a covenant 479 00:22:01,372 --> 00:22:02,360 to the person. 480 00:22:03,300 --> 00:22:06,720 You didn't make a covenant to the commitment, to the generational 481 00:22:07,620 --> 00:22:11,920 commitment that it takes to, you know, you can't pray. 482 00:22:12,980 --> 00:22:15,196 Blessings over your kids marriage. 483 00:22:15,228 --> 00:22:19,480 If you have a toxic one, there's something you gotta line 484 00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:20,580 it up right. 485 00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:26,328 So I wanna encourage you guys, like, when it comes to like that 486 00:22:26,384 --> 00:22:27,660 recommitment. 487 00:22:29,360 --> 00:22:34,440 I look at, you know, every day, every day I'm recommitting my 488 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:35,980 salvation to the Lord. 489 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,904 I'm like, lord, I'm dying to myself. 490 00:22:38,952 --> 00:22:40,424 The Bible says that we die daily. 491 00:22:40,472 --> 00:22:43,100 And in our marriage covenant, we die daily. 492 00:22:43,450 --> 00:22:46,226 We have good days and we have bad days. 493 00:22:46,378 --> 00:22:49,922 And I'm thankful that our bad days are much fewer and far between. 494 00:22:50,026 --> 00:22:53,190 But there are days when I get on your nerves. 495 00:22:53,770 --> 00:22:54,098 Yeah. 496 00:22:54,114 --> 00:22:56,418 I was just thinking our bad days are your fault now. 497 00:22:56,474 --> 00:22:57,190 Yeah. 498 00:22:57,850 --> 00:23:00,470 Now that I'm sober, it's pretty. 499 00:23:01,210 --> 00:23:02,270 Watch it. 500 00:23:04,890 --> 00:23:05,698 But you know what? 501 00:23:05,754 --> 00:23:06,962 I know I'm annoying. 502 00:23:07,106 --> 00:23:07,906 Yes. 503 00:23:08,098 --> 00:23:09,070 I know. 504 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,096 I'm like, give me a hug, give me a kiss. 505 00:23:13,208 --> 00:23:14,664 Like, when are we gonna go out? 506 00:23:14,752 --> 00:23:17,176 You know I'm very annoying. 507 00:23:17,288 --> 00:23:18,340 I know that. 508 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:21,176 But I. 509 00:23:21,248 --> 00:23:23,720 But like, we have to make a commitment daily. 510 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,264 This is not crisis to crisis. 511 00:23:26,392 --> 00:23:28,104 This is not decade to decade. 512 00:23:28,152 --> 00:23:29,320 This is every day. 513 00:23:29,360 --> 00:23:31,816 Are you willing to die to yourself? 514 00:23:31,928 --> 00:23:34,424 To live for Jesus and to live for your spouse? 515 00:23:34,552 --> 00:23:35,234 Yeah. 516 00:23:35,392 --> 00:23:39,730 I wanna talk about the covenant that people make to imaginations. 517 00:23:40,310 --> 00:23:43,902 Because sometimes you can have this like, spouse in your mind, you 518 00:23:43,926 --> 00:23:46,302 know, and we talked about this. 519 00:23:46,326 --> 00:23:50,062 There's a lot of women that we talk to that it's not even a sexual 520 00:23:50,126 --> 00:23:50,974 fantasy. 521 00:23:51,102 --> 00:23:54,030 It's actually like this person in their mind that they're like, 522 00:23:54,070 --> 00:23:56,670 this person treats me this way, talks to me this way. 523 00:23:56,790 --> 00:24:00,670 And it almost can be parallel to like a spiritual spouse where 524 00:24:00,710 --> 00:24:04,132 people have this covenant or this commitment to a fantasy, and 525 00:24:04,156 --> 00:24:07,108 the real person they're with does not align with that fantasy. 526 00:24:07,204 --> 00:24:10,052 So sometimes you have to break up with a fantasy so that you can 527 00:24:10,076 --> 00:24:11,640 covenant with the reality. 528 00:24:13,180 --> 00:24:14,740 And that's something for me. 529 00:24:14,780 --> 00:24:18,276 Like, I used to have a fantasy of what you were gonna be like. 530 00:24:18,428 --> 00:24:20,324 And I've had to be like, no. 531 00:24:20,412 --> 00:24:25,556 Am I in love with the Real Julie, or the fantasy of what Julie 532 00:24:25,588 --> 00:24:26,356 could be. 533 00:24:26,508 --> 00:24:28,772 And you know, because it's like, sometimes I'd be like, man, 534 00:24:28,796 --> 00:24:30,598 I want us to have deep conversations. 535 00:24:30,764 --> 00:24:34,178 And Julie's like, there's just some times where, you know. 536 00:24:34,234 --> 00:24:38,114 Cause for me, if I go staring off into the distance, I'm thinking, 537 00:24:38,162 --> 00:24:40,194 like deep philosophical thoughts. 538 00:24:40,322 --> 00:24:42,510 I've looked over at Julie and she's like this. 539 00:24:42,970 --> 00:24:44,578 And I'm like, babe, what are you thinking about? 540 00:24:44,634 --> 00:24:45,586 Tell me your heart. 541 00:24:45,658 --> 00:24:47,270 And she was like, nothing. 542 00:24:49,050 --> 00:24:51,314 And I'd be like, no, no, seriously, tell me. 543 00:24:51,402 --> 00:24:52,194 I want to talk with you. 544 00:24:52,202 --> 00:24:54,514 And she's just like, nothing. 545 00:24:54,642 --> 00:24:57,282 And she was like, do you remember those old televisions where 546 00:24:57,306 --> 00:24:59,470 you would go on Channel one and it would be like. 547 00:25:00,850 --> 00:25:03,210 She's like, that's what's in my brain right now. 548 00:25:03,250 --> 00:25:05,962 I, I, I'm not seeing anything, hearing anything. 549 00:25:06,026 --> 00:25:07,066 I'm, When I look. 550 00:25:07,138 --> 00:25:10,922 So for me, looking into the distance is like Rain Man 16, 24 551 00:25:10,946 --> 00:25:11,722 or 32. 552 00:25:11,826 --> 00:25:13,322 And it's just this and this guy here. 553 00:25:13,346 --> 00:25:14,250 And the Lord says this. 554 00:25:14,290 --> 00:25:17,226 And then over here, this says, yes, let's, and when. 555 00:25:17,298 --> 00:25:19,898 And then Julie, we're both looking into the distance and Julie 556 00:25:19,914 --> 00:25:20,870 springs going. 557 00:25:23,170 --> 00:25:24,510 It'S beautiful. 558 00:25:25,250 --> 00:25:27,418 And I'm so thankful it's the same thing. 559 00:25:27,474 --> 00:25:30,008 Because we lay down to go to sleep. 560 00:25:30,104 --> 00:25:32,380 And I lay down and my brain goes. 561 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,320 And then Julie lays down. 562 00:25:35,360 --> 00:25:36,140 She goes. 563 00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,264 And then you look over at me and it's two in the morning. 564 00:25:40,352 --> 00:25:45,656 Hello, darkness, my old friend, you know, And I'm doing prayer 565 00:25:45,688 --> 00:25:46,184 vigils. 566 00:25:46,232 --> 00:25:47,400 Oh, Lord, please. 567 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:48,296 And all this stuff. 568 00:25:48,328 --> 00:25:50,980 And the whole time through every watch of the night. 569 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:56,732 Like a week ago, he was in the living room just sweating. 570 00:25:56,796 --> 00:25:59,324 I mean, travailing, like, in prayer. 571 00:25:59,452 --> 00:26:01,004 He was like, how did you sleep? 572 00:26:01,052 --> 00:26:02,120 I'm like, great. 573 00:26:02,420 --> 00:26:06,860 I'm like, I'm literally getting attacked by principalities 574 00:26:07,020 --> 00:26:08,124 coming in my room. 575 00:26:08,212 --> 00:26:08,876 Who are you? 576 00:26:08,948 --> 00:26:09,740 Man of God. 577 00:26:09,820 --> 00:26:11,036 Satan sent me. 578 00:26:11,108 --> 00:26:12,668 And I'm like, battling it out. 579 00:26:12,724 --> 00:26:16,876 And then all of a sudden, Julie's in the other room like this, 580 00:26:16,948 --> 00:26:18,636 for, I kid you not, this room. 581 00:26:18,708 --> 00:26:20,220 And I was like, devil, go fight. 582 00:26:20,260 --> 00:26:22,054 Julie's like, I ain't worried about her. 583 00:26:22,172 --> 00:26:23,570 She ain't doing nothing. 584 00:26:23,730 --> 00:26:25,202 She ain't high rank. 585 00:26:25,346 --> 00:26:26,070 Yeah. 586 00:26:28,650 --> 00:26:30,082 This is what you. 587 00:26:30,186 --> 00:26:31,410 You think we're joking? 588 00:26:31,490 --> 00:26:32,642 We are not joking. 589 00:26:32,706 --> 00:26:33,986 And I know he's annoyed. 590 00:26:34,018 --> 00:26:36,066 And I'm like, man, I ain't gonna apologize. 591 00:26:36,098 --> 00:26:37,790 I ain't slept good in a week. 592 00:26:38,570 --> 00:26:39,634 I'm grateful. 593 00:26:39,762 --> 00:26:44,482 But you know what it is in a good marriage, it's like, I need 594 00:26:44,506 --> 00:26:46,178 to learn how to turn it off. 595 00:26:46,314 --> 00:26:48,270 And she needs to learn how to turn it on. 596 00:26:48,410 --> 00:26:49,014 And we. 597 00:26:49,102 --> 00:26:53,686 Because somewhere in the middle is a saint that represents 598 00:26:53,718 --> 00:26:57,526 our oneness, that knows when to pray and knows when to sleep. 599 00:26:57,718 --> 00:27:01,222 Because she got the revelation of Jesus in the boat, and I've got 600 00:27:01,246 --> 00:27:03,370 the revelation of Jesus in the garden. 601 00:27:05,630 --> 00:27:07,686 But they were both Jesus. 602 00:27:07,878 --> 00:27:12,246 So it's like to her, if you don't get in the garden, you know, 603 00:27:12,318 --> 00:27:15,446 but then for me, if I don't learn how to fall asleep, I don't 604 00:27:15,478 --> 00:27:16,810 make it to the garden. 605 00:27:17,150 --> 00:27:18,726 This is revelation. 606 00:27:18,918 --> 00:27:21,574 So the thing that you don't like about your spouse could be the 607 00:27:21,582 --> 00:27:25,170 very thing that God's using for them to disciple you in. 608 00:27:25,470 --> 00:27:27,078 Oh, I'm speaking to somebody. 609 00:27:27,174 --> 00:27:28,006 And I would not. 610 00:27:28,078 --> 00:27:30,454 Don't be trying to make your spouse. 611 00:27:30,502 --> 00:27:31,610 John Eckhart. 612 00:27:33,950 --> 00:27:36,086 I was literally just gonna say that really? 613 00:27:36,158 --> 00:27:39,510 Like, what if your spouse wanting to go to the jets game is 614 00:27:39,550 --> 00:27:41,664 actually what your soul needs? 615 00:27:41,862 --> 00:27:44,572 And what if you started going the jets game, he'll start going 616 00:27:44,596 --> 00:27:45,360 to church. 617 00:27:47,220 --> 00:27:49,964 It's like, you know, because this is a relationship. 618 00:27:50,012 --> 00:27:50,540 Like, what if. 619 00:27:50,580 --> 00:27:53,564 What if the Lord's like, hey, you are a powerful intercessor, but 620 00:27:53,572 --> 00:27:57,840 you're also kind of boring and you need to be balanced. 621 00:27:58,740 --> 00:28:03,760 I'm talking to myself, you know, so if you got jets tickets. 622 00:28:04,980 --> 00:28:08,948 But you see how, like, because it is both, like, the disciples were 623 00:28:09,004 --> 00:28:11,796 eating and drinking with Christ, and they got this reputation 624 00:28:11,828 --> 00:28:15,956 of being gluttons and drunkards and gluttons, because they're 625 00:28:15,988 --> 00:28:17,588 traveling around, they're laughing. 626 00:28:17,764 --> 00:28:20,676 But then also, Jesus said, be sober and vigilant. 627 00:28:20,708 --> 00:28:21,540 It's time to pray. 628 00:28:21,620 --> 00:28:23,520 And it depended on what season. 629 00:28:24,460 --> 00:28:27,988 There's a season of suffering, there's a season of celebration. 630 00:28:28,164 --> 00:28:31,460 So I think a lot of times couples are like, I wish my husband. 631 00:28:31,540 --> 00:28:33,892 And it's like, yes, but your husband will get there. 632 00:28:33,916 --> 00:28:36,644 But what is he doing that he wishes you would do? 633 00:28:36,732 --> 00:28:40,176 And why don't you guys start sowing and investing in each other? 634 00:28:40,328 --> 00:28:41,808 Cause that helps. 635 00:28:41,984 --> 00:28:44,000 And we've learned how to do that. 636 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,016 But just to kind of come to a close, babe. 637 00:28:46,048 --> 00:28:49,424 Because, by the way, if you're like, man, I want more of this. 638 00:28:49,512 --> 00:28:53,088 You know, this Friday at 9:00pm Eastern Standard Time, we're 639 00:28:53,104 --> 00:28:56,448 gonna do the third installment of our marriage, and we're gonna 640 00:28:56,464 --> 00:28:56,752 keep going. 641 00:28:56,776 --> 00:28:59,968 We got two more sessions, even after this one's over. 642 00:29:00,104 --> 00:29:05,440 But just like baptism, just like covenant renewal, the last thing 643 00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:10,718 I wanted to talk about was what are some practical ways? 644 00:29:10,894 --> 00:29:13,710 Because it's like, I feel like I rep in our marriage. 645 00:29:13,870 --> 00:29:15,662 I represent the supernatural. 646 00:29:15,726 --> 00:29:18,238 She Represents the super practical, right? 647 00:29:18,374 --> 00:29:20,542 I'm fasting, she's snacking. 648 00:29:20,686 --> 00:29:21,582 That's literally. 649 00:29:21,646 --> 00:29:23,918 I kid you not, that's literally how it is. 650 00:29:24,054 --> 00:29:27,854 But listen, I fasted till 4pm that sun was down. 651 00:29:27,942 --> 00:29:29,342 I was like, I'm in. 652 00:29:29,446 --> 00:29:30,350 I'm all in. 653 00:29:30,470 --> 00:29:31,102 I thought we were. 654 00:29:31,126 --> 00:29:34,640 Last week, I thought we were doing a water only fast all week, 655 00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:35,840 a water only fast. 656 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:37,872 And all of a sudden it's like 4:15. 657 00:29:37,976 --> 00:29:38,832 I'm like. 658 00:29:39,016 --> 00:29:40,144 And I smell. 659 00:29:40,272 --> 00:29:42,512 And I'm like, jules, did you eat? 660 00:29:42,576 --> 00:29:43,136 She. 661 00:29:43,288 --> 00:29:44,336 It was gloomy outside. 662 00:29:44,408 --> 00:29:45,980 I said, the sun went down. 663 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:48,672 I said, you're doing a sun up. 664 00:29:48,696 --> 00:29:49,264 The sundown. 665 00:29:49,312 --> 00:29:50,096 I thought this was. 666 00:29:50,168 --> 00:29:52,540 She's like, the sun went down early today. 667 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:56,256 Play that piano. 668 00:29:56,288 --> 00:29:57,264 Come on now. 669 00:29:57,432 --> 00:29:58,912 Come on, somebody. 670 00:29:59,056 --> 00:29:59,740 But. 671 00:30:00,430 --> 00:30:06,502 But this is real life because we're joking about it now. 672 00:30:06,686 --> 00:30:07,750 I would actually. 673 00:30:07,870 --> 00:30:11,990 The old me would have been mad at her for real. 674 00:30:12,110 --> 00:30:14,358 And I would have found out she ate, and I'd be like, what's wrong 675 00:30:14,374 --> 00:30:14,630 with you? 676 00:30:14,670 --> 00:30:17,478 You've never fasted more than a day like this. 677 00:30:17,534 --> 00:30:18,310 Blah, blah, blah. 678 00:30:18,390 --> 00:30:18,870 It's like. 679 00:30:18,910 --> 00:30:22,214 But now I go in the room and I'm like, did you eat? 680 00:30:22,342 --> 00:30:26,680 You know, and we're laughing about it because it's funny. 681 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,912 And I'll duke it out with the principality while she sleeps. 682 00:30:29,976 --> 00:30:30,552 Because you know what? 683 00:30:30,576 --> 00:30:33,688 I'm the man of the house and it's my job to be fighting the principalities 684 00:30:33,784 --> 00:30:34,620 anyways. 685 00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:36,500 You know what I mean? 686 00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:42,072 She's the queen in the castle, and I'm Super Mario and I know what 687 00:30:42,096 --> 00:30:42,900 to do. 688 00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:46,180 Come on. 689 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:48,660 I know what to do, girl. 690 00:30:52,010 --> 00:30:55,442 But what if I told you that God could take you to a place of 691 00:30:55,466 --> 00:30:58,510 covenant where you laugh about the things you used to fight about? 692 00:30:59,130 --> 00:31:00,754 It's all about perspective. 693 00:31:00,882 --> 00:31:04,530 Because I stopped wanting Julie to be something she wasn't. 694 00:31:04,610 --> 00:31:07,218 And I broke the vow with an imagination. 695 00:31:07,394 --> 00:31:10,466 And I started saying, God, what is it about her life I'm supposed 696 00:31:10,498 --> 00:31:11,010 to learn? 697 00:31:11,090 --> 00:31:16,604 And Julie's ministry to me is, learn how to turn your brain off, 698 00:31:16,722 --> 00:31:17,448 Mike. 699 00:31:17,624 --> 00:31:20,860 Because your greatest asset is your greatest liability. 700 00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:22,264 So there's. 701 00:31:22,312 --> 00:31:24,632 There is a wisdom in it, and I can't. 702 00:31:24,696 --> 00:31:27,608 Every time we minister to couples and we sit with them in, 703 00:31:27,744 --> 00:31:31,400 you know, marriage counseling sessions, I'm telling you not every 704 00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:34,020 time, but probably eight or nine out of ten times. 705 00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,560 They're telling me the whole time how we messed up, we're not 706 00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:39,512 good for each other, this isn't right. 707 00:31:39,616 --> 00:31:42,376 And then two, three sessions in, I'm laughing, I'm like, you guys 708 00:31:42,408 --> 00:31:43,528 are perfect for each other. 709 00:31:43,584 --> 00:31:47,690 You just don't know how, you don't know how. 710 00:31:47,990 --> 00:31:49,326 So that's what this is. 711 00:31:49,398 --> 00:31:51,998 This is us going back to that. 712 00:31:52,134 --> 00:31:54,734 So I want to pray for you in the next several moments. 713 00:31:54,782 --> 00:31:57,130 But let me minister this last thing. 714 00:31:59,750 --> 00:32:03,342 What was the first ministry, the first miracle that Jesus did 715 00:32:03,366 --> 00:32:04,222 in ministry? 716 00:32:04,366 --> 00:32:06,286 He turned water to wine. 717 00:32:06,478 --> 00:32:07,070 Right? 718 00:32:07,190 --> 00:32:09,246 And this is the wedding at Cana. 719 00:32:09,358 --> 00:32:14,122 So the very first, the very first miracle that's recorded is 720 00:32:14,146 --> 00:32:15,562 the water turning into wine. 721 00:32:15,626 --> 00:32:18,026 And it was a wedding ceremony. 722 00:32:18,138 --> 00:32:20,470 So let me give you the revelation of that. 723 00:32:22,130 --> 00:32:24,390 Water always stays water. 724 00:32:25,810 --> 00:32:28,710 Wine is wine after a process. 725 00:32:29,250 --> 00:32:34,474 But when Jesus is in the midst, he can expedite that process 726 00:32:34,642 --> 00:32:37,790 and take the ordinary and make it extraordinary. 727 00:32:38,570 --> 00:32:42,530 So the thing is, when you bring Jesus into your marriage, he 728 00:32:42,570 --> 00:32:47,634 can take a normal, everyday, just water and turn it into something 729 00:32:47,722 --> 00:32:49,030 extraordinary. 730 00:32:49,450 --> 00:32:50,750 So here's the thing. 731 00:32:56,410 --> 00:32:59,202 I am just water. 732 00:32:59,386 --> 00:33:00,430 You're water. 733 00:33:01,530 --> 00:33:03,470 Like we're just ordinary people. 734 00:33:03,780 --> 00:33:08,652 And left to myself, you know, this is even a deeper revelation. 735 00:33:08,716 --> 00:33:10,520 What happens to stagnant water? 736 00:33:12,900 --> 00:33:14,760 What happens to stagnant water? 737 00:33:16,100 --> 00:33:21,612 Yeah, stagnant water begins to grow, mold, mildew film and becomes 738 00:33:21,676 --> 00:33:22,476 poisonous. 739 00:33:22,588 --> 00:33:26,680 But wine can sit in a jar for hundreds of years. 740 00:33:27,700 --> 00:33:30,364 So what happened was you leave Mike Signorelli to myself. 741 00:33:30,412 --> 00:33:31,356 I'm dead already. 742 00:33:31,428 --> 00:33:33,820 I'm not even alive to tell this sermon. 743 00:33:33,980 --> 00:33:37,644 You leave Julie to herself and she's riding a full four wheeler 744 00:33:37,692 --> 00:33:41,164 and Rensselier and you know, living a hillbilly life. 745 00:33:41,252 --> 00:33:43,292 You know, never preach to the nations. 746 00:33:43,436 --> 00:33:45,240 I'm not trying to sell her out. 747 00:33:46,340 --> 00:33:49,052 She needs a little pushing into her ministry. 748 00:33:49,116 --> 00:33:52,844 You know, you need that, a good push because left to yourself, 749 00:33:52,892 --> 00:33:54,400 you're not going to push yourself. 750 00:33:54,980 --> 00:33:57,160 So it's like, but that's stagnant water. 751 00:33:57,460 --> 00:33:59,164 So I die and go to hell. 752 00:33:59,212 --> 00:34:01,280 Julie goes to heaven without rewards. 753 00:34:02,580 --> 00:34:07,004 That truly is, I believe what was written for us in the natural 754 00:34:07,132 --> 00:34:08,160 is Mike. 755 00:34:12,340 --> 00:34:14,844 I believe in the natural, that was the destiny. 756 00:34:14,892 --> 00:34:18,380 Mike goes to hell and Julie goes to heaven without rewards. 757 00:34:18,540 --> 00:34:21,676 And if you don't understand spiritual rewards, read the New Testament 758 00:34:21,708 --> 00:34:22,578 this week. 759 00:34:22,764 --> 00:34:25,702 So Julie goes to heaven without rewards and Mike goes to 760 00:34:25,726 --> 00:34:25,974 hell. 761 00:34:26,022 --> 00:34:28,758 That was what in the natural was written. 762 00:34:28,934 --> 00:34:33,430 Just like water doesn't ever turn into wine, when Jesus comes 763 00:34:33,470 --> 00:34:38,550 into the room, you can be transformed into something that you 764 00:34:38,590 --> 00:34:42,294 could never make yourself into that lasts and remains. 765 00:34:42,342 --> 00:34:44,730 And I'm telling you, my life is wine. 766 00:34:45,150 --> 00:34:48,342 I remember when we moved to this region, Julie, that prophet 767 00:34:48,406 --> 00:34:50,822 told you, he said, where's your husband? 768 00:34:50,886 --> 00:34:51,910 I wasn't even in the room. 769 00:34:51,950 --> 00:34:53,402 And our church was brand new. 770 00:34:53,426 --> 00:34:55,290 I think we had 50 people in this church. 771 00:34:55,370 --> 00:34:59,338 And he said, the Lord's given your husband a key, and it's a key 772 00:34:59,394 --> 00:35:01,482 in the shape of a wine glass. 773 00:35:01,626 --> 00:35:05,594 And he's going to put that key into this region and turn that key. 774 00:35:05,682 --> 00:35:09,210 And the wine of the Holy Ghost is going to flow from Long island 775 00:35:09,290 --> 00:35:12,426 all the way to the nations, and it's going to be a wine of revival. 776 00:35:12,538 --> 00:35:16,042 And I believe it's a restoration of marriages, like Jesus 777 00:35:16,106 --> 00:35:18,640 in the wedding ceremony of Canaan. 778 00:35:19,690 --> 00:35:21,586 So I want to prophesy over your marriage. 779 00:35:21,618 --> 00:35:23,826 If you're with your spouse right now, grab their hand. 780 00:35:23,898 --> 00:35:25,106 If you're not, it's okay. 781 00:35:25,138 --> 00:35:27,266 But if they are, just grab their hand, because I want to pray 782 00:35:27,298 --> 00:35:28,790 over your marriage. 783 00:35:29,930 --> 00:35:34,162 If you're single, you need to break the fantasy with the spirit 784 00:35:34,226 --> 00:35:35,106 spouse. 785 00:35:35,298 --> 00:35:37,938 Break the fantasy with this thing in your head. 786 00:35:38,074 --> 00:35:40,226 And, Julie, I'm going to ask that you pray. 787 00:35:40,418 --> 00:35:44,590 And if the Lord gave you a word, you go ahead and give it, girl. 788 00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:49,256 But we're gonna pray right now because I believe that the Lord's 789 00:35:49,288 --> 00:35:52,460 gonna turn water into wine because he's a God of covenant. 790 00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,896 And as you renew that covenant, even if your spouse isn't 791 00:35:55,928 --> 00:35:59,880 here, and you're gonna go home and renew that covenant, I believe 792 00:35:59,920 --> 00:36:02,220 that the Lord is gonna do something powerful. 793 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,592 A few months ago, during the Bible study that we were doing online, 794 00:36:07,696 --> 00:36:10,982 we talked about the wedding at Cana, and one of the things, you 795 00:36:11,006 --> 00:36:15,574 know, as we were studying the Word, is where exactly did the miracle 796 00:36:15,622 --> 00:36:16,210 happen? 797 00:36:16,750 --> 00:36:18,330 Did it happen in the vats? 798 00:36:18,830 --> 00:36:20,450 Did it happen in the cup? 799 00:36:21,070 --> 00:36:23,110 Did it happen immediately? 800 00:36:23,190 --> 00:36:24,774 Did it happen when he took a sip? 801 00:36:24,822 --> 00:36:27,686 Did he happen while he was walking with the cup? 802 00:36:27,838 --> 00:36:29,062 We don't know. 803 00:36:29,246 --> 00:36:31,490 But what I know is that it did happen. 804 00:36:32,190 --> 00:36:36,198 Some of you, in your marriage, I don't know when the miracle is 805 00:36:36,254 --> 00:36:37,890 going to happen for you. 806 00:36:38,220 --> 00:36:39,332 I don't know if it's. 807 00:36:39,396 --> 00:36:42,516 You're gonna take a step first, and God's gonna do a miracle. 808 00:36:42,628 --> 00:36:45,524 I don't know if you're gonna take 50 steps and God's gonna do 809 00:36:45,532 --> 00:36:46,500 a miracle. 810 00:36:46,660 --> 00:36:50,560 But what I know is that a miracle is on the way. 811 00:36:52,380 --> 00:36:53,684 Lord, we thank you. 812 00:36:53,772 --> 00:36:54,420 Come on. 813 00:36:54,540 --> 00:36:57,000 For the miracle in marriage. 814 00:36:57,660 --> 00:37:01,556 God, we thank you that there are people that can't even utter 815 00:37:01,748 --> 00:37:04,118 the things that they faced out loud. 816 00:37:04,284 --> 00:37:08,002 And, God, in five years, they're going to be laughing at dinner 817 00:37:08,066 --> 00:37:13,490 about the things that they overcame, that it ends in joy, it 818 00:37:13,530 --> 00:37:20,546 ends in restoration, it ends in hope, it ends in renewal, it ends 819 00:37:20,578 --> 00:37:21,750 in freedom. 820 00:37:22,250 --> 00:37:27,298 And, God, I thank you for the miracle that is on the way that we're 821 00:37:27,314 --> 00:37:31,128 not gonna keep a scorecard of the time frame. 822 00:37:31,274 --> 00:37:32,956 Lord, you forgot about me. 823 00:37:33,028 --> 00:37:35,004 We're not going to shake our fists at God. 824 00:37:35,052 --> 00:37:40,316 We're going to be faithful to carry the cup to the master. 825 00:37:40,508 --> 00:37:42,520 Lord, you said you would do it. 826 00:37:42,820 --> 00:37:46,012 I don't know if it's happening in this step or the next, but it 827 00:37:46,036 --> 00:37:47,240 is going to happen. 828 00:37:48,180 --> 00:37:53,440 And God, we thank you for what is on the way in our marriages. 829 00:37:54,100 --> 00:37:55,880 God, let it be today. 830 00:37:58,910 --> 00:38:06,010 But if it isn't today, God, we will be sure to stand on your word 831 00:38:08,270 --> 00:38:13,490 because you do not lie in Jesus name. 832 00:38:22,870 --> 00:38:23,110 Sa.