Hello and welcome to day four of my go live challenge.

I'm going live for 10 days in a row, so Thursdays.

I don't normally do a video on.

Thursday, but I decided that we would.

Start with a Thursday thought.

And in this video I'm going to explore kindness and the transformative power of acts of kindness, of being kind and.

Naturally kind to other people, and also how they can create a ripple effect.

Of positivity in your life and in your community.

How by being kind can shift somebody's day.

A kindness isn't just about being nice, it's a little bit more than that.

It's also about maintaining healthy boundaries and.

Examining your ulterior motives, if you have.

Any, for being kind.

So the power of kindness.

Let's start there.

Acts of kindness have the incredible power to brighten someone's day, foster connection and create a ripple effect of positivity.

Whether it's a simple smile, holding the door for someone, or offering help to.

A stranger, these small gestures can make a big difference.

I remember when I lived in London.

And I used to have a hour.

And a half, two hour commute.

My challenge to myself every morning was to raise a smile on at least three people.

And I used to do that with.

Everyone that I met.

So if, if I engaged with one of the station staff, my idea was.

To chat with them, to at least get them to smile, to try and brighten their day a little bit, because especially during winter, it could be a.

Bit of a grim job standing on platforms all day.

So that was like my little contribution on the way to work.

And it kind of carried on throughout.

The day because it became a habit.

And that impact means that if they're.

Smiling, they're potentially going to be kinder.

To the next person they meet.

So it can make a big difference, can have that ripple effect.

Now it's crucial that our kindness comes from a place of authenticity.

I don't want anything other than to make someone smile.

So true.

Kindness isn't about seeking praise or recognition.

It's not about being seen as a good person.

Genuine kindness stems from a sincere desire.

To make a positive impact without expecting anything in return.

It was one of the pitfalls of.

Kindness, especially if you have an unconscious need to get recognition, is that of excessive people pleasing.

And that's where it gets tricky.

Sometimes in our eagerness to be kind, we can fall into the trap of excessive people pleasing.

We might say yes to every request.

And neglect our own needs or allow.

Others to take advantage of our goodwill.

And this isn't true kindness.

It's a recipe for burnout and resentment.

So maintain healthy boundaries while being kind.

It's about finding balance.

Being kind doesn't mean being a doormass.

It's essential to maintain those healthy boundaries.

And say no when you mean no.

Be assertive.

Understand your truth and your own alignment and your own self care.

Recognize your own limits and respect them.

And understand that it is okay to.

Prioritize yourself and your own self care.

A kindness with ulterior motives.

You know, real kindness doesn't come with strings attached.

We're not looking for a return on investment, if you like.

It's not about creating obligations or expectations.

When we perform acts of kindness, the.

Idea is to do it without ulterior motives.

The joy should come from the act of kindness itself, not from what you.

Might get in return.

So here's some practical examples in addition.

For instance to making, you know, raising.

A smile on the way to work.

If you're traveling on public transport, it.

Could be helping a colleague with a project.

If you know they're struggling and you.

Know that you can maybe take some of the burden.

And again, setting clear limits on how.

Much time you can spare.

But maybe saying, you know, I've got.

15 minutes, minutes, if this.

Is there anything I can help with?

You can volunteer.

Especially around Christmas time.

We're moving into the Christmas period and.

There'S so many opportunities to volunteer to help out.

So find a cause that you're genuinely passionate about and that you know that you have a skill that you can.

Contribute and help out.

But even if it's just helping someone.

With their shopping or walking with someone.

Across a road, maybe if they're disabled.

Or elderly and not quite able to.

Make it themselves on their own, being.

There to help them, to give them that support, even if just standing with them can sometimes give them the support they need.

When our kindness is genuine and balanced.

With healthy boundaries, it creates meaningful connections and it fosters a more compassionate world.

And it can create that riffle effect with someone going on like the pay it forward.

And because you've.

You've shifted their state that they're going to show up in a much more.

Positive way with the people that they meet.

And therefore you're making a positive impact.

Without depleting your own emotional resources and.

Without expecting anything back.

And just the sheer joy of knowing that that positivity is being paid forward is enough.

So as we go about our day.

Today, let's challenge ourselves to practice authentic kindness and compassion.

Be generous with your compassion, but Also, be mindful of your own well being and remember, the most sustainable kindness comes.

From a full cup, not an empty one.

So thank you for tuning in to this first Thursday thought and until next.

Time, keep spreading kindness, authenticity and wisdom.

And tomorrow is Friday Features.

So I shall be back then.

But I'd love to hear your thoughts.

In the comments or if you want to leave something below the video if you've practiced kindness today while maintaining those healthy boundaries and you know, applying it wisely to the people you meet.

But would be lovely to see some comments about that.

And tomorrow, as I say, I shall.

Be back with Friday features.

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