We believe life is precious. This is it. We've
Kelly Hatfield:got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to
Kelly Hatfield:maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our
Kelly Hatfield:full potential.
John Mitchell:Are you living up to your potential? Are you
John Mitchell:frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't
John Mitchell:seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next
John Mitchell:level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.
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Kelly Hatfield:right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional
Kelly Hatfield:life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher
Kelly Hatfield:level. So you're playing at your full potential, rather than at a
Kelly Hatfield:fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that
Kelly Hatfield:once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you
Kelly Hatfield:learn it, watch what happens. Welcome to think Be it the
Kelly Hatfield:podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.
John Mitchell:And I'm John Michell. So today, we've got a
John Mitchell:topic that I think you guys will find interesting. You know, life
John Mitchell:is all about growing, and, and evolving intellectually. And so
John Mitchell:my, the topic today is really, do you have a system for
John Mitchell:growing? And do you have a system for reviewing what you've
John Mitchell:learned in the past. And with that, as the subject I'll share
John Mitchell:with you, sort of my system, and Kelly, then utilise yours, but
John Mitchell:you know, so I have a system where I pick basically three,
John Mitchell:three podcasts that I follow, you know, that are relative to
John Mitchell:entrepreneurs and, and to sports coaches. And so I have three
John Mitchell:different podcasts that I follow. And every Monday, I look
John Mitchell:and see what episodes what new episodes are there. And I pick
John Mitchell:two specific episodes out of those three different podcasts.
John Mitchell:And I listen to the episodes during the week. But, and that's
John Mitchell:how it evolves every week for me. And I, I send myself an
John Mitchell:email, those episodes that I'm going to listen to on Monday, so
John Mitchell:that I really start listing, Monday at lunch, and then
John Mitchell:through the end of the week. But the other thing I am big on is,
John Mitchell:is recording what I'm learning. And I have a place that when I
John Mitchell:like read a book, I'll take notes, and then I'll record the
John Mitchell:notes in this particular file that I have. And so I'm tracking
John Mitchell:what I'm learning. And, and lately, I've been tracking what
John Mitchell:I've been learning every week by looking at what I'm writing in
John Mitchell:my thinking tablet, which is this technique of thinking two
John Mitchell:times a week. But that's how I do it. And so Kelly, tell us how
John Mitchell:you do it. And then I want to talk a little deeper about why,
John Mitchell:you know, reviewing what you're learning is important. So how do
John Mitchell:you how do you do it.
Kelly Hatfield:So I've got part of what I do each week. So I
Kelly Hatfield:have a review that I do each week, and it's part of my
Kelly Hatfield:planning session for the following week. So um, whatever
Kelly Hatfield:I listened to, as far as the you know, whether it's a podcast, or
Kelly Hatfield:whether it was a specific training that I did, or, you
Kelly Hatfield:know, we've got a monthly learning team learning growth
Kelly Hatfield:session that we do. And so it could be the download from that.
Kelly Hatfield:But basically, I'll use voice notes while I'm listening to it.
Kelly Hatfield:Because a lot of the time I'm doing something like getting
Kelly Hatfield:ready in the morning, or I'm on the treadmill. So something
Kelly Hatfield:really like jumps out at me. I'm like, Okay, I need to, I need to
Kelly Hatfield:be thinking about that more deeply. I'm using I'm putting it
Kelly Hatfield:into my thinking session, you know, it might even be an
Kelly Hatfield:episode that I will go back. And because I'll timestamp it like,
Kelly Hatfield:Okay, I need to come back to 10 minutes and 30 seconds, because
Kelly Hatfield:everything from there for the next five minutes was like
Kelly Hatfield:really the essence of what I want to be thinking more deeply
Kelly Hatfield:about. Right? And so I go through that process during the
Kelly Hatfield:week and then on Sunday, I'm looking at okay, when I did my
Kelly Hatfield:thinking session, were there any like what action items were
Kelly Hatfield:there? You know, what were my takeaways do any of those need
Kelly Hatfield:to go on to my calendar for the next week, as far as planning is
Kelly Hatfield:concerned? Or so I'm looking at it. I haven't been looking at it
Kelly Hatfield:specifically in terms of what did I learn? It's more so okay,
Kelly Hatfield:like what were my key takeaways? And then if there were any
Kelly Hatfield:action items as a result of this thinking sessions, am I moving
Kelly Hatfield:this project forward or what I learned forward? Or how do I
Kelly Hatfield:move it forward by getting it on Mike? calendar and making the
Kelly Hatfield:space for the following week. So that's kind of my process.
John Mitchell:Right? You know, I think probably when people
John Mitchell:hear how we do it, they're like, whoa, that's, that's way too
John Mitchell:complicated for me. And but it doesn't have to be, you know,
John Mitchell:you're listening to two people that are serious growers, you
John Mitchell:know, but you do have to have a simple system, quote, unquote,
John Mitchell:system to grow. Such as, you know, setting up what you're
John Mitchell:gonna grow, what you're gonna listen to, at the start of the
John Mitchell:week, and then listen to it. By the way, that's pretty simple.
John Mitchell:And that's powerful. But one of the things I've sort of see,
John Mitchell:though, is that once you learn something, oftentimes you'll
John Mitchell:forget it unless you go back, and, and read it again. And so
John Mitchell:that's the next iteration to growing is, is capturing those
John Mitchell:really powerful things you're learning and review them. And,
John Mitchell:and it sticks in my head, this idea that, that it's better to
John Mitchell:read one great book 10 times than 10, good books. And, and
John Mitchell:I'm big believer in that. And so along that lines, you have to,
John Mitchell:you have to record those things that you're learning so that,
John Mitchell:you know, like I do it once a quarter, the first week of the
John Mitchell:new quarter, I'm gonna go back and review all the notes I had
John Mitchell:for the past quarter, and probably for the past year. And,
John Mitchell:and it's pretty powerful. And I was and as we launched into this
John Mitchell:whole idea I was this week looking at what I learned last
John Mitchell:quarter, and I think the most powerful thing I learned was
John Mitchell:what we had a podcast episode on this a while back, where you
John Mitchell:have to tune in to reality. Because reality is the the most
John Mitchell:efficient way things work. And so if you, you know, don't tuned
John Mitchell:in or reality, let's, let's say you're in a business, and you're
John Mitchell:sort of going along, but you're oblivious to are we getting more
John Mitchell:sales are? Are more and more leads coming in? Or is the
John Mitchell:opposite having happening, fewer leads are coming in, you know,
John Mitchell:you've got to tune in to reality, and see, what is it
John Mitchell:telling you, you may not like it. But the sooner you tune in
John Mitchell:to reality, and adjust your behavior so that the results
John Mitchell:that reality is giving you are more favorable, you're always
John Mitchell:going to struggle, and I never, I never really got this as deep
John Mitchell:as I do today. What do you think was this past? Say, since the
John Mitchell:start of the year? What do you think, is the biggest lesson
John Mitchell:you've gotten?
Kelly Hatfield:I would think and listen, I know, I knew this,
Kelly Hatfield:you know, but common sense isn't always common practice. Right?
Kelly Hatfield:So, um, you know, one of the key things for me, is really, I've
Kelly Hatfield:been able to exponentially change and I've got a great
Kelly Hatfield:mindset. But you know, honestly, um, you know, with everything
Kelly Hatfield:that's been going on in the world, and with, you know, just
Kelly Hatfield:all of this uncertainty, and, you know, we know that our, we
Kelly Hatfield:naturally are fearful, you know, our brains are geared for that.
Kelly Hatfield:And so, for me, it was, I got rid of every news, social media,
Kelly Hatfield:app, anything on my phone, I limit my intake of the news,
Kelly Hatfield:because I want to stay informed, doesn't need to be on in the
Kelly Hatfield:office, it doesn't need to be on in the background, filling my
Kelly Hatfield:brain with anxiety and everything, even though maybe
Kelly Hatfield:I'm not really listening to it, your brain is yeah, there. You
Kelly Hatfield:know. So I think turning that off, being very intentional
Kelly Hatfield:about how I consume those things, and at what time of day,
Kelly Hatfield:and like really dialing that in, because the life, the role of an
Kelly Hatfield:entrepreneur, of a business owner of it, like it's all a bit
Kelly Hatfield:what's happening in your mind, in your mindset. And so really
Kelly Hatfield:protecting that protecting what you're allowing the input that
Kelly Hatfield:you're allowing into your life and into your, you know, your
Kelly Hatfield:brain. And so, and I again, I knew these things, but you just
Kelly Hatfield:fall into some old patterns. And, you know, so back into my
Kelly Hatfield:visualization it went so that I could correct some of that
Kelly Hatfield:behavior that was just fine on autopilot. And it made a huge
Kelly Hatfield:difference.
John Mitchell:Yeah, that's, that's great. I completely agree
John Mitchell:with you. I mean, it goes back to what we were talking about a
John Mitchell:while ago, you know, life is a state of mind. Yep. And so how
John Mitchell:are you controlling your state of mind? Yep. You know, the
John Mitchell:other thing that I noticed that was a big one for me last
John Mitchell:quarter was that just the pure power of doing what you say
John Mitchell:you're going to do, and how, as you and I have learned, and
John Mitchell:coaching people, you know, everybody says they do what they
John Mitchell:say they're going to do. And then when they when you really
John Mitchell:sort of dig a little deeper, oftentimes, you see that they're
John Mitchell:doing it, maybe 40% of the time. And, and this is such an aha
John Mitchell:moment with people. And it's sort of a good or a bad thing,
John Mitchell:you know, they discover that they're not doing it, and they
John Mitchell:feel bad about it. But then, you know, you teach them how that if
John Mitchell:now you're conscious of doing what you say you're going to do,
John Mitchell:it'll make them way more conscious about what they say
John Mitchell:they will, they will do, and then they'll actually do it.
John Mitchell:And, and, of course, it's easy to articulate this in our life
John Mitchell:GPS template, and that, you know, I do what I say, I'm going
John Mitchell:to do both with myself and other people. But I see that when
John Mitchell:people really embrace this, they typically get twice as much done
John Mitchell:from just that mindset shift. Right?
Kelly Hatfield:Absolutely. Well, you know, we talk about
Kelly Hatfield:how precious life is, you know, and, you know, so when you're
Kelly Hatfield:very intentional, you know, about and having a sense of
Kelly Hatfield:urgency about life, about what you say yes to, and this goes
Kelly Hatfield:back to what you were just talking about the things that
Kelly Hatfield:you commit to doing and following through and doing them
Kelly Hatfield:the thing, you know, you begin to filter everything through
Kelly Hatfield:that, like, Hey, listen, is this aligned with you? No, no, can I
Kelly Hatfield:really get this done in the time limit? No. So So you start
Kelly Hatfield:editing, the things you're saying yes to, and then watch
Kelly Hatfield:what happens as far as momentum, if you're really have a lot of
Kelly Hatfield:clarity around what your goals are, what you want, you know,
Kelly Hatfield:what you want to achieve, how you want to show up, you know,
Kelly Hatfield:and then you start planning and acting in alignment with that,
Kelly Hatfield:and then keeping your word to yourself, the momentum, you
Kelly Hatfield:know, it just happens so quickly, and you get so much
Kelly Hatfield:more done. Because you're not doing all that fluffy stuff that
Kelly Hatfield:you shouldn't have said yes to to begin with. And then you're
Kelly Hatfield:not diluting any of your energy by being stressed about the fact
Kelly Hatfield:you've committed to something that you really aren't going to
Kelly Hatfield:do, you know, or you haven't done and you've let somebody
Kelly Hatfield:down, and there's this whole cascade that happens that just
Kelly Hatfield:shifts your energy and slows everything down. And so when you
Kelly Hatfield:do this, the way you just get on with that keeping your word to
Kelly Hatfield:yourself, oh my gosh, right. It's just everything.
John Mitchell:Right? You know, using our technique, one of the
John Mitchell:things I noticed is, is, of course, I feel big time guilt.
John Mitchell:If I don't do something I say I'm gonna do, which is great.
John Mitchell:You know that guilt is a powerful thing. And so I'm glad
John Mitchell:it's there. But if if I actually see that I didn't do something I
John Mitchell:said, I'm going to do, I'm going to by God do it the next time.
John Mitchell:And if I see that I it doesn't happen again. I'm going to
John Mitchell:change the wording in my visualization in terms of what
John Mitchell:I'm how I'm saying it, because evidently, my subconscious mind
John Mitchell:doesn't like how I'm saying it or doesn't appreciate the
John Mitchell:importance of whatever it is.
Kelly Hatfield:It's John, it's so interesting that you say that
Kelly Hatfield:because in my life, GPS or visualization, I change the
Kelly Hatfield:wording to be I'm deliberate. And intentional about what I say
Kelly Hatfield:yes. And what I say no to. Yeah. So like, now I've trained myself
Kelly Hatfield:that in the moment, I rarely will give somebody an answer. I
Kelly Hatfield:slow down because my, my autopilot that 95% subconscious
Kelly Hatfield:happens subconsciously would be to just right in the moment.
Kelly Hatfield:Right? Well, that gets me nowhere. So by saving that
Kelly Hatfield:space, then I'm able to slow down and say, okay, here are my
Kelly Hatfield:goals. Here's really let me get a realistic picture. Is this
Kelly Hatfield:aligned? Does this make sense for me to, to commit to this?
Kelly Hatfield:And then I can circle back with the person and say no,
Kelly Hatfield:graciously, you know, I agree to do it. But I'm deliberate and
Kelly Hatfield:intentional. And by using those specific words, those words work
Kelly Hatfield:for me. You know, so I love that just again, those little nuances
Kelly Hatfield:where you can shift something and it makes all the difference
Kelly Hatfield:in the world.
John Mitchell:Right. You know, one final thing that that that
John Mitchell:that's interesting that I observed about life is how
John Mitchell:beneficial, the wisdom of other people can be relative to your
John Mitchell:life. And I was thinking I was watching this new show on on
John Mitchell:Apple TV about Boris Becker remember, Boris Becker, the
John Mitchell:tennis player, you know, he ended up, you know, when he won
John Mitchell:Wimbledon a couple of times, and he, but he ended up going to
John Mitchell:jail for tax fraud. And, and it's an interesting story. But I
John Mitchell:remember and I don't know if I've ever told you this. But,
John Mitchell:you know, my claim to fame in high school was, I won the
John Mitchell:district's singles title in tennis, three years in a row,
John Mitchell:which nobody, nobody had had, of course, this is for Texas,
John Mitchell:Catholic high schools, which you know, means, you know, probably
John Mitchell:any public school school kid could beat me, but, you know, I
John Mitchell:wanted three years in a row the district and was second in the
John Mitchell:state. And, and, you know, I never really took tennis at all
John Mitchell:that serious, I was naturally good at it. Because when I was
John Mitchell:in seventh and eighth grade, a friend of mine, and I just
John Mitchell:played all the time, and we were just, we just got good. And my
John Mitchell:main sport was football. But I'm watching this Boris Becker
John Mitchell:thing. And I'm like, Boy, I tell you, you know, I would have
John Mitchell:loved or somebody in my life to come to me and say, Now, John,
John Mitchell:how it first of all, how important is tennis to you. Let
John Mitchell:me point out something to you, you're going to be as good as
John Mitchell:you make yourself good is not going to be how talented you
John Mitchell:are. It's how hard you work to be good at tennis. That's what's
John Mitchell:gonna determine it. And I know if if I heard that I would like,
John Mitchell:well, I thought, I just thought some people more gifted. Know
John Mitchell:that, that is generally not the case. It's who's working the
John Mitchell:hardest. And, and, you know, I also would have probably told
John Mitchell:myself, that, look who your coach is, he's the algebra
John Mitchell:teacher. And he's Tom, really, you're not really a, you know,
John Mitchell:tennis coach, if you're serious about this, get a real coach.
John Mitchell:And, and I see how transformative sort of those two
John Mitchell:little piece of his pieces of advice would have been. And I
John Mitchell:would have been a much better tennis player than I was, but
John Mitchell:also see how that plays out in people's lives. Like what you
John Mitchell:and I teach people. And we've, we've seen it, you know, once
John Mitchell:they get it, it's like, Whoa, it's a whole new perspective, a
John Mitchell:whole new level of, of happiness and success from doing this
John Mitchell:thing that somebody teaches them to do, that they had to learn
John Mitchell:from the top book in the world on success. But you know, the
John Mitchell:point of it, is that the wisdom of other people can change your
John Mitchell:life. So,
Kelly Hatfield:absolutely, no, I think it's so important.
Kelly Hatfield:There's no and there's no need to reinvent the wheel. And the
Kelly Hatfield:cool thing is, is that we live in a time now, where you got
Kelly Hatfield:access to like, anything you want to learn. And, like, you
Kelly Hatfield:can get advice from the people at the top of their game, you
Kelly Hatfield:know, by Googling, you know, and doing some search searches and
Kelly Hatfield:starting to get that input of, you know, mentorships and
Kelly Hatfield:mentorship from afar and again, the wisdom of others. So no, I
Kelly Hatfield:love this, John, it's such a great, it's so important to, you
Kelly Hatfield:know, understand that.
John Mitchell:And I'll also say chat GPT is going to change the
John Mitchell:world. I say that with 100% confidence. I just had been
John Mitchell:learning about chat GPT through Darren Hardy, and I'm giving it
John Mitchell:to the 17 head coaches at the University of Texas. And
John Mitchell:justice, just what you said, you know, you can Google it. Well,
John Mitchell:the next evolution of googling it is using chat GPT to learn
John Mitchell:things. So buckle up, because it's, it's coming on strong.
John Mitchell:With that said, we'll see you next time.
Kelly Hatfield:Thanks for listening today. If you've had
Kelly Hatfield:your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an
Kelly Hatfield:email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So
Kelly Hatfield:email us at Kelly@thinkitbeit.com or
Kelly Hatfield:John@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional