Hello, hello,

and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora. And I'm so happy to be spending some time with you

today. I hope you're doing well. It is Friday, March 12, starting

to be spring out here in Canada, and I'm very excited to be

spending more time outdoors. Alright, today I want to talk

about the most powerful person in the room, I feel that there's

a huge shift going on in the world, when it comes to role

models and power. And what we look up to used to be different.

And side of me how I perceived powerful people, I thought

powerful people are loud and aggressive, and dominant. Even,

yeah, uncomfortable to be around, let's say. And now I

traveled I met people, I worked in all different kinds of jobs.

I lived in different countries. And what I observed is that the

most powerful person in the room has the most calm and steady

heartbeat. The powerful person that I look up to is a listener,

instead of a talker, they lead people talk, they make people

feel good. And they know exactly where they stand, they don't

have to prove anything. They are very secure. And they make

people feel secure and good about themselves too. So if you

imagine a chain with all kinds of elements, like links,

wherever you say that in English, their leader that I was

describing here, is kind of pulling that chain. And the

people are like magnets and want to follow that person. And the

leader who is pushy and controlling and aggressive and

loud, will try to push that chain in this metaphor into a

direction and is trying to push people into certain directions.

But do you see what happens when you push a chain along the table

instead of pulling it along the table? So the one person who's

calm and quiet and confident will people get to follow them.

And really, ultimately get them to do what they want and what

the leader wants. And the person who pushes people to do things.

He will deal with people who have fearful and resentful maybe

even and are kind of Yeah, the sheep kind of purple of people

who follow orders without even really questioning and without

having a spine you know, without having a backbone. So, maybe you

can observe in your surroundings now was COVID confinements

lifting up being more? How do you say with everything being

more relaxed again and us being able to socialize a little more?

Have a look at the people that you perceive as being leaders

and how do they behave? Are they very excited and as I said loud

and controlling and manipulative or, or they're very calm with

themselves and that piece, and people want to open up to them.

They don't really have to ask much from people. More people

want to serve them. I think it's a very, very interesting

observation to make. Because that would also teach you that

you don't have to prove anything to anybody, you just go at your

pace, and you do your thing, and you're proud of yourself. And

then you will have people who will encourage you and inspire

you and want to help you if you need that help. It's kind of a

magnet, people magnet when you are at peace with yourself, and

don't make people feel competitive and insecure. For

the longest time, I think, and there's still people in power,

who are intimidating and aggressive, and very, yeah,

weird to be around, because they will always find something that

you don't know. And that they know. So that feeling of

superiority and inferiority is in the room when you are in

their presence. So if you want to observe that, and people and

know that, yeah, you can give that person power, and you can

follow them and probably learn lots from them. But there will

not make you feel good if you stay around these people for too

long. And then the leaders who are more quiet and operate from

a deep source of calmness, they usually overseen by those other

people that are loud and aggressive, and maybe even seen

as weak if you put one next to the other. But really, those are

the people that are gonna inspire you, and make you feel

strong, and make you come out of your shell and discover new

things about yourself that you didn't even know about yourself.

So I don't know how you grew up, if you grew up with your

parents, how your primary caregivers behaved around you,

and what they taught you, and how your teachers treated you if

you are good with authority, or if you are a little rebel

inside. But I think it's definitely worth looking at

yourself and who you admire. Who do you look up to? And what does

it tell you about yourself. I gave you the example of the

aggressive leader, and the more confident and very quiet and

calm leader. And, yeah, maybe you observe already that you are

following the aggressive leader and think that that is power.

And this is how you can manipulate people into what you

want to do and what you want to achieve, then I invite you to

look at the other leader and how they get people to do what they

want and inspire people and are very, very good at what they're

doing without wasting any energy or risking heart attacks. Also,

in a group of people, it's very interesting to observe how

people behave. A lot of people feel inferior when there's

someone happy and proud and talkative. And see it kind of as

a negative, that the person is talking and happy for

themselves. And some people are very quiet and observant and

kind and really good listeners. And then there's others who are

very loud and aggressive and always want to

dominate the conversation and never really let anybody talk.

And that's also a sign of huge insecurity. But those power or

those people are given so much power and attention most of the

time and they can be very destructive. very destructive.

And yeah, as I said earlier, building resentment in others.

So yeah, do this little social experiment and look at who you

are looking up to and maybe look what's going on in your family

or in your close friend circle. Thank you so much for listening

to the Borealis experience. I'm your host Aurora and I will be

back tomorrow again.