Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life, I hope you feel safe, I

hope you feel good in your skin, I hope I can bring you value

with my podcast here. And if that's the case, please make

some time write a review, or leave me a rating on Apple

podcast or Spotify or wherever you listen to this. And then

let's get started. Today I want to talk about entrepreneurship.

And don't worry, you don't have to be a business owner. I

believe we are all entrepreneurs to some degree we can be

employed. And not own our own business. But we have to

organize our life, right, we have to balance out what we

need, what we don't need, we have to organize ourselves in

order to function well at our job, we have to nurture our

relationships, we have to make time for playful times. So that

all takes a lot of organizational skills. And even

more so when you have a business. But not exclusively,

if you have a little family or a big family. Same thing there,

you have to work on logistics, you have to be there for

different parties at the same time. You have to listen to

people, you have to manage people, you have to lead and

guide people. So even as a parent, if you're not working at

all, I feel you have to come up with that as leadership skills.

Otherwise, you're thrown off. So entrepreneurship for everybody.

Ah, what I'm learning right now is that when you are a

solopreneur then you have to learn how to regulate your

nervous system. When something goes wrong, you have to keep a

cool mind. And you cannot let it affect your whole life. You

cannot let it affect your relationships, your other duties

that you have, because otherwise, shit gets even worse.

So to keep a guru mind is really difficult because when you start

out when you invest money, when you learn to, you know, control

things, but not over control and not micromanage, but manage. You

learn a lot of things about yourself and about the people

around you. You learn pretty quickly who you can trust, who

you can ask for support, and who you can invite into your life.

It's, it's very awesome to see that, you know, there's people

who can simply listen, there's people who can give you advices

people who can give you support. There's people who will not do

either of these things they will not support you not give you

advice, but they will be awesome at inviting you into their

playful world where you can finally relax and recharge your

batteries. But right now, at this moment in time, I have to

give myself all of these things I have to give myself support

advice. And I have to allow myself to be playful and to

relax and to let go. Especially when it comes to the evening

hours. There is no point in problem solving and

brainstorming just before bedtime, because that will cause

to your sleep. And like I love to repeat myself so diligently.

Your sleep is home Lee. It doesn't matter if you are single

and employed and feel like you don't really bring anything to

society. I know you do and I hope that you will see that one

day as well. or if you are a mom of six, or if you are husband,

childless and running a business or employed, no matter in which

position you are, you need your sleep, your body needs to rest

and recuperate. And it is especially your mind that needs

to process and detox from the happenings of the day. Because

the next day, you want to keep going, you don't want to, you

know, feel rundown by Friday, and then need Saturday and

Sunday to feel alive again, you need that consistency of good

sleep throughout the week, and maybe a little bit more over the

weekend. And then you are well functioning. But especially when

you have to regulate your own stress levels, right, I noticed

that when we have our friends or family or girlfriend, boyfriend,

spouse, partner, whatever it is close by, then we can kind of

laugh at a situation, or brainstorm or get distracted for

a little while. But if you are by yourself, we usually tend to

be very, very harsh on ourselves. And to a point where

we get so tensed and so worked up, that we don't serve any

purpose anymore, we become tensed and frustrated and angry

towards ourselves, we beat ourselves up, we regret our

decisions. And then we would even take it out on other people

if they started offering support, right. So it's, it's

incredibly hard. Maybe it's just hard for me, by the way, maybe

you are a bad as entrepreneur already. But when you have some

stresses going on, and you have to be consistent, you want to

see progress, you want to see problem solving, but you can run

yourself down at the same time, you have to play both roles. In

your own world, it is extremely important. And what I'm also

learning is that when we have somebody close by Be it a friend

or spouse or family member, a dog we also can't accept expect

sorry, them to do it all. And then to drag us out of the

quicksand, we have to keep ownership over our stuff that

didn't go down well. And we can invite other people in, we can

share what's bugging us what's frustrating us and ask for help

ask for advice. But we can't overwhelm people with our

problems with our stresses. And I know most of you guys are

listening and you are pretty you know self sufficient maybe to a

point where you bottle up too much. But maybe some of you

girls and guys listening maybe you tend to always try and have

other people take responsibility for your problems and you know

let them make the decision relying too much on people's

opinions and approval or something and we can look at

this and learn how to be more self empowered self actualized

and how to learn and boil down our problems to the very you

know, rational most rational non emotional stage and then from

there we can make really good decisions. I know it is tough

when you know a lot of money is involved or some money you know

if you made a lot of adjustments and saved up some money and then

you invest it into a business or into a project and should go

sideways. It's extremely hard to keep your cool because money is

So much more than just an exchange for services or

whatsoever.

Money really gets, like money problems really get to our core,

it really threatens our existence when stuff is not

going well. So it is it is very challenging, but it is possible

to keep your cool. And to weigh out your options, and to know

that everything will fall into place, eventually. And the

cooler and more clear and calm you allow yourself to be, the

better it's going to go. I know for myself that I used to think

that the more nervous and tensed and forceful I become, the more

I will push through and achieve what needs to be achieved will

solve what needs to be resolved. But by being that way, I harmed

my relationships. And I hurt myself because I became so rigid

and so tough on myself that it was uncomfortable to be in my

skin. And it was very uncomfortable to be in the same

room as me as my partner as my friend as my parents. So it is

well worse, to step back, and to breathe and relax for a moment.

And to distance yourself from the problem to then dive back in

with a fresh mind. Let me see if this is everything I wanted to

share with you. Yeah, I mean, it's not a secret anymore. I'm

building a location for you to meet with me. Where I will offer

mindset coaching, yoga. And my biggest excitement is around the

workshops where I want to gather I want to find women who want to

do this with me where we hold space for men, where men get to

express how they feel. And where women can learn about men,

because I've never witnessed a place like that at all. I will I

will see how I bring this into life. I want to better the

conversation the connection between between people and I

feel the better we understand each other the stronger our

society can be. So fasten your seat belts. I will be building

something really beautiful for everybody was interested and

yeah, it's in the progress and nothing will stop me. Alright,

take really good care of yourself and I will be out there