00:00 SPEAKER_00 Hey everyone and welcome back to the more than mom podcast. I'm your host, Samantha Cook. And guys, I just wanted to hop in and talk to you today about one, a little bit about my story and what makes me want to do this more than mom and what that actually means, because don't get me wrong. I love, love, love my children. And I also just love getting to serve other women, especially because I know as a mom, when I hop on a call and I'm trying to talk business and things like that, and the kid walks in and it's like, oh my gosh, hold on. I got to take care of my child real fast. That doesn't affect the outcome of that conversation. So I was talking to one of the ladies in my mastermind this week and her kid came in and was needing something and she's like, oh my gosh, I am so sorry. And I said, please don't be, please don't be sorry for the fact that your child just walked in and needed something from you because one, as moms, it's like, hey, we get to work from home, which is fantastic. I love having something that I can do from home. You know, I build websites and things like that and also run a toxin free education group, so if you want more information on either one of those, just follow me on Instagram and DM me group and we can get you taken care of there. And but the thing is, like she was like, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to interrupt your conversation, blah, blah, blah. And I said, no, this is my favorite thing about working with moms because we can have that moment. Our kid needs something, take care of it, come back to the conversation. And we just have one. I just had way more respect for who she was. Not that I didn't already have respect for her, but it was just like so cool to see her come back, be like, oh, hey, like, I'm sorry, and just continue that conversation because one thing we do as female entrepreneurs is we have to switch our hats very often, very quickly, and most of the time it looks probably more chaotic to us than it does on the outside. And so if you're a mom listening to this and you're like, man, I just am so scared to have these sales conversations, to reach out to these women, to collaborate, things like that. Guys, like during my last podcast with Christine, I'm pretty sure my kid woke up for a nap in the middle of that podcast while we were recording it. And I had to like pause and then jump back in with her. And like neither of us were, you know, bothered by the fact that we have to also be mothers. And so I think that's a really cool thing for us in this point, because I know there's like the corporate moms and sometimes they don't understand in our corporate jobs like, hey, like I got to take care of my kid or hey, I have to be home today. You know, sometimes those things don't really play out the way they do when you're a female entrepreneur with children from home. And so I just wanted to encourage all of you guys today is like one, don't be scared to take action. I mean, I can do my best. I can do all these things during nap time. I can set aside time, like get my kids some Legos and some things like that, get some open ended toys so that way I can focus on getting a few things done. But the reality of it is we all do this for the freedom that it gives us with our families. And the more that we can be real and give ourselves some grace in that situation, it allows us to accomplish more. It gives us more confidence in one as a mom. And it's like, hey, I just got to go do this real quick. I'll be right back. Great. Go take care of it. But two, it's just like we have to be able to give ourselves some grace sometimes. I think a lot of times we get so burnt out because we're not doing things the way everybody else is doing them. That is just something we have to learn to start letting go of. Because one, Jesus has grace for us. We're not perfect people, but he has placed this desire in our hearts not only to be moms first and foremost, but also like for me, I love getting to build websites. For me, it is such a creative outlet is something I enjoy. I also love getting to serve other women and give them a product that is just exceptional because I understand, hey, I'm a mom, I want people to do things right for me as often as they can. And so I want to serve these other women to the best I like, the best of my abilities, really not waste their time, not waste their money, those types of things, because a lot of times when you're starting out and you're working from home and you're trying to get this business off the ground, the last thing you need to be doing is wasting time, wasting money and not working with somebody who understands where you're at in life. So when a mom says to me, I'm so sorry, you know, I had to go do something with my kids and I am getting this to you a little bit late, like I get it now. Will it maybe put a little shift in our day? Like, yeah, but we'll get it all taken care of. And that's the cool part. And so I just want to encourage you because here's the deal. I'm in a mastermind full of like 100 women that are all trying to figure out this work from home, you know, whether it's network marketing, coaching, whatever it is they're doing, they are all trying to make it happen while also getting to be the mom that they want to be. When we have to wear those hats simultaneously, I have a four year old and a two year old, a four year old that's kind of still napping, but transitioning out of nap time. That's going to be a big shift for me to be like, hey, you got to sit down, like maybe watch show for a little bit, have some quiet time so I can sit in here and work during that normal time of nap time. Or if you've got older kids that don't nap anymore, like, I mean, we're planning on homeschooling, things like that. So, you know, for me, it's like I have to be so mindful of my time and get the things done that I need to get done in the opportunities that I have it. So like my husband and my daughter went to the grocery store and my sons up there napping, so I was like, I've got to get in, get my work done, focus on what I need to accomplish so that way when I am in my zone, I can do as much as I can be as effective as possible. But also that I am watching for all these little things that are going on around my home, too. So my encouragement to you today is, moms, go out and do the thing thing. Go out because one, you're not going to be ready. You're not going to be ready when these passions of yours that God has placed on your heart falls into your lap. I definitely wasn't and thankful for all the women who have helped me get me where I need to be so that way I can execute during a time where I've had a cough for six weeks and I'm finally getting over it. And if it wasn't for those other moms that helped me and loved on me and helped me execute at a time that was so pivotal, like that was huge for me. I wasn't ready and it's been good. So when I am ready and I'm doing well and I have my ducks in a row, it's going to be even greater and it's going to be worth all the things I did in that short time frame to get to where I wanted to be. And so I encourage you to do the same as you want to open up the coaching business. We'll get started. Just start making content. Start working on it a little out of time. Maybe you've got an hour a day or something like that. Like, go ahead and execute on that, because right now we're seeing or at least this is my perspective, I could be wrong, you know, here's to other opinions. Hope you're all good with that. But this is my opinion that more and more moms are trying to get more time back with their children now and they're trying to find that space of where they can work from home, where they can capitalize on their skill sets and what they're really good at while simultaneously having that time freedom with their children. I mean, I know that's exactly where I'm at. Most women I'm talking to working with right now are in that same boat and they want to back away from their nine to five. They want to do more from home so that way they can be more present with their children. That is just where we are as a society is getting that time back because for so long it was like, oh, they're little, they won't remember it. But then you've got a five, seven, eight, ten year old that you have no relationship with and you cannot get that time back. They remember so much. Even my two year old, he just like can tell you so many things. And I'm like, if I had missed this time with him, oh, my goodness, I would have missed out on getting to know a really great person in the making, not that he's like not a person, but he's just got such a great personality. And as my four year old, she can tell you things that we've done all year long. And like, man, I would have missed out on that time of getting to know them not only at home, but outside our homes, the things they enjoy, the things they love, the things that they want to pursue, all that kind of stuff. It's like I would have missed that if I had kept that mentality of grind when they're little so that way you can enjoy them when they're big enough to go do things. Well, my kids are already big enough to go do things. They already understand so much. And we do not give children nearly enough credit for the things that they are capable of at such a young age. So, you know, my my heart to you, my advice to you is that you go ahead and continue to be that mom, make it happen wherever you are. Maybe it's you say you set a date three months for now. I'm at least going to cut my hours at work like 10 hours a week. And then you grind and grind and grind to make sure that you've covered those 10 hours a week while you're at home. And then you set another date and you set a goal to be out of that completely. So you can be home with your kids if that's what you desire to. I'm not saying that's for everybody, but if that's your desire to also get to love and share and bless people with what you are leading them in, especially like me. Like, I love helping people create a digital strategy, like how important that is because I want them to be more successful. So when they start running their ads, when they start the launch of their next program, whatever that is for them, that they can actually execute well. And then it's like a rinse and repeat kind of situation that they're not having to spend more time away from their kids. You know, the whole joke is you quit your nine to five so you can work 24 seven. But the whole goal of what I want to execute for other women is for them to be super successful. So that way they're working 10, 15, maybe 20 hours a week from home and the rest of that's what their children. Because of things like options, like, you know, we want to homeschool. We talked about that in the last episode with Christine. And that is just something that is super important to us. And so I've got to figure out how to delegate things off that I don't necessarily have to do. I've also got to not just delegate things off, but also how do I get my strategies in place where they're happening without me being on them physically? With that strategy is I just have to be more effective in my is it an hour, an hour and a half, two hours, whatever it is. I just have to be really focused in that time. So that way I'm not taking more and more time away from my kids because the goal is to work less, be home with them and still do all the things that you're, you know, the passions you have in your heart. Doing those things, you know, maybe my work time is we start homeschool a little bit, get them to a place where they're settled. They can work on their stuff. And I'm simultaneously working while they're working on their schoolwork. I'm working on my work. So that way, when we're all done, that way we can step away, go to the parks, go do what we need, just that way we have that freedom lifestyle. So getting really disciplined is going to be a huge thing. It's like you've got to be able to execute when you've got the time because that's a discipline. You've got to be able to step out and say, hey, I need to get up early. I need to get these things done before the kids get up. So that way I can execute while I'm not taking any time away from them. So then that way, when they're awake and ready and all that good stuff, you can be that mom, too. So you are more than a mom. And I'm not saying that in a negative way, because for those of you who want to just be mom, like I am so excited for you. I am so happy that that is exactly where you want to be. I just love getting to share and help people grow. That's just a passion of mine. Don't hear that. And you have to be a working mom. Maybe you like to run a book club. Maybe you like to do a social woman's group. Like, maybe there's other things because you are also a person. You're a wife. You're who you are, even outside of being a mom. And so you got to feed those things to this. You know, I hate the term self care, but self care can be like, hey, I'm taking a shower, I'm brushing my teeth, I'm doing my skin care routine before the day starts. So that way, when the kids get up, all my stuff's been taken and I got to enjoy that time, even little things like that, we just have to sit down and be disciplined in so that way we can consistently have the expectation and outcome that we're trying to reach. So all this to say, I hope you guys really got a lot out of this episode. The encouragement of being able to pursue your dreams and, you know, whether you're ready or not, get going because you're going to do great things. And while you also learn to find that discipline, find that day to day look, I mean, it doesn't have to be the same system every day. Maybe your your hour of work time varies throughout the week. But just make sure you're getting that hour of time to work when it's not taking away from the kids. Take time for that self care. You know, even if it's just taking a shower, brushing your teeth, doing your skin care, putting a little makeup on, getting ready for the day. So that way you're in this really great place to have that time to work. You have that time for your kids, whatever that looks like for you. You know, this week, I just hope that something you really seek out is what am I trying to do? How do I get more time with my kids? And how do I do it while still holding on to who I am and the things that I love and want to pursue? You know, you guys have a great week. Let me know how that's going for you. There's any ways I can pray for you just so you can be the person that you are called to be. I mean, we all want to be the person we want to be. But being the person that we're called to be is a totally different thing. And I'm just proud of everyone of what they're trying to accomplish. And we'll see you next week.