Seth Lejeune:

Hey everyone.

Seth Lejeune:

So welcome back to the millennia podcast.

Seth Lejeune:

I have my host as always, Jen Nusky.

Seth Lejeune:

And, uh, with us today is Amber Dungan.

Seth Lejeune:

So I found Amber on Instagram.

Seth Lejeune:

Um, she is a, well, what would you call yourself, Amber?

Seth Lejeune:

Uh, what's the title you go by?

Seth Lejeune:

I call myself

Amber Duncan:

many things.

Amber Duncan:

We're probably more of a serial entrepreneur.

Amber Duncan:

Um, but.

Amber Duncan:

What I'm, what I'm here to talk today about is more of just being a debt coach.

Amber Duncan:

Okay.

Jennifer Annusky:

Some people call you a, uh, a debt consolidator,

Amber Duncan:

a debt consolidator.

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Amber Duncan:

I mean, it's very similar.

Amber Duncan:

I think my main goal is to eliminate it rather than consolidate it.

Amber Duncan:

So that's the point of differentiation between the names,

Amber Duncan:

but you can call me whatever.

Seth Lejeune:

Got it.

Seth Lejeune:

So, yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

So, Amber, uh, we, uh, as you know, we have a podcast, uh, about, uh,

Seth Lejeune:

kind of ushering people towards the promised land of home ownership.

Seth Lejeune:

Jen and I though are in the process of kind of reaching back into people's

Seth Lejeune:

lives, which is, you know, debt, you know, credit repair, that type of stuff.

Seth Lejeune:

And you certainly fit the bill.

Seth Lejeune:

Uh, you have your own podcast, right?

Amber Duncan:

I do.

Amber Duncan:

It's called Life After Debt.

Seth Lejeune:

That's a great podcast.

Jennifer Annusky:

That's what I listened to on my way home

Jennifer Annusky:

from the shore yesterday.

Seth Lejeune:

It's a very clever name.

Seth Lejeune:

I, I, we have a clever name, but that life after debt is that's,

Seth Lejeune:

that's, that's a good play on words.

Seth Lejeune:

I like that.

Amber Duncan:

It's a great jingle too.

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Amber Duncan:

I mean, most people can't see through to the end and they think that if they're in

Amber Duncan:

debt, they're always going to be in debt.

Amber Duncan:

And so, you know, there's hope.

Amber Duncan:

And I, that's what I love about our podcast is that.

Amber Duncan:

We're able to bring people on to share their own stories of where they were,

Amber Duncan:

whether it's 140, 000 in credit card debt or 10, 000, but to find their way

Amber Duncan:

out and see them at the end of it, it's literally like they come to life again.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

And I would say real estate's the same way.

Seth Lejeune:

We're just at a different phase where like, you know, you're helping them way

Seth Lejeune:

early and then, you know, but getting, you know, sliding those keys across

Seth Lejeune:

the table and settlement has got that same feeling where, I mean, there's

Seth Lejeune:

just that elation that takes place, but why don't you, uh, why don't you

Seth Lejeune:

take like four or five minutes, just tell us a little bit about your history

Seth Lejeune:

and like kind of how you came to be.

Seth Lejeune:

Cause you say you're a serial entrepreneur.

Seth Lejeune:

I know that you've had past ventures in your life, like we all have, but why

Seth Lejeune:

don't you just take a minute and just kind of tell us about your lineage here.

Amber Duncan:

Sure.

Amber Duncan:

Thanks, Seth.

Amber Duncan:

And thank you guys for bringing me on today to share this.

Amber Duncan:

You know, I'm really passionate about individuals who are struggling

Amber Duncan:

because I myself found myself in a situation back in 2008 where my

Amber Duncan:

husband and I were mortgage brokers.

Amber Duncan:

And when the mortgage business collapsed, um, it left

Amber Duncan:

everybody with a gaping problem.

Amber Duncan:

And the whole was is that people were sucking out the equity in their home

Amber Duncan:

to pay off their credit card debt.

Amber Duncan:

So when that no longer existed, it presented, well, what are people going

Amber Duncan:

to do with their credit card debt now?

Amber Duncan:

And so we were able to go in and start to look closely at working

Amber Duncan:

with banks and credit card companies and go to that for consumers.

Amber Duncan:

And that just allowed us with the hardship to get people out of debt a lot quicker,

Amber Duncan:

because as you know, and maybe some of your listeners don't know, you know,

Amber Duncan:

when people get these statements and they're making a payment, most of them

Amber Duncan:

are just making the minimum payment.

Amber Duncan:

And so it's like 1 percent goes to the principal balance and the rest is just

Amber Duncan:

like a snowball compounding effect.

Amber Duncan:

Right.

Amber Duncan:

But, but the thing with the mortgage payment is all the

Amber Duncan:

interest is tax deductible, right?

Amber Duncan:

That's what I love about homeownership that most people don't even look at.

Amber Duncan:

And I tell people that, especially when they're filing taxes, if it's

Amber Duncan:

your primary residence and the interest that you're paying, at

Amber Duncan:

least there's a benefit associated to doing it through homeownership.

Amber Duncan:

Right.

Amber Duncan:

Not with credit card debt.

Amber Duncan:

So it really is just a snowball compounding effect that whereas they

Amber Duncan:

might've had 40, 000 in credit card debt by the time they pay it off,

Amber Duncan:

it'll probably be close to 80, 000 and they'll be paying for a steak

Amber Duncan:

dinner they had two years ago.

Amber Duncan:

And so when we launched that in 2008, it took off and we've ended up helping

Amber Duncan:

millions of individuals in this country with their credit card debt and became one

Amber Duncan:

of the largest companies in the nation.

Amber Duncan:

Negotiating credit card debt.

Amber Duncan:

So it's been a rewarding, um, industry, but it came out of the space of we lost

Amber Duncan:

everything and how to file bankruptcy.

Amber Duncan:

And you know what?

Amber Duncan:

We recovered from it because the truth is, is that that is what

Amber Duncan:

drove us to go help individuals.

Amber Duncan:

We didn't want them to have to file bankruptcy and we wanted to find another

Amber Duncan:

solution that would allow them the ability to get out of their situation.

Amber Duncan:

of pain.

Amber Duncan:

And that's what well.

Seth Lejeune:

And so, yeah, I mea the market turns, whether you know, new

Seth Lejeune:

market spac obviously you filled a ve

Amber Duncan:

I

Seth Lejeune:

was lucky enough not to my, my wife's friend said buy a house,

Seth Lejeune:

you should b to my father, I'm thinkin Think again, you ain't doing anything

Seth Lejeune:

cause he, he was a real estate guy.

Seth Lejeune:

He understood, but I was very happy to not have to deal with that aspect of things.

Seth Lejeune:

Um, but so are you, so you, you live in Florida.

Amber Duncan:

I live in Florida, have five children.

Amber Duncan:

Um, and I also run other companies.

Amber Duncan:

I've done everything from Gigi's cupcakes.

Amber Duncan:

A gym, um, gas stations, you know, I've kind of played around

Amber Duncan:

Jackie is one of my companies.

Amber Duncan:

And so I really enjoy the idea of building something.

Amber Duncan:

And most of my businesses are centered around, I want people

Amber Duncan:

to feel like a million bucks.

Amber Duncan:

And so as crazy as it sounds, whether it's clothes or, you know, people smile

Amber Duncan:

when they come into a cupcake store, when they work out and feel good about

Amber Duncan:

themselves, debt is no different.

Amber Duncan:

When you can help somebody with their finances, whether it's getting out of

Amber Duncan:

debt or for you guys, the way you're helping people grow their wealth.

Amber Duncan:

Portfolio through real estate, like it's a rewarding feeling.

Amber Duncan:

So yeah, I think that's the underlying theme and everything that I do.

Seth Lejeune:

Great.

Seth Lejeune:

So what is, um, so let's talk about homeowners, uh,

Seth Lejeune:

homeownership a little bit.

Seth Lejeune:

So, you know, a lot of that people either don't talk about, um, debt or,

Seth Lejeune:

or I'm sorry, homeownership, or they, you know, they, the thing that, Caught

Seth Lejeune:

my eye about you is that you, you kind of take a holistic approach and like

Seth Lejeune:

your whole thing is like, okay, yeah, we can deal with this debt, but then

Seth Lejeune:

you're also like thinking down the road here of like, okay, well then,

Seth Lejeune:

you know, real estate's a good thing.

Seth Lejeune:

You need to invest in that type of thing.

Seth Lejeune:

And so why do you think that is like a lot of real, a lot of debt people are just

Seth Lejeune:

don't really talk about home ownership.

Seth Lejeune:

Is it just because they like to stay in their lane or they don't have kind of

Seth Lejeune:

as broad of a view of things as you do?

Amber Duncan:

You know, I think they're scared.

Amber Duncan:

I think that most people and everybody that I talked to that has debt home

Amber Duncan:

ownership seems like it's like going to another country like they feel so

Amber Duncan:

lost and confused about the process that they feel like if they can't

Amber Duncan:

even manage their credit card, how could they manage home ownership?

Amber Duncan:

But what they don't realize is, is that home ownership to me, and the way I try

Amber Duncan:

to explain it to people, it's literally like a savings account for yourself.

Amber Duncan:

It's a retirement plan.

Amber Duncan:

It's an asset.

Amber Duncan:

And so the more that you can add assets to your portfolio, that that

Amber Duncan:

really differs from credit card debt.

Amber Duncan:

And so once I can get the big picture to them to see that, listen, paying

Amber Duncan:

your mortgage is more important than paying your credit card.

Amber Duncan:

It's secured versus unsecured.

Amber Duncan:

And once the light bulb goes off, they get it.

Amber Duncan:

And they realize that investing in a home is like investing in

Amber Duncan:

somethings that that's going to appreciate over time, credit card debt

Amber Duncan:

doesn't appreciate it grows, right?

Amber Duncan:

So it's kind of like, You just have to educate people on the difference.

Amber Duncan:

And most people just are not educated enough.

Amber Duncan:

They don't understand or they feel overwhelmed with the

Amber Duncan:

process of homeownership.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

And I think, uh, you know, some people are financially sad, more savvier than others.

Seth Lejeune:

Uh, some people are.

Seth Lejeune:

Obviously have better, uh, you know, I had more ability to, to afford

Seth Lejeune:

things, um, you know, than others.

Seth Lejeune:

I think that that hurdle exists just with homeownership and with debt.

Seth Lejeune:

It's like, why do you think people are so averse to finances and money in general?

Amber Duncan:

I love that question.

Amber Duncan:

You know, it's interesting, but if, if you think about your circle of

Amber Duncan:

individuals that you guys hang out with, I always say this, how often does

Amber Duncan:

anybody really get vulnerable and share?

Amber Duncan:

You know what?

Amber Duncan:

I am really struggling.

Amber Duncan:

We are behind on our mortgage right now.

Amber Duncan:

We are late on our credit cards.

Amber Duncan:

We're barely surviving.

Amber Duncan:

In fact, we're living on our credit cards.

Amber Duncan:

No one talks about it.

Amber Duncan:

It's an ooey topic that no one is comfortable talking about.

Amber Duncan:

And so that's why creating these spaces for individuals.

Amber Duncan:

I love to, the first thing I say when I get on a clarity call with people, um, is.

Amber Duncan:

I want to let you know there is no shame or guilt around your situation.

Amber Duncan:

I'm only here to help you.

Amber Duncan:

And that's such an important piece of the puzzle to create spaces for individuals

Amber Duncan:

to open up because if you can give them permission to do so, as soon as you do

Amber Duncan:

that, they'll share everything with you.

Amber Duncan:

And the same with home ownership, you know, Hey, there's no shame or guilt

Amber Duncan:

around the fact that you're still renting, but tell me what your biggest fears

Amber Duncan:

are with home ownership and let's walk you through that process and get you

Amber Duncan:

connected with someone that can get you in a home so you're not just flushing your

Amber Duncan:

money down the toilet, renting, right?

Amber Duncan:

I think

Jennifer Annusky:

people can't get to where we want them to get to

Jennifer Annusky:

without them first getting past where you want them to get to.

Jennifer Annusky:

So, I mean, you know, like us even bringing you on is all part of, I

Jennifer Annusky:

mean, we've talked about people's biggest hurdles of labor objections

Jennifer Annusky:

to being able to buy a house or why they think they can't, or why

Jennifer Annusky:

I think it's just unattainable.

Jennifer Annusky:

And a lot of times it's like millennials, and now the upcoming Gen Z too, is

Jennifer Annusky:

that they just feel like there's, they have too much debt with student

Jennifer Annusky:

loans or just too much, you know.

Jennifer Annusky:

Credit card debt are just, their credit's not great.

Jennifer Annusky:

So, you know, going to somebody who can actually talk to the debt and, you know,

Jennifer Annusky:

fix that problem in order to even make it attainable, I think is a huge piece.

Jennifer Annusky:

And you're right.

Jennifer Annusky:

People just don't talk about it.

Jennifer Annusky:

I think there's pride involved in it too.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

It's shame.

Seth Lejeune:

It's shame

Amber Duncan:

and guilt.

Seth Lejeune:

And I will say this much, man.

Seth Lejeune:

Men don't talk about it.

Seth Lejeune:

I mean, especially the men, I feel like the, I don't know if that's

Seth Lejeune:

your experience, Amber, but I, I know that, you know, you know, they

Seth Lejeune:

don't talk about on the golf course or talk about it at the bar, they're

Seth Lejeune:

like, yeah, I'm behind on my mortgage.

Seth Lejeune:

You know, uh, I got, you know, they'll, they'll complain about

Seth Lejeune:

their spouse spending too much money, but they'll never go as far to say.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

And we're poor and we're not going to be able to make our mortgage payment

Seth Lejeune:

this month, like it doesn't go that far.

Jennifer Annusky:

Yeah.

Jennifer Annusky:

People really don't like to say it.

Jennifer Annusky:

They're late too.

Jennifer Annusky:

I mean, I have a friend, you know, wanted to be able to move.

Jennifer Annusky:

And I went through all sorts of hurdles to be able to get something available

Jennifer Annusky:

for her did, and then, you know, come to find out like, you know, the secrets

Jennifer Annusky:

come out once everything is run through the mortgage company and, you know, the

Jennifer Annusky:

near episode, the secret spending, it's like, I was really surprised to hear

Jennifer Annusky:

you say 42 percent of couples, like have some sort of financial secret.

Jennifer Annusky:

That they don't disclose with each other.

Jennifer Annusky:

And you know, it's, it, that blew my mind because when somebody is going to

Jennifer Annusky:

apply for a mortgage, it's all going to come out anyway, and you said like,

Seth Lejeune:

instead

Jennifer Annusky:

of saving your account, like let's save your marriage first.

Jennifer Annusky:

And it's like, cause yeah, that can derail real fast.

Amber Duncan:

Oh, I mean, I can't tell you the amount of calls

Amber Duncan:

that I've had with individuals.

Amber Duncan:

And to your point, Seth, about men.

Amber Duncan:

I'll tell you, I would say 80 percent of my calls are women.

Amber Duncan:

They're females because they're the ones that are managing the bills.

Amber Duncan:

They're the ones that see everything.

Amber Duncan:

They're the ones that have to bear the weight of the debt.

Amber Duncan:

And a lot of times they're the ones spending to the extent that

Amber Duncan:

their husband does not know, right?

Amber Duncan:

It's been very few instances to where I'll hear a male say he's

Amber Duncan:

spending and his wife doesn't know.

Amber Duncan:

It's typically the females who.

Amber Duncan:

They're at home.

Amber Duncan:

They've got the cards.

Amber Duncan:

They're spinning way beyond their means.

Amber Duncan:

Their husband doesn't know.

Amber Duncan:

And it's just like, wait, let's hit the pause button for a minute here.

Amber Duncan:

Because while the death's one thing, like, the secrets is another.

Amber Duncan:

And secrets to me are killers.

Amber Duncan:

Like, they will steal, kill, and destroy anything about a relationship or marriage.

Amber Duncan:

To your point, I love what you said, Jennifer, about they know when you

Amber Duncan:

go to apply for a mortgage, it's like laying the truth out on the table,

Jennifer Annusky:

you know,

Amber Duncan:

and so it's, it's really helping people

Amber Duncan:

to come together as a couple.

Amber Duncan:

And we talked about that stuff a little bit.

Amber Duncan:

Is like if they understood, if you came together, your money's going to compound

Amber Duncan:

a lot faster rather than work separately.

Amber Duncan:

Right.

Amber Duncan:

Or be on different pages financially.

Seth Lejeune:

So what do you suggest for, let's say a newly married

Seth Lejeune:

couple, they're commingling funds if they haven't done it already.

Seth Lejeune:

I know a lot of unmarried couples commingle funds, but what do

Seth Lejeune:

you think sets a couple up best for success financially?

Seth Lejeune:

Uh, you know, having their own money or Just putting it all together and

Seth Lejeune:

talking, you know, and talking about it.

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Amber Duncan:

Great question.

Amber Duncan:

And I, you know, I'm a little bit of a different scenario because both my husband

Amber Duncan:

and I were business partners along with being married, which is not easy to do.

Amber Duncan:

And so for the most part, if I could go back and redo it, if I could go

Amber Duncan:

back to day one, I would tell people, if you're married, Put all your money

Amber Duncan:

together, let it work together from the very beginning, because as soon as you

Amber Duncan:

start operating in the space of, well, yeah, we do have some joint accounts,

Amber Duncan:

but we also have our own money, right?

Amber Duncan:

That can be very dangerous to couples.

Amber Duncan:

And so I think what's important is that if you are married out there

Amber Duncan:

that you come together, you unite, you sit down from the very beginning, I

Amber Duncan:

would even say, pull a credit report.

Amber Duncan:

Puller credit report.

Amber Duncan:

You know, you can get a free copy every single year at annualcreditreport.

Amber Duncan:

com.

Amber Duncan:

And I tell anyone I talked to, to do that as a couple, sit down, lay out a

Amber Duncan:

financial plan and a goal for yourself.

Amber Duncan:

And if you're getting married and you're like, listen, we want to be in a home

Amber Duncan:

in two years, set that goal, but back out of it and look over your reports and

Amber Duncan:

say, what do we need to do to get here?

Amber Duncan:

I think for the most part, you know, I always tell people when

Amber Duncan:

they're going into homeownership is.

Amber Duncan:

You want to try to have 20 percent down and you want your debt to income ratios to

Amber Duncan:

be intact to avoid PMI, to get a low rate.

Amber Duncan:

And so I'm sure you guys say the same thing on your side.

Amber Duncan:

Um, and so in order to do that, it's not going to happen overnight.

Amber Duncan:

You've got to look at the credit reports and give yourself a

Amber Duncan:

timeline and live into it.

Jennifer Annusky:

Yeah.

Jennifer Annusky:

I think you said that because it's actually, you know, it goes into

Jennifer Annusky:

everything that we tell people that if you have a goal to either, whether you

Jennifer Annusky:

like already own and you want to sell and move, or if you're renting and you

Jennifer Annusky:

want to buy or wherever you are, that there's no such thing as too soon.

Jennifer Annusky:

And like, those are the conversations to have ahead of time.

Jennifer Annusky:

And you kind of take the same approach of like, Hey, It hit it

Jennifer Annusky:

early and, you know, have to sit down and have those conversations,

Jennifer Annusky:

put everything out on the table.

Jennifer Annusky:

So we do something similar in terms of you sit down, we have a buyer questionnaire.

Jennifer Annusky:

We just did an episode on that actually, um, that just got released, but sit down

Jennifer Annusky:

together as a couple, we send one copy.

Jennifer Annusky:

So that they can sit down and these things have to come up and

Jennifer Annusky:

it prompts the conversations to be happening, to be able to get on the

Jennifer Annusky:

same page as far as what they want.

Jennifer Annusky:

And I think they need to take the same approach as far as debt goes.

Jennifer Annusky:

Yeah.

Jennifer Annusky:

I

Amber Duncan:

actually think it should be a prerequisite for people get married.

Amber Duncan:

Like they have to come clean with where they are financially

Amber Duncan:

because it's a deal breaker.

Amber Duncan:

Right?

Seth Lejeune:

That's, that's nuts to me.

Seth Lejeune:

I mean, I mean, I moved in with my wife about four years ago.

Seth Lejeune:

Three years before we got married and I remember seeing,

Seth Lejeune:

um, she's going to kill me.

Seth Lejeune:

Uh, but I, I remember, I won't say the amount, but there

Seth Lejeune:

was a credit card bill and.

Seth Lejeune:

I remember looking at him like, what is this?

Seth Lejeune:

And you know, she's like, Oh, I have a credit, you know, I have

Seth Lejeune:

a, plan with the credit card.

Seth Lejeune:

I was like, I'm sure they've got a plan for you.

Seth Lejeune:

I was like, we're not following that plan.

Seth Lejeune:

Um, and, but even after that, we, we were able to get on, we, we, we knew

Seth Lejeune:

what we made, how much money we had, like everything before we got married.

Seth Lejeune:

It just was crazy to me that it's like, people will get married and sorry anyways.

Seth Lejeune:

You know, I mean, everyone can do what they want to do, but it's like, it's

Seth Lejeune:

really like you get married and then, Oh, if someone pops out of their hatch

Seth Lejeune:

and says, Oh, I've got, you know, this credit card and this credit card.

Seth Lejeune:

And it's just like, I could just see that being a very, very hard

Seth Lejeune:

thing to start a marriage off.

Amber Duncan:

Well, yeah, it's kind of sets the precedent of like, you know, if

Amber Duncan:

you can't trust them financially, like, think of all the other areas or if they're

Amber Duncan:

holding something back or not sharing.

Amber Duncan:

Right.

Amber Duncan:

It's like, it's a secret.

Amber Duncan:

And so, like I say, secrets, they'll kill anything.

Amber Duncan:

So, um, Yeah.

Amber Duncan:

I mean, finances, it's a touchy topic.

Amber Duncan:

It's a very shame and guilt converse conversation for most couples.

Amber Duncan:

But once it's had, it's literally like the power of it comes off of you.

Amber Duncan:

And that's what I tell people.

Amber Duncan:

If you can just have the conversation, if you can just be vulnerable and

Amber Duncan:

really open up and share where you guys are financially, then everything will

Amber Duncan:

change from there on out everything.

Amber Duncan:

But until that happens, it just gets worse and worse.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah, I don't, I don't disagree.

Seth Lejeune:

I mean, I saw a poll and this is, this is older, it's like pre COVID, but

Seth Lejeune:

it was, they asked like a thousand couples and they were more work.

Seth Lejeune:

They were more willing to talk about their sex lives openly with

Seth Lejeune:

the pollster than their financial.

Amber Duncan:

Isn't that crazy?

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

But I could, I could see I've had enough onboarding calls

Seth Lejeune:

where I've actually had what Jen talks about where the lender will ask like,

Seth Lejeune:

well, how much, what's credit card look like and she'll be in a whole sake.

Seth Lejeune:

Well, we got about 7000 on this card and she'll turn and

Seth Lejeune:

be like, what or the opposite.

Seth Lejeune:

And I think a lot of people don't actually want to engage the home home buying

Seth Lejeune:

process because they know that a lender is going to ask their ask about their secret.

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

And men, and men, I am telling you men, men are, they

Seth Lejeune:

are, they do not like to be judged.

Seth Lejeune:

They don't like to be, you know, vulnerable or I don't think

Seth Lejeune:

it's as much of like, Hey, I don't want to tell my secret.

Seth Lejeune:

I just think that men really don't want to be seen as a failure.

Seth Lejeune:

I think that that's a big thing where like men just don't, I

Seth Lejeune:

think they, they equate debt.

Seth Lejeune:

They equate financial irresponsibility to I'm not, I'm failing.

Seth Lejeune:

I'm not able to provide, I'm off the rails.

Seth Lejeune:

And I don't know if you agree, Amber, but that, that's kind of my experience

Seth Lejeune:

with some of the people I've worked with.

Amber Duncan:

No, I agree.

Amber Duncan:

I think men actually, they don't want to even know, like they really would

Amber Duncan:

rather not know where they are because it's too much to bear for their family.

Amber Duncan:

And to your point, they do feel responsible.

Amber Duncan:

So the less that they know, but what that does in turn is put a lot on

Amber Duncan:

the wife and the wife carries the weight of, we have so much debt.

Amber Duncan:

I mean, I talked to individuals and women who are trying to pay

Amber Duncan:

the bills and I'll hear them say, Everything that we're making right

Amber Duncan:

now is going to minimum payments.

Amber Duncan:

Like we only have a hundred dollars left at the end of the month.

Amber Duncan:

And like, I just think about that.

Amber Duncan:

And I, and I always say to them, what is the total you're

Amber Duncan:

paying just in minimum payments?

Amber Duncan:

And they'll do the math for some people, Seth, it's like 2, 000 a month.

Amber Duncan:

And then I asked the question, what would you do with that 2000 a month if you

Amber Duncan:

weren't spending it on minimum payments?

Amber Duncan:

And to hear some of them, like, they can't even imagine for a

Amber Duncan:

2nd, what that would do to them.

Amber Duncan:

But what the bigger thing is for most is.

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Amber Duncan:

Financially, it's hurting you, but your health, the stress that you're

Amber Duncan:

under because you only have a hundred dollars left at the end of the month

Amber Duncan:

because of your debt killing you.

Amber Duncan:

And that's the biggest factor is that when you can stop and recognize it's

Amber Duncan:

not just the financial piece, it's the emotional and the physical wellness that

Amber Duncan:

it's costing you because you're carrying all of this and don't see a way out.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah, well, I mean, I'll go ahead and

Jennifer Annusky:

solve that.

Jennifer Annusky:

So, I mean, with, I mean, you've been doing this for quite a while.

Jennifer Annusky:

So in recent years, now that the cost of everything has just gone through

Jennifer Annusky:

the roof, have you been having more and more of these conversations and

Jennifer Annusky:

what kind of like drastic difference has there been in the amount of debt

Jennifer Annusky:

that people are coming to you about?

Amber Duncan:

Well, you know, the economy right now is skyrocket as far as like

Amber Duncan:

the cost of goods, the cost of living.

Amber Duncan:

We've seen 50 percent increase in things at the grocery store.

Amber Duncan:

But the truth of the matter is, is that people aren't making more money.

Amber Duncan:

So when eggs go up 50 percent they still have to buy eggs and

Amber Duncan:

they're paying for it somehow.

Amber Duncan:

So in turn, what we're seeing is credit card debt is continuing to be on the rise.

Amber Duncan:

Um, You know, there are seasons and there's past years to where you've seen

Amber Duncan:

a decline in the amount of debt, right?

Amber Duncan:

When the economy was doing better.

Amber Duncan:

But don't be fooled.

Amber Duncan:

We're not doing great and people are surviving right now.

Amber Duncan:

And so whatever that looks like, they'll put it on their credit cards

Amber Duncan:

thinking that who really cares?

Amber Duncan:

We have to put food on the table for our kids.

Amber Duncan:

You know, I'll tell people one of the biggest things right now with trying

Amber Duncan:

to survive, the best things you can do is look for credit cards that will

Amber Duncan:

0 percent interest introductory rate.

Amber Duncan:

And do some balance transfers of some of these higher interest cards that buys

Amber Duncan:

you time to pay off the debt without occurring, accruing more interest.

Amber Duncan:

And so if there are listeners on here that are listening, you're like, I

Amber Duncan:

already have all this credit card debt.

Amber Duncan:

You know, my first piece of advice would be go try to consolidate that onto a zero

Amber Duncan:

percent interest balance transfer, not because you need another credit card, but

Amber Duncan:

just transfer all those balances over.

Amber Duncan:

And attack it aggressively to try to pay it down quickly without a

Amber Duncan:

current accruing more interest.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah, I, I, I agree with that.

Seth Lejeune:

I know there's, I've had clients in the past who, you know, they're

Seth Lejeune:

sitting there with 27 percent interest rate, uh, on like, you know,

Seth Lejeune:

14, 000 worth of credit card debt.

Seth Lejeune:

I'm sure you've seen much worse, but.

Seth Lejeune:

I'm like, listen, like you almost need to take like a militaristic approach.

Seth Lejeune:

It's like, I like what you said is attack it.

Seth Lejeune:

Like you have to go to war with this thing.

Amber Duncan:

That's right.

Seth Lejeune:

In fact, Jen and I have a, uh, a client where I'll just check.

Seth Lejeune:

He's paying down credit card debt right now.

Seth Lejeune:

And I will literally say like, how's the war going?

Seth Lejeune:

Like how's the war effort, you know, and he's a guy and a guy, he, he's like

Seth Lejeune:

a very conservative, like, you know, he just wants to buy a house in the woods

Seth Lejeune:

and, you know, and hunt and do all that.

Seth Lejeune:

So, so I, I try to cater my messaging to like something he relate to, but I agree.

Seth Lejeune:

I mean, how much do you think.

Seth Lejeune:

There's like a herd mentality though.

Seth Lejeune:

And I've actually, I've always wanted to know this, like where people are

Seth Lejeune:

like, well, everyone else is doing it.

Seth Lejeune:

And I feel like if everyone, someone else has figured this out.

Seth Lejeune:

So what I'm doing isn't like so bad.

Seth Lejeune:

Like, is that a thing where people have like kind of that herd mentality?

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Amber Duncan:

And I think just the nature of credit cards in general, it's unsecured, but

Amber Duncan:

you can't bleed blood out of a turnip.

Amber Duncan:

It's unsecured credit card debt.

Amber Duncan:

And if it's not paid, then the banks write off the bad debt,

Amber Duncan:

they get the tax deduction, and then they sell it to a collection

Amber Duncan:

agency for pennies on the dollar.

Amber Duncan:

And those 15 hour employees go after attacking individuals and consumers via

Amber Duncan:

their phones and harassing them to get the payments because they've just purchased

Amber Duncan:

the debt for pennies on the dollar.

Amber Duncan:

It's a big business.

Amber Duncan:

So I don't think there's much fear associated with, Oh, well, I'm

Amber Duncan:

just going to use the credit card and if I can pay it, I can pay it.

Amber Duncan:

And if not, Oh, well, but.

Amber Duncan:

The result of that is a credit score that will keep them in bondage, right?

Amber Duncan:

And keep them renting for a very long time because they're not going to

Amber Duncan:

be able to purchase a home and take advantage of a low interest rate.

Amber Duncan:

And so that's what I try to get people to see they are right.

Amber Duncan:

Yes, it is unsecured.

Amber Duncan:

However, get out of the situation and hit the reset button, right?

Amber Duncan:

Hit the reset button, flip your script.

Amber Duncan:

I say that a lot to people and start to build wealth because as

Amber Duncan:

soon as you can respect the dollar.

Amber Duncan:

Then that's when you'll start to build wealth, whether it's through homeownership

Amber Duncan:

or high yield savings accounts, another vehicle that I always share with people,

Amber Duncan:

even if you only have 10, it's more about the discipline of setting it up and doing

Amber Duncan:

it and putting it on auto so that you're starting to build wealth rather than

Amber Duncan:

funnel everything to pay credit cards.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah, I, I, I completely agree with everything you just said.

Seth Lejeune:

And also I have a question, another question though, because we talked to

Seth Lejeune:

a lot of people who already own homes.

Amber Duncan:

A

Seth Lejeune:

lot of our, our niche is about upsizers, meaning people who want

Seth Lejeune:

to, like, you know, they bought that starter home and now they're finding that

Seth Lejeune:

they're stuck in a house that is going to, I guess, eventually now I guess they

Seth Lejeune:

just sit there and resign themselves to, Hey, this is going to be our forever home.

Seth Lejeune:

Like, what do you tell existing homeowners who not only have like the credit card

Seth Lejeune:

debt piling up, but they're also trying to service a mortgage at the same time.

Seth Lejeune:

Like, what is your advice for those people?

Seth Lejeune:

Um, approaching that situation.

Amber Duncan:

That is a great question because one of the biggest things I

Amber Duncan:

see people do, it's a huge mistake is they'll suck out equity in their home

Amber Duncan:

to pay off their credit card debt.

Amber Duncan:

Why would you ever make unsecured credit card debt secure by

Amber Duncan:

taking equity out of your home?

Amber Duncan:

You don't.

Amber Duncan:

And instead, look at your home as almost like a stepping stone, right?

Amber Duncan:

The bigger the risk, the bigger the reward in homeownership.

Amber Duncan:

In my opinion, I always tell people, if you go into a home as a starter

Amber Duncan:

home, um, Then you know what, give yourself three years there and as

Amber Duncan:

it appreciates, look to upgrade, not just because you want a bigger home.

Amber Duncan:

And it's not about the bigger home.

Amber Duncan:

It's about if you can sell that home and make a decent profit, put a hundred

Amber Duncan:

percent of that profit into the next step up because it's going to appreciate even

Amber Duncan:

more right at the higher, higher bracket.

Amber Duncan:

And so keep doing that.

Amber Duncan:

And that is a true wealth building tool.

Amber Duncan:

I watched my daughter and son in law do that.

Amber Duncan:

They got married, they got a starter home.

Amber Duncan:

When the market was hot, they took their appreciation and

Amber Duncan:

invested in a more expensive home.

Amber Duncan:

Now that one's appreciating.

Amber Duncan:

And so it's like, take advantage of the market, take advantage

Amber Duncan:

when the market is hot.

Amber Duncan:

And so you've just got to kind of like watch what's happening and move with it.

Amber Duncan:

People are scared.

Amber Duncan:

They think that we've got to stay.

Amber Duncan:

This is our forever home.

Amber Duncan:

But you know what?

Amber Duncan:

If you want to build, well, jump out there, look, get an appraisal done.

Amber Duncan:

What is your home worth?

Amber Duncan:

How much equity do you have sitting there?

Amber Duncan:

By the way.

Amber Duncan:

Don't just feel stifled with your primary residence.

Amber Duncan:

If you have equity sitting there, I can't think of anything better than to take that

Amber Duncan:

equity and purchase investment properties.

Amber Duncan:

and create passive income with investment properties.

Amber Duncan:

And so it, there's always opportunities with homeownership.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

I, and I, I agree with you because I think that the people get siloed.

Seth Lejeune:

They, they, they see their Yahoo or Google newsfeed out.

Seth Lejeune:

It's like affordability is at the worst level ever.

Seth Lejeune:

Um, have you approached or have you had a lot of people contact, you

Seth Lejeune:

know, that you've spoken to talk about the, like their interest rates.

Seth Lejeune:

So, you know, there's this lock in effect where people were saying, well, I've got

Seth Lejeune:

this 3 percent rate and, you know, going and trading up for a 7 percent rate.

Seth Lejeune:

What do you say to those people and do you advise them to do that?

Amber Duncan:

You know, that's a tough one because interest rates,

Amber Duncan:

they fluctuate and you're not married to the interest rate, by the way.

Amber Duncan:

You're married to the house.

Amber Duncan:

You're just dating the interest rate.

Amber Duncan:

That's how I try to tell it to people.

Amber Duncan:

You can refinance it at any point in time and get a better rate.

Amber Duncan:

So I just want

Jennifer Annusky:

to make sure that everybody hears this though,

Jennifer Annusky:

that this is not a real estate professional who is also agreeing to

Jennifer Annusky:

marry the house and to date the rate.

Jennifer Annusky:

Just want to put that out there.

Amber Duncan:

And so what you're doing is, is The house is going to

Amber Duncan:

appreciate regardless of the rate.

Amber Duncan:

What you do is you own the home because it's an investment and you can

Amber Duncan:

refinance it when rates get better.

Amber Duncan:

It's all about, you know, I think people get caught up too much about interest

Amber Duncan:

rates, but homeownership is homeownership and appreciation is appreciation.

Amber Duncan:

Oh, and P.

Amber Duncan:

S.

Amber Duncan:

the taxes or the, you get a tax deduction on the interest you're paying.

Amber Duncan:

So it's not like it's free.

Amber Duncan:

For nothing.

Amber Duncan:

It's so much better than renting that you're not getting any

Amber Duncan:

deduction for, by the way.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah.

Seth Lejeune:

And something we remind our clients to is it's like, you know, sometime and we don't

Seth Lejeune:

try to discount the cost of a new interest rate or but sometimes like you really

Seth Lejeune:

got to move out of that school district or like you got a 40 minute commute.

Seth Lejeune:

And like just moving like your whole quality of life, like, you know,

Seth Lejeune:

especially people with young kids, it's like, yeah, are you going to drive home

Seth Lejeune:

to 40 minutes to the baseball field?

Seth Lejeune:

Or would you rather drive 10 minutes home to the baseball field, you know,

Seth Lejeune:

and that logistical hurdle and those legit, you know, those types of things

Seth Lejeune:

that can happen, you know, those other factors, I know a lot of people were

Seth Lejeune:

saying, wow, I can't, you know, upsize my, you know, I don't want to, I don't want

Seth Lejeune:

to, um, uh, you know, I don't, I don't want to take on a higher interest rate.

Seth Lejeune:

The other thing, a lot of people talk about is.

Seth Lejeune:

The fact that I don't think necessarily people need to upsize like just

Seth Lejeune:

because you live in a 1500 square foot house doesn't mean you need to buy

Seth Lejeune:

the 2200 square foot house if you're comfortable where you are, but you

Seth Lejeune:

swap the house by the way, and like to your point of a few minutes ago.

Seth Lejeune:

You've got a bullet load of equity.

Seth Lejeune:

Like it's not all doom and gloom.

Seth Lejeune:

Like there's a ton of money that you haven't done anything to make by

Seth Lejeune:

other people buying and selling homes.

Seth Lejeune:

You've built all this value, so it's not going to be like how you went in.

Seth Lejeune:

You have all this cash to bring to get that payment down to where it needs to be,

Seth Lejeune:

even if it is at a higher interest rate.

Amber Duncan:

Right.

Amber Duncan:

And the truth of the matter is, is if you leave it sitting in the home, You

Amber Duncan:

might as well bury it in the backyard.

Amber Duncan:

What is it doing for you?

Amber Duncan:

Right.

Amber Duncan:

So put it to work, put it to work somewhere and get it, you know, to

Amber Duncan:

where it's making money for you.

Amber Duncan:

That's passive income.

Amber Duncan:

Um, so whether it's upgrading to another home or buying investment properties.

Amber Duncan:

It's great to have equity, but do something with it if

Amber Duncan:

you want it to work for you.

Seth Lejeune:

Yeah, I would, I would totally agree.

Seth Lejeune:

So, um, okay, well, I, I think we can wrap it up, but, uh, you

Seth Lejeune:

know, this has been super helpful.

Seth Lejeune:

Where can people find you, Amber, if they are quietly and carefully

Seth Lejeune:

listening to this episode and wondering where the hell they're going to

Seth Lejeune:

turn for any kind of debt relief?

Amber Duncan:

Yeah.

Amber Duncan:

So if anybody's listening and they find themselves trapped with

Amber Duncan:

credit card debt, please reach out.

Amber Duncan:

It's, we have reduced my debts.

Amber Duncan:

com.

Amber Duncan:

And they can go there.

Amber Duncan:

We are team offers a free 15 minute clarity call, and that just allows

Amber Duncan:

us to hear what they're experiencing and help them and point them in

Amber Duncan:

the right direction to get them on the path to financial freedom.

Amber Duncan:

So that we can set them up to come see you guys to purchase a home.

Amber Duncan:

So yeah, it's free.

Amber Duncan:

It's free.

Amber Duncan:

You know, you can't go wrong.

Amber Duncan:

You can also follow me on Instagram.

Amber Duncan:

It's Amberdunk, D U N C.

Amber Duncan:

Um, and I'm there.

Amber Duncan:

So either way, just reach out, ask for help.

Amber Duncan:

And the podcast Life After Debt, which the link is actually on my site.

Amber Duncan:

But, you know, the hardest part is asking for help.

Amber Duncan:

Once they book that call, what I found is they feel like a

Amber Duncan:

million bucks when they hang up.

Jennifer Annusky:

Yeah.

Jennifer Annusky:

And I think that's also important to stress that if conversation is free,

Jennifer Annusky:

like same with us, same as you getting advice and sitting down to have a

Jennifer Annusky:

conversation, it's free and it's valuable.

Jennifer Annusky:

So,

Amber Duncan:

yes.

Amber Duncan:

Okay.

Amber Duncan:

Yes.

Amber Duncan:

guys so much for having me on today.

Jennifer Annusky:

Thanks for being our first virtual interview.

Amber Duncan:

Yes.

Amber Duncan:

All right.

Amber Duncan:

Bye.

Amber Duncan:

See you guys.