Hey everyone.
Seth Lejeune:So welcome back to the millennia podcast.
Seth Lejeune:I have my host as always, Jen Nusky.
Seth Lejeune:And, uh, with us today is Amber Dungan.
Seth Lejeune:So I found Amber on Instagram.
Seth Lejeune:Um, she is a, well, what would you call yourself, Amber?
Seth Lejeune:Uh, what's the title you go by?
Seth Lejeune:I call myself
Amber Duncan:many things.
Amber Duncan:We're probably more of a serial entrepreneur.
Amber Duncan:Um, but.
Amber Duncan:What I'm, what I'm here to talk today about is more of just being a debt coach.
Amber Duncan:Okay.
Jennifer Annusky:Some people call you a, uh, a debt consolidator,
Amber Duncan:a debt consolidator.
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Amber Duncan:I mean, it's very similar.
Amber Duncan:I think my main goal is to eliminate it rather than consolidate it.
Amber Duncan:So that's the point of differentiation between the names,
Amber Duncan:but you can call me whatever.
Seth Lejeune:Got it.
Seth Lejeune:So, yeah.
Seth Lejeune:So, Amber, uh, we, uh, as you know, we have a podcast, uh, about, uh,
Seth Lejeune:kind of ushering people towards the promised land of home ownership.
Seth Lejeune:Jen and I though are in the process of kind of reaching back into people's
Seth Lejeune:lives, which is, you know, debt, you know, credit repair, that type of stuff.
Seth Lejeune:And you certainly fit the bill.
Seth Lejeune:Uh, you have your own podcast, right?
Amber Duncan:I do.
Amber Duncan:It's called Life After Debt.
Seth Lejeune:That's a great podcast.
Jennifer Annusky:That's what I listened to on my way home
Jennifer Annusky:from the shore yesterday.
Seth Lejeune:It's a very clever name.
Seth Lejeune:I, I, we have a clever name, but that life after debt is that's,
Seth Lejeune:that's, that's a good play on words.
Seth Lejeune:I like that.
Amber Duncan:It's a great jingle too.
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Amber Duncan:I mean, most people can't see through to the end and they think that if they're in
Amber Duncan:debt, they're always going to be in debt.
Amber Duncan:And so, you know, there's hope.
Amber Duncan:And I, that's what I love about our podcast is that.
Amber Duncan:We're able to bring people on to share their own stories of where they were,
Amber Duncan:whether it's 140, 000 in credit card debt or 10, 000, but to find their way
Amber Duncan:out and see them at the end of it, it's literally like they come to life again.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:And I would say real estate's the same way.
Seth Lejeune:We're just at a different phase where like, you know, you're helping them way
Seth Lejeune:early and then, you know, but getting, you know, sliding those keys across
Seth Lejeune:the table and settlement has got that same feeling where, I mean, there's
Seth Lejeune:just that elation that takes place, but why don't you, uh, why don't you
Seth Lejeune:take like four or five minutes, just tell us a little bit about your history
Seth Lejeune:and like kind of how you came to be.
Seth Lejeune:Cause you say you're a serial entrepreneur.
Seth Lejeune:I know that you've had past ventures in your life, like we all have, but why
Seth Lejeune:don't you just take a minute and just kind of tell us about your lineage here.
Amber Duncan:Sure.
Amber Duncan:Thanks, Seth.
Amber Duncan:And thank you guys for bringing me on today to share this.
Amber Duncan:You know, I'm really passionate about individuals who are struggling
Amber Duncan:because I myself found myself in a situation back in 2008 where my
Amber Duncan:husband and I were mortgage brokers.
Amber Duncan:And when the mortgage business collapsed, um, it left
Amber Duncan:everybody with a gaping problem.
Amber Duncan:And the whole was is that people were sucking out the equity in their home
Amber Duncan:to pay off their credit card debt.
Amber Duncan:So when that no longer existed, it presented, well, what are people going
Amber Duncan:to do with their credit card debt now?
Amber Duncan:And so we were able to go in and start to look closely at working
Amber Duncan:with banks and credit card companies and go to that for consumers.
Amber Duncan:And that just allowed us with the hardship to get people out of debt a lot quicker,
Amber Duncan:because as you know, and maybe some of your listeners don't know, you know,
Amber Duncan:when people get these statements and they're making a payment, most of them
Amber Duncan:are just making the minimum payment.
Amber Duncan:And so it's like 1 percent goes to the principal balance and the rest is just
Amber Duncan:like a snowball compounding effect.
Amber Duncan:Right.
Amber Duncan:But, but the thing with the mortgage payment is all the
Amber Duncan:interest is tax deductible, right?
Amber Duncan:That's what I love about homeownership that most people don't even look at.
Amber Duncan:And I tell people that, especially when they're filing taxes, if it's
Amber Duncan:your primary residence and the interest that you're paying, at
Amber Duncan:least there's a benefit associated to doing it through homeownership.
Amber Duncan:Right.
Amber Duncan:Not with credit card debt.
Amber Duncan:So it really is just a snowball compounding effect that whereas they
Amber Duncan:might've had 40, 000 in credit card debt by the time they pay it off,
Amber Duncan:it'll probably be close to 80, 000 and they'll be paying for a steak
Amber Duncan:dinner they had two years ago.
Amber Duncan:And so when we launched that in 2008, it took off and we've ended up helping
Amber Duncan:millions of individuals in this country with their credit card debt and became one
Amber Duncan:of the largest companies in the nation.
Amber Duncan:Negotiating credit card debt.
Amber Duncan:So it's been a rewarding, um, industry, but it came out of the space of we lost
Amber Duncan:everything and how to file bankruptcy.
Amber Duncan:And you know what?
Amber Duncan:We recovered from it because the truth is, is that that is what
Amber Duncan:drove us to go help individuals.
Amber Duncan:We didn't want them to have to file bankruptcy and we wanted to find another
Amber Duncan:solution that would allow them the ability to get out of their situation.
Amber Duncan:of pain.
Amber Duncan:And that's what well.
Seth Lejeune:And so, yeah, I mea the market turns, whether you know, new
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Seth Lejeune:was lucky enough not to my, my wife's friend said buy a house,
Seth Lejeune:you should b to my father, I'm thinkin Think again, you ain't doing anything
Seth Lejeune:cause he, he was a real estate guy.
Seth Lejeune:He understood, but I was very happy to not have to deal with that aspect of things.
Seth Lejeune:Um, but so are you, so you, you live in Florida.
Amber Duncan:I live in Florida, have five children.
Amber Duncan:Um, and I also run other companies.
Amber Duncan:I've done everything from Gigi's cupcakes.
Amber Duncan:A gym, um, gas stations, you know, I've kind of played around
Amber Duncan:Jackie is one of my companies.
Amber Duncan:And so I really enjoy the idea of building something.
Amber Duncan:And most of my businesses are centered around, I want people
Amber Duncan:to feel like a million bucks.
Amber Duncan:And so as crazy as it sounds, whether it's clothes or, you know, people smile
Amber Duncan:when they come into a cupcake store, when they work out and feel good about
Amber Duncan:themselves, debt is no different.
Amber Duncan:When you can help somebody with their finances, whether it's getting out of
Amber Duncan:debt or for you guys, the way you're helping people grow their wealth.
Amber Duncan:Portfolio through real estate, like it's a rewarding feeling.
Amber Duncan:So yeah, I think that's the underlying theme and everything that I do.
Seth Lejeune:Great.
Seth Lejeune:So what is, um, so let's talk about homeowners, uh,
Seth Lejeune:homeownership a little bit.
Seth Lejeune:So, you know, a lot of that people either don't talk about, um, debt or,
Seth Lejeune:or I'm sorry, homeownership, or they, you know, they, the thing that, Caught
Seth Lejeune:my eye about you is that you, you kind of take a holistic approach and like
Seth Lejeune:your whole thing is like, okay, yeah, we can deal with this debt, but then
Seth Lejeune:you're also like thinking down the road here of like, okay, well then,
Seth Lejeune:you know, real estate's a good thing.
Seth Lejeune:You need to invest in that type of thing.
Seth Lejeune:And so why do you think that is like a lot of real, a lot of debt people are just
Seth Lejeune:don't really talk about home ownership.
Seth Lejeune:Is it just because they like to stay in their lane or they don't have kind of
Seth Lejeune:as broad of a view of things as you do?
Amber Duncan:You know, I think they're scared.
Amber Duncan:I think that most people and everybody that I talked to that has debt home
Amber Duncan:ownership seems like it's like going to another country like they feel so
Amber Duncan:lost and confused about the process that they feel like if they can't
Amber Duncan:even manage their credit card, how could they manage home ownership?
Amber Duncan:But what they don't realize is, is that home ownership to me, and the way I try
Amber Duncan:to explain it to people, it's literally like a savings account for yourself.
Amber Duncan:It's a retirement plan.
Amber Duncan:It's an asset.
Amber Duncan:And so the more that you can add assets to your portfolio, that that
Amber Duncan:really differs from credit card debt.
Amber Duncan:And so once I can get the big picture to them to see that, listen, paying
Amber Duncan:your mortgage is more important than paying your credit card.
Amber Duncan:It's secured versus unsecured.
Amber Duncan:And once the light bulb goes off, they get it.
Amber Duncan:And they realize that investing in a home is like investing in
Amber Duncan:somethings that that's going to appreciate over time, credit card debt
Amber Duncan:doesn't appreciate it grows, right?
Amber Duncan:So it's kind of like, You just have to educate people on the difference.
Amber Duncan:And most people just are not educated enough.
Amber Duncan:They don't understand or they feel overwhelmed with the
Amber Duncan:process of homeownership.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:And I think, uh, you know, some people are financially sad, more savvier than others.
Seth Lejeune:Uh, some people are.
Seth Lejeune:Obviously have better, uh, you know, I had more ability to, to afford
Seth Lejeune:things, um, you know, than others.
Seth Lejeune:I think that that hurdle exists just with homeownership and with debt.
Seth Lejeune:It's like, why do you think people are so averse to finances and money in general?
Amber Duncan:I love that question.
Amber Duncan:You know, it's interesting, but if, if you think about your circle of
Amber Duncan:individuals that you guys hang out with, I always say this, how often does
Amber Duncan:anybody really get vulnerable and share?
Amber Duncan:You know what?
Amber Duncan:I am really struggling.
Amber Duncan:We are behind on our mortgage right now.
Amber Duncan:We are late on our credit cards.
Amber Duncan:We're barely surviving.
Amber Duncan:In fact, we're living on our credit cards.
Amber Duncan:No one talks about it.
Amber Duncan:It's an ooey topic that no one is comfortable talking about.
Amber Duncan:And so that's why creating these spaces for individuals.
Amber Duncan:I love to, the first thing I say when I get on a clarity call with people, um, is.
Amber Duncan:I want to let you know there is no shame or guilt around your situation.
Amber Duncan:I'm only here to help you.
Amber Duncan:And that's such an important piece of the puzzle to create spaces for individuals
Amber Duncan:to open up because if you can give them permission to do so, as soon as you do
Amber Duncan:that, they'll share everything with you.
Amber Duncan:And the same with home ownership, you know, Hey, there's no shame or guilt
Amber Duncan:around the fact that you're still renting, but tell me what your biggest fears
Amber Duncan:are with home ownership and let's walk you through that process and get you
Amber Duncan:connected with someone that can get you in a home so you're not just flushing your
Amber Duncan:money down the toilet, renting, right?
Amber Duncan:I think
Jennifer Annusky:people can't get to where we want them to get to
Jennifer Annusky:without them first getting past where you want them to get to.
Jennifer Annusky:So, I mean, you know, like us even bringing you on is all part of, I
Jennifer Annusky:mean, we've talked about people's biggest hurdles of labor objections
Jennifer Annusky:to being able to buy a house or why they think they can't, or why
Jennifer Annusky:I think it's just unattainable.
Jennifer Annusky:And a lot of times it's like millennials, and now the upcoming Gen Z too, is
Jennifer Annusky:that they just feel like there's, they have too much debt with student
Jennifer Annusky:loans or just too much, you know.
Jennifer Annusky:Credit card debt are just, their credit's not great.
Jennifer Annusky:So, you know, going to somebody who can actually talk to the debt and, you know,
Jennifer Annusky:fix that problem in order to even make it attainable, I think is a huge piece.
Jennifer Annusky:And you're right.
Jennifer Annusky:People just don't talk about it.
Jennifer Annusky:I think there's pride involved in it too.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:It's shame.
Seth Lejeune:It's shame
Amber Duncan:and guilt.
Seth Lejeune:And I will say this much, man.
Seth Lejeune:Men don't talk about it.
Seth Lejeune:I mean, especially the men, I feel like the, I don't know if that's
Seth Lejeune:your experience, Amber, but I, I know that, you know, you know, they
Seth Lejeune:don't talk about on the golf course or talk about it at the bar, they're
Seth Lejeune:like, yeah, I'm behind on my mortgage.
Seth Lejeune:You know, uh, I got, you know, they'll, they'll complain about
Seth Lejeune:their spouse spending too much money, but they'll never go as far to say.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:And we're poor and we're not going to be able to make our mortgage payment
Seth Lejeune:this month, like it doesn't go that far.
Jennifer Annusky:Yeah.
Jennifer Annusky:People really don't like to say it.
Jennifer Annusky:They're late too.
Jennifer Annusky:I mean, I have a friend, you know, wanted to be able to move.
Jennifer Annusky:And I went through all sorts of hurdles to be able to get something available
Jennifer Annusky:for her did, and then, you know, come to find out like, you know, the secrets
Jennifer Annusky:come out once everything is run through the mortgage company and, you know, the
Jennifer Annusky:near episode, the secret spending, it's like, I was really surprised to hear
Jennifer Annusky:you say 42 percent of couples, like have some sort of financial secret.
Jennifer Annusky:That they don't disclose with each other.
Jennifer Annusky:And you know, it's, it, that blew my mind because when somebody is going to
Jennifer Annusky:apply for a mortgage, it's all going to come out anyway, and you said like,
Seth Lejeune:instead
Jennifer Annusky:of saving your account, like let's save your marriage first.
Jennifer Annusky:And it's like, cause yeah, that can derail real fast.
Amber Duncan:Oh, I mean, I can't tell you the amount of calls
Amber Duncan:that I've had with individuals.
Amber Duncan:And to your point, Seth, about men.
Amber Duncan:I'll tell you, I would say 80 percent of my calls are women.
Amber Duncan:They're females because they're the ones that are managing the bills.
Amber Duncan:They're the ones that see everything.
Amber Duncan:They're the ones that have to bear the weight of the debt.
Amber Duncan:And a lot of times they're the ones spending to the extent that
Amber Duncan:their husband does not know, right?
Amber Duncan:It's been very few instances to where I'll hear a male say he's
Amber Duncan:spending and his wife doesn't know.
Amber Duncan:It's typically the females who.
Amber Duncan:They're at home.
Amber Duncan:They've got the cards.
Amber Duncan:They're spinning way beyond their means.
Amber Duncan:Their husband doesn't know.
Amber Duncan:And it's just like, wait, let's hit the pause button for a minute here.
Amber Duncan:Because while the death's one thing, like, the secrets is another.
Amber Duncan:And secrets to me are killers.
Amber Duncan:Like, they will steal, kill, and destroy anything about a relationship or marriage.
Amber Duncan:To your point, I love what you said, Jennifer, about they know when you
Amber Duncan:go to apply for a mortgage, it's like laying the truth out on the table,
Jennifer Annusky:you know,
Amber Duncan:and so it's, it's really helping people
Amber Duncan:to come together as a couple.
Amber Duncan:And we talked about that stuff a little bit.
Amber Duncan:Is like if they understood, if you came together, your money's going to compound
Amber Duncan:a lot faster rather than work separately.
Amber Duncan:Right.
Amber Duncan:Or be on different pages financially.
Seth Lejeune:So what do you suggest for, let's say a newly married
Seth Lejeune:couple, they're commingling funds if they haven't done it already.
Seth Lejeune:I know a lot of unmarried couples commingle funds, but what do
Seth Lejeune:you think sets a couple up best for success financially?
Seth Lejeune:Uh, you know, having their own money or Just putting it all together and
Seth Lejeune:talking, you know, and talking about it.
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Amber Duncan:Great question.
Amber Duncan:And I, you know, I'm a little bit of a different scenario because both my husband
Amber Duncan:and I were business partners along with being married, which is not easy to do.
Amber Duncan:And so for the most part, if I could go back and redo it, if I could go
Amber Duncan:back to day one, I would tell people, if you're married, Put all your money
Amber Duncan:together, let it work together from the very beginning, because as soon as you
Amber Duncan:start operating in the space of, well, yeah, we do have some joint accounts,
Amber Duncan:but we also have our own money, right?
Amber Duncan:That can be very dangerous to couples.
Amber Duncan:And so I think what's important is that if you are married out there
Amber Duncan:that you come together, you unite, you sit down from the very beginning, I
Amber Duncan:would even say, pull a credit report.
Amber Duncan:Puller credit report.
Amber Duncan:You know, you can get a free copy every single year at annualcreditreport.
Amber Duncan:com.
Amber Duncan:And I tell anyone I talked to, to do that as a couple, sit down, lay out a
Amber Duncan:financial plan and a goal for yourself.
Amber Duncan:And if you're getting married and you're like, listen, we want to be in a home
Amber Duncan:in two years, set that goal, but back out of it and look over your reports and
Amber Duncan:say, what do we need to do to get here?
Amber Duncan:I think for the most part, you know, I always tell people when
Amber Duncan:they're going into homeownership is.
Amber Duncan:You want to try to have 20 percent down and you want your debt to income ratios to
Amber Duncan:be intact to avoid PMI, to get a low rate.
Amber Duncan:And so I'm sure you guys say the same thing on your side.
Amber Duncan:Um, and so in order to do that, it's not going to happen overnight.
Amber Duncan:You've got to look at the credit reports and give yourself a
Amber Duncan:timeline and live into it.
Jennifer Annusky:Yeah.
Jennifer Annusky:I think you said that because it's actually, you know, it goes into
Jennifer Annusky:everything that we tell people that if you have a goal to either, whether you
Jennifer Annusky:like already own and you want to sell and move, or if you're renting and you
Jennifer Annusky:want to buy or wherever you are, that there's no such thing as too soon.
Jennifer Annusky:And like, those are the conversations to have ahead of time.
Jennifer Annusky:And you kind of take the same approach of like, Hey, It hit it
Jennifer Annusky:early and, you know, have to sit down and have those conversations,
Jennifer Annusky:put everything out on the table.
Jennifer Annusky:So we do something similar in terms of you sit down, we have a buyer questionnaire.
Jennifer Annusky:We just did an episode on that actually, um, that just got released, but sit down
Jennifer Annusky:together as a couple, we send one copy.
Jennifer Annusky:So that they can sit down and these things have to come up and
Jennifer Annusky:it prompts the conversations to be happening, to be able to get on the
Jennifer Annusky:same page as far as what they want.
Jennifer Annusky:And I think they need to take the same approach as far as debt goes.
Jennifer Annusky:Yeah.
Jennifer Annusky:I
Amber Duncan:actually think it should be a prerequisite for people get married.
Amber Duncan:Like they have to come clean with where they are financially
Amber Duncan:because it's a deal breaker.
Amber Duncan:Right?
Seth Lejeune:That's, that's nuts to me.
Seth Lejeune:I mean, I mean, I moved in with my wife about four years ago.
Seth Lejeune:Three years before we got married and I remember seeing,
Seth Lejeune:um, she's going to kill me.
Seth Lejeune:Uh, but I, I remember, I won't say the amount, but there
Seth Lejeune:was a credit card bill and.
Seth Lejeune:I remember looking at him like, what is this?
Seth Lejeune:And you know, she's like, Oh, I have a credit, you know, I have
Seth Lejeune:a, plan with the credit card.
Seth Lejeune:I was like, I'm sure they've got a plan for you.
Seth Lejeune:I was like, we're not following that plan.
Seth Lejeune:Um, and, but even after that, we, we were able to get on, we, we, we knew
Seth Lejeune:what we made, how much money we had, like everything before we got married.
Seth Lejeune:It just was crazy to me that it's like, people will get married and sorry anyways.
Seth Lejeune:You know, I mean, everyone can do what they want to do, but it's like, it's
Seth Lejeune:really like you get married and then, Oh, if someone pops out of their hatch
Seth Lejeune:and says, Oh, I've got, you know, this credit card and this credit card.
Seth Lejeune:And it's just like, I could just see that being a very, very hard
Seth Lejeune:thing to start a marriage off.
Amber Duncan:Well, yeah, it's kind of sets the precedent of like, you know, if
Amber Duncan:you can't trust them financially, like, think of all the other areas or if they're
Amber Duncan:holding something back or not sharing.
Amber Duncan:Right.
Amber Duncan:It's like, it's a secret.
Amber Duncan:And so, like I say, secrets, they'll kill anything.
Amber Duncan:So, um, Yeah.
Amber Duncan:I mean, finances, it's a touchy topic.
Amber Duncan:It's a very shame and guilt converse conversation for most couples.
Amber Duncan:But once it's had, it's literally like the power of it comes off of you.
Amber Duncan:And that's what I tell people.
Amber Duncan:If you can just have the conversation, if you can just be vulnerable and
Amber Duncan:really open up and share where you guys are financially, then everything will
Amber Duncan:change from there on out everything.
Amber Duncan:But until that happens, it just gets worse and worse.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah, I don't, I don't disagree.
Seth Lejeune:I mean, I saw a poll and this is, this is older, it's like pre COVID, but
Seth Lejeune:it was, they asked like a thousand couples and they were more work.
Seth Lejeune:They were more willing to talk about their sex lives openly with
Seth Lejeune:the pollster than their financial.
Amber Duncan:Isn't that crazy?
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:But I could, I could see I've had enough onboarding calls
Seth Lejeune:where I've actually had what Jen talks about where the lender will ask like,
Seth Lejeune:well, how much, what's credit card look like and she'll be in a whole sake.
Seth Lejeune:Well, we got about 7000 on this card and she'll turn and
Seth Lejeune:be like, what or the opposite.
Seth Lejeune:And I think a lot of people don't actually want to engage the home home buying
Seth Lejeune:process because they know that a lender is going to ask their ask about their secret.
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:And men, and men, I am telling you men, men are, they
Seth Lejeune:are, they do not like to be judged.
Seth Lejeune:They don't like to be, you know, vulnerable or I don't think
Seth Lejeune:it's as much of like, Hey, I don't want to tell my secret.
Seth Lejeune:I just think that men really don't want to be seen as a failure.
Seth Lejeune:I think that that's a big thing where like men just don't, I
Seth Lejeune:think they, they equate debt.
Seth Lejeune:They equate financial irresponsibility to I'm not, I'm failing.
Seth Lejeune:I'm not able to provide, I'm off the rails.
Seth Lejeune:And I don't know if you agree, Amber, but that, that's kind of my experience
Seth Lejeune:with some of the people I've worked with.
Amber Duncan:No, I agree.
Amber Duncan:I think men actually, they don't want to even know, like they really would
Amber Duncan:rather not know where they are because it's too much to bear for their family.
Amber Duncan:And to your point, they do feel responsible.
Amber Duncan:So the less that they know, but what that does in turn is put a lot on
Amber Duncan:the wife and the wife carries the weight of, we have so much debt.
Amber Duncan:I mean, I talked to individuals and women who are trying to pay
Amber Duncan:the bills and I'll hear them say, Everything that we're making right
Amber Duncan:now is going to minimum payments.
Amber Duncan:Like we only have a hundred dollars left at the end of the month.
Amber Duncan:And like, I just think about that.
Amber Duncan:And I, and I always say to them, what is the total you're
Amber Duncan:paying just in minimum payments?
Amber Duncan:And they'll do the math for some people, Seth, it's like 2, 000 a month.
Amber Duncan:And then I asked the question, what would you do with that 2000 a month if you
Amber Duncan:weren't spending it on minimum payments?
Amber Duncan:And to hear some of them, like, they can't even imagine for a
Amber Duncan:2nd, what that would do to them.
Amber Duncan:But what the bigger thing is for most is.
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Amber Duncan:Financially, it's hurting you, but your health, the stress that you're
Amber Duncan:under because you only have a hundred dollars left at the end of the month
Amber Duncan:because of your debt killing you.
Amber Duncan:And that's the biggest factor is that when you can stop and recognize it's
Amber Duncan:not just the financial piece, it's the emotional and the physical wellness that
Amber Duncan:it's costing you because you're carrying all of this and don't see a way out.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah, well, I mean, I'll go ahead and
Jennifer Annusky:solve that.
Jennifer Annusky:So, I mean, with, I mean, you've been doing this for quite a while.
Jennifer Annusky:So in recent years, now that the cost of everything has just gone through
Jennifer Annusky:the roof, have you been having more and more of these conversations and
Jennifer Annusky:what kind of like drastic difference has there been in the amount of debt
Jennifer Annusky:that people are coming to you about?
Amber Duncan:Well, you know, the economy right now is skyrocket as far as like
Amber Duncan:the cost of goods, the cost of living.
Amber Duncan:We've seen 50 percent increase in things at the grocery store.
Amber Duncan:But the truth of the matter is, is that people aren't making more money.
Amber Duncan:So when eggs go up 50 percent they still have to buy eggs and
Amber Duncan:they're paying for it somehow.
Amber Duncan:So in turn, what we're seeing is credit card debt is continuing to be on the rise.
Amber Duncan:Um, You know, there are seasons and there's past years to where you've seen
Amber Duncan:a decline in the amount of debt, right?
Amber Duncan:When the economy was doing better.
Amber Duncan:But don't be fooled.
Amber Duncan:We're not doing great and people are surviving right now.
Amber Duncan:And so whatever that looks like, they'll put it on their credit cards
Amber Duncan:thinking that who really cares?
Amber Duncan:We have to put food on the table for our kids.
Amber Duncan:You know, I'll tell people one of the biggest things right now with trying
Amber Duncan:to survive, the best things you can do is look for credit cards that will
Amber Duncan:0 percent interest introductory rate.
Amber Duncan:And do some balance transfers of some of these higher interest cards that buys
Amber Duncan:you time to pay off the debt without occurring, accruing more interest.
Amber Duncan:And so if there are listeners on here that are listening, you're like, I
Amber Duncan:already have all this credit card debt.
Amber Duncan:You know, my first piece of advice would be go try to consolidate that onto a zero
Amber Duncan:percent interest balance transfer, not because you need another credit card, but
Amber Duncan:just transfer all those balances over.
Amber Duncan:And attack it aggressively to try to pay it down quickly without a
Amber Duncan:current accruing more interest.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah, I, I, I agree with that.
Seth Lejeune:I know there's, I've had clients in the past who, you know, they're
Seth Lejeune:sitting there with 27 percent interest rate, uh, on like, you know,
Seth Lejeune:14, 000 worth of credit card debt.
Seth Lejeune:I'm sure you've seen much worse, but.
Seth Lejeune:I'm like, listen, like you almost need to take like a militaristic approach.
Seth Lejeune:It's like, I like what you said is attack it.
Seth Lejeune:Like you have to go to war with this thing.
Amber Duncan:That's right.
Seth Lejeune:In fact, Jen and I have a, uh, a client where I'll just check.
Seth Lejeune:He's paying down credit card debt right now.
Seth Lejeune:And I will literally say like, how's the war going?
Seth Lejeune:Like how's the war effort, you know, and he's a guy and a guy, he, he's like
Seth Lejeune:a very conservative, like, you know, he just wants to buy a house in the woods
Seth Lejeune:and, you know, and hunt and do all that.
Seth Lejeune:So, so I, I try to cater my messaging to like something he relate to, but I agree.
Seth Lejeune:I mean, how much do you think.
Seth Lejeune:There's like a herd mentality though.
Seth Lejeune:And I've actually, I've always wanted to know this, like where people are
Seth Lejeune:like, well, everyone else is doing it.
Seth Lejeune:And I feel like if everyone, someone else has figured this out.
Seth Lejeune:So what I'm doing isn't like so bad.
Seth Lejeune:Like, is that a thing where people have like kind of that herd mentality?
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Amber Duncan:And I think just the nature of credit cards in general, it's unsecured, but
Amber Duncan:you can't bleed blood out of a turnip.
Amber Duncan:It's unsecured credit card debt.
Amber Duncan:And if it's not paid, then the banks write off the bad debt,
Amber Duncan:they get the tax deduction, and then they sell it to a collection
Amber Duncan:agency for pennies on the dollar.
Amber Duncan:And those 15 hour employees go after attacking individuals and consumers via
Amber Duncan:their phones and harassing them to get the payments because they've just purchased
Amber Duncan:the debt for pennies on the dollar.
Amber Duncan:It's a big business.
Amber Duncan:So I don't think there's much fear associated with, Oh, well, I'm
Amber Duncan:just going to use the credit card and if I can pay it, I can pay it.
Amber Duncan:And if not, Oh, well, but.
Amber Duncan:The result of that is a credit score that will keep them in bondage, right?
Amber Duncan:And keep them renting for a very long time because they're not going to
Amber Duncan:be able to purchase a home and take advantage of a low interest rate.
Amber Duncan:And so that's what I try to get people to see they are right.
Amber Duncan:Yes, it is unsecured.
Amber Duncan:However, get out of the situation and hit the reset button, right?
Amber Duncan:Hit the reset button, flip your script.
Amber Duncan:I say that a lot to people and start to build wealth because as
Amber Duncan:soon as you can respect the dollar.
Amber Duncan:Then that's when you'll start to build wealth, whether it's through homeownership
Amber Duncan:or high yield savings accounts, another vehicle that I always share with people,
Amber Duncan:even if you only have 10, it's more about the discipline of setting it up and doing
Amber Duncan:it and putting it on auto so that you're starting to build wealth rather than
Amber Duncan:funnel everything to pay credit cards.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah, I, I, I completely agree with everything you just said.
Seth Lejeune:And also I have a question, another question though, because we talked to
Seth Lejeune:a lot of people who already own homes.
Amber Duncan:A
Seth Lejeune:lot of our, our niche is about upsizers, meaning people who want
Seth Lejeune:to, like, you know, they bought that starter home and now they're finding that
Seth Lejeune:they're stuck in a house that is going to, I guess, eventually now I guess they
Seth Lejeune:just sit there and resign themselves to, Hey, this is going to be our forever home.
Seth Lejeune:Like, what do you tell existing homeowners who not only have like the credit card
Seth Lejeune:debt piling up, but they're also trying to service a mortgage at the same time.
Seth Lejeune:Like, what is your advice for those people?
Seth Lejeune:Um, approaching that situation.
Amber Duncan:That is a great question because one of the biggest things I
Amber Duncan:see people do, it's a huge mistake is they'll suck out equity in their home
Amber Duncan:to pay off their credit card debt.
Amber Duncan:Why would you ever make unsecured credit card debt secure by
Amber Duncan:taking equity out of your home?
Amber Duncan:You don't.
Amber Duncan:And instead, look at your home as almost like a stepping stone, right?
Amber Duncan:The bigger the risk, the bigger the reward in homeownership.
Amber Duncan:In my opinion, I always tell people, if you go into a home as a starter
Amber Duncan:home, um, Then you know what, give yourself three years there and as
Amber Duncan:it appreciates, look to upgrade, not just because you want a bigger home.
Amber Duncan:And it's not about the bigger home.
Amber Duncan:It's about if you can sell that home and make a decent profit, put a hundred
Amber Duncan:percent of that profit into the next step up because it's going to appreciate even
Amber Duncan:more right at the higher, higher bracket.
Amber Duncan:And so keep doing that.
Amber Duncan:And that is a true wealth building tool.
Amber Duncan:I watched my daughter and son in law do that.
Amber Duncan:They got married, they got a starter home.
Amber Duncan:When the market was hot, they took their appreciation and
Amber Duncan:invested in a more expensive home.
Amber Duncan:Now that one's appreciating.
Amber Duncan:And so it's like, take advantage of the market, take advantage
Amber Duncan:when the market is hot.
Amber Duncan:And so you've just got to kind of like watch what's happening and move with it.
Amber Duncan:People are scared.
Amber Duncan:They think that we've got to stay.
Amber Duncan:This is our forever home.
Amber Duncan:But you know what?
Amber Duncan:If you want to build, well, jump out there, look, get an appraisal done.
Amber Duncan:What is your home worth?
Amber Duncan:How much equity do you have sitting there?
Amber Duncan:By the way.
Amber Duncan:Don't just feel stifled with your primary residence.
Amber Duncan:If you have equity sitting there, I can't think of anything better than to take that
Amber Duncan:equity and purchase investment properties.
Amber Duncan:and create passive income with investment properties.
Amber Duncan:And so it, there's always opportunities with homeownership.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:I, and I, I agree with you because I think that the people get siloed.
Seth Lejeune:They, they, they see their Yahoo or Google newsfeed out.
Seth Lejeune:It's like affordability is at the worst level ever.
Seth Lejeune:Um, have you approached or have you had a lot of people contact, you
Seth Lejeune:know, that you've spoken to talk about the, like their interest rates.
Seth Lejeune:So, you know, there's this lock in effect where people were saying, well, I've got
Seth Lejeune:this 3 percent rate and, you know, going and trading up for a 7 percent rate.
Seth Lejeune:What do you say to those people and do you advise them to do that?
Amber Duncan:You know, that's a tough one because interest rates,
Amber Duncan:they fluctuate and you're not married to the interest rate, by the way.
Amber Duncan:You're married to the house.
Amber Duncan:You're just dating the interest rate.
Amber Duncan:That's how I try to tell it to people.
Amber Duncan:You can refinance it at any point in time and get a better rate.
Amber Duncan:So I just want
Jennifer Annusky:to make sure that everybody hears this though,
Jennifer Annusky:that this is not a real estate professional who is also agreeing to
Jennifer Annusky:marry the house and to date the rate.
Jennifer Annusky:Just want to put that out there.
Amber Duncan:And so what you're doing is, is The house is going to
Amber Duncan:appreciate regardless of the rate.
Amber Duncan:What you do is you own the home because it's an investment and you can
Amber Duncan:refinance it when rates get better.
Amber Duncan:It's all about, you know, I think people get caught up too much about interest
Amber Duncan:rates, but homeownership is homeownership and appreciation is appreciation.
Amber Duncan:Oh, and P.
Amber Duncan:S.
Amber Duncan:the taxes or the, you get a tax deduction on the interest you're paying.
Amber Duncan:So it's not like it's free.
Amber Duncan:For nothing.
Amber Duncan:It's so much better than renting that you're not getting any
Amber Duncan:deduction for, by the way.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah.
Seth Lejeune:And something we remind our clients to is it's like, you know, sometime and we don't
Seth Lejeune:try to discount the cost of a new interest rate or but sometimes like you really
Seth Lejeune:got to move out of that school district or like you got a 40 minute commute.
Seth Lejeune:And like just moving like your whole quality of life, like, you know,
Seth Lejeune:especially people with young kids, it's like, yeah, are you going to drive home
Seth Lejeune:to 40 minutes to the baseball field?
Seth Lejeune:Or would you rather drive 10 minutes home to the baseball field, you know,
Seth Lejeune:and that logistical hurdle and those legit, you know, those types of things
Seth Lejeune:that can happen, you know, those other factors, I know a lot of people were
Seth Lejeune:saying, wow, I can't, you know, upsize my, you know, I don't want to, I don't want
Seth Lejeune:to, um, uh, you know, I don't, I don't want to take on a higher interest rate.
Seth Lejeune:The other thing, a lot of people talk about is.
Seth Lejeune:The fact that I don't think necessarily people need to upsize like just
Seth Lejeune:because you live in a 1500 square foot house doesn't mean you need to buy
Seth Lejeune:the 2200 square foot house if you're comfortable where you are, but you
Seth Lejeune:swap the house by the way, and like to your point of a few minutes ago.
Seth Lejeune:You've got a bullet load of equity.
Seth Lejeune:Like it's not all doom and gloom.
Seth Lejeune:Like there's a ton of money that you haven't done anything to make by
Seth Lejeune:other people buying and selling homes.
Seth Lejeune:You've built all this value, so it's not going to be like how you went in.
Seth Lejeune:You have all this cash to bring to get that payment down to where it needs to be,
Seth Lejeune:even if it is at a higher interest rate.
Amber Duncan:Right.
Amber Duncan:And the truth of the matter is, is if you leave it sitting in the home, You
Amber Duncan:might as well bury it in the backyard.
Amber Duncan:What is it doing for you?
Amber Duncan:Right.
Amber Duncan:So put it to work, put it to work somewhere and get it, you know, to
Amber Duncan:where it's making money for you.
Amber Duncan:That's passive income.
Amber Duncan:Um, so whether it's upgrading to another home or buying investment properties.
Amber Duncan:It's great to have equity, but do something with it if
Amber Duncan:you want it to work for you.
Seth Lejeune:Yeah, I would, I would totally agree.
Seth Lejeune:So, um, okay, well, I, I think we can wrap it up, but, uh, you
Seth Lejeune:know, this has been super helpful.
Seth Lejeune:Where can people find you, Amber, if they are quietly and carefully
Seth Lejeune:listening to this episode and wondering where the hell they're going to
Seth Lejeune:turn for any kind of debt relief?
Amber Duncan:Yeah.
Amber Duncan:So if anybody's listening and they find themselves trapped with
Amber Duncan:credit card debt, please reach out.
Amber Duncan:It's, we have reduced my debts.
Amber Duncan:com.
Amber Duncan:And they can go there.
Amber Duncan:We are team offers a free 15 minute clarity call, and that just allows
Amber Duncan:us to hear what they're experiencing and help them and point them in
Amber Duncan:the right direction to get them on the path to financial freedom.
Amber Duncan:So that we can set them up to come see you guys to purchase a home.
Amber Duncan:So yeah, it's free.
Amber Duncan:It's free.
Amber Duncan:You know, you can't go wrong.
Amber Duncan:You can also follow me on Instagram.
Amber Duncan:It's Amberdunk, D U N C.
Amber Duncan:Um, and I'm there.
Amber Duncan:So either way, just reach out, ask for help.
Amber Duncan:And the podcast Life After Debt, which the link is actually on my site.
Amber Duncan:But, you know, the hardest part is asking for help.
Amber Duncan:Once they book that call, what I found is they feel like a
Amber Duncan:million bucks when they hang up.
Jennifer Annusky:Yeah.
Jennifer Annusky:And I think that's also important to stress that if conversation is free,
Jennifer Annusky:like same with us, same as you getting advice and sitting down to have a
Jennifer Annusky:conversation, it's free and it's valuable.
Jennifer Annusky:So,
Amber Duncan:yes.
Amber Duncan:Okay.
Amber Duncan:Yes.
Amber Duncan:guys so much for having me on today.
Jennifer Annusky:Thanks for being our first virtual interview.
Amber Duncan:Yes.
Amber Duncan:All right.
Amber Duncan:Bye.
Amber Duncan:See you guys.