Welcome to the Elevated Edit, the weekly reset for ambitious women who are done with chaos and ready to actually follow through.

I'm your host, Blakely Ramsey, strategist, systems girl and execution coach for entrepreneurs who want structure that sells in a business that feels like peace.

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Hello and welcome back.

It has been several weeks since I have recorded anything.

There's been a lot happening, all good things.

It will all come out very soon.

But it's been a whirlwind of a last couple of weeks.

Like my life.

My life has changed more in the last four weeks than it has in the last six months.

And in the last six months, it's changed, changed more than it has in the last six years.

So it's been a journey.

We'll just put it like that.

But what I want to talk about today is something I have taken so many notes on the last couple of weeks, mental notes, because I have been just.

I've.

I've had so many conversations the last few weeks.

I have had the pre privilege of having conversations with women who are at the very top of their game.

And when I say top of their game, I don't just mean income.

Yes, many of them are making multi, six, seven.

Some of them are making eight figures a year.

But when I say top of their game, I don't just mean income.

I also mean the impact that they have, the joy that they have in their lives, the quality of their home life, their relationships, their health.

They are just, in my opinion, crushing it.

And they're having fun doing it.

And that is the direction that my life is fortunately headed.

But being able to be in conversations with these women and being able to hear not just how they are on a podcast or how they are in the middle of a course or how they are when they're speaking to a client, but to be able to hear the way that they talk when they're standing in the line to go to the bathroom or how they, you know, order food or how they just spend their.

Their day and their time, it has broken my brain and put my brain back together in the best possible way.

One of my coaches says she's rearranging the furniture in my brain, and let me tell you, the furniture in my brain has been rearranged.

But there is one factor among all of these women, all of these women who are doing so well, who are just so passionate and focused and driven and successful, there is one thing that they all have in Common, and that is that they are all coachable.

Now, I consider myself a coachable person.

I would not say that I've ever used that term before.

And I don't know if I would have necessarily identified as someone who is coachable, because that language just wasn't familiar to me before this year.

But being in these rooms and being in these groups, that is something they talk about often.

And so hearing that language, it's almost been, like, ingrained into my subconscious.

I'm like, oh, yeah, that I am coachable because I love feedback.

I love to hear different people's points of view on what I consider good work.

You know, we can get in our.

Our containers when it comes to a project or our work, we're so passionate about it.

It's literally like our child.

And when we're looking at it, we don't see the flaws that other people can see.

And I do try to stay very humble and very, I guess, like, the opposite of egotistical when it comes to a project or something that I'm working on, because I want everything to be great.

I don't want it to be great to me.

I want it to be great to the world and to the people that it's impacting.

And the women that I've had, the fortune and the just the honor to be around, they are the same way.

They're constantly looking for feedback.

They're constantly asking for critiques, tiny tweaks.

How can I fix this?

How can I shift this?

When someone offers the chance for a Q and A, they are the first person to raise their hand and ask, hey, why isn't this working?

How can I make this better?

How can I adjust this?

And when they get feedback, they nod their head, they say thank you.

They're so appreciative.

And, you know, when you look at, I would say the average person, and I don't mean that in a.

A critical way, but so many people get very upset when someone gives them feedback.

And I understand, especially if it is, you know, a business or a project or a podcast or content or, you know, whatever it is, there is a high likelihood that you've put a lot of time and effort into creating whatever it is.

And so I totally understand the thought behind being upset when you get feedback, but being in these rooms and seeing these women who have created these big, beautiful, gorgeous, just feats of it just doesn't even make any sense.

Some of the things that they've been able to achieve, just have them sit there and be so humble and ask the most.

I don't want to use the word simple, but the most simple questions, and they are so curious.

It is just.

It's so beautiful to see.

And it's something that I am going to encourage you to do as well.

I totally get it that it can be extremely difficult to hear feedback, especially if it is not the feedback that you were expecting.

I think oftentimes a lot of people say, well, I want feedback, but there's a particular kind of feedback that you're expecting.

And then when you don't get that feedback, it is like, well, you know, you almost want to defend it.

It's like, well, well, this is why I did it.

Well, but this is why.

And I'm not saying all feedback is created equal, but if you are getting feedback from someone who is maybe 10 steps ahead of you, even a couple steps ahead of you, like one step ahead of you, it can change your whole life.

And so I have really tried to model these other women that I've been around, and I have asked for feedback the last couple of weeks in ways I've never asked for feedback before.

And when I tell you it has completely changed my whole entire life.

Just little, simple things people have suggested to me.

Things that they can see from the outside that I can't see from where I'm standing, or like I said, some of them are 10 steps ahead of me, some of them are 20 steps ahead of me, some of them are just one step ahead.

And so they can.

They have.

They can almost see into the future way further than I can, just because they've gone further.

And for them to just turn around and say, hey, I tried this and it didn't work, or, hey, I tried these 10 things.

And these two things really worked.

It has been revolutionary for me.

It really has.

And so I really want to encourage you if there is anything that you are working on, whether it is a as simple as a caption for, you know, an Instagram post or something as big as a product launch, to ask people whose opinions that you trust.

I think that's a really important part of it is oftentimes when we want feedback, we ask people who we know are going to tell us what we want to hear.

And the.

The hard.

The difficult part about that, or I guess the damaging part really, is that it can almost be an echo chamber because you're seeking out people who are just going to tell you what you want to hear.

And so instead of getting actual feedback and actually getting better and actually improving someone saying, yeah, I think that's great.

I think that looks great.

I think you're wonderful.

I think it's incredible.

I wouldn't change a thing.

And then you, you know, maybe you post the post, or you launch the product or you do the thing and it.

You don't get the result that you wanted, and then you go, oh, well, it was the algorithm's fault, or it's the economy's fault, or it's, you know, the market's too saturated and it very well may be.

Or it could just be that you're not getting either enough feedback or you're not getting the right feedback.

I will say there have been things in my life the last couple of years that I've been doing that I did not.

It's something I didn't think I needed feedback.

I just never thought to ask for it.

I was like, well, this is already good.

I'm getting good results.

So I just never questioned it.

And I'll be super honest.

I've been challenged the last couple of weeks.

The way that I've seen these women open up and have questions about every single aspect of their business, it has influenced me to open up and ask about every single part of my business, from my funnels to my messaging, my metrics, all of my back and stuff.

The way that I present myself, the way that I speak, the way that I handle objections, the way that I show up on stories.

I have asked for feedback on all of it.

And I've asked for feedback from people who are, like I said, steps ahead of me.

And they are not giving me feedback that I want to hear, but they're giving me feedback that I need to hear.

And it's all very respectful.

And, um, you know, they often give a cushion of, hey, your energy is great, but.

Or like, hey, I love your consistency.

But I'm like, thank you so much.

You know, I'm not saying it's always easy to hear.

It can often be really difficult, especially if it's something that you're super passionate about, you've done for a while, you've gotten results from it.

But just being open to.

To hearing what others have to say and being open to learn from experts and masters and people who are just so passionate about their craft is an extraordinary thing.

I also want to challenge you to ask for feedback from people outside of your industry or outside of your niche.

So this is definitely something that has been very interesting to me is I have only gotten feedback on my real estate business from other real estate agents ever, or my real estate clients.

So I will show another real estate agent, hey, could you look at this system?

Or hey, could you check out this piece of content?

Or hey, could you look at this?

And they go, oh, that looks great.

I think that's awesome.

That's cool.

Like, that's super informative.

I'm like, okay, cool, great.

Check post, send, mark it off my list.

But one thing I've been trying is to ask people that aren't in the real estate world, like, hey, how does this post sound to you?

Or how does this email read to you?

And they're like, honestly, it's confusing.

Or honestly, I don't even know what you're talking about.

Like, I don't know what that word means.

And I'm like, oh my gosh, that is a real estate industry word.

And I'm trying to speak to my consumer and I'm speaking a completely different language than they're speaking.

And I wouldn't have known that if I didn't ask for that feedback from people who aren't in my industry.

So that's something else that I want to challenge you to.

So two things.

When I challenge you to get more feedback, ask for feedback.

Expect for it to hurt.

The the more you ask and the more it hurts, the more you're going to get used to it and you're going to build that endurance and you're going to want even more feedback and you're going to get even better.

It's a cycle.

It really stings at first, but it's going to get so good.

And then the second thing is ask for feedback outside of your industry, outside of your niche.

So if you are a food influencer, don't ask other food influencers.

Ask some someone who is a vet or ask someone who is a boutique owner.

Like ask someone completely out of your niche, out of your area of expertise because there is a likelihood that you might be too industry specific.

You might be speaking in industry jargon, you might be over complicating your language and you might not be providing the actual value that your consumer or your audience actually wants and craves and needs.

So yeah, I hope this episode was helpful.

I know it's super short.

I.

It's actually kind of impromptu.

If I'm being so honest.

I wish I could tell you right now how much things are changing in the background.

You'll get to find out very soon, like I said.

And it's going to be so good.

I'm taking you all along the journey.

This podcast is about to get so valuable because you are getting.

Should I even say it?

I'm not gonna say it.

There's.

There's an added level of investment that I am investing and you're going to get the byproduct of that.

We'll just put it like that.

Gosh, it's so good.

I could cry from fear and excitement and nervousness and joy and being scared, all the things.

But yeah, I hope this episode was super helpful.

If you think a friend could use this, maybe just a gentle nudge, send this to them and say, hey, I love you and this episode made me think of you.

As always.

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I would prefer a five star review, but leave whatever review you feel is fair.

I would really, really appreciate it.

It helps me reach more amazing women just like you.

Okay, that's all I've got for you.

There's so much more to come.

It's so good.

Life is good.

Life is great.

I hope you have an amazing rest of your day and I will see you in the next episode.

That's it for this edition of the Elevated Edit.

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