Welcome to the Elevated Edit Podcast.

I'm your host, Blakely Ramsey, and the goal of this podcast is to discuss all things personal development, wellness, and the art of editing your life in an elevated way.

From mastering morning routines to mastering your mindset, we're going to sift through the noise and empower you to take elevated action.

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Hello and welcome back to the Elevated Edit podcast.

I am not sure if I told y'all, but I deleted the Facebook app off of my phone.

So now in order to get on Facebook, I have to get on my laptop and log in through there.

And I honestly feel like I'm in the stone ages.

And I'll just say this, scrolling on social media is way less fun when you're doing it on a laptop.

But I saw an acquaintance, I wouldn't say friend, but an acquaintance post a made a post this week about, you know, something that she had gone through, and another acquaintance commented on there and she said something along the lines of, I'm so proud of you.

It's so hard living through these times.

She said that specifically through these times.

And I couldn't help but think, what times?

Like, what is she talking?

Like, it literally, I, like, stopped and looked.

I was like, what times?

What is she talking about?

Like, did I miss something?

Because I haven't been on social media?

And then I was like, oh, I think she's just talking about being alive in general in 2025.

And that got my wheels turning because I'm like, are things actually hard?

Or has she just chosen a perspective that makes them feel that way?

And look, I get it.

There are a lot of things happening in the world that I would love to change.

But when you really stop and think about it, I personally feel like life is a lot easier than it was 30 years ago, 50 years ago, a hundred years ago.

Like, if you sit down and truly read history and, like, read through some of the struggles that our ancestors had to go through compared to where we are now, I personally think that we are living in times of overflowing abundance and overflowing opportunities and overflowing joy, depending on your perspective.

And look, I get it, life is just going to be uncomfortable.

I was on a coaching call this morning, and I love the group that I'm with because I can be very honest and very transparent with them.

And they typically are like, okay, we totally agree with you because we're right there with you.

And I was telling them that I feel like I am Drowning, not even swimming.

I am drowning in the river of discomfort right now.

It is truly not fun and I am so ready to be out of it on the other side.

But I'm like right in the middle.

The current is strong and a lot of different factors are coming at me.

But the people who get what they want in life are the ones who really, truly learn to enjoy that discomfort.

They lean into that discomfort.

Because the truth is the discomfort is not going to go away.

Like as soon as one problem is solved, 10 more problems are going to come.

But you get to choose your discomfort.

Discomfort now means freedom later, and if you avoid it, it's going to come back tenfold.

So today we're going to talk about consistency and sitting in discomfort and choosing your discomfort and choosing your perspective.

Because I, at least this is where I'm coming from.

I think there are so many things that are outside of our control.

There are definitely things that are unfair, unjust things that are happening that I totally, totally wish I could change.

But I am fully aware that I only have control over a certain amount of things.

And in order for me to be the change that I want to see in the world, I have to start with the change of myself.

And I truly think like, if everyone just did a little work on their perspective, the whole world would change.

Like, I really, truly, genuinely think that.

And I think a lot of perspective comes down to our self esteem and our self confidence.

And I think our self esteem comes from our self trust.

And I think that there is an epidemic of a lack of self trust because there's so many people who are not keeping their word that they give to themselves.

Like, I keep my promises, I do what I say I'm gonna do 90% of the time with other people.

There's some times where I agree to things and I'm like, oh, I shouldn't have agreed to that, you know, but with myself, I am so disciplined with keeping my promises to myself because I know that it is such a cycle and I don't want to, like, if I'm going to trust anyone, I have to be able to trust myself at the end of the day.

And that is the truth about consistency, is you really just have to consistently show up and do what you say you're going to do.

So you have that self trust in yourself.

Because the truth is we all want compounding results.

We all want big things to happen, happen.

But are you actually willing to do the boring, unsexy work every single day and be super honest with yourself and like Look, I get it.

I am there right now.

I had a project that I time blocked it on my calendar for yesterday, so I knew it was coming.

I have been dreading it because it was the most boring thing I have.

Oh my goodness.

It was painfully boring.

I had to sit in one spot for 4ish hours and do something that was completely new.

And it was so tedious and so detailed and so incredibly boring.

And I did it for about two hours and there was like one, there's like one little green dot that you're supposed to get after this two hours worth of work.

And I didn't get the green dot.

So I had to go back and start the whole thing over again.

And it took me another two hours.

Finally got the green dot.

Everything is set up.

But I was like, this is so boring and this is so unsexy.

And that's the separator.

There was a study done last year and I should have wrote down all, all of these statistics on it and I didn't.

But it said on average 5% of people achieve their goals.

And I've mentioned this before, y'all know that I, I don't think everyone should have money focused goals.

I don't even think everyone should have business focused goals.

But I do think that everyone should have goals.

I think we should all be asp to, you know, be better versions of ourselves.

And only 5% of people achieve their goals.

That's crazy to me.

And the separator is consistency.

It's not intelligence, really.

Most of the successful people that I know, they're not all that smart, they're not all that super talented.

They are just willing to be consistent in the things that feel, feel boring.

They're willing to be consistent and show up every single day and do the things that they don't necessarily want to do.

It's not that they're hard things, they're just boring.

But those people, those people that are in that 5%, they're willing to do the unsexy things, they're willing to do the boring things.

Because the truth is you're not going to see results right away.

And that's why most people quit.

Most people fall off the bandwagon because things get boring.

People want novel, people want new.

Like people crave, like new and exciting.

But the people who stay in the game, they're the ones that wake up in six months or a year or two years and they look completely different mentally, physically, financially, emotionally.

I feel like, I genuinely feel like I have been working towards my current Goal since I was 12.

Like, I had a very clear vision when I was in fourth.

Yeah, in fourth grade.

And I was like, I know exactly what I want to do.

And it's so funny because the technicals, like, the little tiny details are different.

But in general, my vision then is what I am currently bringing to life, which is wild to me.

And then I started working when I was 12, and I haven't stopped.

So we're looking at about 20 years of work and showing up consistently, even when I didn't feel like it, even when I was scrubbing urinals at a wing place to try to make money to cover my, you know, schooling.

And I was literally in the car from 7 in the morning until, you know, 7:00 in the evening selling wine and spirits.

And then, you know, my last six years of just, like, constant grind, hustle, being available, giving myself the best version of myself, mentally, physically, emotionally, all the things in real estate, I feel like I'm finally making some progress.

20 years.

20 years of consistency of doing boring, unsexy work.

You want to talk about boring and unsexy?

Pull a chicken wing out of a urinal and you will talk about.

It's actually really not boring at all.

It clearly stuck in my mind the amount of times that I had to pull a chicken wing out of the urinal.

I'm like, what are y'all doing?

Obviously, they were drinking.

I worked at a.

For those of you who don't know, I worked at a sports bar across from Bond Stadium, which is the baseball stadium for the University of Arkansas City, and I worked there for four years.

And I can't tell you how many times I had to pull a chicken wing out of a urinal.

I'm like, leave your food at the table.

Why are you bringing your food in the bathroom?

It's so odd to me.

But, yeah, I mean, I pulled those chicken wings out and just kept on trucking because I had such a clear vision that really came from when I was in fourth grade, which is wild to me.

But I personally now feel like 20 years later, I am showing up mentally, physically, financially, and emotionally in the way that I have always envisioned myself showing up.

And here's the thing.

I know a lot of people that are like, that's great for you.

I love that you're taking action.

I'm going to take action in a couple years, but right now I'm just going to stay in inaction and I'm just going to maintain.

But here's the truth.

In action doesn't mean that nothing is happening.

And I say that again.

Inaction doesn't mean that nothing is happening.

Action and inaction both have consequences.

And inaction, you're still creating results.

You're just not creating the results that you want.

I want you to really think about that.

When you avoid the hard things, when you skip putting in the ruts, when you make the excuse, that's action.

It might feel like inaction because you're.

You're avoiding doing the hard things, you're skipping what you need to be doing.

But that's action as well.

And it has a price.

You get to choose your heart.

You get to choose the discomfort of discipline or the discomfort of regret.

And it's really sad to me.

I think especially a lot of women, they.

They shy away from the word discipline.

You know, I.

And in my mind, too, I really think of, like 75 hard and like, you know, showing up and, you know, 5am Club and all the things.

And I think discipline can look different for absolutely everyone depending on your goals and your definition of success.

But I also, I don't think discipline is a word that we need to shy away from.

And I don't think discipline is like a naughty word like people think it is.

Discipline can be such a gift.

It really, truly can.

Like, when I am disciplined and I do what I say I'm going to do and I stick to my promises that I make to myself, I'm like, wow, that was a gift.

Like, yeah, sitting in the river of discomfort was not fun.

That was really uncomfortable and I didn't particularly enjoy that.

But what a gift it is to now be on the other side and know that I did exactly what I told myself I was going to do.

Even though it was boring, even though it was unsexy.

I kept my promise to myself.

And I think here it's really important for you to get clear on what you're actually aiming for, because like I mentioned, not everyone has a money goal.

I don't think everyone should have a money goal.

Not everyone has a business goal.

I don't think that people should have to have business goals either.

Like, goals don't always have to correlate with your career, with wealth, with, you know, that form of success.

I think that, you know, goals and what you're aiming for can be something personal.

Maybe you want to be the healthiest version of yourself you've ever been, or maybe you want to be the best partner that you've ever been, or you want to be the best parent that you've ever been or you want to be the best friend that you've ever been.

Like, I think those are really worthwhile, big goals that you should aim for.

Whatever it is, just stick with it.

It might take a month, it might take a year, it might take two years, it might take 20 years.

But the results will compound over time.

And one day you'll look up and think, I don't even recognize who I used to be.

I was walking the other day, it was one day last week.

And I was always like to listen to audiobooks the first 30 minutes of my walk.

And then I will try to just walk in silence and kind of let my thoughts just run around in circles the second half.

Sometimes I don't always hear that.

And I listen to music the second half.

But I try to let my.

My thoughts circulate because that's really where I come up with kind of like my epiphanies and my best ideas.

And typically my ideas for the podcast come from my walks, but I was running a scenario through my head and I was just kind of thinking through the different parts and, you know, analyzing things that I said, things the other person said.

And I'm like, okay, what can I learn from this?

You know, where did I mess up?

What should.

What could I have said instead?

Like, how could I have shown up as a better version of myself?

And as I was running through this kind of thought sequence, it hit me that the way that I think is so radically different than a year ago.

It's so radically different than six months ago.

Like, I even look back on these podcast episodes.

It's crazy.

I've mentioned that I love journaling, but starting a podcast, like, if you are going through any kind of personal change, I would highly recommend starting a podcast.

And you can set it to private.

Like, you don't have to put it out in public.

But starting a podcast is going to open your eyes to just so many different parts of yourself.

Even, like, working through outlines and working through different topics.

Like, you're going to find so many parts of yourself that you didn't even realize.

And you're also going to be able to look back and see your growth in chronological order and hear it.

Like, I literally.

My mind and my thought sequence and the way that I look at things and my perspective has shifted so drastically in the last six months.

And I don't credit it all to the podcast, but that was really kind of the catalyst of all of this, this whole transformation that I've really put myself through.

But I was thinking Wow.

I am unrecognizable.

Like, I don't even recognize the person that I was six months ago.

And I look back on her with fondness and with love.

I mean, she got me here.

Super proud of all the work that she did.

She was a hustler.

But I don't recognize how I used to be because I'm so different, because I've been so consistent and I've done the boring work.

And, you know, I used to be and I still am in.

In certain groups, but I was the friend that people would make fun of because I was always working or I was always reading or I always had a planner.

You know, like, I was just always friend that people were like, why are you working so hard?

Like, why are you doing this?

Why don't you do this instead?

Or, like, why don't you just chill?

And I don't know, like, I'm telling y'all, that vision I had in fourth grade, I was like, I'm gonna be something.

I don't know what it's gonna be, but I'm gonna be something.

And it's just so wild now to, like, be stepping into this season where I really feel like things are starting to lock into place.

And like I mentioned, at the end of the day, discipline is a gift.

Consistency is a gift.

Give it to yourself.

Give yourself the gift of discipline and consistency and showing up and doing exactly what you promised yourself you're going to do, because keeping your promises to yourself is so critically important.

Keeping your promises to yourself builds yourself a and your self esteem, builds your self confidence.

And when you have self confidence, you can go out into the world and be that better friend, that better partner, that better parent, that better business owner, that better employee.

Like, you are just better just to strangers on the street.

Like, it is so wild how much your life will change when you start sticking to the promises that you make for yourself.

And, like, start small.

Be like, okay, I'm gonna drink two glasses of water tomorrow.

I'm gonna drink two glasses of water every day for the next two weeks.

And you'll be like, okay, but, Blakely, I have, like, all these other goals.

Start small.

Two glasses of water every day, two weeks.

And then after that two weeks, you'll, like.

It'll just kind of be like a little.

A little tick.

You'll be like, oh, wow, I kept that promise to myself.

What else can I do?

Okay, the next two weeks, I'm gonna do two glasses of water, and I'm gonna read five pages of a book.

Every day.

So you do two glasses of water and then you read five pages of book every day.

You keep moving, you move and then before you know it, you're reading a book a week and you're drinking, you know, however much water.

I don't drink a gallon.

I don't even drink 100 ounces most days.

I'm good with like 60.

But you know, just get that consistency muscle going.

If you start so big that you can't keep your promises to yourself, you're never going to build up that self esteem and then you're never going to have that self confidence and then you're going to be caught in that cycle, in that loop and then you're going to be the person commenting on Facebook.

Oh yeah.

It's so difficult living through these times.

Like shift.

Allow yourself to shift your perspective on what hard is, on what difficult is, on what uncomfortable is like.

Gift yourself the gift of discipline and consistency.

Don't waste another second thinking about how hard things are, because they're only hard until you decide to love the process.

The most successful people that I know, they love a challenge, they love difficulties, they love their, their plate being so heavy that they can barely carry it because they're like, I asked for all of this.

Like I wanted all of this.

I want to carry this heavy load and this heavy burden.

Not because it's necessarily fun and enjoyable, but I know the person that I'm going to be when I come out on the other side of this is going to be unrecognizable.

Learn to love the process.

Learn to love the discomfort.

Gift yourself discipline and gift yourself consistency.

Because the time is going to pass anyway.

But let it pass.

Becoming unrecognizable.

If this hit, I would love for you to let me know on Instagram heblakelyramsey if you are ready to stop overthinking and start actually doing, take the first step today.

No more waiting.

No more excuses.

Just go out and do it.

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