I have a question for you.

How many decisions do you think

an average adult makes a day?

Go on, just say it out loud.

10, 20, 50.

How many do you think I was stunned

when I did the research on this 35, 000

decisions a day, an average adult, just

for those in the back an average adult

makes 35, thousand decisions a day.

That's not even being a business owner.

That's just adulting.

Isn't that crazy?

I'm like, Whoa, mind blown.

I now understand how we all get to

decision fatigue at the end of the day.

I think about some of the decisions

I need to make just for children, and

I think, Half of it has to go there.

Then I think about all the decisions

that I need to make for my business.

And oh my goodness, there is so many.

And some of them are minuscule and

some of them are massive, right?

The amount of decisions

that we make are incredible.

Now, something I've learned about

myself is that if I make decisions

in the afternoon, I fully regret it.

I don't know why.

I just feel like I'm more

alert in the morning.

My decision making is a bit quicker.

I can actually, I know.

that if I make a decision

in the morning, it'll stick.

If I make a decision in the

afternoon, it will not stick.

I don't think that's

to do with willpower.

I just think that's the power

of decision making, right?

Why do I even bring this up?

Great question.

over Christmas, I, had to make

some decisions about my business.

I'll give you some context.

So I went away four

times for work last year.

So about a week at a time.

And every time I came back

from work, Fat travel.

I was sick for two weeks.

I got a cold, I got a flu,

whatever it was, I was sick.

So I was away for four weeks

and then I got sick each time.

I was away for two weeks, which meant

I was sick for 12 weeks of last year.

Now I know that my health is not right.

I've gotta get my immunity right.

And I was also facing into 24

with a few, cool opportunities.

for work and I knew that I

needed to make some decisions.

Now, by about November, my decision

making capacity and capability

is non existent for the year.

I know that.

So I try and do all my heavy

decision making before that point.

I think the final raft of decisions

for us are made in about September and

then it's just working through that.

So I know that about myself.

So I had some opportunities to, , travel.

The globe for 2024.

I had opportunities to

travel to New Zealand.

I had an opportunity to travel to China.

I had three opportunities to

travel to the U S and I had an

opportunity to travel to the UK.

Now, most of it was work.

It was training, it was speaking,

it was some coaching staff.

It was some facilitation.

Most people will be like, that's amazing.

Wouldn't they?

Really?

If you're listening to that and going.

That's awesome.

What an amazing opportunity.

I agree, but I had to work through,

actually, is this decision good for me?

And what does that actually look like?

So I want to take you through a couple

of things that I asked myself while

I was working through this decision.

The first question I asked

myself is, did I want to do it?

I had to list all the places that

I needed to go and all the things

I needed to do and kind of work

through and go, do I want to do that?

Yes.

Do I want to do that?

No.

Do I want to do that?

Yes.

Right.

So that was the first thing that

I did and I journaled, right?

So I love to use a journal for that.

Then the next question I had

to ask myself is, was each

trip going to be good for me?

Could I map it out across the year?

So I wasn't away for

a bulk period of time.

Would that make sense?

Et cetera, et cetera.

Was it good for me?

And then the next question I asked

myself is, was it good for my family?

I have, um, three kids, two are.

older and gone, but I have a 10

year old Evie, Evie girl, and she

doesn't love her mama being away.

so I needed to ask myself,

was it good for my family?

What extra pressure did

it mean for my hubby?

He's a school teacher.

So what does that actually mean?

How would we make that work?

We don't have family around us.

So what did it look like?

And would it be good for my family?

And then the final question, which

probably should have been the first

question, but if you've listened to other

podcast episodes, you will hear this.

What did my gut say?

So too often in business, I've made

choices based on my head and based

on logic and based on commercial

reality and based on all the things.

Except my gut.

at the end of 2023, I was like,

I am not making decisions if

it doesn't involve my gut.

So what does my head say?

What does my heart say?

And what does my gut say?

They were the kind of

things that I went through.

And so.

I went through all of these things.

I journaled them.

I sat on it.

I thought about it long and hard.

I knew that whatever

I chose would be okay.

I discussed it with my hubby because

obviously it has implications

for our family if I'm away.

What it would have meant is

traveling about eight weeks of

the year, eight weeks of the year.

So that's what it would have meant

in a practical, logical sense.

But there was one other thing.

That I had committed to at the end

of 2023 and that was my health.

So if you don't know, I got diagnosed

with glandular fever a couple of years

ago and my immune system hasn't quite

gotten back in on track with that.

I've been working very

hard on my healthy eating.

I've been working very hard on exercise

and giving myself and my body rest,

and making sure that I'm doing all the

right things, but it just wasn't there.

And in 2023, that was obvious

because I came home and I was sick.

I was sick every single time.

And so I was like, well, does, how does

my health and energy, how does that

align to six, eight weeks of travel?

Does it really align?

if I take you back to the four

decisions, I listed each of the things

that I had, did I want to do it?

About half?

Hell yes.

Yes.

I wanted to do it.

Did I want to do it?

Yes.

Did my ego want to do it?

Yes.

Another important question, right?

Was it going to be good for me?

And I honestly could not

say yes, yes, yes, yes.

Actually, the answer was no, no, no, no.

Was it going to be good for my family?

My family could have handled it.

We talked about it

about half of the time.

My family could have handled it.

Probably not the other half,

which made me go, okay, what

choices do I need to make here?

Which ones do I want to go to?

Which ones don't I want to go to?

How does that work?

What did my gut say?

My gut gave me a big fat no.

So if I made this decision, I would be

going against my gut, Sometimes we find

it really hard to make the decisions.

And it's not until after we make

the decisions that we realize how

good those decisions were for us.

And so I woke up, I think it

was January 16 of 2024, and I

had tossed and turned about this

decision that I was trying to make.

Tossed and turned.

I put my back out.

I knew that my body was

telling me something.

And in the end I went, you know what?

No, I'm actually not traveling at all.

I put a travel ban on myself.

Sounds ridiculous, doesn't it?

Sometimes we just need

to do these things.

I put a travel ban on myself for 2024 in

response to my gut and also as a gesture.

That my health and my energy

were way more important than

traveling and getting sick.

Now everyone thought I was nuts.

You know, when you meet those people

and you think there's such great

opportunities, why didn't you take them?

But for all the reasons I just

couldn't, I couldn't do it.

And a travel ban was the

easiest thing I could do to

say I'm actually not traveling.

It was a blanket rule.

and so I haven't done that.

And so.

One of the things that this got

tested was I had a trip I really,

really, really wanted to go on.

And it was a, once in

a lifetime opportunity.

And I had to say to that

person, I cannot do this trip.

And that really hurt my heart

because I really wanted to go.

But what I noticed is that As

I made this decision, I got

totally at peace with myself.

As I started talking about

it, more peace was, came.

And also as I was working more

on my health and my energy.

My energy started coming back and

so over the course of the last

couple of months, I've had people

say, you're looking so good.

Your energy's back.

I can see the spark in your eye.

And I'm like, Oh, thank goodness.

I made the right decision.

It's hard making decisions.

I'm not going to lie.

That decision was probably

the toughest of my life.

So what decision are you putting off

that you really need to think about?

Could you use my framework?

Do you want it?

Do you want to do it?

Is it good for you?

Is it good for your family?

And what does your gut say?

Could you use those four questions

to see whether not the decision you

need to make works or doesn't work?

I would love to hear where

you get to on decision making.

I would also love to hear if you went

against your gut and how that landed.

Sometimes going against our gut and

our gut stopping us from doing things

means growth on the other side as well.

That's it for today.

Let me know what you

think of this episode.

I would love to hear how you go if

you use the framework and, what your

decision making is and whether you

think 35, 000 is actually right or not.

I would love to hear.