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Do you ever wish that starting over in life was as easy as it is when playing a video game?

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You know what I'm talking about. You're in the midst of the video game.

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Maybe it's Super Mario Brothers. And all of a sudden, your player,

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your little Luigi, he dies.

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Something happens. And all of a sudden, the screen pops up with start over.

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So there you are right from the beginning. It's like nothing ever happened.

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And yet in life, we're going through the video game of our lives.

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And maybe when we should be choosing to start over, instead,

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we just keep on plugging away. Because why?

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Well, because it's easier for us to stay stuck and in something that we don't

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like than it is for us to face the unknown. The idea of starting new,

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starting fresh, starting over.

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Well, today, my friend, my hope is to change that.

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Or if nothing else, to at least spark that little bit of inspiration inside

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of you to have you thinking,

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huh, maybe it is time that I start to view my life like I do a video game where

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starting over isn't some monumental feat that I can't do.

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I don't have to be so scared of it. I've got a whole life ahead of me.

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And if I stay stuck, well, then what am I doing? I'm wasting away my opportunity.

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But instead, if I just listen to Kevin today and start fresh to start anew,

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well, then I got a whole new opportunity to play this game however I want.

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My friend, today is episode 380. I'm your host, Kevin Lowe. And this,

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of course, is Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.

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Music.

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Into talking about starting over or starting something new in life,

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what about just life in general? The never-ending to-do list.

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It's the tasks you have that you never complete. It's your own self that is falling apart.

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So in talking about starting over, let's address the crazy part of this whole conversation.

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Because even when we know that we need to start over, even when we know that

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we're stuck, that we're not where we're meant to be, and even when we know deep

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down that we're meant for more, we still hesitate.

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And you have to ask, but why? If I know I'm made for more, if I know that there's

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more out there for me, then why am I not jumping in headfirst, eager to do it?

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Well, by doing so, it means that you have to first admit that something isn't working.

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It's not easy to leave a career that you've put your life into.

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It's not easy to walk away from a relationship that no longer serves you.

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And it's really hard to let go of an identity that you've held on to for years.

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You've always been that person. So the idea of starting over,

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it's intimidating. It's scary.

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And you can't help but feel lost. But one of the most important things I want

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you to understand is that holding on to something that isn't right for you will never make it okay.

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And if you keep saying to yourself, ah, well, I'm just going to keep waiting.

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Maybe things are going to get better. Maybe I'll feel differently next week, tomorrow, next year.

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My friend, you have to at some point be honest with yourself. Is that really the case?

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Are you doing anything that's going to make it different?

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Is the person that you're involved with in this relationship,

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are they doing anything, working on themselves, that can make a difference?

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If not, then at some point you have to get real with yourself and understand

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that where I am is not the right place.

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And it is time for me to just start over.

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And so many times before we ever even want to take that first step,

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we just want to know that it's all going to be okay. hey, we're looking for that clarity.

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Well, the fact is true is that clarity comes with movement.

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You're never going to figure it all out by just laying in bed and thinking about

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it and worrying about it. You have to start moving forward.

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If you are driving through the fog in your car, if you don't keep moving forward,

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you're never going to get out of the fog.

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You're going to constantly stay there wondering what next, what's going to happen,

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scared of what you can't see.

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But instead, if you just keep moving forward, inch by inch, step by step,

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you're finally going to get through.

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You're going to get to the other side. But you have to have the courage,

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the bravery, the guts, the drive to just keep taking one step after another.

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Now, one thing that keeps a lot of people stuck is the idea of going back to square one.

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Because look at all that I've done, all the work I've put into this career.

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Maybe you've built a business. I was there. I spent seven years building my

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travel agency. It was called Better Days Travel.

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And now I plugged away with it, man. I built a brand.

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I had a travel business. I had clients I worked with.

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And so to say, to give it all up, what am I doing?

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All those seven years of work and effort were for nothing? No, of course not.

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The lessons that I've learned, that I've gained from those seven years building

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a business have only helped me in this new chapter of life.

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Once I started a podcast, once I started getting involved in public speaking,

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all of that wisdom is never lost. It's only gained.

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And that, my friend, is the same for you. All the experience you've gained is

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not lost. It wasn't for nothing.

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No, it was preparing you for something more, for something new.

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All of the wisdom you've gained is there in your toolbox.

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All the lessons you've learned, you have that wisdom to take with you.

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Basically, my friend, I want you to not think of yourself as starting back at

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square one as a beginner.

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But instead, I want you to view yourself as a builder.

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You're building on yourself. You're building on your life. And that is because

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the life that you're about to create isn't coming from nothing.

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Instead, it's being built upon everything that you've already done.

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So what I want you to understand is that, my friend, it is never too late.

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You are never too far gone. You're never too late at making a big move in your life.

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We never know what tomorrow will hold. None of us know how long we will be here on this earth.

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But if we look at life from this scared mindset of, oh, well,

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I don't know. So therefore, I should just say stuck.

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No, I don't think that's what life was meant to be. We don't know when we're

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going to leave this world.

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I believe for a reason, because God didn't want us to play scared.

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He wanted us to play full out like it's the first quarter of the football game. It's not the end.

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No, you got a whole game ahead of you. So make the most of it.

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That is every single day when the sun rises is your opportunity to start anew,

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to start fresh, to keep moving forward in your life.

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I never want you to give up on the opportunity to thrive in life.

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And in that, my friend, I have to believe that your best days are not behind

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you, but they are ahead of you.

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Now, yeah, I get it. My life included. It's easy to look back on life and only remember the good days.

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And we tend to compare that to our life today. And we tend to think that,

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man, I just wish I could go back in time.

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I know I have felt that way many a times.

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Matter of fact, thinking about

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it right now, there's many times in my life I would love to go back to.

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But the fact is true is that we can't go back, but we can create a future.

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It's up to us, though, whether we stay stuck where we are or we have the courage

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to start anew, to start fresh.

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For some practical applications in regards to today's topic, let's help you out here.

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Because it's as easy as you being willing to just take one step.

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You don't have to see the whole plan. You don't have to know where it's all going to go.

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But you do have to be willing to take the first step.

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Now, depending upon what the situation looks like for you, maybe it's you finally

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deciding to send the email.

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Maybe it's you picking up the phone and making that call.

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Or maybe it's you finally standing up for yourself and saying no to something

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that you've tolerated for way too long.

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But I want you to remember, momentum does not come from thinking about it.

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Momentum, it comes from moving forward. And once you start moving forward,

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then my friend, the momentum will continue to build.

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And things will get easier and easier. But you have to, at first,

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have the courage to go for it.

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Today, I want to be that inspiration, that motivation that encourages you to just do it.

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I'm telling you, if you think of your life like the video game,

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what do you have to lose? If it doesn't work, that's fine.

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You can start over again tomorrow morning.

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Every day is a new chance and a new beginning.

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Now, even though you might be all rah-rah right now, you're thinking,

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you know what? I'm feeling, Kev. I'm feeling this. I am ready.

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And then when you turn off to the podcast, you're going to start thinking, hmm, maybe not.

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You start getting scared. You start letting fear creep in.

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And you think, if I'm this scared, if I'm this worried, then it must mean that I shouldn't.

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Well, I want you to reframe that in that what if fear means that you're on the

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right track, that you're finally thinking big enough for the goals that you're meant to achieve.

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And that idea of being fearful about starting back at square one,

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remember, we said, you're bringing with you all the years of experience and wisdom you've gained.

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You can do it better this time. You can go bigger and better than ever before.

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You can be faster and stronger because of what you've already gone through.

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All that you've done in life has not been lost. It's all been preparing you for this very moment.

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And remember, you don't have to have it all figured out.

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You don't have to know what step 10 is. You only have to know what step one is.

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And once you take that first step, you start to build momentum.

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And you take the second step, and the third step, and the fourth step.

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By step five, my friend, you're basically running. You are cruising along by

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the time you hit that 10th step in the puzzle that you're putting together.

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You just have to start moving forward.

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And I leave you with the last final thought. I use this reference a lot on the

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podcast. This idea of looking at your life like a book.

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This chapter is waiting on you to have the courage to turn the page.

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Turning the page is step one.

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And once you turn the page, my friend, there is no stopping.

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Because you have a whole new chapter to write. You got the video game of your life.

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You are the Super Mario Brothers. And my friend, I just want you to be sure

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that you're never wasting a single moment, a single day in this life,

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because every day is a gift. Every moment is precious.

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And I believe that our creator wanted us to be sure that we make the most of

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this life each and every day.

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So with that, if today's episode inspired you, encouraged you,

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well, consider maybe sharing it with somebody else who you think can benefit.

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Or if there's nobody else you can think of Well,

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helping me support this podcast And ultimately helping to support you I want

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you to take action Don't turn it off and do nothing I want you to start moving

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forward Towards your hopes and dreams That's what I want for you.

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And with that, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe. I'm so excited that you joined me

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for yet another episode of Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.

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Music.