Expectations lead to disappointment. When you put expectations

on other people, you're only setting them up to fail because those

are your standards and your projections of how something should

be. When your culture has an expectation for

you to be a certain way, but you fail, How does that make

you feel? If you want to actually start making

a major impact in your life, to start taking control

and living a life by design, you need to start. Welcome

to Krystal Rowe Impacts, a space dedicated to empowering

you to be the change that your bloodline has been waiting for. Join

me and together, let's inspire change. Today

I'm going to talk about expectations and

how cultural and society have placed almost

unachievable expectations on us and

how those expectations affect our life. And

are they even achievable? Are they even realistic? And

where did they actually come from? I'll

share with you a little bit of my high

expectations for myself and when I actually stopped

pushing those expectations and those boundaries. Because

for me, I just had such high expectations

of myself, especially when I came out of the

woman's refuge as a single mom with seven kids. I

just felt like the world was on my shoulders and

I had to keep lifting that world every day. And

I'm sure a lot of you can relate that it's just not achievable to

do all the things all the time. And

it wasn't very long until I

started burning out because expectations are

so unrealistic. They're so hard to

achieve. And when you are trying to just

live and get by day to day, having cultural and

societal expectations can be really detrimental to

your mental health. and your ability to

stay focused, to stay empowered, and

to stay motivated. And for me, expecting

life to be perfect was almost

like a must-do. It so much wasn't about being

perfect, but it was about breaking down

the limits, breaking down the societal expectations.

And when I say what society projected

onto me was single mum, teen

mum, never going to do anything with my life, never

going to be anybody. And I've really held

onto that for a long time until I realised that

I am not what my situations are.

My circumstances do not define me and I

removed those expectations. I removed them

from my life because they were not serving me. When

you have lots of challenges in your life and obstacles, everybody

expects you to fail or everybody expects you to

struggle or be an addict or

just cave. And when you actually shift

other people's expectations of you and focus

on your goals and what serves you and

how you want to show up in life, you actually

can achieve those things. We

just have to remove the expectations. I once heard

that expectations lead to disappointment. When

you put expectations on other people, you're only setting

them up to fail because those are your standards and your projections of

how something should be. That's what expectations are.

They are just something that you assume how it should be.

When in fact, it's not really achievable or

attainable. Yes, we do expect people

to treat us well, but it may not be the case. We

expect ourselves to do the best, but sometimes

we can't do that. And does that mean that we

don't keep being the best version of ourselves or we

keep trying to heal or keep trying to achieve

our goals? I mean, who decided

in your life what your expectations should

be? Who dictated and where did these expectations come

from? And how can you actually use them to

make yourself a better person? It's

always challenging when you're trying to heal and

navigate through life. And don't get me wrong, so many

times we need to have high standards and

we need to have things in place that are

going to help us to flow and to create a

beautiful energy and for us to be able to

experience a good life. But when our expectations are

set so high that we can't achieve them, and we start

to fail, when our parents set such high standards and

you start to fail, when your culture has

an expectation for you to be a certain way, but

you fail, how does that make you feel? When

you don't put those expectations in place for

yourself, you are controlled and dictated by outside

sources. So how are you meant to feel good? How

are you meant to have positive energy when those expectations

haven't been set by yourself? So

if you want to actually start making a major

impact in your life, to start taking control and

living a life by design, you need to

start setting your own standards, not expectations.

You can have things in place that are going to help you

to achieve your goals and to create a life by

design without having the pressure of such high expectations.

I'm just challenging your brain to think a little bit more

about what expectations mean. Really

ask yourself how that looks. What

does it mean to you? Does it serve you?

Because when you choose to put yourself first and

actually have a life by design, I

can guarantee you that the right people that you need in

your life will start showing up. The opportunities and

the doors will start to open and things will just start

to align beautifully when you're in flow. And

when the expectations are removed and the

possibilities are endless and you are in control, your

life by design actually starts to unfold. I'm going

to share with you a little bit of how I

had to overcome an unrealistic expectation and

how it actually started to create within me barriers. And

that was when I had chosen to invest in myself, my

dreams, my goals, my business, and my education. So

because I had a poor relationship with

money, a deep-rooted wound around

money, I actually had put

so much pressure on myself. My expectation of

myself to achieve by a certain date, dictated

by the money program that I had, actually was

setting me up to fail. And when I

was able to catch it and realize, oh my gosh, why am I putting this expectation

on myself? Why am I trying to reach these limits that aren't

achievable? I stopped and

I reflected and I said to myself, what

am I doing? Why have I put this

unrealistic expectation, this unachievable expectation

on myself? But we all do it out of habit. We're

habitual creatures. So once we have learned something from

a young age, it keeps carrying out and unfolding. And

until we can actually realize that we are doing it

and it no longer serves us, and actually being able

to reprogram our mindset

around it, then we can actually help

ourselves a little bit more and a lot faster. So

once I removed that high expectation of myself being

able to achieve a certain goal because I

had invested in myself, so I was like, well, I need to

start doing this. I need to do this. I need to do that. I

didn't achieve it. And I thought to myself, who put

that in place and why? And it was because

I personally had a poor relationship with money

previously, and my program and my understanding around

something. And when I was able to remove that

expectation, everything started flowing. I

actually started to create and tick off all the

steps that I needed to do to be able to use

my investment as a return. And it's just

a simple awareness and removal of

that high expectation, that blockage, that can now actually

help me to flow and move in the direction. So

if you need some help unblocking some limitations and

removing some high expectations to be able to

get on a journey and discover your true

passion and to be able to live a life by design,

then reach out on our socials, head over to Heritage Impact,

click the link below in the show notes and book a

call and we can have a chat about how you can move in

the direction that serves you best. And I'll see you in