On this week's episode, we are absolutely delighted to introduce our friend Terry Leftery from Dunstressing, your personal coach. So welcome Terry.

guys. Good to be here. Good to see you. Haven't seen you in a while.

Terry, we invited you on because we know that you do lots of work with ADIs, driving instructors, trainee driving instructors, introducing different games that they can bring into their driving lessons. And so we invited you on to talk about the same subject, but with a twist. How can we play games or how could our nervous, anxious listeners perhaps bring in some of those games for themselves to help them build confidence and maybe start. setting goals and achieving their goals.

Well, the reason I think games are such a great tool to use in, in sessions and, and by yourself is because we've been doing it since the day they were born. And it's a natural way of taking information in or learning, you know, you say to a kid when we play a game, it's excitement, it's yay, it's jump up and down, and we don't lose that as adults, I mean who doesn't like playing games? So, in terms of effectiveness, I think it's a really effective tool that we can use on ourselves, with other people, and we often, Create games In our own little worlds, you know And I'm, I'm sure people listening have got their own little games they play so for instance, I don't tend to throw things in a waste basket in the office. I, I throw things and it's a game to try and get one in, maybe left handed, right handed, maybe over my head. But we all create these games, so, you know, it's something that we, that we naturally do. And, I think it's really helpful. For motivation, for confidence, creative thinking skills, critical thinking skills if you're in a car. And, uh, I think it's like I said before, it's a really useful tool to, help solve problems.

So just as an example for people that are listening, Terry, what sort of games in the car could we play that would help alleviate some of those nerve stresses or anxieties? in their own driving.

Something that springs to mind straight away is the Day at the Zoo game. And, you can play this, you know, in, in the car by yourself. If you're concerned, if you have worries about what other drivers are thinking of you, am I going fast enough the car behind? Am I holding them up? Should I've gone now from a junction? Is imagine what animal you'd like that driver to be behind you. And when I play this with people, they normally come up with a cuddly, cuddly dog or a cat or, big cuddly bear. that kind of, that kind of answer. So when you are sitting at a junction and you think, you know, the other driver's getting, you know, stressed, waiting for me. I should have gone out on, you know, just look in your mirror and see that person as that lovely. Cuddly animal with a nice cuddly friendly face on and that, you know, you don't see them as an enemy. You kind of change the way you see them to a, to a nice friendly, cuddly dog, maybe even your dog. So that's, that's something that you could use. Just like I said, if you're by yourself and you feel a bit stressed about what the drivers behind you are thinking,

So that would definitely work for someone that has social concerns and worried about what others are thinking of them, doesn't it?

absolutely, absolutely.

Yeah, and that is one that comes up quite a lot, isn't it? With people who come to us for help, they're often worried about what other people are thinking. So yeah, I really like that, that sort of change of perception, changing things around a little bit. Because actually, We're not mindreaders. We don't know what the other person behind us is really thinking. So that just helps us control and manage some of those thought distortions, some of those unhelpful thinking habits.

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