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Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan, with you.

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together, all trying to grow.

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own personal development and growth,
then we do not tend to stay stationary.

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It may look stationary to others.

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Today.

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I want to talk about something
that has been, look, I think has

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been a challenge for me for much
of my life as a person of faith.

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I'm often like, you know, You
end up with this old list ID.

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Do you end up with this
kind of magical fairy idea?

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That life is supposed to just
go exactly how you want it.

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This should be sunshine and rainbows
and unicorns sprinkling your favorite

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hand-selected color-coded M and M's along
your path as you journey through the day.

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And I've sort of thought
for a long time that if.

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If it wasn't like that, then
it must be something wrong.

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And I was doing something wrong.

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And then depending on how you grew up in.

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All sorts of different experiences
that we have in life of trauma and

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pain, all that stuff that happens.

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We can tend to think that life
isn't going exactly the way we want.

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Then maybe we are being punished.

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You ever had that thought?

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I know some of you haven't I talked
to Karen about this once and she's

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like, no, I've never thought that
I'm like, okay, so everyone except

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Karen, who I'm talking to you today.

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I'm sure most of us have had
some kind of similar experience.

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That'd be a spectrum.

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Me, as some of us would be like, you
know, going through life, feeling

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that you're deeply kind of cursed or
punished nothing ever works for you.

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And nothing goes right.

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All the way to kind of not having that
feeling, but sort of when things do

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go wrong and you get frustrated and
you're like, am I doing something wrong?

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Why isn't God, the universe
making things work for me?

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So I got a really interesting
filter on this today.

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I was up super early and.

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Uh, lately I've been spending from about
4:00 AM through the kind of 7:00 AM.

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I'm doing a lot of training content,
just listening, some really good

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training that I like to listen to.

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And just, you know, resourcing myself.

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And I, you know, I've said to you
guys for so many years, keep filling

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that cup, keep resourcing yourself.

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With great content.

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So the filter they want to
use on this topic of you.

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Is the universe conspiring against you?

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He's to kind of talk about
the pair of questions, right?

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The power of questions I learned
many years ago, that if you ask

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your brain a dumb question, It will
give you a very unhelpful answer.

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If you have asked your brain a
question, like, why am I so stupid?

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Or why can I never get anything?

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Right.

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Well, your brain is going
to give you a spectacularly.

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Um, helpful answer.

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Trust me.

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That's exactly.

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What's going to happen.

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You ask a better question.

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You get a better result.

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If you ask a question of.

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You know, instead of why am I so stupid?

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You asked when you might ask a question?

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Like what could I attempt differently?

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What am I doing?

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That's inefficient.

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That just same experience,
but different questions.

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Do you ask a better question?

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You get a better state, you get a much
better sense of direction and movement

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and purpose in the difficulties of life.

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So let's take this concept
of is God punishing me.

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Is the universe punishing me?

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Did I step on someone's cat?

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Did I break 15 mirrors and did 300 kept
black cats running cross in front of me.

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And I'm never going to get what I want to.

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What about moving from.

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Is God punishing me or is the
universe punishing me to something

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like, is God challenging me?

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Is God challenging me.

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Am I being challenged to grow by
these difficult circumstances?

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You see, as a parent, you know, several
young kids, my son, who's 39 and a half.

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Like he's really eating that phase
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into these young men hood and.

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And moving from that dependence to kind
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And I noticed that as a parent, my task is
to start to push them a little bit harder.

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To try and get him to take
more responsibility, to have

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more accountability, to set
his own standards higher.

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And I can see that as a parent,
I'm expecting a higher standard.

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And I don't think as you know,
many of you parents know often your

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kids are not like, Hey, thanks.

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I really appreciate you making
life more challenging for me.

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We've got the kids.

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Don't tend to be grateful,
at least not initially.

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So what have we take that lens?

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Take that filter and say, what if.

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Life God, the universe.

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Is challenging.

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You.

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What of your difficult situation is
one that's not just going to destroy

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you, but actually make you grow now.

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Please understand this is not pleasant.

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A lot of the time, this can be
really quite difficult and painful.

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I'm still learning that as I go,
sometimes I find things really difficult.

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Like, wow, why is it like this?

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And then I remind myself, Hey man,
what you just said to everybody?

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I mean, what you're talking
about on your podcast.

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It's because of its hard, you growing.

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If it's difficult, you growing.

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So friends, I really want to give you
that filter, you know, and sometimes

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if things aren't going the right the
way we want, it's not because we're

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being challenged or being punished.

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It's because we're being lazy.

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Maybe we're not doing enough.

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Maybe we're actually sitting on the
metaphorical couch of life and not doing

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the things that we need to be doing.

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So I want to give myself that lens,
that I, what if all of the difficulties,

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what of all the challenges and pains
and things that we wish were different?

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We're invitations to growth.

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We're chances to change things.

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We're chances to get stronger
and stronger and stronger.

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I just got out of the gym this morning,
got out of the gym, got here into the

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studio and I'm like, I'm in the gym.

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I'm doing deadlifts today.

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And I'm doing high reps for a change.

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And I'm like the painful set.

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One was painful.

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Set.

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Two was painful.

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Step three was painful, but now.

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I have a body like a great God,
at least that's how I describe it.

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I mean, It's not quite, you
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but it's not too far off.

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But my point is it's that resistance.

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It's that difficulty, it's that pain.

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It's that hardship that changes us.

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It causes us to grow.

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So look into your life today,
my friend, look into your life

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and ask yourself the question.

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Are you being punished or
are you being challenged?

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Where is the most difficult things
in your life today, because that

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is the place you are going to grow.

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All right.

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That's it.

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I'm like this, let's discuss it.

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