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tomorrow's don't wait for your wake up call.

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Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I

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am Melissa do you lead the host of your show and today I would

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love to introduce you to my guests Lynn Vollmer. Welcome,

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Lynne.

Lynn Villmer:

Everyone. Thanks, Melissa.

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So nice to have you here. Let me just give you a

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brief introduction to the audience. Lynne is a belief work

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expert, instructor, mindset coach and Theta Healing master,

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she has spent more than a decade helping people transform their

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lives from states of depression, chaos and uncertainty to living

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life on their own terms. She is on a mission to help people

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create the changes, they need to live a happier, better and more

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abundant life. So from that, you can clearly see why I thought

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she would be a fabulous guest to have on the show, because I love

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all of that as well. So again, welcome, Lynn. What I

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particularly love about that is your comment of living life on

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your own terms. You just want to explain that or elaborate that

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on that a little bit.

Lynn Villmer:

For sure. Okay, so for me, and it might mean

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something different to everyone. But for me, it means following

Lynn Villmer:

my own heart, it means recognizing what I like to do,

Lynn Villmer:

recognizing what I don't like to do. And a lot of self care, self

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love, compassion, and not saying yes to something that I don't

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want to do based upon fear of rejection or fear of the unknown

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or fear of the future, or is just really knowing who I am. My

Lynn Villmer:

boundaries, and recognizing that I don't allow anyone to treat me

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in a way that I would not treat another person.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. And as you're saying that I'm

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thinking, you know, learning that is a journey in and of

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itself. Right? Yeah. And, you know, I want to go through your

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story. And I know that your story led you to this awareness

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and being able to now live life on your own terms. But I also

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want to say, you know, this could be one amazing life lesson

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that could be introduced at high school level, to help kids maybe

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start to figure this out,

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high school level or even grade school, right,

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because I find that I find that the school ground is probably,

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and this is my opinion, based upon what my children went

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through, is a huge ground for bullies, right. And I think

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learning how to make choices based upon what you like, what

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you want to do, is really important at a very young age.

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And we even like my daughter Taya is seven. And we teach her

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that already, you know, and we teach her how to, you know, I

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mean, we try to give her the words, right to us to someone

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who may be pushing her into doing something that she doesn't

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want to do. And I think it's really important to teach that

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in the home right from the get go.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. Yeah, I love that. So let's walk

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through your story. Because I heard it on someone else's

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podcast though. Meaning with wellness podcast by Jenny rice,

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and it really touched me and I knew you before I heard the

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podcast, we'd work together. But I really loved your story and

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found it incredibly inspirational. And this episode

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is coming out on December 25. Wow, okay, yeah. And so we're

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just wrapping up 2021 here right now. Since day, yeah. And so I

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think that I would love to finish off the year with your

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inspirational story, as people are looking ahead to 2022 and

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making choices around how they want their life to look like how

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they want their year to go. So, yeah, talk to me about your

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story. How did you end up in this line of work?

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Okay. So I guess my turning point for me was about

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10 Plus or so years ago. I remember very distinctly, I was

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sitting on the beach, and I was watching my kids play. And the

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beach is my favorite place to be. And I remember, I was

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contemplating suicide, I had been contemplating suicide for

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quite a few months. And, you know, I had gone to some medical

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doctors and psychiatrist and they wanted to put me on meds

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and I totally refused. And I recognized at that point, that

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if, if I wanted to continue my life, if I wanted to watch my

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kids grow up, if I wanted to experience grandchildren, then I

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was going to have to radically change my thinking, I was going

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to have to get myself out of the deep depression that I was in

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because I was in so much pain from trauma that had happened

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five years prior, and even in my childhood, which is actually

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connected. But that's a whole other story. And but I didn't

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realize how my childhood trauma and the trauma that had happened

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five years prior was really connected to my depression. And

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so I kind of like went on a journey. And that journey

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brought me to belief work. And I ended up going into a modality

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and learning a modality called Theta Healing. And through all

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of that, taking all these courses, I learned that the

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reason I was feeling the way I was feeling had to do and what

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was keeping me stuck, because here's the thing I, I did

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everything that I could to try to get myself out of that state

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of being I remember waking up in the morning and thinking, Okay,

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I'm not going to think a negative thought, I'm going to

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be positive, and bla bla bla, right. And it would start, and I

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would keep thinking really positive, but it was so

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exhausted, like I was so exhausted by the end of the day,

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because I just couldn't, like the negative thoughts kept

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coming and coming

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and coming. And in you had to keep pushing them

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back and pushing Exactly.

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And it was just oh my gosh, it was just I just

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couldn't keep up with it after, like after two days, right. But

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I didn't understand it. But when I learned about belief work with

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regards to how what you think creates your reality. Mm hmm. It

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made me recognize that, oh, my gosh, I am probably think of

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this, I probably think of this and I had so much guilt and

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regret. And there was lots of blame and shame with regards to

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my childhood patterns with regards to what had happened

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five years prior. And I needed to debunk all of that. And it

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wasn't until I was able to really fully connect with who I

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was released all those limiting belief systems that I really

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came up on top and I really started to change. And I

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remember my here's the thing, I remember my first session that I

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had, I thought okay, well, if I'm going to take my classes,

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then I should have a session. So I booked a belief work data

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healing session with with an instructor. And frankly, I and I

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didn't even like the session. You know, I got off the phone

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thinking holy crap, what the hell did I put myself into

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because I'd already paid for these classes. And, and I was

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really disappointed that it's the next day. The next day,

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there was a huge difference in my energy field. And at the

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time, we were having problems with my, with my daughter, she

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was totally disengaging from the family and going down a path

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where it was a very destructive path. And within about three

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days of me having a session because we worked on her behind

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The scenes through my through my trauma. And all of a sudden she

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comes down for dinner. Like, and she stopped wearing black she,

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oh, she stopped wearing golf you know attire and and like her

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whole demeanor change with just one session. You know,

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one session of the healer working with you.

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Yep. While young and working on your daughter but through us so

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your daughter was not even present at this session. Is that

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correct? Yep. So belief work. What happened was when you

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work with belief work, it not just works on you. But it also

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works through the gene pool, past, present and future. So

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ancestory Right. And, and of course, soul contracts, right.

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And she was part of my soul contracts, because she was my

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daughter, I was part of hers. So we released all of that. And

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that created a huge healing. And when all of this started to

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happen, I recognized okay, this is good. This is where I need to

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be. And I went and I did my beginner classes, I left to go

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to Ontario, I left for three months. You know, I left my

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family, my young family for three months, and I spent three

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months learning about Theta Healing being the practitioner.

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And you know, I'll never, I'm going to get teary eyed because

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I always get teary eyed when I mentioned this, but I'll never

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forget, when I came off the plane, and this is me being away

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for three months, I get off the plane and I walk to my son and

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my son is about seven, eight, at the time, maybe even younger,

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anyway. And he says, Well, Mom, you're radiating. And that just

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proved to me the healing and how much better I felt, you know,

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and everyone like my friends could notice. Because I mean, we

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emit energy, right? We're energy and we what we put out people

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receive, and what they were receiving, and what I was

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getting was the fact that I was changing. And I was healing,

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which was a great validation for me that I was on the right

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track. So I mean, we are what we think and the guilt from from my

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previous trauma was just really disconnecting me from my

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reality, because I was just staying stuck in the past and,

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and because I was stuck in the past, I couldn't be in my

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present. And I couldn't look forward to the future. And

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because I was I was over there. Like I was just dizzy looking

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over my shoulder, you know what I mean? And yeah, so that's, you

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know, and that has just steamrolled to where I am today,

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which is kind of like I mean, the first time I took data

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healing, my teacher said, you're going to be an instructor? And I

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said, No, I'm not. I had no desire and no inkling, no

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thoughts of becoming an instructor. And it wasn't until

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I took all of those classes, and that I was able to change from a

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place of suicide ideations to a place of joy, happiness,

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contentment, like, just a love for life. And I thought, you

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know, what, if this can happen for me, then what? What can I do

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to help others be on the same journey?

Melissa Deally:

That is so, so powerful. And first of all, I

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love the part about your son, saying, you know, Mom, you're

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radiating after being away from you for three months at such a

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young age kids are so perceptive. Yeah. And, and how

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beautiful is it that, you know, coming home to your family?

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That's the first thing you hear is those words, and that

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validation for you that you are healing, right? And then not

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only that, but to have your instructor tell you, you're

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going to be a healer, when that wasn't even in your mind at all,

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as a thought you were just trying to heal yourself at that

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point. Right. And so was that the instructor from that first

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session that you did that you didn't really like? Or was that

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from once you got to Toronto and you started your class?

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The the instructor, that was a different instructor.

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So the one that I had the session with? Yes, he's the one

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that I went to an Ontario she was supposed to be my first

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initial instructor. But when she came to Edmonton because I lived

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in Edmonton at the time, when she came to Edmonton, she got

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really, really sick. Oh, She ended up having to bring in

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another instructor to teach us. So yeah. And which is funny too,

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because I mean when I went to Ontario, and this is how, like

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you talk about spirits speaking, they were yelling at me pretty

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much. So when I went to when I went to Ontario, to take all of

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my instructor classes, one of my peers said, I'm going down to

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and at the time, this is where Vienna had her clinic, or her

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instructor classes, I'm going to Idaho to take the basic

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instructor classes do you want to come? And I immediately said,

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No, I have no interest in being an instructor. And when I went

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home, though, for a whole week, like I say, a week bit about

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five days, I would wake up in the middle of the night. With

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thoughts, you have to go register, go register, go

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register Gora, and I and I heard exactly, there was five

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different classes that I had to register for. And I thought, You

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know what I'm going to go check to see, just just to see,

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because I could only go at a certain point in time, because

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of my family. I'm just going to go and check to see how

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everything is lined up. And just to see if it would actually work

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out. Every class worked out, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom,

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exactly the way I would need. And I thought, well, this is

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divinely guided, I'm being asked to go. So I'm gonna go. So and

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then I've just been teaching belief work ever since.

Melissa Deally:

So I love that I love that when you say, you

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know, the universe was directing you. And not only do they direct

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you, but it's all laid out perfectly. Right?

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Exactly. And I'm a firm believer that this is part of my

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pre birth plan, you know, and pick my mother, I picked my

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father, I picked all the experiences that I've had,

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including all my trauma, not just all the the laughs You

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know, and all the fight times, but we pick our experiences, we

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pick our adversity, and it's in the adversity where we get to

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shine, actually, if we get to which we can choose to shine if

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we want, depending on how we look at that adversity. Right,

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we can look at it as as a deterrent, right? Or we can

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really look at it as a place to grow and to evolve. And, yeah,

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so

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it's so true that that adversity or you know,

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sometimes it's called a brick wall, or whatever it is, that's

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put up before you that kind of makes you stop for a second

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that it does

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give up. But then it's the matter of what am

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I supposed to learn in this moment? So I can figure out my

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way around or through or over? Yeah, well, right. And that's

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where that growth is coming from which that in and of itself is

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scary. And then we have our brain talking back at us to

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complicating it and trying to hold us back in our comfort zone

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when we're trying to grow and expand and get to the other

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side. So there's, there's so much to this. But before we dive

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more into that, and I don't know if you can even answer this

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question, but I'm wanting to know, from that moment on the

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beach, where you decided that if I want to see my kids grow up,

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and I want to see you know, see them have children, I have to

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change the way I think, to going to the course that you went to

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for three months, what transpired in there, how did you

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make that happen? Because previously you were waking up

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and you were thinking I have to have positive thoughts. I have

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to have positive thoughts, but then you end up exhausted. So

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what was different?

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So what happened there was I had I guess that day I

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kind of had so how can I say this spiritual awakening at that

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point, because I think I was at my bottom. Mm hmm. And

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I ended up going into the water after thinking about that and

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just feeling so dejected. I went into the water and I ended up

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sitting at the bottom of the ocean. Like I just you know, I

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wasn't above my head or anything, but you know how you

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just submerge yourself and just allow yourself to be Yeah. And

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what happened was my problems or my thoughts just kind of seemed

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to move to the back of my head. And all of a sudden I started

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feeling a lot of light and a lot of love and I recognize and this

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is my perception of course, that what it felt like and I love the

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ocean Right. And I felt like the water, I was being Cleanse like,

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and sea salt actually is a cleansing agent. And I just

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think that from carrying so much junk, energetically that the

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seesaw just kind of cleanse my energy field. And I felt so much

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lighter. From that, I had a really good discussion with my

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husband. And I said, you know, and I, he knew a lot of what I

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was feeling and going through, but he really, I don't think he

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fully understood the depths of everything. And I had a very

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candid conversation about I need to do something for me. And at

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the time, I was working full time as a child youth worker,

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because that's my first profession. And I quit my job, I

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quit my job. And I just that just dove into a lot of

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spiritual books, I would go into a shop and grab the first book

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that came to mind. And and I went into I went to a lot of Hay

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House, Hay House events. And I just did a lot of soul

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searching. And there was there's a magazine in Edmonton called

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Mosaic magazine. Actually, she might be all of Alberta, but I'm

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not quite sure. Connie Bryson. But anyway, I was reading an

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article in one of our magazines about this woman who had healed

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her healed a custody case, like she was in a custody battle with

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her ex husband, who healed that through data healing. And I

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thought, well, what is that? So it piqued my interest. And I

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went online, and I read everything that there was, like,

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I read for about four or five hours that day, like I read

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everything that there was about data healing, and my cells were

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like this. There were library

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for those who are watching and just listening.

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They're vibrating right now.

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Yeah. And it's like, and I remember calling my

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husband, I was so excited. And I said, This is it. This is it.

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This this is gonna, you know, this is going to this is what I

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need, you know, and, and I didn't even bat an eye, I looked

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right off the bat for classes that was in in Edmonton. And

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within a month and a half, that instructor was coming to

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Edmonton and I thought talks about divine timing. And that's

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how it started. And from the time of sitting on the beach, to

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when I actually took my first class was about a year. So

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during that time, I did a lot of soul searching, I did a lot of

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reflecting, that's when I actually started really

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meditating, and a lot of reading, and a lot of looking at

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my life looking at things that didn't serve me. So if this

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doesn't serve me anymore, then what do I need to do to change

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it? Right. And this is when I started opening up my throat

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chakra and speaking out with regards to what I need. Right?

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And not just being a servant to everyone. Because I mean, being

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a healer, we love to serve. And that I think that is when I

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really learned how to say no.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. And I've actually done a podcast

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earlier this year on are you using the words yes and no. Can

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in the wrong way? Right. Exactly. And instead of saying

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yes to yourself, you're saying yes to everyone else. And in

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that process saying no to yourself, which is what happens

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so often, right?

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You know what, this is what I teach my clients, I tell

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them, when you say no to someone to another person, who are you

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saying yes to? Mm hmm. Right, who's the most important person

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here? Because, like, I'm not going to be abused if I'm flat

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out in bed, or with cancer, right? Because I'm just running

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ragged. Mm hmm. And I'm not listening to my own needs. And

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if I'm not listening to my own needs, then what am I teaching

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my children? Right.

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100%.

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So it's just a cycle. Right? And, and really goes, it

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comes down to that, like, What are you teaching your children,

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with your thoughts with your words with your behavior? Right.

Melissa Deally:

I totally agree. And it's, you know, it's

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unfortunate that in our I don't know, I would say in the last 50

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years, 60 years,

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as

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the corporate world expanded as women went

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into the workforce, and of course, I have no problem with

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women being in the workforce, but it changed the font family

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dynamic, and it changed the time we had with family, right and

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with our children and to be role models for our children, and

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then there was daycares and etc. And all of these changes started

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happening and The thing that didn't change, was it the women,

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were still the caretaker of everyone else. Right. So on top

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of having done that before, while not working, now they're

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having to do that while working. And I know for me, when I

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started my health coaching training, one of the very first

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things I learned was that self care is the most selfless act.

Melissa Deally:

Yeah, I had a big aha. Like, why didn't someone tell me that when

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my kids were little? Exactly. It's so important. And that is a

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message that I we can't teach often enough, because it's still

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so ingrained that women and particularly moms have to look

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after everyone else first. And then if you're a healer on top

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of that, it's even more deeply ingrained. And so I'm a burnt

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out. Yeah, totally burned out. And, in fact, my podcast, I had

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a podcast in November, with a nurse who's left mainstream

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medicine and moved in to holistic care, talking about all

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the PTSD and burnout in mainstream medicine today in the

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nursing community, because of this, right. And so I had, I

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made a mantra for myself that I started repeating, as I shifted

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my mindset around this, and it takes time, it takes practice,

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it takes consistency in retraining our brain to this new

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way of thinking that better serve me. Am I my mantra is that

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self care is the most selfless act because it allows me to show

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up and give the world the best of me instead of what's left of

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me. Yeah, I

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like that. I read that. I don't know where I read that.

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I was reading some of your stuff the other day. And I read that

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and I thought, oh, my gosh, that is so awesome.

Melissa Deally:

And, you know, I have goosebumps right now.

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Because every time I say it, I get those goosebumps through me.

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That just landed for me so profoundly, that I was able to

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start going, Okay, I have to start looking after me, how do I

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do this. And for me, it was scheduling, the time in my

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calendar is signing the activity of whatever it is I was going to

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do into that time, so that I didn't just get to this free

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time and then wasted away on social media or watching TV or

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something right? That I actually assigned the activity, it could

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be, you know, I have so many to draw. And I'm really lucky

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living here and nature. But it could be anything from reading a

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book to taking a bath to skiing or paddleboarding or going for a

Melissa Deally:

walk or with a friend or by myself to mean there's so many

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things to me, it's whatever brings me joy.

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Right? But it's doing what you enjoy doing. You know.

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And that sparks that that activates the heart. You know

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what I mean? Totally, if if, if you're exhausted, you can't have

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that exact heart to have that have that you can't have that

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it's just hard to get that.

Melissa Deally:

And when we're in that exhausted state, we're

Melissa Deally:

so much less resilient to the stresses that daily life is

Melissa Deally:

going to throw at us, right. And so what I noticed as I started

Melissa Deally:

implementing this in my life, was that my kids were still

Melissa Deally:

pushing my buttons, and they were teenagers by now. But I

Melissa Deally:

wasn't reacting. Yeah, exactly. Instead choose to respond in a

Melissa Deally:

way more positive way. And it took me a few months to notice

Melissa Deally:

that, you know, you, you always notice the pain. But when things

Melissa Deally:

are good, it takes you a little bit longer to notice it right

Melissa Deally:

was a bit of an Aha. But that was so powerful. And so like you

Melissa Deally:

I teach it as well, because it it has such a profound impact on

Melissa Deally:

people's lives. And there's so many ways that we can step into

Melissa Deally:

that. But I'd love to dive in more with you around the belief

Melissa Deally:

work, because you have said you know what you think matters,

Melissa Deally:

right? And it absolutely does. And so I'd love for you just to

Melissa Deally:

talk about how that how those negative beliefs are, can be

Melissa Deally:

turned into something that better serves.

Unknown:

Okay. So if you think about our energy, or our body

Unknown:

being energy, right, if we, if we believe something to be true,

Unknown:

three times or more, it enters the subconscious mind as a

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belief system. So if you think about your body, like your

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cells, right, you have lots of lots of different trillion cells

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in your body, right? And each cell has receptor sites and

Unknown:

these receptor sites have belief systems, they're either positive

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or negative, right? And this is what energetically goes To the

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universe, and our subconscious mind never shuts off. We cannot

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understand consciously what is in the subconscious mind.

Unknown:

Because you you don't have access to that unless you bring

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a lot of awareness. And you muscle test muscle testing is a

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way to talk to the subconscious mind and talk to talk to your

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body. I don't know if you do any muscle testing in your work or

Melissa Deally:

not. I don't I know of it. And I know people do

Melissa Deally:

it. And yeah, in my work, in my work, where it's used is to

Melissa Deally:

determine potentially if one supplement or another is better

Melissa Deally:

for the body, right? Things like that. So I'm not familiar with

Melissa Deally:

it as being a way to tap into the subconscious mind. That's

Melissa Deally:

really interesting

Unknown:

to me. So we can muscle test, how you think and how you

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feel and the subconscious doesn't hold what is true. It

Unknown:

only holds what you think is true. Does that make sense? So

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you may consciously think that money is good for you. But

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subconsciously, maybe you think that money is evil? Right?

Unknown:

Because maybe you have some ancestral old thoughts and

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beliefs around money. Do you know what I mean? Or money is?

Unknown:

Yeah, like, a really common one is the money is the root of all

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evil. Right? That's a very common one. Yes. And that we can

Unknown:

muscle test for that. So where was I going with that? Give me a

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sec. So the subconscious doesn't recognize what is true or

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untrue. It just, it just is. So when when you are conceived.

Unknown:

Even the first nine months of being in your mom's womb, how

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she thought how she felt you could have taken stuff on. From

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the time you are born to the time you're six years old, you

Unknown:

are in a theta brainwave state. And this is for Accelerated

Unknown:

Learning. However, we are not, what's the word? We we don't

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have our logical brain yet. Right. And it's really hard at

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that time for us to discern our reality. Right. So for example,

Unknown:

you could be sitting at a table and you automatically you all of

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a sudden see your mom, take a picture that you've had on the

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wall, not on the wall, but maybe on the fridge. And because it's

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been there for two months, you know, she wants to recycle it,

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that you see her put it in a recycling. And you might think,

Unknown:

Oh, I'm not good enough. She doesn't like my photo. Do you

Unknown:

know what I mean? Right? Meanwhile, you forget that it's

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been there already for two months, you know what I mean? So

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you start thinking about your reality differently, because you

Unknown:

can't quite fully discern what is really going on, because

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you're not quite an adult yet. And you don't have that logical

Unknown:

thinking brain yet, right. So we accumulate the majority of our

Unknown:

belief systems, positive or negative, from the time we are

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born to born to the time that we are six or seven years old. So

Unknown:

just think about that. So however, you chose to experience

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life coming here, how you chose to experience your upbringing,

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your mother, your father, and I'll give you a really good

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example, because your childhood doesn't have to be traumatic in

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order for you to have limiting belief systems. So I have a

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client who is is really not into this stuff at all that her

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girlfriend sent her to me, because she was having a really

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tough time getting a job. And upon talking to her a little

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bit, I recognized that she had this limiting belief of I'm

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always second best. And she had a loving mother. She had a

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loving father, but her and her brother were it's not that they

Unknown:

were at odds, but they were competing with each other a lot.

Unknown:

And he always just

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so common in siblings.

Unknown:

Yep. And so it wasn't until we change that limiting

Unknown:

belief. So we were able to change that. So I go when I want

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to change limiting beliefs, I go into theta Brainwave. And we

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released that. We released the I am always second and we replaced

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it with I noticed feels like to be first. I know how to be

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first. I deserve to be first right. within 24 hours. She had

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nine job interviews. Request in her inbox. Wow. Thin 24 hours

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and within two weeks she had a great job, she landed a great

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job, a really good high paying job, you know, that. And I'm

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that is how what

Melissa Deally:

is happening again,

Unknown:

I beg your pardon,

Melissa Deally:

I'm having full body goosebumps happening again,

Melissa Deally:

as you're telling me this story,

Unknown:

this is how fast changing how you think, can

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really manifest and shift your reality. Because if we can, if

Unknown:

we can change how we think, because what we think, and

Unknown:

actually, this is what I was gonna say earlier, everything

Unknown:

goes out to the universe. So what we think is kind of like

Unknown:

the beacon, right, but how we feel is actually the magnetic

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pole that, that brings it to us. So how we think and how we feel

Unknown:

creates our reality. So if we can change how we think. And if

Unknown:

we can change how we feel and reprogram the subconscious mind,

Unknown:

then all we have to do is just sit back, relax, and watch how

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the universe is shifting reality, to make our environment

Unknown:

better. And like, you know, for me, like that first session, I

Unknown:

could just like my daughter coming down for dinner, when she

Unknown:

hadn't had dinner with us in almost a year. Yeah, you know,

Unknown:

within within 24 hours, like that is how fast this can

Unknown:

change. And it's, it doesn't always happen that fast. You

Unknown:

know, sometimes if you if you have a lot of trauma that you

Unknown:

have carried for a long, long time. And it's really deep, and

Unknown:

it's on a soul level, then it might, it might take more than

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one or two or three or four sessions, you know what I mean?

Unknown:

So it all depends on the individual on the trauma on the

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experiences, and also depends as to how much you're ready to let

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it go. Right? Because if you're stuck in fear, and if you are

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really comfortable there, then it takes a little bit of work on

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my part to come at it from not the front door, but the back

Unknown:

door, right? And allow yourself to feel safe, because safe and

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trust. Those are probably two of the biggest things that actually

Unknown:

keep you stuck in an old pattern that you really want to get out

Unknown:

of. You say you want to get out of the deal. Really? Yes,

Melissa Deally:

I say, Yeah, makes sense. I experienced that,

Melissa Deally:

in my own work with clients, particularly clients that might

Melissa Deally:

want to lose some weight. And yeah, we start working together

Melissa Deally:

and they start to lose some weight. And somewhere along the

Melissa Deally:

way, we hit a wall, you might have done lab tests, and we

Melissa Deally:

might be trying to rebalance hormones and things but they're

Melissa Deally:

still hitting a wall. And they stopped doing the work. Right.

Melissa Deally:

And they're stopping doing the work because their safety

Melissa Deally:

mechanisms are kicking in and saying this is outside my

Melissa Deally:

comfort zone, I don't feel safe. So I have to stop doing the work

Melissa Deally:

so I can get back to feeling safe.

Unknown:

And then which is I mean, it's the safety mechanism

Unknown:

is really another word for the ego keeping you stuck, right?

Unknown:

Your illusion, what you have learned or what you have, here's

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a better word, what you have conditioned yourself to believe

Unknown:

upon your past that if you do this, and something bad's gonna

Unknown:

happen, well, who says that? Right? Like your reality today?

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Is not what your reality was, when you were five, or six, or

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seven or eight. And so it's really about making conscious

Unknown:

choices and making conscious decisions based upon today,

Unknown:

based upon and, you know, I, when I talk to my clients, I

Unknown:

talk about adversity. And when you need adversity, if you

Unknown:

really want to meet it face to face, you have to recognize that

Unknown:

soul is calling you to action, right? You have to recognize

Unknown:

that that adversity has been placed in front of you for a

Unknown:

specific purpose. Right? What is that purpose? Right? Are you

Unknown:

going to believe what you have been taught to believe about

Unknown:

yourself? Or what people have placed upon you? Or are you

Unknown:

going to believe in something far greater? Are you going to

Unknown:

believe in who you want to be who you truly are versus who

Unknown:

you're not? Because if you choose to listen to who you're

Unknown:

not, then you're always gonna stay there. Right? So in order

Unknown:

for you to change, you really have to be and bring yourself

Unknown:

back to the present and recognize that fear is the

Unknown:

number one culprit of keeping you stuck in your old patterns.

Unknown:

And is it scary? Yeah. You know, and this hear me being and doing

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this, this scares me, you know, and, but I recognize that you

Unknown:

know, there's a need for this information to go out and I I

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have to get over myself get over my fear of being, you know, a

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public speaker or on podcast. And because I mean, I recognize

Unknown:

that this information is going to go everywhere. And not

Unknown:

everyone's going to resonate, but that's okay. You know,

Melissa Deally:

and that's totally okay. Because there's

Melissa Deally:

going to be plenty of people that will resonate and people

Melissa Deally:

that didn't know you or know about you or know that Theta

Melissa Deally:

Healing was even a thing, just like you didn't until you read

Melissa Deally:

it in that magazine. And they're gonna go, oh, I need this.

Melissa Deally:

Right. And that's more important than the people that don't

Melissa Deally:

resonate.

Unknown:

Exactly right. For sure. Because you can't please

Unknown:

everybody. Exactly to is, I mean, for the people that it

Unknown:

doesn't resonate, it just means that they're not ready. Right,

Unknown:

you know, so they'll gravitate towards something that is best

Unknown:

for them. And that time, the exam, I'm okay with that. So

Unknown:

bad. I mean, when it comes to fear, it's past, right? I mean,

Unknown:

there's a big difference between healthy fear and unhealthy fear.

Unknown:

Right? So if, you know, if I'm walking down, you know, a street

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down downtown, and it's dark, and I want to turn left. And all

Unknown:

of a sudden, my intuition says, No, don't turn there, you should

Unknown:

turn here, like, you know, that that's a healthy recognition

Unknown:

that says, okay, there might be something going on down there

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that I really shouldn't, you know, get to so I'm going to go

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over here, versus a fear that is illusion. And, and it might have

Unknown:

made sense when you were five or six, but it doesn't make sense

Unknown:

being in your present reality as an adult. Right. So, yeah.

Melissa Deally:

And all to me, I find all of this so interesting,

Melissa Deally:

and so fascinating, and so powerful, right? And we're only,

Melissa Deally:

you know, beginning to understand the power of our

Melissa Deally:

mind. And I know even in the work and the research I've done

Melissa Deally:

in understanding the subconscious, that it just files

Melissa Deally:

every experience without judgment. Right? Yes. And so

Melissa Deally:

it's all there. And then as you say, the subconscious mind

Melissa Deally:

doesn't have access. But when we come across it, you know, just

Melissa Deally:

mind doesn't have access, sorry, the conscious mind doesn't have

Melissa Deally:

access to the subconscious. But yeah, that subconscious mind, as

Melissa Deally:

you said, never shuts off. It's in charge of making sure we're

Melissa Deally:

breathing and our heart is pumping and all of those things.

Melissa Deally:

And when we come across another similar experience, though, the

Melissa Deally:

subconscious mind is going through that file folder. How do

Melissa Deally:

I react? What? What did you know, where was I? In a similar

Melissa Deally:

experience? How do I react? And it's so fascinating how all of

Melissa Deally:

that drives our behavior today. It's driving our thoughts today.

Unknown:

Yep. And what they say is, I'm talking about, you know,

Unknown:

the Dr. Joe Dispenza. Us or the Bruce Lipton's, they talk about

Unknown:

how each decision that we make 95% of that is based upon the

Unknown:

past, right? So our subconscious mind it going 24/7 Unless we are

Unknown:

100% present in our reality, then our choices is based upon

Melissa Deally:

the information from the past.

Unknown:

Yeah, exactly. Like and if you think about, if you just

Unknown:

look at the decisions you've made, or the behaviors you've

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done throughout the last five days, you will probably and the

Unknown:

choices that you've made, you'll probably recognize, hmm, it was

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based upon my past. So what do I need to do to change that?

Unknown:

Right, what do I because it's, it's all conscious choice.

Unknown:

Right? It's, it's so it's a conscious choice, but also a

Unknown:

willingness to want to change and recognize that any fear that

Unknown:

comes up, that's the past talking, that really has nothing

Unknown:

to do with the present. So for me to change my future, I have

Unknown:

to make a different choice in my present reality. And that means,

Unknown:

you know, learning how to live life on your own terms, right?

Unknown:

Self Care. And it also means getting rid of that fear,

Unknown:

getting rid of fear of rejection, getting rid of the

Unknown:

fear of the unknown, getting rid of fear of what you think might

Unknown:

happen based upon something that might have happened a long time

Unknown:

ago that really doesn't have anything to do with today

Unknown:

because if you look at your surroundings, you know that

Unknown:

you're safe. Right? Exactly, and I feel safe. What do you need to

Unknown:

do to feel more safe? And I think this is probably where you

Unknown:

know, a connection to spirit, meditating, settling into your

Unknown:

heart, doing what you need to do for self care eating a healthy

Unknown:

diet. Diet, right? I know, for me eating a healthy diet is huge

Unknown:

for me. Because if I eat crap, I feel like crap. If I eat

Unknown:

healthy, I'm feeling great. You know, right, it all plays a

Unknown:

part. It all plays that mindset. It's not just like the physical,

Unknown:

emotional, mental and spiritual body, they all work together in

Unknown:

order for you to feel healthy for you to feel whole. And I

Unknown:

think at the end of the day, we are all striving for the same

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thing. You know, everybody wants to feel connected. Everybody

Unknown:

wants to, to feel compassion, and, and to belong. Right? And

Unknown:

to have that wholeness. And, yeah, it's not just one, it's

Unknown:

you got to look at all those factors.

Melissa Deally:

And I think to understand that, so much of this

Melissa Deally:

becomes a choice. Yeah, you just need to know that you can make

Melissa Deally:

that choice. Right. And find the right healer. Yeah. To work with

Melissa Deally:

you to help you.

Unknown:

Yeah. Right. And I think you know, I mean, if you

Unknown:

hear yourself saying, I have to do this, or I must do or I need

Unknown:

to do this, that is the biggest illusion. Because when you feel

Unknown:

when you catch yourself, I have to, then that means you are

Unknown:

you've become enslaved to what you feel or think that you have

Unknown:

to do. Who says you have to do that? What's the worst thing

Unknown:

that can happen if you don't do that? Right? Right? Is the world

Unknown:

going to come to an end? No. Right? So everything going to

Unknown:

come crashing down on you? Probably not. So it's it's the

Unknown:

illusion of what we have conditioned ourselves to feel

Unknown:

and think and believe. And then, you know,

Melissa Deally:

doing those checking questions, like you

Melissa Deally:

said, is the world going to come crashing down has right, you

Melissa Deally:

know, is? Is anybody gonna die from this? Or sometimes I like

Melissa Deally:

to ask myself, Is this a first world problem, because I find

Melissa Deally:

that really puts things in perspective for me, right? Like

Melissa Deally:

going deeper with your Theta Healing is incredibly powerful.

Melissa Deally:

So just as we start wrapping up here, I love to ask all of my

Melissa Deally:

guests. What is don't wait for your wake up call mean to you?

Unknown:

What does that mean, to me, it means I'm doing what I

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love to do. Recognizing that there is recognizing that

Unknown:

following my passion is a huge part in self care. And eating

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healthy, cutting out sugar and and back saying this thing that

Unknown:

is enjoying the sweetness of life, right? So for me enjoying

Unknown:

the sweetness of life, I love my chocolate, and I love my

Unknown:

desserts. But what I do is I make clean desserts, you know,

Unknown:

and I make I eat healthy chocolate, you know, and to me,

Unknown:

it's a balance between the mind body and the soul. And its

Unknown:

eating healthy, making sure I do my meditation and doing some

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physical activity, and recognizing that what I choose

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to do for me is equally important as what I choose to do

Unknown:

for others.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. And what I'm hearing from all of

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that is that

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you're prioritizing your health. Yes, of Mind,

Melissa Deally:

Body Spirit.

Unknown:

You know what, I love

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it for granted. You're simply choosing to

Melissa Deally:

prioritize it.

Unknown:

Yeah. And that's, that is that's number one. Because

Unknown:

if, if I want to be here for my kids, or for my grandkids, then

Unknown:

I need to be healthy, not just physically but also up here.

Unknown:

Right? And because they work together, they do. Absolutely.

Melissa Deally:

So I loved this conversation today. And I hope

Melissa Deally:

you know for some of the listeners learning about Theta

Melissa Deally:

Healing and your work, it might be the first time they've ever

Melissa Deally:

heard of it. Others might be more familiar with it, but can

Melissa Deally:

you please, you have a freebie that you want to offer the

Melissa Deally:

audience and please let people know how they can get in touch

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with you.

Unknown:

Right? Okay. So are you going to have the link of that

Unknown:

below somewhere?

Melissa Deally:

I will put it in the show. Yes. Okay.

Unknown:

So the freebie is, I call it a clarity breakthrough

Unknown:

session. So if you fill out the form, I ask some specific

Unknown:

questions with regards to an issue or an adversity that you

Unknown:

are struggling with and what you've done. What you Yeah, what

Unknown:

you've done to try to rectify or solve the problem. And I tune

Unknown:

into that, right I tune into that even before our call. And

Unknown:

when you do call, I will have some limiting beliefs that I

Unknown:

feel that you hold, that is keeping you stuck in that

Unknown:

pattern. And on the call, I think I'm also give a 10 minute

Unknown:

body scan where I scan, you scan the energy. And I go a little

Unknown:

bit deeper into where that might have started for you and what

Unknown:

you need to work on.

Melissa Deally:

That's phenomenal. I love that. So

Melissa Deally:

everybody listening, the link for that clarity session with

Melissa Deally:

Lynne will be in the show notes. I've done a clarity session with

Melissa Deally:

Lynn and it was really powerful. And we did it over zoom, I

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didn't have to be close to you. And that was a really powerful

Melissa Deally:

experience. So I highly recommend it to everyone. Lynn's

Melissa Deally:

work is incredibly powerful and incredibly healing as you've

Melissa Deally:

heard through today's podcast. So Lynn, what last message would

Melissa Deally:

you like to leave with the audience today to encourage them

Melissa Deally:

to start their healing journey today?

Unknown:

I said this earlier. And I'll say it again, Adversity

Unknown:

is your soul's call to action. So if you can recognize that any

Unknown:

adversity that you face in your life is there for a specific

Unknown:

purpose that the people that are irritating you, or they're

Unknown:

behaving away, behaving in a way that you want them to, for you

Unknown:

to evolve, and allow that to sink in for a little bit.

Unknown:

Because soul contracts is if someone is abusing you, or not

Unknown:

being nice to you for certain, for whatever reason, you have to

Unknown:

look at well, maybe they don't know that they're being

Unknown:

schmucks. Right. So maybe part of their soul contract is for

Unknown:

you to step out of your shell, and say, Hey, I no longer choose

Unknown:

that behavior that tone, how you're making me feel, right. So

Unknown:

when I, when I look at adversity, I see Well, what is

Unknown:

it that that needs to change, and you look at not just your

Unknown:

lesson, but I'm also looking at the other person's lesson, right

Unknown:

and there because there's a lesson in both. And that person

Unknown:

whom you are speaking to, can acknowledge it, and learn from

Unknown:

it, which means you have actually fulfilled that

Unknown:

contract, which is great. If they don't listen, then that

Unknown:

person is actual, you'll actually be faced with another

Unknown:

actually, you'll be faced with another decision right then and

Unknown:

there if you want to continue with that relationship or not,

Unknown:

or that person, right. But they will actually be met with

Unknown:

another soul contract somewhere else, but you have fulfilled

Unknown:

your part of the contract. And as you feel your contracts, then

Unknown:

you're going to be evolving and growing that much more. And it's

Unknown:

all about either changing how you think and you feel, or

Unknown:

taking action. What is it that you need to do for yourself? Is

Unknown:

it speaking is it going out and calling someone like what is the

Unknown:

action, and at the end, there's a promise and that promise will

Unknown:

always lead you more to self love, and more to feeling and

Unknown:

being whole with yourself with humanity with the Earth,

Unknown:

animals, oneness,

Melissa Deally:

and living life.

Unknown:

Exactly. living life on your own terms.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. So thank you so much for sharing

Melissa Deally:

your story. Lynn, it's you know, it's a vulnerable story. But

Melissa Deally:

it's very inspirational. And, you know, leading people into

Melissa Deally:

the work that helps turn your life around, can help others.

Melissa Deally:

And so thank you for the work that you do and for speaking out

Melissa Deally:

and letting people know the possibility for

Unknown:

inviting me and I love taking part. Thanks, Melissa.

Melissa Deally:

to the audience. Thanks so much for listening,

Melissa Deally:

and see you next time. Before I let you go today, I want to let

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you know about my next health, kickstart and detox program.

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Starting on Tuesday, January the fourth 2022 There is no better

Melissa Deally:

time to start looking after your health than the start of a new

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year. And no better way than to do it in a guided group

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community. During this program, I will guide you through a three

Melissa Deally:

week functional medicine detox, you do not start until after

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session one so you can learn how to do it and be set up for

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success. And then I dive into nutrition and the right way to

Melissa Deally:

eat for your body and busting up some of those nutritional myths

Melissa Deally:

that are out there. We also dive into digestion because it's not

Melissa Deally:

just about what you eat, but about what you absorb. And I

Melissa Deally:

dive into sugar because it is in everything these days. Where is

Melissa Deally:

it sneaking into your diet? And what can you us instead. And we

Melissa Deally:

finish up with how not to retox after your detox because of

Melissa Deally:

course, if you've done all of that hard work, you don't just

Melissa Deally:

want to go back to your old habits. You want to take your

Melissa Deally:

new habits with you to continue on your health journey

Melissa Deally:

throughout 2022 and forevermore. And this is information that you

Melissa Deally:

will be learning not only for your benefit, but that you can

Melissa Deally:

then teach to your loved ones as well. So check out the link in

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the show notes to learn more about this program. If you

Melissa Deally:

haven't done my discover your toxic flow quiz, do that. And I

Melissa Deally:

look forward to seeing you in the program.

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to a wider audience and help disrupt the sick care system we

Melissa Deally:

have today and make human health a global priority. Health is