Imagine getting up every day full of energy is
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Melissa Deally:tomorrow's don't wait for your wake up call.
Melissa Deally:Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I
Melissa Deally:am Melissa do you lead the host of your show and today I would
Melissa Deally:love to introduce you to my guests Lynn Vollmer. Welcome,
Melissa Deally:Lynne.
Lynn Villmer:Everyone. Thanks, Melissa.
Melissa Deally:So nice to have you here. Let me just give you a
Melissa Deally:brief introduction to the audience. Lynne is a belief work
Melissa Deally:expert, instructor, mindset coach and Theta Healing master,
Melissa Deally:she has spent more than a decade helping people transform their
Melissa Deally:lives from states of depression, chaos and uncertainty to living
Melissa Deally:life on their own terms. She is on a mission to help people
Melissa Deally:create the changes, they need to live a happier, better and more
Melissa Deally:abundant life. So from that, you can clearly see why I thought
Melissa Deally:she would be a fabulous guest to have on the show, because I love
Melissa Deally:all of that as well. So again, welcome, Lynn. What I
Melissa Deally:particularly love about that is your comment of living life on
Melissa Deally:your own terms. You just want to explain that or elaborate that
Melissa Deally:on that a little bit.
Lynn Villmer:For sure. Okay, so for me, and it might mean
Lynn Villmer:something different to everyone. But for me, it means following
Lynn Villmer:my own heart, it means recognizing what I like to do,
Lynn Villmer:recognizing what I don't like to do. And a lot of self care, self
Lynn Villmer:love, compassion, and not saying yes to something that I don't
Lynn Villmer:want to do based upon fear of rejection or fear of the unknown
Lynn Villmer:or fear of the future, or is just really knowing who I am. My
Lynn Villmer:boundaries, and recognizing that I don't allow anyone to treat me
Lynn Villmer:in a way that I would not treat another person.
Melissa Deally:I love that. And as you're saying that I'm
Melissa Deally:thinking, you know, learning that is a journey in and of
Melissa Deally:itself. Right? Yeah. And, you know, I want to go through your
Melissa Deally:story. And I know that your story led you to this awareness
Melissa Deally:and being able to now live life on your own terms. But I also
Melissa Deally:want to say, you know, this could be one amazing life lesson
Melissa Deally:that could be introduced at high school level, to help kids maybe
Melissa Deally:start to figure this out,
Unknown:high school level or even grade school, right,
Unknown:because I find that I find that the school ground is probably,
Unknown:and this is my opinion, based upon what my children went
Unknown:through, is a huge ground for bullies, right. And I think
Unknown:learning how to make choices based upon what you like, what
Unknown:you want to do, is really important at a very young age.
Unknown:And we even like my daughter Taya is seven. And we teach her
Unknown:that already, you know, and we teach her how to, you know, I
Unknown:mean, we try to give her the words, right to us to someone
Unknown:who may be pushing her into doing something that she doesn't
Unknown:want to do. And I think it's really important to teach that
Unknown:in the home right from the get go.
Melissa Deally:I love that. Yeah, I love that. So let's walk
Melissa Deally:through your story. Because I heard it on someone else's
Melissa Deally:podcast though. Meaning with wellness podcast by Jenny rice,
Melissa Deally:and it really touched me and I knew you before I heard the
Melissa Deally:podcast, we'd work together. But I really loved your story and
Melissa Deally:found it incredibly inspirational. And this episode
Melissa Deally:is coming out on December 25. Wow, okay, yeah. And so we're
Melissa Deally:just wrapping up 2021 here right now. Since day, yeah. And so I
Melissa Deally:think that I would love to finish off the year with your
Melissa Deally:inspirational story, as people are looking ahead to 2022 and
Melissa Deally:making choices around how they want their life to look like how
Melissa Deally:they want their year to go. So, yeah, talk to me about your
Melissa Deally:story. How did you end up in this line of work?
Unknown:Okay. So I guess my turning point for me was about
Unknown:10 Plus or so years ago. I remember very distinctly, I was
Unknown:sitting on the beach, and I was watching my kids play. And the
Unknown:beach is my favorite place to be. And I remember, I was
Unknown:contemplating suicide, I had been contemplating suicide for
Unknown:quite a few months. And, you know, I had gone to some medical
Unknown:doctors and psychiatrist and they wanted to put me on meds
Unknown:and I totally refused. And I recognized at that point, that
Unknown:if, if I wanted to continue my life, if I wanted to watch my
Unknown:kids grow up, if I wanted to experience grandchildren, then I
Unknown:was going to have to radically change my thinking, I was going
Unknown:to have to get myself out of the deep depression that I was in
Unknown:because I was in so much pain from trauma that had happened
Unknown:five years prior, and even in my childhood, which is actually
Unknown:connected. But that's a whole other story. And but I didn't
Unknown:realize how my childhood trauma and the trauma that had happened
Unknown:five years prior was really connected to my depression. And
Unknown:so I kind of like went on a journey. And that journey
Unknown:brought me to belief work. And I ended up going into a modality
Unknown:and learning a modality called Theta Healing. And through all
Unknown:of that, taking all these courses, I learned that the
Unknown:reason I was feeling the way I was feeling had to do and what
Unknown:was keeping me stuck, because here's the thing I, I did
Unknown:everything that I could to try to get myself out of that state
Unknown:of being I remember waking up in the morning and thinking, Okay,
Unknown:I'm not going to think a negative thought, I'm going to
Unknown:be positive, and bla bla bla, right. And it would start, and I
Unknown:would keep thinking really positive, but it was so
Unknown:exhausted, like I was so exhausted by the end of the day,
Unknown:because I just couldn't, like the negative thoughts kept
Unknown:coming and coming
Melissa Deally:and coming. And in you had to keep pushing them
Melissa Deally:back and pushing Exactly.
Unknown:And it was just oh my gosh, it was just I just
Unknown:couldn't keep up with it after, like after two days, right. But
Unknown:I didn't understand it. But when I learned about belief work with
Unknown:regards to how what you think creates your reality. Mm hmm. It
Unknown:made me recognize that, oh, my gosh, I am probably think of
Unknown:this, I probably think of this and I had so much guilt and
Unknown:regret. And there was lots of blame and shame with regards to
Unknown:my childhood patterns with regards to what had happened
Unknown:five years prior. And I needed to debunk all of that. And it
Unknown:wasn't until I was able to really fully connect with who I
Unknown:was released all those limiting belief systems that I really
Unknown:came up on top and I really started to change. And I
Unknown:remember my here's the thing, I remember my first session that I
Unknown:had, I thought okay, well, if I'm going to take my classes,
Unknown:then I should have a session. So I booked a belief work data
Unknown:healing session with with an instructor. And frankly, I and I
Unknown:didn't even like the session. You know, I got off the phone
Unknown:thinking holy crap, what the hell did I put myself into
Unknown:because I'd already paid for these classes. And, and I was
Unknown:really disappointed that it's the next day. The next day,
Unknown:there was a huge difference in my energy field. And at the
Unknown:time, we were having problems with my, with my daughter, she
Unknown:was totally disengaging from the family and going down a path
Unknown:where it was a very destructive path. And within about three
Unknown:days of me having a session because we worked on her behind
Unknown:The scenes through my through my trauma. And all of a sudden she
Unknown:comes down for dinner. Like, and she stopped wearing black she,
Unknown:oh, she stopped wearing golf you know attire and and like her
Unknown:whole demeanor change with just one session. You know,
Melissa Deally:one session of the healer working with you.
Melissa Deally:Yep. While young and working on your daughter but through us so
Melissa Deally:your daughter was not even present at this session. Is that
Unknown:correct? Yep. So belief work. What happened was when you
Unknown:work with belief work, it not just works on you. But it also
Unknown:works through the gene pool, past, present and future. So
Unknown:ancestory Right. And, and of course, soul contracts, right.
Unknown:And she was part of my soul contracts, because she was my
Unknown:daughter, I was part of hers. So we released all of that. And
Unknown:that created a huge healing. And when all of this started to
Unknown:happen, I recognized okay, this is good. This is where I need to
Unknown:be. And I went and I did my beginner classes, I left to go
Unknown:to Ontario, I left for three months. You know, I left my
Unknown:family, my young family for three months, and I spent three
Unknown:months learning about Theta Healing being the practitioner.
Unknown:And you know, I'll never, I'm going to get teary eyed because
Unknown:I always get teary eyed when I mentioned this, but I'll never
Unknown:forget, when I came off the plane, and this is me being away
Unknown:for three months, I get off the plane and I walk to my son and
Unknown:my son is about seven, eight, at the time, maybe even younger,
Unknown:anyway. And he says, Well, Mom, you're radiating. And that just
Unknown:proved to me the healing and how much better I felt, you know,
Unknown:and everyone like my friends could notice. Because I mean, we
Unknown:emit energy, right? We're energy and we what we put out people
Unknown:receive, and what they were receiving, and what I was
Unknown:getting was the fact that I was changing. And I was healing,
Unknown:which was a great validation for me that I was on the right
Unknown:track. So I mean, we are what we think and the guilt from from my
Unknown:previous trauma was just really disconnecting me from my
Unknown:reality, because I was just staying stuck in the past and,
Unknown:and because I was stuck in the past, I couldn't be in my
Unknown:present. And I couldn't look forward to the future. And
Unknown:because I was I was over there. Like I was just dizzy looking
Unknown:over my shoulder, you know what I mean? And yeah, so that's, you
Unknown:know, and that has just steamrolled to where I am today,
Unknown:which is kind of like I mean, the first time I took data
Unknown:healing, my teacher said, you're going to be an instructor? And I
Unknown:said, No, I'm not. I had no desire and no inkling, no
Unknown:thoughts of becoming an instructor. And it wasn't until
Unknown:I took all of those classes, and that I was able to change from a
Unknown:place of suicide ideations to a place of joy, happiness,
Unknown:contentment, like, just a love for life. And I thought, you
Unknown:know, what, if this can happen for me, then what? What can I do
Unknown:to help others be on the same journey?
Melissa Deally:That is so, so powerful. And first of all, I
Melissa Deally:love the part about your son, saying, you know, Mom, you're
Melissa Deally:radiating after being away from you for three months at such a
Melissa Deally:young age kids are so perceptive. Yeah. And, and how
Melissa Deally:beautiful is it that, you know, coming home to your family?
Melissa Deally:That's the first thing you hear is those words, and that
Melissa Deally:validation for you that you are healing, right? And then not
Melissa Deally:only that, but to have your instructor tell you, you're
Melissa Deally:going to be a healer, when that wasn't even in your mind at all,
Melissa Deally:as a thought you were just trying to heal yourself at that
Melissa Deally:point. Right. And so was that the instructor from that first
Melissa Deally:session that you did that you didn't really like? Or was that
Melissa Deally:from once you got to Toronto and you started your class?
Unknown:The the instructor, that was a different instructor.
Unknown:So the one that I had the session with? Yes, he's the one
Unknown:that I went to an Ontario she was supposed to be my first
Unknown:initial instructor. But when she came to Edmonton because I lived
Unknown:in Edmonton at the time, when she came to Edmonton, she got
Unknown:really, really sick. Oh, She ended up having to bring in
Unknown:another instructor to teach us. So yeah. And which is funny too,
Unknown:because I mean when I went to Ontario, and this is how, like
Unknown:you talk about spirits speaking, they were yelling at me pretty
Unknown:much. So when I went to when I went to Ontario, to take all of
Unknown:my instructor classes, one of my peers said, I'm going down to
Unknown:and at the time, this is where Vienna had her clinic, or her
Unknown:instructor classes, I'm going to Idaho to take the basic
Unknown:instructor classes do you want to come? And I immediately said,
Unknown:No, I have no interest in being an instructor. And when I went
Unknown:home, though, for a whole week, like I say, a week bit about
Unknown:five days, I would wake up in the middle of the night. With
Unknown:thoughts, you have to go register, go register, go
Unknown:register Gora, and I and I heard exactly, there was five
Unknown:different classes that I had to register for. And I thought, You
Unknown:know what I'm going to go check to see, just just to see,
Unknown:because I could only go at a certain point in time, because
Unknown:of my family. I'm just going to go and check to see how
Unknown:everything is lined up. And just to see if it would actually work
Unknown:out. Every class worked out, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom,
Unknown:exactly the way I would need. And I thought, well, this is
Unknown:divinely guided, I'm being asked to go. So I'm gonna go. So and
Unknown:then I've just been teaching belief work ever since.
Melissa Deally:So I love that I love that when you say, you
Melissa Deally:know, the universe was directing you. And not only do they direct
Melissa Deally:you, but it's all laid out perfectly. Right?
Unknown:Exactly. And I'm a firm believer that this is part of my
Unknown:pre birth plan, you know, and pick my mother, I picked my
Unknown:father, I picked all the experiences that I've had,
Unknown:including all my trauma, not just all the the laughs You
Unknown:know, and all the fight times, but we pick our experiences, we
Unknown:pick our adversity, and it's in the adversity where we get to
Unknown:shine, actually, if we get to which we can choose to shine if
Unknown:we want, depending on how we look at that adversity. Right,
Unknown:we can look at it as as a deterrent, right? Or we can
Unknown:really look at it as a place to grow and to evolve. And, yeah,
Unknown:so
Melissa Deally:it's so true that that adversity or you know,
Melissa Deally:sometimes it's called a brick wall, or whatever it is, that's
Melissa Deally:put up before you that kind of makes you stop for a second
Unknown:that it does
Melissa Deally:give up. But then it's the matter of what am
Melissa Deally:I supposed to learn in this moment? So I can figure out my
Melissa Deally:way around or through or over? Yeah, well, right. And that's
Melissa Deally:where that growth is coming from which that in and of itself is
Melissa Deally:scary. And then we have our brain talking back at us to
Melissa Deally:complicating it and trying to hold us back in our comfort zone
Melissa Deally:when we're trying to grow and expand and get to the other
Melissa Deally:side. So there's, there's so much to this. But before we dive
Melissa Deally:more into that, and I don't know if you can even answer this
Melissa Deally:question, but I'm wanting to know, from that moment on the
Melissa Deally:beach, where you decided that if I want to see my kids grow up,
Melissa Deally:and I want to see you know, see them have children, I have to
Melissa Deally:change the way I think, to going to the course that you went to
Melissa Deally:for three months, what transpired in there, how did you
Melissa Deally:make that happen? Because previously you were waking up
Melissa Deally:and you were thinking I have to have positive thoughts. I have
Melissa Deally:to have positive thoughts, but then you end up exhausted. So
Melissa Deally:what was different?
Unknown:So what happened there was I had I guess that day I
Unknown:kind of had so how can I say this spiritual awakening at that
Unknown:point, because I think I was at my bottom. Mm hmm. And
Unknown:I ended up going into the water after thinking about that and
Unknown:just feeling so dejected. I went into the water and I ended up
Unknown:sitting at the bottom of the ocean. Like I just you know, I
Unknown:wasn't above my head or anything, but you know how you
Unknown:just submerge yourself and just allow yourself to be Yeah. And
Unknown:what happened was my problems or my thoughts just kind of seemed
Unknown:to move to the back of my head. And all of a sudden I started
Unknown:feeling a lot of light and a lot of love and I recognize and this
Unknown:is my perception of course, that what it felt like and I love the
Unknown:ocean Right. And I felt like the water, I was being Cleanse like,
Unknown:and sea salt actually is a cleansing agent. And I just
Unknown:think that from carrying so much junk, energetically that the
Unknown:seesaw just kind of cleanse my energy field. And I felt so much
Unknown:lighter. From that, I had a really good discussion with my
Unknown:husband. And I said, you know, and I, he knew a lot of what I
Unknown:was feeling and going through, but he really, I don't think he
Unknown:fully understood the depths of everything. And I had a very
Unknown:candid conversation about I need to do something for me. And at
Unknown:the time, I was working full time as a child youth worker,
Unknown:because that's my first profession. And I quit my job, I
Unknown:quit my job. And I just that just dove into a lot of
Unknown:spiritual books, I would go into a shop and grab the first book
Unknown:that came to mind. And and I went into I went to a lot of Hay
Unknown:House, Hay House events. And I just did a lot of soul
Unknown:searching. And there was there's a magazine in Edmonton called
Unknown:Mosaic magazine. Actually, she might be all of Alberta, but I'm
Unknown:not quite sure. Connie Bryson. But anyway, I was reading an
Unknown:article in one of our magazines about this woman who had healed
Unknown:her healed a custody case, like she was in a custody battle with
Unknown:her ex husband, who healed that through data healing. And I
Unknown:thought, well, what is that? So it piqued my interest. And I
Unknown:went online, and I read everything that there was, like,
Unknown:I read for about four or five hours that day, like I read
Unknown:everything that there was about data healing, and my cells were
Unknown:like this. There were library
Melissa Deally:for those who are watching and just listening.
Melissa Deally:They're vibrating right now.
Unknown:Yeah. And it's like, and I remember calling my
Unknown:husband, I was so excited. And I said, This is it. This is it.
Unknown:This this is gonna, you know, this is going to this is what I
Unknown:need, you know, and, and I didn't even bat an eye, I looked
Unknown:right off the bat for classes that was in in Edmonton. And
Unknown:within a month and a half, that instructor was coming to
Unknown:Edmonton and I thought talks about divine timing. And that's
Unknown:how it started. And from the time of sitting on the beach, to
Unknown:when I actually took my first class was about a year. So
Unknown:during that time, I did a lot of soul searching, I did a lot of
Unknown:reflecting, that's when I actually started really
Unknown:meditating, and a lot of reading, and a lot of looking at
Unknown:my life looking at things that didn't serve me. So if this
Unknown:doesn't serve me anymore, then what do I need to do to change
Unknown:it? Right. And this is when I started opening up my throat
Unknown:chakra and speaking out with regards to what I need. Right?
Unknown:And not just being a servant to everyone. Because I mean, being
Unknown:a healer, we love to serve. And that I think that is when I
Unknown:really learned how to say no.
Melissa Deally:I love that. And I've actually done a podcast
Melissa Deally:earlier this year on are you using the words yes and no. Can
Melissa Deally:in the wrong way? Right. Exactly. And instead of saying
Melissa Deally:yes to yourself, you're saying yes to everyone else. And in
Melissa Deally:that process saying no to yourself, which is what happens
Melissa Deally:so often, right?
Unknown:You know what, this is what I teach my clients, I tell
Unknown:them, when you say no to someone to another person, who are you
Unknown:saying yes to? Mm hmm. Right, who's the most important person
Unknown:here? Because, like, I'm not going to be abused if I'm flat
Unknown:out in bed, or with cancer, right? Because I'm just running
Unknown:ragged. Mm hmm. And I'm not listening to my own needs. And
Unknown:if I'm not listening to my own needs, then what am I teaching
Unknown:my children? Right.
Melissa Deally:100%.
Unknown:So it's just a cycle. Right? And, and really goes, it
Unknown:comes down to that, like, What are you teaching your children,
Unknown:with your thoughts with your words with your behavior? Right.
Melissa Deally:I totally agree. And it's, you know, it's
Melissa Deally:unfortunate that in our I don't know, I would say in the last 50
Melissa Deally:years, 60 years,
Unknown:as
Melissa Deally:the corporate world expanded as women went
Melissa Deally:into the workforce, and of course, I have no problem with
Melissa Deally:women being in the workforce, but it changed the font family
Melissa Deally:dynamic, and it changed the time we had with family, right and
Melissa Deally:with our children and to be role models for our children, and
Melissa Deally:then there was daycares and etc. And all of these changes started
Melissa Deally:happening and The thing that didn't change, was it the women,
Melissa Deally:were still the caretaker of everyone else. Right. So on top
Melissa Deally:of having done that before, while not working, now they're
Melissa Deally:having to do that while working. And I know for me, when I
Melissa Deally:started my health coaching training, one of the very first
Melissa Deally:things I learned was that self care is the most selfless act.
Melissa Deally:Yeah, I had a big aha. Like, why didn't someone tell me that when
Melissa Deally:my kids were little? Exactly. It's so important. And that is a
Melissa Deally:message that I we can't teach often enough, because it's still
Melissa Deally:so ingrained that women and particularly moms have to look
Melissa Deally:after everyone else first. And then if you're a healer on top
Melissa Deally:of that, it's even more deeply ingrained. And so I'm a burnt
Melissa Deally:out. Yeah, totally burned out. And, in fact, my podcast, I had
Melissa Deally:a podcast in November, with a nurse who's left mainstream
Melissa Deally:medicine and moved in to holistic care, talking about all
Melissa Deally:the PTSD and burnout in mainstream medicine today in the
Melissa Deally:nursing community, because of this, right. And so I had, I
Melissa Deally:made a mantra for myself that I started repeating, as I shifted
Melissa Deally:my mindset around this, and it takes time, it takes practice,
Melissa Deally:it takes consistency in retraining our brain to this new
Melissa Deally:way of thinking that better serve me. Am I my mantra is that
Melissa Deally:self care is the most selfless act because it allows me to show
Melissa Deally:up and give the world the best of me instead of what's left of
Melissa Deally:me. Yeah, I
Unknown:like that. I read that. I don't know where I read that.
Unknown:I was reading some of your stuff the other day. And I read that
Unknown:and I thought, oh, my gosh, that is so awesome.
Melissa Deally:And, you know, I have goosebumps right now.
Melissa Deally:Because every time I say it, I get those goosebumps through me.
Melissa Deally:That just landed for me so profoundly, that I was able to
Melissa Deally:start going, Okay, I have to start looking after me, how do I
Melissa Deally:do this. And for me, it was scheduling, the time in my
Melissa Deally:calendar is signing the activity of whatever it is I was going to
Melissa Deally:do into that time, so that I didn't just get to this free
Melissa Deally:time and then wasted away on social media or watching TV or
Melissa Deally:something right? That I actually assigned the activity, it could
Melissa Deally:be, you know, I have so many to draw. And I'm really lucky
Melissa Deally:living here and nature. But it could be anything from reading a
Melissa Deally:book to taking a bath to skiing or paddleboarding or going for a
Melissa Deally:walk or with a friend or by myself to mean there's so many
Melissa Deally:things to me, it's whatever brings me joy.
Unknown:Right? But it's doing what you enjoy doing. You know.
Unknown:And that sparks that that activates the heart. You know
Unknown:what I mean? Totally, if if, if you're exhausted, you can't have
Unknown:that exact heart to have that have that you can't have that
Unknown:it's just hard to get that.
Melissa Deally:And when we're in that exhausted state, we're
Melissa Deally:so much less resilient to the stresses that daily life is
Melissa Deally:going to throw at us, right. And so what I noticed as I started
Melissa Deally:implementing this in my life, was that my kids were still
Melissa Deally:pushing my buttons, and they were teenagers by now. But I
Melissa Deally:wasn't reacting. Yeah, exactly. Instead choose to respond in a
Melissa Deally:way more positive way. And it took me a few months to notice
Melissa Deally:that, you know, you, you always notice the pain. But when things
Melissa Deally:are good, it takes you a little bit longer to notice it right
Melissa Deally:was a bit of an Aha. But that was so powerful. And so like you
Melissa Deally:I teach it as well, because it it has such a profound impact on
Melissa Deally:people's lives. And there's so many ways that we can step into
Melissa Deally:that. But I'd love to dive in more with you around the belief
Melissa Deally:work, because you have said you know what you think matters,
Melissa Deally:right? And it absolutely does. And so I'd love for you just to
Melissa Deally:talk about how that how those negative beliefs are, can be
Melissa Deally:turned into something that better serves.
Unknown:Okay. So if you think about our energy, or our body
Unknown:being energy, right, if we, if we believe something to be true,
Unknown:three times or more, it enters the subconscious mind as a
Unknown:belief system. So if you think about your body, like your
Unknown:cells, right, you have lots of lots of different trillion cells
Unknown:in your body, right? And each cell has receptor sites and
Unknown:these receptor sites have belief systems, they're either positive
Unknown:or negative, right? And this is what energetically goes To the
Unknown:universe, and our subconscious mind never shuts off. We cannot
Unknown:understand consciously what is in the subconscious mind.
Unknown:Because you you don't have access to that unless you bring
Unknown:a lot of awareness. And you muscle test muscle testing is a
Unknown:way to talk to the subconscious mind and talk to talk to your
Unknown:body. I don't know if you do any muscle testing in your work or
Melissa Deally:not. I don't I know of it. And I know people do
Melissa Deally:it. And yeah, in my work, in my work, where it's used is to
Melissa Deally:determine potentially if one supplement or another is better
Melissa Deally:for the body, right? Things like that. So I'm not familiar with
Melissa Deally:it as being a way to tap into the subconscious mind. That's
Melissa Deally:really interesting
Unknown:to me. So we can muscle test, how you think and how you
Unknown:feel and the subconscious doesn't hold what is true. It
Unknown:only holds what you think is true. Does that make sense? So
Unknown:you may consciously think that money is good for you. But
Unknown:subconsciously, maybe you think that money is evil? Right?
Unknown:Because maybe you have some ancestral old thoughts and
Unknown:beliefs around money. Do you know what I mean? Or money is?
Unknown:Yeah, like, a really common one is the money is the root of all
Unknown:evil. Right? That's a very common one. Yes. And that we can
Unknown:muscle test for that. So where was I going with that? Give me a
Unknown:sec. So the subconscious doesn't recognize what is true or
Unknown:untrue. It just, it just is. So when when you are conceived.
Unknown:Even the first nine months of being in your mom's womb, how
Unknown:she thought how she felt you could have taken stuff on. From
Unknown:the time you are born to the time you're six years old, you
Unknown:are in a theta brainwave state. And this is for Accelerated
Unknown:Learning. However, we are not, what's the word? We we don't
Unknown:have our logical brain yet. Right. And it's really hard at
Unknown:that time for us to discern our reality. Right. So for example,
Unknown:you could be sitting at a table and you automatically you all of
Unknown:a sudden see your mom, take a picture that you've had on the
Unknown:wall, not on the wall, but maybe on the fridge. And because it's
Unknown:been there for two months, you know, she wants to recycle it,
Unknown:that you see her put it in a recycling. And you might think,
Unknown:Oh, I'm not good enough. She doesn't like my photo. Do you
Unknown:know what I mean? Right? Meanwhile, you forget that it's
Unknown:been there already for two months, you know what I mean? So
Unknown:you start thinking about your reality differently, because you
Unknown:can't quite fully discern what is really going on, because
Unknown:you're not quite an adult yet. And you don't have that logical
Unknown:thinking brain yet, right. So we accumulate the majority of our
Unknown:belief systems, positive or negative, from the time we are
Unknown:born to born to the time that we are six or seven years old. So
Unknown:just think about that. So however, you chose to experience
Unknown:life coming here, how you chose to experience your upbringing,
Unknown:your mother, your father, and I'll give you a really good
Unknown:example, because your childhood doesn't have to be traumatic in
Unknown:order for you to have limiting belief systems. So I have a
Unknown:client who is is really not into this stuff at all that her
Unknown:girlfriend sent her to me, because she was having a really
Unknown:tough time getting a job. And upon talking to her a little
Unknown:bit, I recognized that she had this limiting belief of I'm
Unknown:always second best. And she had a loving mother. She had a
Unknown:loving father, but her and her brother were it's not that they
Unknown:were at odds, but they were competing with each other a lot.
Unknown:And he always just
Melissa Deally:so common in siblings.
Unknown:Yep. And so it wasn't until we change that limiting
Unknown:belief. So we were able to change that. So I go when I want
Unknown:to change limiting beliefs, I go into theta Brainwave. And we
Unknown:released that. We released the I am always second and we replaced
Unknown:it with I noticed feels like to be first. I know how to be
Unknown:first. I deserve to be first right. within 24 hours. She had
Unknown:nine job interviews. Request in her inbox. Wow. Thin 24 hours
Unknown:and within two weeks she had a great job, she landed a great
Unknown:job, a really good high paying job, you know, that. And I'm
Unknown:that is how what
Melissa Deally:is happening again,
Unknown:I beg your pardon,
Melissa Deally:I'm having full body goosebumps happening again,
Melissa Deally:as you're telling me this story,
Unknown:this is how fast changing how you think, can
Unknown:really manifest and shift your reality. Because if we can, if
Unknown:we can change how we think, because what we think, and
Unknown:actually, this is what I was gonna say earlier, everything
Unknown:goes out to the universe. So what we think is kind of like
Unknown:the beacon, right, but how we feel is actually the magnetic
Unknown:pole that, that brings it to us. So how we think and how we feel
Unknown:creates our reality. So if we can change how we think. And if
Unknown:we can change how we feel and reprogram the subconscious mind,
Unknown:then all we have to do is just sit back, relax, and watch how
Unknown:the universe is shifting reality, to make our environment
Unknown:better. And like, you know, for me, like that first session, I
Unknown:could just like my daughter coming down for dinner, when she
Unknown:hadn't had dinner with us in almost a year. Yeah, you know,
Unknown:within within 24 hours, like that is how fast this can
Unknown:change. And it's, it doesn't always happen that fast. You
Unknown:know, sometimes if you if you have a lot of trauma that you
Unknown:have carried for a long, long time. And it's really deep, and
Unknown:it's on a soul level, then it might, it might take more than
Unknown:one or two or three or four sessions, you know what I mean?
Unknown:So it all depends on the individual on the trauma on the
Unknown:experiences, and also depends as to how much you're ready to let
Unknown:it go. Right? Because if you're stuck in fear, and if you are
Unknown:really comfortable there, then it takes a little bit of work on
Unknown:my part to come at it from not the front door, but the back
Unknown:door, right? And allow yourself to feel safe, because safe and
Unknown:trust. Those are probably two of the biggest things that actually
Unknown:keep you stuck in an old pattern that you really want to get out
Unknown:of. You say you want to get out of the deal. Really? Yes,
Melissa Deally:I say, Yeah, makes sense. I experienced that,
Melissa Deally:in my own work with clients, particularly clients that might
Melissa Deally:want to lose some weight. And yeah, we start working together
Melissa Deally:and they start to lose some weight. And somewhere along the
Melissa Deally:way, we hit a wall, you might have done lab tests, and we
Melissa Deally:might be trying to rebalance hormones and things but they're
Melissa Deally:still hitting a wall. And they stopped doing the work. Right.
Melissa Deally:And they're stopping doing the work because their safety
Melissa Deally:mechanisms are kicking in and saying this is outside my
Melissa Deally:comfort zone, I don't feel safe. So I have to stop doing the work
Melissa Deally:so I can get back to feeling safe.
Unknown:And then which is I mean, it's the safety mechanism
Unknown:is really another word for the ego keeping you stuck, right?
Unknown:Your illusion, what you have learned or what you have, here's
Unknown:a better word, what you have conditioned yourself to believe
Unknown:upon your past that if you do this, and something bad's gonna
Unknown:happen, well, who says that? Right? Like your reality today?
Unknown:Is not what your reality was, when you were five, or six, or
Unknown:seven or eight. And so it's really about making conscious
Unknown:choices and making conscious decisions based upon today,
Unknown:based upon and, you know, I, when I talk to my clients, I
Unknown:talk about adversity. And when you need adversity, if you
Unknown:really want to meet it face to face, you have to recognize that
Unknown:soul is calling you to action, right? You have to recognize
Unknown:that that adversity has been placed in front of you for a
Unknown:specific purpose. Right? What is that purpose? Right? Are you
Unknown:going to believe what you have been taught to believe about
Unknown:yourself? Or what people have placed upon you? Or are you
Unknown:going to believe in something far greater? Are you going to
Unknown:believe in who you want to be who you truly are versus who
Unknown:you're not? Because if you choose to listen to who you're
Unknown:not, then you're always gonna stay there. Right? So in order
Unknown:for you to change, you really have to be and bring yourself
Unknown:back to the present and recognize that fear is the
Unknown:number one culprit of keeping you stuck in your old patterns.
Unknown:And is it scary? Yeah. You know, and this hear me being and doing
Unknown:this, this scares me, you know, and, but I recognize that you
Unknown:know, there's a need for this information to go out and I I
Unknown:have to get over myself get over my fear of being, you know, a
Unknown:public speaker or on podcast. And because I mean, I recognize
Unknown:that this information is going to go everywhere. And not
Unknown:everyone's going to resonate, but that's okay. You know,
Melissa Deally:and that's totally okay. Because there's
Melissa Deally:going to be plenty of people that will resonate and people
Melissa Deally:that didn't know you or know about you or know that Theta
Melissa Deally:Healing was even a thing, just like you didn't until you read
Melissa Deally:it in that magazine. And they're gonna go, oh, I need this.
Melissa Deally:Right. And that's more important than the people that don't
Melissa Deally:resonate.
Unknown:Exactly right. For sure. Because you can't please
Unknown:everybody. Exactly to is, I mean, for the people that it
Unknown:doesn't resonate, it just means that they're not ready. Right,
Unknown:you know, so they'll gravitate towards something that is best
Unknown:for them. And that time, the exam, I'm okay with that. So
Unknown:bad. I mean, when it comes to fear, it's past, right? I mean,
Unknown:there's a big difference between healthy fear and unhealthy fear.
Unknown:Right? So if, you know, if I'm walking down, you know, a street
Unknown:down downtown, and it's dark, and I want to turn left. And all
Unknown:of a sudden, my intuition says, No, don't turn there, you should
Unknown:turn here, like, you know, that that's a healthy recognition
Unknown:that says, okay, there might be something going on down there
Unknown:that I really shouldn't, you know, get to so I'm going to go
Unknown:over here, versus a fear that is illusion. And, and it might have
Unknown:made sense when you were five or six, but it doesn't make sense
Unknown:being in your present reality as an adult. Right. So, yeah.
Melissa Deally:And all to me, I find all of this so interesting,
Melissa Deally:and so fascinating, and so powerful, right? And we're only,
Melissa Deally:you know, beginning to understand the power of our
Melissa Deally:mind. And I know even in the work and the research I've done
Melissa Deally:in understanding the subconscious, that it just files
Melissa Deally:every experience without judgment. Right? Yes. And so
Melissa Deally:it's all there. And then as you say, the subconscious mind
Melissa Deally:doesn't have access. But when we come across it, you know, just
Melissa Deally:mind doesn't have access, sorry, the conscious mind doesn't have
Melissa Deally:access to the subconscious. But yeah, that subconscious mind, as
Melissa Deally:you said, never shuts off. It's in charge of making sure we're
Melissa Deally:breathing and our heart is pumping and all of those things.
Melissa Deally:And when we come across another similar experience, though, the
Melissa Deally:subconscious mind is going through that file folder. How do
Melissa Deally:I react? What? What did you know, where was I? In a similar
Melissa Deally:experience? How do I react? And it's so fascinating how all of
Melissa Deally:that drives our behavior today. It's driving our thoughts today.
Unknown:Yep. And what they say is, I'm talking about, you know,
Unknown:the Dr. Joe Dispenza. Us or the Bruce Lipton's, they talk about
Unknown:how each decision that we make 95% of that is based upon the
Unknown:past, right? So our subconscious mind it going 24/7 Unless we are
Unknown:100% present in our reality, then our choices is based upon
Melissa Deally:the information from the past.
Unknown:Yeah, exactly. Like and if you think about, if you just
Unknown:look at the decisions you've made, or the behaviors you've
Unknown:done throughout the last five days, you will probably and the
Unknown:choices that you've made, you'll probably recognize, hmm, it was
Unknown:based upon my past. So what do I need to do to change that?
Unknown:Right, what do I because it's, it's all conscious choice.
Unknown:Right? It's, it's so it's a conscious choice, but also a
Unknown:willingness to want to change and recognize that any fear that
Unknown:comes up, that's the past talking, that really has nothing
Unknown:to do with the present. So for me to change my future, I have
Unknown:to make a different choice in my present reality. And that means,
Unknown:you know, learning how to live life on your own terms, right?
Unknown:Self Care. And it also means getting rid of that fear,
Unknown:getting rid of fear of rejection, getting rid of the
Unknown:fear of the unknown, getting rid of fear of what you think might
Unknown:happen based upon something that might have happened a long time
Unknown:ago that really doesn't have anything to do with today
Unknown:because if you look at your surroundings, you know that
Unknown:you're safe. Right? Exactly, and I feel safe. What do you need to
Unknown:do to feel more safe? And I think this is probably where you
Unknown:know, a connection to spirit, meditating, settling into your
Unknown:heart, doing what you need to do for self care eating a healthy
Unknown:diet. Diet, right? I know, for me eating a healthy diet is huge
Unknown:for me. Because if I eat crap, I feel like crap. If I eat
Unknown:healthy, I'm feeling great. You know, right, it all plays a
Unknown:part. It all plays that mindset. It's not just like the physical,
Unknown:emotional, mental and spiritual body, they all work together in
Unknown:order for you to feel healthy for you to feel whole. And I
Unknown:think at the end of the day, we are all striving for the same
Unknown:thing. You know, everybody wants to feel connected. Everybody
Unknown:wants to, to feel compassion, and, and to belong. Right? And
Unknown:to have that wholeness. And, yeah, it's not just one, it's
Unknown:you got to look at all those factors.
Melissa Deally:And I think to understand that, so much of this
Melissa Deally:becomes a choice. Yeah, you just need to know that you can make
Melissa Deally:that choice. Right. And find the right healer. Yeah. To work with
Melissa Deally:you to help you.
Unknown:Yeah. Right. And I think you know, I mean, if you
Unknown:hear yourself saying, I have to do this, or I must do or I need
Unknown:to do this, that is the biggest illusion. Because when you feel
Unknown:when you catch yourself, I have to, then that means you are
Unknown:you've become enslaved to what you feel or think that you have
Unknown:to do. Who says you have to do that? What's the worst thing
Unknown:that can happen if you don't do that? Right? Right? Is the world
Unknown:going to come to an end? No. Right? So everything going to
Unknown:come crashing down on you? Probably not. So it's it's the
Unknown:illusion of what we have conditioned ourselves to feel
Unknown:and think and believe. And then, you know,
Melissa Deally:doing those checking questions, like you
Melissa Deally:said, is the world going to come crashing down has right, you
Melissa Deally:know, is? Is anybody gonna die from this? Or sometimes I like
Melissa Deally:to ask myself, Is this a first world problem, because I find
Melissa Deally:that really puts things in perspective for me, right? Like
Melissa Deally:going deeper with your Theta Healing is incredibly powerful.
Melissa Deally:So just as we start wrapping up here, I love to ask all of my
Melissa Deally:guests. What is don't wait for your wake up call mean to you?
Unknown:What does that mean, to me, it means I'm doing what I
Unknown:love to do. Recognizing that there is recognizing that
Unknown:following my passion is a huge part in self care. And eating
Unknown:healthy, cutting out sugar and and back saying this thing that
Unknown:is enjoying the sweetness of life, right? So for me enjoying
Unknown:the sweetness of life, I love my chocolate, and I love my
Unknown:desserts. But what I do is I make clean desserts, you know,
Unknown:and I make I eat healthy chocolate, you know, and to me,
Unknown:it's a balance between the mind body and the soul. And its
Unknown:eating healthy, making sure I do my meditation and doing some
Unknown:physical activity, and recognizing that what I choose
Unknown:to do for me is equally important as what I choose to do
Unknown:for others.
Melissa Deally:I love that. And what I'm hearing from all of
Melissa Deally:that is that
Unknown:you're prioritizing your health. Yes, of Mind,
Melissa Deally:Body Spirit.
Unknown:You know what, I love
Melissa Deally:it for granted. You're simply choosing to
Melissa Deally:prioritize it.
Unknown:Yeah. And that's, that is that's number one. Because
Unknown:if, if I want to be here for my kids, or for my grandkids, then
Unknown:I need to be healthy, not just physically but also up here.
Unknown:Right? And because they work together, they do. Absolutely.
Melissa Deally:So I loved this conversation today. And I hope
Melissa Deally:you know for some of the listeners learning about Theta
Melissa Deally:Healing and your work, it might be the first time they've ever
Melissa Deally:heard of it. Others might be more familiar with it, but can
Melissa Deally:you please, you have a freebie that you want to offer the
Melissa Deally:audience and please let people know how they can get in touch
Melissa Deally:with you.
Unknown:Right? Okay. So are you going to have the link of that
Unknown:below somewhere?
Melissa Deally:I will put it in the show. Yes. Okay.
Unknown:So the freebie is, I call it a clarity breakthrough
Unknown:session. So if you fill out the form, I ask some specific
Unknown:questions with regards to an issue or an adversity that you
Unknown:are struggling with and what you've done. What you Yeah, what
Unknown:you've done to try to rectify or solve the problem. And I tune
Unknown:into that, right I tune into that even before our call. And
Unknown:when you do call, I will have some limiting beliefs that I
Unknown:feel that you hold, that is keeping you stuck in that
Unknown:pattern. And on the call, I think I'm also give a 10 minute
Unknown:body scan where I scan, you scan the energy. And I go a little
Unknown:bit deeper into where that might have started for you and what
Unknown:you need to work on.
Melissa Deally:That's phenomenal. I love that. So
Melissa Deally:everybody listening, the link for that clarity session with
Melissa Deally:Lynne will be in the show notes. I've done a clarity session with
Melissa Deally:Lynn and it was really powerful. And we did it over zoom, I
Melissa Deally:didn't have to be close to you. And that was a really powerful
Melissa Deally:experience. So I highly recommend it to everyone. Lynn's
Melissa Deally:work is incredibly powerful and incredibly healing as you've
Melissa Deally:heard through today's podcast. So Lynn, what last message would
Melissa Deally:you like to leave with the audience today to encourage them
Melissa Deally:to start their healing journey today?
Unknown:I said this earlier. And I'll say it again, Adversity
Unknown:is your soul's call to action. So if you can recognize that any
Unknown:adversity that you face in your life is there for a specific
Unknown:purpose that the people that are irritating you, or they're
Unknown:behaving away, behaving in a way that you want them to, for you
Unknown:to evolve, and allow that to sink in for a little bit.
Unknown:Because soul contracts is if someone is abusing you, or not
Unknown:being nice to you for certain, for whatever reason, you have to
Unknown:look at well, maybe they don't know that they're being
Unknown:schmucks. Right. So maybe part of their soul contract is for
Unknown:you to step out of your shell, and say, Hey, I no longer choose
Unknown:that behavior that tone, how you're making me feel, right. So
Unknown:when I, when I look at adversity, I see Well, what is
Unknown:it that that needs to change, and you look at not just your
Unknown:lesson, but I'm also looking at the other person's lesson, right
Unknown:and there because there's a lesson in both. And that person
Unknown:whom you are speaking to, can acknowledge it, and learn from
Unknown:it, which means you have actually fulfilled that
Unknown:contract, which is great. If they don't listen, then that
Unknown:person is actual, you'll actually be faced with another
Unknown:actually, you'll be faced with another decision right then and
Unknown:there if you want to continue with that relationship or not,
Unknown:or that person, right. But they will actually be met with
Unknown:another soul contract somewhere else, but you have fulfilled
Unknown:your part of the contract. And as you feel your contracts, then
Unknown:you're going to be evolving and growing that much more. And it's
Unknown:all about either changing how you think and you feel, or
Unknown:taking action. What is it that you need to do for yourself? Is
Unknown:it speaking is it going out and calling someone like what is the
Unknown:action, and at the end, there's a promise and that promise will
Unknown:always lead you more to self love, and more to feeling and
Unknown:being whole with yourself with humanity with the Earth,
Unknown:animals, oneness,
Melissa Deally:and living life.
Unknown:Exactly. living life on your own terms.
Melissa Deally:I love that. So thank you so much for sharing
Melissa Deally:your story. Lynn, it's you know, it's a vulnerable story. But
Melissa Deally:it's very inspirational. And, you know, leading people into
Melissa Deally:the work that helps turn your life around, can help others.
Melissa Deally:And so thank you for the work that you do and for speaking out
Melissa Deally:and letting people know the possibility for
Unknown:inviting me and I love taking part. Thanks, Melissa.
Melissa Deally:to the audience. Thanks so much for listening,
Melissa Deally:and see you next time. Before I let you go today, I want to let
Melissa Deally:you know about my next health, kickstart and detox program.
Melissa Deally:Starting on Tuesday, January the fourth 2022 There is no better
Melissa Deally:time to start looking after your health than the start of a new
Melissa Deally:year. And no better way than to do it in a guided group
Melissa Deally:community. During this program, I will guide you through a three
Melissa Deally:week functional medicine detox, you do not start until after
Melissa Deally:session one so you can learn how to do it and be set up for
Melissa Deally:success. And then I dive into nutrition and the right way to
Melissa Deally:eat for your body and busting up some of those nutritional myths
Melissa Deally:that are out there. We also dive into digestion because it's not
Melissa Deally:just about what you eat, but about what you absorb. And I
Melissa Deally:dive into sugar because it is in everything these days. Where is
Melissa Deally:it sneaking into your diet? And what can you us instead. And we
Melissa Deally:finish up with how not to retox after your detox because of
Melissa Deally:course, if you've done all of that hard work, you don't just
Melissa Deally:want to go back to your old habits. You want to take your
Melissa Deally:new habits with you to continue on your health journey
Melissa Deally:throughout 2022 and forevermore. And this is information that you
Melissa Deally:will be learning not only for your benefit, but that you can
Melissa Deally:then teach to your loved ones as well. So check out the link in
Melissa Deally:the show notes to learn more about this program. If you
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