1 00:00:24,345 --> 00:00:28,425 Welcome back to the Wedding Lounge podcast. This week we are talking about 2 00:00:28,425 --> 00:00:35,705 invitations and save the dates. Now, before we dive in to this, I'm an absolute bug bear 3 00:00:35,705 --> 00:00:39,785 and I'm sorry if I've been to your wedding as a guest and you have done this because I know some 4 00:00:39,785 --> 00:00:45,465 of you have done this. Make sure your save the date fits the rest of your stationery theme. 5 00:00:45,465 --> 00:00:51,465 I hate receiving a generic save the date with like, I think, the wildflower pattern on and then 6 00:00:51,465 --> 00:00:56,425 you get the invitations like art deco and you're like, "Where's the continuity between 7 00:00:56,425 --> 00:01:01,225 style?" Like, as I think we've said this about stationery before, it's one of the first things 8 00:01:01,225 --> 00:01:06,265 people see and I'm like, "I look at stationery and I'm like, you're getting idea of someone's 9 00:01:06,265 --> 00:01:12,985 there." It gives me an idea of what colour scheme or what sort of vibe it is. So think before 10 00:01:12,985 --> 00:01:18,185 you send them out or you just go with nothing. Yeah, I'll just buy the picture and go really simple. 11 00:01:18,185 --> 00:01:23,145 To be fair, we just sent a picture of us with the save the date. Like, just the backs of Jamie and I 12 00:01:23,145 --> 00:01:26,905 on the beach in the winter, you know, like in Duffit Coast and stuff. I mean, just sent a save the date 13 00:01:26,905 --> 00:01:32,025 and some key information. Like, it wasn't necessarily themed, but like, if you're going to actually 14 00:01:32,025 --> 00:01:36,745 purchase stationery and have a colour or a pattern, whatever, make your emerges. Yeah. 15 00:01:36,745 --> 00:01:41,305 And I know you have a bug bear. I do. I'm not the biggest fan of save the dates. 16 00:01:41,305 --> 00:01:46,745 Well, I think they are. I mean, if you're going to create it yourself and it's not going to cost you 17 00:01:46,745 --> 00:01:52,105 anything, yeah. I just think they're a huge waste of your budget. Yes, no, I agree. I think the 18 00:01:52,105 --> 00:01:56,025 important people you're going to tell, they're either going to be your family or your very close 19 00:01:56,025 --> 00:01:58,745 friends, they're all going to know when you're getting that read. You don't need to send them a 20 00:01:58,745 --> 00:02:04,505 piece of paper to tell them. And you're going to send out invitations. Yeah. So, you know, you might 21 00:02:04,505 --> 00:02:09,465 have a massive awning out with your best friend between... What are you saying, Jack? What are you saying? 22 00:02:09,465 --> 00:02:15,785 I'm gonna be up to business. Or you might meet someone that you suddenly become really close to, 23 00:02:15,785 --> 00:02:19,865 and you want to invite them to your wedding, but you can't invite them because you end up save the 24 00:02:19,865 --> 00:02:26,905 dates. I just think you leave yourself so little room. There are places to save the dates in my opinion, 25 00:02:26,905 --> 00:02:31,865 if you're having an abroad wedding, and you need guests to know far enough in advance that they 26 00:02:31,865 --> 00:02:37,785 need to save. Yeah. Look, a weekend off work. Those time things. A weekday wedding. Yeah. I think 27 00:02:38,505 --> 00:02:43,625 that or send your invitations far enough in advance. Yeah. I mean, I know I've spoken before about not 28 00:02:43,625 --> 00:02:49,785 sending your invitations far enough in advance, or too far in advance, but I just, I feel like they 29 00:02:49,785 --> 00:02:55,305 are a huge waste of time results. So, it's all about like a digital safe today. Just a, you know, 30 00:02:55,305 --> 00:02:58,825 of what that message, just that picture. Well, that's what most couples do. In which case, 31 00:02:58,825 --> 00:03:05,945 fine. Yeah. But it's that same thing. You're leaving yourself no room to make changes to your guest list. 32 00:03:06,585 --> 00:03:11,305 Yeah. That is very true. And I do think, but if you are sending a save the date, you do need to 33 00:03:11,305 --> 00:03:16,825 include some key information on that save the date because that's when people start thinking 34 00:03:16,825 --> 00:03:22,985 of who's invited in the family. So, have you named Mr. and Mrs. Smith, or have you said, like, 35 00:03:22,985 --> 00:03:30,585 Sarah, Luke, and then Tilly. So do you? Yeah. Yeah. Make sure people are away. Make sure it's obvious. 36 00:03:30,585 --> 00:03:36,425 And I also do think that in my opinion, save the dates are for day guests. Yes. 37 00:03:36,425 --> 00:03:41,705 Like, you don't send, I've had this discussion with a couple who get married next year. And I said, 38 00:03:41,705 --> 00:03:46,745 you know, I said, you don't send a safe, if I received a save the day, I think I was saving the date, 39 00:03:46,745 --> 00:03:51,625 not just coming along in the evening. Their argument was that they had sort of about 50 or 60 coming 40 00:03:51,625 --> 00:03:57,145 along in the evening. But at the end of the day, you can invite evening guests like a few weeks before. 41 00:03:57,145 --> 00:04:00,745 Yeah. It's like, it's like, it's like, well, it's not like, I think someone over for dinner, 42 00:04:00,745 --> 00:04:06,425 but it's like going evening. It's an evening out. It's not the arrangement someone needs to make 43 00:04:06,425 --> 00:04:13,145 around a whole day is very different to what someone needs to do for an evening event. If you're 44 00:04:13,145 --> 00:04:18,745 inviting them from far away, I mean, there's another controversy there. I don't think you should have 45 00:04:18,745 --> 00:04:23,385 evening guests that have to travel really far to get to your wedding. Right. We went to wedding actually 46 00:04:23,385 --> 00:04:28,505 years ago. And we were day guests, but it was up in just that's our knowledge and we're in Kent. So 47 00:04:28,505 --> 00:04:35,065 it's about three hour drive. And we were day guests that then some of the groom's work colleagues 48 00:04:35,065 --> 00:04:38,745 were evening guests. And they had dropped out last minutes. They got upgraded to day guests because 49 00:04:38,745 --> 00:04:44,105 they traveled far. Yeah. But I thought, oh, that's a lot more. I wouldn't, I wouldn't be. In essence, 50 00:04:44,105 --> 00:04:49,065 I'm really close in which case I've received your day guests. We had a few people that we invited 51 00:04:49,065 --> 00:04:54,745 to the evening who were partners of day guests. So they basically had to twid all their thumbs for 52 00:04:54,745 --> 00:04:58,265 the day until they had come along to the evening. And a couple of those and we had last minute drop 53 00:04:58,265 --> 00:05:02,505 outs came to the day. Yeah. And they'd come from far away, they'd come from your point. Yeah. 54 00:05:02,505 --> 00:05:07,705 I think there's a fine line with Save the Days. But you're right. You need to include some key 55 00:05:07,705 --> 00:05:14,425 information. Yeah. The date. Yeah. Very key. Right. Location as well. If you don't know where you're 56 00:05:14,425 --> 00:05:20,745 getting married, don't send a save the days. You might fall in love with a venue and they don't have 57 00:05:20,745 --> 00:05:27,225 Saturday 11 or 7 hours. Yeah. If you're set on a date, then stick to the date. Yeah. But don't 58 00:05:27,225 --> 00:05:31,705 don't send it out until you know where you're getting married. Yeah. It might be worth sending some 59 00:05:31,705 --> 00:05:37,625 hotel options. If you're doing it far away or information on the accommodation. If you are planning 60 00:05:37,625 --> 00:05:43,625 to accommodate everyone, it's by including that within your save the date. Yeah. Or if it's not 61 00:05:43,625 --> 00:05:49,465 and you're just having a set of few, then send them the same message. I also think so. I've got a wedding 62 00:05:49,465 --> 00:05:56,825 next year. Yes. I had to think about that. Yeah. The bride and groom are from very different 63 00:05:56,825 --> 00:06:04,345 families. Right. And their attire would be very different. So we've kind of spoken about 64 00:06:04,345 --> 00:06:08,745 how to address this situation because we've got one side of them. Turn up, you know, 65 00:06:08,745 --> 00:06:13,065 dress to the nines and one side that sees it as more of a casual affair. Yeah. And the one who 66 00:06:13,065 --> 00:06:18,425 dress to the nines feels like they want it to be quite a formal. Anyone else to it? Occasionally. 67 00:06:18,425 --> 00:06:24,185 So I've suggested that what they do is that they include within their save the date, 68 00:06:24,185 --> 00:06:29,305 dress code to follow. Yes. So then people know there's a dress code, but the bride and groom 69 00:06:29,305 --> 00:06:33,945 are still discussing, yeah, the dress code is, but at least then the dress will know that there 70 00:06:33,945 --> 00:06:38,425 will be a dress code. There's a heads up that's not these coming. Exactly. Or you could include 71 00:06:38,425 --> 00:06:43,065 your dress code if you know for sure. I think you want everyone to buy kills. Yeah. But it's just 72 00:06:43,065 --> 00:06:48,265 worth putting those things in. So you'll guess you're aware of what's coming. Yeah. And I think 73 00:06:48,265 --> 00:06:52,505 you said about children. It's important to make it really clear in the save the date. Children, 74 00:06:52,505 --> 00:06:57,545 because people need to sort out child care. They need to get, you know, you need to manage 75 00:06:57,545 --> 00:07:03,465 expectations that someone's not expecting, like don't put the smiths and you actually just mean 76 00:07:03,465 --> 00:07:07,465 that adults. Yes. There will be an issue. Then people will get upset. And it's just clear 77 00:07:07,465 --> 00:07:11,625 communication, isn't it? Yeah. But I think we say that quite frankly. It's clear. And then 78 00:07:11,625 --> 00:07:16,825 your communication is key. See your invitation. Yes. Once you follow up with your invitation, 79 00:07:16,825 --> 00:07:21,705 what should and what should you not need to include in your invitation? I think keep the 80 00:07:21,705 --> 00:07:28,425 actual invitation relatively clear and concise, you know, location, date, time. Now we've had 81 00:07:28,425 --> 00:07:35,225 this debate off of cameras. And it is not maybe agreed about, and we've seen a lot this summer 82 00:07:35,225 --> 00:07:40,265 where people are putting like a rival times for guests. And that's led to some confusion 83 00:07:40,265 --> 00:07:45,785 because I've seen it where people have been given an arrival time. And the guests thought 84 00:07:45,785 --> 00:07:50,505 that that was the start of the ceremony. So they have then turned up earlier, which are 85 00:07:50,505 --> 00:07:55,865 then too early. So you've got to make it clear, either like ceremony, two o'clock. So your 86 00:07:55,865 --> 00:08:00,985 guests can use their common sense and work out when they need to get there. Or say like ceremony 87 00:08:00,985 --> 00:08:06,825 to guests arrival from half one. So that isn't, no, that's not for them. Yeah. You're not 88 00:08:06,825 --> 00:08:11,625 ideal. But you know, is there one 30 arrival for a two o'clock ceremony? Yeah. You just need 89 00:08:11,625 --> 00:08:16,825 to make it clear for people. But I think state the time that you actually are getting married. 90 00:08:16,825 --> 00:08:22,425 And trust your guests. Yeah. When you are getting married, you tend to be getting married around 91 00:08:22,425 --> 00:08:26,585 the same time as quite a few of your other friends. So most people know wedding etiquette and they're 92 00:08:26,585 --> 00:08:32,345 not going to arrive for a two o'clock ceremony. Just two o'clock. No. And there seems to be quite a 93 00:08:32,345 --> 00:08:37,945 lot of panic around. Yes. It's, it's, it's, had so many couples say to me, oh, but what if people don't 94 00:08:37,945 --> 00:08:41,545 arrive at two? If they can't get to somewhere on time, I don't know how they're holding a jot down. 95 00:08:43,225 --> 00:08:47,945 But I think you need to trust that your guests know how important or webbing is and a two o'clock 96 00:08:47,945 --> 00:08:52,985 ceremony means you need to be there ready to go four two o'clock. Yeah. Because that is when 97 00:08:52,985 --> 00:08:56,905 the last member of the wedding party is going to be rocking us. Yes. That's bridal green. Exactly. 98 00:08:56,905 --> 00:09:01,945 If you are doing something beforehand, make it clear. I've seen weddings as well. So they have 99 00:09:01,945 --> 00:09:06,665 like drinks reception before. They've got people traveling from far. But make it clear. They drinks 100 00:09:06,665 --> 00:09:12,025 from one ceremony to people know. They need, you know, they've got a bit of a window. They can 101 00:09:12,025 --> 00:09:17,145 either one, but they've got time to get their park, have a drink and make their way through. Choose 102 00:09:17,145 --> 00:09:20,585 they want to join for the drink. Some people might decide they're going to go and have lunch somewhere 103 00:09:20,585 --> 00:09:25,945 before having a ride for the ceremony. It's not necessarily, I mean, the groom will be there. Yeah. 104 00:09:25,945 --> 00:09:31,545 The bride or, I mean, you know, two grooms, two brides, you never know, might not be there for that 105 00:09:31,545 --> 00:09:37,385 moment. Leave your guests to their own devices a little bit. Yeah. I think sometimes we're two 106 00:09:37,385 --> 00:09:42,025 micromanaging. Yes. And then people are then adding on their extra time and it's just kind of. 107 00:09:42,025 --> 00:09:46,105 And I think there's a couple that just gives you anxiety over me. I'm sure that everyone's there. 108 00:09:46,105 --> 00:09:50,345 I think you just need to trust these are your closest friends of family. You're advice them to 109 00:09:50,345 --> 00:09:56,985 your wedding day. It's a big deal for everyone there. Yeah. I was helping another planet this summer. 110 00:09:56,985 --> 00:10:02,425 And the family wanted to move to start on the ceremony. Forward, I mean, like, what happened to 111 00:10:02,425 --> 00:10:07,545 if someone's not here? You can't start the ceremony early. They're like, well, should I move on now if 112 00:10:07,545 --> 00:10:12,345 everyone's here? I was like, well, yeah, but I've never heard that before. They wanted to start the 113 00:10:12,345 --> 00:10:16,825 ceremony early. Yeah, because they've had like a slightly different sort of cultural ceremony 114 00:10:16,825 --> 00:10:21,385 beforehand with a smaller number of guests. Yeah. Then they have like a drinks reception for them. 115 00:10:21,385 --> 00:10:27,145 And then there's an ambush here over the time. So yes, the main ceremony had turned up thinking 116 00:10:27,145 --> 00:10:31,385 it started out half two, but actually it was like turn up a half two three. Everyone was there 117 00:10:31,385 --> 00:10:36,665 longer. Still there's people turning up at like two minutes to three. Yeah. So you can't start early. 118 00:10:36,665 --> 00:10:41,465 No. And they wanted to see people at Hordefast too. And I mean, they go exactly the ages. Yeah. 119 00:10:41,465 --> 00:10:48,185 Just don't have a complicated. My one this summer. They decided they wanted to have beers for everyone 120 00:10:48,185 --> 00:10:53,785 when they arrived. So they were like, we'll ask everyone for one. But I doubt we'll actually start 121 00:10:53,785 --> 00:10:58,985 the ceremony until sort of like half one quarter to two. So is it a one o'clock? Is it, but there was 122 00:10:58,985 --> 00:11:06,905 no sort of yeah, sense to it on the invitation. It just said one o'clock. So I just think that was 123 00:11:06,905 --> 00:11:12,345 the ceremony. Well, he had people turning up from hot past. Yeah. There were a one o'clock ceremony. 124 00:11:12,345 --> 00:11:16,025 And then they were there for an hour and a half. And you haven't got that much. It's really cool. 125 00:11:16,025 --> 00:11:22,505 But you know, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Always tailored people. It was just background music. Yeah. It just, 126 00:11:22,505 --> 00:11:27,225 it made it quite awkward. And it was just a bit too much time. Whereas if they'd said one o'clock 127 00:11:27,225 --> 00:11:32,985 from one thirty ceremony. Yeah. It would have been great. Yeah. No, you just need to be clear. 128 00:11:32,985 --> 00:11:35,865 Or sit to tradition and just say the time that the ceremony starts. Yes. 129 00:11:35,865 --> 00:11:39,145 Leave it to again. I'm not sure too much for all the time. Yeah. If you're telling people to come 130 00:11:39,145 --> 00:11:43,225 early and make sure they realise that that is the earlier time and not the ceremony time. Yes. 131 00:11:43,225 --> 00:11:50,105 What else have we thought about with invitations? That's code. Yes. I actually think that 132 00:11:50,105 --> 00:11:59,225 that if it's very important to you how people arrive or what they do not wear include a dress code. 133 00:11:59,225 --> 00:12:06,025 Yeah. And make it specific as well. Some are suits. Morning dress. Yeah. Black tie. 134 00:12:06,025 --> 00:12:10,345 And then you can link to your wedding website and have more information on that if you want to 135 00:12:10,345 --> 00:12:16,185 break it down some more information card or information card. Yeah. Anything like that that means you've 136 00:12:16,185 --> 00:12:24,105 got that bit of extra explanation. But if it is important to you how your wedding guests arrive 137 00:12:24,105 --> 00:12:28,825 include that. And I think on that information card as well it's a brilliant place to include 138 00:12:28,825 --> 00:12:33,145 parking information because people don't necessarily know where to park and that just says anxiety 139 00:12:33,145 --> 00:12:38,505 for your guests and confusion on the day. You know just say there isn't a bathroom at the church 140 00:12:38,505 --> 00:12:43,305 so you may have to find a park beforehand to use the restroom. Yeah. If you need to or you need to park 141 00:12:43,305 --> 00:12:48,345 here anything like that. So you just need to give much information about accommodation, booking 142 00:12:48,345 --> 00:12:53,785 taxis, all of that. Yeah. Really important to include. Yeah. But do all the information cards so that 143 00:12:53,785 --> 00:12:58,825 it can be, you know, to look pretty on an invite. No, you want it to. It has been trying to do it 144 00:12:58,825 --> 00:13:03,625 actually to go along with your invitation. Yeah. That's a minute of the race. I also 145 00:13:03,625 --> 00:13:09,945 next bug there. I'm a big believer in not including everything else time wise that's going to 146 00:13:09,945 --> 00:13:16,105 follow. Yes. Yeah. It is my worst nightmare when a couple come to me and they say oh we want to have 147 00:13:16,105 --> 00:13:22,585 an order of the day with all the timings on. No, please don't do that because then your guests expect 148 00:13:22,585 --> 00:13:27,145 things to happen at a certain time. And there might be a total disaster going on in the catering 149 00:13:27,145 --> 00:13:32,505 tent that is out of everyone else's control. Or you might just have nice light and see go actually 150 00:13:32,505 --> 00:13:36,665 we're going to have some golden out of shots out. I guess they're going to hold on. This was happening. 151 00:13:36,665 --> 00:13:40,825 And if you'd like to know that they're going to enjoy the day. Yeah. Exactly. They just need to go 152 00:13:40,825 --> 00:13:44,585 with the flow. No one should be looking at their watches other than your supplies. And they shouldn't 153 00:13:44,585 --> 00:13:48,105 need to worry about when they're eating either because if you sort of your guest properly, 154 00:13:48,105 --> 00:13:53,305 you don't normally eat for the ceremony. They'll have the ceremony. Give them some kind of pace, 155 00:13:53,305 --> 00:13:57,065 something like that. Then the meal. Then your guests don't need to know when they're eating because 156 00:13:57,065 --> 00:14:03,465 yeah, it's kind of they know it's coming. Yeah. Exactly. But I do think it's really important to 157 00:14:03,465 --> 00:14:08,985 just be clear and give as much gifts as well as as much information as you can about gifts. Yeah. 158 00:14:08,985 --> 00:14:13,305 Not many people have gifts nowadays though. No. I need wards honeymoon. Honeymoon's things like that. 159 00:14:13,305 --> 00:14:20,185 But also include how you want to receive that. Yes. So I had one fairly recently where I think I had 160 00:14:20,185 --> 00:14:27,465 about 15 emails from guests asking how they would donate to the honeymoon sign because it just said 161 00:14:27,465 --> 00:14:32,025 we'd like you to put towards our honeymoon fund. But we'd kind of spoke about different options 162 00:14:32,025 --> 00:14:35,865 and then they couldn't decide on what option they wanted to do. So they didn't end up putting anything 163 00:14:35,865 --> 00:14:43,385 on their invitation. Oh, okay. We do cash. Yeah. No relation card or checks or, you know, 164 00:14:43,385 --> 00:14:50,585 Prozola do like gift registries you can now put towards the honeymoon fund. Yeah. On there or 165 00:14:50,585 --> 00:14:56,265 give things like that. Like there's so many amazing ways that you can do it. Yeah. But again, 166 00:14:56,265 --> 00:15:01,305 you just need to give your guests the information. And I think it's all much nicer coming together 167 00:15:01,305 --> 00:15:06,745 in one little neat bundle. Yes. Then it is grips with that. Yeah. Yeah. And also, 168 00:15:06,745 --> 00:15:11,545 then everyone can look at it, sort it all out one go and be done. And they're not looking. Oh, 169 00:15:11,545 --> 00:15:16,025 hang on. This was on the website. This was in a WhatsApp. That was in an email. The invitation 170 00:15:16,025 --> 00:15:19,465 has got the information card. Everything you need to know. Yeah. Amazing. 171 00:15:19,465 --> 00:15:25,865 The way to top tip around invitations. My top tip is just be clear about communicating. Don't 172 00:15:25,865 --> 00:15:31,865 you have any room for like misinterpretation because someone will misinterpret it. Yeah. 173 00:15:31,865 --> 00:15:38,345 And one will. And I just thought we had us helping someone else. I'm just, you know, 174 00:15:38,345 --> 00:15:44,505 it wasn't my wedding. But a boyfriend of someone who was an evening guest turned up 175 00:15:44,505 --> 00:15:50,745 ceremony. Who thought the meal as well. And so we have to quickly tell the caterers that 176 00:15:50,745 --> 00:15:56,825 a little bit of it in. If you're a guest and the invitation doesn't ask your dietary 177 00:15:56,825 --> 00:16:03,065 requirements that you have one, hell your friends. Why wait until the day? We had a pregnant lady 178 00:16:03,065 --> 00:16:07,465 turn up at wedding recently. It was always the vegetarian, but we'd not been told, you know. 179 00:16:07,465 --> 00:16:10,505 And she was like, oh, was it us? You probably would have been asked for it on the invitation, 180 00:16:10,505 --> 00:16:14,185 because it wasn't my clients. So you probably would have been asked on the invitation. But it's not, 181 00:16:14,185 --> 00:16:18,745 it was wrong with you people. If you have a dietary requirement, tell them even if you're not asked. 182 00:16:18,745 --> 00:16:23,545 Yeah. And make sure you do ask your guests. But if you forget, just tell people, why would you not 183 00:16:23,545 --> 00:16:30,265 tell me we have a severe not allergy at every given time? Like, sorry, that was a bit off topic. But 184 00:16:30,265 --> 00:16:35,065 when you're asked on an invitation for a dietary requirement, give your dietary requirement. My 185 00:16:35,065 --> 00:16:40,985 policy was 480 guests in the end. I think we had 11 dietary requirements. And the chef was like, 186 00:16:40,985 --> 00:16:46,505 sorry, we normally have like 11 dietary clients, like 150 people. And the answer was basically, 187 00:16:46,505 --> 00:16:50,505 we wouldn't have told you then, go over and she's like, well, this is on the day, they'll be asking me 188 00:16:50,505 --> 00:16:55,385 for like the food for me and stuff like that. Just tell people. You know, sorry. I'm going off my 189 00:16:55,385 --> 00:17:00,665 soap. That's not. It's important, though. It's important. We don't have a diet. No, we don't have a 190 00:17:00,665 --> 00:17:05,625 little wedding. No, no, no, you definitely don't. I don't have a severe allergy. But if you had one, 191 00:17:05,625 --> 00:17:11,545 why would you not tell people, even if you know, make sure in your RSVP, it is clear? Yes. In fact, 192 00:17:11,545 --> 00:17:17,705 I'm going to keep going. I'm going to summer. I was happy. RSVP is coming through to email. And 193 00:17:17,705 --> 00:17:21,065 the bride's mean to say, oh, yeah, sorry, it's good to tell you, but like, you know about my allergies. 194 00:17:21,065 --> 00:17:24,185 And I was like, can you actually just write down what your allergies are? Yeah, because you know, 195 00:17:24,185 --> 00:17:28,825 she has three different allergies. So I find this on, sorry, we've totally gone off of this top tip now. 196 00:17:28,825 --> 00:17:36,105 Digital RSVPs, as well. When a couple RSVPs take this place is quite bad for it. As is the knot. 197 00:17:37,145 --> 00:17:44,185 You get the RSVP back and it says, the diet requirement. I'm a vegetarian. Which one? Which one? 198 00:17:44,185 --> 00:17:50,985 Who's vegetarian? When that happens quite often. So when you are getting your RSVPs back in, 199 00:17:50,985 --> 00:17:56,505 Boston to be specific as to who is a vegetarian, especially if you don't know. Yeah. And if you 200 00:17:56,505 --> 00:18:04,345 are the guest, Bing is specific. Yes. Well, you had someone that are wedding RSVP and add a plus one. 201 00:18:04,345 --> 00:18:10,505 Love it. Love it. I actually had to mess, I'm really sorry, but we are at capacity and there is no 202 00:18:10,505 --> 00:18:14,825 way you can bring a plus one. It wasn't on your invitation. So what happened? She didn't turn that 203 00:18:14,825 --> 00:18:21,465 to the wedding. Did she say she was coming and then do it? Yeah. Water. Yeah. Means. Yes. What a 204 00:18:21,465 --> 00:18:30,105 monkey. I'm so bad. My teeth are there now. Not at all. Not at all. Don't thank me. My top tip, 205 00:18:30,105 --> 00:18:36,265 couples, when it comes to your invitations, is spend your budget wisely. If you don't need to save 206 00:18:36,265 --> 00:18:43,225 the date. No. Don't send one. There's no need in a elaborate envelope with gold foil lining wax 207 00:18:43,225 --> 00:18:48,185 seal. Wax seals. It's an envelope that's going to get thrown away. And I do think sometimes people 208 00:18:48,185 --> 00:18:52,745 really, really, really focus on the envelope. Unless it's like one of those beautiful invitations 209 00:18:52,745 --> 00:18:58,745 that the envelope opens up and it is the invitation. Yeah. I do think that sometimes we put so much 210 00:18:58,745 --> 00:19:04,985 into those added extras. And yes, it can have the budget. If you have the virus. 100% love 211 00:19:04,985 --> 00:19:10,265 donations. Don't waste your money on it if you do not have the budget. Yeah. 212 00:19:10,265 --> 00:19:16,985 Jude wisely. Where you spend it. Yeah. Definitely. Right. Before we rant on and on. 213 00:19:16,985 --> 00:19:23,545 Be anyway. Well, I rant on and on. Next week we will have an exciting guest. I hope we're talking 214 00:19:23,545 --> 00:19:28,955 about how to solve my favorite challenge. Yay! See you next time, friends!