Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And today let's talk about self reflection.

Your willingness to stop and self reflect.

To ask yourself, how are you feeling?

How are you doing?

What are you thinking?

What works for you?

What doesn't work for you?

These questions are all reflection questions to help you know who you are in any moment, to find your center, to find your center of gravity.

So it's okay to slow down and ask these questions in.

In your day, when you are hurried or confused or overwhelmed or frustrated, it is okay to stop and self reflect.

Don't get caught in the frustration or the overwhelm or the procrastination or the anger.

Don't get caught in those feelings and believe those are the thing that is true, that is most true.

Again, take your power back and stop and ask yourself, huh?

What's going on that I'm feeling this way?

What is it that I need right now?

What just happened?

What do I want to make happen?

Do I need to sit down?

Going slow is just if not more important than going fast, right?

Fast is about fear.

Fast has to make decisions quickly.

In order for fear to not get caught, right?

We have to go fast, fast, fast, fast, fast, fast, fast.

And don't get me wrong, there are times to go fast.

But when we move too fast through a feeling or thought so fast that we don't catch it, therefore don't change it, or don't reflect on it, or don't stop and again, self reflect on it, think about it to rethink it.

Then that thought, that feeling has us for minutes, hours, days, months, years.

I mean, have you ever had a bad moment turn into a bad year?

I have.

I didn't know how to harness myself.

I didn't know how to stop the obsessive feelings or thoughts.

I didn't know how to redirect myself.

Self reflection helps you do that.

Reflecting, it's creating what I call and what others call witness consciousness.

I don't mean to imply that I made witness consciousness up.

Witness consciousness is a word that's been handed down from spiritual guru from spiritual guru.

And I was taught about witness consciousness and love.

Witness consciousness.

A witness consciousness is the ability to self reflect in any moment.

Like, you don't have to get into the feeling or get into the thought and let it run you or own you.

Instead, you can stop for a second and be the witness of the feeling, be the witness of the thought.

It's almost like stepping out of yourself and seeing yourself from a new perspective.

Somebody gets mad at you.

Can you be that witness consciousness and see that person.

Three dimension, four dimension.

Can you get beyond what you're feeling and thinking?

Can you witness what is happening?

That's bigger than you, right?

Everything is bigger than you and I.

And oh, by the way, there's only one of us here, right?

That's the paradox.

So self reflection is a way out.

It's a way for us to stop and decide to slow down enough to start developing witness consciousness.

You've probably had moments of witness consciousness in the past of when you are in a moment, but also watching the moment.

That's how it feels.

It's like you're totally present to what's happening, but you can see everything going on around you and you know what you're feeling, thinking, you know everything.

And it's almost like I don't want to say you know what they're feeling and thinking, but you're able to just be present with whatever is you've experienced.

That I'm sure in milliseconds or moments or seconds or minutes or hours, we all have in some way.

We just didn't know how to get back there.

Well, one of the ways to get back there is to slow down and actually reflect.

Make reflection a part of your daily practice all throughout the day.

Again, remember, reflection allows us to take our power back.

And yes, we can breathe.

If we have no ability to reflect because our mind is racing so much, we can't reflect.

Right?

We're just.

Ah, right.

That's the moment to take a nice deep breath so we can get ourselves centered again.

Get our feet on the ground.

Get our feet on the ground.

Stand on the ground.

So reflection and stopping for a minute and breathing allows us to create and develop witness consciousness.

So I invite you just to allow that to unfold today.

Don't think about it.

Don't worry about it.

Just let it unfold.

Witness consciousness as something you cultivate over time.

It's not something you get in a moment.

It's over time.

And together, you and I, over time, you will experience witness consciousness.

And when you do, there is a freedom of detachment that.

Wow, you.

You really don't take things personally anymore.

Doesn't mean they don't hurt, right?

We're still human.

But you can see so much more than your own hurt or pain or suffering.

So be attentive today.

Be willing to reflect until next time, be fearless.

I love you, Sa.