Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

with you today. This podcast is your mental health podcast.

Maybe mental health is something that you've been avoiding in the

past something, something that, yeah, doesn't really ignite good

feelings. But trust me, a healthy mind is so sexy. A

healthy body is so attractive, and a person who's just

confident with who they are. So chances are if you figuring out

your life, you want to change things. You landed on my website

here or onto my podcast. So I welcome you warmly. This is a

beautiful pass you on. And I'm very happy to be part of it. You

can always reach out to me on Facebook, my name is Aurora

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Alright, let's dive into today's topic inspired by Richard, he

requested this episode, he wants me to talk about acceptance. And

I'm assuming Richard that it is self acceptance that you're

talking about. So I will talk about this. But I will also talk

about, like general acceptance, on how we can become more

accepting of situations, circumstances and other people

I feel it all begins with you, the better you feel about

yourself, the better person you're going to be to other

people out there. And the more positive of an outlook you have

on the future.

A person who looks into the mirror in the morning and is

very conflicted doesn't like to look at herself or himself.

Those people have a really hard time to be self accepting. And

also accepting of others, the more critical you are with

yourself, the more harsh your inner chatting is, the harsher

and the more radical you will be with the outside world to that's

just a given. The happier you are with yourself and content,

The more relaxed you are, and the more relaxed and content is

your environment as well. Because everything is energy,

you attract what you put out there into the world. And when

we feel very insecure about ourselves, when we feel like we

can forgive what we've done in the past, then I understand it

is a very, very position to be in. And then you can exercise

you can put makeup on you can put on a happy face. But

internally, you still feel like not enough. Not belonging. Not

okay. You feel troubled inside, because, yeah, you're out and

about and you're trying to go do good things. But you still feel

guilty or shame for things that you've done in the past.

And it doesn't really matter that I don't know a person or

you for instance, Richard, but I know especially if you listen to

his podcast here if he listened to my videos, and not because

they're so awesome. But because of the content that you are

willing to let go that you are willing to move on and to

forgive and to be okay with what was and to look into the future

with more hope and contentment.

So I want to invite you to

go into bird's eye perspective now. hover above yourself. And

when you close your eyes, sometimes that's easier. But if

you're driving, of course not.

We're operating any machinery, of course nod. But look down

onto you.

And what do you see?

Do you see pain?

Do you see regret?

Do you see anger? resentment?

Is it sadness, suppressed feelings,

or maybe even depression that you see.

And now imagine

me

looking down onto you.

And I know nothing about you.

But I can see you.

And I see a person

who is ready to move on.

And who's ready to forgive?

Or who's ready to accept

and just be content with

what you have.

Now, again, if you're operating machinery or walking, driving,

don't close your eyes.

But I want to invite you now

to listen to your thoughts.

Are you really still angry

at yourself

about something that you've done in the past, I do feel like

intense shame,

then we have to start an air this.

And what I mean by that is

that you have to find somebody that you can talk about this

with.

And sometimes it's okay to sit with it and to

be

with those feelings. But if they are too intense,

then seek help.

I'm not

a medical adviser. I'm not a mental health counselor. I'm

just a normal person, a very, very regular girl

who has gone through stuff and who learned to let go and

forgive herself. And all I can do here is to invite you and do

the same.

You have to trust that the person who has done something in

the past that you're not proud of that you scared off maybe

even today didn't know better. You had your reasons.

And maybe you had to go to jail. And you had to sit down and make

some time.

Do sometimes sorry.

But now you're out and about again.

And this means that the government trusts you. And this

means that the people around you can trust you to

and it's unfortunate how many people are in jail for really

nothing and

sometimes even unjustified. But I'm talking about the people who

got out again

and are given a second chance. And you have to fucking give it

your all. You're given a second chance. And you have to start

forgive yourself first. You can't expect that from society,

from your family, from your friends. You have to forgive

yourself first. And to go out there and be confident with who

you are.

So now when you sit in meditation here with me when you

do these little

meditations and reflection when you listen to the interviews,

observe your thoughts.

And when it is about you, when you make it about yourself,

see how self destructive, your thoughts are so against you, you

wouldn't even talk to your best friend, like you do to yourself.

And this is where we have to hack into,

we have to start changing the conversation that we have with

ourselves.

That is the first step of forgiveness. When you make a

little mistake,

forgive yourself, when you make a big mistake, see it as a

lesson, learn from it. And then forgive yourself.

You know, the thing is, the longer it takes you or the

longer you stay in that position of being a victim of not being

good enough,

the longer we are missing you as a society out there, because you

have so much to offer, you have so much potential, and in

drowning and your shame and your regret and your sadness and your

anger and your resentment.

you're depriving us to see you, the person that you could be out

there.

So, set with your thoughts, look at the conversation that you

have with yourself and start there, start being okay with who

you are. start trusting yourself again. And know that every day

you wake up, every hour, even, you can become a better person.

You can, you know, like

the compass, if you imagine a compass, you can imagine that

needle and put every little bit of energy that you have into a

direction that you want to see yourself walking.

And tonight, when you go to bed, I want you to picture the you

that you want to see in a year and five years, maybe in 10

years, maybe you want to give up an addiction. Maybe you want to

give up on those nasty, self destructive thoughts that you

have all day long. Maybe you want to start forgiving yourself

and take better care of yourself. Because nobody is

going to do it. People are only going to treat you the way they

feel about you. And also the way you feel about yourself. If you

feel you're not worthy of a beautiful, happy relationship,

you will not get it. You might have it for a certain time. But

then it will vanish.

So you paint that picture, you paint that frame that you want

to see yourself in.

And every day, every hour of the day even you take baby steps

towards that person.

Ever, every time you have a choice.

You think about what would my best version decide in this

case?

And it is not somebody out there that you're trying to copy and

paste their behavior from it is you your version of yourself?

What are you capable of? You're capable of so much you're

capable of being forgiving with others relaxed with yourself

content, even successful. But you have to start listening to

your ongoing chatter in your mind. What is it that you're

still insecure about? What is it that you're scared of showing to

people?

You know, there's people out there who've done

terrible stuff in their life.

And they went through pain, they went through

the consequences that were needed, they learned and then

they forgave themselves.

And

when you think about people like Louie CK for instance,

Louie CK a comedian who has gone a little bit too far when it

came to his sexual fantasies. look him up. Maybe there's

nothing left on the internet.

about that, but

he was in deep trouble with some sexual assault stuff.

And it went so far that he had to leave the country because the

pressure, the aggression against him was so bad.

And you know what I really admire this guy today, because

he came back, he had a show not long ago, and talked about it

openly talked about the mistake that he has made.

And sad. And you can see it in how he adds that he learned from

it, he had to go through so much pain,

and knows now that he was in the wrong, and he's gonna do

differently now. But he was able to step out there again, and be

in front of an audience. And I don't know, maybe there's women

listening to this, and they think Aurora, this is for

bullshit. He's supposed to be locked up, and is a bad person.

But I think he learned from his lesson, he is going to be a

different person

nowadays, and he expressed his regret. And he's out there

again, and he deserves a second chance. So this is just one

little example of a person who has done the work, who is back

out there now. And yeah, he will encounter people that are going

to try and make him feel shitty. And they're going to shame him

and blame him for what he's done in the past. But he cannot let

this

affect his life, he has to know himself that he has become a

better person. And then you will be come

invincible, to those kinds of

attacks. If you know you're giving your best every single

day and you're stepping towards the person you want to become,

then you are invincible to people who are trying to bring

you down, it is going to be challenging at times. But when

you have that anchor inside of you again, and you know who you

are, what you want to do in life, and how you want to

support people be out there and shine, then nothing will be able

to shake you anymore as it used to.

So I hope this all made sense to you. I hope you understand that

the work has to start as soon as possible because you're wasting

so much time in not living a life of full acceptance, where

you know that you deserve goodness. You deserve

unconditional love. You deserve all the food you need the water,

the shelter, and goodness that life has to offer.

I lost my train of thought, but I know that you got me.

You have to forgive yourself. Okay, I will be out there very

soon again. I'm posting my episodes now on Wednesdays,

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now with hope and encouragement to love yourself a lot more than

you're doing already.

Take good care of yourself. Thanks for listening to the

Borealis experience. Aurora