Have heart clarity, and then you go tell your

friends, hey, I'm trying to figure this out. What do you

think you're most likely going to have people convince you to

go against your heart? Sometimes it illuminates what your truth

is like. If someone says, No, you shouldn't go to Kenya, it's

going to and you really want to, you're going to have a stronger

feeling. That's a possibility. But also, if other people are

feeding your fear, your fear is only going to get louder, which

is why you don't want to outsource those conversations.

If you're starting to have a feeling like, Hmm, maybe my

relationship is out of alignment. I'm like, something's

quite something's feeling off. I'm feeling this, like, desire

for a new beginning. I'm feeling this desire for letting go, make

space for that, write about it like sit in meditation and

actually just connect to your heart and don't have external

conversations about it.

Hello, my loves. Kate Harlow, here, how are you doing? How is

your heart today, I'm so happy to be here tuning in to talk all

about how to trust your heart, how to live from the frequency

of your heart, because it is the only place to live from. Let me

tell you I am sitting here in my adorable frickin cottage. I

moved out of my apartment in Athens. Those of you who are new

to the new truth, you're going to get the gist of my my life

now, I left Athens, and it doesn't mean I'm not going back.

I have the immersion in April. We still have a couple spots

left if you're wanting to come to the immersion. The immersion

is coming up in April in Corfu, Greece. So I will be back in

Greece in the spring. But I for them for now, I have moved

myself to Kenya and followed my heart, and I have the sweetest

little cottage tucked in the jungle. It is. It actually feels

a lot like Costa Rica in the area of Nairobi, where my

cottage is. And I'm going to be spending half my time here and

half my time at olapangi Farm, which I've talked a lot about,

if you go back on the podcast, I spent four and a half months

there last year. If you're new to me and I fell in love with

Kenya. Now, Africa wasn't on my radar. I'd never planned to come

here. I had no like, strong desire to come here, other than

maybe one day. It was kind of in my, you know, the back of my

mind one day. But there were so many other places I probably

would have visited first, and yet the universe divinely

orchestrated my path to send me to Kenya in February 2024, in

fact, I was supposed to come May 2023 but the Greek government

stopped me, or the Greek airport police stopped me and said,

Don't leave Greece. Your your visa is not finalized, and there

are some complications. So the first time I was supposed to

come here, I didn't come. But I could feel the frequency of it

in my heart and in my body. The whole time the retreat that I

was supposed to be on was happening. The whole time that

my friends were here, I could feel the frequency of this place

and how special it is to me. And fast forward to February 2024

when my dear friend Marianna and I led our first Kenya

collaborative retreat together. We did two in 2024 at Ola Pankey

farm. And I remember standing outside the farm listening to 10

million birds. I just meditated for like 45 minutes to the sound

of 10 million birds. And stood out and looked at the ridge, and

I saw a giraffe crossing, and I was like crying, and I just, I

just said, I think I want to live here. And at the time, it

made no sense to me this statement. I thought I was just

being excited, you know, that moved by the moment, but I felt

this frequency in my heart and my body being in Kenya. And sure

enough, the next time I came, as soon as I stepped off the

airplane, I could smell something in the air. My heart

expanded 10 times. Went back to Ola pangi farm, fell even deeper

in love with everyone that works there, with Elizabeth and her

team, and all of the friends that I had made. And you know,

my heart was so clear. And this episode is all about learning to

trust your heart, because the reason so many women are in

suffering, the reason so many women are in pain and in discord

within themselves and in their lives, is because they are

ignoring their hearts. And if you ignore your heart, you will

never find your joy. You will never live from your aliveness

or your turn on, or your expansiveness or your creative

expression, the heart is the magic of you, the magic of your

soul, of the life that you're meant to live. When you learn to

live from the frequency of your heart, and you learn to make

decisions from your heart, your whole entire life will change.

And it takes a lot of fucking courage, I'm going to say, to

follow your heart. So I

moved, you know, I had this. I kept coming back to Kenya. Every

time I came was for a little bit longer. And this is all last

year, 2024 and then a beginning of 2025 first. Time I came was

two weeks. Second time I came was five weeks. Third time I

came was nine weeks. And the end of the third time I was like,

Okay, I'm I need to live here. I need to move here. Oh, it just

started raining. It's rain season in Nairobi. It's amazing.

It's like tropical rainstorms. So hopefully the Wi Fi keeps

going. So I just it sounds so beautiful that I have a tin

roof. I don't think you can hear it, but it's, it's a really

lovely feeling and sound. So every time I came, I came for a

little bit longer, right? A little bit longer. Now, every

time and I would go back home, and I'd feel this like achy

feeling, every time anyone talked about Kenya, every time

anyone talked about Africa, anytime I want, I actually went

down a Jane Goodall rabbit hole and watched, like, all her

documentaries and all these interviews with her. And she

just recently passed away this last week, and and I was just,

like, really connecting with like that, this woman. I mean,

she was like, in her 20s, and she came to Africa before

television, so there wasn't like she didn't even know what she

was walking into. And she lived in the bush and studied

chimpanzees with a very small team of people. And like,

really, on her own, lived in the bush of Africa for months on end

to study these wild animals that are so similar to human beings.

She followed the call of her heart, and she built an entire

life purpose out of it. And there is a purpose episode

coming soon that is so connected to the frequency of your heart,

if you do not learn how to live from your heart, you are not

going to be happy or satiated or satisfied in your life. And if

you feel a sense of like longing or emptiness or an ache for

something else, the ache is inside of you, and all of the

answers of what is aligned for you is inside of you. So I had

this, this call to come to Africa again, like I didn't go

seeking it. My best friend Mariana, called me and said,

We're going to Kenya. I found a cool place where we can do

retreats there. And as soon as she said the word Kenya, like I

knew nothing about Kenya, and my heart just expanded every time I

come here. My heart grows, my my my senses deepen. It is, it's

really a profound experience. So I flew in. I actually ditched my

parents, they're still in Greece. I've been here for over

a week, and my parents are still in Greece on our annual holiday,

and they're coming to Kenya in January. But I flew here, came

to my cottage, dropped my bags, had about two hours here, and

then went up to Ola pangi farm, and that is where the owner,

Elizabeth and her beloved Kir, were getting married. And I, if

you go back to an episode in April 2024 I have her on the

podcast, and she shares her love story. So they, since got

engaged, they they had the most extraordinary wedding, which I'm

going to tell you all about, and and it was such a beautiful

experience. Because to you know, I'm not a huge fan of weddings,

I find them very scripted, very predictable, very fake, very

like perfectionist. And this wedding was the opposite. It was

like what Africa is to me. It was wild and it was free and it

was different. It was unique. There was no tail death do us

part. There was no like. Now we're doing this thing now.

We're doing the speeches, the wedding itself. The ceremony

itself was a dear friend who I'm actually having on the podcast

soon. I'll, I'll share her name in the future, but a dear friend

of Elizabeth and Kier married them, and all she did was share

their love story. And it was hilarious, and it was, it was

emotional. I was crying, I was laughing. It was such a

beautiful journey. And that was the ceremony. Was her sharing

the love story. And then Mr. Karaoke, this legend who lives

on the property here, and he's in his 80s, and he's just like

one of the most coolest medicine man you'll ever meet. And he did

a little tribute to Elizabeth and everything she's done for

the community and the land. And then he did a tribute to Kira,

her partner, and it was the most beautiful, moving experience.

And then it was just a party, and there was this epic Kenyan

band, and we were all dancing and having bonfires and eating,

and it was so celebratory, and it was so different. And it was

all about expression and people wearing sequins or, like, wild

feathers, or whatever. It was so authentic. It was so like, just

an expression of community and collaboration. And, you know,

I'm at the wedding, and every freaking conversation I have is

with people who are living extraordinary lives, who are

doing things totally different than the script, who are living

in crazy places in the world, up to really amazing things, making

a massive impact, loving what they do, loving their life,

having greater love than they ever could have imagined. And

everybody is about collaboration here. So I have, like, all these

business partners now, all these ideas, all these creative

ventures that are, you know, going to be little side projects

of people with. People I've met, there is so much happening here.

It's like fertile and it's not so separate. It's not so me

against you and us against it's like because everyone is living

in the frequency of the heart. So that's what I realized being

here, is that that's why my heart called me here, because

people who are Kenyan are like absolutely in the frequency of

their heart, the heart. That's why I'm so in love with Kenyan

people. And then people who are drawn to Kenya are also in the

frequency of the heart. That's why they're drawn here. And

they're living their lives in an unscripted way. They're

following the pulse of the heart. So here are the three

keys to trusting your heart and living from your heart. And the

first thing to know is you've been taught to not trust your

heart. You've been taught that you don't have the answers. How

many times have you been in a situation like, let's say, you

want to leave a relationship or a job, or you're dating someone

new, and you tell your friend, okay, not all saboteur

archetypes do this. The isolators might hold it in the

controllers might try and just control the situation themselves

and not ask for advice, but I think most women outsource their

decisions right often, especially if it's in an arena

like let's say you're really good at making decisions in

business, but you don't trust yourself in love. So every time

you date someone, or every time you go to break up with someone,

or go to leave your job, you ask your friends, what do you think?

That's one of the ways, one of the biggest ways we give our

power away when we are following our heart. And here's the thing,

a lot of people in your life aren't going to understand the

path of your heart. So I think about my situation, can you

imagine I went around and just asked everyone, like, Hey, I'm

thinking of moving to Kenya. What do you think? Probably a

lot of people would be like, Are you fucking crazy? What are you

doing that is weird. How are you doing that? Why are you doing

that? What are you doing that? What's your intention?

But I have built a relationship with my heart over time, so the

number one key, the first most important step to trusting your

heart and being able to follow it so you can live from the

frequency of your heart, which is where your most deepest,

juiciest, richest life is. The most important thing is that you

got to start building a relationship with your heart,

and this looks like your own relationship with your heart. As

women, we've been taught to bond, through gossip, through

outsourcing, through asking each other opinions. What do you

think? What do you think? What do you think? But if you have a

feeling in your heart that you desire something, hold it for

yourself. Don't share it with everyone. Hold it for yourself.

And sit with it. Sit within a meditation. Write about it. Get

to know it, start to pay attention to it. So, for

example, every time anyone I talked about Kenya with anyone

or anyone mentioned Kenya to me as I was talking about it, I

would get tingles in my Yoni, tingles in my heart, tingles all

over my body, and it would be like as if I had a crush on this

country, like my whole body would come alive every and still

does, every single time someone talked about it. And I was like,

Oh, my God, what is that? And, you know, life re orchestrated.

I was supposed to be coming here in December for the artist in

residence program again, and I was going to stay for like, four

months. And then I got invited to this wedding, Elizabeth and

Kira, the owners of Ola panguese wedding. And so immediately, my

heart was a Yes, and I had a conflict. My mom and dad had

already booked their trip to Greece to come see me one month

in Greece, and I looked at the schedule, and basically I was

going to be spending three of those weeks in Kenya, like if I

went to this wedding, I'd be missing out on this experience

with my parents. So I called them. We talked about it. They

decided they would come for five weeks instead of four. So we had

two weeks together. On the front end, they understood that I had

to come to this wedding, and also that didn't make sense for

me to come to the wedding, go all the way back to Greece and

then come all the way back here. So we made an agreement, and

they decided to have friends come stay in Crete with them,

and then they're having some alone time now. And then they're

gonna be hanging out in Athens with my friends. So we just had

a conversation about it worked it out so that they would still

feel like they got to have time with me on their trip, but they

also got to have other experiences. And then I listened

to the call, right? I was supposed to go to Kenya in

November, end of November, and this wedding invitation came,

and I felt so excited at the idea of being here sooner, which

is like that was the indicator, right? So you have to build a

relationship with your heart, because mostly people have been

telling you to go against her. And you know, I think of my

heart as as her, like she's she's almost separate from me.

It's like I've got to protect her, I've got to honor her. I

got to make space for her. I got to let her feel I've got to

acknowledge her, celebrate her, like your heart is this precious

gem, right, that lives in the cavern of your you. Your heart

space, and you got to protect this precious gem, but not in a

guarded way, right? That's what your saboteur has been guarding

your heart for a long time, thinking she needs you to shut

down, to hold back your feelings, to repress your truth,

to follow that guy instead of yourself, like your saboteur has

been guarding your heart for a long time. Your heart does not

need guarding, but she needs someone to build a relationship.

This is your heroine, to build a relationship with her, to listen

to her, to make space for her, to actually start to make

choices from this feeling, from this frequency. So as you go

through your life, you're going to have moments and invitations

and opportunities that come your way. And as you start to build a

relationship with your heart, she's going to give you

indicators of things like the things that are are actually a

yes for you. And I've certainly talked about this many times

before, when you listen to your heart, or when your heart speaks

to your saboteur is always going to be right behind her with a

whole bunch of reasons why you shouldn't follow her, and your

saboteur is going to try and scare the shit out of you so you

listen to her guarding instead of your heart. Yes. So, for

example, every time I've come to Kenya, but especially this time,

when I was giving up my apartment in Athens that no

longer felt aligned. My saboteur kept coming back again and

again, knocking on the door, being like, what are you doing?

Are you serious? You're moving to Kenya and you're getting rid

of this great apartment. What are you doing? Your life in

Greece is so good. You have all these friends like, as if I can

never go back there, as if I'm never going to be friends with

these people anymore, right? She kept knocking on my door every

few days, and I would sit with her, and I would spend time

listening to her, and I would be like, Yeah, I understand that

you feel afraid, and I know that I can trust my heart. I know it

doesn't need to make sense to anybody else. So you see if I

was like, if I don't make this space to actually hear her and

give her an option to make a choice, and if I only let the

fear make the choice, chances are I'm living with anxiety. If

you're not living from the frequency of your heart, if

you're not trusting your own heart, you probably feel

anxious. And what the anxiety is is you going against your heart,

and then it creates this discord inside all the time. And you

think the discord is all these other things, but it's actually

just you not listening to your heart, so building a

relationship with her, making space to actually hear her. And

the second most important thing is that you do not ask for

advice around the choice of your heart. So let's say you're in a

relationship and it's feeling complete, you know, like I think

of my last relationship, I just left. I love him deeply. We're

still connected, and yet I knew in my heart that I was moving on

to a next chapter in the relationship no longer fit. I

didn't know why I didn't. It didn't quite make sense, because

we were both, at the time in Athens, you know, and I was

like, Well, I'm moving to Kenya. But am I really moving to Kenya?

You know, to my logical, fear based, conditioned mind, did any

of it make sense? No, right? But my heart knew I've outgrown this

container, this container of Athens, this container of this

apartment, this container of this relationship, my heart knew

it was no longer aligned, but there's no script with your

heart. There's no manual, there's no word. It doesn't make

logical sense. So if you have heart clarity, and then you go

tell your friends, hey, I'm trying to figure this out. What

do you think you're most likely going to have people convince

you to go against your heart. Sometimes it illuminates what

your truth is like. If someone says, No, you shouldn't go to

Kenya, it's gonna and you really want to, you're going to have a

stronger feeling. That's a possibility, but also your if

you if, if other people are feeding your fear, your fears

only going to get louder, which is why you don't want to

outsource those conversations. If you're starting to have a

feeling like, Hmm, maybe my relationship is out of

alignment. I'm like, something's quite something's feeling off

and feeling this, like, desire for a new beginning. I'm feeling

this desire for letting go, make space for that, write about it,

let like, sit in meditation and actually just connect to your

heart and don't have external conversations about it, right?

And don't spend all your time in your head. Should I Stay or

Should I Go trying to think about the decision? But actually

just make space for the desire of your heart, because the

desire is what's inside of your heart and your body, and you

have to build a relationship with it first, and you have to

practice, like, really letting your life be sacred. I think as

women, we're often just like, in the story of like, Oh, what are

you doing? What's happening now? What's the drama? What's the

whatever? And we talk everything out with our friends, and forget

that we can actually hold things, and I don't mean in a.

Isolation way, if you're an isolator, this is this is

different. This is just like hiding your feelings and hiding

what's going on inside of you. But I'm talking about like with

intention. You can hold desires that you're experiencing and not

have to tell 10 of your friends, right? And not have to ask

anyone else permission, but just explore this feeling. So I

explored the feeling of Kenya. I had that feeling the first time

I came like, I think I want to live here. It didn't make

logical sense. It just was a feeling felt like home. And then

every time I've come back since then, it felt more like home and

more like home and more like home. So I've I've dabbled, and

even me coming now, I have a cottage. My cottage contract is

for six months, and then I'll see. I'm not attached. I'm not

like, oh, I have to stay here forever, if it doesn't feel

good. But I'm sitting here having this conversation with

you about trusting the heart from the other side of the fear,

right? I'm actually in Kenya now. I'm in my cottage. I do not

miss my apartment for one second. This cottage is I

haven't lived in a house since I was in high school or in like,

you know, since I was my early 20s, with my family, like I've

lived in apartment buildings for the last 20 years. And to be in

a little cottage that's a home. It has an upstairs and a

downstairs and a yard, and like so much, nature around and it's

in community. I had, there's like eight other houses on the

property, and I'm starting to get to know people on the

property, and basically living in community, which is what I've

desired for so long. And I'm sitting and I'm meeting the most

extraordinary people. I went for dinner. I arrived to Nairobi on

Monday after or no, wait, that's not true. Tuesday after the

wedding. It is now Friday, and I just arrived here.

Wait, it's not Friday, it's Sunday. I arrived on Tuesday, on

Friday or Saturday night. I got invited to go to a dinner party.

My first dinner party across town took me an hour in traffic

to get there half an hour to get home. But a friend of mine that

I met at the farm a couple of times, she and her husband were

at the wedding. They have extraordinary lives. They have

the most unscripted, like coolest businesses. They're

super creative. They've done so well in following their hearts

and pursuing their creative dreams. And they keep growing,

and their creative dreams keep expanding, and they're so

interesting. And I went to dinner at their place last

night. And of course, I arrive, and they invited a couple to

dinner who they didn't even know it was friends of their friends.

And this couple said to me, I went, I gave them a hug and

said, I'm Kate, and where are you guys from? And and they

said, Oh, we're from Lebanon. But she said, I've actually been

living in Greece for the last two years. And I was like, what

where? And she said, Oh, Athens. And I was like, what, where? And

she said, Metz. And I was like, oh my god, that is literally the

neighborhood next to the neighborhood I lived in. And so

I said, Do you go to did you ever go to 4m the coffee shop?

And she said, yeah, that that's my favorite coffee shop. He

makes the best coffee in the city. And I'm like, that's where

I go every day, or went every day when I lived in Athens and

met all of my friends, like, what are the chances? I'm

seriously, I'm in Nairobi. This woman's from Lebanon, and she

lived in Athens for two and a half years, and the host of the

dinner party didn't even know that or know her. So what a

beautiful, magical like when we follow our hearts. I have made

so many friends. I'm going to this new gym here. It totally

feels like Costa Rica. Everything's open and jungly,

and you can hear the birds while you're working out. This morning

is Sunday. I went to a workout class and you could hear it.

There's a church right next door to the gym, which I didn't know

because you can't see it, but it was like the most beautiful

gospel music all morning. I'm for sure, going to church next

week. I don't go to church, but I'm going just for the music. It

was so beautiful. And the whole entire workout class there was

this, like, singing, this, like, unbelievable music that I could

hear while I was working out. So I'm just like pinching myself,

like, where am I? You know, and this is just a wild adventure,

and I have no idea how long of my story I'm going to be here.

Maybe it's going to be a long time. I've met so many people

who moved to Kenya and have been here for 30 years, the owners of

my house. She was born here, and her husband came from Scotland

30 years ago and never left. It is a magical place. But this

episode is not about Kenya. I mean, if you feel the call, come

visit, for sure, there's been lots of heroines. There's a

retreat in February. But it's, it's full heroines, but it, you

know, if you feel the call, you come. But it's not about Kenya.

It's about following your heart and getting to know yours. And

you know, I remember on the early days when I was following

my heart. I've for sure, shared this story before. I got invited

to be in the musical Jesus Christ Superstar, many years

ago. And immediately my first response was like, Oh my God,

that would be amazing. I love that musical. And my heart just

exploded. And then right after that, it. Like, Oh, actually,

it's not possible. I'm too busy. There's no way. I don't even

have energy now, and I'm working so much, I'm traveling with

work. Like there's no way I can do it. And thankfully, there was

somebody there with me who witnessed my excitement, and he

was my boyfriend at the time, and he was like, you're doing

that musical. Like, are you kidding me? I've never seen you

so lit up in in the since I've known you, and that was the

indicator that it was my heart, right? You see how fast the

saboteur comes in and wants to trumpet the your saboteur will

try and take that joy away, not because she hates you, not

because she's she's trying to hurt you, but because she

believes that you being in your most expanded, most expressed

heart frequency self is dangerous, because once upon a

time, you were a child and you were living in that place, and

you constantly got in trouble for it. You constantly got shut

down. You constantly got taught somebody else had the answer,

not you, that somebody else knew what was better for you, not

you, that there was something else you should be doing rather

than the thing that feels good, right? So that part of you

thinks is dangerous, but it actually isn't. What's dangerous

is ignoring your heart and not following the frequency of your

heart. So, you know, I was hearing from a woman, I was just

having a conversation with, a woman who's was having some

struggles, and I was thinking, you know, my response to her was

like, every single like, the only answer is, you're not

listening to the frequency of your heart, like you keep

staying in all these places that don't places that don't feel

good, and going against the truth, and staying in the job

that feels horrible, and working insane hours, and living in a

city that doesn't feel good, and being a relationship that

doesn't feel good, being in friendships that don't feel

aligned, and then telling yourself it's this is the only

option, right? If you are not happy, you are not living from

your heart. When you live from the frequency of your heart,

there's this deep and it's not like, you know, I think often we

think in terms of, like, really high highs and really low lows.

It's not like that. When you're living from the frequency of

your heart, it is just, it's grounded, but it's like, juicy

and satiating and rich and meaningful. And you know that

the thing is, like it is in the unknown of what like me saying

yes to Jesus Christ, superstar, and then that experience was one

of the best experiences of my whole entire life, especially

the week of the show and the dress rehearsals. Like I cannot

think of it or no, that's not true. I've had many times like

that. But like the collective energy, the bonding with the

cast, the community, the singing, the dancing, the

performing, the being on stage like that brings my soul alive.

Old me was afraid of that. I was afraid of being on stage. I was

afraid of being in the spotlight, right? So if my fear

was making the decision, I would have found a lot of distractions

to not follow that and honor that. But I think, like, wow,

what would my life be had I not followed that, and then the next

thing, and then the next thing. So first thing is to build a

relationship with your heart and start making choices, even small

ones from her right? Let's say there's like, a little desire to

go on a camping trip with your friends, or, I guess we're going

into winter. I'm going into summer over here, but they're

down here, but most people are going into winter. If you are,

it's like, okay, maybe it's not camping, but maybe it's like,

going to, I don't know, a musical, or going skiing for the

weekend, or whatever. Like, you have this desire in your heart,

if you like, always desire to do this like sexy dance class, but

your your saboteur is like, No, you're too overweight, you're

too unattractive, you're too uncoordinated, you're not,

you're not, you're gonna embarrass yourself. Follow the

cue of the heart, right? Let your saboteur vent, let her

share her fear, and don't follow her. That is like you have to

build the trust. Trust doesn't just happen. You have been

programmed to not trust yourself. You have to rebuild

that muscle, right? And you have to say yes over and over again.

So I said yes to Jesus Christ Superstar. I said yes to

starting this business. I said yes to the podcast. I said yes

to doing retreats in Africa and in Greece, I said yes to moving

to Greece on a whim because my heart said yes. I said yes to

coming to Kenya. I said, like all of the things that I've said

yes to, there's 10 million that's just a tiny snippet, but

I say yes over and over and over and over again. Now it's

impossible to not now I can't I don't ask anyone. Didn't ask

anyone if I should go to Kenya. Not even Mariana, my my closest

friend, you know, our Chell or Andy. I didn't ask any of them.

I didn't ask anyone what they I thought that I should do. I was

like, I'm going to Kenya. I'm moving to Kenya. And it was just

like, I don't know for how long, I don't know why, but I'm moving

to Kenya. My heart is home there, and I'm following it, and

let's see. And you know, I'm so excited for this podcast. One

year from now, you and I are going to be having a

conversation, and my life's going to look different, and I

don't even know what it's going to look like, but that's the

beauty of living from the. Frequency of the heart is the

journey of expansive experiences and cool people that you meet

and amazing you know, new parts of yourself you discover it's

never ending. You know, I was having a chat with one of my

heroine one of my heroine sisters, the other day about the

journey and her saboteur, was like, oh, you know, I know how

you say it never ends. It's just like, Oh, I gotta do more work,

and the work never ends. And I'm like, No, that's why I don't

call it work. It's a treasure hunt. It's actually an exciting

thing that it never ends. Because what never ends is your

your ability to meet new parts of yourself, and the only way we

meet new parts of ourselves is by doing new things when we are

following the call of the heart and not letting the fear based

mind make the decisions right. That's the only way we meet new

parts of ourselves. So the more you follow your heart and take

risks and make courageous choices and do things

differently, and just listen to that, that nudge, that's there,

even if it's terrifying. You jump off the cliff, not

literally, but you take those risks. You move to that place.

You leave that relationship. You, you go on that date, you,

you, you join that group, you start that nonprofit, you take

that dance class, the more you do that, your nervous system

will become so regulated, like I had chronic anxiety when I was

living my when my life was a scripted lie, when I was trying

to squeeze myself into the script, and I was lying to

myself constantly about my true desires, and I was saying yes to

things that were actually a no to my heart. I was chronically

anxious. I couldn't sleep at night. I had the worst

constipation. I was a wreck on the inside. Hated myself, and

now I'm like, knock on wood. I never have anxiety,

circumstantial, but anxiety is not in my system. My nervous

system is so regulated, the most common thing I reflection I get

from people is how calm they feel when they're around me, and

how children tell me that all the time. Actually, I've had so

many children. I was staying with my bestie this summer and

her her stepdaughter, said I love being around Kate, because

I feel so calm when I'm with her, and she's so grounding to

be around. Okay, that was not me before, when I was not living

from the frequency of the heart, I was an anxious wreck. I was

not I was bubbly and happy, but it was very fake and was not

calm to be around. So that's like one of the greatest gifts

of living from your heart and trusting your heart is like all

that anxiety goes away. You don't have to go to the doctor

and numb your pain. It goes away because you're listening to your

heart, all anxiety is is telling you you're not you're going

against the truth of who you are. That's it. It's just an

indicator. Ding, ding, ding. You're going against the truth

of who you are. You're believing something that's not true about

yourself. You're telling yourself something that's not

true. You're saying yes to something that's a no. You're

saying no to something that's a yes. That's what causes anxiety.

So build a relationship with your heart. Don't ask for other

people's advice. You need to build it yourself. You need to

learn to follow your heart without getting opinions and

just telling people this is what I'm doing. The couple that I met

at dinner last night from Lebanon, they're climbing Mount

Kilimanjaro on Monday, and they're just so clear, and

they're not hikers or anything. They're just like, that's what

we're doing. And we had the most hilarious conversations about

it. Laughed our heads off. It was such a beautiful night, but

they're going to Kilimanjaro. It's just that's it. And like,

people here do wild things, like ears is so cool. Living in a

place where people are like, it's everyone I meet is so

interesting and living these wild unscripted lives, which is

probably why my wild unscripted heart was drawn here, right? And

I don't feel good in North America, because so many people

are still following the script and trying to be the good girl

and trying to be perfect, and trying to do it right, and

trying to sacrifice themselves for everyone, and trying to be

successful, trying to get to the next thing and the next thing

and the next thing. Meanwhile, nobody's living, nobody's

birthing these amazing things, nobody's creating, nobody's

collaborating, everybody's alone in their box, miserable. Not

everyone, obviously. But that's my experience of being in North

America, that there's this, like, this is kind of in the air

there. So you get to be a rebel. It's kind of funny, like the

truest rebel of all is the one who follows her heart, is the

one who doesn't do what everyone else is doing. And is like,

actually, I'm gonna go that way, because I have this feeling, and

I don't know why, but I'm going there. And then what happens is,

when she leads your heart, leads you start to collect evidence.

And this is number three, you want to actively write down the

evidence, even now of all the times you followed your heart

and then how you felt after and what actually happened when you

had the courage to hop on that ferry and go to that Greek

island by yourself, instead of do what everyone else was doing,

or to to. To go on that camping trip when you were terrified, to

camp in the wild with lions and elephants. That was me last

year, or whatever, whatever the thing is, right? Write down all

of the times that you actually listen to your heart

and what was the impact. How did it change your life? How did it

affect you? How did you feel before, during and after? How

loud did your saboteur get? How loud did your saboteur try and

take you out? How much did your saboteur try and take you out?

And did you make new choices? Collect evidence because you're

it is not logical, following your heart. It's not linear.

It's not logical. She's always going to want to do the thing

that is that's logical, that's practical, she's going to want

to look around. Your saboteur looks around and goes, Oh no, we

need to fit in. We need to belong with everyone else. And

they're all going that way, so I can't go that way. I got to do

what everyone else is doing. Meanwhile, if you do what

everyone else is doing, you are following the script, and you

will never be happy inside of that place. There is no soul

satisfaction, satiation, turn on, joy, aliveness, vitality,

expansiveness, magical, epic opportunities, synchronicities,

all of that doesn't exist when you follow the script. It only

exists when you follow your heart, but when you follow your

heart, it's constant. It's constant. I can't even believe

the magic I'm experiencing right now. Like, and I just arrived,

and it's just like, and it's so grounded, you know, being in

this cottage, I'm just like, I wake up in the morning. I'm

like, this. It's a it's a perfect bed. It's about, like,

every everything about, I have a cat, I have a fire. I don't know

how to build a fire, but my friend built one for me last

night. I have no idea how to build a fire, but I'm learning,

and I My Friend's Boyfriend built one for me, and I'm gonna

light it tonight. He just like, set it up for me. But it's like,

I've got this new life out here, and I'm learning and I'm

growing. And does it come without discomfort? No, of

course, there's discomfort, right? It's scary to go into the

unknown, but my loves, that's where you will meet all of who

you are. That's where you'll grow the most, and that's where

you'll have the most regulated nervous system and the calmest

inner world, because your heart knows where you're meant to be.

That's the beauty. Your heart is your gateway. It's your compass.

It is your GPS. Your heart knows where you're meant to be, what

rooms you're meant to be in, what relationships are aligned,

what friendships are aligned, what places you're meant to live

in, what experiences you're meant to have. And most of us

are so used to letting fear drive and make the decisions,

but when you live from the frequency of the heart,

everything changes, and there's so much in store for you. I know

I've said that 10 million times, but my my goodness, that's the

only answer. If you're miserable, you're not listening

to your heart. So spend some time in meditation, in

reflection, in writing, in exploration, exploring like what

heart nudges have I been ignoring? What heart nudges have

I followed in the past that have led me to where I want to be?

What does my heart ache for? You might not even know right now,

but start the conversation now. Start to create the space. And

if you are just go, go, go, go, go, go, do, do, do, do, do. And

you have no space for your heart and no time with to be present

with yourself. You might miss all the guidance, but the

guidance is inside. Nobody else has the answer, no. Psychic, no.

I mean, when you talk to a psychic, if your heart lights up

when she says something, that's an indicator. But no psychic, no

best friend, no boyfriend, no doctor, no no guru, no tarot

card reader. Nobody knows what is true for you and your heart,

except you. So if you don't slow down and create this space, you

will miss the signals, you will miss the indicators, and you

will keep perpetuating suffering. So if you want to

live a life where you feel alive and inspired and ignited and

creative, and you love what you do and who you are and where you

are and like it all comes from Living from the heart and

listening to her. So that's it for this week. I hope you

enjoyed it. Please share this episode with every woman you

know who's ready and needs to start to listen to the frequency

of her heart and to trust herself more as women, that's

what the world needs more than ever. As women fucking trusting

themselves, not trusting everybody else, and then

constantly feeling like shit inside, we need a world of women

who rise and take Have courage and take risks and trust

themselves to know the truth, to have their own answers. Trust

lives inside of you, and it has to be built, and you have to

dedicate and devote yourself to it. But let me tell you, from

over here in my little cottage in in Kenya, your heart is so

wise and will lead you to the most magical places. So. I love

you. Would love to hear from you. Send reviews would be

great. I have lots of exciting guests coming up too. Someone

you might know really intimately is coming up in a few weeks. So

excited to share an old friend of yours and a dear friend of

mine on the podcast in a couple of weeks, and that's all I'm

going to say. But would love to hear from you. If you have any

topics you want to want me to talk about, please bring them to

me. Send me a DM or a private message on Facebook or

Instagram. Kate Harlow or the unscripted woman, and I'll see

you next week.