Hello, Hello and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host, Aurora, lash coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. Thank you so much for

being here. Thank you so much for spending some time with me

today for putting some time aside for yourself to reflect

about your self, your behaviors, your decisions. My slogan, maybe

you know it already, maybe you're new to the show is the

better you know yourself, the better decisions you're gonna

make and the more fulfilled and content you're going to be in

your life, the stronger your relationships will be. And who

does not want that. Unfortunately, we're not born

with a manual. So when we grow up, parents do their best to

their abilities. And when we are adults, yeah, we also follow,

believes, and believe and things that we think are right. But

sometimes they're not really in alignment with our true self.

And when we engage on these paths that are not into

alignment with ourselves, we can feel confused, lost stuck, we

can become sick, even not only in the mind, but in the body. So

what I'm trying to do here is to reconnect you to yourself,

remind you of who you are, and provide you with tools that I

was given. When I felt lost and disconnected and stuck. So I

want to make your life easy. Make you live to see and I want

you to live your true purpose. Today I want to talk about

anxiety and how to be less anxious. Why do I feel I can

talk about anxiety? Because? Well, you guessed it, right. I'm

struggling with anxiety. And I think we all do. To some degree,

I'm not a special case, I'm not unique. We all have anxiety. At

some point in our lives. Sometimes it is anxiety that

comes up in social settings. Sometimes we feel anxious

because we're just yeah, not liking our situation. Sometimes

we're anxious because something happened in our life that

overwhelms us. So I have felt called to talk about it today.

And I'm hoping that I can make you feel less alone and even

give you tools that can make you feel better when you feel

anxious. You might not hear it in my voice right now. But I'm

having an extremely anxious day today. Something happened in my

life. And yeah, I can share with you what it is because I want to

protect the members of my community. And it also doesn't

really matter once anxiety is there. Your mind is in the

future and is concerned with what is. And that is not an

awesome state to be in for too long. You can feel it in your

body, you're tensed. Maybe your eye movement is faster than

usual. Your breath might be short and shallow. You might be

short with the people around you. Impatient, angry. Yeah,

anxiety can really show up in very different ways. There's

some people who are totally shutting down when they're

anxious. They're like, paralyzed. They are numb, they

can move to a certain degree. They're losing flexibility, they

feel discomfort all over their body. So it is really different

how everybody experience anxiety and I want to make you aware

that I'm not a doctor, I'm not a counselor. So if you struggle

with deep anxiety, I encourage you to reach out to a

professional and to ask for help because there's really good

doctors out there who can help you out What I'm helping with is

the mild anxieties that we

struggle with on a daily basis, but that are not, you know,

we're not causing harm to ourselves or to others, we're

still functioning. But we feel uncomfortable in our skin. So

what I did today is that I first checked in with my body. Am I

sleeping? Well, in the last recent days, sleep, as you might

know, for me already is always the first thing I address with

my personal trainer, clients and my coaching clients because it

deeply affects your mental and physical state. So I was very

confident in answering this question with a firm. No, I

haven't been sleeping well, these last couple of days.

Alright, let's move on to the next. Have I been eating

properly today? Yes, I did. I had wonderful breakfast, and now

I had a great lunch. We move forward to water intake tech. Am

I dehydrated or well hydrated. If your body is dehydrated, it

can signal you thirst by becoming anxious by becoming

nervous. Also, headaches can come up. And other symptoms.

Alright, I drank enough water. What else is going on? Did I

exercise today? Yes, I followed my daily yoga routine. And I

felt really good doing it. Did something else happen today?

Yes, I got news that were certainly not pleasant. So here

we go. It was a trigger from the outside. It is thoughts that

this trigger avalanched out of my mind, my brain. And my monkey

mind is running free with these sorts of feeling unsafe,

feeling? Uncertainty, feeling anxious, and what if scenarios,

if not worst case scenarios. All right, so we're getting a little

bit closer here. It is my mind that is just running wild. And

then I tried to rein it back in. I was trying to relative aid. I

don't know if you say that in English and German you say

relative aid the situation. So basically, I was trying to boil

the situation down to what it comes down to. I'm still not

going to disclose what the news were, but we're going to work

with this. Next, I was inviting myself to go for a walk. I know

that going for a walk out in nature with my dogs always

brings me back to my center. So I engaged in that walk. And

after that walk, I could feel a drastic change already. I was

not totally able to rein in my mind. Completely, but just my

body. Walking in a calm space being surrounded by green, lush

leaves and grass and having my dogs close by and watching my

dogs enjoying themselves gave me enormous peace already. The next

thing I've done and this is called future pacing is that am

I imagined myself tonight, talking to my boyfriend in front

of a fireplace, about his day and deeply listening to him. We

have little ritual that when we come home, we have some time for

ourselves beard shower, not sometimes we don't have time for

ourselves and we we talk right away about how our day was and

share all the dirty details with each other and this is just

extremely beautiful because even though you are apart.

At the end of the day, you feel like you were with the other

person and they bring a certain energy back home and share it

with you and you do the same with them. It is extremely

common for me. Now if you don't have a partner, if you live by

yourself, then I invite you to imagine a super peaceful

situation that you want to see yourself and in a couple hours

down the road. Maybe you want to watch your favorite movie, and

you really really open up your heart and let all this good

energy flow into you and flush out your discomfort and anxiety.

Maybe you want to prepare a super meal for yourself. And you

want to make it really fancy and kind of celebrate yourself.

Maybe you want to call a friend, you want to connect with a loved

one and hear them out hear about their day here, but the last

couple of weeks. So again, listening to a person and to

their experience of life, zooming out of your experience,

of course, without making it, you know, trying to overly

distract from yourself, but to open up to another person and

hear them out can be super relaxing, and soothing. All

right, I'm going to repeat once again, my little tools that I

use first, I check in with my body, am I giving my body

everything that it needs? Second, I tried to be a little

detective and find out when did my anxiety kick start? What was

the trigger? I go back to that point, and then decide, okay,

what am I going to do with myself now I want to engage in

activities that make me feel good. In order to do that, you

have to know yourself, you have to become a master and knowing

what makes you feel great. And you can go back in time. And go

through all the little activities that really make you

feel genuinely great and that are good habits to engage in and

Mike case it was going for a walk. In my case, it is going to

be that I'm going to zoom myself into the future and picture a

peaceful evening where I know I will be safe. I will be able to

listen to my partner and my partner will hear me out if you

don't have a partner again. Find something that brings you joy,

get a movie, be at cooking for yourself being connecting with a

friend over the phone. All right. The last thing I want to

encourage you to do if, like me, you haven't been sleeping well.

In the last couple of days before becoming anxious, I

encourage you to have a nap. And sometimes that's odd, because

you haven't practice having a nap. Maybe. Yeah, you're not

tired right now because you're anxious. But just lay down in a

safe place on the floor on a couch in your bed. Put something

on top of your eyes and see what happens. Sometimes, this can

help you to fall asleep and a couple moments time. And

sometimes your mind is just too racy, and you don't want to do

it. But I encourage you to try it out. Because napping just 20

minutes a day can really work wonders is way better than

having a coffee in the afternoon because that can also affect

your sleep at night. So try napping if napping is not an

option. Try to go for a walk. The gentle smooth movement of

your body in turn can affect your mind that is racing an

anxious in a very good and soothing way. All right. I'm

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really good care of yourself and I will be out there very soon

again.