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Hello, and welcome to Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

today. Thank you so much for being here. And this one is for

the ladies. But I'm also welcoming the guys who decided

to join today. It is not exclusively for ladies, and is

more feminine energy than usual. And this one, and this is why I

dedicated to the ladies. Hey girl, do you feel pretty? Do you

feel ugly? Most of the girls I know, feel not really

attractive, or not as attractive, as you would think.

You see them walking on the street, minding her own

business. And just think to yourself, Wow, that girl is

probably so full of herself. She's confident she's pretty.

She knows what she wants. But most of my girlfriends don't

really feel that way about themselves. And why is that? I

think it is. First of all, because we're way too harsh.

With ourselves. We compare ourselves way too much to the

outside world social media, how Hollywood and magazines, we do

it unconsciously. And then maybe if we look into the mirror, we

see our pain, our past regrets and mistakes that we've done.

And we just can't allow ourselves to feel pretty well,

now let's let's talk about this. Let me break you the news here.

You are incredibly beautiful, especially if you're listening

to my podcast. And it's not because my podcast is so

awesome. But because it is about growth and self improvement. And

chances are if you're listening to me here on a regular basis,

then you want to forgive you want to ask for forgiveness, you

want to let go of regret. You want to let go of stuff that is

weighing you down. You want to be a better person, and does not

that make you a wonderful human being. Of course you want to be

attractive and sexy. But I think you really are you just don't

see it. The way you look into people's eyes when you listen to

them. The way you look when you share something very vulnerable.

When you share shame story, guilt story. The way that you

cry when something makes you sad. The way that you get upset

when maybe a friend is being attacked, and you're being all

protective and supportive. The way your energy fields, all

those things are probably things that you're not aware of

anymore. I don't know how your childhood has been. But I feel

when we are children. We are just there. We're just there in

the moment. We don't ask many questions. But then bit by bit,

we realize that oh that other person is more successful or I

made a mistake here and have to punish myself for the rest of my

life. So we carry stuff with us. That makes us feel ugly and Not

at all attractive. But you know what? I learned that people are

like animals. And people can sense when you feel insecure

about yourself. And they can also sense when you feel very

good about yourself. And that is what is attractive. They can

feel your energy. And external attractiveness is just one

little thing that makes you feel good about yourself. But there's

so many other things that you should consider your voice the

way you talk. And listen, the way you make people feel is so

much more important than how you look. Also, chances are if

you're super pretty, that you have a lot of fake friends, and

a lot of jealous people around you, even though you might not

have it easier than them, but you just are a threat to them.

Which doesn't mean you should run around and not make yourself

feel pretty and look attractive. But beautiful, people don't

really have it easy either. And they carry on around their pain,

and their misery and just don't show it to the world, right. But

it is not about making other people feel small. Now it is

about you feeling who you really are and who you can be in this

world. Four years ago, I've been to a women's circle and Burning

Man. It's like a community, let's say that gets together

once a year in the desert. And it was such an incredible

experience. Like the guide there was a woman who just appeared so

powerful and happy with her femininity. And she said we all

need to embrace our femininity way more often on a constant and

our sensuality and be happy with our body and experience.

Pleasure if not on a daily, we forget about pleasure and

sensuality in this world because it's all about sex and power

games and, and stuff like that. And it was a really, really

awesome experience. And you got to imagine about 50 women and

ascend and attend that can hold maybe 60 people. We will all

laying there and masturbating at the end of the session. And then

I joined another women's circle A couple years later in a little

town here in Alberta. And I was so disappointed afterwards

because yeah, it was about opening up and feeling

vulnerable and stuff. But at the end, it was all about how men

are dominating us and treating us badly and making us feel

shitty and being abusive and blah, blah, blah. And I think

that was totally missing the point of a men's women's circle.

I think a women's circle should celebrate the feminine energy

and also invite the masculine like men to experience their

feminine energy. And it shouldn't be about hating men

and rejecting men and like hate speech behind man's back. I

drifted off there a little bit but what I've learned along my

journey is that for too long, I rejected my femininity and you

don't have to do it out in public. You can do it with you

at home. When you have a shower that you just put on some music

and dance. And maybe if you don't use lotion or oil after

you had a shower, you just start using that and give yourself

like a little massage every time you have a shower and you really

celebrate your healthy body and it will totally set a different

tone for the day and and your hair will be shining and your

eyes will be glowing. And that little bit of more self care

every day can make you feel so powerful and so beautiful. And

this is what you will be radiating and what people will

sense and also see and that is true attractiveness. That is

true beauty when you feel beautiful from the inside when

you accept every little bit of your story, and can laugh about

it, or be okay with it and just let go of shame and regret. I

know it is easier said than done. But if that's the

direction you want to go, if you want to feel more attractive,

then that's what you're going to do. Feel more pleasure in life

and giving your body healing touch. And sorry, I got

distracted here for a moment because of my dogs as usual. And

forgive yourself, accept yourself and be on the receiving

end. When it comes to relationships. At times. I feel

women sometimes are too caught up and giving and doing and

accomplishing and are living in their masculine. Try to lean

back at times and try to receive the other's energy. If you are

in a committed relationship with a man receive the penis, don't

take the penis. Yeah, do everything. They can get him

going. But don't be the driving force when it comes to sex and

you will be in a different role. Maybe it will feel different at

the beginning. But you will also see that your man will feel more

masculine and you can just sink into your feminine and relax

into the sensual energy there. So this was for the girls out

there. And for the guys out there who listen till the end.

Chapeau I'm glad you were here. And yeah, I will post more stuff

for you girls out there. And of course every episode is for you.

But that was that one was especially for you. I hope you

feel good. I think you are a pretty very special being out

there. And yeah, if I don't know you yet, sent me a friend

request. Follow me on Instagram. I'd love to see your face and

sent you more compliments. And if you are my girlfriend

already, then just know that I'm so proud of you and so happy to

have you in my life. And I can't wait to go for sushi with you

sometime soon. All right. Take care. And until next time,

Aurora